139. #KeepItWise: The True Essence of Self-Worth

This keep it wise segment is a clip from episode 56,  on Self-Worth and Being Extraordinary Ft. Christine Baird.

In this clip we explore the subtle distinction between feeling proud of our accomplishments and embracing the worth that is our birthright, regardless of accolades or achievements.

For anyone who's felt adrift in their own self-perception, this episode serves as guide for us back to the profound self-love that has always been within us, waiting to be reclaimed.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:07):
I think the whole idea of self-worth is such a.
It's such a common word, butit's not something people talk
about a lot, or maybe they do indifferent ways.
Like, people talk aboutself-love and all that stuff and
self-care, and I kind of allthink they're part of this like
larger story about, like how doI really, how do I, you know,

(00:31):
stay proud of myself even whenI'm not the best version of
myself, or as I'm workingtowards being the best version
of myself?
How do I stay confident?
So I'm curious how you woulddefine self-worth, because when
I think of self-worth, you knowI think of like self-esteem.
So would you think, do youthink the same or do you have

(00:54):
like a more?

Speaker 2 (00:56):
in-depth.
Definitely self-worth?
That's a great question.
I have thought a lot about this.
I mean, I'm always learning andI think there maybe is a slight
distinguishment betweenself-worth and self-esteem.
They're very close.
Self-esteem, in my mind, is kindof the regard we hold ourselves
in kind of comparative to ourcircumstances.
Right, it's like, well, I knowwhat I'm going through, I know

(01:18):
what I can bring to the table, Irespect myself.
I think a lot about self-esteemis self-respect, like I
understand what I've got to workwith, I understand what I offer
.
You know I can respect myself.
Self-worth, I think, is a kindof layer deeper.
It kind of gets into thatreally tender, really vulnerable
, really childlike zone where weremember and we sort of realize

(01:44):
oh yeah, when I was a kid likekind of my earliest memories for
most of us I loved myself and Iappreciated myself and I valued
myself, literally independentof any kind of like results or
merit right, sort of that timebefore we could perform, before

(02:04):
we could prove we had anunderstanding of our own worth
and of others' worth, right.
I really think children are theteachers here.
I often like, when I'm around,like my niece's is at nephew's
or my friend's kids, I'm alwayslike kind of not in a weird way,
but I'm like quietly observingthem and I'm like, wow, they get

(02:24):
it.
Because I really do believe thatLike we come into this world
with an innate understanding ofhow full of worth we are and
every other human, and then overtime we have all these
experiences that kind of erodesthat and distracts us and breaks
us down.
We all go through stuff.
So self-worth to me is like avery deep self-love.
It's a very deep appreciationfor who we are at the core and

(02:48):
we see that mirrored back ineveryone around us.
So that to me is kind of myworking definition of self-worth
and I'm constantly learningmore.
I don't think it's like a fixeddefinition.
I keep kind of finding newlayers to it.
So that's the current version,but I mean maybe in a year I'll
have another one.

Speaker 1 (03:09):
That's a great version and I think you touched
on a very important point.
I think it's a lifelong journeyand obviously the definition is
going to take different shapesdepending on where you are in
your life, but you saidsomething that really stuck out
to me relating to like notfeeling like.
You have to prove yourself,because I think as we get older,

(03:33):
we have all these expectationsfrom society and then we also
create expectations forourselves and I think we tend to
get in our own heads andsometimes, funny enough, we can
be our harshest critics andreally devalue ourselves when
nobody else is really devaluingus and just feeling like we're
not good enough.

(03:53):
So I know that you're on thisjourney, but I just wonder, you
know, how can people who arestruggling to find their
self-worth, how can they starton that journey?
What tips do you have for themto kind?

Speaker 2 (04:06):
of find their self-worth.
I love that, because one of thethings that I've learned so far
is we don't find our self-worth, we don't like discover it.
We remember it, and it took mea while to understand that I
used to say the same thing.
I was like oh, I'm on a journeyto learn my self-worth.
I can't remember what I'd say,but every time I was like no,

(04:29):
christine, it's a remembering.
Like this whole concept isbuilt on the idea that I came
into the world knowing this andif you believe in like you know
we existed before.
Maybe you're a past life orsomething like it might already
be embedded in our system, andso that's really helped me and
hopefully it'll help anyonelistening who's like oh my gosh,

(04:50):
these guys, I'm light yearsfrom owning my worth.
I get it.
I mean, I've had some prettylow self-worth moments, but I
think that's a key to start.
It's about remembering what wealready know, and that takes
some time.
Usually, if it's hard to evenwrap your head around this

(05:10):
concept right now, the firststep is to be really kind to
yourself, really compassionate,and start to just very slowly,
as you're ready, kind of digdeep and start to let yourself
unpack, like what has made meforget how worthful I felt when
I was a kid, or kind of yourhappiest memories.

(05:31):
If you can go back into theearly days, what has blocked me
from that?
And oftentimes this is going tonot going to be pretty Right.
This is where the pains, thetraumas, the disappointments,
the heartbreaks are going tocome up, kind of those difficult
moments we've all faced.
And I think that's where we canstart is say it's okay to go
back in here and start to unpackand realize like, oh yeah, that

(05:54):
story I made up when I was suchand such age and I got that
feedback from my parent, myteacher, my coach, when that
really really rough thingshappened and I decided it was my
fault.
And that's, I think, a startingplace, because then it's a
matter of not having to likeclimb Mount Everest by like
learning some you know nirvanakind of concept.

(06:15):
It's like, oh okay, if I know,I knew this at one time, how can
I kind of trace my steps back?
So I would start there and,just like I said, be super kind
to yourself because, likely it'snot, some tough stuff is going
to come up.
You might need to have somegood cries, you might need to do
some journaling.
But every time I've ever workedwith you know a coach, or read

(06:38):
a book or listen to a podcast,that got me kind of a step
closer.
It always kind of allowed me tosay, hey, it's okay that I've
forgotten some of these parts ofmyself, Like I don't need to
judge that I've done that.
But this is where theremembering begins.

Speaker 1 (06:55):
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