Wes & DeLaw | My Robot Husband

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Have you ever been compared to someone else in your relationship? That sinking feeling when your partner suggests you should be "more like" someone from their past is something many of us have experienced—and it rarely ends well.

Episode Transcript

DeLaw (00:01):
I had a chick who said one time I need to be more like
Optimus Prime.
Hey, yo you're lying I lied toyou, I lied to you.

Wes (00:09):
You're lying.
I don't know if you just saidit, just for the podcast.

DeLaw (00:13):
No, no no, no, no, so her exact words was when I asked, I
said well, what kind of dudeare you?

Wes (00:18):
You want me to be metallic in taste.
That's what you want in taste.

DeLaw (00:31):
You want in, that's what you want to taste, you want to
taste.
She said it and I kind oflooked at her like what the hell
are you talking about?
And she was like, yeah, youknow, I like my guys to be like
I'll do in prime, because I feellike he's real dominant.
I'm like uh-huh, oh, my God,okay.

Wes (00:45):
Everybody, welcome to another episode of the Accordion
West podcast, where me andD-Law just dropped some money on
the early release of 2K26.
And we feel sorry for our wivesbecause that's what it's about
to be for the next couple monthsstraight, as always.

DeLaw (01:06):
You got me, wes Yep, and you got me.
I still haven't come up with anew name yet.
I guess I'm still just D-LawRight now.
I'm the sober son-in-law, butyou know, it is what it is.

Wes (01:20):
That's just for today.

DeLaw (01:24):
Right now I am, that's just for today.

Wes (01:28):
You know, right now I am, that's just for the next five
minutes.
I mean, you know, in sixminutes we'll see how it takes.

DeLaw (01:34):
Look, I'm too broke to be trying to do anything Listen.
It's brutal.

Wes (01:43):
Yeah, you're the only one, and you know, since the season
is changing and stuff like that,I need to go ahead and do the
stock up.
You need to go ahead and do thestock up before, like, you
start getting the seasonal whatdo you call it?
Seasonal, seasonal, holidayprices for fucking alcohol.

(02:05):
Oh, thanksgiving this is morethan what it usually is.
Christmas this is more thanwhat it usually is.
You know, get that bottle ofchampagne now, let it sit in the
fridge until New Year's.
You know?
Shit like that, yeah, shit likethat.
Hell, yeah, yeah, man, it'sbrutal out here.
I feel like groceries ain't godown yet.

(02:26):
You know, I don't know whateverybody's talking about.
Um, I'm still spending anexorbitant amount of money on
groceries, and it's just me andmy wife, so I know y'all uh,
well, uh y'all you good overthere yeah, I'll put it this way

(02:46):
.

DeLaw (02:47):
Groceries have been.
It's weird because you know mystepson.
He's not supposed to eatprotein, but he has turned 18
and decided he's going to dowhat he wants to do.
So the way we buy food isn'tmatching how we're all eating,
if that makes sense.
Way we buy food isn't matchinghow we're all eating.
That makes sense.

(03:09):
It's like we would buy stuffspecifically for him.
In essence, we were really justcooking for ourselves me and
her and some vegetables andother stuff that he'd eat.
We would do that way.
But now he's just like man, fuckit, we'll do whatever the fuck
I'm going to do.
And it's just like oh Well, Iguess it is what it is.

(03:31):
You know what I mean.
I mean, look, it's his life.
If that's what he wants to do,that's what he's going to do,
there's nobody that's going tobe able to stop him for it.
So if that's what he wants todo, that's what he's going to do
, there's nobody that's going tobe able to stop him for.
So if that's what he chooses todo, you know, just don't hurt

(03:53):
yourself or kill yourself.
You know what I mean mostdefinitely, most definitely so
yeah, that's about it, you knownothing crazy but you know I do
probably wanted to have them payus some money for groceries.

Wes (04:14):
You know that's me yeah man , I just, I just went grocery
shopping and I don't knowalright, cool.

DeLaw (04:33):
and then every other day it's oh, you should go buy this.
I'm like why do I need to keepbuying all this shit like it?
I don't know, I don't know, Idon't know you are saying she
does respect your time, though,right?

Wes (04:55):
I can only hope no, you should have some examples of
like, yeah, she respects my time.
I'm sure you have examples ofthat.

DeLaw (05:10):
We.
I can only hope that she doesrespect my time.
I put it that way I want tobelieve she does.

Wes (05:20):
Do she do things that make you feel like she does not
respect your time?

DeLaw (05:25):
All the time, all the time, okay, all the time.

Wes (05:28):
I guess I just had to ask you the question that way.

DeLaw (05:31):
All the time.
Yeah, it's like oh, it don'tmatter what I'm doing, if it
ain't on her time it's a problem.
I actually do this a while.
I actually do this two minutesago.
You see, I'm in the middle of apodcast here.
I'd be like, babe, do you minddoing this for me while I go and
take care of this?
Real quick, oh yeah, I got you,I get back.

(05:54):
Ain't a lick of things done.

Wes (05:55):
Let it be us though.

DeLaw (05:59):
I couldn't even get you to get this done Like I actually
do one thing.
It's like Lord.

Wes (06:06):
I'm happy to say I don't have that problem with my wife.
I got that problem with everyother woman in my life my sister
, my mom.
It's just be like God dang man.

DeLaw (06:19):
Shoot, my aunt was mad at me because she be wanting to do
pictures when we do all theseevents, family stuff, yeah.
And so when we was on vacationI was like I ain't taking this
fucking picture and I'm like,well, why don't we just, why
don't they ever take the picturebefore we all sit down and eat?

(06:40):
Because in my head, if we takethe picture before we eat,
you're more likely to geteverybody right, because there's
no one that's going to be readyto leave, because they're done
eating.
In my head, it makes completesense.
Now, what risk do you run withthat?
Of course you run risk.
You run the risk of people notshowing up until food ready but

(07:02):
it's still what you eat.
Yeah, but then you know, ifpeople don't want to show up,
people ain't going to show up,and if they're only going to
show up to get food, they'regoing to show up to get food.
You get who you get in thepicture.
It don't got to be everybody.
You wait until after we're alldone.
We're ready to go, ain't nobody.
I ain't trying to sit around,so we go, we.

(07:25):
We go to some row house, texas,yeah, nah, nah, I think it was
Logan's or something.
And first they don't tell usthat they got a whole itinerary
for this thing.

Wes (07:43):
I hate vacations like that.
I was like I ain't got no freetime.
In this bitch, I'm spendingevery moment with a cousin that
I don't really like right now.

DeLaw (07:53):
Not even that.
It was like we get there.
I'm thinking they're like, oh,be there at 1 so we can eat
dinner.
I'm thinking we're going to eatdinner.
Now, if we eat dinner and it'slike we're all about to leave,
let's take a picture.
All right, cool, we only beenin an hour.
We sitting there and they'relike bringing out appetizers.
I'm like I don't want nofucking appetizers.
I'm trying to order my food.
We sitting there waiting for mydrink they're having like, all

(08:15):
right, guys, we're going to singa song.
What?
Why are we singing a song?
And then we got a keynotespeaker and we want everyone who
owns a business this is afamily reunion it's at a
restaurant.
I'm so confused at this pointand everyone who owns a business
stand up and and and tell whattheir business is.

(08:39):
I'm like and I looked at mywife.
I said if I'd were going to dothis, I wouldn't have shown up.

Wes (08:44):
Yeah, that's a little bit much.

DeLaw (08:47):
I wouldn't have shown up, because it's like, if you tell
me to come and eat a lunch andbrunch, whatever, we've been
there an hour and a half, theystill ain't taking our order
because we in the middle doingall this shit so they finally
take our order.
We finally eat Now.
They're like all all right.

(09:07):
Before anyone leaves, pleasemake sure you head to outside so
you can take the picture.
You knew I gave my chick rightto the lady I need.
I need y'all to cash this outreal quick.
Told my wife bring your ass on.
As soon as she gave me thecheck, I was was gone.
Come on, let's roll.
You ain't going to stay forpictures.
Hell, no, we've been here threeor four hours at this point in

(09:31):
a restaurant.
You want me to stand around andtake a picture?

Wes (09:35):
No, hell no.

DeLaw (09:40):
Well, you just left.
You're being a bad influence onyour wife.
No, I'm not.

Wes (09:45):
First of all, how dare you say I're being a bad influence
on your wife?
No, I'm not.
First of all, how dare you sayI'm being a bad influence on you
?
You, an adult, don't do it.
I know what I'm doing.
That's what my aunt said.
Oh, my aunt said that to you.
I'm like hey, my aunt was likeyou're being a bad influence on
her to just leave.

DeLaw (09:59):
She heard.
She heard my aunt was likeyou're being a bad influence on
her to just leave.
She all right, yeah, all right.
I said y'all took so long, itwas time to go.
Well, don't come.
And then, well, don't complainif you're not in any of the
pictures when someone dies, Iwon't, I'm good and look, and

(10:21):
you know, the funny part was IsI didn't even know that they
were looking for a picture of me, like when my grandmother died
in 2019, they were like wecouldn't find no pictures of you
, so we only could find apicture that grandma had of you
from prom.
Oh, okay, why didn't you go onmy Facebook?

Wes (10:40):
Yeah, yeah, it was like well every picture in your
Facebook.
He was holding up a cup ofalcohol or a bottle.
We didn't want to put that ongrandma's.

DeLaw (10:52):
It was a slideshow.

Wes (10:56):
Your only cousin, your only cousin.

DeLaw (11:03):
Look, I look at it this way.
You got all these otherpictures of me everywhere on
social media.
My mother has pictures of melike well, you, we want to take
these because you know?
No, I don't know, and I thoughtI started.
I told him.
I said look, y'all want to takepictures after people are ready
to go.

(11:24):
Y'all gonna get five minutes.
Y'all want to take picturesafter people are ready to go.
Y'all going to get five minutes.
Y'all can't get together.
Hey, babe, come on, get back.
No, we done Y'all taking toolong and we're ready to go.
We'll see y'all next time andwalk over.
Hey, hey, don't put your handson me.
That's not what we're going todo.
That's not what we're going todo.
That's not what we're going todo, because at that point now

(11:46):
you're impeding on my time to gohome.
Yeah, no, we're not.
No, either change.
And then at that you tookpictures, the whole event.
You took pictures, the wholeevent.
You took people's individualfamily pictures, everything.
What the hell do I need to bein a group picture with

(12:07):
everybody for?

Wes (12:10):
It's safe to say that you are very angry about that.

DeLaw (12:15):
No, I ain't angry about it at all.
Put it this way if every time Icome to an event that y'all
gonna be at, we gonna take apicture, best believe I won't be
there you can always be like.

Wes (12:30):
I took my picture before and I sent it to you.
Alright, y'all just shot me inhey, y'all doing wonderful
things right now, so I knowy'all can make that work.
Yeah it looks.

DeLaw (12:41):
Yeah, we didn't see you at the last event.
Oh, cause y'all gonna takepictures, so what you don?
Oh, because y'all want to takepictures, so what you don't know
.
If y'all want to take picturesand when I'm ready to go, y'all
want to hold me up, I ain'tcoming to events.

Wes (12:51):
My wife's family likes taking pictures and shit, but
it's all throughout and neverafter.
I mean I don't like takingpictures at all, but I at least
appreciate that, If appreciatethat If you're doing it all
throughout, I can live with that.

DeLaw (13:06):
Yeah, me too.
If someone says all right, I'mleaving, and this is what
bothers me the most.
Someone might just come and belike oh, I just came to kind of
hang out in a fellowship, butI'm rolling out.
People still get people gettingtheir food, or they're sitting
down and still eating.

Wes (13:28):
Oh, so-and-so's about to leave.
Come on everybody, let's take apicture.
No, that motherfucker.
Yeah, I hate that shit becauseI said look.
I said you look get a pictureof him, him one time.

DeLaw (13:36):
Look, I told him.
I said they got one time,that's it.
This is what we're gonna do.
Y'all can say, oh, he don'twant to come around.
Well, how come you don't comearound?
Because I don't want to have totake a picture because someone
gets up and leave it.
At this point I ain't even eatmy food.
So now I got to get up.
No, well, you need to come out,I'm eating my food.

(13:58):
Take the picture.
She was like well, you know howare you supposed to document?
You were here.
I said yeah, I took a pictureof me on Easter.
Easter was just two months ago,two, three months ago.
Ain't shit changed between thenand now?

Wes (14:13):
Right, I ain't rocking an eye patch like a pirate Right, I
ain't slick raking it out here.

DeLaw (14:22):
Look, even one dude said when his wife got pregnant.
It's like you can't even seethe progression of her pregnancy
because at every event theywent to they took a group
picture.
So it only looked like theywere the same for months at a
time.

Wes (14:38):
Because the belly was being covered.

DeLaw (14:41):
No, because the belly wasn't showing yet, because when
she got pregnant, all thepictures before she started
showing, there's no picturesuntil the baby's here.
So it was like you can't evensee the progression or even like
the growth in the family.
If you're taking a pictureevery event, if you take a

(15:02):
picture once an event like,let's say, an Easter, you know
that's the picture we're goingto be taking.
Cool, at least now you can seethe growth of the family every
Easter.
But to take a picture on Easter, then take a picture on
Memorial Day, then take apicture 4th of July, then take a
picture vacation.

Wes (15:19):
Oh, you've got Juneteenth and then 4th of July, then
you've got Juneteenth.

DeLaw (15:29):
Then they're going to team and then then they were in
another another event, anotherevent in labor day.
Then you got thanksgiving likeyou're taking.
You're taking almost 10 picgroup pictures a year.
It doesn't show anything, itjust shows you're taking
pictures.
Yeah, if you're going to takepictures while we're there, take
pictures while we're there, youdon't.
While we're there, we don'tneed to have pictures, a group
picture, or take a group picturein the very beginning, right

(15:49):
before we pray to eat food.
All right, everybody, let's gooutside and take a picture so we
can eat.

Wes (15:54):
Do you think, in a relationship, comparing your
partner to someone else couldbenefit you?

DeLaw (16:01):
Hell, no, why not Boy?
That might as well just be withthat person then.

Wes (16:09):
No, we didn't say it was another romantic interest.
It could be fucking Mars fromthe Simpsons.
I'm just saying Nope, no, nope.

DeLaw (16:19):
Nope, setting yourself up with the wrong expectation.

Wes (16:22):
Hmm.

DeLaw (16:24):
I'll tell you that.

Wes (16:24):
All right, heard this story itself up with a wrong
expectation.
I'll tell you that.
Alright, hear this story.
Hear this story.
This guy wants to know is hebeing a little insecure because
his wife compared him to herex-husband?

(16:47):
Yeah, he says I told my wife tonever compare me to her
ex-husband again due to hergiving me criticism in a
negative manner and implying Ishould be better like him in
said scenario and implying Ishould be better like him in
said scenario.
Me and my wife were planning tohave another kid, but we both

(17:10):
came to the agreement that weneeded to focus on the current
ones more.
She brought up some validpoints and so did I.
It was a good and constructiveconversation.
Fast forward a couple of monthsand we are having a conversation
where she says my ex was moreactive with the kids, even when
he was stressed.
He was also keeping them onpoint with folding clothes and

(17:32):
organization.
He also made sure that theyalways had their hair in tip-top
shape, then finishing withthese are the issues.
And then she finished withthese are the issues I have with
your parenting.
That needs to be fixed, he says.
Now I will say the criticism wasgood and I noted that, the fact

(17:52):
.
I noted that fact and startedworking on such, but it deep.
It deeply bothers me that sheis coming.
I'm sorry.
It deeply bothers me that she'scomparing me to another person
who she was, who was supposedlyhorrible and a bad partner, and
implying that if the if I didthe things better like him, she
would feel more comfortable withus having another kid.

(18:14):
I told her the same point couldhave been made without saying
my ex did these things betterand she went off on me and
called me insecure.
Have I had my moment ofinsecurity?
Yes, but on this topic I do notagree that this was that it was
insecure of me by not wantingto be compared to her ex and how

(18:37):
he did things better.

DeLaw (18:40):
You ain't wrong for that one.

Wes (18:42):
You say he's wrong.

DeLaw (18:44):
Hmm, I don't want to be compared to no one's ex,
especially if you say they're ashitty person.
Right, right, if she said, oh,he was such a mean person and
this, this, and that that'ssomething different.
Yeah, if she compared me toyour ex and he said that he was
a shitty person.

Wes (19:04):
So the thing is the yeah, she could have definitely said
this is this, this and that, andshe didn't have to bring up the
ex.
He brings up an excellent pointlike yo, that's the part that
made me insecure.
Yes, that it is okay.
So here's the thing.
It's okay to be feelinginsecure is a feeling.

(19:24):
It's about what you do withthat feeling.
Right, that's what always getssomebody in trouble, or don't
get them in trouble.
It's about what you do with thefeeling he felt insecure
because you compared him toanother guy that you said was
horrible.
So he's like yo, am I like thismotherfucker?
You just left.
You know what I mean.
And yeah, she could have didwithout saying that I mean mean,

(19:44):
but at the same time, you know,I get her concerns, like if
they agreed upon, you know,focusing on the current children
before having another.
Like I get that.
Like you know, and she, sheframed that the wrong way.
Like my ex was more active withthe kids, even when he was
stressed.
Like, yeah, that's something Igot to work on.

(20:06):
That's what we talked aboutpreviously, a couple months ago.

DeLaw (20:10):
Are they his kids?

Wes (20:14):
I don't, maybe one of them is his maybe one is his but
that's crazy, though.
Just think if they both wasn'this.
And then she's like yo, blah,blah, blah, blah, blah.
It's kind of like yes and no,because when you sign up to that
you sign up for the wholeshebangabang.
But we know how this thingworks.
Sometimes, you know, as a man,you might not feel comfortable

(20:38):
with the, the, the parenting, asyou will, I don't, you know.
So there's going to be certainparts you're not comfortable
with.
I know some some guys in thatrole.
That's the, you know, stepdador whatever they, they, they
strictly in it for the fun.
They lead the, the, theparenting and the spankings to
the mom, like, look, I'm justtrying to stay on these kids

(20:58):
good side.
They go back and forth to theirdad.
You know, every other weekendand stuff like that, like I need
this shit to be smooth overhere.
Yeah, I too doing the parentsand I'm like the uncle that just
live here, but that's not theuncle.
You know what I mean.
It's like one of thosesituations and I'm like but I
mean yo, he, he reacted the theway any any guy would react like

(21:22):
yo.
Don't just imagine if you didthat to a woman like yo, my
ex-wife she used to be in thismotherfucker.
Just you know, not knowingcooking in the in the kitchen,
she was helping with the kids.
She was helping with theirhomework.
My girls had their hair done.
They wouldn't want their hairdone.
Man, that woman might murderyou or you might cause her to

(21:42):
have a fucking breakdown, justdepending on the type of woman
she is.
I'm going more or less.
She might try to murder you.

DeLaw (21:50):
I'm closer to.
She'll murder you.

Wes (21:51):
She'll murder you, she would murder you she would
murder you.
Yeah, I, um I uh, she wouldmurder you.
Yeah, I, um I uh.
His reaction was uh, hisreaction is on point.
But the fact that his wife waslike um, her counter argument
was like oh, you're just beinginsecure, it's just like yo but

(22:14):
that's that's, that's yourcounter argument but that's like
yo.
But that's it, that's, that's,that's your counter, that's.
But that's like the dismissiveshit.
That's the dismissive shit isjust like yo.
He already agreed to it.
So it's not like you, it's notlike it's not like.
He came to her and was like Idon't know what you're talking
about.
This, this and that this islike, yeah, I need to work on

(22:36):
those things.
And Dan comes to her and saysyo, I'd rather you just not
compare me to him.
No, you're just being insecure.
It's more or less like no, dowhat the fuck?
I said dude, I don't want tohear no lip.
That's how that shit sound,because I'm like yo.
If I agree, yo, I need to workon this.
You criticism and I said youknow what the next time this
comes about.

(22:56):
That's not.
You know what I mean.
Don't throw him in there.
I am with you now.
You shouldn't be thinking abouthow he did things.
That means I'm only here tohelp you do things and you're
trying to get in how you fit in.
That's a scary situation.

DeLaw (23:16):
That's not where it is.

Wes (23:19):
Yeah, but you know, do you?
That's a scary situation.
That's not where it is.
Yeah, but you know, do you?
Do?
You think there's a like inyour personal life?
What's the line between givingvalid feedback, or and, and
using somebody like to compareyou as a benchmark or a weapon
against you, like if they wasgoing to mention someone, what,

(23:41):
what, how could they mention it,and you'd be like you know what
?
I don't feel bad about that.
I don't feel threatened.
You did it in a respectable way.

DeLaw (23:49):
Not doing it.

Wes (23:50):
So they, they, they can't mention.
So on your head.
They can't mention nobody.
They can't mention nobody, likenobody not Homer Simpson, not
Tim the Two-Man, taylor, nobody.
They can't mention nobody.
I don't want to hit nobodyelse's name.

DeLaw (24:05):
How else?

Wes (24:06):
you going to get your example.

DeLaw (24:08):
You mentioning someone else's name in the process of
any of this means that clearly Iwasn't enough for you to begin
with.
So clearly I'm just here assome sort of comfort person.
Well, I need you to be morelike.

Wes (24:29):
But Tim the tool man, Taylor ain't a real person.

DeLaw (24:32):
Well, no, no, no.
I had a chick who said one timeI need to be more like Optimus
Prime.

Wes (24:39):
Hey, you're lying, I lied to you.

DeLaw (24:41):
I lied to you.
You're lying.

Wes (24:45):
I don't know if you just said this for the podcast.

DeLaw (24:47):
No, no, no, no, no.
The hard part was I asked.
I said, well, what kind of dudedo you want?

Wes (24:52):
You want me to be metallic in taste.
That's what you want in taste.

DeLaw (24:59):
You be metallic in taste, that's what you want to taste.
She said it and I kind oflooked at her like what the hell
are you talking about?
And she was like, yeah, youknow, I like my guys to be like
I've been primed because I feellike he's real dominant.
I'm like, uh-huh, oh, my gosh,okay, I was lost.
Uh-huh, oh, my gosh, okay, Iwas lost.

(25:21):
How old were you?

Wes (25:23):
How old was she?

DeLaw (25:25):
I had just transferred to UMBC, so I had to be like 20.
She was your age.

Wes (25:31):
If she said fucking optimist, was she your age.

DeLaw (25:34):
Yeah.

Wes (25:35):
Jeez man.
I want to say Transformers oneit just came out with shia
labeouf came well with shialabeouf.

DeLaw (25:44):
Yeah, so that's why I'm like when she said it.
I'm like huh.
Like it was such a very randomthing in my head for someone to
say, but I was just like huh,you want me to be like who?

Wes (26:03):
she said because he's dominant.
That was her.
That was her.

DeLaw (26:05):
That was her he's a dominant person and this, that
and the other thing, and youknow, that's how I would expect
my guys to be like to sweep meoff my feet and do this.
I'm just like it's crazy yo.

Wes (26:21):
So okay, okay, okay.
I have even more questions.
So you said you rather not heara name or anybody.
This is an actual fucking fakeass robot slash cartoon.
Did you still feel the same waylike yo, don't be asking me to
be like what?
If I want to be like Megatron,what if I?
Same way, like yo don't beasking me to be like what?

DeLaw (26:39):
if I want to be like Megatron.

Wes (26:41):
What if I want to be like Bumblebee?
Don't tell me what I need to bemore like.
So is it the fact that she, isit the fact that you feel like
she telling you?
Or the fact that you feel likeyo, I don't want to hear that
shit.

DeLaw (26:56):
The nigga ain't real.

Wes (26:57):
Well, yeah, okay, the nigga ain't real.
Besides, I'm not being realBecause I'm trying to see if
there's a fine line between likeyo, do I have an example of
what I should be doing, orshould I be threatening, because
I think that's where it comesin.
Are you threatening me?
Are you going to be withOptimus Prime, or is it just you
trying to give me an example oflike yo, optimus be doing his

(27:21):
damn thing and maybe you couldhave me in another?

DeLaw (27:28):
joint if you act like Optimus, like I'm just not.
I took it as when I was told,oh yeah, I would be more, like I
want to get more like OptimusPrime, I took it as like what
the hell are you talking about?
Why are we talking about?
Oh my gosh, if she had saidLawrence Fishburne and Boys in

(27:48):
the Hood, okay.

Wes (27:51):
I just asked you that, which is so okay so let's just
say it's Furious.

DeLaw (27:56):
Let's just say it's Furious and she said just say
it's Furious.

Wes (27:58):
And she said yo, I want you to act more like Furious, which
is Lawrence Fishburne from Boysin the Hood.
What you gonna say, you gonnahave a problem with that
Lawrence Fishburne in Boys inthe.
Hood, true, true, true true.

DeLaw (28:14):
Look, if I was, look, I already know if we would have
told a woman like I need to bemore like uh and I think it's
how you said no, no, no, I thinkit's no matter how I think,
it's no, I think it's how yousay it.

Wes (28:30):
I think it's how you say it .
I don't.
I, you don't start off bysaying who do you say want
angela fishburne, and where andwho?
Angela bassett, and I mean Isay angela fishburne, angela
bassett and what I don't know,and angela bassett, and I don't
know what.

DeLaw (28:48):
I'm not asking what's?
Yeah, uh, I don't know.

Wes (28:53):
Let's just say angela bassett and 9-1-1, because I
just, I just see, okay, so let'sjust say Angela Bassett and
9-1-1, but what, what?
What trait?
Let's see?
Let me give you an example.
So let's just say, yo, she's avery uh, she's very proactive.
You just wanted to be proactiveand shit, or whatever, I don't
fucking know.

(29:14):
I'm not starting with hey, Iwant you to be like more like.
You know, I start, I'll talk toher like yo but that's how the
article started.

DeLaw (29:22):
That sounded like she said to him like oh, I'm more
like she gave, she gave she gaveexamples of what he needs to do
.

Wes (29:29):
I think that's cool.
However, it's the fact thatit's her ex is her ex-husband.
I feel like you can get a passif it was like yo, you know how,
like, sometimes we'll bewatching Young Sheldon and the
dad be like this, this, this,this and this.
That's how I envision us.
I think you can get, I thinkshe can get away with that.
I say Young Sheldon I don'tknow why, cause that's at the

(29:51):
top of my head, don't even watchthe show, but but you get what
I'm saying.
It's kind of like yo, youpresent this shit, you present
the cookie shit.
Like yo, she, you know, be alittle bit more proactive.
I noticed this, this and thishappened blah, blah, blah, blah,
blah.
And it just reminded me, likewhen I was watching 9-1-1, I saw

(30:13):
Angela Bassett and I'm like yo,that's kind of like how you
know, I envision you.
I see you that way because I'veseen those traits in you and
I've seen you do it sometimes,but lately you've been slacking.
Real easy to do.
People just don't know how totalk to people.
She went straight for this.
Ain't what you doing.
My ex nigga did that.
That's crazy.
I would never, even if it wasmy mom, I'm not going to say
well, miss Janice up the streetdid that, you don't be doing

(30:34):
this.
It's about how you talk topeople.
She ain't showing.
I'll talk to people, right, andthen to dismiss the shit, all
right.

DeLaw (30:41):
that's wild, the optimist , prime shit though hey look,
look, it was wild when I heardit.
I'm like optimist prime.

Wes (30:48):
The most I got was uh, I want you to have more thug
appeal.
That didn't last with her.
That's the most I've evergotten in that.
No, that's not true.
Uh, yeah, that is true.
She said thug appeal, but I'vegotten.
I've ever gotten in that?
No, that's not true.
Yeah, that is true, she saidthug appeal, but I've gotten.
I've always gotten this fromevery woman Like be more
emotionally available, and blah,blah, blah, blah, blah.
Like and give me examples.

(31:08):
How could I get mad at that?
I know I knew I wasn'temotionally available, but you
telling me, if a woman told youthat and they say, yo, be more
emotionally available, you knowhow, like, how max will be
singing about this, this, thisand this, and I just imagine
that that's what I want my loveto be like, and your ass is
gonna say go be with that nigga.
Then that's what you're tellingme and rather than trying to

(31:30):
fix the situation, you will belike go be with that nigga and
look, especially if you compareme to a whole another.

DeLaw (31:36):
Okay, let's go back to the simpsons.

Wes (31:42):
I want you to be like how Milhouse is towards Lisa.
I want you that much investedin me and I feel like you're not
invested in me as a person.
Now how the fuck can you be madat Milhouse?
You gonna tell her go be withMilhouse.
Then, you fucking nerd, that'swhat you gonna say Exactly.

(32:06):
You not gonna say it.
You gonna take thatconstructive criticism and be
like yo, milhouse, do be.
You know, coming up with theflowers and being romantic and
shit you a little bit more.
You a little bit stalkerish.
But you know I'll leave thenerdy shit out.

DeLaw (32:26):
Yeah, what I'm looking at , this build I just created.

Wes (32:29):
Oh my God, Come on man.

DeLaw (32:32):
Hey look, milhouse loved that girl, even man.
Look, look, if the Simpsonsdidn't go off the air.

Wes (32:40):
The Simpsons is still on the air.
What are you talking?

DeLaw (32:42):
about.
They said it's the last season.

Wes (32:44):
No, they didn't.

DeLaw (32:45):
Yes, they did.
No, that's what they weresaying.
They said it's the last seasonfor the Simpsons.
I was reading an article.

Wes (32:52):
When did, like two months ago, I got looking into that.
I don't believe that to be true, but I look into it they were
like, yeah, I know they did alittle.

DeLaw (33:02):
They said they did a future episode where Marge was
dead and you saw everybodygrowing up and I'm like why
would they take the Simpsons offthe air?
Simpsons has been on the airfor almost 30 years.
Them little niggas ain't evergrown up.
I don't even think theyadvanced a grade yet.
Nah, they haven't ever grown up.

Wes (33:18):
I don't even think they've matched the grade yet?
not at all, not at all but, youknow what else is crazy about
that?
The whole thing I read, like,how comfortable was she to bring
up her ex, though, like, doesthat that kind of also kind of

(33:39):
means that you probably stillgot feelings for that
motherfucker, because why wouldthat even come back up?
And it makes me think, like youknow, like sometimes you hear
women be like, oh, they be soturned on on their husband or
their man be doing, you know,being daddy and stuff like that.
You might got a littlesituation like that, like where
she, like you know what, I don'tsee him being daddy, so I ain't
really turned on like that.
She might got a littlesituation like that, like, was
she like you know what, I don'tsee him being daddy, so I ain't

(34:00):
really turned on like that, orthis, this, and that I need him
to do that more Maybe.
Or she still got something goingon with her ex-husband, because
there's no way.
Why bring?
I mean, you kind of know whatI'm saying.
Why bring that up?
If the roles were reversed, webring that up, our wife won't be
like yo, you fucking her orsomething, which means be more

(34:21):
like her.
Right, you thinking about her?

DeLaw (34:28):
it's a whole lot of mess.
You don't want to get into hell?
Nah, hell, nah, a whole lot ofmess.

Wes (34:37):
Don't, don't even say, just leave it where it is yeah, it's
kind of like for her to saythat it's just like yo.
I don't know either, evenshorty, slow war, just because
it's not like yo.
If he's horrible and yeah, hewasn't a good partner, and this,
this and that, if you're sayinghe was a good dad but just not

(34:57):
a good partner, that still don'tmake it even better.
Because it's kind of like yo.
He shouldn't be even brought upin that manner in this house.
So I don't know, man, peopleare uh, people just gotta learn

(35:18):
how to talk to people.

DeLaw (35:20):
Yeah.

Wes (35:22):
And, to be honest, like you know, you know how they say
conversation is everything, notconversation everything.
Communication is everything.
Sometimes the way wecommunicate causes these issues
before and they're not even realissues.
They're like fake fuckingissues.
There's been so many times Ididn't say something to my wife
or whatever.
Have you, and I ain't mean tosay it a certain type of way,

(35:42):
and I knew the way that she tookit.
And boom, uh, we're in thewhole discussion for about three
hours, right, and I know you'vebeen there where you, like man,
I shouldn't have said that shitbecause I ain't mean it.
And now and now you can't evenfight the fight because you
don't even believe in whatyou're fighting for, because I
ain't mean to say that in thefucking first place.
It's just like yo if I defendit.

(36:03):
It's like I meant to say it,but I didn't even mean to say it
, just said the wrong two wordstogether, right, yeah, so yo,
that's one thing I gotta getbetter at is communication.
I don't even, I don't even havethose problems.

DeLaw (36:20):
I think.
I mean, I get given an example,but I think that you know, as a
woman, they can give an examplewithout referencing someone who
they say was a shittyindividual.
Yes, that's the I say that,because there's no way you're

(36:41):
going to tell me that I'm that.

Wes (36:47):
I'm just this horrible person she didn't say he was
horrible in essence if you'rereferencing that guy yeah, yeah.

DeLaw (37:00):
There's no way you're going to tell me I'm just this
horrible person and then I'mbeing compared.
In essence, that's what you'rereally saying to me is I'm
horrible.
Yeah, that's really looking atit from that standpoint.

Wes (37:17):
I mean, she did say in a certain regard though.
So the thing is, you canunderstand how and why he got in
his feelings, but at the sametime, even though she
communicated toxically andharshly, she did say with the
kids.
She didn't say with me.
All she's saying is like yo, hedid these things.

(37:40):
That's the only example she got, because those are her kids.
It's still a thin line.

DeLaw (37:52):
Think about if he was to say that to her it would turn
into.
So what you're saying is I'mjust a horrible ass bitch.
You already know that when yousay something.

Wes (38:02):
But we also know that we don't all men and women don't
play by the same rules.
So, yeah, it's not going to bea one.
For one thing, we know they canget away with that shit because
they jump straight to being intheir head quickly.
We jump to being in our headtoo, but jumped straight to
being in the head quickly.
We jumped to being in our headtoo, but it takes a little bit
more time before we get insideof our head, most of us.
So it's one of those thingswhere it's not right on either

(38:23):
way.
But we yeah, it's just in thisparticular situation.
It's the ex-husband shouldn'thave been brought up in general.
She could have said all thatshit without that and it would
have came across the right way.
That's how I feel.
That's how I view it.

DeLaw (38:45):
She could have said it differently, but she said it how
she said it.
She expects you to take it thatway.

Wes (38:56):
Yeah, and, like I said, the dismissiveness after was like
yo, you just it that way, yeah.
And, like I said, thedismissiveness after was like yo
, you just you're just beinginsecure.
It's just like, alright, now Ifeel like you don't respect me,
right.
So, yeah, now we about to havethis fucking conversation
because I'm not being insecure.
You caused an insecurity.
Being insecure is like you'reperpetual, you know you're

(39:18):
perpetually insecure, like everylittle thing makes you unsure
about yourself.
You made me unsure about myselfwith your words.
That is the conflict and it'skind of like some women they can
dish that shit out, but when ithappens to them it's just like
it's the end of the world, likemen be be.
You know, in a relationship we,like I said, inadvertently we

(39:41):
do that to each other like, say,son, you'd be like damn, it
makes you unsure about somethings.
It's up to the other person toyou know, self-correct that yeah
, self-correct their actions andcorrect the, the issue within
the, the bond and shit.
Yeah, I wish I could, just notI wish because I would, but it'd
never be okay.
Just to tell my mom you justmanaged to get out of there Like

(40:03):
you're tripping.
Or the blanket statement oh,you being crazy man, what?

DeLaw (40:08):
what.

Wes (40:14):
That is like a couple hours of just like yo now I'm not on
2K, I can't go nowhere.
I need to fix you here becauseI don't know how to talk to her.

DeLaw (40:24):
Not only that, but it turns into you're going to be
sleeping with both your eyesopen.

Wes (40:30):
Well, listen, she got a way to attack me in my sleep, then
I don't need to be with her.
She better attack me now.

DeLaw (40:41):
I ain't got time to be doing that.
You gonna wait till I'm asleep.

Wes (40:44):
I ain't playing that game with my wife I ain't saying play
the game, I'm just saying likeyo, come on now.
There's no way.
There's no way, I'm gonna.
I'm gonna let him say shorty,don't respect him, and they

(41:05):
probably not his kids.
And the crazy thing is youtalking to him like that because
y'all want to have another kid,but that sounds like them two
ain't his, and you bitching athim about how to take care of
your kids that you share withyour ex-husband, like your
ex-husband did, and I'm going totell you this stuff further she
all the way in the wrong.

DeLaw (41:24):
In that case, she might as well just say um, I don't
want to have no more kids, ifthat's what it is then that's
what it is.

Wes (41:38):
She just did a nitpicky thing like I ain't having no
more kids like trying to.

DeLaw (41:42):
You know it's not.
Oh, I want to make it so thatour relationship is bad, but it
might be.
I don't want no more kids andshe doesn't know how to say it,
because maybe he, because itdidn't say that.
Oh right, maybe he wants hisown, he wants his kids, he wants
his own child with her andshe's already like I'm tired of
raising kids and it might, itmight be, it might be that see

(42:05):
the whole thing.

Wes (42:06):
When she said help with the hair, I'm like, unless my wife
is like if I got a daughter orwhatever, have you, unless she
like can't do it, that is theonly time that I'm trying to do
something like that with mydaughter, my sons, you know, you
give them the brush, you showthem what to do and you, you
know you check them out everymorning like did you, did you do
what I showed you to do?
Your girls, your daughters is alittle different because you

(42:27):
got to get in there in order todo that effectively.
But it's kind of like yo, thatshould.
I ain't going to say thatshould be her job, but it's just
like yo.
You said hair and foldingclothes, that's a, that's
something that she could be.
If they know how to do thatalready, then why aren't you

(42:49):
making sure that they do it aswell?
And if they were doing it beforewith the ex-husband, what
stopped?
The ex-husband had that voiceof like hey, didn't I say get in
there, hold the fucking, getyour ass in the shot, like that
type of thing.
But at the same time, if thisstepdaddy, like I said, you

(43:11):
don't, some of them don't feelcomfortable just doing that they
want to be there for the funshit.
And if the parents you know thefather's still in the life, let
the dad, you know, discipline.
I'm just here, you know, bangout your ex-wife, you know that
type of thing.
That's what I'm here for tolook after the family while I'm
here.
That's how some of them takethat approach.

(43:31):
Maybe he is taking thatapproach and she's like yo, you
need to do more than just, youknow, fuck me and look after the
household and shit.
Yeah.

DeLaw (43:44):
I get it, but there's a way to say it.
I mean me and my wife.
We talk about it all the timebecause it's not.
You know, she might be like,she's like I don't know if I
want more kids, but it's one ofthose things where she's open to
it.
But there's certain things youexpect that if you're going to
have another kid and these arethings A, b, c, d, e that if

(44:09):
you're, if we're going to haveanother kid and he's a thing a,
b, c, d, e, f, that I expected,yeah, but there's a way to say
versus you gotta be like myex-husband, yeah, and to be
honest, I think everybody,everyone in a relationship,
should have that condition.

Wes (44:20):
That should be an ongoing conversation, because sometimes
your, your thought process,change when it comes to certain
things.
Like at one point it was youknow, know, as you get older,
you think one way about aparticular quote, unquote,
gender roles or what you shouldbe doing or what you're able to
do.
You know you might move up inyour career and you're like you
know what?
Well, maybe you can stay homenow and y'all need you to work,

(44:41):
whatever, whatever, whatever.
Or maybe you need to do thisand we need to.
You know things change.
It should always be a ongoing,evolving conversation when it
comes to that shit Cause I knowthings change on my end all the
time.
So I was like me and my wifetalking about that Like an open,
a never ending dialogue, and Iflip flop all the time.

(45:05):
I flip flop all the time.
I flip flop all the fuckingtime.
So I don't know, man, I don'tknow what I would do in that
situation.
I do know what I would do inthat situation.
I wouldn't be like you in theOptimus Prime situation, I

(45:25):
probably would have saidsomething petty too, like well,
nah, I'm not going to say thatand get my feelings hurt.
I was about to say some stupidshit like well, am I fucking you
too?
Like does that need any work?
You like the way he do it, likethat's some petty shit.
And if she actually turnedaround and say, well, actually
you should be man, I don't know.

(45:45):
That's why I said learning howto communicate, you, choosing to
be petty towards somebody willget your feelings hurt and not
even hurting their feelings.
So it's like, don't even openup that fucking can of worms,
like hell.
Nah, but yeah, that was just acommunication messed up.
Communication messed up, damn.

(46:10):
He should have said somethingabout his Communication missed
up.
Communication missed up, damn.
He should have said somethingabout his ex-girl.
Well, my ex-girl used to.
Nah, I'm going right back tobeing petty.
Anyway, yeah, man, that shit isunfortunate.

DeLaw (46:30):
Yeah, yeah, that shit is unfortunate.

Wes (46:33):
Yeah, shit happens it's going to continue to happen.
Well, how do I ask thisquestion, um, do you think in
their situation?
Well, you already said that.

(46:53):
You said you think she don'treally want to have kids anymore
.

DeLaw (46:56):
I don't think so.

Wes (46:59):
A two way, three point snipe in high five if you guys
can't already figure out, 2k26has come out recently and, yeah,
that's how this podcast getswhen 2k is in session it's for 9

(47:22):
months that is in session forme 9 months the whole year for
me because D-Law quits rightafter the NBA season stops.
The NBA season stops.

DeLaw (47:33):
The NBA season stops, I stop, and or the Pacers are
eliminated from playoffs.

Wes (47:37):
Oh, my gosh Forgot about that one, that's it.

DeLaw (47:42):
Forgot about that one, but I mean, look, women have
this thing about.
They don't want to hurt yourfeelings by telling you how they
really feel, because a lot oftimes and me and my wife had
this same discussion like shewasn't before we got married oh,
I don't care, we can haveanother kid, if you want, we can

(48:04):
try, blah, blah, blah.
Then one day it'll flip to Ireally don't want no more kids.
You know, you want kids.
I honestly really don't wantkids.
And it flies back and forth.
And a lot of times what womenwill do is they'll try to
nitpick at certain things, tosay you're not prepared for
another kid, versus just sayingI really don't't want to.

(48:26):
If it happens, it happens, butif it doesn't, I ain't crying
over it.
Yeah, there's a they for us.
We'll just tell you bitch, Ijust don't want to grill today,
I'm tired of grilling.
Like you want me to grill andgrill and grill, but you want to
sit on that hot ass stove anddo it.

(48:46):
But versus them being like well, you know, let's say they're
the grillers.
Well, you know, like it's kindof warm outside and you know, I
think I'd rather just cookinside because I think it'll be
a little bit easier, versussaying I just want to grill
outside.
They'll just try to find a wayto like try to piece it together
.

Wes (49:04):
Like well, a way to like try to piece it together like
well, you know what well that'swhat shorty should have in this
situation.

DeLaw (49:08):
She didn't do that oh, I didn't really want to grill, but
you know you could go and grill.
You know, like my ex-husband,he used to grill all the time,
like no she's your time to learnthe group, that is, would you
get?

Wes (49:20):
what I'm saying like that, yeah, yeah instead of just
saying nigga, I don't.

DeLaw (49:30):
You know why am I doing all the grilling?
And you're the man.
You're here, you know what Imean.
It's one of those things.
Why am I doing all the thingswith the kids and you're here?
It's just one of those.
I'm going to advance with thisbill.
Okay, I'm going to say all thisbuild.
Okay, I'm going to show youAll-time corner Gerald Wallace,
16-17,.

(49:50):
Kawhi Leonard, an OG out ofBayou.

Wes (49:56):
You said that wrong, that name wrong.

DeLaw (49:58):
Out of Bayou.

Wes (49:59):
No, anobly.

DeLaw (50:01):
Anobly, there we go, I'm an OG.

Wes (50:05):
Mm-hmm.

DeLaw (50:06):
My go-to bat is off the ball.
Pass challenger, glove.
Top attributes perimeterdefense still free throw.
I'm an elite wing defender Timeinterception perfectly Elite
above the rim, finisher inunlimited range beyond the arc.
My weakness is I can't musclethrough traffic.

Wes (50:27):
Good luck.

DeLaw (50:30):
I have no idea.
I don't know what it's going tobe like.

Wes (50:35):
Yeah.

DeLaw (50:36):
Is that bad?

Wes (50:37):
Hey you rich.

DeLaw (50:40):
You need strength.
Yeah, you do, Damn Well you'rea center you need strength.
I'm a small forward.
Yeah, I'm a power forward.
I got a power forward're acenter.

Wes (50:49):
You need strength.
I'm a small forward.
Yeah, I'm a power forward.
I got a power forward.

DeLaw (50:52):
In the center you need strength.
If I was a center, I would havestrength.
I mean for one weakness musclethrough traffic.
I can live with it because I'veseen everybody else's stats
from their point guards and allthat, and they don't have a lot
of strength compared to them.
They just got enough to getthat strong handle, yeah.

(51:15):
So yeah, All right, I'm goingto rock with this build.
For right now I ain't going toplay with it.
I'm going to think of somethingelse and see what happens.
Yeah, and go from there.
I'm not going to put no moneythis year.
I'm not putting no money into abill that I'm not sold on.

Wes (51:40):
Famous last words of D-Law.
Famous last words, we'll see.

DeLaw (51:46):
See how I articulated that.
Right, I didn't say I wish 2Kwas like NBA Live 2006, where
you can make all 99s.
Come on, I ain't gonna lie.

Wes (51:59):
You should be able to do that, but how else will the 2K
get their money?
Because if you did that at thatpoint it's just based off of
skill.
It should be parameters.
You know, like every uh playergot a, a rating uh for like
their 2k rating and shit likethat.
It should literally just kindof be that here's the ratings.
You can only choose a ratingthat are current, that is

(52:21):
current within the nba.
Yeah, if you want to have acertain type of play style, yeah
, simple, simple or they shouldgive it, should mimic, it should
literally mimic NBA players,like if you want to do the park
shit or whatever, have you Nowyou can dress them up and do
whatever the fuck you want to doand shit.

DeLaw (52:37):
But Like everybody said, that's done the comparisons.
If you put your attributes youhave for your player into a real
NBA like, create your player,put it on an NBA team, you're
not a 99.
You're only a 99 in my career.
So I think there needs to besome sort of balance out that

(53:02):
that makes it's like, in orderto be a 99, like if you look at
who's 99 in the NBA and you wantto create a order to be a 99,
like if you look at who's 99 inthe NBA and you want to create a
player to be a 99, you shouldbe allowed to do those things.
But the kicker would be you gotto fill out more stats.
You get what I'm saying.

(53:22):
Yeah, so you know how.
Like, if you really look atsome of the stuff that they have
as far as the stats they have,they have probably like one or
two more stats that they add to.
And you should be, you know,kind of go there with it Like,
okay, if you're this height,based on who's the best player
at that height, that size orwhatever you're capped off at

(53:48):
whoever is the best at thatposition, you know, and current
NBA, not all times because youknow you get a 6'9 Larry Bird
bill who can shoot and doeverything, you end up having
very elite players, but I thinkhonestly, that's what 2K needs.
I think 2K needs.

(54:09):
Yeah, I think 2K needs to startthere.

Wes (54:20):
Yeah, maybe.
Or EA.
Yeah, If they can get thatlicense back.

DeLaw (54:30):
What is this?

Wes (54:31):
out of bounds.

DeLaw (54:31):
That's the name of the storyline oh, okay, but yeah,
yeah, that's I think it needs tobe.
It needs to be some comparison,like if I put my player up
against and I'm creature playerthing, and it should match up
one to one, and then what thatdoes is, yes, it does make a lot

(54:54):
of players become a whole lotbetter.
But then that's when you startadding in tendencies and all
those things, that all thoseother attributes I guess they
figure.
If it's going to be like that,you know all those other
attributes.

Wes (55:08):
I guess they figure.
If it's going to be like that,you might as well just go play a
quick game with the Rockets orsomething.

DeLaw (55:16):
Yeah, well, no, because like everyone said, if I put my
stats in there and all of asudden my player is only at 85,
but he's at 99 on here, thenwhat are we doing?
You can put restrictions towhere this is what your player
will be at a 99.
It won't make the game anydifferent.

(55:37):
It really turns the game intosome of the older 2Ks where you
can create a player that cantechnically do everything but it
will be dominant in a skill.
Yeah, it'll be like you, you,you might, everybody might be
80s defense and 80s and dunkingon people.

(55:58):
But then you've got that leadway where you could make a
player an elite passer and score, or elite defender and dunker,
where the Duncan is 90, but thenyou still got to kind of
balance it out because you, ifyou want that 99 three pointer
it's going to cost you to get itwhere it's going to cost other

(56:21):
stats It'll make.
You know, I think they couldmake it work, but I think they
just try to.
They try to limit it, to makeit so that it's putting your
money.
Yeah, collect their money.
Yeah, because in reality, ifyou do it like that, like if I
can make a player that coulddunk, that could shoot, that

(56:41):
could pass and play defense, getrebounds.
It would make my player morecompetitive.
But then I mean, now it reallybecomes skill-based.
Yeah, and then at that point,now you don't need cap breakers,
right?
Right, you don't need capbreakers, you still get your

(57:05):
takeover.
You don't really need to do theboost anymore, but you can.
But you don't really need toall those microtransactions you
use to try to get more money.
You no longer need it.
And now you're just havingpeople make bills, because now
it becomes something that theyenjoy doing.

(57:26):
You'll get more money off ofhaving them be able to do this
free range of making builds,because people make about 5, 6,
10 builds and if you can createyour player how you want to
create it, versus being limitedto looking at YouTube content
creators to build your builds,you make out better.

Wes (57:47):
Listen, you're absolutely right.
But as any successful company,you're only as good as the money
that you make, and with anysuccessful marriage, you're only
as good as the marriage lies.

DeLaw (58:06):
More effort you put in the more that you get in, the
more that you get into it youshould give this and servitude
to your spouse yes,theoretically, because sometimes
a lot of people are putting ina lot of effort and they ain't
getting shit yeah, but you know,like someone was saying, you
don't lose yourself in it anddon't do this and don't do this,

(58:27):
I said no marriage.
You are individual, but whatcomes with your marriage is that
you both service to each other,because you both end up
submitting to each other, butjust doing it in different ways
yeah and you end upunderstanding that in order for
your lives to be better together, the other one has to know that

(58:52):
you will sacrifice for them.
If everything turned into, Idon't want you to sacrifice for
me.
Then now, what are we doing?
We ain't doing nothing.
Good, we just up here, we justhere, we just here.

(59:13):
So if I can do that, then cool.
But you know, they don't.
You know people who aren'tmarried they that a single, they
, they have single mind framesof how marriage supposed to work

(59:35):
, versus understanding that, nomatter what, it's going to be a
sacrifice in this whole wholething a partnership is sacrifice
, because if it wasn't apartnership it'll be.

Wes (59:47):
You know, it's the my way or I way thing, so it's like yo,
you're not a partner as you dowhat I say Right, not as I do.
Partnership is like yo, becomfortable.
It's a constant state ofcompromise, constant state of
mainly just a constant state ofcompromise.
I wouldn't say sacrificebecause, at the end of the day,

(01:00:07):
if the whole, if the goal is forus to be happy and for what we
have is to thrive and it's notreally a sacrifice you're doing
what you need to do in order toachieve that goal.
Now, granted, there's going tobe personal sacrifices.
Maybe I don't get that C5Corvette right now and it might
be too late for me to get itnext year because it's going to

(01:00:29):
cost too much.
That's a personal sacrificethat I'm making right now that I
cannot get that C5 Corvette,but you know what I mean
constant stuff.
My wife might want to file adollar wig, but you know shit
coming up that she can't getthat shit right now, right,

(01:00:50):
right.
So, yeah, man, there's a lot ofuh and I'm not here to preach or
anything like that just goingbased off of what I see right
and most of the stuff I see ison social media.
There's a lot of comments oncertain things or certain
situations that people have andit's based off of how they just
see the world, or their, theirtrauma or the experience, and

(01:01:12):
it's just kind of like sometimesI'll be reading this comment.
I'm like that video didn't looknothing like what you're saying
, so I don't even understandthat shit or this situation.
Don't feel that way, but that'sjust me, not to say I ain't
been through no, no relationshipscarring or trauma on my damn
self, but it's just like I knowhow to look at things

(01:01:35):
objectively.

DeLaw (01:01:35):
Right, you're right, because we just had the whole
house house, we got one littlething everywhere.

Wes (01:01:44):
Oh, sometimes it's good to get that fresh air into the
house.
House gonna be smelling allstale and shit.
The only thing about that inthe fall time, all the you know
the dying stuff and the sporesand the ragweed started getting
in there and now y'all sneezingthroughout the day so they make

(01:02:07):
you go straight into that storyand just start grinding, huh
yeah, they do do you get catbreakers for this?
no, I don't think so.
You get cat breakers forcrewing up and other shit and
specializing, like if yourplayer specializing like a
shooting and defensive.
I think I'm a specializing mymy player, both of my players
are defensively.

DeLaw (01:02:27):
I think I'm a specialized mind in defense.
Can you do more than onespecialty?
I think it's just one.
Gotta think about that yeah,look it up.
I mean, I haven't specializedyet, but if I'm already a lead
defender and I will want tospecialize shooting shooting

(01:02:47):
Because they said your catbreakers kind of go.

Wes (01:02:50):
I don't know.
Man, I've been hearing a bunchof shit.
So much information I have notreally set time to.

DeLaw (01:02:56):
I'm just glad they're doing it a little differently,
because I hated the way they doit.
You had to grind all that shitout just to get five cat
breakers.
I got my five cat breakers andI was done.
I was done.
But if I can get cat breakersin different ways, hey, I'm all

(01:03:17):
for it yeah, it's going to beinteresting, yeah yeah, I'm
going to eventually get to this2k right now watching Clash in
Paris WWE.

(01:03:38):
Oh, run to my mask and watch it.
Watch the rest of it.
It's only on the first match,so I got time but watch it.

Wes (01:03:47):
Watch the rest of it's, only on the first match.

DeLaw (01:03:51):
So I got time, okay, but I've been taking some mucinex to
get all the phlegm out and Ithink, and they tell you not to
drink with it, but uh, afterabout six hours, oh my gosh.
But I don't.
I don't take my second dose,like my second dose that I would
need in that 12 hour span.
I don't take it.
Then gotcha, that second one,but that first one because I

(01:04:12):
already know, even though it'sgoing through my body, yeah, I
know that the half-life of it isfairly quick and that it's put
so much left in my system by thetime I'll take you.

Wes (01:04:23):
Just can't wait to drink, man, I know man god but you're
also going over your mind, soit's kind of like yo.

DeLaw (01:04:31):
I've literally taken maybe two shots a week for the
last four weeks.

Wes (01:04:37):
Two shots a week.

DeLaw (01:04:38):
Two shots a week.
So that means both Sundaythrough Friday.
I'm not drinking, I'm onlytaking about two shots on a
Saturday.
That's it.

Wes (01:04:47):
That's not bad.

DeLaw (01:04:48):
So'm only taking about two shots on a.

Wes (01:04:50):
Saturday.
That's it, it's not bad.

DeLaw (01:04:52):
There's more than I am.
One of these days, I'll becompletely alcohol-free, but
this won't be the day.

Wes (01:05:02):
What day is that your duck bed?

DeLaw (01:05:05):
Hey look, it might have wine in it.
You know, I know, theydefinitely ain't got it in the
hair.
Dug it.
Hey look, they might have wonand have to.
You know, I know, theydefinitely ain't got it in the
hand.

Wes (01:05:15):
Oh my gosh.

DeLaw (01:05:17):
Yeah, oh Lord.

Wes (01:05:23):
Shit On that note.
Talk to me nice, but don't talkto me at all don't compare me
to other niggas.

DeLaw (01:05:33):
Pretty much say what you mean.

Wes (01:05:36):
I mean what you say.
So if you mean what you say,I'm going to take that as
disrespect you don't want tohave another kid.

DeLaw (01:05:45):
You don't want to have another kid, you don't want to
do it.

Wes (01:05:47):
I ain't got't want to have another kid.

DeLaw (01:05:48):
You don't want to do it, I ain't got care to be there.
I respect that more than yousaying be like my ex, who was
shitty to me, like come on.

Wes (01:05:56):
She didn't say that.
That's what you heard, Justlike your boss was crying Like
yo, you want me to be a robot.
We thank everybody for tuningin once again and um see you
next time.