Adoptees Crossing Lines

Adoptees Crossing Lines

We are 2 people with 2 very different experiences of being adopted. In this podcast we deconstruct the romanticism holding up the adoption industry and expose the lies, abuse, and pain that gets silenced. We’re here to unwrap the shiny bow around adoption and speak our truths as adoptees. In doing so, we explain what it means and what it feels like to “come out of the fog”. This isn't your feel good podcast, we are angry, healing and honest adoptees.


May 30, 2023 5 mins
Mark as Played

Adoptee Origin Story: Dr. Noelle

Two white people raised me, an African American child. I’m Dr. Noelle and this is the secret-filled story of my adoption after being an orphan in Texas.

What we discussed 

(00:00) Cosplaying as adoptees?

(01:35) The stories I was told

(05:30) My abusive adoptive mother 

(06:15) Taking a DNA test to find my family

(09:42) They didn’t know I existed 

(15:39) Whole for the first time in my life


Mark as Played
April 14, 2023 30 mins

Adoptee Origin Story: Lia

I’m Lia and this is my adoptee origin story from foster care to reuniting with my siblings. 

What I shared

(01:02) What I was told about my bio parents

(02:18) What actually happened 

(04:59) My adoptive parents 

(05:34) My birth father’s side of the story

(06:36) My access to adoption information

(10:04) Accessing my biological family name

(12:33) Meeting my siblings 

(19:49) Aspirations for biologic...

Mark as Played
March 24, 2023 39 mins
Adoptees & Mental health

Why adoptees are more likely to commit suicide  

Trigger Warning: Suicide, Suicidal ideation, Involuntary hospitalization

Adoptees are 4x more likely to commit suicide, in this episode we unpack why that is. Being an adoptee is a lifelong sentence, we have to cosplay as someone else’s child, ...
Mark as Played
March 10, 2023 31 mins
Adoptees as parents

Parenting as an adoptee 

What’s it like when you’re adopted and then become a parent? We discuss the unexpected joys and reliefs of parenting, the mistakes we were almost programmed to make, how parenting can heal us, how to tell your children you’re adopted, and being careful about not placing a burden on our children that they ar...
Mark as Played
February 24, 2023 44 mins
Adoptees & Identity 

For all our lives, our identities as adoptees have been stripped away from us. Our names changed, our blackness erased, and our birth certificates stolen. This episode we break down the ugly reality of having a fluid identity. 

Adoption is about stripping us of our decision-making autonomy, so this episode is a call for us to recla...
Mark as Played
February 10, 2023 35 mins
Blackness and adoption

Adoption taught us anti-blackness

Being adopted makes us an “other” whether we were raised by white, black, or brown families. In this episode we talk about unlearning the anti-blackness we internalized as children, why black adoptees cost less than white adoptees, the parallels between adoption and slavery, and our experiences growi...
Mark as Played
February 9, 2023 33 mins
An open letter to the people who bought me

Yesterday I decided to text my adoptive parents that they failed me as parents, it was the first time I ever confronted them. I talk about how they responded in this episode and open up about being sexually assaulted as a child…then gaslighted. This was never my burden to carry, but they always blamed me. They used religion as a guise to avoid respo...
Mark as Played
January 27, 2023 32 mins
Most challenging parts of friendship and dating for adoptees 

Why friendship and dating are so hard for adoptees  

What friends and partners don’t understand about adoptees 

As adoptees, we never want to rock the boat in any relationship we’re in be it with friends, family, or partners. The fear of abandonment is al...
Mark as Played
January 13, 2023 25 mins
The fact that there are more rigorous mental health requirements for people who want to do weight loss surgeries than there are for adoptive parents is a shame. Adoptive parents think they’ve done us a huge favor and “saved” our lives, that without them we’d be worse off - that’s the lie the whole industry is built on. Holding up that lie is racism, colonialism, and narcissism. The adoption industry thrives on centering the ro...
Mark as Played
December 23, 2022 30 mins
Ungrateful Adoptees 

No, I’m not grateful you adopted me. 

Why would I be grateful for family separation? Why would I be grateful for being lied to about where I came from? Why would I be grateful for solving their infertility issues? It’s adoptive parents that should be grateful to have us, not the other way around. This episode is all about rejecting the tone-dead narrative of gra...
Mark as Played
December 9, 2022 35 mins
It’s a Family Reunion

Family reunification for adoptees: our journeys, challenges and advice

Our family reunification stories (as adoptees) 

Scouring through facebook, twitter, and adoption boards to find your biological family is a heavy journey. There are so many risks: what if they reject us again? What if they abandon us again? What if our adoptive parents feel of...
Mark as Played
November 25, 2022 30 mins
Adoptees and grief 

Coping with grief as an adoptee 

They change our name, our identity is erased. They don’t change it, we feel like outsiders. As adoptees, we don’t belong to any family…neither our adoptive family or biological family really gets us. In this episode, we talk about the many ways grief shows up for adoptees and talk about tools of coping with adoption including finding a...
Mark as Played
November 4, 2022 30 mins
NOT a feel good podcast about being adopted 

We’re the not-so-feel-good show about adoption (coming out of the fog)

We are 3 people with 3 very different experiences of being adopted. In this podcast we deconstruct the romanticism holding up the adoption industry and expose the lies, abuse, and pain that get silenced. We’re here to unwrap the shiny bow around adoption and speak our truth...
Mark as Played
October 24, 2022 1 min
  • No, adoption isn’t magical. 
  • No, I’m not grateful for being adopted. 
  • Yes, being adopted is painful 
  • Yes, adoption is trauma 
This is the not-so-feel-good podcast where we reflect deeply on our experiences being adoptees and expose the pains inflicted by the adoption industry one episode at a time. 


Follow us on social media: Twitter | Instagram | Tiktok

Learn more about L...

Mark as Played

Popular Podcasts

    Current and classic episodes, featuring compelling true-crime mysteries, powerful documentaries and in-depth investigations.

    Crime Junkie

    If you can never get enough true crime... Congratulations, you’ve found your people.


    In order to tell the story of a crime, you have to turn back time. Every season, Investigative journalist Delia D'Ambra digs deep into a mind-bending mystery with the hopes of reigniting interest in a decades old homicide case.


    It’s a lighthearted nightmare in here, weirdos! Morbid is a true crime, creepy history and all things spooky podcast hosted by an autopsy technician and a hairstylist. Join us for a heavy dose of research with a dash of comedy thrown in for flavor.


    Unforgettable true crime mysteries, exclusive newsmaker interviews, hard-hitting investigative reports and in-depth coverage of high profile stories.

Advertise With Us

For You

    Music, radio and podcasts, all free. Listen online or download the iHeart App.


    © 2023 iHeartMedia, Inc.