November 14, 2025 • 61 mins
Join me live with Jyllian Clarke as we discuss the power of self discovery, building confidence so that you show up Authentically you!
Jyllian Clarke is an executive coach who’s passionate about helping people lead and live with authenticity. She’s the author of Pure Excellence: The Joy in Finding You and the creator of I AM ME: 100% Validated!®, a guided self-discovery experience that empowers individuals to embrace who they are, fully and unapologetically. A former security senior executive turned coach, Jyllian now creates spaces for individuals and teams to recognize their excellence, and build the confidence, connection, and clarity needed to show up as their most authentic selves.
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Ai Voice (00:17):
The wallet's missing from the floor? It's not my
secrets, nothing more? I checked the drawers, I
checked the spikes Left me hanging in my legs Last
night we tore up the town? Now my wallet's not
around?
Anthony Weaver (00:30):
Um.
Ai Voice (00:34):
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start anew?
Anthony Weaver (00:39):
Hey. Hey.
Jyllian Clarke (00:40):
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(01:08):
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(01:35):
Now here's your host, Anthony Weaver.
What up, what up, what up, everybody? Hopefully,
y' all are having a wonderful Friday eve, and
thank you for joining us live today. I have a
wonderful, wonderful person who always talks about
finding that confidence, building that
authenticity, and actually having a great time
(01:59):
while doing so. Welcome to the show, Jillian
Clark.
Jyllian Clarke (02:04):
Thank you. Thank you, Anthony, for having me. I'm
really excited to do this live podcast with you.
Anthony Weaver (02:10):
Let's give you a round of applause.
Jyllian Clarke (02:17):
I love it. I love it.
Anthony Weaver (02:19):
Um, because one of the things that, uh, I just
want to let the audience know, if y' all watching
this live right now, type in hashtag excellence,
because we will be doing a book giveaway later in
the show. So by all means. Oh, you want to talk
about your book, right quick.
Jyllian Clarke (02:33):
Do I want to talk about my book? I always want to
talk about my book.
Anthony Weaver (02:37):
Well, let's talk about the book that we're about
to give away.
Jyllian Clarke (02:39):
Okay, we'll start there. So pure excellence. The
joy in finding you. Uh, I. I released this book
back in March. It was March 1st, and in fact,
there's two editions. So if you have this book
prior to June, um, there's in addition. But then I
noticed when I was recording the audiobook that
there were a couple things that I wanted to
(03:01):
change. So I worked with my publisher and re
released it in June 2025. So the book is just all
about the joy in finding ourselves. It's really
about, um, you know, us leaning into who we are as
people, noticing those moments when we tend to do
things that aren't in alignment with who we are,
our values, our boundaries. Um, I talk a little
(03:23):
bit about group think in There, like, you end up
doing things because everybody else is doing it.
But then in that quiet moment you're like, huh,
I'm actually not as excited about it as everybody
else seems to be. But you do it anyway because
that's what the group is doing. So really like
making decisions, uh, that align with who you are
as a person, who you are, values wise, boundaries
(03:46):
wise. And not being afraid to do that, doing it
such with confidence and just finding joy and
being able to say like, this is not who I am and
I'm going to choose something different, even
though you friend might not like it. So, um, so
that's what the book is about. And it's got a lot
of practical exercises in there for you to really
just see where you are. And it's not necessarily
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for people who don't know who they are. It's about
deepening connection with yourself, no matter
where you are in the journey. And, um, the book
actually was my way of giving back. Because when I
was in a state of chaos personally, um, I found
myself at 50 years old being in a state of like. I
(04:30):
just realized that I just wasn't always my
authentic self. And I had built myself up on
accolades and achievements and all kinds of stuff.
And then all of a sudden I didn't have those
tangible to me. And I looked for all these
different things. It's in the book, you'll read
about it. But you know, I, I was looking for just
different ways, ways to like really figure out who
(04:51):
am I, who am I without all these things. And, um,
I didn't have for myself. And so when I kind of
came out of my chaotic spin that I was in really
trying to figure out who I was as a person, um, I
decided to give back in a couple of different
ways. And this is one of them. Pure excellence.
The joy in finding you. So I wrote it took a long
(05:12):
time, but it's out.
Anthony Weaver (05:14):
I love it because in our times right now, I have
to say, when it comes to audiobooks, the reason
why I like the audiobook sometimes more than the
paperback. I've noticed that a lot of people
actually give you a little bit more in the audio
format. They was like, hey, you know, I really why
I wrote this chapter is because I was going
through this moment or what was I thinking about,
(05:35):
uh, in those particular moments in time. So I was
like, hm, that's a cool way to kind of play on
audio versus if you got the physical book. And I
like that your publisher was open up to kind of go
back and make Those changes.
Jyllian Clarke (05:47):
Yes, yes, it was a lot of back and forth, however
we got there. Um, I can be pretty persuasive.
Persuasive. Um, a couple of them were, you know,
just editing errors here and there. Every book has
an error in it. Um, but when I did the audiobook,
which I love what you're seeing, because my book
does not give insight into why I wrote certain
(06:07):
things. You have to get on. You have to have me on
a podcast or something, because inside scoops or a
book signing, I do talk about, um, all things that
went into the book. I have a couple things at the
beginning and end that they allowed me to ad lib
and put in. But really the audiobook is just me,
my raw emotion as I'm reading it, which you don't
get from the book. You get words in the book. So.
(06:30):
So, yeah, everyone has a different preference.
But, um, you know, I've got lots of books to give
away, so.
Anthony Weaver (06:36):
Yeah, because one of the things that's going on
that we also understand is that authenticity in
the black and brown community, but it's not a good
thing. So we have to do something called code
switching. And a lot of times that can be a
detriment to who we are as our core also could
actually help us. So why is it now such a good
(06:59):
time to kind of show up authentically? You.
Jyllian Clarke (07:01):
Yeah, what a great question. And I would dare say,
although, yes, black and brown, but I see it
across all races, I see it across all genders. It
doesn't matter. We all, I mean, there's different
environments that we go into. And sometimes people
do change who they are as a person in order to fit
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in, in order to belong. And I think more and more
now people are realizing, like, I'm just going to
show up as, as I am. And I almost would say, you
know, it's the younger generation that's really
bringing this out of us because we've been, we as
older, you know, individuals have kind of
suppressed that, uh, because we weren't well
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received, we didn't fit in. We wanted to belong
and we didn't know how to create our own tables
and invite other people into our tables. And so I
think right now, between what's happening with our
government, with what's happening, all the
different layoffs that are happening, um, and that
sort of was part of my story as well as I got laid
(08:04):
off and it was unheard of. It was a while ago, and
it was embarrassing and all kinds of things. But I
think that in that space we have to figure out,
like, who we are, what are our values, what are
our boundaries, what will and won't we tolerate,
what's acceptable to us as people? And I think
when we start seeing all the things that are
happening in the environments that we're in, it's
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really important and, in fact, professionally
responsible for us to create these environments
where people feel safe to show up as themselves.
The problem is people don't always know how to do
that. And I, you know, I've come across so many
people are like, I know who I am. I know who I am,
and that's great. Again, this is about meeting
people where they are. But what I often find out
is there are moments when they're kind of like,
(08:47):
well, no, actually, I don't know this. I don't
know this part of it. I. I grew up partially. My
younger years were in England, and I moved to the
States from England into a predominantly white
school. And, you know, you talk about code switch,
(09:09):
and it was very interesting for me because I came
here at a young age and just kind of acclimated to
where whatever environment I'm in, that's a
strength of mine. It's whatever environment I'm
in. But it's interesting for me because, um, you
know, predominantly white people kind of just
absorbed me. Black people were saying, oh, you're
(09:31):
trying to be white. You have this accent or what
have you. Well, what. So, you know, it's just one
of those areas where, like, just who you are as a
person, and as long as you're rooted in who you
are as a person, it doesn't really matter where
you are. Know how to be professional. If you're in
the professional environment, it doesn't mean
you're changing who you are. It just means that
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your professional self shows up. And then when
you're shucking and jiving with your friends, then
that's cool too. So, you know, it's just one of
those things. But being able to understand who you
are, not change as a result of that and be
comfortable with who you are. So very important.
Anthony Weaver (10:07):
Yeah. So Floyd, um, from Highway 54. Thank you for
chiming in. Said he grew up code switching. And I
think we were just taught early on, it's just
like, you know, hey, you better act right while
you're inside this grocery store. Or, you know,
when you go shopping with your mom, be like, hey,
you better not touch nothing.
Jyllian Clarke (10:25):
Right?
Anthony Weaver (10:26):
Get that little pep talk before you go in.
Jyllian Clarke (10:28):
Right, Exactly. Was it a pep talk? Oh, yeah.
Anthony Weaver (10:33):
It's more like able talking. Right. Yeah, and my
mom's chiming in, too. Make sure y' all type in
hashtag excellent if y' all want the book
giveaway. Be part of that process. Yes.
Jyllian Clarke (10:47):
Yes. Hello to your mom.
Anthony Weaver (10:49):
Yeah, thanks. She's. I'm sure she's like, hey, I'm
back to you. That's nice. If I'm out.
Jyllian Clarke (10:56):
So.
Anthony Weaver (10:57):
But you as a, um, you know, growing up, you know,
dealing with finding yourself in this community
and going through those different childhood
memories and those core memories and definitely
switching out from what you're used to and getting
out of your comfort zone, how did that help
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solidify who you are today?
Jyllian Clarke (11:22):
How did that help solidify who I am today? Um, in
a couple of different ways. And I think part of
that is I just sort of showed up places as I was,
and it wasn't until I was much older that I
realized that, like, sometimes I rub people the
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wrong way. And so. And then sometimes, you know,
most times everybody was accepting or what have
you. So it was kind of like one of those things.
And this is what I see very often is, um, you
might rub somebody the wrong way, and then all of
a sudden, they're the. You know, they're the
people that you're trying to, like, figure out,
like, what's happening here. And everybody else
likes me, so why not? And so my upbringing was
(12:06):
more about, don't, um, worry about those people.
Go do your thing anyway. And I think, and I thank
my parents a lot, too, because they've really
raised me just like, this is who you are, and
you're going to have people who don't like you.
You're going to have some people who do. But I
think just as people and as we grow, we natur be
able to be liked and loved by everybody. And that
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is kind of the basis that starts to shape us and
shape us in ways that aren't always aligned with
really who we are as a people, as a person. And
so, you know, it's an interesting question that I
ponder, because I never really had any issues
with, like, who I am as a person. Um, I think my
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authentic self is what people genuinely like about
me. But I did find myself in a situation where, as
I looked back, I'm like, wow, there were times
that I probably did things, said things, acted in
ways that I probably shouldn't have if I was
really being true to myself. And for me, I really
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appreciated the achievements that I had and the
accolades that I would get. And, you know, I was,
uh, in these top positions, both in government and
Corporate. And that gave me some clout, you know,
to some degree. And then when it was all gone and
I was sitting in silence, I'm like, who am I?
Really?
Anthony Weaver (13:28):
Yeah.
Jyllian Clarke (13:29):
Who am I without all those things? Because I was
not. I didn't think this is a mindset that I had
to realize. But at that moment, I'm like, I'm
nobody. I don't. I don't have a job anymore. I
don't have this. I'm not in these powerful
positions anymore. So then who am I if I'm not
there? And I really had to start over from this
life that I, you know, knew just being myself. I'm
(13:51):
like, wait a minute. Really? Who am I? M. So, um,
There's a long way to answer your question, but I
love.
Anthony Weaver (13:58):
It because one of the things that we go out, when
you go out to parties or, um, catching up with
family members, the first thing they ask you, so
what do you do? Or. And it's kind of like, well, I
do a lot of other things. And ultimately what
they're asking for is, what do you do for work?
What do you do for income?
Jyllian Clarke (14:14):
Right?
Anthony Weaver (14:15):
And it's just like, well, I can do a whole lot
more than just that. So.
Yeah, what is it that, um, like you said, when all
the titles are stripped, when do you realize that
you're more than just the titles?
Jyllian Clarke (14:31):
So, great question. And what I discovered. And I
actually have a trademarked M initiative called I
am me 100% validated. And it's a guided self
discovery journey where you're really just looking
at yourself. What are. What is it about you? What
are your traits? What are, you know, using, Like,
I am blank. Like, I am brave. Um, and so it's
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really about deepening that connection with
yourself and realizing what. Who you are, deep
down. Brave, scared, fearful, embarrassed, um,
confident. It's all these things that we define.
We have buckets for ourselves. Good, bad, none of
that. Right. We're not. Not. It's. It's who we
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are, what we do. What I really walk people through
is being able to identify what those traits are
within us. Nothing has to do with the title.
Nothing has to do with the pecking order, where
you are with siblings. Um, you know, any of that,
right? It's all about who you are, what you bring
to any conversation. I am happy. I am a shining
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star. It's, you know, those kind of things all the
way to everything that we might consider. Consider
bad. But they're part of us. Um, I mean, part m.
Of what I realized I'm like, I'm a little mean,
um, and you like to look at that. But now I can
laugh about it. But there was a time when I was
like, oh my goodness, I really am. And I was
devastated to really come to that honesty about
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myself. But then I realized it's about how you
actually leverage that trait that matters. And so
when do I bring that up? When, when is it useful?
What's the impact that I want to have on the
world? And when we become so unbelievably aware of
ourselves, we can begin to have the impact on the
world that we really, truly want to have. And be
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careful of impacting in ways that we didn't mean
to impact. And we can be very intentional about
our decisions when we know who we are and how they
align with what we value.
Anthony Weaver (16:31):
I, uh, like that because, you know, obviously at
work there's a lot of people that like to test
your gangster be like, you know, oh, you're
horrible at this and you trash this way, or I
don't like the way that you put on your shirt
today.
Jyllian Clarke (16:46):
Right.
Anthony Weaver (16:47):
I've seen people talk about somebody's attire more
so than their work ethic more than once.
Jyllian Clarke (16:52):
Mhm.
Anthony Weaver (16:54):
The question is, it's like, how do you kind of
maintain your composure to keep your paycheck?
Jyllian Clarke (17:03):
I would ask that back to you, right? Because sure,
somebody says something negative, it stings. But I
would ask, like, why is it important to you what
that person is saying or how they feel about you,
or what they say about you? Why is it important to
you? What's so important about it that you feel
you have to respond to it? So, you know, those are
(17:24):
the types of questions, coaching questions, um,
that I would ask. And then you can make a very
conscious decision about do I respond and give
this person my energy or not. There was a time
when I probably would have, you know, set
something back or whatever. Now if you don't like
what I have on, you don't like what I have on,
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hey, it's none of my business what you think of
me. You keep that to yourself. But if you choose
to bring that out, okay, so you don't like my
sweater. I'm good. It doesn't change who I am as a
person or how I'm going to, you know, be. But then
if it bothers you, I'm asking questions like, what
is it about it that bothers you? Maybe you didn't
like it either and you decided that, wow, I'm
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going to wear it anyway. And then somebody makes a
Comment. And you're like, oh, man, I should have
worn it. Right? So there's all those things. But
that's the first step is like, why what matters?
Why is it important? And that's how you keep your
composure. What are your values? What does it
matter? And is it really that important to you to
be able to respond to that individual? Or is that
individual really, uh, that important to you?
Anthony Weaver (18:32):
Okay, um, I really do like that because, you know,
we. We go through life being judged all the time,
and especially, like, you get it at home more so
you can get at work. So that's why the reason why
I'm like, can we just bring back bullying as kids?
Because some people are so sensitive nowadays.
(18:52):
It's like, yeah, I don't know. Sure. What's going
on? Is it the way how we, like, how the parents
are actually raising their children nowadays to
kind of deal with conflict? Because now, because
we're dealing with people who are in the sandwich
generation, they have kids and also they deal with
their parents. But if they have their kids, how do
they kind of, um, what. As you could say, this is
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the part I like to edit out when the pre
recordings edit all this out.
Jyllian Clarke (19:21):
I'm letting you get your question out. So go
ahead, Mom's listening.
Anthony Weaver (19:24):
I'm gonna try to land the plane on this one.
All right. Um, so the question is, what strategies
or tools or even questions should a parent or even
suggest a parent give to their child to kind of
build that confidence in themselves for who they
are?
Jyllian Clarke (19:43):
Wow. Okay, so you landed that plane not where I
thought you were going, but, um. And so, you know,
parent parenting advice is really how I would wrap
that up. And, um, you know, I've got three kids.
Each one would tell you something different about
me as a parent. Um, what I will tell you is that I
grew as a person having them as children. But one
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of the things that I was very, very, very
deliberate about was making sure that they had a
voice. Um, something that I didn't always feel
like I had, but I didn't know that I didn't have
until later. And some people might say, like, oh,
you gave them too much of a voice. But I was
always kind of like, someday. I mean, it happened
way sooner than I thought, where they exercise
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their independence and their voices, but someday
it's going to serve them very well. And, um, so I
just wanted them to be able to be heard, you know,
because I grew up kind of, you know, kids are in
the room, but, um, you know, don't speak unless
you're spoken to. And so there's a lot of
different things I had. You know, communication
(20:50):
was very, um, important in my family, but at the
same time, there's a lot that we did not
communicate about. And so, uh, I have raised my
children to be able to. To communicate. I would
always say, what is wrong? Use your words, you
know, and always give them a place and a platform
to. To voice whatever they wanted to voice. And so
(21:11):
with that, um, there are lots of different,
various variations of what I'm saying. And so I.
When you say that, you know, some kids are really
sensitive now. I'm one of those sensitive people.
I am sensitive. My kids will tell you in a minute,
oh, mom, you're so sensitive. You're so, um. But I
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think they caught me really, at a time they were
teenagers and in college, as I was going through a
lot of my own self discovery, you know, moments
here and just recognizing, uh, where I was in
life. And I think having kids may be a little
softer as an individual too, because I definitely
have much more of an understanding. So as a parent
to other parents, I would say approach what you're
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doing with a level of understanding and compassion
and try not to suppress their voices. You want
your place. At least for me, I wanted my home to
be the safest place that my kids had, and I wanted
that for their friends and such, too. Like, they.
That they knew that they had a safe place where
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they could come and be themselves and have a voice
and understand. And I would approach it with a
level of understanding. Um, and with that. We
produce so many different types of kids, but it's
not just about parenting. It's about the
environment. And so how you interact with the
environments that they're in or that you place
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them in is equally as important as what you're
doing to parent them in the first place.
Anthony Weaver (22:41):
So I like that.
Jyllian Clarke (22:43):
Really deep, really quickly.
Anthony Weaver (22:45):
No, it's really good because I don't have any
kids. Like, this platform, this podcasting, is my.
My baby and my child and my gift to the world.
And, you know, most of the time, your job as a
parent is to kind of mold your child for being a
person, um, that's given value to the world and
society and having that, I know people be like,
(23:08):
you know, Anthony, you're getting kind of deep on
your show. Um, it's been a while, so let's go
deep. Um, well, talking about having those
uncomfortable conversations, like, now you, uh, as
a parent, and I believe you like your empty nester
now.
Jyllian Clarke (23:25):
I am, I am My youngest went off to college this
year. And so, yep, empty nesting, um, I guess is
the right term now. I'm a bird launcher, flinging
birds out.
Anthony Weaver (23:37):
The way, like, get off my tree.
Jyllian Clarke (23:42):
But yes, yes, I am.
Anthony Weaver (23:45):
And so with your parents now in the wing and you
just kind of giving your, you know, you're just
kind of starting to breathe now.
Let's talk about the parents. How do you start to
bring them into your space, like, going forward,
like, far as, like, health and dealing with their
mental, um, in their physical capabilities? Are
you able to kind of take on that now or just kind
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of like, hey, I'm trying to set them up
financially and they'd be maybe.
Jyllian Clarke (24:10):
All right, so let me understand your question a
little bit. When you say, how about parents, do
you mean my parents?
Anthony Weaver (24:17):
Yes, your parents.
Jyllian Clarke (24:17):
My parents. That's what I thought. Okay. Because
that's a whole different ball of wax too. It's
like, my kids. My kids left. We are loving our
empty nesting now, and we are so proud of our
three kids who have gone off. They make great
decisions. They're definitely people, um, who.
They're still figuring life out. But they're very
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good. We've taught them right from wrong, which I
believe happens much earlier than people think. I
think we're still molding them at 16, 17, 18. No,
they already know, but, you know, very proud
there. But what happens is, um, you know, I'm
still very close to my parents, and they're
elderly, they're in their 80s, and they have
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technology, um, challenges. You know, I mean, our
technology world is changing like this. At 8 o'
clock, it looks one way, and at 2 o' clock it
looks totally different because they've rolled out
an update that's really challenging. So we've
become. My brother and I have become all things
technology gurus for, you know, my parents, um,
they have health issues. And so, you know, being
(25:21):
able to navigate that. I'm always on the phone
like, or going to the doctors with them or
something. And, um, you know, it's definitely a
different space. I'm kind of the epitome of the
sandwich generation right now with my, you know,
kids and my parents. But, um, being really clear
on my own boundaries is so important. I'm not
always with either one of them because I need my
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own space and my husband and I need our own time
too. And so, um, so being able to communicate that
is really important to everybody. And then I have
another person actually in there who's, um, a
family friend who I grew up calling uncle. And I'm
his power of attorney. So not only do I have my
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parents and my kids, but my uncle is now, um, in a
space where he cannot live independently and it
happened overnight. And I'm the power of attorney,
so I have to step up for that as well. Um, very
daunting tax, uh, tasks that are, ah, are, have
happened and are ahead of me, um, with my uncle.
(26:24):
But there's a lot to that. And so finding my own
balance is somewhat challenging, but more
importantly is like, where are my values and what
are my boundaries and how do I articulate that to
those who need it articulated to. So.
Anthony Weaver (26:39):
Yeah, well, okay, because that's going to be, um,
a doozy because nobody talks about the burden or
not even a burden, just the thought process and
the weight that it has to be the power of attorney
for somebody. Um, and it's good that they actually
had that set up for that to happen. Um, having the
(27:00):
wills in place and actually having. Because, you
know, it's a financial. We gotta talk finances.
Jyllian Clarke (27:04):
I know. We gotta talk finances.
Anthony Weaver (27:08):
Uh, so how has it been, um, before we get to our
drinking session? Um, you know what, let's say
that for after the drinking session.
Okay, so we got a couple minutes here. Um, let's
give a shout out to the people that made it this
far. And for those of you who are just chiming in,
we are sitting with Jillian Clark, the owner,
(27:30):
actually the author of Pure Excellence, the Joy of
Finding you, um, who has been running, ah,
excellent, excellent program and for well over.
Like, how long you been doing this now? Like.
Jyllian Clarke (27:43):
So I started the business in 2020, but I haven't
yet. Yeah, I did, but then, um, in April 2023, I
decided, I'm all in. Let's go.
Anthony Weaver (27:54):
Let's do it.
Jyllian Clarke (27:55):
Yeah. So two and a half years now. Yeah, two and a
half years. Um, yeah, I'm very committed, very
dedicated to it. So. Yes.
Anthony Weaver (28:04):
Cool. Yeah. Because it doesn't seem like you've
only been known for two years though. Just like,
just looking at your breadth of work and it just
feels like it's been well over at least 10 years
solid.
Jyllian Clarke (28:15):
Oh, thank you for that. It's, um. There's been a
lot of intentionality behind it because I'm really
driven by things that are very core for me and
things that I'm passionate about. And um, like I
said, there's. When I went through my own journey
of really trying to figure out who I was as a
person, there were things that were not there for
(28:36):
me. They may have been but they weren't readily
available for me, or I didn't see them, and maybe
I didn't want to see them. I don't know. But, um.
But it really drove me to a place of being able to
give back in ways that, um, weren't there for me
at the time, or at least were not visible to me.
And so I'm very driven by that intentionality and,
(28:58):
um, bringing people together, just connection
piece. And so it's, um. It's just moving. And I've
got, you know, goal focused and hoping to bring,
you know, people into this space so that they can
do the same. Just be rooted in who they are.
Anthony Weaver (29:14):
Oh, rooted and beauty.
All right, so let's say hi to, uh, say, like, got.
Uh, this is Jay. I want to make sure I pronounce
that right. Thank you, Floyd, for coming through.
Hey, what's going on, Nia, man, these are.
Jyllian Clarke (29:31):
I see them. They're popping up. Hey. Yeah. Um, so
the one comment there. People are not comfortable
being uncomfortable. Uh, they're not. They're not.
We always are seeking comfort. Comfort. Oh, there
you go. You can bring it back up. People are not
comfortable with being uncomfortable. And it's so
(29:52):
true. We, um. I think as a people, we are
constantly seeking comfort. Even in our jobs, we
want to be comfortable. We get into a job and
we're frustrated five days later when we're still
uncomfortable in the job, and then suddenly we
find a place of comfort, and then we just want to
sit there and, you know, stay comfortable. And
moving people out of their comfort zones, whether
(30:14):
that's professionally or personally, is, um. It's
so true. People don't want to be uncomfortable. So
my. My role in what I do is let's sit with the
uncomfortable, because that's really discover who
you are. That's really just when you really
discover, like, who you are as a person, what your
values are, that's when you really discover it.
Anthony Weaver (30:36):
Well, then we can get in some of the tactics over
a drink. So we're gonna go for trivia, and then
we're gonna do, uh, our drink session. So make
sure I go get your drinks, and we'll be right back
on my, uh, commercial here in a moment. There we
go. I got it.
Jyllian Clarke (31:08):
Hm. M.
Anthony Weaver (32:16):
All right, all right, all right. So since those of
you who love drinking, to let you know about this
particular segment, what we do is, for those of
you who are new, we actually make drinks. Uh,
either make a mocktail cocktail, what have you of
your choice, and then we kind of just have our
Drink, Talk about our drink and then we go for it.
(32:37):
So make sure you have your drinks and. I don't
know, but everybody loves this part. Hold on. All.
Ah, right. So what we're going to be making today,
(33:00):
I have a, um. I've been making this drink for a
while because I've been. It's very simple. It is
coconut rum, and you can make any kind of coconut
rum. It's emerald coal coconut rum. We're gonna
put this in here. I know they usually say 2
ounces, but I do it enough to taste, and it takes
(33:22):
a lot for me to taste. So I think this is about
enough to taste. And then we have in pineapple
juice. I just usually go straight with the
pineapple nectar. This is a very simple drink. You
can ask any bartender that you go to or any bar.
(33:43):
They usually have these two drinks, mean these two
ingredients. And then you can just add in as much
as you like. Usually about 6 ounces, they say. But
depending on who it is, they'll have that. And
then usually it's over ice, but these are directly
from every. So it's okay. And then you actually
(34:03):
add a splash of grenadine. And then what this
drink is, it is an island drink. It is called the,
uh, Panty Ripper, but usually you'll hear it
called a tequila. It's like a tropical sunrise
here in the US So every bar usually don't want a
(34:24):
tropical sunrise. It's just that they add orange
juice. Just take out the orange juice and you have
a drink. So. Well, thank you. Um, so what are you
drinking, Joey?
Jyllian Clarke (34:36):
Well, nothing. Nothing as fancy as that. So I have
with me my Tatsu tea, which can be turned into a
Tatsu tiny. But, um, Tatsu tea, it's made from
matcha tea. And it's actually. My husband is a
martial artist and his best friend of all time,
who's who lives in Philadelphia area, is the
(34:57):
founder of Tatsu Tea. And. And so it's very
natural. It's a performance tea. And, um, it's got
electrolytes and vitamins, minerals, and is
competing with all the other teas out there. So we
drink a Tatsu tea almost every day. I'm really a
water. Like, I got my big thing of water over here
too. So I drink a lot of water, a ton of water a
(35:20):
day. But I do mix in a Tatsu tea as well. So
that's what I'm drinking. But it can very easily
be turned into a Tatsutini.
Anthony Weaver (35:29):
Oh, I'm about to make that happen.
So what are y' all drinking out in the audience
space? What do y'.
Jyllian Clarke (35:33):
All?
Anthony Weaver (35:34):
Let us know what y' all drinking. And Dr. Sevy.
Yes. Doctor said, you know, you know, I.
Jyllian Clarke (35:45):
Should have turned it into a Tatsutini. My
goodness, you've got a good drink going on over
there. Getting lit.
Anthony Weaver (35:54):
Oh, Lisa joined. Lisa, uh, I think you say you
normally get your. Your daughter at this time, but
thank you for chiming in.
Jyllian Clarke (36:02):
Um, Lisa.
Anthony Weaver (36:04):
Yeah. If y' all haven't checked, I heard episode,
uh, it's actually the one that's plastered on my
show, one of the top ones because we talked about
stocks and getting investing and so forth. So if
you're new to stock market, trying to get in stock
market for your kids, talking about how to get
utmas getting started for your 8 under 18 year
old. Definitely check that out.
(36:25):
All right, let's see Mom's drinking dream. What
the heck is that? Never heard of a dram buoy?
Jyllian Clarke (36:36):
M share their recipe.
Anthony Weaver (36:38):
I know, right? Oh, it's actually a liqueur. On its
own, it looked like it 40% alcoholic. It's a
scotch or whiskey.
Jyllian Clarke (36:50):
Oh, okay.
Anthony Weaver (36:52):
Um. Oh, this is only 21. No wonder this tastes
like juice. Okay. Yeah.
Jyllian Clarke (37:00):
Right? Oh my goodness.
Anthony Weaver (37:04):
Uh, let's see. Dr. SEV. He said what? What is
that?
Jyllian Clarke (37:07):
Boring. I have my water too, you know.
Anthony Weaver (37:11):
Yeah, she got a chaser. You know.
Jyllian Clarke (37:12):
Stay hydrated, Stay hydrated. Water is so
critically important to the health of our. Our
overall health of our bodies.
Anthony Weaver (37:21):
Mhm. Oh, wow, that's. Yeah, that uh, that dram
buoy is pretty strong at 40. I mean that's. You'll
put some hand on your chest if you're gonna drink
it straight. Oh yeah, you're gonna be all night
long depending on how much you you poured
yourself. But slow down, you know, it's Friday
(37:43):
tomorrow.
Jyllian Clarke (37:45):
That's so funny.
Anthony Weaver (37:49):
Yeah.
So this is, um. I guess now we get the talking to
the meats M. So for those of you who are, um, want
to dial in, you can dial in at 833-699-2558. If
you have any burning questions, you can ask them
live right now to a. I don't call you like a life
(38:11):
coach.
Jyllian Clarke (38:12):
No, I'm an executive now. I'm an executive coach,
personal development coach. And um. But yeah, life
coach. I don't start playing with people's lives
around there. But there is a life component
anytime we're talking about self discovery and so.
But I do executive coaching.
Anthony Weaver (38:33):
Okay.
So if you want to show up authentically, you and
you have a burning question on about showing up
properly at work, and you're afraid, and you just
don't have those tools. This is the time to ask
the question.
Jyllian Clarke (38:45):
Yes.
Anthony Weaver (38:45):
Yeah. So I'm gonna ask the question.
Jyllian Clarke (38:47):
Okay.
Anthony Weaver (38:50):
What questions should I be asking myself to show
up authentically? Me. Like, what are the top three
questions I should ask myself every day?
Jyllian Clarke (38:59):
The top three questions you should ask yourself
every day. So am I being myself? This number one.
And to the statement, um, before, am I comfortable
being myself? And then are my decisions aligned
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with who I am as a person and what I value as a
person?
Anthony Weaver (39:31):
I like that. Okay. So it depends on the setting,
though, because I'm thinking, like, if you got to
the club, you know, it's like, okay, yeah, I'm
sober. I can dance, and some people are great at
it. Um, and sometimes you just need to calm down
and the voices in your head and you just go to the
(39:53):
bar, do the drink to kind of fit in.
Jyllian Clarke (39:55):
Sure.
Anthony Weaver (39:56):
Which goes back to what you said earlier. It's
like, why do you. Why are you doing this? To fit
in with everybody else.
Jyllian Clarke (40:01):
Right. And if it's not something that you want to
do, if you're not a drinker, then don't drink.
Right. If you don't have a belief in something,
then don't go do that thing. And be okay with not
doing it or saying, like, I'm gonna come hang with
you, but I am not drinking. Like, I'm not. I'm
(40:23):
just not. I don't drink. Um, I stopped drinking or
whatever the case may be. But don't do it just
because everybody else is doing it. And be okay
with where you are as a person. If it doesn't
align with you and what you value or where you are
in, you know, your season of life, don't do it.
And be 100% okay with not doing it. Right. Then if
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you have pushback from friends or. Or whatever,
then you have some other decisions that you need
to make. Who do you want in your circle?
Anthony Weaver (40:52):
Um, that part. Like setting up boundaries.
Jyllian Clarke (40:56):
Exactly. Who do you want in your circle? And if
they're not supporting who you are and the
decisions that you're making, I'm pretty quick to
snip from my bonsai tree. Oh, okay. Because it's
important to me to do things that are aligned and
not be judged or. Or what have you. Um, and it's
(41:18):
okay if you're judging me, but now we just may
have to move a little bit differently. M. So. And
that's okay, too. You Know, we're not all meant to
be constantly flowing 100 all the time. And there
are people who I can be around for a certain
period of time, but then, like, hey, it was good
for this amount of time, but now we part ways and
we go because we are not aligned in everything. So
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that's what I would say.
Anthony Weaver (41:45):
Okay. Yeah.
Jyllian Clarke (41:46):
Because about that one. So I'm stopping myself.
Anthony Weaver (41:49):
No, no, no. It's really good because one of the
things I do talk a lot about is setting up those
boundaries, especially during the holidays, um,
and having boundaries not just with the people
that are around you, but also your core family
members. And be like, look, I don't have it it. Or
like, you're only getting this. And for me, I'm
(42:10):
like, as a gift, I set my boundaries even with my
own gifts. When people ask me, like, hey, I'd
rather have a book than clothing, than anything
for the house or anything like that, I'm like,
just give me a book. Let me tell you what book it
is. And I'll be, oh, yeah. So excited, because
it's a book that I really want. Not so much that
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this is something that I want.
Understanding the platinum rule, which is
teaching, like. Which is treating people the way
they want to be treated instead of the way you
want to be treated. And that is one of the things
that was hard to learn as I was growing up.
Jyllian Clarke (42:46):
Yeah.
Anthony Weaver (42:47):
Because you always taught, like, you know, well,
if you want people to be nice to you, you need to
be nice to them. But they don't like nice. They
want valid.
Jyllian Clarke (42:56):
M. So that's interesting. There's two things, um.
There's two things that you said there. So
sometimes there's. There's sometimes when you sort
of. I don't want to use that word. Acquiesce. But
right now, that's what's coming to me. So I'll
just say acquiesce. But there are some times when
people may give you something that you may not
want, but it's what they want you to have. M. So
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there's a part that's like, be grateful that that
person wanted to give you what they wanted you to
have. And some of those things you'll cherish
forever. It might not have been something that you
want, but it's what they wanted to give you.
Right. And so there's a little bit of give and
take. That's not, um, what I would consider to be,
you know, authentic, not authentic, or, you know,
(43:42):
what have you. But there's a. There's a space in
There to receive what other people have to offer,
even if it's not exactly what you thought you
needed. You come to cherish those moments. You
come to cherish those gifts. You come to cherish
all of those things based on your values. Right. I
value this relationship with this person who gave
me something that I didn't even know I wanted or
needed. But now I have it, and it means the world
(44:05):
to me because this person gave it to me. M. So
there's that piece of it. I'm gonna pause there.
Anthony Weaver (44:11):
No, no, no, I like it because, um, I was. I'm
going back to the interview that I want to say one
of the Wayans brothers had. I want to say on Club
Shay Shay, just to shout out another podcast. And
one of the things that the way in, I, um, want to
say is Damon Wayan, okay, who said that, you know,
(44:33):
he wanted the basketball for Christmas, um, but
because all his friends was going to have one
because he wanted to play and stuff like that. But
his mom always gave him socks and gloves for
Christmas. But it wasn't until he got older that
he realized that his friends are outside playing
basketball, but their hands are cold and their
(44:54):
feet are cold. But he was the only one that was
actually warm and was able to stay out longer
because of what was provided to him during
Christmas. And it's just kind of like, well, yeah,
you can have it, but can you get it from somebody
else? Especially if it's a gift thing?
Jyllian Clarke (45:13):
Yeah, yeah, exactly. Or can you share it? There's
a lot of different things there. So, um, I. Yeah,
there's. That can go so deep because there's just
things like even just asking for something that
you want feels to a certain way to people. Right.
So. So it just depends on who you are and how you
(45:35):
operate. And, um, yes. Trying to teach your
daughter. You don't have to do everything because
everyone else is doing it. Absolutely. I think any
parent out there identifies with exactly what she
just said. So we try to teach it, teach it, teach
it, but it's inherent in us as humans. Like,
everybody else is doing it, so I want to do it
too. Um, or everyone else has it. I want to guess
(45:56):
jeans. When I was growing up, it's like, oh, I
want. Guess the legions that, you know, parents
wanted me to get. But, you know, eventually I got
my guest jeans and, you know, that was fine. But,
um, you know, and I've got kids like that, too.
They grew up and they wanted this and they wanted
the Calvin Klein, you know, whatever. So we're
Constantly. I think every parent right there
identifies with what she just said. Um, but you
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know, I try to. There's, there's a word that I use
often that's just grateful. Be grateful for
whatever it is that you do get, you know, and if
you really want to find a way to make the money so
that you go, you can go purchase yourself. This is
a money show, right? So purchase um, it yourself.
Anthony Weaver (46:39):
So yeah, teach the kids to go fish.
Jyllian Clarke (46:42):
Yeah.
All right.
Anthony Weaver (46:43):
So Nia says I do this with friends when we hang
out. I tell them I would like, hold up. I would
like it to be an activity rather than centered
around food. Okay. This is going back around like,
um, drinking and so forth.
Jyllian Clarke (46:59):
Mhm. Yeah. Um, and I think that's good. The one
thing that's standing out to me is that she's um,
willing to tell them, like, I don't want this to
be around food. And then when you're doing things
with friends, there, there's some give and take
there. Or there's a choice. Right. While you all
do the things centered around food, I'll meet you
after or we'll do the thing that I want to do
(47:20):
before. And then when you all go do the food
thing, I'm leaving. Or it's okay if we do the food
thing for a little while. Um, but you know, let me
make sure that I fulfill my own needs as well. And
hopefully they'll go with you. And then it becomes
a conversation if they're not willing and all that
kind of good stuff. But the one thing that I'm
hearing here is that she's willing to communicate
that, that she tells them. And that's a piece
(47:43):
that's missing sometimes is that people don't want
to say what somebody else might not want to hear.
So that's such a critical part right there is
telling people what you need, what you want, that
brings you fulfillment.
Anthony Weaver (47:56):
And I always commend people who can actually just
stand up for themselves to kind of say like, you
know what? And the power in saying no without
saying no, even though no is a complete sentence.
But you can say no. But almost like a not right
now thing. Maybe later.
Jyllian Clarke (48:13):
Yeah. What's wrong with no?
Anthony Weaver (48:18):
Nothing.
Jyllian Clarke (48:19):
Um, right now is the answer. No is the answer.
Anthony Weaver (48:23):
I am not.
Jyllian Clarke (48:25):
And I don't necessarily need for you to understand
that I've said no. And it's not my role to let you
down in a certain way. If my answer is no, it's
no. If you have a problem with me saying no, you
need to own Your problem with me saying no, I
don't need to own that for you. I've said no,
(48:45):
that's mine. What, how you react to it is yours.
Now. We can have a conversation about it. I may
have delivered it poorly or, you know, something
like that. That's a different. But me saying no,
if that bothers you, that's a, uh, look in the
mirror moment for you and you work out what your
reaction is there. Okay.
Anthony Weaver (49:03):
Can you talk about saying no in the workplace?
Jyllian Clarke (49:07):
Yes. Yeah.
Anthony Weaver (49:09):
Because, you know, you get told be like, hey, can
you do this? Like, I ain't doing that. I get your
buddy over there.
Jyllian Clarke (49:15):
So yeah, I gosh, this, this is so, um, this is a
really, really big topic. So we'll go sort of
micro here because they're saying no and then
they're saying there's insubordination. Um, and I
think those two things are very different and can
be handled different. And most times, I mean, I, I
have, um, been in leadership for many, many, many
(49:36):
years. And the times when I've heard people truly
say no, a lot of it stems from not being able to
understand how they fit into the bigger picture
and why it's important for them to actually do the
job or what have you. How you, how you say no is a
whole different story. Um, but there's that piece
(49:57):
of it. But there's also like, um, boundaries from
a work perspective where whatever it is that's
happening doesn't align with your values or the
things that, you know, there might be something
where you have what we would call like a crisis,
subconscious, if you will. Like, my work is
requiring me to do this thing and I don't believe
(50:18):
in that thing, therefore I'm having an issue doing
that thing. And so that's a different
conversation. And that is for the person to stand
up and say, this does not align with my belief
system. This does not align with who I am as a
person and have a dialogue about it so that it's a
professional and productive dialogue where that
(50:38):
person can say no in a way that's professional and
ah, and they can get reassigned somewhere else.
Right. Or, you know, have that, have that
dialogue. But most times that somebody doesn't
understand and that's a leadership issue, that's
not providing clarity to the people that they're
asking to do the work. And then the reverse of
that is if the person doesn't understand because
(51:00):
their leader is not effectively communicating,
then it's up to the person to understand. Please
help me understand why it's important for me to do
this. And that's, uh, that's a legitimate
question. How does this fit into the bigger
picture? Um, what is it that you need me to do?
Why is it important that I am the person who does
it? Right. Those are the questions that people
(51:20):
need to answer, like, why am I doing this? Why are
they asking me to do it? I'm so busy. There's
oftentimes a disconnect between workload and
perceived workload, because maybe you're just the
person that doesn't look like they have a ton to
do, but your plate is full. Then, you know, have
that conversation and in the future, increase the
dialogue so that your manager, your leadership
(51:42):
understand what's on your plate so that you don't
get tapped every single time. But be willing to
say, help me understand why I'm this person. And.
And if it's a priority conversation, help me
prioritize.
Anthony Weaver (51:56):
Um, okay. I like that. Uh, yeah, because it's more
than just walking really fast with a notepad in
your hand in the hallways to everything, even
though you don't have anything on the notepad.
Jyllian Clarke (52:07):
Yes, yes, exactly.
Anthony Weaver (52:09):
More than having, like, 50 windows up on your
screen.
Jyllian Clarke (52:12):
So. True. And I do. I work with leaders a lot who
are, um, very frustrated because their teams are
not participating, performing, or they're not
being productive or they've delivered something
that, um, my husband will say, it's the bring me a
rock. You know, and they're the. The leader is
neglecting to provide the level of clarity that
(52:32):
people and teams need to actually deliver. And I
work with frustrated leaders, and I'm like, let's
take a look in the mirror here. What can you do
differently to make sure that your teams
understand that? And more often than not, um,
they're scared to confront that they may not be an
effective leader. Um.
Anthony Weaver (52:49):
Oh, that's a whole nother discussion. We might
have to bring you back for that one, because.
Jyllian Clarke (52:55):
Let's do it.
Anthony Weaver (52:56):
Awesome.
Um, so I want to bring up the thing as we come up
to the top of the hour here. Um, for those of the
people who are looking to get inside this book
giveaway. Um, so right now, to make sure you're
inside the book entry, go ahead on and type in
hashtag excellence. We have four entries right
(53:17):
now. Remember, you only can do it one time, so
even if you type it 50 times, it still counts as
one. So, Dr. Sarah, I'm looking out at you. Not to
call you out there, but, you know. But Dr. Sarah
brought up a good thing. She said she is the Queen
of saying, um, of no. When in the corporate
(53:38):
America. No, I don't want to go to lunch to leave
early. And I thought about that. Um, what else?
She says. She says that I would say these are the
things you want me to accomplish.
Jyllian Clarke (53:53):
Yes.
Anthony Weaver (53:53):
And I can't do both. Which one do you want me to
complete?
Jyllian Clarke (53:58):
What's that? Prioritization. It's like, which one
of these is a priority? Right. Yeah. Love it. Love
that.
Anthony Weaver (54:06):
And. Well, because doctor said she recently
retired, so she likes. Um. And I actually got her.
Her episode pre recorded. We just got to get time
to get it up out of there.
Jyllian Clarke (54:17):
Okay. All right. I'm looking forward to it. Yeah.
I'm saying no.
Anthony Weaver (54:23):
And she further. Further say, um. Exactly. A
leadership issue. If you're the company workhorse
they typically have no problem dumping. And I have
no problem saying no. Yeah. Um, I am that person.
So I'm working on my no phase starting next week
because now that the shutdown's over.
Jyllian Clarke (54:45):
Yeah.
Anthony Weaver (54:46):
A lot of things.
Jyllian Clarke (54:47):
So I would encourage, like, there's a place of
understanding.
Anthony Weaver (54:50):
Right.
Jyllian Clarke (54:50):
Uh, it's 100. There's a leadership issue because
your leadership should understand what's on your
plate, what the priorities are, what you're doing,
and those kind of things. But. But it's also
incumbent upon you as the person to say, I've got
these just for your awareness. Here's what I have.
Help me prioritize, because now you're giving me
something else. I need to prioritize. What do you
(55:13):
need me to do? And what can I offload? How can we
spread the work a little bit? If this is a
priority here, and I see people so often just kind
of keep taking it on, and then burnout happens,
frustration happens, resentment happens. And. And
it's on both ends because the leader is very
(55:33):
frustrated because the person's not getting it
done or not getting it done fast enough or what
have you. And then they're frustrated because they
keep getting dumped on. So I see. She only typed
it once.
Anthony Weaver (55:43):
Right. Uh, you know, I see you, Dr. St. I'm just
saying. I see you.
All right, so we got four. All right. I don't see
any more new ones. So you ready for the drum roll?
Jyllian Clarke (55:56):
Yes.
Anthony Weaver (55:57):
I usually have. I used to have some music for
this. I, um, want to play the. Yeah, that's. That
should be it. Yeah, let's do this. This will be
our music for the drum roll.
Jyllian Clarke (56:10):
Nothing beats a jetsu holiday. And right now you
can save up to £240 for a family of four. Don't
miss out.
Anthony Weaver (56:19):
I don't care. Hey, Dr. Awesome.
Jyllian Clarke (56:26):
She gets the book. I'm so excited. I will sign it
and um, you'll have to tell me how to connect
there so I can get it out. So.
Anthony Weaver (56:34):
Oh, so tell her what email to send it to and then
she'll send you her contact info.
Jyllian Clarke (56:39):
All right, so you can email me at Jillian J Y L L
I A N@isocoaching LLC.com again that's
Billionsocoaching LLC.com.
Anthony Weaver (56:58):
And put the subject line about that wallet live.
Jyllian Clarke (57:01):
Yeah, that sounds good. So just tell me all your,
give me all your information. I'll get it out to
you, I'll sign it and send it away. So. Yeah,
awesome. But really quick. I know remind you but
it is a show about money and here's what I will
say really quick. Right. Okay. Is that um, a lot
of people take all types of time to invest in, in
(57:23):
whatever, everything. Maybe it's even I'll invest
in a weight loss program or I'll invest in new
floors in my situation or what have you. I liken
investing in yourself, your leadership skills and
self discovery and learning all about yourself as
an asset. Okay. And your liability there is if you
(57:47):
don't do it, there's a lot of risks. There's a lot
of risk there. It's a liability for you not to
understand and be self aware. It's a liability for
you to have the impact that you really don't want
to have and you're negatively impacting and you're
not very self aware of that. So um, so that's what
I will say if you're doing things out of
obligation or misalignment or something, there's
(58:10):
your liability. So for your financial folks there
assets and liabilities, I got to bring that in for
you. Promise you I would.
Anthony Weaver (58:17):
I appreciate it. Thank you so much.
Well, this was fun. Jillian, one, um, more time.
Can you just tell people where they can find out m
more about you and actually get a hold of your
book?
Jyllian Clarke (58:28):
Yes. So, um, you can find me on Instagram or
LinkedIn. Jillian Clark. Um, not that hard to find
there and uh, I invite you to also go to my
website which is isocoaching llc llc.com I am
right in the midst of reconstructing. So um,
probably in about a month, maybe a little less
(58:50):
than that, I'll have a brand new website out there
for you and places for you to connect. I am
developing, building a community. It's already
underway but I will be officially launching that
the beginning of December, mid December. So you'll
be able to see that. Which is why I'm revamping my
website and doing a lot of things there. So
please, please, please connect with me. Share. Um,
(59:11):
I do coaching. I've got the community element as
well. And then again, I have the trademarked
initiative. I am me, 100% validated which I can do
virtual or in person. And it really is a 90 to 120
minute self guided journey. What took me months to
figure it out. I've packaged it up and it's so
powerful in a 90 to 120 minute session. So please
(59:33):
do follow me.
Anthony Weaver (59:35):
Love it, love it, love it. Thank you so much. This
was great. Um, hopefully everybody who's listening
right now, make sure that y' all are having a
wonderful, wonderful time. This is again, can't
thank you enough. Make sure y' all go follow her,
um, on all the social platforms, make sure y' all
continue to hit the like subscribe button. Share
(59:56):
this out. And if you haven't already, if y' all
new here, please remember the likes really do help
out because that's the only way I can really get
my reach and to kind of share this information and
get more people like Jillian onto the show. Uh,
especially on the live shows. I love the live show
because I don't have to edit.
Jyllian Clarke (01:00:13):
Yeah, yeah, exactly. So listen really quick. If
you miss my contact information, you know how to
get in touch with Anthony. But find me, message
me, you can DM me, whatever on Instagram and I'll
make sure that we connect. So perfect.
Anthony Weaver (01:00:26):
All right, everybody remember you uh, can put on
one show at a time. If you try to put on both, you
will trip. All right, I'll be safe.
Jyllian Clarke (01:00:36):
Thank you, Anthony. This fun.
Anthony Weaver (01:00:38):
All right, stay off a little bit, okay? Mhm.
Jyllian Clarke (01:00:58):
Sam.
The wallet's missing from the floor? It's not my
secrets, nothing more? I checked the drawers, I
checked the spikes Left me hanging in my legs Last
night we tore up the town? Now my wallet's not
around?
Anthony Weaver (00:30):
Um.
Ai Voice (00:34):
Call the cops or play it smooth? Pay my debts and
start anew?
Anthony Weaver (00:39):
Hey. Hey.
Jyllian Clarke (00:40):
Where'd it go?
Speaker A (00:42):
My cash, my cars, my flow? Don't you know what's
gone? Now I'm broke from dusk till dawn? Dancing
lights and screaming bass? Drinks were flowing in
that place? Left a tip but lost my grip? Now my
(01:08):
wallet's gonna slip.
Anthony Weaver (01:15):
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a wild night of cheap jello shots, clear your head
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(01:35):
Now here's your host, Anthony Weaver.
What up, what up, what up, everybody? Hopefully,
y' all are having a wonderful Friday eve, and
thank you for joining us live today. I have a
wonderful, wonderful person who always talks about
finding that confidence, building that
authenticity, and actually having a great time
(01:59):
while doing so. Welcome to the show, Jillian
Clark.
Jyllian Clarke (02:04):
Thank you. Thank you, Anthony, for having me. I'm
really excited to do this live podcast with you.
Anthony Weaver (02:10):
Let's give you a round of applause.
Jyllian Clarke (02:17):
I love it. I love it.
Anthony Weaver (02:19):
Um, because one of the things that, uh, I just
want to let the audience know, if y' all watching
this live right now, type in hashtag excellence,
because we will be doing a book giveaway later in
the show. So by all means. Oh, you want to talk
about your book, right quick.
Jyllian Clarke (02:33):
Do I want to talk about my book? I always want to
talk about my book.
Anthony Weaver (02:37):
Well, let's talk about the book that we're about
to give away.
Jyllian Clarke (02:39):
Okay, we'll start there. So pure excellence. The
joy in finding you. Uh, I. I released this book
back in March. It was March 1st, and in fact,
there's two editions. So if you have this book
prior to June, um, there's in addition. But then I
noticed when I was recording the audiobook that
there were a couple things that I wanted to
(03:01):
change. So I worked with my publisher and re
released it in June 2025. So the book is just all
about the joy in finding ourselves. It's really
about, um, you know, us leaning into who we are as
people, noticing those moments when we tend to do
things that aren't in alignment with who we are,
our values, our boundaries. Um, I talk a little
(03:23):
bit about group think in There, like, you end up
doing things because everybody else is doing it.
But then in that quiet moment you're like, huh,
I'm actually not as excited about it as everybody
else seems to be. But you do it anyway because
that's what the group is doing. So really like
making decisions, uh, that align with who you are
as a person, who you are, values wise, boundaries
(03:46):
wise. And not being afraid to do that, doing it
such with confidence and just finding joy and
being able to say like, this is not who I am and
I'm going to choose something different, even
though you friend might not like it. So, um, so
that's what the book is about. And it's got a lot
of practical exercises in there for you to really
just see where you are. And it's not necessarily
(04:06):
for people who don't know who they are. It's about
deepening connection with yourself, no matter
where you are in the journey. And, um, the book
actually was my way of giving back. Because when I
was in a state of chaos personally, um, I found
myself at 50 years old being in a state of like. I
(04:30):
just realized that I just wasn't always my
authentic self. And I had built myself up on
accolades and achievements and all kinds of stuff.
And then all of a sudden I didn't have those
tangible to me. And I looked for all these
different things. It's in the book, you'll read
about it. But you know, I, I was looking for just
different ways, ways to like really figure out who
(04:51):
am I, who am I without all these things. And, um,
I didn't have for myself. And so when I kind of
came out of my chaotic spin that I was in really
trying to figure out who I was as a person, um, I
decided to give back in a couple of different
ways. And this is one of them. Pure excellence.
The joy in finding you. So I wrote it took a long
(05:12):
time, but it's out.
Anthony Weaver (05:14):
I love it because in our times right now, I have
to say, when it comes to audiobooks, the reason
why I like the audiobook sometimes more than the
paperback. I've noticed that a lot of people
actually give you a little bit more in the audio
format. They was like, hey, you know, I really why
I wrote this chapter is because I was going
through this moment or what was I thinking about,
(05:35):
uh, in those particular moments in time. So I was
like, hm, that's a cool way to kind of play on
audio versus if you got the physical book. And I
like that your publisher was open up to kind of go
back and make Those changes.
Jyllian Clarke (05:47):
Yes, yes, it was a lot of back and forth, however
we got there. Um, I can be pretty persuasive.
Persuasive. Um, a couple of them were, you know,
just editing errors here and there. Every book has
an error in it. Um, but when I did the audiobook,
which I love what you're seeing, because my book
does not give insight into why I wrote certain
(06:07):
things. You have to get on. You have to have me on
a podcast or something, because inside scoops or a
book signing, I do talk about, um, all things that
went into the book. I have a couple things at the
beginning and end that they allowed me to ad lib
and put in. But really the audiobook is just me,
my raw emotion as I'm reading it, which you don't
get from the book. You get words in the book. So.
(06:30):
So, yeah, everyone has a different preference.
But, um, you know, I've got lots of books to give
away, so.
Anthony Weaver (06:36):
Yeah, because one of the things that's going on
that we also understand is that authenticity in
the black and brown community, but it's not a good
thing. So we have to do something called code
switching. And a lot of times that can be a
detriment to who we are as our core also could
actually help us. So why is it now such a good
(06:59):
time to kind of show up authentically? You.
Jyllian Clarke (07:01):
Yeah, what a great question. And I would dare say,
although, yes, black and brown, but I see it
across all races, I see it across all genders. It
doesn't matter. We all, I mean, there's different
environments that we go into. And sometimes people
do change who they are as a person in order to fit
(07:21):
in, in order to belong. And I think more and more
now people are realizing, like, I'm just going to
show up as, as I am. And I almost would say, you
know, it's the younger generation that's really
bringing this out of us because we've been, we as
older, you know, individuals have kind of
suppressed that, uh, because we weren't well
(07:42):
received, we didn't fit in. We wanted to belong
and we didn't know how to create our own tables
and invite other people into our tables. And so I
think right now, between what's happening with our
government, with what's happening, all the
different layoffs that are happening, um, and that
sort of was part of my story as well as I got laid
(08:04):
off and it was unheard of. It was a while ago, and
it was embarrassing and all kinds of things. But I
think that in that space we have to figure out,
like, who we are, what are our values, what are
our boundaries, what will and won't we tolerate,
what's acceptable to us as people? And I think
when we start seeing all the things that are
happening in the environments that we're in, it's
(08:25):
really important and, in fact, professionally
responsible for us to create these environments
where people feel safe to show up as themselves.
The problem is people don't always know how to do
that. And I, you know, I've come across so many
people are like, I know who I am. I know who I am,
and that's great. Again, this is about meeting
people where they are. But what I often find out
is there are moments when they're kind of like,
(08:47):
well, no, actually, I don't know this. I don't
know this part of it. I. I grew up partially. My
younger years were in England, and I moved to the
States from England into a predominantly white
school. And, you know, you talk about code switch,
(09:09):
and it was very interesting for me because I came
here at a young age and just kind of acclimated to
where whatever environment I'm in, that's a
strength of mine. It's whatever environment I'm
in. But it's interesting for me because, um, you
know, predominantly white people kind of just
absorbed me. Black people were saying, oh, you're
(09:31):
trying to be white. You have this accent or what
have you. Well, what. So, you know, it's just one
of those areas where, like, just who you are as a
person, and as long as you're rooted in who you
are as a person, it doesn't really matter where
you are. Know how to be professional. If you're in
the professional environment, it doesn't mean
you're changing who you are. It just means that
(09:52):
your professional self shows up. And then when
you're shucking and jiving with your friends, then
that's cool too. So, you know, it's just one of
those things. But being able to understand who you
are, not change as a result of that and be
comfortable with who you are. So very important.
Anthony Weaver (10:07):
Yeah. So Floyd, um, from Highway 54. Thank you for
chiming in. Said he grew up code switching. And I
think we were just taught early on, it's just
like, you know, hey, you better act right while
you're inside this grocery store. Or, you know,
when you go shopping with your mom, be like, hey,
you better not touch nothing.
Jyllian Clarke (10:25):
Right?
Anthony Weaver (10:26):
Get that little pep talk before you go in.
Jyllian Clarke (10:28):
Right, Exactly. Was it a pep talk? Oh, yeah.
Anthony Weaver (10:33):
It's more like able talking. Right. Yeah, and my
mom's chiming in, too. Make sure y' all type in
hashtag excellent if y' all want the book
giveaway. Be part of that process. Yes.
Jyllian Clarke (10:47):
Yes. Hello to your mom.
Anthony Weaver (10:49):
Yeah, thanks. She's. I'm sure she's like, hey, I'm
back to you. That's nice. If I'm out.
Jyllian Clarke (10:56):
So.
Anthony Weaver (10:57):
But you as a, um, you know, growing up, you know,
dealing with finding yourself in this community
and going through those different childhood
memories and those core memories and definitely
switching out from what you're used to and getting
out of your comfort zone, how did that help
(11:18):
solidify who you are today?
Jyllian Clarke (11:22):
How did that help solidify who I am today? Um, in
a couple of different ways. And I think part of
that is I just sort of showed up places as I was,
and it wasn't until I was much older that I
realized that, like, sometimes I rub people the
(11:43):
wrong way. And so. And then sometimes, you know,
most times everybody was accepting or what have
you. So it was kind of like one of those things.
And this is what I see very often is, um, you
might rub somebody the wrong way, and then all of
a sudden, they're the. You know, they're the
people that you're trying to, like, figure out,
like, what's happening here. And everybody else
likes me, so why not? And so my upbringing was
(12:06):
more about, don't, um, worry about those people.
Go do your thing anyway. And I think, and I thank
my parents a lot, too, because they've really
raised me just like, this is who you are, and
you're going to have people who don't like you.
You're going to have some people who do. But I
think just as people and as we grow, we natur be
able to be liked and loved by everybody. And that
(12:29):
is kind of the basis that starts to shape us and
shape us in ways that aren't always aligned with
really who we are as a people, as a person. And
so, you know, it's an interesting question that I
ponder, because I never really had any issues
with, like, who I am as a person. Um, I think my
(12:51):
authentic self is what people genuinely like about
me. But I did find myself in a situation where, as
I looked back, I'm like, wow, there were times
that I probably did things, said things, acted in
ways that I probably shouldn't have if I was
really being true to myself. And for me, I really
(13:12):
appreciated the achievements that I had and the
accolades that I would get. And, you know, I was,
uh, in these top positions, both in government and
Corporate. And that gave me some clout, you know,
to some degree. And then when it was all gone and
I was sitting in silence, I'm like, who am I?
Really?
Anthony Weaver (13:28):
Yeah.
Jyllian Clarke (13:29):
Who am I without all those things? Because I was
not. I didn't think this is a mindset that I had
to realize. But at that moment, I'm like, I'm
nobody. I don't. I don't have a job anymore. I
don't have this. I'm not in these powerful
positions anymore. So then who am I if I'm not
there? And I really had to start over from this
life that I, you know, knew just being myself. I'm
(13:51):
like, wait a minute. Really? Who am I? M. So, um,
There's a long way to answer your question, but I
love.
Anthony Weaver (13:58):
It because one of the things that we go out, when
you go out to parties or, um, catching up with
family members, the first thing they ask you, so
what do you do? Or. And it's kind of like, well, I
do a lot of other things. And ultimately what
they're asking for is, what do you do for work?
What do you do for income?
Jyllian Clarke (14:14):
Right?
Anthony Weaver (14:15):
And it's just like, well, I can do a whole lot
more than just that. So.
Yeah, what is it that, um, like you said, when all
the titles are stripped, when do you realize that
you're more than just the titles?
Jyllian Clarke (14:31):
So, great question. And what I discovered. And I
actually have a trademarked M initiative called I
am me 100% validated. And it's a guided self
discovery journey where you're really just looking
at yourself. What are. What is it about you? What
are your traits? What are, you know, using, Like,
I am blank. Like, I am brave. Um, and so it's
(14:53):
really about deepening that connection with
yourself and realizing what. Who you are, deep
down. Brave, scared, fearful, embarrassed, um,
confident. It's all these things that we define.
We have buckets for ourselves. Good, bad, none of
that. Right. We're not. Not. It's. It's who we
(15:13):
are, what we do. What I really walk people through
is being able to identify what those traits are
within us. Nothing has to do with the title.
Nothing has to do with the pecking order, where
you are with siblings. Um, you know, any of that,
right? It's all about who you are, what you bring
to any conversation. I am happy. I am a shining
(15:36):
star. It's, you know, those kind of things all the
way to everything that we might consider. Consider
bad. But they're part of us. Um, I mean, part m.
Of what I realized I'm like, I'm a little mean,
um, and you like to look at that. But now I can
laugh about it. But there was a time when I was
like, oh my goodness, I really am. And I was
devastated to really come to that honesty about
(15:59):
myself. But then I realized it's about how you
actually leverage that trait that matters. And so
when do I bring that up? When, when is it useful?
What's the impact that I want to have on the
world? And when we become so unbelievably aware of
ourselves, we can begin to have the impact on the
world that we really, truly want to have. And be
(16:22):
careful of impacting in ways that we didn't mean
to impact. And we can be very intentional about
our decisions when we know who we are and how they
align with what we value.
Anthony Weaver (16:31):
I, uh, like that because, you know, obviously at
work there's a lot of people that like to test
your gangster be like, you know, oh, you're
horrible at this and you trash this way, or I
don't like the way that you put on your shirt
today.
Jyllian Clarke (16:46):
Right.
Anthony Weaver (16:47):
I've seen people talk about somebody's attire more
so than their work ethic more than once.
Jyllian Clarke (16:52):
Mhm.
Anthony Weaver (16:54):
The question is, it's like, how do you kind of
maintain your composure to keep your paycheck?
Jyllian Clarke (17:03):
I would ask that back to you, right? Because sure,
somebody says something negative, it stings. But I
would ask, like, why is it important to you what
that person is saying or how they feel about you,
or what they say about you? Why is it important to
you? What's so important about it that you feel
you have to respond to it? So, you know, those are
(17:24):
the types of questions, coaching questions, um,
that I would ask. And then you can make a very
conscious decision about do I respond and give
this person my energy or not. There was a time
when I probably would have, you know, set
something back or whatever. Now if you don't like
what I have on, you don't like what I have on,
(17:46):
hey, it's none of my business what you think of
me. You keep that to yourself. But if you choose
to bring that out, okay, so you don't like my
sweater. I'm good. It doesn't change who I am as a
person or how I'm going to, you know, be. But then
if it bothers you, I'm asking questions like, what
is it about it that bothers you? Maybe you didn't
like it either and you decided that, wow, I'm
(18:08):
going to wear it anyway. And then somebody makes a
Comment. And you're like, oh, man, I should have
worn it. Right? So there's all those things. But
that's the first step is like, why what matters?
Why is it important? And that's how you keep your
composure. What are your values? What does it
matter? And is it really that important to you to
be able to respond to that individual? Or is that
individual really, uh, that important to you?
Anthony Weaver (18:32):
Okay, um, I really do like that because, you know,
we. We go through life being judged all the time,
and especially, like, you get it at home more so
you can get at work. So that's why the reason why
I'm like, can we just bring back bullying as kids?
Because some people are so sensitive nowadays.
(18:52):
It's like, yeah, I don't know. Sure. What's going
on? Is it the way how we, like, how the parents
are actually raising their children nowadays to
kind of deal with conflict? Because now, because
we're dealing with people who are in the sandwich
generation, they have kids and also they deal with
their parents. But if they have their kids, how do
they kind of, um, what. As you could say, this is
(19:16):
the part I like to edit out when the pre
recordings edit all this out.
Jyllian Clarke (19:21):
I'm letting you get your question out. So go
ahead, Mom's listening.
Anthony Weaver (19:24):
I'm gonna try to land the plane on this one.
All right. Um, so the question is, what strategies
or tools or even questions should a parent or even
suggest a parent give to their child to kind of
build that confidence in themselves for who they
are?
Jyllian Clarke (19:43):
Wow. Okay, so you landed that plane not where I
thought you were going, but, um. And so, you know,
parent parenting advice is really how I would wrap
that up. And, um, you know, I've got three kids.
Each one would tell you something different about
me as a parent. Um, what I will tell you is that I
grew as a person having them as children. But one
(20:06):
of the things that I was very, very, very
deliberate about was making sure that they had a
voice. Um, something that I didn't always feel
like I had, but I didn't know that I didn't have
until later. And some people might say, like, oh,
you gave them too much of a voice. But I was
always kind of like, someday. I mean, it happened
way sooner than I thought, where they exercise
(20:28):
their independence and their voices, but someday
it's going to serve them very well. And, um, so I
just wanted them to be able to be heard, you know,
because I grew up kind of, you know, kids are in
the room, but, um, you know, don't speak unless
you're spoken to. And so there's a lot of
different things I had. You know, communication
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was very, um, important in my family, but at the
same time, there's a lot that we did not
communicate about. And so, uh, I have raised my
children to be able to. To communicate. I would
always say, what is wrong? Use your words, you
know, and always give them a place and a platform
to. To voice whatever they wanted to voice. And so
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with that, um, there are lots of different,
various variations of what I'm saying. And so I.
When you say that, you know, some kids are really
sensitive now. I'm one of those sensitive people.
I am sensitive. My kids will tell you in a minute,
oh, mom, you're so sensitive. You're so, um. But I
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think they caught me really, at a time they were
teenagers and in college, as I was going through a
lot of my own self discovery, you know, moments
here and just recognizing, uh, where I was in
life. And I think having kids may be a little
softer as an individual too, because I definitely
have much more of an understanding. So as a parent
to other parents, I would say approach what you're
(21:54):
doing with a level of understanding and compassion
and try not to suppress their voices. You want
your place. At least for me, I wanted my home to
be the safest place that my kids had, and I wanted
that for their friends and such, too. Like, they.
That they knew that they had a safe place where
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they could come and be themselves and have a voice
and understand. And I would approach it with a
level of understanding. Um, and with that. We
produce so many different types of kids, but it's
not just about parenting. It's about the
environment. And so how you interact with the
environments that they're in or that you place
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them in is equally as important as what you're
doing to parent them in the first place.
Anthony Weaver (22:41):
So I like that.
Jyllian Clarke (22:43):
Really deep, really quickly.
Anthony Weaver (22:45):
No, it's really good because I don't have any
kids. Like, this platform, this podcasting, is my.
My baby and my child and my gift to the world.
And, you know, most of the time, your job as a
parent is to kind of mold your child for being a
person, um, that's given value to the world and
society and having that, I know people be like,
(23:08):
you know, Anthony, you're getting kind of deep on
your show. Um, it's been a while, so let's go
deep. Um, well, talking about having those
uncomfortable conversations, like, now you, uh, as
a parent, and I believe you like your empty nester
now.
Jyllian Clarke (23:25):
I am, I am My youngest went off to college this
year. And so, yep, empty nesting, um, I guess is
the right term now. I'm a bird launcher, flinging
birds out.
Anthony Weaver (23:37):
The way, like, get off my tree.
Jyllian Clarke (23:42):
But yes, yes, I am.
Anthony Weaver (23:45):
And so with your parents now in the wing and you
just kind of giving your, you know, you're just
kind of starting to breathe now.
Let's talk about the parents. How do you start to
bring them into your space, like, going forward,
like, far as, like, health and dealing with their
mental, um, in their physical capabilities? Are
you able to kind of take on that now or just kind
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of like, hey, I'm trying to set them up
financially and they'd be maybe.
Jyllian Clarke (24:10):
All right, so let me understand your question a
little bit. When you say, how about parents, do
you mean my parents?
Anthony Weaver (24:17):
Yes, your parents.
Jyllian Clarke (24:17):
My parents. That's what I thought. Okay. Because
that's a whole different ball of wax too. It's
like, my kids. My kids left. We are loving our
empty nesting now, and we are so proud of our
three kids who have gone off. They make great
decisions. They're definitely people, um, who.
They're still figuring life out. But they're very
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good. We've taught them right from wrong, which I
believe happens much earlier than people think. I
think we're still molding them at 16, 17, 18. No,
they already know, but, you know, very proud
there. But what happens is, um, you know, I'm
still very close to my parents, and they're
elderly, they're in their 80s, and they have
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technology, um, challenges. You know, I mean, our
technology world is changing like this. At 8 o'
clock, it looks one way, and at 2 o' clock it
looks totally different because they've rolled out
an update that's really challenging. So we've
become. My brother and I have become all things
technology gurus for, you know, my parents, um,
they have health issues. And so, you know, being
(25:21):
able to navigate that. I'm always on the phone
like, or going to the doctors with them or
something. And, um, you know, it's definitely a
different space. I'm kind of the epitome of the
sandwich generation right now with my, you know,
kids and my parents. But, um, being really clear
on my own boundaries is so important. I'm not
always with either one of them because I need my
(25:43):
own space and my husband and I need our own time
too. And so, um, so being able to communicate that
is really important to everybody. And then I have
another person actually in there who's, um, a
family friend who I grew up calling uncle. And I'm
his power of attorney. So not only do I have my
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parents and my kids, but my uncle is now, um, in a
space where he cannot live independently and it
happened overnight. And I'm the power of attorney,
so I have to step up for that as well. Um, very
daunting tax, uh, tasks that are, ah, are, have
happened and are ahead of me, um, with my uncle.
(26:24):
But there's a lot to that. And so finding my own
balance is somewhat challenging, but more
importantly is like, where are my values and what
are my boundaries and how do I articulate that to
those who need it articulated to. So.
Anthony Weaver (26:39):
Yeah, well, okay, because that's going to be, um,
a doozy because nobody talks about the burden or
not even a burden, just the thought process and
the weight that it has to be the power of attorney
for somebody. Um, and it's good that they actually
had that set up for that to happen. Um, having the
(27:00):
wills in place and actually having. Because, you
know, it's a financial. We gotta talk finances.
Jyllian Clarke (27:04):
I know. We gotta talk finances.
Anthony Weaver (27:08):
Uh, so how has it been, um, before we get to our
drinking session? Um, you know what, let's say
that for after the drinking session.
Okay, so we got a couple minutes here. Um, let's
give a shout out to the people that made it this
far. And for those of you who are just chiming in,
we are sitting with Jillian Clark, the owner,
(27:30):
actually the author of Pure Excellence, the Joy of
Finding you, um, who has been running, ah,
excellent, excellent program and for well over.
Like, how long you been doing this now? Like.
Jyllian Clarke (27:43):
So I started the business in 2020, but I haven't
yet. Yeah, I did, but then, um, in April 2023, I
decided, I'm all in. Let's go.
Anthony Weaver (27:54):
Let's do it.
Jyllian Clarke (27:55):
Yeah. So two and a half years now. Yeah, two and a
half years. Um, yeah, I'm very committed, very
dedicated to it. So. Yes.
Anthony Weaver (28:04):
Cool. Yeah. Because it doesn't seem like you've
only been known for two years though. Just like,
just looking at your breadth of work and it just
feels like it's been well over at least 10 years
solid.
Jyllian Clarke (28:15):
Oh, thank you for that. It's, um. There's been a
lot of intentionality behind it because I'm really
driven by things that are very core for me and
things that I'm passionate about. And um, like I
said, there's. When I went through my own journey
of really trying to figure out who I was as a
person, there were things that were not there for
(28:36):
me. They may have been but they weren't readily
available for me, or I didn't see them, and maybe
I didn't want to see them. I don't know. But, um.
But it really drove me to a place of being able to
give back in ways that, um, weren't there for me
at the time, or at least were not visible to me.
And so I'm very driven by that intentionality and,
(28:58):
um, bringing people together, just connection
piece. And so it's, um. It's just moving. And I've
got, you know, goal focused and hoping to bring,
you know, people into this space so that they can
do the same. Just be rooted in who they are.
Anthony Weaver (29:14):
Oh, rooted and beauty.
All right, so let's say hi to, uh, say, like, got.
Uh, this is Jay. I want to make sure I pronounce
that right. Thank you, Floyd, for coming through.
Hey, what's going on, Nia, man, these are.
Jyllian Clarke (29:31):
I see them. They're popping up. Hey. Yeah. Um, so
the one comment there. People are not comfortable
being uncomfortable. Uh, they're not. They're not.
We always are seeking comfort. Comfort. Oh, there
you go. You can bring it back up. People are not
comfortable with being uncomfortable. And it's so
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true. We, um. I think as a people, we are
constantly seeking comfort. Even in our jobs, we
want to be comfortable. We get into a job and
we're frustrated five days later when we're still
uncomfortable in the job, and then suddenly we
find a place of comfort, and then we just want to
sit there and, you know, stay comfortable. And
moving people out of their comfort zones, whether
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that's professionally or personally, is, um. It's
so true. People don't want to be uncomfortable. So
my. My role in what I do is let's sit with the
uncomfortable, because that's really discover who
you are. That's really just when you really
discover, like, who you are as a person, what your
values are, that's when you really discover it.
Anthony Weaver (30:36):
Well, then we can get in some of the tactics over
a drink. So we're gonna go for trivia, and then
we're gonna do, uh, our drink session. So make
sure I go get your drinks, and we'll be right back
on my, uh, commercial here in a moment. There we
go. I got it.
Jyllian Clarke (31:08):
Hm. M.
Anthony Weaver (32:16):
All right, all right, all right. So since those of
you who love drinking, to let you know about this
particular segment, what we do is, for those of
you who are new, we actually make drinks. Uh,
either make a mocktail cocktail, what have you of
your choice, and then we kind of just have our
Drink, Talk about our drink and then we go for it.
(32:37):
So make sure you have your drinks and. I don't
know, but everybody loves this part. Hold on. All.
Ah, right. So what we're going to be making today,
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I have a, um. I've been making this drink for a
while because I've been. It's very simple. It is
coconut rum, and you can make any kind of coconut
rum. It's emerald coal coconut rum. We're gonna
put this in here. I know they usually say 2
ounces, but I do it enough to taste, and it takes
(33:22):
a lot for me to taste. So I think this is about
enough to taste. And then we have in pineapple
juice. I just usually go straight with the
pineapple nectar. This is a very simple drink. You
can ask any bartender that you go to or any bar.
(33:43):
They usually have these two drinks, mean these two
ingredients. And then you can just add in as much
as you like. Usually about 6 ounces, they say. But
depending on who it is, they'll have that. And
then usually it's over ice, but these are directly
from every. So it's okay. And then you actually
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add a splash of grenadine. And then what this
drink is, it is an island drink. It is called the,
uh, Panty Ripper, but usually you'll hear it
called a tequila. It's like a tropical sunrise
here in the US So every bar usually don't want a
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tropical sunrise. It's just that they add orange
juice. Just take out the orange juice and you have
a drink. So. Well, thank you. Um, so what are you
drinking, Joey?
Jyllian Clarke (34:36):
Well, nothing. Nothing as fancy as that. So I have
with me my Tatsu tea, which can be turned into a
Tatsu tiny. But, um, Tatsu tea, it's made from
matcha tea. And it's actually. My husband is a
martial artist and his best friend of all time,
who's who lives in Philadelphia area, is the
(34:57):
founder of Tatsu Tea. And. And so it's very
natural. It's a performance tea. And, um, it's got
electrolytes and vitamins, minerals, and is
competing with all the other teas out there. So we
drink a Tatsu tea almost every day. I'm really a
water. Like, I got my big thing of water over here
too. So I drink a lot of water, a ton of water a
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day. But I do mix in a Tatsu tea as well. So
that's what I'm drinking. But it can very easily
be turned into a Tatsutini.
Anthony Weaver (35:29):
Oh, I'm about to make that happen.
So what are y' all drinking out in the audience
space? What do y'.
Jyllian Clarke (35:33):
All?
Anthony Weaver (35:34):
Let us know what y' all drinking. And Dr. Sevy.
Yes. Doctor said, you know, you know, I.
Jyllian Clarke (35:45):
Should have turned it into a Tatsutini. My
goodness, you've got a good drink going on over
there. Getting lit.
Anthony Weaver (35:54):
Oh, Lisa joined. Lisa, uh, I think you say you
normally get your. Your daughter at this time, but
thank you for chiming in.
Jyllian Clarke (36:02):
Um, Lisa.
Anthony Weaver (36:04):
Yeah. If y' all haven't checked, I heard episode,
uh, it's actually the one that's plastered on my
show, one of the top ones because we talked about
stocks and getting investing and so forth. So if
you're new to stock market, trying to get in stock
market for your kids, talking about how to get
utmas getting started for your 8 under 18 year
old. Definitely check that out.
(36:25):
All right, let's see Mom's drinking dream. What
the heck is that? Never heard of a dram buoy?
Jyllian Clarke (36:36):
M share their recipe.
Anthony Weaver (36:38):
I know, right? Oh, it's actually a liqueur. On its
own, it looked like it 40% alcoholic. It's a
scotch or whiskey.
Jyllian Clarke (36:50):
Oh, okay.
Anthony Weaver (36:52):
Um. Oh, this is only 21. No wonder this tastes
like juice. Okay. Yeah.
Jyllian Clarke (37:00):
Right? Oh my goodness.
Anthony Weaver (37:04):
Uh, let's see. Dr. SEV. He said what? What is
that?
Jyllian Clarke (37:07):
Boring. I have my water too, you know.
Anthony Weaver (37:11):
Yeah, she got a chaser. You know.
Jyllian Clarke (37:12):
Stay hydrated, Stay hydrated. Water is so
critically important to the health of our. Our
overall health of our bodies.
Anthony Weaver (37:21):
Mhm. Oh, wow, that's. Yeah, that uh, that dram
buoy is pretty strong at 40. I mean that's. You'll
put some hand on your chest if you're gonna drink
it straight. Oh yeah, you're gonna be all night
long depending on how much you you poured
yourself. But slow down, you know, it's Friday
(37:43):
tomorrow.
Jyllian Clarke (37:45):
That's so funny.
Anthony Weaver (37:49):
Yeah.
So this is, um. I guess now we get the talking to
the meats M. So for those of you who are, um, want
to dial in, you can dial in at 833-699-2558. If
you have any burning questions, you can ask them
live right now to a. I don't call you like a life
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coach.
Jyllian Clarke (38:12):
No, I'm an executive now. I'm an executive coach,
personal development coach. And um. But yeah, life
coach. I don't start playing with people's lives
around there. But there is a life component
anytime we're talking about self discovery and so.
But I do executive coaching.
Anthony Weaver (38:33):
Okay.
So if you want to show up authentically, you and
you have a burning question on about showing up
properly at work, and you're afraid, and you just
don't have those tools. This is the time to ask
the question.
Jyllian Clarke (38:45):
Yes.
Anthony Weaver (38:45):
Yeah. So I'm gonna ask the question.
Jyllian Clarke (38:47):
Okay.
Anthony Weaver (38:50):
What questions should I be asking myself to show
up authentically? Me. Like, what are the top three
questions I should ask myself every day?
Jyllian Clarke (38:59):
The top three questions you should ask yourself
every day. So am I being myself? This number one.
And to the statement, um, before, am I comfortable
being myself? And then are my decisions aligned
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with who I am as a person and what I value as a
person?
Anthony Weaver (39:31):
I like that. Okay. So it depends on the setting,
though, because I'm thinking, like, if you got to
the club, you know, it's like, okay, yeah, I'm
sober. I can dance, and some people are great at
it. Um, and sometimes you just need to calm down
and the voices in your head and you just go to the
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bar, do the drink to kind of fit in.
Jyllian Clarke (39:55):
Sure.
Anthony Weaver (39:56):
Which goes back to what you said earlier. It's
like, why do you. Why are you doing this? To fit
in with everybody else.
Jyllian Clarke (40:01):
Right. And if it's not something that you want to
do, if you're not a drinker, then don't drink.
Right. If you don't have a belief in something,
then don't go do that thing. And be okay with not
doing it or saying, like, I'm gonna come hang with
you, but I am not drinking. Like, I'm not. I'm
(40:23):
just not. I don't drink. Um, I stopped drinking or
whatever the case may be. But don't do it just
because everybody else is doing it. And be okay
with where you are as a person. If it doesn't
align with you and what you value or where you are
in, you know, your season of life, don't do it.
And be 100% okay with not doing it. Right. Then if
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you have pushback from friends or. Or whatever,
then you have some other decisions that you need
to make. Who do you want in your circle?
Anthony Weaver (40:52):
Um, that part. Like setting up boundaries.
Jyllian Clarke (40:56):
Exactly. Who do you want in your circle? And if
they're not supporting who you are and the
decisions that you're making, I'm pretty quick to
snip from my bonsai tree. Oh, okay. Because it's
important to me to do things that are aligned and
not be judged or. Or what have you. Um, and it's
(41:18):
okay if you're judging me, but now we just may
have to move a little bit differently. M. So. And
that's okay, too. You Know, we're not all meant to
be constantly flowing 100 all the time. And there
are people who I can be around for a certain
period of time, but then, like, hey, it was good
for this amount of time, but now we part ways and
we go because we are not aligned in everything. So
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that's what I would say.
Anthony Weaver (41:45):
Okay. Yeah.
Jyllian Clarke (41:46):
Because about that one. So I'm stopping myself.
Anthony Weaver (41:49):
No, no, no. It's really good because one of the
things I do talk a lot about is setting up those
boundaries, especially during the holidays, um,
and having boundaries not just with the people
that are around you, but also your core family
members. And be like, look, I don't have it it. Or
like, you're only getting this. And for me, I'm
(42:10):
like, as a gift, I set my boundaries even with my
own gifts. When people ask me, like, hey, I'd
rather have a book than clothing, than anything
for the house or anything like that, I'm like,
just give me a book. Let me tell you what book it
is. And I'll be, oh, yeah. So excited, because
it's a book that I really want. Not so much that
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this is something that I want.
Understanding the platinum rule, which is
teaching, like. Which is treating people the way
they want to be treated instead of the way you
want to be treated. And that is one of the things
that was hard to learn as I was growing up.
Jyllian Clarke (42:46):
Yeah.
Anthony Weaver (42:47):
Because you always taught, like, you know, well,
if you want people to be nice to you, you need to
be nice to them. But they don't like nice. They
want valid.
Jyllian Clarke (42:56):
M. So that's interesting. There's two things, um.
There's two things that you said there. So
sometimes there's. There's sometimes when you sort
of. I don't want to use that word. Acquiesce. But
right now, that's what's coming to me. So I'll
just say acquiesce. But there are some times when
people may give you something that you may not
want, but it's what they want you to have. M. So
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there's a part that's like, be grateful that that
person wanted to give you what they wanted you to
have. And some of those things you'll cherish
forever. It might not have been something that you
want, but it's what they wanted to give you.
Right. And so there's a little bit of give and
take. That's not, um, what I would consider to be,
you know, authentic, not authentic, or, you know,
(43:42):
what have you. But there's a. There's a space in
There to receive what other people have to offer,
even if it's not exactly what you thought you
needed. You come to cherish those moments. You
come to cherish those gifts. You come to cherish
all of those things based on your values. Right. I
value this relationship with this person who gave
me something that I didn't even know I wanted or
needed. But now I have it, and it means the world
(44:05):
to me because this person gave it to me. M. So
there's that piece of it. I'm gonna pause there.
Anthony Weaver (44:11):
No, no, no, I like it because, um, I was. I'm
going back to the interview that I want to say one
of the Wayans brothers had. I want to say on Club
Shay Shay, just to shout out another podcast. And
one of the things that the way in, I, um, want to
say is Damon Wayan, okay, who said that, you know,
(44:33):
he wanted the basketball for Christmas, um, but
because all his friends was going to have one
because he wanted to play and stuff like that. But
his mom always gave him socks and gloves for
Christmas. But it wasn't until he got older that
he realized that his friends are outside playing
basketball, but their hands are cold and their
(44:54):
feet are cold. But he was the only one that was
actually warm and was able to stay out longer
because of what was provided to him during
Christmas. And it's just kind of like, well, yeah,
you can have it, but can you get it from somebody
else? Especially if it's a gift thing?
Jyllian Clarke (45:13):
Yeah, yeah, exactly. Or can you share it? There's
a lot of different things there. So, um, I. Yeah,
there's. That can go so deep because there's just
things like even just asking for something that
you want feels to a certain way to people. Right.
So. So it just depends on who you are and how you
(45:35):
operate. And, um, yes. Trying to teach your
daughter. You don't have to do everything because
everyone else is doing it. Absolutely. I think any
parent out there identifies with exactly what she
just said. So we try to teach it, teach it, teach
it, but it's inherent in us as humans. Like,
everybody else is doing it, so I want to do it
too. Um, or everyone else has it. I want to guess
(45:56):
jeans. When I was growing up, it's like, oh, I
want. Guess the legions that, you know, parents
wanted me to get. But, you know, eventually I got
my guest jeans and, you know, that was fine. But,
um, you know, and I've got kids like that, too.
They grew up and they wanted this and they wanted
the Calvin Klein, you know, whatever. So we're
Constantly. I think every parent right there
identifies with what she just said. Um, but you
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know, I try to. There's, there's a word that I use
often that's just grateful. Be grateful for
whatever it is that you do get, you know, and if
you really want to find a way to make the money so
that you go, you can go purchase yourself. This is
a money show, right? So purchase um, it yourself.
Anthony Weaver (46:39):
So yeah, teach the kids to go fish.
Jyllian Clarke (46:42):
Yeah.
All right.
Anthony Weaver (46:43):
So Nia says I do this with friends when we hang
out. I tell them I would like, hold up. I would
like it to be an activity rather than centered
around food. Okay. This is going back around like,
um, drinking and so forth.
Jyllian Clarke (46:59):
Mhm. Yeah. Um, and I think that's good. The one
thing that's standing out to me is that she's um,
willing to tell them, like, I don't want this to
be around food. And then when you're doing things
with friends, there, there's some give and take
there. Or there's a choice. Right. While you all
do the things centered around food, I'll meet you
after or we'll do the thing that I want to do
(47:20):
before. And then when you all go do the food
thing, I'm leaving. Or it's okay if we do the food
thing for a little while. Um, but you know, let me
make sure that I fulfill my own needs as well. And
hopefully they'll go with you. And then it becomes
a conversation if they're not willing and all that
kind of good stuff. But the one thing that I'm
hearing here is that she's willing to communicate
that, that she tells them. And that's a piece
(47:43):
that's missing sometimes is that people don't want
to say what somebody else might not want to hear.
So that's such a critical part right there is
telling people what you need, what you want, that
brings you fulfillment.
Anthony Weaver (47:56):
And I always commend people who can actually just
stand up for themselves to kind of say like, you
know what? And the power in saying no without
saying no, even though no is a complete sentence.
But you can say no. But almost like a not right
now thing. Maybe later.
Jyllian Clarke (48:13):
Yeah. What's wrong with no?
Anthony Weaver (48:18):
Nothing.
Jyllian Clarke (48:19):
Um, right now is the answer. No is the answer.
Anthony Weaver (48:23):
I am not.
Jyllian Clarke (48:25):
And I don't necessarily need for you to understand
that I've said no. And it's not my role to let you
down in a certain way. If my answer is no, it's
no. If you have a problem with me saying no, you
need to own Your problem with me saying no, I
don't need to own that for you. I've said no,
(48:45):
that's mine. What, how you react to it is yours.
Now. We can have a conversation about it. I may
have delivered it poorly or, you know, something
like that. That's a different. But me saying no,
if that bothers you, that's a, uh, look in the
mirror moment for you and you work out what your
reaction is there. Okay.
Anthony Weaver (49:03):
Can you talk about saying no in the workplace?
Jyllian Clarke (49:07):
Yes. Yeah.
Anthony Weaver (49:09):
Because, you know, you get told be like, hey, can
you do this? Like, I ain't doing that. I get your
buddy over there.
Jyllian Clarke (49:15):
So yeah, I gosh, this, this is so, um, this is a
really, really big topic. So we'll go sort of
micro here because they're saying no and then
they're saying there's insubordination. Um, and I
think those two things are very different and can
be handled different. And most times, I mean, I, I
have, um, been in leadership for many, many, many
(49:36):
years. And the times when I've heard people truly
say no, a lot of it stems from not being able to
understand how they fit into the bigger picture
and why it's important for them to actually do the
job or what have you. How you, how you say no is a
whole different story. Um, but there's that piece
(49:57):
of it. But there's also like, um, boundaries from
a work perspective where whatever it is that's
happening doesn't align with your values or the
things that, you know, there might be something
where you have what we would call like a crisis,
subconscious, if you will. Like, my work is
requiring me to do this thing and I don't believe
(50:18):
in that thing, therefore I'm having an issue doing
that thing. And so that's a different
conversation. And that is for the person to stand
up and say, this does not align with my belief
system. This does not align with who I am as a
person and have a dialogue about it so that it's a
professional and productive dialogue where that
(50:38):
person can say no in a way that's professional and
ah, and they can get reassigned somewhere else.
Right. Or, you know, have that, have that
dialogue. But most times that somebody doesn't
understand and that's a leadership issue, that's
not providing clarity to the people that they're
asking to do the work. And then the reverse of
that is if the person doesn't understand because
(51:00):
their leader is not effectively communicating,
then it's up to the person to understand. Please
help me understand why it's important for me to do
this. And that's, uh, that's a legitimate
question. How does this fit into the bigger
picture? Um, what is it that you need me to do?
Why is it important that I am the person who does
it? Right. Those are the questions that people
(51:20):
need to answer, like, why am I doing this? Why are
they asking me to do it? I'm so busy. There's
oftentimes a disconnect between workload and
perceived workload, because maybe you're just the
person that doesn't look like they have a ton to
do, but your plate is full. Then, you know, have
that conversation and in the future, increase the
dialogue so that your manager, your leadership
(51:42):
understand what's on your plate so that you don't
get tapped every single time. But be willing to
say, help me understand why I'm this person. And.
And if it's a priority conversation, help me
prioritize.
Anthony Weaver (51:56):
Um, okay. I like that. Uh, yeah, because it's more
than just walking really fast with a notepad in
your hand in the hallways to everything, even
though you don't have anything on the notepad.
Jyllian Clarke (52:07):
Yes, yes, exactly.
Anthony Weaver (52:09):
More than having, like, 50 windows up on your
screen.
Jyllian Clarke (52:12):
So. True. And I do. I work with leaders a lot who
are, um, very frustrated because their teams are
not participating, performing, or they're not
being productive or they've delivered something
that, um, my husband will say, it's the bring me a
rock. You know, and they're the. The leader is
neglecting to provide the level of clarity that
(52:32):
people and teams need to actually deliver. And I
work with frustrated leaders, and I'm like, let's
take a look in the mirror here. What can you do
differently to make sure that your teams
understand that? And more often than not, um,
they're scared to confront that they may not be an
effective leader. Um.
Anthony Weaver (52:49):
Oh, that's a whole nother discussion. We might
have to bring you back for that one, because.
Jyllian Clarke (52:55):
Let's do it.
Anthony Weaver (52:56):
Awesome.
Um, so I want to bring up the thing as we come up
to the top of the hour here. Um, for those of the
people who are looking to get inside this book
giveaway. Um, so right now, to make sure you're
inside the book entry, go ahead on and type in
hashtag excellence. We have four entries right
(53:17):
now. Remember, you only can do it one time, so
even if you type it 50 times, it still counts as
one. So, Dr. Sarah, I'm looking out at you. Not to
call you out there, but, you know. But Dr. Sarah
brought up a good thing. She said she is the Queen
of saying, um, of no. When in the corporate
(53:38):
America. No, I don't want to go to lunch to leave
early. And I thought about that. Um, what else?
She says. She says that I would say these are the
things you want me to accomplish.
Jyllian Clarke (53:53):
Yes.
Anthony Weaver (53:53):
And I can't do both. Which one do you want me to
complete?
Jyllian Clarke (53:58):
What's that? Prioritization. It's like, which one
of these is a priority? Right. Yeah. Love it. Love
that.
Anthony Weaver (54:06):
And. Well, because doctor said she recently
retired, so she likes. Um. And I actually got her.
Her episode pre recorded. We just got to get time
to get it up out of there.
Jyllian Clarke (54:17):
Okay. All right. I'm looking forward to it. Yeah.
I'm saying no.
Anthony Weaver (54:23):
And she further. Further say, um. Exactly. A
leadership issue. If you're the company workhorse
they typically have no problem dumping. And I have
no problem saying no. Yeah. Um, I am that person.
So I'm working on my no phase starting next week
because now that the shutdown's over.
Jyllian Clarke (54:45):
Yeah.
Anthony Weaver (54:46):
A lot of things.
Jyllian Clarke (54:47):
So I would encourage, like, there's a place of
understanding.
Anthony Weaver (54:50):
Right.
Jyllian Clarke (54:50):
Uh, it's 100. There's a leadership issue because
your leadership should understand what's on your
plate, what the priorities are, what you're doing,
and those kind of things. But. But it's also
incumbent upon you as the person to say, I've got
these just for your awareness. Here's what I have.
Help me prioritize, because now you're giving me
something else. I need to prioritize. What do you
(55:13):
need me to do? And what can I offload? How can we
spread the work a little bit? If this is a
priority here, and I see people so often just kind
of keep taking it on, and then burnout happens,
frustration happens, resentment happens. And. And
it's on both ends because the leader is very
(55:33):
frustrated because the person's not getting it
done or not getting it done fast enough or what
have you. And then they're frustrated because they
keep getting dumped on. So I see. She only typed
it once.
Anthony Weaver (55:43):
Right. Uh, you know, I see you, Dr. St. I'm just
saying. I see you.
All right, so we got four. All right. I don't see
any more new ones. So you ready for the drum roll?
Jyllian Clarke (55:56):
Yes.
Anthony Weaver (55:57):
I usually have. I used to have some music for
this. I, um, want to play the. Yeah, that's. That
should be it. Yeah, let's do this. This will be
our music for the drum roll.
Jyllian Clarke (56:10):
Nothing beats a jetsu holiday. And right now you
can save up to £240 for a family of four. Don't
miss out.
Anthony Weaver (56:19):
I don't care. Hey, Dr. Awesome.
Jyllian Clarke (56:26):
She gets the book. I'm so excited. I will sign it
and um, you'll have to tell me how to connect
there so I can get it out. So.
Anthony Weaver (56:34):
Oh, so tell her what email to send it to and then
she'll send you her contact info.
Jyllian Clarke (56:39):
All right, so you can email me at Jillian J Y L L
I A N@isocoaching LLC.com again that's
Billionsocoaching LLC.com.
Anthony Weaver (56:58):
And put the subject line about that wallet live.
Jyllian Clarke (57:01):
Yeah, that sounds good. So just tell me all your,
give me all your information. I'll get it out to
you, I'll sign it and send it away. So. Yeah,
awesome. But really quick. I know remind you but
it is a show about money and here's what I will
say really quick. Right. Okay. Is that um, a lot
of people take all types of time to invest in, in
(57:23):
whatever, everything. Maybe it's even I'll invest
in a weight loss program or I'll invest in new
floors in my situation or what have you. I liken
investing in yourself, your leadership skills and
self discovery and learning all about yourself as
an asset. Okay. And your liability there is if you
(57:47):
don't do it, there's a lot of risks. There's a lot
of risk there. It's a liability for you not to
understand and be self aware. It's a liability for
you to have the impact that you really don't want
to have and you're negatively impacting and you're
not very self aware of that. So um, so that's what
I will say if you're doing things out of
obligation or misalignment or something, there's
(58:10):
your liability. So for your financial folks there
assets and liabilities, I got to bring that in for
you. Promise you I would.
Anthony Weaver (58:17):
I appreciate it. Thank you so much.
Well, this was fun. Jillian, one, um, more time.
Can you just tell people where they can find out m
more about you and actually get a hold of your
book?
Jyllian Clarke (58:28):
Yes. So, um, you can find me on Instagram or
LinkedIn. Jillian Clark. Um, not that hard to find
there and uh, I invite you to also go to my
website which is isocoaching llc llc.com I am
right in the midst of reconstructing. So um,
probably in about a month, maybe a little less
(58:50):
than that, I'll have a brand new website out there
for you and places for you to connect. I am
developing, building a community. It's already
underway but I will be officially launching that
the beginning of December, mid December. So you'll
be able to see that. Which is why I'm revamping my
website and doing a lot of things there. So
please, please, please connect with me. Share. Um,
(59:11):
I do coaching. I've got the community element as
well. And then again, I have the trademarked
initiative. I am me, 100% validated which I can do
virtual or in person. And it really is a 90 to 120
minute self guided journey. What took me months to
figure it out. I've packaged it up and it's so
powerful in a 90 to 120 minute session. So please
(59:33):
do follow me.
Anthony Weaver (59:35):
Love it, love it, love it. Thank you so much. This
was great. Um, hopefully everybody who's listening
right now, make sure that y' all are having a
wonderful, wonderful time. This is again, can't
thank you enough. Make sure y' all go follow her,
um, on all the social platforms, make sure y' all
continue to hit the like subscribe button. Share
(59:56):
this out. And if you haven't already, if y' all
new here, please remember the likes really do help
out because that's the only way I can really get
my reach and to kind of share this information and
get more people like Jillian onto the show. Uh,
especially on the live shows. I love the live show
because I don't have to edit.
Jyllian Clarke (01:00:13):
Yeah, yeah, exactly. So listen really quick. If
you miss my contact information, you know how to
get in touch with Anthony. But find me, message
me, you can DM me, whatever on Instagram and I'll
make sure that we connect. So perfect.
Anthony Weaver (01:00:26):
All right, everybody remember you uh, can put on
one show at a time. If you try to put on both, you
will trip. All right, I'll be safe.
Jyllian Clarke (01:00:36):
Thank you, Anthony. This fun.
Anthony Weaver (01:00:38):
All right, stay off a little bit, okay? Mhm.
Jyllian Clarke (01:00:58):
Sam.
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