March 8, 2025 • 11 mins
Have you ever considered how deeply your past wounds shape your present choices? Trauma isn't just an event that happened to you—it's a force that influences every decision you make, every relationship you form, and every opportunity you either embrace or avoid.
This raw, honest exploration of trauma's lifelong impact delves into why we cover our wounds with smiles and distractions rather than confronting them directly. Drawing wisdom from Russ's powerful song "Working On Me," we examine how childhood trauma fundamentally changes our perspective on love, trust, and self-worth.
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
The views and opinions expressed on this
podcast or website are those ofthe authors and do not
necessarily reflect the officialpolicy or position of A Queen's
Opinion.
Any content provided by ourbloggers or authors are of their
opinion and are not intended tomalign any religion, ethnic
group, club, organization,company, individual or anyone or
(00:26):
anything.
Speaker 2 (00:34):
Welcome to a Queen's Opinion.
My name is Queen, my voice, myopinion and your listening ears
this episode.
We are talking about lifetrauma.
Why does trauma have such animpact on our life?
This word trauma is so powerful?
(00:55):
In my opinion, it is a wordderived from the Greek term
meaning a wound.
I am sure all of us have hadsome interaction with the word
trauma in our lives.
Some of us were born in atraumatic situation.
We have tried over our wholelives up to this day to cover up
(01:21):
the trauma we have experiencedover the years.
Trauma is something introducedinto you and it never leaves
your life.
It is in every decision of yourlife and it never heals
completely.
We will cover up our traumawounds with smiles, laughter and
(01:45):
thoughts of good times, but wenever address the trauma up
front, right up front.
I realize that over the years Ihave been putting patches and
band-aids over my trauma wounds,trauma Wounds.
When I heard the song by Russentitled Working On Me, it
(02:07):
really opened to my mind when Ilistened to the song and felt
how powerful his words are.
(02:46):
Before we begin this analysis, Ijust want to say, from one
person who has experiencedtrauma to another, I want to say
I applaud you for working onyourself.
I too have put the work in andthere are days that I feel like
I have made a little progressand there are other days where I
feel like I'm stuck in thecement.
So I'm asking you to take awalk with me and listen to his
(03:10):
lyrics, as I break them down andgive you my opinion as to what
I think about what he's sayingin his song song.
(03:32):
Now, in his first stanza of thesong, he says would you stay by
my side?
I believe when you're trying towork on yourself, people will
leave you, walk away from thesituation.
Even when they know you aretrying to work on yourself, they
leave you high and dry.
It's not easy working onyourself, and Russ tells us that
(03:54):
he understands it's hard whennone of this is your fault.
And again he's asking theperson would you stand by my
side?
In my experience, few peoplewill walk with you on the
journey of working on yourself.
(04:16):
That is why I always say theonly person I can count on
besides my Lord is me myself andI.
You see, I want to slow it downright here to make sure you
catch what I'm saying.
This is why I only depend on memyself and I.
(04:41):
I will always protect myself.
I can only count on me to getthings taken care of for myself
and, with all my faults, lovemyself.
It is because I love myself andI will take care of me myself
(05:07):
and I.
You can't expect someone to beby your side on your journey of
working on yourself.
You see, in the song Russ callsthe person up to let them know
he's doing his best.
He's calling the person toshare his trauma.
(05:28):
He tells us in the song that hehas childhood trauma.
When you have childhood trauma,it changes your view of life.
It changes how you interactwith other people.
It makes you question love fromanyone.
(05:50):
Russ said in the song, lovemeans drama, and I agree with
him.
When you put your heart outthere for others, you're going
to run into drama.
You see, russ goes on to saybecause he's been working on
himself and he knows he hastrauma, it's not her fault.
(06:19):
He tells us that argumentstrigger him and put him on
defense.
Well, russ, I want to let youknow other people have the same
triggers.
Me personally.
I get triggered by feeling lovefor others who don't show love
(06:46):
for me.
I get triggered when all I wantto do is to show my.
In the end, the song says heunderstands that they can't be
with him through the traumabecause it's hard and he tells
them it's not your fault, it'son me.
(07:07):
I understand what the man issaying.
He's telling his love in thesong that he understands his
trauma is pushing them away andit's not their fault.
All he wants her to do is juststay by his side, by his side.
(07:40):
Well, once again, russ, I'msorry that whomever this person
was didn't stay by your side.
I want you to know that thereare some good ones out there who
will stay by your side.
I can testify to that becausemy husband knows all my trauma,
all the bruises, cuts and wounds, and he was there to put
(08:00):
band-aids or bandages on mytrauma, to help me heal my soul
and strengthen my heart.
He was there for me when myblood family was not.
I'm here to tell you that ifyou stay committed to changing
(08:23):
and improving yourself, you willfind love.
Learn how to love yourself,then you can make it through.
The song goes on to say that heis falling.
I'm here to tell you fallingcan be soft or be prevented
(08:58):
altogether.
To understand your trauma,recognize that you are not alone
, that you have me myself and Iright there with you.
In other words, love yourselfand you shall get through
whatever trauma is in your life.
I'm here to tell all mylisteners that everybody has
some type of trauma, but don'tlet the trauma take full control
(09:19):
of your life.
You are going to have good daysand bad days, but, just like
the weather, every day is a newday and you've got to learn how
to take the opportunity to wakeup in the morning and thank God
(09:39):
for another opportunity to workon yourself.
A Queen's Opinion is a podcastthat allows people, especially
women, to think out loud aboutlife situations and seek an
opinion without being judged.
(10:00):
This podcast is supposed tolift you up, encourage you to be
the best person you can be, toinspire you to step out of your
comfort zone and into your queenzone.
I didn't say my opinion willsolve your problems.
I am not saying that I am right, but what I am saying is I'm
(10:22):
going to give you another viewof the situation from a distance
, of the situation from adistance.
No more thinking or questioninga situation by yourself.
Ask the queen.
Go to our websitewwwaquingsopinioncom and click
on Get In Touch to leave yourfeedback or leave a question for
(10:46):
the queen.
Don't forget to like uswherever you get your podcast.
Thank you for taking time outof your day.
I hope you join me for our nextepisode.
Until then, goodbye.
The views and opinions expressed on this
podcast or website are those ofthe authors and do not
necessarily reflect the officialpolicy or position of A Queen's
Opinion.
Any content provided by ourbloggers or authors are of their
opinion and are not intended tomalign any religion, ethnic
group, club, organization,company, individual or anyone or
(00:26):
anything.
Speaker 2 (00:34):
Welcome to a Queen's Opinion.
My name is Queen, my voice, myopinion and your listening ears
this episode.
We are talking about lifetrauma.
Why does trauma have such animpact on our life?
This word trauma is so powerful?
(00:55):
In my opinion, it is a wordderived from the Greek term
meaning a wound.
I am sure all of us have hadsome interaction with the word
trauma in our lives.
Some of us were born in atraumatic situation.
We have tried over our wholelives up to this day to cover up
(01:21):
the trauma we have experiencedover the years.
Trauma is something introducedinto you and it never leaves
your life.
It is in every decision of yourlife and it never heals
completely.
We will cover up our traumawounds with smiles, laughter and
(01:45):
thoughts of good times, but wenever address the trauma up
front, right up front.
I realize that over the years Ihave been putting patches and
band-aids over my trauma wounds,trauma Wounds.
When I heard the song by Russentitled Working On Me, it
(02:07):
really opened to my mind when Ilistened to the song and felt
how powerful his words are.
(02:46):
Before we begin this analysis, Ijust want to say, from one
person who has experiencedtrauma to another, I want to say
I applaud you for working onyourself.
I too have put the work in andthere are days that I feel like
I have made a little progressand there are other days where I
feel like I'm stuck in thecement.
So I'm asking you to take awalk with me and listen to his
(03:10):
lyrics, as I break them down andgive you my opinion as to what
I think about what he's sayingin his song song.
(03:32):
Now, in his first stanza of thesong, he says would you stay by
my side?
I believe when you're trying towork on yourself, people will
leave you, walk away from thesituation.
Even when they know you aretrying to work on yourself, they
leave you high and dry.
It's not easy working onyourself, and Russ tells us that
(03:54):
he understands it's hard whennone of this is your fault.
And again he's asking theperson would you stand by my
side?
In my experience, few peoplewill walk with you on the
journey of working on yourself.
(04:16):
That is why I always say theonly person I can count on
besides my Lord is me myself andI.
You see, I want to slow it downright here to make sure you
catch what I'm saying.
This is why I only depend on memyself and I.
(04:41):
I will always protect myself.
I can only count on me to getthings taken care of for myself
and, with all my faults, lovemyself.
It is because I love myself andI will take care of me myself
(05:07):
and I.
You can't expect someone to beby your side on your journey of
working on yourself.
You see, in the song Russ callsthe person up to let them know
he's doing his best.
He's calling the person toshare his trauma.
(05:28):
He tells us in the song that hehas childhood trauma.
When you have childhood trauma,it changes your view of life.
It changes how you interactwith other people.
It makes you question love fromanyone.
(05:50):
Russ said in the song, lovemeans drama, and I agree with
him.
When you put your heart outthere for others, you're going
to run into drama.
You see, russ goes on to saybecause he's been working on
himself and he knows he hastrauma, it's not her fault.
(06:19):
He tells us that argumentstrigger him and put him on
defense.
Well, russ, I want to let youknow other people have the same
triggers.
Me personally.
I get triggered by feeling lovefor others who don't show love
(06:46):
for me.
I get triggered when all I wantto do is to show my.
In the end, the song says heunderstands that they can't be
with him through the traumabecause it's hard and he tells
them it's not your fault, it'son me.
(07:07):
I understand what the man issaying.
He's telling his love in thesong that he understands his
trauma is pushing them away andit's not their fault.
All he wants her to do is juststay by his side, by his side.
(07:40):
Well, once again, russ, I'msorry that whomever this person
was didn't stay by your side.
I want you to know that thereare some good ones out there who
will stay by your side.
I can testify to that becausemy husband knows all my trauma,
all the bruises, cuts and wounds, and he was there to put
(08:00):
band-aids or bandages on mytrauma, to help me heal my soul
and strengthen my heart.
He was there for me when myblood family was not.
I'm here to tell you that ifyou stay committed to changing
(08:23):
and improving yourself, you willfind love.
Learn how to love yourself,then you can make it through.
The song goes on to say that heis falling.
I'm here to tell you fallingcan be soft or be prevented
(08:58):
altogether.
To understand your trauma,recognize that you are not alone
, that you have me myself and Iright there with you.
In other words, love yourselfand you shall get through
whatever trauma is in your life.
I'm here to tell all mylisteners that everybody has
some type of trauma, but don'tlet the trauma take full control
(09:19):
of your life.
You are going to have good daysand bad days, but, just like
the weather, every day is a newday and you've got to learn how
to take the opportunity to wakeup in the morning and thank God
(09:39):
for another opportunity to workon yourself.
A Queen's Opinion is a podcastthat allows people, especially
women, to think out loud aboutlife situations and seek an
opinion without being judged.
(10:00):
This podcast is supposed tolift you up, encourage you to be
the best person you can be, toinspire you to step out of your
comfort zone and into your queenzone.
I didn't say my opinion willsolve your problems.
I am not saying that I am right, but what I am saying is I'm
(10:22):
going to give you another viewof the situation from a distance
, of the situation from adistance.
No more thinking or questioninga situation by yourself.
Ask the queen.
Go to our websitewwwaquingsopinioncom and click
on Get In Touch to leave yourfeedback or leave a question for
(10:46):
the queen.
Don't forget to like uswherever you get your podcast.
Thank you for taking time outof your day.
I hope you join me for our nextepisode.
Until then, goodbye.
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