August 16, 2023 • 37 mins
We answer some questions we have got through reddit, fakebook and friends. Please keep asking those if you want our opinions. Best part, Gid take on working, Ashton love of messy home made noodles and dad don't tip for that.
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Gid (00:00):
I want.
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I want a job with a whole bunchof freedom and stuff like this,
is at least my point of view,but a lot of people can be happy
doing some of the jobs that youmight not expect, like being
anything, a social worker,somebody who, a computer
programmer, a lot of them can behappy with just the fact that
they have comfort, and I knowfrom what I've learned that
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happiness comes from self worth.
Love it.
So, as long as you feel likeyour job is helping yourself and
helping other people and isworth something
Dad (03:05):
Welcome to adulting decrypted the show where we help
adults become powerhouses forlife like a
Ashton (03:12):
mitochondria.
Dad (03:13):
That's right Today we've got a kind of a cool episode
going on.
We're gonna take some of ourlistener questions and and
Instead of just answering themon Reddit and Facebook, we're
actually going to sit down andhave a conversation and share
those with you.
So the first question that cameto us is, how do I love myself
more and be an overall happierperson?
(03:37):
First off, that's a greatquestion.
It is a fun question, isn't it?
Well,
Gid (03:43):
it's probably a question a lot of us have thought of
before.
Actually...
Kind of funny, I wrote down inmy own little journal that I
have this morning.
I want to get back into writingdown my goals and whatnot.
But I wrote down that every timeI walk through a doorway, I want
to smile.
And it's an example that I've,I've heard in a different book
(04:05):
where you walk through a doorwayand you, you fix your posture,
you stand up straight so youlook presentable and good.
Great for meeting new people andwhatnot.
But I just thought that'd beinteresting.
Is to, to walk through doorwayand smile.
And I know scientifically it'sproven.
I don't have any data, but Iknow it's proven that smiling,
even when you maybe aren'tfeeling great, helps your
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situation.
I know it has for me in thepast.
Dad (04:31):
Great.
I love it.
Ashton (04:32):
So smile more.
my thought with that, it goesback to something we talked
about a while ago about how weshould, haha, avoid shoulds
because I know for me, a lot ofmy negative experiences with
myself come from me saying Ishould be doing this, I should
(04:52):
be doing that.
And that, and, and.
If you think about that sort ofself talk and how it would be
relative to you speaking tosomeone else, like if you and
yourself were two differentpeople, and every time you saw
yourself you said to them, Oh,you should be doing this.
You should be doing that.
You would hate that person.
You wouldn't want to hang outwith them.
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And that's really what you'redoing to yourself.
And so for me, getting over theshoulds.
And in our other episode wherewe talk about this, I think it's
a word debate, we talk aboutswitching shoulds for needs and
wants because saying you need todo something and you want to do
something, have a little, have abetter perspective, on life.
'cause if you want to dosomething, it norm, it doesn't
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feel like you're being pushed todo it, except for from a
positive place.
So I think if you're trying tolove yourself more, try and see
what things are making you loveyourself less in that, as you're
speaking to yourself and, andtry and switch how you're
talking to yourself.
Dad (05:52):
Great answers, both of you.
You know, and the other thingI'd add to that as the dad, I
would say be patient withyourself.
Realize that this life is ajourney.
It's not a quick, short, fastprocess.
Realize that, yeah, you're goingto wake up some mornings and
you're going to.
Look at your phone and you'regoing to spend an hour on tick
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tock and you're gonna be realirritated and frustrated and go
Why did I just waste that hour?
Well the quicker you can forgiveyourself and say look, yeah I
made a mistake now it's time tomove on put in the other
practices in place which smilingas you're going new places and
as you stop worrying about theshould and other people judging
you and Thinking what you couldand couldn't do the sooner you
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forgive yourself and move on Ithink that will help in that
whole situation great answersgreat conversations Something
that
Ashton (06:42):
I think can, aid in that too in forgiving yourself is you
don't know what you don't know.
you know that you probablyshouldn't be spending all your
time on social media.
Like, with a lot of other,that's not the only thing.
It's the thing that's probablyreferenced the most.
In podcasts and in motivationalspeaking one of my sources of
negative self taught come fromFeeling like I'm not as far as I
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should be in career and in lifepractices But I have to try and
take comfort in the fact that Idon't know what I don't know yet
There's more to be learned inlife So forgiving yourself for
what you don't know and notholding yourself accountable for
something that you don't know
Dad (07:19):
Well, yeah, it's easy at 50 to look back and judge my 25
year old self for some of thedecisions I made You know, 25
years later going, Oh, Ishouldn't have done that.
It's really easy to do that, butis it fair to be beat myself up?
No, cause I didn't know that.
Hey, I tell you when I wasgraduating high school, I teased
my brothers that computers werea fad.
(07:41):
Little did I know that they'rerunning everything from my
podcast to my, phone to myeverywhere.
So yeah, good point.
It's a fad that never left.
Perfect.
Thank you listener for thatquestion.
Yeah.
Go listener.
And the next question we got ishow many of you actually like
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your job?
Ashton (08:05):
That's a good question.
I've thought about this myselfactually, recently.
You look excited.
Gid (08:13):
I don't know.
I like, I like to think aboutstatistics a lot and it's
interesting.
A lot more people like their jobthan, you know, I would expect,
at least me personally wouldexpect because I always hear
everybody hates their job.
And so, you know, I want.
I want a job with a whole bunchof freedom and stuff like this,
(08:35):
is at least my point of view,but a lot of people can be happy
doing some of the jobs that youmight not expect, like being
anything, a social worker,somebody who, a computer
programmer, a lot of them can behappy with just the fact that
they have comfort, and I knowfrom what I've learned that
(08:56):
happiness comes from self worth.
Love it.
So, as long as you feel likeyour job is helping yourself and
helping other people and isworth something, then,
Dad (09:08):
then you can.
You know, they, they say thatone man's trash is another man's
treasure.
So I like that sometimes,Gideon, I think your point that
you're making there that Ireally latched onto is just
because I love it doesn't meanthat you'll love it.
Right?
I might, I might hate it.
I might think, Oh man, I couldnever do that job.
(09:31):
And it brings you a lot of selffulfillment.
That's a great, greatobservation.
Like I can never teach musicwould drive me bat.
Crap, crazy.
Hey, you know literally to thosewho do it still does
Ashton (09:46):
I think something important to hang on to there
too is
Dad (09:50):
saying just real quick before you go sure even the job
you love that you're passionateabout Still has days that feel
like work.
Yeah,
Ashton (09:58):
The famous quote that probably this person's hanging
over their head is If you dowhat you love, you'll never work
a day in your life.
The things that we love the mostare the things we work the most
for, and the things that takethe most sacrifice.
If you like, if you truly lovesomething, you'll sacrifice for
that thing, and you'll do veryhard things to keep that.
(10:20):
And so the good thing with thatis, is if you're working a job
that you don't like, like youreally, you get nothing from it.
For me, when I was working atWalmart, I got nothing except a
ton of steps and a ton of timeto listen to books.
So those things worked out greatfor me, but aside from like
loading up cars could not havecared less about all that.
And so
Dad (10:41):
I'll tell you the job you hated was the night shift.
Oh,
Ashton (10:43):
that's true.
Actually, there was nothingrewarding about that job because
I couldn't have headphoneseither.
I worked a night shift it was a,it was a temp gig, and it was a
full, time night job.
I worked there for a total oftwo nights, and proceeded to
ghost them on everything else,because I was like, this sucks.
If you have a job where, it'snot rewarding at all, you're
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still gonna put in just as muchwork to that job as the thing
that you would love, but thedifference is, the job you love,
After you've worked through allthe pain and that effort you'll
get a product that you love outof it So like last year and
speaking on the job that I loveI was teaching some kids and
they were just so far behindlike they were to the level
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where It had been so long sinceI was at their level, I didn't
know what to, how to teach themwhat they needed to know.
And that was super, frustrating.
It would, it would be likesitting in a primary classroom
and saying to a kid, Hey, thatcolor's red.
And then they pointed at blueand be like, red?
And you're like, no, the onethat's right is red.
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It was that level.
And so that was reallyfrustrating.
But then six months later mostof those kids kept going and
they got to the point where theywere able to put together a show
that they just absolutely
Dad (12:01):
knocked out of the park.
Oh, so they could identify red.
Ashton (12:04):
Yeah.
By the end of the season.
That part was rewarding and nowhad it, been working this night
shift of checking stupid bottlesfor QR codes that I could barely
see.
Cause you're
Dad (12:14):
sweating into
Ashton (12:15):
your goggles.
Yeah, and I wasn't allowed towear headphones.
That was the worst part.
I probably would have been okaywith that job if I could have
listened to music, but since itwas like an assembly line or
something, it's against OSHA orsomething.
But, but yeah, so once...
Stupid government.
There's never a reward at theend of that.
At the end of that road, but ifyou're working for something
that you love it will suck for alittle bit then if you truly
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love it the reward that you getwill at the end will be worth it
So if you're asking yourselflike oh i'm not loving every
minute of your job.
I don't think you're supposed toEasier said than done.
But yeah, my my advice would beone identify if The work you're
putting in is getting a rewardout of it that you want if it's
just financial compensationgreat But if it's like something
beyond that Ask yourself if yourwork's giving you that and then
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if it's not switch it up.
No one's stopping you
Dad (13:03):
You know, it's it's an interesting.
Yeah, I think we're kind ofskewed.
I've skewed you guys i've toldyou since you're a little bit A
job is like a car.
As long as it's taking you toyour destination, keep the car.
Once it stops going where youneed it to go, get rid of the
car and get a different car.
You know, it's not like beingmarried, it's not like buying a
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house.
A job is a job.
Now, that being said, there aresome downsides to living like
that.
I've had 21 different jobs in 25years of a working career.
Now
Ashton (13:35):
momentary lapses in health insurance.
Dad (13:37):
Yeah, but, but a lot of mine.
Yeah.
And that's only because of thisnew change in government laws.
Don't get me started.
So back to what we're talkingabout, the reality is, is I've
stayed with certain things for along time.
I've also just launched a bunchof side projects and try to make
them work because of myentrepreneurial spirit.
I do believe what you said,Ashton, where, you know, Hey,
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it's, it's just a job.
Go ahead and feel free tochange, but stick with it.
See if the rewards there.
And then Gideon, I think youbrought up a very strong point,
which is not everybody's goingto like the same thing.
So we don't baseline againsteach other for a job.
And the statistics used to sayabout three years ago that 52%
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of the people were unhappy withthe current job, but were afraid
to change sorry, COVID happened.
We have a lot of silent quitsand a lot of things like that,
which I'm totally against.
I think if you're, if you're nothappy with your job, it's time
to move on.
I, but on the same token, Ibelieve employers should be able
to move on to if you're notworking out.
(14:43):
So to answer that question, doyou like your job or not?
I think that's a personal thing.
And if you don't, I think it'stime to change.
And then if you don't know howto change, go listen to some of
our habit episodes, go listen tosome of our other.
Things that we've talked aboutthat will help you make the
right career choice
Ashton (14:58):
our et episode would be good too It is really good
because you're definingyourself.
I
Gid (15:04):
actually just for the people who like statistics I
just looked it up And it saysthat 65 of people like their
jobs but only 20 Of us employeessay that they're passionate
Dad (15:15):
about their work.
Well, that's awesome.
65 is a huge jump I bet you ifyou pulled that number back And
look, we're in a day and age nowwhere it's easier to change jobs
than it ever was before.
You know before once you gotinto a job, you didn't know
where the next one was.
You didn't know what your careerwas, but 52% of y'all want to
have side gigs.
So it's not, where we're at isnot uncommon.
(15:37):
Gideon, thank you for sharingthat.
Great, great question, listener.
Really, really goodconversation.
Next, next question from alistener.
Does anyone just sit and thinkthat they are not adulting
enough?
Yes.
Yeah, for example, this is whatthe listener says.
Like when it comes to thingslike finances.
(15:59):
And speaking to agents abouthome buying, home and auto
insurance, et cetera, cansometimes be challenging when
they're explaining things andnot using terms that others can
understand.
Like when does doctors use afancy term to set us something
that is dumbed down?
Ashton, go ahead.
You started with the resoundingyes.
(16:21):
Remind me what the question was.
Does anyone just sit and thinkthey're not adulting enough?
Oh yeah.
And then it talked aboutfinances and home buying and.
Ashton (16:31):
That's kind of it.
Yes.
There's just so much.
There's just so much going on inadulting like it's such a deep
pool to try and swim in and itjust feels so easy to drown or
just feel like you're not a partof it Cuz there's just so many
layers That's, yeah, I don'thave a solution to that one, but
I mean, I've, I've definitelyfelt that.
Gid (16:55):
Kind of what Ashton was saying.
It's really helpful just to knowthat you're not alone in your
struggles.
And that really goes withanything.
But even in this case, like,yeah, adulting sucks.
It's hard sometimes.
And, you know, calling yourdoctor, not sharing, not, not
sure what they're saying.
I know Ashton's done this beforeand we talked about it in a
(17:16):
different episode, he's like, Heasked the person, he's like,
please just explain this to melike I was five years old.
Like, dumb it down, please, forme, and a lot of people are
happy to.
Not, well, some people might getannoyed, but you know, a lot of
people are nice and are happy toexplain.
Dad (17:37):
I'll tell you what we love giving advice, the older we get,
the more we think we can helpbecause we feel like we've been
there, done that.
So I love that you talked aboutasking for help.
Ashton, I like the point thatyou said, look, there's so much.
And I'd really recommend thelistener on that one to go back
and listen to some of ourdifferent episodes.
They deep dive and it'sinteresting that I wish the
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listener could follow us aroundbecause after our episodes We
will sit there and actually gowait a second.
We talked about this.
I don't quite understand thisprinciple Even though we talked
about it now that I've had a dayor two to digest it I'm still
kind of confused and it'sbecause there is a lot going on
Sabrina and I took Oh, maybe anhour and a half yesterday going
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through her benefits that shegot from school and how to make
sure she signed up and actuallygetting all of her benefits.
And at the end of the day, weended up having to call somebody
and she did great.
You know, she, she used the toolshe heard in our episode, but I
think all of us feel a littlebit like we're frotting at this
adult thing, but guess what?
So am I right?
(18:44):
We put a lot of pressure onAshton saying, Hey, get your
health insurance, get yourhealth insurance.
And then come to find out, notqualifying for Medicare is a
qualifying event.
So welcome to adulting.
You're going to feel overwhelmedat times.
(19:04):
All right.
Here's the another listenerquestion.
Are homemade noodles that muchbetter than normal noodles?
I recently found that homemadenoodles are kind of less
expensive than pre made ones.
I love that
Ashton (19:17):
question.
Depends on what, what, whatyou're making.
Gid (19:20):
And mom's homemade noodles for chicken noodle soup that are
like half an inch thick.
And like quarter minutes tallare just glorious.
Ashton (19:30):
Yeah, but can you imagine trying to eat a
spaghetti?
Gid (19:33):
No, I cannot it's definitely
Ashton (19:36):
Like those are cheap cheap noodles would be amazing
But spaghetti noodles from thestore if you're just making
yourself a spaghetti or analfredo They don't really miss
Gid (19:47):
and even though it might be cheaper You also got to think
about the time Like the time itwould take to make your own
noodles and if you want to dothat as a hobby Go for it.
Like, that's dope.
Especially, like, if it'scheaper and you have fun making
your own noodles, go for it.
Really, whatever.
I
Ashton (20:03):
would say make your own noodles.
If you want to.
It's fun.
I did it when I was out of thecountry once.
And I remember my hands weresuper sticky.
When you, to make some homemadenoodles you take flour and egg
and stuff.
Dad (20:15):
For egg
Ashton (20:15):
noodles, yeah.
Yeah, yeah, for egg noodles.
And I was making them and wedidn't have enough ingredients.
So I went to one of my roommatesand I said, Hey.
Can you just go ask theneighbors for some stuff?
He walked out and came back in,and he was like, no! And so I
had to make noodles without allthe ingredients.
This turned out okay, but it waspretty funny.
Dad (20:35):
I can't remember which one, that's why I'm looking blankly.
Showed me a tiktok video wherethey made their own noodles, but
they started by taking it was meI taking noodles and breaking
them up and then and then andthen kind of mushing them
together and then makingnoodles?
Ashton (20:50):
Essentially they replaced the new the flour with
other noodles that had been madewhich is just the dumbest
Dad (20:55):
idea Yeah, so so my take on homemade noodles.
These are great in some dishesand others.
I'm with Ashton It's not worththe effort energy to buy this
stuff.
You need to make a pasta noodleBut once again, you, the
listener, get to decide how youbest want to do that.
With that
Ashton (21:13):
being said, if you get deep into making your own
noodles, listener we kindlyrequest that you send us some of
your homemade noodles.
Gid (21:20):
I like that, actually.
Dad (21:22):
Here's a question from a listener feeling uncomfortable.
1st time working.
I've started working for a fewweeks now.
My 1st job after graduation lastyear.
Let me tell you, it isdepressing.
I feel so uncomfortable doingthe routine waking up early in
the morning.
Returning home to rest only togo back to work the next day.
I get so anxious at work I'mscared that I'll make a mistake.
(21:45):
I can't imagine doing this forthe rest of my life What advice
would you give a listener?
Ashton (21:50):
Thinking back on experiences where I was working
True nine to five or even goingto school every day like that
sort of stuff can be can bedraining I think the advice
there, now that I'm thinkingabout it, is find hobbies, you
know like something to, to kindof reset you every time you get
home make friends with coworkers at work sometimes people
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go to work, stay in their littlebubble, and then they go home,
and that, that makes waking upand getting, If you know that
when you get there, homeboyJames is gonna be there and
y'all are gonna have a laugh,then, you know, show up and have
a laugh.
Might make it a little easier.
So, that's my advice.
Either find a hobby or makefriends with your co workers.
Gid (22:37):
Call them homeboys.
So, I think my answer to this isa little bit different.
I think it might be important togo and look at your own goals
and...
Job interviews, the classicquestion, or at least a
stereotypical question would be,where do you see yourself in 5
to 10 years?
And it would be important toanswer that question for
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yourself and even write it down.
So then, when you're going tothat, that job or, or you wake
up and you're like, this is justlike, this is so mundane, you
can think about your own futureand, and what you can do to get
there.
And then I feel like as long asyou're working on something that
you deem matters I think it canhelp your situation, but yeah.
(23:20):
I've definitely felt felt thatway before.
Dad (23:25):
Perfect, thank you.
Yeah, my, my advice on somethinglike that would be, I like to
ask you about hobbies.
Very critical, especially ifit's your first job, and you
know that's what you're going todo.
Gideon, I love that you saidlook at your personal goals, and
as it get, help me get to thosegoals, then you look at it in a
means to an end, and then thefinal challenge that I'd give
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the the listener would be.
Try and cut out the rest of mylife in that statement.
You know, is this the job thatcan help me get to where I want
to go?
Versus think, oh, is this thejob for the rest of my life?
And the reason why to me thatfeels like such a big difference
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it's maybe not my whole thing,but at least it will help me get
there.
Oh, that's, that's the onlything that I would take out of
there to realize that it's notfree entirely.
Okay.
Oh, go ahead.
Have you ever question is, haveyou ever reached a point of not
caring what people think?
For sure the, this, that's themain question.
(24:27):
I forgot to shave my legs, mytoenails are chipping and there
are a bunch of calluses.
Adulting is already busy and Ijust can't seem to slow down.
Ashton (24:37):
Yeah, I already don't care.
So, it's fine.
Like first up, this sounds likeit's a feminine question.
I don't know.
I know some guys who shave theirlegs
Gid (24:48):
Why are you looking at me?
Oh, no reason.
I have porcupine legs right now.
I forgot to
Ashton (24:56):
I mean you just got to pick your battles It's okay to
not care about some things andit's important to care about
others so you're not worriedabout the fact that you have
Porcupine legs and it doesn'tmatter to you if people care or
not then that's fine, you knowBut if you don't if you don't
care that you have, poorlypedicured toes or something like
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And you're not worried aboutother people caring, then that's
totally fine.
There's times and places topresent yourself nicely.
It's also important to beyourself.
You don't have to...
It's exhausting to try andplease other people your whole
life.
So I, I think it's important toto not take yourself too
seriously when it comes toappearances and, and such.
Gid (25:44):
Yeah, I think my answer kind of fits in with the last
section of your answer, Ashton,in words, as long as you feel
like yourself, because you'renormally the person who, where
you yourself care about youknow, being properly shaven and
manicured, then sometimes whenyou aren't, you just feel like
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you're not organized or thatsomething's a little bit off,
even though you might not knowwhat it is.
So I think it's also importantto not change yourself, but.
So, to answer the question, yes.
On certain things.
Sometimes it, it matters inmaybe a job interview, what the
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person hiring you thinks.
But in most of my situations,it's more important to be myself
than to
Dad (26:42):
try and please other people.
A quote that goes along withthat, that made a big difference
to me is when I stopped buyingthings to impress people that I
don't like was pretty freeingbecause I realized, look, I get
to choose what adulting lookslike to me.
I get to choose what I define assuccess.
Not what do other people think,but will my appearance and will
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my preparation, what I put outinto the world, will it get the
result that I want to get?
So it's not that I don't carewhat other people think, but I
have to look and say, okay howare people going to perceive me
showing up looking like this?
How are people going to perceiveme sending this email?
Because I need to impress them.
I want to impress them.
I want that to get that goal,but I'm not going to, I don't
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care what they think of my housenecessarily or my boat or my
cars.
Right.
Because I do that stuff for me.
I think that's freeing when youdecide, and I think that goes
back to what you're saying,Ashton.
When you decide what's criticaland what's important and when
it's important, then I thinkyou've actually made it as an
adult because now you can lookat life objectively and you're
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not doing counter things, justsaying, look, I want to piss
people off.
I'm going to dress like this.
I'm going to act like this, butit's freeing in the sense that
you get to decide.
All right.
Let's take the last questionthat was posed.
Tipping.
Seems like everywhere has a tipjar now
Ashton (28:13):
if you have not waited a table that I'm sitting at, or
done a service that I could nothave conceivably come back
behind the counter and donemyself, then I'm not tipping.
If I go to a fast foodrestaurant, and the person that
just rang me up at the cashregister asks for a tip, I'm not
(28:37):
paying that because I could havewalked behind the register and
done that tip myself.
I would tip though if I was at arestaurant and someone was
waiting four or five differenttables and they took care of
mine Well, because they're doinga bunch of extra work and that's
built into their industry thatthey make money off their tips
the little soda shacks It's notbuilt into their industry that
(29:01):
their employees live off of tipsas far as I know and I could I
could go be a soda jerk myself,so That's my opinion I think the
tipping culture has gone alittle excessive, especially
with how much tipping costs nowtoo.
I, that's
Gid (29:18):
where I'm at.
Yeah, I, I think I agree.
It depends on the environmentthat you're in.
Cause I have seen a lot of myfriends go into the fast food
type of jobs, not necessarilywaiters or waitresses.
Cause like you said, that'sdifferent where a lot of their
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pay is based off of tips.
For fast food, I know whatpeople get paid for tips, so I,
I don't mind saying no tip tothe person, you know, who just
rung me up at Costa Vida, whereI'm like, you really, you just,
you said, Oh, here's your food.
Ashton (29:56):
I was it's
Dad (30:01):
pretty frustrating because they say, 15 an hour plus tips
and.
They don't know what those tipsare gonna be, you know, and and
but she goes I wouldn't tip usIt doesn't make any sense.
We didn't do anything to earnthat extra tip We didn't do
anything to help you or toincrease the value.
Ashton (30:19):
Yeah, it doesn't hurt the employer none to put that
tip thing up there I mean, well,I think it
Dad (30:23):
more.
Well, I think it does.
I think it gives you a bad tasteI mean a lot of people are
frustrated with it You know,JCW, which is one of my, one of
the hamburger joints that Ireally like here locally, took
it off.
They don't even ask it.
Gid (30:36):
I was so excited when I went there.
I was like, it's not there
Dad (30:39):
anymore.
Yeah, so, so you're right.
It doesn't make people not go tothe restaurant.
But it is kind of irritatingwhen somebody goes, oh, here,
and they spin it over to you.
And, and they're like, and theystand there and look at you and
you're like, no.
And then the auto fill is prettydirty too.
Cause it's how much it puts inthere.
So I think it's really forcingus all to watch our credit card
a little bit better and makesure that the receipt comes out
(31:00):
right.
I think it's, so I don't thinkit's a bad thing, but I don't
think it's necessary.
Now that being said, I thinkbecause we've gone over the top
with tipping culture, I thinkthat people are going to stop
tipping at nicer restaurantswhere they really should be
tipping.
I had a guy that was serving momand I at Texas Roadhouse.
My gift card was for 25.
(31:22):
My meal was 22.
So I put a, 5 more on a, on acredit card charge, because it,
but most people would probablysay, Oh, well, 23.
I give him a 1.
50 tip.
That's close enough.
Well, no, that guy just.
But his time, energy and effort,and he's only getting paid two
or 3 an hour versus the kidbehind the counter that makes 17
(31:45):
an hour at Costa Vida.
And then is wondering why Ididn't just give him 5 tip when
they didn't do anything.
My two cents on tip or 5.
I want.
(00:00):
I want a job with a whole bunchof freedom and stuff like this,
is at least my point of view,but a lot of people can be happy
doing some of the jobs that youmight not expect, like being
anything, a social worker,somebody who, a computer
programmer, a lot of them can behappy with just the fact that
they have comfort, and I knowfrom what I've learned that
(00:24):
happiness comes from self worth.
Love it.
So, as long as you feel likeyour job is helping yourself and
helping other people and isworth something
Dad (03:05):
Welcome to adulting decrypted the show where we help
adults become powerhouses forlife like a
Ashton (03:12):
mitochondria.
Dad (03:13):
That's right Today we've got a kind of a cool episode
going on.
We're gonna take some of ourlistener questions and and
Instead of just answering themon Reddit and Facebook, we're
actually going to sit down andhave a conversation and share
those with you.
So the first question that cameto us is, how do I love myself
more and be an overall happierperson?
(03:37):
First off, that's a greatquestion.
It is a fun question, isn't it?
Well,
Gid (03:43):
it's probably a question a lot of us have thought of
before.
Actually...
Kind of funny, I wrote down inmy own little journal that I
have this morning.
I want to get back into writingdown my goals and whatnot.
But I wrote down that every timeI walk through a doorway, I want
to smile.
And it's an example that I've,I've heard in a different book
(04:05):
where you walk through a doorwayand you, you fix your posture,
you stand up straight so youlook presentable and good.
Great for meeting new people andwhatnot.
But I just thought that'd beinteresting.
Is to, to walk through doorwayand smile.
And I know scientifically it'sproven.
I don't have any data, but Iknow it's proven that smiling,
even when you maybe aren'tfeeling great, helps your
(04:28):
situation.
I know it has for me in thepast.
Dad (04:31):
Great.
I love it.
Ashton (04:32):
So smile more.
my thought with that, it goesback to something we talked
about a while ago about how weshould, haha, avoid shoulds
because I know for me, a lot ofmy negative experiences with
myself come from me saying Ishould be doing this, I should
(04:52):
be doing that.
And that, and, and.
If you think about that sort ofself talk and how it would be
relative to you speaking tosomeone else, like if you and
yourself were two differentpeople, and every time you saw
yourself you said to them, Oh,you should be doing this.
You should be doing that.
You would hate that person.
You wouldn't want to hang outwith them.
(05:13):
And that's really what you'redoing to yourself.
And so for me, getting over theshoulds.
And in our other episode wherewe talk about this, I think it's
a word debate, we talk aboutswitching shoulds for needs and
wants because saying you need todo something and you want to do
something, have a little, have abetter perspective, on life.
'cause if you want to dosomething, it norm, it doesn't
(05:36):
feel like you're being pushed todo it, except for from a
positive place.
So I think if you're trying tolove yourself more, try and see
what things are making you loveyourself less in that, as you're
speaking to yourself and, andtry and switch how you're
talking to yourself.
Dad (05:52):
Great answers, both of you.
You know, and the other thingI'd add to that as the dad, I
would say be patient withyourself.
Realize that this life is ajourney.
It's not a quick, short, fastprocess.
Realize that, yeah, you're goingto wake up some mornings and
you're going to.
Look at your phone and you'regoing to spend an hour on tick
(06:12):
tock and you're gonna be realirritated and frustrated and go
Why did I just waste that hour?
Well the quicker you can forgiveyourself and say look, yeah I
made a mistake now it's time tomove on put in the other
practices in place which smilingas you're going new places and
as you stop worrying about theshould and other people judging
you and Thinking what you couldand couldn't do the sooner you
(06:34):
forgive yourself and move on Ithink that will help in that
whole situation great answersgreat conversations Something
that
Ashton (06:42):
I think can, aid in that too in forgiving yourself is you
don't know what you don't know.
you know that you probablyshouldn't be spending all your
time on social media.
Like, with a lot of other,that's not the only thing.
It's the thing that's probablyreferenced the most.
In podcasts and in motivationalspeaking one of my sources of
negative self taught come fromFeeling like I'm not as far as I
(07:03):
should be in career and in lifepractices But I have to try and
take comfort in the fact that Idon't know what I don't know yet
There's more to be learned inlife So forgiving yourself for
what you don't know and notholding yourself accountable for
something that you don't know
Dad (07:19):
Well, yeah, it's easy at 50 to look back and judge my 25
year old self for some of thedecisions I made You know, 25
years later going, Oh, Ishouldn't have done that.
It's really easy to do that, butis it fair to be beat myself up?
No, cause I didn't know that.
Hey, I tell you when I wasgraduating high school, I teased
my brothers that computers werea fad.
(07:41):
Little did I know that they'rerunning everything from my
podcast to my, phone to myeverywhere.
So yeah, good point.
It's a fad that never left.
Perfect.
Thank you listener for thatquestion.
Yeah.
Go listener.
And the next question we got ishow many of you actually like
(08:03):
your job?
Ashton (08:05):
That's a good question.
I've thought about this myselfactually, recently.
You look excited.
Gid (08:13):
I don't know.
I like, I like to think aboutstatistics a lot and it's
interesting.
A lot more people like their jobthan, you know, I would expect,
at least me personally wouldexpect because I always hear
everybody hates their job.
And so, you know, I want.
I want a job with a whole bunchof freedom and stuff like this,
(08:35):
is at least my point of view,but a lot of people can be happy
doing some of the jobs that youmight not expect, like being
anything, a social worker,somebody who, a computer
programmer, a lot of them can behappy with just the fact that
they have comfort, and I knowfrom what I've learned that
(08:56):
happiness comes from self worth.
Love it.
So, as long as you feel likeyour job is helping yourself and
helping other people and isworth something, then,
Dad (09:08):
then you can.
You know, they, they say thatone man's trash is another man's
treasure.
So I like that sometimes,Gideon, I think your point that
you're making there that Ireally latched onto is just
because I love it doesn't meanthat you'll love it.
Right?
I might, I might hate it.
I might think, Oh man, I couldnever do that job.
(09:31):
And it brings you a lot of selffulfillment.
That's a great, greatobservation.
Like I can never teach musicwould drive me bat.
Crap, crazy.
Hey, you know literally to thosewho do it still does
Ashton (09:46):
I think something important to hang on to there
too is
Dad (09:50):
saying just real quick before you go sure even the job
you love that you're passionateabout Still has days that feel
like work.
Yeah,
Ashton (09:58):
The famous quote that probably this person's hanging
over their head is If you dowhat you love, you'll never work
a day in your life.
The things that we love the mostare the things we work the most
for, and the things that takethe most sacrifice.
If you like, if you truly lovesomething, you'll sacrifice for
that thing, and you'll do veryhard things to keep that.
(10:20):
And so the good thing with thatis, is if you're working a job
that you don't like, like youreally, you get nothing from it.
For me, when I was working atWalmart, I got nothing except a
ton of steps and a ton of timeto listen to books.
So those things worked out greatfor me, but aside from like
loading up cars could not havecared less about all that.
And so
Dad (10:41):
I'll tell you the job you hated was the night shift.
Oh,
Ashton (10:43):
that's true.
Actually, there was nothingrewarding about that job because
I couldn't have headphoneseither.
I worked a night shift it was a,it was a temp gig, and it was a
full, time night job.
I worked there for a total oftwo nights, and proceeded to
ghost them on everything else,because I was like, this sucks.
If you have a job where, it'snot rewarding at all, you're
(11:06):
still gonna put in just as muchwork to that job as the thing
that you would love, but thedifference is, the job you love,
After you've worked through allthe pain and that effort you'll
get a product that you love outof it So like last year and
speaking on the job that I loveI was teaching some kids and
they were just so far behindlike they were to the level
(11:29):
where It had been so long sinceI was at their level, I didn't
know what to, how to teach themwhat they needed to know.
And that was super, frustrating.
It would, it would be likesitting in a primary classroom
and saying to a kid, Hey, thatcolor's red.
And then they pointed at blueand be like, red?
And you're like, no, the onethat's right is red.
(11:50):
It was that level.
And so that was reallyfrustrating.
But then six months later mostof those kids kept going and
they got to the point where theywere able to put together a show
that they just absolutely
Dad (12:01):
knocked out of the park.
Oh, so they could identify red.
Ashton (12:04):
Yeah.
By the end of the season.
That part was rewarding and nowhad it, been working this night
shift of checking stupid bottlesfor QR codes that I could barely
see.
Cause you're
Dad (12:14):
sweating into
Ashton (12:15):
your goggles.
Yeah, and I wasn't allowed towear headphones.
That was the worst part.
I probably would have been okaywith that job if I could have
listened to music, but since itwas like an assembly line or
something, it's against OSHA orsomething.
But, but yeah, so once...
Stupid government.
There's never a reward at theend of that.
At the end of that road, but ifyou're working for something
that you love it will suck for alittle bit then if you truly
(12:36):
love it the reward that you getwill at the end will be worth it
So if you're asking yourselflike oh i'm not loving every
minute of your job.
I don't think you're supposed toEasier said than done.
But yeah, my my advice would beone identify if The work you're
putting in is getting a rewardout of it that you want if it's
just financial compensationgreat But if it's like something
beyond that Ask yourself if yourwork's giving you that and then
(12:59):
if it's not switch it up.
No one's stopping you
Dad (13:03):
You know, it's it's an interesting.
Yeah, I think we're kind ofskewed.
I've skewed you guys i've toldyou since you're a little bit A
job is like a car.
As long as it's taking you toyour destination, keep the car.
Once it stops going where youneed it to go, get rid of the
car and get a different car.
You know, it's not like beingmarried, it's not like buying a
(13:23):
house.
A job is a job.
Now, that being said, there aresome downsides to living like
that.
I've had 21 different jobs in 25years of a working career.
Now
Ashton (13:35):
momentary lapses in health insurance.
Dad (13:37):
Yeah, but, but a lot of mine.
Yeah.
And that's only because of thisnew change in government laws.
Don't get me started.
So back to what we're talkingabout, the reality is, is I've
stayed with certain things for along time.
I've also just launched a bunchof side projects and try to make
them work because of myentrepreneurial spirit.
I do believe what you said,Ashton, where, you know, Hey,
(14:00):
it's, it's just a job.
Go ahead and feel free tochange, but stick with it.
See if the rewards there.
And then Gideon, I think youbrought up a very strong point,
which is not everybody's goingto like the same thing.
So we don't baseline againsteach other for a job.
And the statistics used to sayabout three years ago that 52%
(14:21):
of the people were unhappy withthe current job, but were afraid
to change sorry, COVID happened.
We have a lot of silent quitsand a lot of things like that,
which I'm totally against.
I think if you're, if you're nothappy with your job, it's time
to move on.
I, but on the same token, Ibelieve employers should be able
to move on to if you're notworking out.
(14:43):
So to answer that question, doyou like your job or not?
I think that's a personal thing.
And if you don't, I think it'stime to change.
And then if you don't know howto change, go listen to some of
our habit episodes, go listen tosome of our other.
Things that we've talked aboutthat will help you make the
right career choice
Ashton (14:58):
our et episode would be good too It is really good
because you're definingyourself.
I
Gid (15:04):
actually just for the people who like statistics I
just looked it up And it saysthat 65 of people like their
jobs but only 20 Of us employeessay that they're passionate
Dad (15:15):
about their work.
Well, that's awesome.
65 is a huge jump I bet you ifyou pulled that number back And
look, we're in a day and age nowwhere it's easier to change jobs
than it ever was before.
You know before once you gotinto a job, you didn't know
where the next one was.
You didn't know what your careerwas, but 52% of y'all want to
have side gigs.
So it's not, where we're at isnot uncommon.
(15:37):
Gideon, thank you for sharingthat.
Great, great question, listener.
Really, really goodconversation.
Next, next question from alistener.
Does anyone just sit and thinkthat they are not adulting
enough?
Yes.
Yeah, for example, this is whatthe listener says.
Like when it comes to thingslike finances.
(15:59):
And speaking to agents abouthome buying, home and auto
insurance, et cetera, cansometimes be challenging when
they're explaining things andnot using terms that others can
understand.
Like when does doctors use afancy term to set us something
that is dumbed down?
Ashton, go ahead.
You started with the resoundingyes.
(16:21):
Remind me what the question was.
Does anyone just sit and thinkthey're not adulting enough?
Oh yeah.
And then it talked aboutfinances and home buying and.
Ashton (16:31):
That's kind of it.
Yes.
There's just so much.
There's just so much going on inadulting like it's such a deep
pool to try and swim in and itjust feels so easy to drown or
just feel like you're not a partof it Cuz there's just so many
layers That's, yeah, I don'thave a solution to that one, but
I mean, I've, I've definitelyfelt that.
Gid (16:55):
Kind of what Ashton was saying.
It's really helpful just to knowthat you're not alone in your
struggles.
And that really goes withanything.
But even in this case, like,yeah, adulting sucks.
It's hard sometimes.
And, you know, calling yourdoctor, not sharing, not, not
sure what they're saying.
I know Ashton's done this beforeand we talked about it in a
(17:16):
different episode, he's like, Heasked the person, he's like,
please just explain this to melike I was five years old.
Like, dumb it down, please, forme, and a lot of people are
happy to.
Not, well, some people might getannoyed, but you know, a lot of
people are nice and are happy toexplain.
Dad (17:37):
I'll tell you what we love giving advice, the older we get,
the more we think we can helpbecause we feel like we've been
there, done that.
So I love that you talked aboutasking for help.
Ashton, I like the point thatyou said, look, there's so much.
And I'd really recommend thelistener on that one to go back
and listen to some of ourdifferent episodes.
They deep dive and it'sinteresting that I wish the
(17:59):
listener could follow us aroundbecause after our episodes We
will sit there and actually gowait a second.
We talked about this.
I don't quite understand thisprinciple Even though we talked
about it now that I've had a dayor two to digest it I'm still
kind of confused and it'sbecause there is a lot going on
Sabrina and I took Oh, maybe anhour and a half yesterday going
(18:23):
through her benefits that shegot from school and how to make
sure she signed up and actuallygetting all of her benefits.
And at the end of the day, weended up having to call somebody
and she did great.
You know, she, she used the toolshe heard in our episode, but I
think all of us feel a littlebit like we're frotting at this
adult thing, but guess what?
So am I right?
(18:44):
We put a lot of pressure onAshton saying, Hey, get your
health insurance, get yourhealth insurance.
And then come to find out, notqualifying for Medicare is a
qualifying event.
So welcome to adulting.
You're going to feel overwhelmedat times.
(19:04):
All right.
Here's the another listenerquestion.
Are homemade noodles that muchbetter than normal noodles?
I recently found that homemadenoodles are kind of less
expensive than pre made ones.
I love that
Ashton (19:17):
question.
Depends on what, what, whatyou're making.
Gid (19:20):
And mom's homemade noodles for chicken noodle soup that are
like half an inch thick.
And like quarter minutes tallare just glorious.
Ashton (19:30):
Yeah, but can you imagine trying to eat a
spaghetti?
Gid (19:33):
No, I cannot it's definitely
Ashton (19:36):
Like those are cheap cheap noodles would be amazing
But spaghetti noodles from thestore if you're just making
yourself a spaghetti or analfredo They don't really miss
Gid (19:47):
and even though it might be cheaper You also got to think
about the time Like the time itwould take to make your own
noodles and if you want to dothat as a hobby Go for it.
Like, that's dope.
Especially, like, if it'scheaper and you have fun making
your own noodles, go for it.
Really, whatever.
I
Ashton (20:03):
would say make your own noodles.
If you want to.
It's fun.
I did it when I was out of thecountry once.
And I remember my hands weresuper sticky.
When you, to make some homemadenoodles you take flour and egg
and stuff.
Dad (20:15):
For egg
Ashton (20:15):
noodles, yeah.
Yeah, yeah, for egg noodles.
And I was making them and wedidn't have enough ingredients.
So I went to one of my roommatesand I said, Hey.
Can you just go ask theneighbors for some stuff?
He walked out and came back in,and he was like, no! And so I
had to make noodles without allthe ingredients.
This turned out okay, but it waspretty funny.
Dad (20:35):
I can't remember which one, that's why I'm looking blankly.
Showed me a tiktok video wherethey made their own noodles, but
they started by taking it was meI taking noodles and breaking
them up and then and then andthen kind of mushing them
together and then makingnoodles?
Ashton (20:50):
Essentially they replaced the new the flour with
other noodles that had been madewhich is just the dumbest
Dad (20:55):
idea Yeah, so so my take on homemade noodles.
These are great in some dishesand others.
I'm with Ashton It's not worththe effort energy to buy this
stuff.
You need to make a pasta noodleBut once again, you, the
listener, get to decide how youbest want to do that.
With that
Ashton (21:13):
being said, if you get deep into making your own
noodles, listener we kindlyrequest that you send us some of
your homemade noodles.
Gid (21:20):
I like that, actually.
Dad (21:22):
Here's a question from a listener feeling uncomfortable.
1st time working.
I've started working for a fewweeks now.
My 1st job after graduation lastyear.
Let me tell you, it isdepressing.
I feel so uncomfortable doingthe routine waking up early in
the morning.
Returning home to rest only togo back to work the next day.
I get so anxious at work I'mscared that I'll make a mistake.
(21:45):
I can't imagine doing this forthe rest of my life What advice
would you give a listener?
Ashton (21:50):
Thinking back on experiences where I was working
True nine to five or even goingto school every day like that
sort of stuff can be can bedraining I think the advice
there, now that I'm thinkingabout it, is find hobbies, you
know like something to, to kindof reset you every time you get
home make friends with coworkers at work sometimes people
(22:14):
go to work, stay in their littlebubble, and then they go home,
and that, that makes waking upand getting, If you know that
when you get there, homeboyJames is gonna be there and
y'all are gonna have a laugh,then, you know, show up and have
a laugh.
Might make it a little easier.
So, that's my advice.
Either find a hobby or makefriends with your co workers.
Gid (22:37):
Call them homeboys.
So, I think my answer to this isa little bit different.
I think it might be important togo and look at your own goals
and...
Job interviews, the classicquestion, or at least a
stereotypical question would be,where do you see yourself in 5
to 10 years?
And it would be important toanswer that question for
(22:58):
yourself and even write it down.
So then, when you're going tothat, that job or, or you wake
up and you're like, this is justlike, this is so mundane, you
can think about your own futureand, and what you can do to get
there.
And then I feel like as long asyou're working on something that
you deem matters I think it canhelp your situation, but yeah.
(23:20):
I've definitely felt felt thatway before.
Dad (23:25):
Perfect, thank you.
Yeah, my, my advice on somethinglike that would be, I like to
ask you about hobbies.
Very critical, especially ifit's your first job, and you
know that's what you're going todo.
Gideon, I love that you saidlook at your personal goals, and
as it get, help me get to thosegoals, then you look at it in a
means to an end, and then thefinal challenge that I'd give
(23:46):
the the listener would be.
Try and cut out the rest of mylife in that statement.
You know, is this the job thatcan help me get to where I want
to go?
Versus think, oh, is this thejob for the rest of my life?
And the reason why to me thatfeels like such a big difference
(24:07):
it's maybe not my whole thing,but at least it will help me get
there.
Oh, that's, that's the onlything that I would take out of
there to realize that it's notfree entirely.
Okay.
Oh, go ahead.
Have you ever question is, haveyou ever reached a point of not
caring what people think?
For sure the, this, that's themain question.
(24:27):
I forgot to shave my legs, mytoenails are chipping and there
are a bunch of calluses.
Adulting is already busy and Ijust can't seem to slow down.
Ashton (24:37):
Yeah, I already don't care.
So, it's fine.
Like first up, this sounds likeit's a feminine question.
I don't know.
I know some guys who shave theirlegs
Gid (24:48):
Why are you looking at me?
Oh, no reason.
I have porcupine legs right now.
I forgot to
Ashton (24:56):
I mean you just got to pick your battles It's okay to
not care about some things andit's important to care about
others so you're not worriedabout the fact that you have
Porcupine legs and it doesn'tmatter to you if people care or
not then that's fine, you knowBut if you don't if you don't
care that you have, poorlypedicured toes or something like
(25:21):
And you're not worried aboutother people caring, then that's
totally fine.
There's times and places topresent yourself nicely.
It's also important to beyourself.
You don't have to...
It's exhausting to try andplease other people your whole
life.
So I, I think it's important toto not take yourself too
seriously when it comes toappearances and, and such.
Gid (25:44):
Yeah, I think my answer kind of fits in with the last
section of your answer, Ashton,in words, as long as you feel
like yourself, because you'renormally the person who, where
you yourself care about youknow, being properly shaven and
manicured, then sometimes whenyou aren't, you just feel like
(26:09):
you're not organized or thatsomething's a little bit off,
even though you might not knowwhat it is.
So I think it's also importantto not change yourself, but.
So, to answer the question, yes.
On certain things.
Sometimes it, it matters inmaybe a job interview, what the
(26:33):
person hiring you thinks.
But in most of my situations,it's more important to be myself
than to
Dad (26:42):
try and please other people.
A quote that goes along withthat, that made a big difference
to me is when I stopped buyingthings to impress people that I
don't like was pretty freeingbecause I realized, look, I get
to choose what adulting lookslike to me.
I get to choose what I define assuccess.
Not what do other people think,but will my appearance and will
(27:05):
my preparation, what I put outinto the world, will it get the
result that I want to get?
So it's not that I don't carewhat other people think, but I
have to look and say, okay howare people going to perceive me
showing up looking like this?
How are people going to perceiveme sending this email?
Because I need to impress them.
I want to impress them.
I want that to get that goal,but I'm not going to, I don't
(27:29):
care what they think of my housenecessarily or my boat or my
cars.
Right.
Because I do that stuff for me.
I think that's freeing when youdecide, and I think that goes
back to what you're saying,Ashton.
When you decide what's criticaland what's important and when
it's important, then I thinkyou've actually made it as an
adult because now you can lookat life objectively and you're
(27:50):
not doing counter things, justsaying, look, I want to piss
people off.
I'm going to dress like this.
I'm going to act like this, butit's freeing in the sense that
you get to decide.
All right.
Let's take the last questionthat was posed.
Tipping.
Seems like everywhere has a tipjar now
Ashton (28:13):
if you have not waited a table that I'm sitting at, or
done a service that I could nothave conceivably come back
behind the counter and donemyself, then I'm not tipping.
If I go to a fast foodrestaurant, and the person that
just rang me up at the cashregister asks for a tip, I'm not
(28:37):
paying that because I could havewalked behind the register and
done that tip myself.
I would tip though if I was at arestaurant and someone was
waiting four or five differenttables and they took care of
mine Well, because they're doinga bunch of extra work and that's
built into their industry thatthey make money off their tips
the little soda shacks It's notbuilt into their industry that
(29:01):
their employees live off of tipsas far as I know and I could I
could go be a soda jerk myself,so That's my opinion I think the
tipping culture has gone alittle excessive, especially
with how much tipping costs nowtoo.
I, that's
Gid (29:18):
where I'm at.
Yeah, I, I think I agree.
It depends on the environmentthat you're in.
Cause I have seen a lot of myfriends go into the fast food
type of jobs, not necessarilywaiters or waitresses.
Cause like you said, that'sdifferent where a lot of their
(29:38):
pay is based off of tips.
For fast food, I know whatpeople get paid for tips, so I,
I don't mind saying no tip tothe person, you know, who just
rung me up at Costa Vida, whereI'm like, you really, you just,
you said, Oh, here's your food.
Ashton (29:56):
I was it's
Dad (30:01):
pretty frustrating because they say, 15 an hour plus tips
and.
They don't know what those tipsare gonna be, you know, and and
but she goes I wouldn't tip usIt doesn't make any sense.
We didn't do anything to earnthat extra tip We didn't do
anything to help you or toincrease the value.
Ashton (30:19):
Yeah, it doesn't hurt the employer none to put that
tip thing up there I mean, well,I think it
Dad (30:23):
more.
Well, I think it does.
I think it gives you a bad tasteI mean a lot of people are
frustrated with it You know,JCW, which is one of my, one of
the hamburger joints that Ireally like here locally, took
it off.
They don't even ask it.
Gid (30:36):
I was so excited when I went there.
I was like, it's not there
Dad (30:39):
anymore.
Yeah, so, so you're right.
It doesn't make people not go tothe restaurant.
But it is kind of irritatingwhen somebody goes, oh, here,
and they spin it over to you.
And, and they're like, and theystand there and look at you and
you're like, no.
And then the auto fill is prettydirty too.
Cause it's how much it puts inthere.
So I think it's really forcingus all to watch our credit card
a little bit better and makesure that the receipt comes out
(31:00):
right.
I think it's, so I don't thinkit's a bad thing, but I don't
think it's necessary.
Now that being said, I thinkbecause we've gone over the top
with tipping culture, I thinkthat people are going to stop
tipping at nicer restaurantswhere they really should be
tipping.
I had a guy that was serving momand I at Texas Roadhouse.
My gift card was for 25.
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My meal was 22.
So I put a, 5 more on a, on acredit card charge, because it,
but most people would probablysay, Oh, well, 23.
I give him a 1.
50 tip.
That's close enough.
Well, no, that guy just.
But his time, energy and effort,and he's only getting paid two
or 3 an hour versus the kidbehind the counter that makes 17
(31:45):
an hour at Costa Vida.
And then is wondering why Ididn't just give him 5 tip when
they didn't do anything.
My two cents on tip or 5.
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