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Speaker 1 (00:03):
The views and opinions expressed on this
podcast or website are those ofthe authors and do not
necessarily reflect the officialpolicy or position of A Queen's
Opinion.
Any content provided by ourbloggers or authors are of their
opinion and are not intended tomalign any religion, ethnic
group, club, organization,company, individual or anyone or
(00:26):
anything.
Speaker 2 (00:32):
Welcome to A Queen's Opinion.
My name is Queen.
This episode we are talkingabout disappointment or
depression.
What is the difference betweendisappointment and depression?
I'm not a doctor.
That's the first thing I wantto say in this episode.
(00:54):
I have no medical degree and nomedical education.
The only medical knowledge Iknow about is my life and my
body.
So let's get that straightright up front.
I'm always hearing people sayinghe or she is so depressed.
I think the term is misused andoverused.
(01:17):
At the same time as I talk topeople throughout everyday
conversations, somewhere duringthe day, a person is going to
tell me they know someone who isdepressed, and when they go on
to tell me about what they're sodepressed about, I think to
myself is that really depression?
(01:39):
Are many people living life asdepressed people?
I wanted to take thisopportunity to try to shed a
little light on the differencebetween the two words.
I think most of the time,people have disappointing and
not depressing experiences.
They are feeling disappointedand not depressed.
(02:03):
They are experiencingdisappointment and not
depression.
So let's jump right into thedifferences.
I think you must define eachword as it is in the dictionary
so that you can have a fullunderstanding and hopefully at
the end, use the right word whendescribing a situation or a
(02:27):
person.
I want to start with the worddisappointment.
Disappointment is defined assadness or displeasure caused by
non-fulfillment of one's hopesand expectations.
The dictionary also listssimilar words for the term
disappointment.
(02:47):
Those similar words includesadness, regret, dismay and
sorrow, just to name a few.
For example, your girlfriendgives you a call.
She is crying and very upsetand she says I don't know if I
can take it anymore.
(03:08):
She begins to tell you that hernew boyfriend of six months
just broke up with her and lefther in a bad situation.
He left her with bills and nowshe is struggling to get the
money to pay all those extrabills he put on her and her
household before walking out.
(03:28):
Now this sounds like asituation that may be depressing
, but I see it differently.
What I heard is that yourgirlfriend is very upset, pissed
off, mad and feeling a littleregret for even allowing this
man to move into her householdand not carry his weight.
(03:52):
This situation is disappointingfrom my perspective.
She is feeling disappointmentin herself for allowing this to
happen.
She is feeling regret that shelet herself be put in this
situation, and I'm sure she ispretty sad as well.
(04:13):
She is not the first nor thelast woman to be mishandled and
mistreated by a man.
Disappointment is the rightword for this particular
situation.
When this type of situation wasshared with me, the person who
was telling me the story saidthat their girlfriend was so
(04:35):
depressed that she couldn't eventhink straight.
She went as far as to say herfriend was crying and doing
things out of her character.
To get back at the man, but Idon't think this situation is
depressing.
I told that person that wemight need to stop saying she is
(04:57):
depressed and call it for whatit is.
She is disappointed.
She is feeling disappointmentin herself, the situation and
her choice of a man.
Now let's discuss the worddepression.
According to the dictionary,the word is from a Latin word,
(05:17):
deprimere, which means to pressdown.
The dep means down and primeremeans to press the word itself.
Depression sounds just like themeaning to press down.
The word itself sounds heavy.
Whenever I think of the worddepression, I think of very dark
(05:40):
thoughts, strong emotions ofsadness, unhappiness and no will
to live or do anything.
In the dictionary it says theword depression means feelings
of severe despondency anddejection.
Similar words to furtherexpress depression include
(06:00):
hopelessness.
Similar words to furtherexpress depression include
hopelessness, misery, gloom andfailure.
An example of depression couldbe feelings from the loss of a
mother, father, child or anotherloved one in your life.
A person you had loved for yourwhole life is no longer in your
life, a person that took greatcare of you or that you took
(06:25):
care of.
This person was with youthrough the good and the tough
times.
This type of situation of losscould be very serious to your
life.
You could feel depression fromnot having anyone to share your
life with anymore.
Some people even experiencedepression from a loss of a pet.
(06:45):
The pet was with them throughthe same type of tough times and
loneliness.
We can even see the depressionin their face, body, voice,
activities and words.
Depression can be a seriousmedical situation for some
people.
I believe if you are unable tohandle those strong emotions,
(07:08):
then you need to seek help.
Many people in my culture willsuffer depression because they
don't want anyone to know theycan't deal with the issue.
Stress or situation that callsthem to feel so pressed down and
heavy they will suffer insilence.
Then you have those folks whohave taught themselves methods
(07:32):
of coping through self-taughttechniques.
Is this good or bad?
Probably not, but it's good forthem.
I want you to hear thedifference between
disappointment and depression.
In the definition of depressionit says severe despondency and
(07:52):
dejection.
I want you to focus on the wordsevere.
The word severe itself meansintense.
Similar words like brutal,harsh and critical harsh and
critical.
So for me, depression isdisappointment on steroids,
three times worse than anythingthat has happened in your life
(08:14):
at that time.
Depression is not something youwant to use lightly in a
conversation about yourself orsomeone else's feelings.
Our perspective of what isgoing on in other people's lives
may not be as severe as you seeit, but the person is so hurt,
(08:36):
frustrated and disappointed thatthey may use words out of
context, triggering you to thinkthey are depressed.
They may even say to think theyare depressed.
They may even say girl, I am sodepressed over this situation.
This is why I say the word ismisused and overused sometimes.
(09:02):
All I would say right now isthat if your friend is telling
you they are depressed, I wantyou to think about it.
Talk it out with them and helpthem understand that their
situation may not be as seriousor as critical as they may think
.
Let them know they have afriend in you and let them know
that you are there for them andyou will help them in any way
(09:27):
that you can.
Many times, just lettingsomeone know you are with them
and you have their back isenough to help them see.
They have a way out and it'snot as bad as they may have
thought.
But I also want to say that ifyour friend is experiencing deep
depression, help them find theright doctor.
(09:49):
Hell, go with them to see adoctor.
Encourage them to go to thedoctor for relief and clarity.
Your encouragement can mean somuch.
It could be the beginning ofgetting out of their funk, their
depression.
No-transcript.
(10:23):
A Queen's Opinion is a podcastthat allows people, especially
women, to think out loud aboutlife situations and seek an
opinion without being judged.
Encourage you to be the bestperson you can be, to inspire
(10:47):
you to step out of your comfortzone and into your queen zone.
I didn't say my opinion willsolve your problems.
I am not saying that I am right, but what I am saying is I'm
going to give you another viewof the situation from a distance
.
No more thinking or questioninga situation by yourself.
Ask the queen.
(11:08):
Go to our websitewwwaquingsopinioncom, and click
on Get In Touch to leave yourfeedback or leave a question for
the queen.
Don't forget to like uswherever you get your podcasts.
Thank you for taking time outof your day.
(11:29):
I hope you join me for our nextepisode.
Until then, goodbye.
The views and opinions expressed on this
podcast or website are those ofthe authors and do not
necessarily reflect the officialpolicy or position of A Queen's
Opinion.
Any content provided by ourbloggers or authors are of their
opinion and are not intended tomalign any religion, ethnic
group, club, organization,company, individual or anyone or
(00:26):
anything.
Speaker 2 (00:32):
Welcome to A Queen's Opinion.
My name is Queen.
This episode we are talkingabout disappointment or
depression.
What is the difference betweendisappointment and depression?
I'm not a doctor.
That's the first thing I wantto say in this episode.
(00:54):
I have no medical degree and nomedical education.
The only medical knowledge Iknow about is my life and my
body.
So let's get that straightright up front.
I'm always hearing people sayinghe or she is so depressed.
I think the term is misused andoverused.
(01:17):
At the same time as I talk topeople throughout everyday
conversations, somewhere duringthe day, a person is going to
tell me they know someone who isdepressed, and when they go on
to tell me about what they're sodepressed about, I think to
myself is that really depression?
(01:39):
Are many people living life asdepressed people?
I wanted to take thisopportunity to try to shed a
little light on the differencebetween the two words.
I think most of the time,people have disappointing and
not depressing experiences.
They are feeling disappointedand not depressed.
(02:03):
They are experiencingdisappointment and not
depression.
So let's jump right into thedifferences.
I think you must define eachword as it is in the dictionary
so that you can have a fullunderstanding and hopefully at
the end, use the right word whendescribing a situation or a
(02:27):
person.
I want to start with the worddisappointment.
Disappointment is defined assadness or displeasure caused by
non-fulfillment of one's hopesand expectations.
The dictionary also listssimilar words for the term
disappointment.
(02:47):
Those similar words includesadness, regret, dismay and
sorrow, just to name a few.
For example, your girlfriendgives you a call.
She is crying and very upsetand she says I don't know if I
can take it anymore.
(03:08):
She begins to tell you that hernew boyfriend of six months
just broke up with her and lefther in a bad situation.
He left her with bills and nowshe is struggling to get the
money to pay all those extrabills he put on her and her
household before walking out.
(03:28):
Now this sounds like asituation that may be depressing
, but I see it differently.
What I heard is that yourgirlfriend is very upset, pissed
off, mad and feeling a littleregret for even allowing this
man to move into her householdand not carry his weight.
(03:52):
This situation is disappointingfrom my perspective.
She is feeling disappointmentin herself for allowing this to
happen.
She is feeling regret that shelet herself be put in this
situation, and I'm sure she ispretty sad as well.
(04:13):
She is not the first nor thelast woman to be mishandled and
mistreated by a man.
Disappointment is the rightword for this particular
situation.
When this type of situation wasshared with me, the person who
was telling me the story saidthat their girlfriend was so
(04:35):
depressed that she couldn't eventhink straight.
She went as far as to say herfriend was crying and doing
things out of her character.
To get back at the man, but Idon't think this situation is
depressing.
I told that person that wemight need to stop saying she is
(04:57):
depressed and call it for whatit is.
She is disappointed.
She is feeling disappointmentin herself, the situation and
her choice of a man.
Now let's discuss the worddepression.
According to the dictionary,the word is from a Latin word,
(05:17):
deprimere, which means to pressdown.
The dep means down and primeremeans to press the word itself.
Depression sounds just like themeaning to press down.
The word itself sounds heavy.
Whenever I think of the worddepression, I think of very dark
(05:40):
thoughts, strong emotions ofsadness, unhappiness and no will
to live or do anything.
In the dictionary it says theword depression means feelings
of severe despondency anddejection.
Similar words to furtherexpress depression include
(06:00):
hopelessness.
Similar words to furtherexpress depression include
hopelessness, misery, gloom andfailure.
An example of depression couldbe feelings from the loss of a
mother, father, child or anotherloved one in your life.
A person you had loved for yourwhole life is no longer in your
life, a person that took greatcare of you or that you took
(06:25):
care of.
This person was with youthrough the good and the tough
times.
This type of situation of losscould be very serious to your
life.
You could feel depression fromnot having anyone to share your
life with anymore.
Some people even experiencedepression from a loss of a pet.
(06:45):
The pet was with them throughthe same type of tough times and
loneliness.
We can even see the depressionin their face, body, voice,
activities and words.
Depression can be a seriousmedical situation for some
people.
I believe if you are unable tohandle those strong emotions,
(07:08):
then you need to seek help.
Many people in my culture willsuffer depression because they
don't want anyone to know theycan't deal with the issue.
Stress or situation that callsthem to feel so pressed down and
heavy they will suffer insilence.
Then you have those folks whohave taught themselves methods
(07:32):
of coping through self-taughttechniques.
Is this good or bad?
Probably not, but it's good forthem.
I want you to hear thedifference between
disappointment and depression.
In the definition of depressionit says severe despondency and
(07:52):
dejection.
I want you to focus on the wordsevere.
The word severe itself meansintense.
Similar words like brutal,harsh and critical harsh and
critical.
So for me, depression isdisappointment on steroids,
three times worse than anythingthat has happened in your life
(08:14):
at that time.
Depression is not something youwant to use lightly in a
conversation about yourself orsomeone else's feelings.
Our perspective of what isgoing on in other people's lives
may not be as severe as you seeit, but the person is so hurt,
(08:36):
frustrated and disappointed thatthey may use words out of
context, triggering you to thinkthey are depressed.
They may even say to think theyare depressed.
They may even say girl, I am sodepressed over this situation.
This is why I say the word ismisused and overused sometimes.
(09:02):
All I would say right now isthat if your friend is telling
you they are depressed, I wantyou to think about it.
Talk it out with them and helpthem understand that their
situation may not be as seriousor as critical as they may think
.
Let them know they have afriend in you and let them know
that you are there for them andyou will help them in any way
(09:27):
that you can.
Many times, just lettingsomeone know you are with them
and you have their back isenough to help them see.
They have a way out and it'snot as bad as they may have
thought.
But I also want to say that ifyour friend is experiencing deep
depression, help them find theright doctor.
(09:49):
Hell, go with them to see adoctor.
Encourage them to go to thedoctor for relief and clarity.
Your encouragement can mean somuch.
It could be the beginning ofgetting out of their funk, their
depression.
No-transcript.
(10:23):
A Queen's Opinion is a podcastthat allows people, especially
women, to think out loud aboutlife situations and seek an
opinion without being judged.
Encourage you to be the bestperson you can be, to inspire
(10:47):
you to step out of your comfortzone and into your queen zone.
I didn't say my opinion willsolve your problems.
I am not saying that I am right, but what I am saying is I'm
going to give you another viewof the situation from a distance
.
No more thinking or questioninga situation by yourself.
Ask the queen.
(11:08):
Go to our websitewwwaquingsopinioncom, and click
on Get In Touch to leave yourfeedback or leave a question for
the queen.
Don't forget to like uswherever you get your podcasts.
Thank you for taking time outof your day.
(11:29):
I hope you join me for our nextepisode.
Until then, goodbye.
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