October 1, 2024 • 10 mins
Ever wonder if it's ever okay to crush your nephew in a video game? Today on the According to Wes podcast, we dive into a heated Tekken 8 match between an uncle and his young nephew that spiraled into a Reddit debate on sportsmanship and life lessons. You’ll hear Wes recount his own battles with family game nights and the challenge of balancing tough love with encouragement. From Uno and Sorry to intense 2K showdowns, understanding the fine line between letting kids win to boost their confidence and teaching them resilience is crucial.
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Wes (00:01):
Welcome back to another episode of the According to Wes
podcast, where winning iseverything, even if you have to
destroy your nephew in theprocess.
Of course, I don't really meanthat, but I kind of do like yo.
Sometimes you got to show themwho's boss, how things really
(00:22):
work out here in the streets,yep.
But as I continue on my neverending journey of
self-improvement to be a betterperson than I was yesterday,
today, what better way to dothis than with the help of
Reddit?
Am I the asshole?
All right, so let's read, read,let's read the case.
(00:49):
Am I the asshole for destroyingmy nephew in a video?
So I was playing a video gamewith my nephew.
If you're curious, we wereplaying second eight.
Shout out to second eight, oneof the best fighting games out
here right now.
Um, now he's a kid, soobviously he's completely
(01:09):
incompetent at this game, right.
So I was absolutely destroyinghim.
So my sister, his mom, comes inand starts watching and gets
upset because I told her I lethim win a few games.
But I didn't, because you getcalled a bitch if you act the
way my nephew acts when he playsgames.
(01:31):
I mean, my nephew and I wereplaying for a while and he was
getting upset, which honestlyannoyed me.
So I told him about how back inCall of Duty days on a 360,
he'd get completely screwed,screwed and he needs to grow up
a bit.
I was only trash talking alittle bit and for some reason
(01:55):
his mom got upset.
Is he the asshole?
Listen, I have a nephew myselfand we haven't reached that
video game playing part of ourrelationship.
It's coming soon.
He's 7 years old.
It's definitely coming soon.
But I do know one thing inprevious games of Uno and Sari
(02:21):
and Trouble, my nephew he's asore winner and it frustrates me
to no end.
And granted, these games arelike luck of the draw type games
.
No deep skills is needed.
But tell that to aseven-year-old.
You know when he wins he winshe the best thing out here.
(02:43):
So, trust me, I get theannoyance when it comes to stuff
like that, especially if they.
I get the annoyance when itcomes to.
I get the annoyance in generalcomes to.
I get the annoyance in general,like little kids are annoying.
True, it's not a popularstatement, or maybe it is a
popular statement.
Maybe it's not a popularstatement with people with no
(03:03):
kids telling them to say they'reannoying, but all my friends
that have kids gladly say thattheir kids are fucking annoying,
and I gladly.
No, I ain't gonna say that.
So are fucking annoying, and Igladly, I ain't gonna say that.
So, to be honest, I can't waitfor the moments where I'm
playing my nephew in 2k or evensecond uh, just so you can see
(03:24):
how that feels, because I willabsolutely destroy him.
I don't think you're theasshole for destroying them like
they gotta learn, likeeverybody's not going to let you
win.
Everything isn't geared towardsyou and life where things go
your way.
It's not how life is.
Yeah, I definitely would Fuck.
(03:47):
Yeah, I can't wait, Idefinitely can't wait.
I used to think that you shouldlet the youngsters win to
improve their confidence, butnow that I think about it, I'm
starting to think all that shitis circumstantial, um, and I
guess it should becircumstantial.
You know, um, you're not alwaysgoing to win in life.
(04:10):
That is a lesson in itself, butyou know, of course, in true
West fashion I don't know allthe circumstances, I'm still
workshopping that out, but whatI can say, what I can say from
(04:31):
this I never really thoughtabout it when it comes to
youngsters is incorporatinglessons, so it doesn't always
seem like a beat down.
Don't get me wrong, they'regoing to get the beat down.
He is yo.
There is no way he already putin, he already put in too much
bad blood, with him being a sorewinner.
(04:54):
And then sometimes it's justlike yo.
I remember one time I felt likeI should like let me not put
out the draw.
Two, when I came, stilldemolished us.
I'm just like I ain't neverdoing that shit again.
Stupid, I don't know.
Lessons can be learned, right,you can always teach.
You can always teach.
You can always teach, notnecessarily how to be a sore
(05:16):
winner, put it this way Metrying to be the better, me,
right.
I think the approach I wouldtake is definitely give him the
beat down.
No mercy, no holds bar, butalso lessons in it, especially
with his tech.
And I'm like yo, yo, you're notblocking, yo, you, you, you
(05:37):
using the same move, you'redoing a low and you're not uh,
and you know that's not uh.
You know what I mean.
Like certain techniques of thegame and stuff like that.
So he can't get better, but I'mgonna still destroy them each
and every time.
So 2k the same way like yo,pass the ball, yo.
(05:57):
That person can't shoot threeslike basic shit.
They don't feel fun destroying.
They don't feel.
First of all, why are you trashtalking your nephew?
Like I get it, like that'sgonna come about, but you know
how that shit go take.
Take the Tim Duncan approach.
You know no trash talk, it'sall skill.
Beat them with your skill.
I guess that's the lesson Iwould, I would teach my nephew.
(06:22):
You know, that's what I wouldprobably try to get across.
But in all honesty, that's notsomething that I get.
When I was younger, for myuncles uncles on playing video
games or sports, it was just, itwas just straight carnage.
Let's talk about NBA.
(06:45):
Back in the NBA live time, I'mtalking about being blown off by
fucking 40 points and just like, well, that's how that shit
falls.
Motherfucker.
Like they say that they didn'ttrash talk me, but they did not
give me any fucking mercy.
Uno, no mercy.
Any of those other games, nomercy.
Ha ha ha.
It was like they was playingwith me and doing me a favor and
(07:06):
I'm just like I can't win.
Oh well, no mercy.
I got better, definitely gotbetter and been alive Definitely
.
And then when my uncle not evenrecently, maybe, like a couple
of years ago, thanksgiving andshit.
I don't know why.
I thought he would still be youknow good at that shit, like 50
some years old, but fuckingdemolishes us.
(07:31):
I am not afraid, afraid to say,and nor am I ashamed to say,
trash talks from the whole waythrough my vocal alcohol.
That's the way that shit works.
So, yeah, there's a way ofdoing it.
So you're enough.
I don't know.
I don't know shit.
(07:53):
As I strive to be a better me, Iwant to be like the Jedi master
, slash Morpheus from the Matrixapproach.
When it comes to competitionsover my nephew or future
children like yo, they're gonnabe like god damn, this
motherfucker good like I don'tknow his ways.
I need to get better.
I want to be the teacher, notnecessarily the trash talker.
(08:16):
All I'm gonna do is anger them,thank you, and make them think
that you're arrogant and shitlike that.
So, yeah, you're the assholefor trash talking.
If you're trash talking, yeah,you're the asshole.
But if you, if you're doingmore, this is you the asshole.
But if you doing more, it'sabout how you do that shit too.
Right Now that I'm thinkingabout it, yeah, trash talk, but
are you teaching at the sametime, if you're doing more trash
(08:37):
talking and teaching and theboy's 11,.
Yeah, you can be seen as anasshole.
You can be seen as an assholeEven if it was two grown men,
and you could be seen as anasshole Even if it was two grown
men.
If it was two grown men and youjust trash-talking somebody
that don't know how to play thegame, you can get punched in the
mouth, you know.
So, yeah, that's that's.
(09:02):
Yeah.
Asshole for trash-talking.
That's one thing I'm going tokeep in my back pocket.
Don't trash-talk my nephew.
Teach.
Asshole for trash talking.
That's one thing I'm gonna keepin my back pocket.
Don't try to talk my nephewteach.
Destroy, but teach.
Don't get it twisted.
It will be, I will know.
No, I will not hold back.
(09:23):
There is no, there is noholding back, but yeah, I um.
No, there is no holding back,but yeah, I um.
This is one to think about.
When do I teach?
How do I teach?
When do I throw a little trashtalking to get them thinking,
and the trash talk will besimple, like, oh, you're not
thinking, use your brain, defendyourself, know how to block.
(09:45):
Like, you know stupid shit.
Well, yeah, this was a fun one.
Reddit always, um.
Reddit always hits you with theclassics every now and then,
even though it's not really aclassic or a heavy hitting one.
But it's one of those thingswhere it's like yo, as men,
nephews, nieces, children in ourfamily, yo, holidays is coming,
(10:07):
thanksgiving is coming,christmas is coming.
This will happen.
Someone's going to turn on thePS5 and the Xbox, and that's
what it's going to be.
But I urge you, let's start offthe Fortnite.
I don't know if we can win atthat.
Then again, fortnite, showforte.
(10:30):
I've had it.
So I want to thank you guys fortuning in, just getting some
stuff.
I want to thank you guys fortuning in and, yeah, man on that
journey, trying to be better.
Thank you for listening.
Welcome back to another episode of the According to Wes
podcast, where winning iseverything, even if you have to
destroy your nephew in theprocess.
Of course, I don't really meanthat, but I kind of do like yo.
Sometimes you got to show themwho's boss, how things really
(00:22):
work out here in the streets,yep.
But as I continue on my neverending journey of
self-improvement to be a betterperson than I was yesterday,
today, what better way to dothis than with the help of
Reddit?
Am I the asshole?
All right, so let's read, read,let's read the case.
(00:49):
Am I the asshole for destroyingmy nephew in a video?
So I was playing a video gamewith my nephew.
If you're curious, we wereplaying second eight.
Shout out to second eight, oneof the best fighting games out
here right now.
Um, now he's a kid, soobviously he's completely
(01:09):
incompetent at this game, right.
So I was absolutely destroyinghim.
So my sister, his mom, comes inand starts watching and gets
upset because I told her I lethim win a few games.
But I didn't, because you getcalled a bitch if you act the
way my nephew acts when he playsgames.
(01:31):
I mean, my nephew and I wereplaying for a while and he was
getting upset, which honestlyannoyed me.
So I told him about how back inCall of Duty days on a 360,
he'd get completely screwed,screwed and he needs to grow up
a bit.
I was only trash talking alittle bit and for some reason
(01:55):
his mom got upset.
Is he the asshole?
Listen, I have a nephew myselfand we haven't reached that
video game playing part of ourrelationship.
It's coming soon.
He's 7 years old.
It's definitely coming soon.
But I do know one thing inprevious games of Uno and Sari
(02:21):
and Trouble, my nephew he's asore winner and it frustrates me
to no end.
And granted, these games arelike luck of the draw type games
.
No deep skills is needed.
But tell that to aseven-year-old.
You know when he wins he winshe the best thing out here.
(02:43):
So, trust me, I get theannoyance when it comes to stuff
like that, especially if they.
I get the annoyance when itcomes to.
I get the annoyance in generalcomes to.
I get the annoyance in general,like little kids are annoying.
True, it's not a popularstatement, or maybe it is a
popular statement.
Maybe it's not a popularstatement with people with no
(03:03):
kids telling them to say they'reannoying, but all my friends
that have kids gladly say thattheir kids are fucking annoying,
and I gladly.
No, I ain't gonna say that.
So are fucking annoying, and Igladly, I ain't gonna say that.
So, to be honest, I can't waitfor the moments where I'm
playing my nephew in 2k or evensecond uh, just so you can see
(03:24):
how that feels, because I willabsolutely destroy him.
I don't think you're theasshole for destroying them like
they gotta learn, likeeverybody's not going to let you
win.
Everything isn't geared towardsyou and life where things go
your way.
It's not how life is.
Yeah, I definitely would Fuck.
(03:47):
Yeah, I can't wait, Idefinitely can't wait.
I used to think that you shouldlet the youngsters win to
improve their confidence, butnow that I think about it, I'm
starting to think all that shitis circumstantial, um, and I
guess it should becircumstantial.
You know, um, you're not alwaysgoing to win in life.
(04:10):
That is a lesson in itself, butyou know, of course, in true
West fashion I don't know allthe circumstances, I'm still
workshopping that out, but whatI can say, what I can say from
(04:31):
this I never really thoughtabout it when it comes to
youngsters is incorporatinglessons, so it doesn't always
seem like a beat down.
Don't get me wrong, they'regoing to get the beat down.
He is yo.
There is no way he already putin, he already put in too much
bad blood, with him being a sorewinner.
(04:54):
And then sometimes it's justlike yo.
I remember one time I felt likeI should like let me not put
out the draw.
Two, when I came, stilldemolished us.
I'm just like I ain't neverdoing that shit again.
Stupid, I don't know.
Lessons can be learned, right,you can always teach.
You can always teach.
You can always teach, notnecessarily how to be a sore
(05:16):
winner, put it this way Metrying to be the better, me,
right.
I think the approach I wouldtake is definitely give him the
beat down.
No mercy, no holds bar, butalso lessons in it, especially
with his tech.
And I'm like yo, yo, you're notblocking, yo, you, you, you
(05:37):
using the same move, you'redoing a low and you're not uh,
and you know that's not uh.
You know what I mean.
Like certain techniques of thegame and stuff like that.
So he can't get better, but I'mgonna still destroy them each
and every time.
So 2k the same way like yo,pass the ball, yo.
(05:57):
That person can't shoot threeslike basic shit.
They don't feel fun destroying.
They don't feel.
First of all, why are you trashtalking your nephew?
Like I get it, like that'sgonna come about, but you know
how that shit go take.
Take the Tim Duncan approach.
You know no trash talk, it'sall skill.
Beat them with your skill.
I guess that's the lesson Iwould, I would teach my nephew.
(06:22):
You know, that's what I wouldprobably try to get across.
But in all honesty, that's notsomething that I get.
When I was younger, for myuncles uncles on playing video
games or sports, it was just, itwas just straight carnage.
Let's talk about NBA.
(06:45):
Back in the NBA live time, I'mtalking about being blown off by
fucking 40 points and just like, well, that's how that shit
falls.
Motherfucker.
Like they say that they didn'ttrash talk me, but they did not
give me any fucking mercy.
Uno, no mercy.
Any of those other games, nomercy.
Ha ha ha.
It was like they was playingwith me and doing me a favor and
(07:06):
I'm just like I can't win.
Oh well, no mercy.
I got better, definitely gotbetter and been alive Definitely
.
And then when my uncle not evenrecently, maybe, like a couple
of years ago, thanksgiving andshit.
I don't know why.
I thought he would still be youknow good at that shit, like 50
some years old, but fuckingdemolishes us.
(07:31):
I am not afraid, afraid to say,and nor am I ashamed to say,
trash talks from the whole waythrough my vocal alcohol.
That's the way that shit works.
So, yeah, there's a way ofdoing it.
So you're enough.
I don't know.
I don't know shit.
(07:53):
As I strive to be a better me, Iwant to be like the Jedi master
, slash Morpheus from the Matrixapproach.
When it comes to competitionsover my nephew or future
children like yo, they're gonnabe like god damn, this
motherfucker good like I don'tknow his ways.
I need to get better.
I want to be the teacher, notnecessarily the trash talker.
(08:16):
All I'm gonna do is anger them,thank you, and make them think
that you're arrogant and shitlike that.
So, yeah, you're the assholefor trash talking.
If you're trash talking, yeah,you're the asshole.
But if you, if you're doingmore, this is you the asshole.
But if you doing more, it'sabout how you do that shit too.
Right Now that I'm thinkingabout it, yeah, trash talk, but
are you teaching at the sametime, if you're doing more trash
(08:37):
talking and teaching and theboy's 11,.
Yeah, you can be seen as anasshole.
You can be seen as an assholeEven if it was two grown men,
and you could be seen as anasshole Even if it was two grown
men.
If it was two grown men and youjust trash-talking somebody
that don't know how to play thegame, you can get punched in the
mouth, you know.
So, yeah, that's that's.
(09:02):
Yeah.
Asshole for trash-talking.
That's one thing I'm going tokeep in my back pocket.
Don't trash-talk my nephew.
Teach.
Asshole for trash talking.
That's one thing I'm gonna keepin my back pocket.
Don't try to talk my nephewteach.
Destroy, but teach.
Don't get it twisted.
It will be, I will know.
No, I will not hold back.
(09:23):
There is no, there is noholding back, but yeah, I um.
No, there is no holding back,but yeah, I um.
This is one to think about.
When do I teach?
How do I teach?
When do I throw a little trashtalking to get them thinking,
and the trash talk will besimple, like, oh, you're not
thinking, use your brain, defendyourself, know how to block.
(09:45):
Like, you know stupid shit.
Well, yeah, this was a fun one.
Reddit always, um.
Reddit always hits you with theclassics every now and then,
even though it's not really aclassic or a heavy hitting one.
But it's one of those thingswhere it's like yo, as men,
nephews, nieces, children in ourfamily, yo, holidays is coming,
(10:07):
thanksgiving is coming,christmas is coming.
This will happen.
Someone's going to turn on thePS5 and the Xbox, and that's
what it's going to be.
But I urge you, let's start offthe Fortnite.
I don't know if we can win atthat.
Then again, fortnite, showforte.
(10:30):
I've had it.
So I want to thank you guys fortuning in, just getting some
stuff.
I want to thank you guys fortuning in and, yeah, man on that
journey, trying to be better.
Thank you for listening.
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