July 27, 2024 • 11 mins
Queen stresses the significance of knowing one's self-worth and not settling for ambiguity. She encourages women to confidently express their dating intentions and ultimate goals. Queen doesn't shy away from tough love, advising her listeners that staying in a confusing and unfulfilled relationship is a waste of valuable time. She wraps up by discussing different types of dating relationships, such as companion dating, ensuring that you align your relationship type with your personal desires and goals. Tune in for a dose of inspiration and guidance in navigating the dating world with confidence and clarity.
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
the views and opinions expressed on this
podcast or website are those ofthe authors and do not
necessarily reflect the officialpolicy or position of a queen's
opinion.
Any content provided by ourbloggers or authors are their
opinion and are not intended tomalign any religion, ethnic
group, club, organization,company, individual or anyone or
(00:26):
anything.
Speaker 2 (00:32):
Welcome to A Queen's Opinion.
My name is Queen, my voice, myopinion and your listening ears.
We are continuing our topic AMan's World, topics related to
dealing with men, and thisepisode is called Dating
Relationships.
Are we in a relationship or not?
(00:53):
This episode is for the singlewomen.
A couple of months ago I had afriend tell me they didn't know
if they were in a relationshipor not.
She went on about how he isreally nice, he's a nice guy,
he's kind, he's nice looking andhe has a great job.
(01:14):
She tells me that gettingtogether sometimes is
inconsistent because he works alot and she's retired, so their
schedules prevent them fromgetting to see each other as
much as they like.
He tells my friend he is notdating anyone else and, of
(01:35):
course, she is not dating anyoneeither.
She told me they have beentogether for about a year.
They go out to dinner, theyhang out at each other's houses,
but she doesn't know if they'rein a relationship or not.
So my question to her wasGirlfriend, are you in a
(01:57):
relationship or not?
Her reply was I don't know.
Help me figure out my situation.
I told my friend she needs someclarity and this should have
been established prior to a year.
I tried to coach her to takeresponsibility for the situation
(02:19):
, telling her that next timeshe's out with this man at his
home or just hanging out, sheneeds to ask the question.
They're eating together,watching movies together and
let's be real people after awhole year they are sleeping
(02:42):
together.
She needs to look him in hiseyes and ask him the question
Are we in a relationship or not?
What are we doing?
This won't be an easy task formy friend, but it will give her
clarity and understanding of hersituation.
(03:02):
I know this is not easy, butshe must ask the question.
Well, she was beating allaround the bush and she said I
don't want to ask him.
Said I don't want to ask him,she said she was scared he might
(03:25):
leave her or he might say thatshe's being pushy or rushing
into a relationship.
Well, you know what?
If you ladies don't know yourself-worth, then how do you
expect the man to treat youworthy?
I can be a direct person.
Yes, I can be a direct personwhen it comes to dating.
(03:48):
Now, I've been in my marriagefor over 30 years.
When I met my husband in highschool yes, I said high school
we were not sweethearts.
Yes, I said high school.
(04:16):
We were not sweethearts.
I told him I am not looking fora boyfriend.
I can get a boyfriend.
I am looking.
Girlfriend should doSelf-advocate.
She needs to communicate to theman what her dating intentions
are, what type of relationshipshe is seeking and what her
ultimate dating goal is for therelationship.
(04:37):
Let him know your thoughts andfeelings about the relationship,
or what you perceive to be arelationship.
If we don't communicate ourwants and desires to the man up
front, then you end up in ameaningless relationship, or at
(04:58):
least that's my opinion.
Meaningless relationship, or atleast that's my opinion.
In other words, there might beno clarity, no communication, no
relationship and you all willbe just stuck in a cycle of
wondering.
To me, this is pointless and awaste of valuable time.
(05:18):
Ladies, know your worth andcommunicate what you want.
In a relationship.
We need to understand ourstrengths and weaknesses within
ourselves.
Set some relationship goalsthat will benefit you, ladies.
(05:39):
Being a self-advocate is a goodthing.
We can be strong, confident,loving, sexy and worthy.
Don't be scared of the outcomeof your actions.
If the man walks out orexpresses he is not looking for
what you are wanting, let him gofor what you are wanting.
(06:03):
Let him go.
Staying in an unfulfillingrelationship is not worth your
time.
In my opinion.
There are several types ofdating relationships.
You have the companion dating.
This is when you want a personto hang out with you over the
(06:25):
weekends.
You want to go on tripstogether to share common
interests.
You want a friend with benefits.
Many people engage in this typeof dating and that's okay.
If this works for you, great.
This is usually a dating typeyoung people practice often.
This type of dating is fun andit feels safe.
(06:47):
Committed dating this is whenyou want a person in an
emotional relationship with youin which you share common life
goals, ie finances, children,etc.
Finances, children, etc.
This leads to a term calledcommon law marriage no legal
commitment but all the marriagebenefits.
(07:17):
And lastly, pre-marriage datingthis is when you want to be
dating someone with theintention to be in a legally
committed relationship asspouses sharing life together
after some set point that youget married to one another.
These types of relationshipsgive a purpose to why you are
with your partner.
(07:37):
Establishing what you arelooking for up front with your
partner makes it clear and easyfor the two of you to determine
if the relationship coulddevelop into something deeper,
or if it is already all it willever be.
So you both need to be clear anddiscuss your wants and desires
(08:03):
up front.
If you don't know what you wantand you're not able to
communicate that to a partner,then how is a partner supposed
to know your wants and desires?
I would suggest listening tothe inventory episode to help
you get started with figuringout your needs.
(08:23):
You see, I feel a confidentwoman will be able to
communicate to anyone what sheexpects from them in any type of
relationship.
A confident woman understandsthat if she doesn't speak up for
herself, no one else willsayings that if she doesn't
speak up for herself, no oneelse will.
(08:44):
So for all you ladies out therethat are confused if you are in
a relationship or not, I hopethis episode helps you, because
it's a sad thing not to knowyour worth and as far as my
(09:06):
friend is concerned, thatrelationship is over.
He wasn't ready for all thelove she had to give, all the
love she wanted to give someone,so I told her let him walk.
Speaker 3 (09:33):
I told her to move on and remember that she is worthy
, lovable and blessed.
Touch to leave your feedback orleave a question for the queen.
We realized that many of youare on the go and listen to
podcasts through your phones orin the car, so we wanted to make
contacting the queen easier.
You can now send a text.
Yes, you can text the showright from your phone.
(09:53):
Try it right now, today.
Send your feedback about thisepisode or any episode that you
have listened to over the months.
We can't wait to hear back fromyou.
Speaker 2 (10:05):
A Queen's Opinion is a podcast that allows people,
especially women, to think outloud about life situations and
seek an opinion without beingjudged.
This podcast is supposed tolift you up, encourage you to be
the best person you can be, toinspire you to step out of your
(10:27):
comfort zone and into your queenzone.
I didn't say my opinion willsolve your problems.
I am not saying that I am right, but what I am saying is I'm
going to give you another viewof the situation from a distance
.
No more thinking or questioninga situation by yourself.
(10:49):
Ask the queen.
Go to our website,wwwaquingsopinioncom and click
on get in touch to leave yourfeedback or leave a question for
the queen.
Don't forget to like uswherever you get your podcasts.
Thank you for taking time outof your day.
(11:11):
I hope you join me for our nextepisode.
Until then, goodbye.
the views and opinions expressed on this
podcast or website are those ofthe authors and do not
necessarily reflect the officialpolicy or position of a queen's
opinion.
Any content provided by ourbloggers or authors are their
opinion and are not intended tomalign any religion, ethnic
group, club, organization,company, individual or anyone or
(00:26):
anything.
Speaker 2 (00:32):
Welcome to A Queen's Opinion.
My name is Queen, my voice, myopinion and your listening ears.
We are continuing our topic AMan's World, topics related to
dealing with men, and thisepisode is called Dating
Relationships.
Are we in a relationship or not?
(00:53):
This episode is for the singlewomen.
A couple of months ago I had afriend tell me they didn't know
if they were in a relationshipor not.
She went on about how he isreally nice, he's a nice guy,
he's kind, he's nice looking andhe has a great job.
(01:14):
She tells me that gettingtogether sometimes is
inconsistent because he works alot and she's retired, so their
schedules prevent them fromgetting to see each other as
much as they like.
He tells my friend he is notdating anyone else and, of
(01:35):
course, she is not dating anyoneeither.
She told me they have beentogether for about a year.
They go out to dinner, theyhang out at each other's houses,
but she doesn't know if they'rein a relationship or not.
So my question to her wasGirlfriend, are you in a
(01:57):
relationship or not?
Her reply was I don't know.
Help me figure out my situation.
I told my friend she needs someclarity and this should have
been established prior to a year.
I tried to coach her to takeresponsibility for the situation
(02:19):
, telling her that next timeshe's out with this man at his
home or just hanging out, sheneeds to ask the question.
They're eating together,watching movies together and
let's be real people after awhole year they are sleeping
(02:42):
together.
She needs to look him in hiseyes and ask him the question
Are we in a relationship or not?
What are we doing?
This won't be an easy task formy friend, but it will give her
clarity and understanding of hersituation.
(03:02):
I know this is not easy, butshe must ask the question.
Well, she was beating allaround the bush and she said I
don't want to ask him.
Said I don't want to ask him,she said she was scared he might
(03:25):
leave her or he might say thatshe's being pushy or rushing
into a relationship.
Well, you know what?
If you ladies don't know yourself-worth, then how do you
expect the man to treat youworthy?
I can be a direct person.
Yes, I can be a direct personwhen it comes to dating.
(03:48):
Now, I've been in my marriagefor over 30 years.
When I met my husband in highschool yes, I said high school
we were not sweethearts.
Yes, I said high school.
(04:16):
We were not sweethearts.
I told him I am not looking fora boyfriend.
I can get a boyfriend.
I am looking.
Girlfriend should doSelf-advocate.
She needs to communicate to theman what her dating intentions
are, what type of relationshipshe is seeking and what her
ultimate dating goal is for therelationship.
(04:37):
Let him know your thoughts andfeelings about the relationship,
or what you perceive to be arelationship.
If we don't communicate ourwants and desires to the man up
front, then you end up in ameaningless relationship, or at
(04:58):
least that's my opinion.
Meaningless relationship, or atleast that's my opinion.
In other words, there might beno clarity, no communication, no
relationship and you all willbe just stuck in a cycle of
wondering.
To me, this is pointless and awaste of valuable time.
(05:18):
Ladies, know your worth andcommunicate what you want.
In a relationship.
We need to understand ourstrengths and weaknesses within
ourselves.
Set some relationship goalsthat will benefit you, ladies.
(05:39):
Being a self-advocate is a goodthing.
We can be strong, confident,loving, sexy and worthy.
Don't be scared of the outcomeof your actions.
If the man walks out orexpresses he is not looking for
what you are wanting, let him gofor what you are wanting.
(06:03):
Let him go.
Staying in an unfulfillingrelationship is not worth your
time.
In my opinion.
There are several types ofdating relationships.
You have the companion dating.
This is when you want a personto hang out with you over the
(06:25):
weekends.
You want to go on tripstogether to share common
interests.
You want a friend with benefits.
Many people engage in this typeof dating and that's okay.
If this works for you, great.
This is usually a dating typeyoung people practice often.
This type of dating is fun andit feels safe.
(06:47):
Committed dating this is whenyou want a person in an
emotional relationship with youin which you share common life
goals, ie finances, children,etc.
Finances, children, etc.
This leads to a term calledcommon law marriage no legal
commitment but all the marriagebenefits.
(07:17):
And lastly, pre-marriage datingthis is when you want to be
dating someone with theintention to be in a legally
committed relationship asspouses sharing life together
after some set point that youget married to one another.
These types of relationshipsgive a purpose to why you are
with your partner.
(07:37):
Establishing what you arelooking for up front with your
partner makes it clear and easyfor the two of you to determine
if the relationship coulddevelop into something deeper,
or if it is already all it willever be.
So you both need to be clear anddiscuss your wants and desires
(08:03):
up front.
If you don't know what you wantand you're not able to
communicate that to a partner,then how is a partner supposed
to know your wants and desires?
I would suggest listening tothe inventory episode to help
you get started with figuringout your needs.
(08:23):
You see, I feel a confidentwoman will be able to
communicate to anyone what sheexpects from them in any type of
relationship.
A confident woman understandsthat if she doesn't speak up for
herself, no one else willsayings that if she doesn't
speak up for herself, no oneelse will.
(08:44):
So for all you ladies out therethat are confused if you are in
a relationship or not, I hopethis episode helps you, because
it's a sad thing not to knowyour worth and as far as my
(09:06):
friend is concerned, thatrelationship is over.
He wasn't ready for all thelove she had to give, all the
love she wanted to give someone,so I told her let him walk.
Speaker 3 (09:33):
I told her to move on and remember that she is worthy
, lovable and blessed.
Touch to leave your feedback orleave a question for the queen.
We realized that many of youare on the go and listen to
podcasts through your phones orin the car, so we wanted to make
contacting the queen easier.
You can now send a text.
Yes, you can text the showright from your phone.
(09:53):
Try it right now, today.
Send your feedback about thisepisode or any episode that you
have listened to over the months.
We can't wait to hear back fromyou.
Speaker 2 (10:05):
A Queen's Opinion is a podcast that allows people,
especially women, to think outloud about life situations and
seek an opinion without beingjudged.
This podcast is supposed tolift you up, encourage you to be
the best person you can be, toinspire you to step out of your
(10:27):
comfort zone and into your queenzone.
I didn't say my opinion willsolve your problems.
I am not saying that I am right, but what I am saying is I'm
going to give you another viewof the situation from a distance
.
No more thinking or questioninga situation by yourself.
(10:49):
Ask the queen.
Go to our website,wwwaquingsopinioncom and click
on get in touch to leave yourfeedback or leave a question for
the queen.
Don't forget to like uswherever you get your podcasts.
Thank you for taking time outof your day.
(11:11):
I hope you join me for our nextepisode.
Until then, goodbye.
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