Loaning Love Or Losing Money

A simple question with a heavy cost: if you loan your partner $10,000 for a car, do you expect it back? 

Episode Transcript

SPEAKER_00 (00:00):
Hey everybody, welcome to another episode of
the According to West Podcast.

SPEAKER_03 (00:04):
As always, we have Blaw the I want to say 14 pounds
lighter son-in-law.

SPEAKER_00 (00:14):
Hey, that's what I like to hear.
Yo, that's what I like to hear.
That's what I like to hear.
Uh, you got me West, and I'mgonna say, I'm gonna ask, uh,
are you 14 pounds lighterbecause of you slow down on the
drinking?

SPEAKER_03 (00:29):
I will say um not when well when I went through
all the pain in my back and allthe other stuff and all the
medicine I had to be taking toease my pains, uh-huh, uh caused
me to not drink, which in alsoin terms helped me lose some
weight, but as you can tell, Iam drinking.

(00:52):
Yes, um, dedicated to beendedicated to really just work
working out more and eating lessand not drink it as much.
So trying to keep my calorie andcarbs intake to a minimum, I'm
starting to realize even thoughI might I might eat a small

(01:13):
meal, I'm not hungry.
Right.
So, like if I eat somethingsmall and put something on my
stomach, I don't, I'm nothungry.
And it's it's worked out in myfavor that yesterday I had you
know conduct with some ricesteak, and I lost a pattern.

SPEAKER_00 (01:27):
Chipotle Chipotle.

SPEAKER_03 (01:32):
This place called uh salsa verde.
So it's uh in Lower.
So it's where I took my oh rightoff of Baltimore.

SPEAKER_00 (01:40):
Um right off of Baltimore uh Avenue.
Yes, it's where I took mystreet.

SPEAKER_03 (01:46):
Yeah, it's it's so it used to be called Cabal.
So that's where I took on ourfirst date and salsa brava.
Sausa Brava, that's what it'scalled.

SPEAKER_00 (01:56):
Oh, I don't know what you're talking about.

SPEAKER_03 (01:57):
Sauce of Brava.
Um right on yeah, right on uh isit right there though?

SPEAKER_00 (02:01):
Am I right?

SPEAKER_03 (02:02):
Yeah, uh so you you know where you know what a
Fridays is in Lawrence?

SPEAKER_04 (02:08):
Yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_03 (02:08):
Yeah, it's it's right there.
Uh to give you an idea where itis, is you know what Hooters is?

SPEAKER_04 (02:16):
It's in that it's not in that same thing, but it's
like if you go to if you get toHooters, you went too far.
Okay, I think I know what you'regonna do.
Um we went uh let me see youknow because the Hooters and

(02:44):
Arby's are right next to eachother.
We know the Arby's is furtherthan the Hooters.
That's a good question.
No, my bad.

SPEAKER_03 (02:55):
If you if you go to the if you go to the Hooters and
you go past the Hooters, it'sgonna be on your right.
So once you go past the Hooters,you'll see sauce of Verida.
So you gotta go past it, you'llsee the aha, the hooters, all
that to I mean the aha, arby's,whatever, to your left.
And the sauce of verida is gonnabe right on your right when

(03:18):
you're getting towards those twoplaces.

SPEAKER_04 (03:21):
I uh yes.

SPEAKER_03 (03:26):
I know you're I know you're a little further than
that.

SPEAKER_00 (03:28):
No, I'm Google mapping it.
I'm just trying to remember ifit's where I thought it was.

SPEAKER_03 (03:32):
Yeah, so it's it's past the hooters, but it's like
the very next you'll see likeonce you pass the hooters, you
start looking to your yourright, you'll be like, oh, sauce
of every yeah.

SPEAKER_00 (03:42):
Yeah.
See, I was trying to when youwere when you said hooters, I
was like, yo, is it going backtowards where um oh I'm lost.
Um yes, okay, yeah, yeah, yeah,yeah, yeah.
Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes.

(04:03):
For the movie theater and allthat shit stuff.
So it's right where um it'sright where um it's right where
um fuck was Silver Diner aroundthe area where it used to be at.

SPEAKER_04 (04:15):
Yeah.
Yeah, I know what you're talkingabout.
I know what you're talkingabout.

SPEAKER_00 (04:21):
I knew I did.

SPEAKER_04 (04:23):
But yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 (04:24):
I um I used to yeah.
Yeah, I used to live inLawrence, so yeah, just to
frequent that area.
Used to frequent that area.
But um congrats, man.
Like I like uh I love to hearit, man.
Um I've been doing the samething, uh limiting uh intake and
then exercise and more.

SPEAKER_03 (04:44):
Yeah.
Trying to uh now that didn'thelp my A1C because you know
your A1C is your what's that,your three-month blood sugar or
whatever.
So for the three months prior tothat, I had been like one 250.
Oh geez.
So when they did my A1C, theywere like, Yeah, you're at 4.6.
I was like, oh, so I'm right onthe cuff again.

(05:05):
I mean uh 6.4, I'm sorry.

SPEAKER_04 (05:08):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 (05:08):
It's like you right on the cuff again.
I said, Yeah.
I said, you know, that you know,I and I already know that's that
was what I've been doing for thelast three months.
So now I just gotta do bettergoing forward to drop it down.

SPEAKER_00 (05:21):
What you will, what you will show your wife was on
your ass about that.
Yeah, exactly.

SPEAKER_03 (05:28):
I mean, nonetheless, you know, because she was like,
Oh Lord, how do you get it down?
I said, Well, you know, in thenext three months, I just gotta
reduce the stuff now.
It doesn't it doesn't work inthe way that most people think
it does, but you know what youmean like oh you lost weight, it
should be going down.
I said, Well, once the old bloodcycles out, I still have to,

(05:50):
even though I've lost theweight, I still have to reduce
the intake of what I was takingin.

SPEAKER_04 (05:56):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 (05:57):
So even though I might be losing weight, if I'm
still drinking a bunch of sugarystuff, my A1C is not gonna drop.
So there, you know, there ischange I have to make.
And losing weight is just one ofthose ones where it gets more of
the glucose out of your system.
It'd be one thing if I was 250and it said it was 4.6 and I

(06:20):
lost start losing the weight.
It's a different thing to sayit's 4.6 and I've already lost
the weight.

SPEAKER_04 (06:26):
Yeah.
Yeah.
You live, you learn.
Yeah, you live and you learn,you and you learn to live.
I mean, shit.

SPEAKER_00 (06:42):
Listen, uh it's getting to the point where I'm
uh I'm I'm I'm I'm I need newpants because the motherfuckers
looking weird on me.
As far as like uh as far as likeuh you know me filling them in
and shit.
So it's a good it's a goodproblem to have, but I'm like,

(07:02):
yo, I don't feel like also me, Idon't feel like buying no
clothes.

SPEAKER_04 (07:06):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 (07:08):
If you loan your girlfriend 10K, are you
expecting that back?

SPEAKER_04 (07:13):
My girlfriend?

SPEAKER_00 (07:14):
Yeah, your girlfriend.

SPEAKER_04 (07:16):
Yeah, of course.
If you loaned your wife 10k, areyou expecting that back?
No.
Let's say the story.

SPEAKER_03 (07:26):
I mean, you already know why I'm gonna say I
wouldn't expect it back from mywife.

SPEAKER_00 (07:29):
No, I'm expecting I'm I'm expecting that.
It depends on what it is, andwe'll see if uh with in the
scenario, we'll see if you ifyour answer is still the same.
But this this is a guy'sgirlfriend, he definitely should
be getting this back.
But let's hit a story.
Yeah, he said he needs someinsight on uh my girlfriend of
six years and a loan that hasn'tbeen paid back.

(07:50):
We have a good relationship, butwe recently have been facing one
or two issues.
We've we've uh what we've alsokind of realized our financial
values are slightly different,of course.
Where she is more generous withher money, with gifts, money is
shared around her family a lotmore than mine.
That's that's my situation,actually.

(08:12):
However, however, overall shefinds it hard to save.
I am the opposite.
I am more on the frugal side,similar to my family, and have
been able to save a decentenough amount of money to try
and buy my first house.
Income-wise, we also are on ouron somewhat different figures.

(08:36):
I earned roughly two to 2.5times more than she does.
As for the issue with the loan,I have loaned her approximately
10K a little over a year ago tohelp her buy a car, which she
really wanted.
She had also somewhat fallen onhard times and couldn't have

(08:56):
afforded the car without myloan.
Fast forward to the present,she's been in a good job for the
last eight months.
However, to me, it seems likeshe doesn't have much intention
on paying the loan back.
When I initially loaned her themoney, I was very, very clear it
was a loan, and I would wantthat amount paid back at a later

(09:20):
date.
And what she enthusiasticallyagreed.
Three years of dating andplanning a future together, I
have I have the utmost, I hadthe utmost uh trust in her.
After bringing the subject uprecently, she has been saying
she's been blindsided.
She thinks since we are planninga future together and our money

(09:40):
will be pulled even eventually,she shouldn't have to pay it
back.
This was this has really led tothe question.
This has really led me toquestion the different financial
values we have.
I'm trying to figure it out.
If I'm an asshole by asking herto pay it back, to pay back the

(10:02):
original amount in which Iloaned her a year ago.
I told her once she has paid meback, the car will be
transferred into her name.

SPEAKER_04 (10:24):
If it's my girlfriend, I'm gonna need I'm
gonna need them coins back.

SPEAKER_03 (10:32):
I don't really say if it was my wife, I loan you
ten thousand, I don't expect itback.

SPEAKER_00 (10:39):
No, yo, come on, man.

SPEAKER_03 (10:41):
I was I was explaining to the wife.
Oh now, and he loaned her themoney because she wanted to do
all this other shit.
Yeah, I'm gonna need I'm gonnaneed that ten thousand back.
And then don't try to guilt meand to well, you know, we're
planning, we're planning onhaving a planning on sticking

(11:02):
around enough so she ain't haveto pay that shit.
You know what planning means?
It it is not what we're doingright now.
We could be planning to do awhole bunch of shit, but are we
that right now?
So I'm gonna need them coins.

SPEAKER_00 (11:18):
Here's where I kind of uh differ, even if that was
my wife, right?
I'm already in a situation whereme and her got different
financial uh uh values and shitlike that.
I feel like yo, when it comes tocertain things, yeah, my money
is your money and stuff likethat.
But I also know me and I workhard.

(11:38):
I also save, I do the thingsthat I'm supposed to do that
most adults don't do.
So let's just say I'm hitting uhI'm getting money on returns
from stocks, parlays, andinvestments and shit like that.

unknown (11:54):
Right.

SPEAKER_00 (11:54):
I earned that, but you can't even do the basic
stuff.
So if it's gonna be 10K, if it'slike$500, I'm not really
expecting to get that back.
10K for a car that you want, youdon't even have to get this car.
It's a car that you want, andyou agree.
Come on now.
10K.

(12:15):
I'm gonna need that, I'm gonnaneed that back.
Like I earn I still earn themoney and I'm already taking
care of you.
That's just that's I'm lookingat it from only solely my
perspective.
I'm already taking care of you.
At this point, I feel likeyou're trying to you treating me
like a sucker, like I getwhatever I want, type shit.
There's no like let me actuallytry to pay him back.

(12:37):
It's been three years.

SPEAKER_03 (12:39):
Oh, it's been three years, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 (12:42):
No, but no, no, I'm sorry.
It wasn't three years.
He said fast forward, how longhe said?

SPEAKER_03 (12:45):
I think he said three years.

SPEAKER_00 (12:47):
No, they've been together for three years, three
years of dating and planning afuture together.
Fast forward, it's been uh she'sbeen she's been in a good job
for the last eight months.
Even if it's eight months, let'sjust say it's been a year, like
it's been a year, like even ifit's not the full 10k, you ain't
gonna be 500 towards it, 100 isto this, this, this, and this.

(13:08):
I mean, 10k is a lot of nomatter no matter how you slice
it, that's a lot of money.
Because he's now different ifit's like 10k, sweetheart.
You want to go to culinaryschool?
But he's been giving I'm notexpecting that back.
10k is going towards this, this,and this.
It's certain things I'm mepersonally, I'm not expecting it
back because you're my wife.
A car that you want, the type ofcar that you want, not that you

(13:30):
need you want.
And it's because you're notdoing the right thing with your
money.
If we doing like if we're doingif they're doing this 50-50
thing, right, hypothetically,because they ain't say they're
doing 50-50, but it seems likeshe still goes to work, she
ain't at home.
You know what I mean?
That boyfriend and girlfriend,but you get what I mean.
I can't just I just can't slidewith 10k and you will work an

(13:54):
adult as well.
That doesn't make any sense tome for a car like like let's
just say it's for Mercedes, andI gotta fucking drive in a
fucking, you know what I mean?
I'm I'm in a camera and youwanted the Mercedes.
I gave you 10k for that.
I'm being responsible with mymoney, and it's just like I

(14:14):
don't know, that's just me.

SPEAKER_03 (14:16):
I mean because it because even in the thing, he he
he's been giving her money overtime, and it ended up equaling
out to 10k, right?

SPEAKER_00 (14:28):
No, this is 10k for a personal loan to get a car.
He had he just had 10k.
Like, here you go.

SPEAKER_04 (14:37):
I don't know.

SPEAKER_00 (14:39):
My girlfriend, I'm no, your girl, you're getting
that money back.
We we I know we agree on that.
Well, well, I'm I'm spicingthings up.
Your wife.

SPEAKER_03 (14:48):
My wife, if she if I had 10 gates 10k sitting around
and she said she wanted anothercar for whatever reason, this
type of car she wasn't, it was10 grand.
I mean, at the end of the day,I'm probably not tripping about
it because I'm probably gonnaget that back.

SPEAKER_00 (15:05):
From who?

SPEAKER_03 (15:07):
From however I got the original 10k, I'll probably
get that back.

SPEAKER_00 (15:10):
No, no, no.
Ain't say all that.
I mean hypothetical, you couldyou save you save for you save
for that.
Like, like I said, you save forthat, you did what you had to
do.
Let's just say you was workingtwo fucking jobs.

SPEAKER_03 (15:24):
Yeah, I mean, I well, I'm I guess I'm looking at
it from the perspective.
I know my wife, if I gave mywife 10 grand to get a car,
she's gonna be like, Well, I'mgonna pay you back some money,
regardless, because you knowthat 10k can't be used for
something else.
But just knowing her, I knowthat she'll she might not pay me

(15:44):
10 grand back, but she'll startpaying me something because
she'll be like, Yeah, nah,because you know, she respects
you and and she knows that youain't had to do it.

SPEAKER_00 (15:56):
That's that's that's what I'm getting at.
Yeah, me, but maybe of courseI'm gonna expect all my money
back, and that's only becauseit's one of those things you did
not need the car.
This is a car that you wanted,and it was 10K.
I was the difference between yougetting it was 10k.
Right.
No, granted, if I got thehowever I got the 10k, yeah,
it's sitting there, but youdon't know why it's sitting

(16:18):
there, yeah.
So, and maybe the reason why Iloaned it to you is because I
was expecting you to get itback, and the reason why I said
it is a loan is because Iactually need it back.

SPEAKER_03 (16:29):
Yeah, I mean, there's other ways they could
have gone about it.
His girlfriend, you're like,come on now, 10k 10k to go to a
car.
Me and the wife would have hadto have a nice discussion, like,
so 10k.
Well, how much is the bankgiving you for this long?

(16:51):
Oh, well, they only can give methis much.
So I in my head, I'm like, SoI'm making up the difference, or
am I paying the whole thing?
Like it, because that makes adifference too.
It's like, all right, well, thebank can only give me 7,000 and
it's gonna cost such and suchamount.
Do you mind you know, loaning mea little bit of money so that I
can still get the car?
It's like, all right, you know,sure.

SPEAKER_00 (17:13):
You're saying the key word loan though.
So now, if your wife says, Youmind giving to me, I'm not gonna
pay you back.
Can I get this 10k?

SPEAKER_03 (17:22):
Well, I guess that's another conversation.

SPEAKER_00 (17:26):
Now I'm looking at to hear it that way, but that's
how I hear it.
It's like, yo, if she ain'tgonna pay me back, I need to
these this needs to be I need tohear this first that I'm not
getting paid back, or else youdisrespect me.

SPEAKER_03 (17:39):
Well, let's let's ask a source here.

SPEAKER_01 (17:41):
Oh my god.
Um, I'm I'm just listening.

SPEAKER_03 (17:43):
Mrs.
Smith, you want a car now?
Mind you, it's a it's a car thatyou want, not that you need,
like he said, so you could havegot something cheaper.

SPEAKER_01 (17:53):
I'm the one to ask because I stay within my means.

SPEAKER_03 (17:56):
I'm just saying, let's say you just need the 10K.
And you're like, babe, are youasking me to take are you asking
me for a loan, or are youasking, can I just give it to
you?
And once that happens, are yourintentions to pay me back, or is
it just to take the 10k?

SPEAKER_01 (18:13):
Knowing how you are, let's start with that.
I know I would have to ask for aloan, and I know I would have to
pay it back.

SPEAKER_00 (18:23):
Yeah, there you have it.
I did, yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_03 (18:25):
Or we can barter, but I mean, you know, not enough
bartering world, man.
But I like I told her, even likewhen she takes something out the
bar, the only way I'm asking youto put it back is if you say
you're putting it back.

SPEAKER_00 (18:39):
And I that's what I and that's what I'm saying,
being being up front.
Um I'm um I can make my dis Idon't I can make decisions if
you're up front.
You know what I mean?
Like I'm cool with the decisionI made if I know everything up
front.
But don't 10k is a lot of money.
I'm just saying, like even ifyou even if you're making uh
let's just say you're making$200,000 a year and you just

(18:59):
have 10k, obviously you you youhow could I put it?
Obviously, you're in a mind, youin a space where that 10k gets
you certain things, you knowwhat I mean?
Right, yeah.
So the 10k for you, like thatmight be some play money, and
then you get to you know playaround with this, this, this,
and this.
But now I don't get the playbecause you wanted something.
Yeah, it's uh it's to mepersonally.

SPEAKER_03 (19:24):
Um, it's it's showing um of course it's
showing a selfish side of her,but it's it's I mean the wife
knows I'm gonna I'm gonna askher every avenue of how can she
get this 10k?
Oh, actually, we'll pay me backbefore I even yeah, look at you
know how many times I've been insituations even before I gave
her the 10k, it'll be like, sodid you go to the banks?

(19:45):
Did you do this?
Did you do this?
Have you been?
She knows I'm gonna go through awhole checklist of things before
I'm like, all right, well, I got10k sitting if you need it.

SPEAKER_00 (19:56):
Yeah, you know, I don't I don't leave with that.
It's been times, let me tell youwhy.
And and and in person, myexperience, I've I would uh
sometimes I would hate to loanher money because it'll be like,
I'll loan her the money, she'llsay she'll pay it back.
Like, this is her saying itbecause she knows that it's not
fair for her to keep asking forshake of shame doing the right

(20:16):
shit with her money, and nowwe'll ask, like, hey, I I know
you don't do the right shit withyour money.
How are you gonna pay me back?
Is it gonna be one of thosesituations where you pay me back
and you be like, uh, I don'thave enough money for gas, and
then it's a trickle-down effect,and I'm actually just paying you
for the the privilege of payingme back, and it's just like now

(20:38):
I'm paying for all this othershit that I was never paying
for, like hair and nails and gasand food, and my mom needs this,
and I ain't got no extra money,and now I'm like, Hold the fuck
up, like I'd rather you I'm notgetting paid back then.
If this is gonna be what it'sgonna be, so sometimes you run
into situations like that whereit's just like, well, shit, I

(20:59):
loaned her 500, but now Iactually spent 600 this month on
doing her extra shit that shecan't pay back.

SPEAKER_03 (21:08):
Yeah, I think I've only actually ever asked my wife
for money back if when she askedme I needed it for something
very specific, like I had to paysomething, and I'm like, um, I
can loan it to you, but I'mgonna need it back because of
this, this, and this.
So, you mean I'll get it back toyou.
But if I don't need it foranything and it's just money

(21:29):
laying around, yes, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 (21:30):
I'd just be like, But it's also a limit to that
money laying around shit.
Because as a as a man in myhousehold, I I know what I'm
responsible for.
So it's like you can't take awayfrom that, then you know what I
mean?
Like, I can't allow you, I can'teven allow myself to give you
this because I know it's gonnaput me this way.
Like, if I'm paying the mortgageand I'm paying other things, uh,
you're not gonna tap too muchinto my free fuck around money,

(21:53):
and you damn sure not taptapping into the mortgage money.
So if that just got paid or Ijust did some, this is how much
I can give you.
And if it ain't gonna work, thenoh well.
But there's a to me, I don'tknow what that I don't know what
that amount is where I don't askfor it back.
No, I do know what amount.

(22:14):
If it's 10k, I'm asking for itback.
Uh 10k, Mr.

SPEAKER_03 (22:19):
Smell.

SPEAKER_00 (22:20):
I gotta get that back, man.

SPEAKER_03 (22:21):
You want that 10k back?
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_04 (22:24):
I mean it's taken too.

SPEAKER_02 (22:27):
I think everyone takes the fuck you mean.
I need you to run them coins,nigga.

SPEAKER_00 (22:36):
And it's not even an offer disrespectfulness about
it, like yo, we married, I'maget this shit back.
It might take me two, threeyears, right?
I'm getting that back, but justknow you're not just gonna walk
off with that.
I worked for, I gotta deal withthem fuck ass motherfuckers that
work and shit like that.
I gotta deal with traffic, Igotta deal with this and this

(22:57):
and that.
I gotta restrain myself frompunching somebody in the face.

SPEAKER_03 (23:01):
I need I need that 10k back now that I know my wife
wants her money back.
You knew the answer already.
You just waited for her toanswer.

SPEAKER_00 (23:09):
You knew the answer.
Don't do me like that.
You knew the answer.

SPEAKER_03 (23:12):
It's 10k.

SPEAKER_01 (23:13):
I try to be like 10k.

SPEAKER_00 (23:18):
I'm not saying 30 or 40 dollars, it's like yo, it is,
it is what it is.
I'm not saying that, or 50 or100 or 200.
That's 10k.
Yeah, all right.

SPEAKER_03 (23:28):
Uh change my hands, make double.
No, I mean that's what it's goodto know that if if she was rich
and famous and I asked her for10k, she's gonna want that shit
back.
So I never know.
No, no, no, no.
That's a different level.

SPEAKER_00 (23:44):
That is a different level.
That is a different level.

SPEAKER_03 (23:47):
I would have to ask for like more like 500,000.

SPEAKER_00 (23:51):
Yeah, it's you see you see that's that's some
stupid shit right there.
You asked for five hundredthousand, and she let's just say
she what do you need with that?
So that's my number one answer.
What is I mean, he already knewit was going for the car.
What you need, what you need ahalf a million dollars for?

SPEAKER_03 (24:07):
Like, yeah, I guess if I if I was uh someone who was
well off, rich, whatever,however much, and Mrs.
Smith said, Yeah, um, do youmind if I get 500,000?
I'm gonna look at it like so.
What you need 500,000 for?

SPEAKER_00 (24:20):
Listen, even if he was a millionaire, you're asking
that question.
You're asking that question.
If he was a millionaire, you'reasking that question.
If he was a uh if he was StephCurry with the hundreds of
millions that he have, you'reasking that question.
That's not something light.

SPEAKER_03 (24:37):
Yeah, I mean 500,000.
I I have to ask, are you are youplaying the league?

SPEAKER_00 (24:41):
Yeah, well, that does sound like that do sound
like startup money.
It's not like startup moneymoney.
That's not like startup.
Yo, but it's a some women's itcould be start over money too.
Like you just never know.

SPEAKER_03 (24:58):
I'm not just giving that willy is is condo start
over money if you need your downpayment.

SPEAKER_00 (25:04):
Yeah, nah.
Is I I move my shit out.
I'm already working.
I just needed down the it couldbe an apartment.
I did I needed the first and thelast, I needed four thousand
dollars.
I got four thousand dollars.
I moved my shit out, furnishedthe shit, boom.
I'm already working.

SPEAKER_03 (25:22):
I mean, if you're gonna ask me for 10k and you're
trying to start over, at leastbe owning the condo you're about
to go to for the down paymentthat's not okay.

SPEAKER_00 (25:31):
She started over.

SPEAKER_03 (25:33):
I didn't even know financial advice.
I'm just wondering the money.
If the whole game is like, oh, Igotta get out of here, and I'm
gonna ask him for this money,he's just gonna give it to me.
I need I wanna then at least putit to so or something that
you're gonna benefit from lateron, yeah.
Like, not that the car shecouldn't benefit from.

SPEAKER_00 (25:55):
Well, that benefit a to b sometimes the like Amazon.
That is it, that's what youbenefit from the car.
Like for men, uh, there's otherbenefits.
I uh you know, hey, yeah, I'mstarting with this, I'm gonna
get this is the bait.
But for women, it's just likethat's it, A to Z, as it should
be.

(26:15):
Like, you just want to look goodin the car.
I get that.
This is the type of car youwant, I get that.
But no one is impervious tofeeling that way, but asking for
10k and be like, Oh, I feelblindsided, and when he told
you, it is alone, yeah.

SPEAKER_03 (26:31):
He did say it was alone, and that and he did lead
off with that, and it is justhis girlfriend.
I mean, I I'm always harping offthe it was his girlfriend.

SPEAKER_00 (26:42):
If if my girlfriend wanna agree with that, you want
to I had to throw the like yourspouse.
I had to, I had to if it was ourspouse, I had to put that in
there.

SPEAKER_03 (26:50):
I I see it as if if my girlfriends ask me for 10k.

SPEAKER_00 (26:53):
Yeah, you know what?
I'm I might actually leave herbecause why would you ask me if
we just boyfriend a girlfriendfor 10k?
See, it's it's like my spideysenses like she about this is
she about to set me up for theuh I don't I I it's just not
feeling the same, and I neverget my money back.
Have you already been feelingthis way?
And then you're like, yo, Imight as well just give like at

(27:15):
least a car that I want out ofthis motherfucker.
That's what you gotta thinkabout nowadays.
Can you say it louder, please,so we can hear you?

SPEAKER_02 (27:25):
She said if a woman wants to leave.

SPEAKER_01 (27:28):
If she wants to leave, she's gonna leave.

SPEAKER_02 (27:30):
Like, yeah, sometimes they like to leave a
gift.

SPEAKER_01 (27:33):
But no, not necessarily the breakup and how
bad it is.
If she wants to leave, fuck that10 case you will leave you.
She just gonna flat out, leaveyou, have a plan and a roll out.

SPEAKER_00 (27:45):
I agree.
I don't want my money to be apart of that plan though.
That's that's all I'm saying.
I I want her to leave.
I want her, I want her to writea note and leave it on the nice
name.
I was like, it's not you, it'sme.
I just don't want my money to bea part of that.
That's what I'm saying.

SPEAKER_03 (28:02):
You don't uh understand what you're saying.

SPEAKER_01 (28:05):
I'm just thinking if a woman is fed up and she's
ready to leave you, ain't no wayshe's gonna ask you for 10,000
so you that you can come lookingfor her and before bothering
her, harassing her, and evensuing her, and taking her to
court over that 10,000.
If she don't want nothing elseto do with you, she's gonna roll

(28:25):
out and figure it out.

SPEAKER_00 (28:28):
It ain't nothing to block a motherfucker and move to
another state, right?

SPEAKER_03 (28:32):
I've heard some stories of stories.
I I asked him for this and Ialready knew it wasn't working,
but he gave it to me, so I and Idipped out after that, and I was
like, oh, that's interesting,but okay, yeah.
But I mean, if if therelationship is good and she
asked me for 10k, it'sdifferent.
But if I know there's beenRocky, and all of a sudden, I

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really want this this thing, andI'm gonna get 10k, and then all
of a sudden you start you justghost, and I never hear from you
again.

SPEAKER_00 (29:01):
That's like, well, damn, like I already knew we
were Rocky, but I'm out of theday off the rip, homie played is
smart because the car is in hisname.
Oh, so he still brought the car.
Isn't it?
He said I would transfer it overonce I get my money back.
That's what he said.
That's that's that's what hesaid.

SPEAKER_02 (29:21):
Hey, look, it can't even be mad at that.

SPEAKER_00 (29:23):
He said for if my the car is in my name, which is
my security.
I told her once she has paid meback, the car will be
transferred into her name.
That's what he left off with.
That's like not an asshole.

SPEAKER_03 (29:35):
That's like 500k.
Oh 500, um, yeah, 500k.
I just want to get uh anotherhouse somewhere.
Well, okay.
I get that house.

SPEAKER_01 (29:52):
Okay, that'll push it.
But you know what you get?

SPEAKER_03 (29:54):
You get 10k.

SPEAKER_01 (30:00):
I need pocket money.
That is not if you got little mypocket now.

SPEAKER_00 (30:12):
Why didn't that?
Hold up.
Why is it not money?

SPEAKER_01 (30:18):
What if I want to go stop and what if I want to have
money?

SPEAKER_00 (30:35):
It goes back to what I said.
Yo, if I comment to some money,I'm just not saying anything
right away.
Just not saying nothing rightaway.
Let me take you all asresponsible for it.

SPEAKER_01 (30:47):
If you know you hit the lottery or become a
millionaire, just go ahead andbless your wife.
So that's why you're gonna haveno issues at all.
I will not protect him from theblessing and just that's it.
And then when she asksquestions, we like don't even
ask no more questions.

SPEAKER_03 (31:06):
I think the best way to bless my wife if I came into
a whole bunch of money ofmillions or billions, uh um, is
I pay off all the bills, andwhen I give her the numbers for
how much she owes and she seesas little less, there's your
blessing.

SPEAKER_01 (31:18):
No, nigga.
That's gonna be the nextquestion.
Thank you for paying offeverything.
I don't even need to know wherethe money came from.
Put you on cash at me.
Put it on the cash.

SPEAKER_03 (31:34):
We'll start a save plan.

SPEAKER_01 (31:36):
No, I know not that save.

SPEAKER_00 (31:38):
You just gonna have to do all that on your own and
then be like, here's okay,what's just some money?
Just give her what you feel likeyou need to give her.
I don't already doing the wrongthing by telling her everything.
You already gonna look out forher, you already won't pay bills
and this, this, and that.
Y'all gonna get a nice, a nicehouse, and you're gonna set her
up with a car and it's we'd havepaid off all the debt that we

(31:59):
owe.

SPEAKER_03 (31:59):
I put it that way.
Then it'll be like, all right,well, let's put my pocket.

SPEAKER_01 (32:04):
That's fine.

SPEAKER_00 (32:04):
Your pocket is the pocket, it's fine.
I ain't I ain't got nothing todo with it.
I'm not saying you would usethis, but at the same time, my
rights about some 10,000 is tootoo little to be like, yo, come
on, man.
You need to have this.

SPEAKER_01 (32:17):
Let's say if I wanted to fly over to Italy and
go shopping over in Italy orsomething and do some shit I
ain't never done.

SPEAKER_02 (32:24):
I'm coming with you and we're gonna figure out I'm
on as I will go with you andwe're gonna figure out and then
it will still come out of I wantmy own money.
Listen, come out of my go.

SPEAKER_00 (32:48):
Yeah, I don't mind her getting her own money off
the chat.
I don't mind giving her ownmoney because I understand the
the the the the the the feelingof like yo, I'm doing this on my
own, not on my own, but the un Idon't have to I understand the
feeling of her not wanting tofeel like she's being uh she's
being watched like a child orsomething like that.
So yeah, I am not opposed.

SPEAKER_02 (33:11):
What you mean?
Because I'm clumsy.

SPEAKER_01 (33:13):
What he's doing.

SPEAKER_00 (33:14):
What I'm doing.
So right, right, right.
I don't want I don't want her tofeel like shit.
I don't want her to feel thatway.
So yes.

SPEAKER_02 (33:27):
What if I only got four million and 10k is what I'm
like, all right.
Here's 10k.

SPEAKER_00 (33:31):
Yo, see that's the thing.
Four, I'm not giving you amillion dollars from four
million.
I'm just not doing that.

SPEAKER_03 (33:37):
Because by the time I done paid everything off and
paid the taxes on it too, itmight only be um one point one
point five million, and it'slike, well, if I give you 500,
that's half the money.

SPEAKER_00 (33:51):
Like, I'm I'm blessing my wife.
She's not getting half.
I'm blessing her though.

SPEAKER_04 (33:56):
How about what about 30k?

SPEAKER_01 (34:00):
I'm walking that type of money, y'all get
controlling off of that.

SPEAKER_03 (34:09):
I wouldn't need to be controlling, it would be all
right, babe, I did this, this,this, this, this, this, this,
this.
Now, four I and I say fourmillion because four million is
not enough for anyone to quittheir job.
It's not enough for us to belike, all right, we we we we
rich and we made it, we stillgotta go to work.
We're just now cushion.
So after everything's paid toallow us to be cushion and say

(34:31):
money, then it's like, allright, well, look, we got this
1.5 that's still here after Ipaid off everything that we need
to make stretch.
So me giving you some of it,like 30k, 40k is like, all
right, here's 40k for yourpocket.

SPEAKER_01 (34:48):
So the rest of this is kind of 1.5 left after paying
everything off, right?
Right, and we still gotta go towork.
Why can't I get like a hundredthousand?

SPEAKER_00 (34:59):
I can give you that.
Yeah, so right.

SPEAKER_01 (35:02):
You talking about 10,000.
What is that?

SPEAKER_02 (35:05):
Well, because I'm looking at it from a very frugal
standpoint, but we're also we'realso still the protector and
provider.

SPEAKER_01 (35:12):
But I'm looking at both of y'all's faces, so I put
it down to 100, but I'll take upthe 250,000.
Like, you got 1.5.

SPEAKER_02 (35:22):
What you gonna do with 250,000?

SPEAKER_01 (35:24):
You you're gonna get that's called pocket money.

SPEAKER_02 (35:28):
Yo, you know, I turn around and be like, you know
what, this ain't working, andnow she got it down.

SPEAKER_01 (35:35):
No, no, that's not true.
But now I might go get a beat.

SPEAKER_00 (35:39):
You're trying to shame us for trying to be
careful with the money that wewon to say, you know, you need
to be giving me more.

SPEAKER_03 (35:46):
But no, but you gotta understand from our
standpoint.
We're not saying we don't wantto, it's the caution that we
have because once let's say wegive you the money, and all of a
sudden now you know I have thismoney, you get your startup to
go live somewhere else.
Oh, I ain't even worried aboutthat.
I'm worried about her all thatass.

SPEAKER_00 (36:04):
I'm worried about spending her spending the money
and saying, I need some moremoney.
That's what I'm worried about.

SPEAKER_02 (36:10):
I'm just looking, I'm looking at it from every
standpoint of all the stories Idone heard.

SPEAKER_03 (36:14):
I done heard a woman accuse her husband of cheating,
never found out her husbandwasn't cheating, but still left
him and took half his stuffbecause he had a lot of money.
And it's just like, well, justlooking at these stories, I'm
just like, if I give you this,you're asking me for, well, what
do you want this amount for?
Like, what is it in the worldfor 250,000 that you I get

(36:35):
money?

SPEAKER_00 (36:36):
Okay, I I okay, I'll I'll I'll put it this way I
ain't win the money, but I'mworth this money.
Uh, you you met me and I hadthis money.
I'm just doing well off.
You think that I should begiving you 250 a year?

SPEAKER_01 (36:52):
No, not a year.
If you have it, so let's you'realready gonna be living in that
lifestyle with me.
But how do you know I don't havesome business ventures that I'm
gonna start?

SPEAKER_00 (37:02):
Talk to me about it.
Don't just say I need the money.
Talk to me about it.

SPEAKER_02 (37:06):
Yeah, what you're saying, you're saying blindly,
I'm like, well, oh, what do youneed?
Oh, I want to start this thing.
Okay, cool.
Here's the money.

SPEAKER_03 (37:12):
Like, I'm not saying I'm not saying I would never not
let's just like when I saidoriginal, I'm like, well, for
10k, I'm not really tripping offof it if I have it.
But hey, you know, I kind ofwant to really ramp up my
business that I got, and I thinkI need about 10, maybe 100k to
really be able to market thatokay.

SPEAKER_00 (37:33):
Oh, yeah, here you go.

SPEAKER_03 (37:34):
Here's the here's the money in the back of it
here.

SPEAKER_01 (37:36):
You go So, what's the difference between business
money and pocket money?

SPEAKER_00 (37:41):
No, it's the it's the communication part.
I don't know what the F it'sfor.
Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 (37:47):
So I have to say it's for business venture.
No, no, no.

SPEAKER_00 (37:50):
You could you could tell me whatever you want to go
talk.
I want that new Bentley truck.
Can it's cost this?
Can I have this to get yeah?
Here you go.
This is all you get.
We don't have any more moneyoutside of the Bentley truck.
This is you want that?

SPEAKER_01 (38:04):
Hey, I'm just not understanding.
Okay, if I say, all right, Iwant this for my pocket so I can
do X, Y, and Z.
Okay, here's 100%.
But you but you gave me the XYZ.
If I get a business idea and Ineed this, then you'll give it
to me if I label it as abusiness idea.

SPEAKER_00 (38:25):
It better be not label it, it has to be.

SPEAKER_02 (38:28):
What I'm saying is that no matter what you tell me,
you could be going use it to usewhatever you want to do.

SPEAKER_01 (38:33):
It doesn't even matter, but if I'm asking you
for it and I know you have itand it's within reason, why why
do I need to say, oh, it's forthis versus this?
If I ask for it for businessventure, you'll give me the most
that I'm asking for.
But if I say it's this just formy pocket, then you wanna give
me 10 grand.
You could have said, No, no, no,no, no.

SPEAKER_00 (38:54):
We're not saying we just give you 10 grand.
The 10 grand came about becauseof the the car.
That's how much he gave her.
That's how much he gave her.
But if it's if we're millionsupon millions of dollars, it's
gonna be more than 20.

SPEAKER_03 (39:04):
No, we're gonna give you more than 10k.
What I'm saying is for him inthis article, the way I would
have looked at it was I gave youif you're asking me for this
money, just outright justsaying, Hey, I want this amount
of money in my head, like yousaid, if a woman wants to leave,
she's gonna leave.
And we said, Yeah, becausethat's gonna be their startup

(39:26):
money.
If I've earned this money or wonthis money, and you're asking me
for this money, and then all ofa sudden you're gone, that's
money lost.

SPEAKER_04 (39:36):
That's what I'm saying.

SPEAKER_01 (39:37):
No one's saying, No, not not true.

SPEAKER_03 (39:39):
We we're not saying you're leaving.

SPEAKER_01 (39:41):
I'm saying that's period.
Like you keep saying you take itas startup money and roll out.

SPEAKER_03 (39:47):
That was but that was the thought that we that was
the the thought before weactually got into this
conversation was what if yougave the money and it was for
them to restart their lives andleave?
That was that part of theconversation, yeah.
Yeah that's how we got into intothat, like in us in our heads
just thinking when you ask forsomeone to ask for a large chunk
of money.

(40:07):
Now, if you're like, hey, well,baby, you know, you're paying
off all the bills and everythingelse, and you you know, it's
like, well, I want to goshopping, and I'm I need you to
go out of my pockets, it's likeall right, well, how much you
need?
Because at that point, it's notlike, oh, here's 200,000, it's
well, okay, well, how much youneed?
Uh, I need about 50k.

(40:28):
Oh, okay.

SPEAKER_01 (40:29):
See, it's one keeps getting lower though.

SPEAKER_02 (40:32):
Well, no, that's just an example of instead of
me, you you want me to give youmoney.

SPEAKER_03 (40:38):
But what I'm what I'm saying is is that if if if I
told you today I done won 300million dollars or whatever, and
I paid off everything, andyou're like, Oh, hey, cool,
you're gonna give me an amountthat you want.
You're gonna say, Oh, well, letme get about 50k.

SPEAKER_04 (40:54):
Okay, again, that would be a good one.
Here you go.

SPEAKER_00 (40:57):
So, my whole thing is like if I won the money, it's
still my job to protect andprovide.
I I'm uh and if I've done a goodjob with that, I'm gonna do a
good job with millions ofdollars.
So if I already and I'm onlygoing based off of my personal
experience because my wife ain'tgood with money sometimes, and
this guy's girlfriend ain't goodwith money.
I'm not giving you a lot ofmoney just for you to be like, I

(41:18):
need some more money.
Because I'm gonna be like, yo,what the fuck just happened?
Oh, I loaned some money to mysister and that's not what it
was for.
That's my whole thing, so it hasnothing to do with how much she
I feel like she deserves or notdeserves or anything like that.
I still didn't make sure that weare good to go because I've been

(41:39):
tasked with protecting andproviding protecting and
foundation.
That's all I'm saying.
I'm I'm not saying she my wifewill not get any money, she's
just not getting all that money.

SPEAKER_03 (41:50):
It's not like that 50.
You might have acting for 50knext week.
Doesn't mean that if you circleback around in a couple months
and say, Oh, I seen this and Iwant to go get this.
Can I get 50k?
That she won't get another 50k.

SPEAKER_04 (42:05):
Yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_03 (42:06):
This isn't like a one, all right.
Look, this it I know I got, Iknow I got 200.

SPEAKER_00 (42:12):
At some point, it's gonna have to be a this it
because uh we're gonna have towe're gonna need to retire.

SPEAKER_02 (42:17):
Now, if you if you if you come around and say I
need a hundred mil a hundredthousand dollars because I want
to go on this trip, I'm gonna belike, well, good, we're going on
this trip.

SPEAKER_00 (42:26):
Exactly.
And we're gonna see how we canget this shit under 60.
That's the 60k.

SPEAKER_02 (42:31):
There's no reason it's gotta be a hundred K.
Like, let look, let me look onthe T-Mobile app and see if we
get some reduced flight.
Exactly.

SPEAKER_00 (42:38):
Yeah, look, protecting and providing, yeah.
That's all that's all I'msaying.
And I'm only speaking from uhfrom the standpoint of just my
experience, like my wife, for noreason, she she just has the
ability to pick the mostexpensive thing, whatever.
She doesn't know it's expensive,I don't know it's expensive, but
her first choice is expensive.

(43:00):
So if I allow that to happen,that that millions is they
that's that's gone soon.

SPEAKER_03 (43:07):
I will say this that I uh if I did come into money
like that.
Now, if we were good to go outsomewhere, I wouldn't be as
cruel.
I'll just get whatever you want.
I'll be like that, but Iwouldn't just willy-nilly spend
it on just random stuff.

SPEAKER_00 (43:27):
Yeah, my wife would though.
I I know my wife.

SPEAKER_03 (43:29):
My wife would I mean as you can tell, my wife would
too because she she like shesaid, she's never had that type
of money before.
So she would want to buy stuffshe's never had before.

SPEAKER_00 (43:39):
That's no, so that's so that part is fine, but I want
her, I would want my I wouldwant her to be smart with the
decisions because it's kind oflike yo, once in a lifetime
situation we in, we can makethis stretch, we can live
comfortable.
Let's not let's not fuck it upwith just buying a bunch of
random shit and shit that wereally don't need.
Like I want, I want to travel, Iwant to uh eat at nice

(44:01):
restaurants, I want to do allthose things as often as I can,
possibly forever.
You know what I mean?
So let's figure out how thatworks.
But that doesn't work with likeall right, we you going to Paris
and you're gonna fuck up Chaneland then Louis Vuitton and then
this, this, and this, and I'mout of like what a quarter of a
million dollars for stuff forthat season, and then the new
season comes and you're like,damn, I like that shit too.

(44:22):
Nah, that was aonce-in-a-lifetime shopping
trip.
You're done.
I didn't even go do that.

SPEAKER_03 (44:28):
That's my whole because that's how I would look
at it.
It's like, all right, well, weand that's why I said four
million.
Four million is enough at thispoint in our lives to live
comfortable.
We technically, if we spend itright, four million will last us
for the rest of our lifetime.

SPEAKER_00 (44:49):
Not lasting y'all for the rest of y'all life.

SPEAKER_03 (44:52):
Technically, it could if you do it right.

SPEAKER_00 (44:54):
Yo, Miss Smith wants 50k.
It's not, it's not, it's notlast.

SPEAKER_03 (45:00):
I'm saying, I'm just saying, like off the off the
strength, you get 40, 40, 4 mil,right?

SPEAKER_04 (45:04):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 (45:05):
After we pay off that house, any other debt that
we have, and we're all debtfree, right?
Then the rest of that, you know,once because now at that point,
we have to sell this house andmove to another house because
that's gonna be our last home.
So we gotta go to that, we'regonna sell we gotta sell this

(45:26):
house wherever it is, and thenmove to something that we can,
you know, manage.
And then from there, it'll be sowe won't have any cardinals,
it'll just be maintenance on thecars, everything else.
Now, could we go and gotraveling and all these other
things and like it's no like wehave no other responsibilities?
No, of course not.

(45:46):
Why not?
Not on four mail.

SPEAKER_00 (45:49):
Well, you're not making your money work for you,
and that's what I mean.
That's what I mean by like, yo,like you can't just do the shop.
I can't even do that.
I'm not, you know.

SPEAKER_03 (45:58):
Well, every idea I've given her, like, I was
like, Well, if I did win thisamount of money and all this
other stuff, we should rent thishouse out that we live in.
She said, I don't want to dothat, I want to sell it because
I I don't want to have to likeworry about tenants and the
house staying up the car and buymanagement company.
And I'm like, we can get amanagement company.
Well, why would we do that?
We're gonna pay.
I'm like, so I look at it asinstead of us making it.

SPEAKER_00 (46:21):
You can make your money back in a in like a couple
years from the house that youwould have sold it for, you know
what I mean?

SPEAKER_03 (46:27):
And that's what I was saying.
Well, you know, it I've I'vedone it once when I lived in
Bladensburg, blah, blah.
I'm like, all right, well, sothere goes that idea of making
it work for us.

SPEAKER_00 (46:35):
I mean, you can really high interest, high uh
yield uh interest yield account.
Like you can always do that.
If it might require you tosacrifice a mill to sit in the
bank while y'all live off ofinterest, and that interest off
of like depending on what'swhat, you could probably be
getting like 50k from that ayear.
Maybe 60.

SPEAKER_04 (46:55):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 (46:56):
So it's kind of like it's one of those things where
it can definitely work.
It's just y'all gotta be on theeverybody gotta be on the same
page.
But yeah, that's why like evenwith the the shopping, it's just
kind of like depending on howmuch it is, it's kind of like
yo, it might be beneficial tonot do all that right now.
Maybe the third year into thethe money making some money.

(47:17):
Now you can have your you couldhave your uh your spouse for
money, like Mrs.
Mrs.
Wade can have her money becausethis is the money that's coming
off an interest account.
And I, you know what I mean?
We living off of that.
Well, you want a monthly stipendof about ten thousand dollars.
Now that sounds more lucrativethan like, yo, can I get fifty
thousand dollars every now andthen?

(47:37):
Like, that's why I said theprotect and provide shit.
Like, let me let me do what Iknow how to do or what I've been
doing, and this is how it'sgonna work.
You're just gonna have tosacrifice three years of you not
getting everything that youwant.
Let's set this shit up, let itoccur some interest, let it you
know, compound.

SPEAKER_03 (47:55):
Because I was like, if we get four million, we pay
off this house, and we just goand buy another house to go live
in, this house could work for usbecause in the area that we in,
we could get two thousand amonth off of it, and all we're
doing is paying the taxes on it,paying another company to manage
the property for us.
So they're gonna take what acouple hundred dollars.

(48:16):
We would end up making per monthand just profits before we gotta
file taxes on it.
Give or take.
Maybe twelve hundred a month.
And I'm like, that is that iswhere all of our other how we
pay off other bills and we don'ttechnically have to work, and we

(48:38):
could just run our businessesand do it and run our
businesses, pretty much, versushaving to go to work.
But the way I see it ain't theway that she sees it.

SPEAKER_00 (48:50):
She she brings up a valid point.
She's uh, you know, like wetalked about it before, like
women feel like one once uh thereason why they gotta work is
because they don't want to becontrolled by a man.
It's just kind of like I getthat aspect, and some men do
that, use money to control awoman, and that's why y'all feel
like y'all got to.
I would never want my woman tofeel that way.
However, um I mean that doesn'tmean you if that's the case,

(49:14):
what makes you think you cancontrol how much I get you?
That doesn't even that partdon't even make any sense.
It's different where it's justlike, yo, like I'm kept, I'm not
working, I'm this, this, andthis.
You're just gonna I could be outthere working, and it's just
like you pay her not to work,but you're already working,
right?
So you can't have it all.

SPEAKER_03 (49:34):
Yeah, I mean, I just like I said, I just look, I I
look at it from the the same wayof she's like, Well, you know,
some guys get the money can andbe controlled.

SPEAKER_00 (49:41):
I'm like, well, yeah, yeah, I'm control I'm
gonna I'm gonna control mymoney.
I I got the it's not like shegot it, and I'm trying to
control her money through her,you know, through her, you know
what I mean?
I it's not one of thosesituations, right?
I'm not control I won it or Iearned my money, so yeah.

SPEAKER_03 (49:59):
I'm controlling my money, the money that I I had to
put into.
So yeah, enough I get it.

SPEAKER_00 (50:07):
I know it's a thing, I know it's a thin, not a thin
line, I know it's a fine linebetween something like that, is
just my number one fear.
Like I'm I'm saying a bunch ofstuff jokingly, but my number
one fear is just like the fuckup a once in a lifetime
situation like that.
So I'm gonna be extra careful.
I'm not even giving myself 10kto go shopping with.
You know what I mean?

SPEAKER_03 (50:27):
Yeah, my issue is always gonna be you you funding
their getaway, them themleaving.

SPEAKER_00 (50:33):
I mean, I do think about that, but it's it's more
or less, it's more or less likeif that was the case, uh the way
I look at it with my wife, ifthat was the case, not my wife,
let's just say a wife, because Iwon't put my shit like my I
don't want to put that outthere.
If you do that, I'm glad I gotrid of your ass.
Thank you.
Because you was never gonna makeme happy in the long run, and

(50:55):
something worse might havehappened.
So if it if it costs 10k, 100kfor you to be like, all right,
I'm leaving you, that's fine.
That's fine.

SPEAKER_03 (51:06):
Well, it's gonna cost you more because now that
she knows she's gonna want herhalf.
And that's all that that thatwas what I was saying was like
it's not a well sir.

SPEAKER_00 (51:16):
You set yourself up in a way where it's gonna be
hard to do that.
I ain't gonna say how you do it.
We I've already named some stuffon this podcast before.

SPEAKER_03 (51:26):
My mama's name.

SPEAKER_00 (51:27):
Well, say hey, there's another way.
Exactly.

SPEAKER_03 (51:32):
But uh put that shit in my mom's bank account.
Mine, don't don't spend this,but it's in your bank account.

SPEAKER_00 (51:37):
It's in your name.

SPEAKER_03 (51:38):
I ain't got no money.
Here's my bank records.
They were like, uh, man, he'sbroke.

SPEAKER_04 (51:43):
Well, we don't see it.

SPEAKER_03 (51:45):
All right.
But that like, she's like, Well,why would why would you?
I said, in in my opinion, I'veheard that same excuse from the
same woman who who done tookdudes to the cleaners.
Oh, yeah, now he came with somemoney.
I ain't gonna do that to him.
Like, I'm not that type of girl.
All of a sudden now, everythinggoing wrong in a relationship,
and you you want your coins.

SPEAKER_00 (52:06):
Or it's like he just acting this type of way, like it
the money ain't being spent, oruh, most of the money ain't been
spent on now.
I'm like, yo, money is a tool.
I I personally see money as likeif I if it's managed the right
way, I can buy back time.
You know what I mean?
Like, I ain't gotta do a bunchof shit.
I ain't gotta cut the grass.

(52:26):
You know what I mean?
I'm looking at it that way.
I can try and you I can dothings, it's not necessarily
what I the stuff I want to buy.

SPEAKER_03 (52:33):
So it's just kind of like and and and not that I
think my wife would, but I'vealready stated that if I I am
not an advocate for telling mywife I got that money.
And mind you, last year, me andher weren't in a good place
anyway.
So if I had came into thatmoney, it would have been like,
all right, good, I can leave,give me half.

(52:53):
And it's like, well, damn, I Imade all this money.
Now you you set for life, and Igotta probably pay y'all more.

SPEAKER_00 (53:00):
Yeah, me and your me and your uh reasons are
different, but they're notwrong.
I I definitely see your point,and that's probably a reason why
I wouldn't either.
I'm basing it off of like, nah,she'll still stay because she
wants she wants to stay for therap.
You know what I mean?
Like, she, you know, she but Ijust don't trust the words.

(53:25):
I just be looking at it like yo,I've seen what she do to money.
I've seen like I'm just like,man, hell no.
Hell no.

SPEAKER_03 (53:35):
I I I I done seen too many dudes get burnt that
way, where it's like they theyfinally get their big pain job
and they good, and they donefound, you know, the wife is all
happy, and now all of a suddenthey're like, oh now we got
divorced.

SPEAKER_00 (53:49):
Like I got I got my big pain job, and then like she
turned around and like startedacting funny, saying I was doing
this, and then she's it's likestuff like that that goes to
bite them in the ass becauseit's kind of like how much money
you think, how long do you thinkyou're gonna get a certain
amount of money out of me?
It's not forever.
Well, alimony's forever.
No, it's not.

(54:10):
It is nah, it's for no.
If you're I I believe if you'reif you're working, yeah, it's
reduced, and it's only for acertain amount of uh years that
you were married.
So let's just say if it waslike, yo, she was making more
than me, how would she getalimony?

SPEAKER_03 (54:28):
It's it they would base it off her off your net
worth.

SPEAKER_00 (54:32):
It ain't that much because she makes more than me.
That's what I'm getting at.
Once everything I at some atsome in some cases, alimony
don't even sound right.
What you want, a hundreddollars?

SPEAKER_03 (54:44):
Let's see.
The length of alimony depends onthe circumstance, also the
state.
Yeah, so if it's in Maryland,general circumstance is uh
typically temporary, though itcan be awarded indefinitely in
rare cases.

SPEAKER_00 (54:56):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 (54:57):
So that means she would have to not be working,
and kids, probably.

SPEAKER_00 (55:01):
Well that what a spouse, I mean that's uh that's
uh uh child support.

SPEAKER_03 (55:06):
That's a different that's a different one, yeah.
And that's only that'stemporary, that's 18 years.
Yeah, but it will be spousalsupport, like a lot of these
women that divorce theirsuperstar boyfriend, husband,
whatever, I mean husbands orwhatever, they get their alimony
and they get the child support,but they don't work.

(55:30):
So it never was working, itbecomes the indefinite award of
alimony the rest of your life.

SPEAKER_04 (55:37):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 (55:38):
So my wife works, and even though they be like,
okay, well, she, you know, itwould be one thing where I would
have to get a good turn.
Like, yeah, I won this money.
I gotta split half with her.
Can we come up with anagreement?

SPEAKER_00 (55:53):
Yeah, I got no agreement, then then yeah, but
y'all should be able to settlethat out of court, though.
My my whole thing is there's noreason to even get lawyers
involved.
What's fair is fair.
So let's just say I won it,right?
And I I I know this is uh goingagainst probably what the
listeners are probably thinkingI'm about to say.
If I won it, I mean, yeah.

(56:15):
It ain't like I earned it,earned it, have you know, with
blood, sweat, and tears andshit.
I could see her getting half.
You know what I mean?
Over whatever it is.
Like if if that's what it, ifthat's what it was gonna be,
because I didn't have the moneyyesterday.
Now, if I earned this money, I'mworking, I'm stacking, I'm
putting stuff to the side, yousee the direct deposits coming
in, and you're working, and youwant half of the money that's in

(56:38):
that account that I work for,and you're working, and I'm
paying all this other shit,that's gonna be a no-go.
That's when I get lawyersinvolved and be like, yo, it
can't be.
And if she wanted half orwhatever have you, I'm gonna be
like, yo, I'm gonna need you tosign this post nup because uh if
you're getting half, these arethe things you can't come back

(56:58):
at a later date and say and door try to retrieve.
Stuff like that.
It's just like you can't, it'sjust like yo, you can't double
dip like that.
Like, oh, um you can't oneminute say a woman and one
minute can't say, you know, menlike to control uh women with

(57:20):
their money, but when thingsdon't go their way, they want
his money.
So and I ain't even got a bunchof I you know, I ain't got
millions of dollars.
I'm just saying in general.
We ain't even gonna say money,we say assets like cars and
maybe the house or some shitlike that.
But I mean it gets tricky.

(57:41):
Like that's I you know anybodyin that situation, I just hope
y'all can do the shit withoutthe lawyers, because it ain't
really that deep.
Yeah, sometimes people just bewanting to hurt other people
financially, and it's just likeoh yeah, that sucks, but it's
just like yo, you're supposed tobe doing it to be happier with a

(58:03):
new prospect, not like, oh, I'majust clean them out and still be
in the same boat emotionally,you know what I mean?
Right.

SPEAKER_03 (58:11):
Uh I need these niggas to score some fucking
touchdown or something.

SPEAKER_00 (58:19):
On that note, uh don't transfer that car over
until you get your money.

unknown (58:25):
Okay.

SPEAKER_00 (58:26):
And if y'all break up, that's your car.
That's your car.
Thank everybody for listening,and uh see you next time.