March 27, 2024 • 16 mins
In this episode, we dive into the power of celebrating small wins, focusing on motivation, recognition, positive messaging, and team building. By sharing personal experiences, we explore how acknowledging victories can drive individual and collective success in various aspects of life.
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Welcome to Adulting Decrypted.
We are your hosts.
I'm Gene, and I'm starting myfirst year of college.
I'm Ashton.
I'm a music performer, composer,and educator.
I'm Gene, a high school senior.
I'm Roscoe, the dad.
Those are my three sons, andthis is Adulting Decrypted,
where we discuss ways to becomeadults and the things we need to
(00:22):
know to be successful in life.
Dad (00:25):
All right.
Welcome everybody.
Guess what?
Congratulations to you, thelistener and to us at adulting
decrypted.
Why?
Because we hit 11, 000downloads.
Way to go team.
It's been a little bit of workand sometimes it doesn't feel
like it's worth the effort.
And other times it just seemslike a lot of fun.
thing I thought would be fun todo for seven, episode 10.
(00:50):
We're a little over halfwaythrough this season.
I thought it would be good tocelebrate our successes.
So as a group.
We've done something fun we wentand played top golf you know, we
won't say who the winner isnecessarily keep that a secret
amongst ourselves I did thebest, which is probably pretty
normal.
He's still better.
It's
Ashton (01:09):
okay.
Dad (01:10):
Anyways, we're just really excited.
And so really it's important tocelebrate the small successes as
well as big successes.
And there's four main reasons.
For this one is motivation.
Next is recognition.
Sends out positive messages andit's good for the team.
So let's talk about motivation.
Do we celebrate our smallsuccesses every day as adults
and when we have a small win?
(01:31):
anybody celebrate those littlewins?
And use it as motivation?
Gene (01:35):
If so, how?
Ashton (01:36):
I try to, when it comes to writing music, a lot of
times, especially when you'relooking at the blank page,
there's nothing there and it'sfrustrating because you'll have
an idea of what you want to hearand what you want to convey.
But like the reality of it willbe far from real.
And then after many efforts andattempts, you finally get
something you're like, Oh,sweet.
That's cool.
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And you kind of celebrate it fora second and then you keep
going.
And it's kind of like motivationbecause if that didn't happen,
Then it wouldn't be fun to doit.
And so that little breakthroughmakes it fun,
Dad (02:06):
you know, Ashton I love that you you talk about that I
think of these wins and wetalked about it earlier this
season how Sometimes thelongevity of a win is so hard it
takes forever So I'm glad thatyou talked about celebrating in
that little moment go.
Yes.
I did it.
I just scored a goal.
I Wrote a note whatever that isand then you go.
Okay.
Now, let's put it away and moveon, I love that thought process.
(02:27):
Thank you Anybody else Recognizeyour wins to help you get
motivated feel like I
Gene (02:31):
tend to forget because the small wins for me For just being
a college student would be like,Oh yeah, I did this assignment,
but I don't feel like it's muchof a, yeah, good job.
I did it.
It's more like, sweet.
Boom.
Check it off.
I did that one.
I can move on to the next one.
But I don't know if I ever tryto mentally focus that into
motivation.
Dad (02:49):
That's fair.
Motivation is an interestingthing.
You know, the joke is motivationisn't sustainable, right?
And so you need to get a dose ofmotivation every so often.
It's just like a shower.
It's not permanent.
So that's the advantage of usingit as motivation.
Ashton (03:02):
Wait a minute.
Dad (03:03):
cause a shower wears off Just like motivation wears off.
Ashton (03:06):
No one told me.
Dad (03:07):
Which one?
Motivation or shower?
Well, now you know the rest ofthe story as the story goes.
so try and use these littlewins, as motivation.
interesting.
I was listening to something theother day and it talked about
how a lot of times we get reallyfrustrated.
Something doesn't go our way.
So you get a bad break.
And then they asked is thissomething you're going to
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remember in five years?
If that failure is going to besomething you remember in five
years, trying to let it ruinmore than five minutes.
if it's something that you'regoing to remember in 10 years,
that's fine.
be mad for the day, befrustrated for the day, be,
irritated for a minute.
It's okay to take a day and go,Oh, this is just socks.
And then say, okay, let's moveforward.
And I like that.
I mean, that doesn't have to donecessarily with motivation,
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except maybe that thought willhelp you keep it in perspective
next time something goes wrong.
The next one is recognition.
80 percent of employees arehighly recognized, feel proud of
their work.
So it's, recognizing these wins.
And so that way you can feelproud.
You can feel proud about whatyou accomplished, what you
pushed forward.
And really the whole goal in therecognition It allows you to
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take pride in your work.
Do you guys, I'm asking thequestion, are you guys proud
that we hit 11, 000 downloads?
Ashton (04:14):
Yeah, I think so.
that's a lot of thousands.
Gene (04:17):
Yeah, I mean, it's super cool.
It's nice.
Dad (04:19):
The next thing is it sends out a positive message.
It sends a positive message outto our team.
It reinforces positive behavior.
It builds trust and creates aculture of achievement.
Where have you seen this playinto your life?
Gene (04:30):
Having celebrating your successes.
Ashton (04:32):
where have we seen celebrating success be a
benefit?
Dad (04:36):
Where have you seen success building positive messaging and
Driving to a culture of hisachievement or the desire to get
more achievement well,
Ashton (04:45):
a lot of it's easy to see and easily transferable in
the realm of teaching because astudent will get frustrated when
they're not able to accomplish atask And that frustration lasts
until there's a breakthrough andthen once there's a breakthrough
It helps push for the next thingthat leads to frustration and
then a breakthrough.
But those, little peaks ofbreakthroughs are just something
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that makes you want to keepgoing.
but the thing is, the better youget at something, the further
apart those breakthroughs get.
So like an analogy, a teacherused to tell me, it was like an,
imagine you're walking through adesert and then there's an Oasis
that you get to, and it's a niceOasis.
There's like a little bit ofwater, and a little bit of
shade, there's like a bush, andthen you're like, You know,
there's probably somethingbetter out there, so you push,
(05:28):
in the desert, and you have towander for a little bit longer,
but then there's another oasis,With a little bit more water,
and a little bit more shade, andthen you're like, Huh, well if
this one was better, there'sprobably a better one.
And then you go, same thing.
You push a lot further, but thisoasis, there's a lot more water.
There's a couple of palm trees.
There's a couple of coconuts andit like gets better.
So I feel like celebrating thevictories doesn't happen without
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the frustration, but if you cancorrelate the frustration to
understanding and recognizingthe victories, it can create a
culture of wanting to pushthrough more of that
frustration.
Dad (06:01):
I love it, Ashton, because it's not just talking about the
motivation of the moment.
But it's the positive messagethat you send strives to get
more achievement.
You're like, guys, that wasawesome.
We did amazing.
Now what's next?
What else is out there?
Gideon (06:12):
I think something interesting on that is it
brought me back to part of DavidGargan's book and it's the
cookie jar, principle and thewhole thing is every positive
thing that you do or everylittle thing that you celebrate.
Like, If it's just for like adaily example, Oh, I made my bed
this morning.
That's a cookie in the cookiejar.
So later when you're feelingdiscouraged, you can look back
(06:33):
and see all the different thingsthat you did, slowly adding on
to that stuff.
And of course it can translateto bigger things as well, like
David Goggins example is duringhis 100 he would turn back to
his cookie jar, which was like,you got into the Navy SEAL
program, you lost, what was itlike?
pounds in a couple months orsomething, just crazy numbers.
(06:53):
And so it's just turning backonto those victories, whether
how big or how small they are,just as motivation throughout
your day.
Ashton (06:59):
Forget about the analogy.
I like that one.
The good one.
Dad (07:02):
Yeah.
and really if we're sending outpositive messages and it's a
struggle sometimes.
Because when we get up in themorning we can think of all the
bad things or all the hardthings or all the things That we
felt like we felt that well, Iforgot to make my bed.
Oh, I didn't brush my teeth thismorning I didn't shower Whatever
it is, right?
You can think of all thosenegative things, but man, if you
could just grab onto one ofthose positive feelings and
(07:22):
reinforce that behavior, yeah,but I got up this morning, And
some people that's a realstruggle.
And other people they're going,well, of course I got up in the
morning and I brushed my teethand I did my hair and I blah,
blah, blah, blah, blah, Andthey're going, that's, there's
no positive message in that.
But for you, if you find thepositive message in that, as we
did as a team, it reinvigoratesus.
It keeps us going.
It keeps us driving.
I won't lie to the listener.
(07:44):
I started wondering if this wasworth doing when you're seeing a
very few downloads and verylittle engagement to all of a
sudden get 330 downloads in aweek, you know, knowing that
people are out there listeningto you and having people on
Reddit say, Oh, that was greatadvice.
I really enjoyed this out ofyour episode.
It keeps you going.
And the more we can giveourselves those positive
messages, the better we have achance of being successful.
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The last thing that celebratingthe success does for us as a
crew.
As we celebrate our wins iswe're team building celebrating
successes promotes team buildingand helps members of an
organization build friendshipsand positive work relationships.
So the more good news we share,I don't know how many times I
ping.
Ashton hey, do I have the audiofile yet?
Ashton (08:26):
What's twice?
Dad (08:27):
Yeah, and then I ping gene.
Hey, where's my artwork?
If I was better at saying guys,guess what?
We got 35 downloads just todayversus Ashton.
Where's this file Gideon?
What's our next episode?
Where's our artwork?
Do you see the difference inthat vibe and as a team if you
see your successes?
You're more likely to build uponthose successes Football is one
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of the most interesting gamesfor me to watch as far as
momentum goes It's one of thosegames that you can feel the
momentum shift in a stadium ifyou've ever watched a live
football game.
I remember sitting at the RoseBowl, and I think we talked
about this recently, but sittingat the Rose Bowl, I could feel
the shift when the team knewthey were going to win.
When the Utes finally turned iton and LSU realized they were
(09:09):
going to lose, It was L.
S.
Not the Rose Bowl.
U.
C.
L.
A.
You're talking
Ashton (09:12):
about Pac 12.
Yeah.
With U.
S.
C.
Sorry, yeah.
There you go.
I was like, wait a minute.
We were the team that lost atthe Rose Bowl both times.
I felt that momentum shift forsure.
Hurt less the second timearound.
I was used to it by that point.
There you go.
Dad (09:26):
It was like with the Pac playoff last year when we were
there and you could feel thechange happening in Las Vegas.
When you knew that USC.
was going to lose.
They started playing like theyhad lost the game.
Had shifted and started feelinglike they were going to win
because they celebrated a sackon a quarterback.
I mean, that was really themomentum that shifted that game.
(09:46):
And it was only one silly littlemoment, In the whole scheme of
that game.
It was so small, but for USC.
it was so big.
Ashton (09:53):
Dave versus Gordon, USC.
But I think that also is maybe agood adage to thinking of the
saying of, don't put all youreggs in one basket because for
USC you can tell that they putall their faith in their
quarterback.
That's all that anyone aroundthem, the media, their coaches,
their press release, that's allanyone ever talked about.
So when finally there was achink in that arm, you're like,
(10:14):
wait a minute, he's notuntouchable?
you felt that momentum shift.
And I think, we as fans, too,cause like, you buy into the
narrative of like, Oh my gosh,that quarterback's insane, he's
the best.
And when you realize, it doesn'tmatter, your team's still
stopping him, you're like, Yeah,let's go! Like, in Utah, we've
always, like, there's theculture of always believing in
your defense, but it's also Wecan trust our offense to do
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certain things.
It's like if one thing breaksdown, this best season forms a
great example of, you know,like, Hey, you know, we don't
really have an offense, but ourdefense will sure give us a
chance because they're just,that good.
And so for yourself likethey're, they're, when I think
of my teaching which I have alot of, just getting a lot of
experience with right now, ifI'm like, Oh yeah, I feel like
I'm really good at teaching Xprinciple, but then all of a
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sudden I have a bad lesson likethat momentum can shift and I
can be like, Oh, I can't teach.
And then the rest of the day iskind of a struggle because I'm
thinking about Oh, this was astrength, but now it feels like
a weakness.
So it's kind of like theantithesis of the point where
it's like you want to celebratethe victories, but at the same
time, like celebrate the factthat we're not one dimensional,
there's a lot more going on tous than.
(11:16):
The one thing we're good atbecause we don't just have one
thing.
Dad (11:19):
Yeah, I like it You know as adulting decrypted crew, you're
absolutely right if we onlythought about adulting it would
be Not nearly as dynamic as itis when we'd celebrate all the
victories in our life well thattoo but even
Ashton (11:32):
as us as adult and encrypted like we each as
individuals have our strengthsand if we have times where that
strength falters, like, there'sbeen a couple, if you're an
active listener, you might'vecaught me a couple of times, but
like editing mistakes whereespecially a while back, there
was a couple of them wherethings lapped over each other.
And it was kind of weird, likethat sort of thing.
it could be very distracting,but then you could also go.
(11:54):
Hey, we fixed it.
We noticed it it's fixed.
And now the permanent recorddoesn't show it.
You can celebrate that victoryinstead.
Dad (12:01):
I like that.
It's so multifaceted and Hey,we're in their arena.
We're trying It doesn't have tobe perfect.
Gene (12:07):
And going back to the point of, team building when you
said that, it reminded me of asa youth group, we went out to a
military base and we did allthese military.
Team building exercises whereit's like, Hey, you have these
objects.
You have to go over this top ofthis minefield.
There's like a plank of woodthat keeps it like above the
ground over here.
And so you have to buildsomething And if you build it in
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such a way, and one person getsthrough, you're like, okay, yes.
And so that makes you moremotivated to keep trying, keep
doing.
And then even once you finishthat big project, Gives you more
motivation that when you do hita wall.
In that next one that is moredifficult.
You're okay.
How are we going to get everyoneover this with this little
supplies?
well, we've been able to do thisbefore.
I know that this person, this isone of their strengths.
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And so you're able to not onlycelebrate your own successes,
but other people's as well.
Like, Oh yeah, I remember that Idid this well, and then you did
this well.
Sometimes we don't realize ourown strengths and things that we
do well, sometimes we just do itoften.
And we're super used to doingit, so when we do it well,
you're like, oh yeah, that'swhat was supposed to happen.
But then when someone elsebrings it out, you're like, Oh,
you know what?
Yeah.
I did a good job doing that.
I love it.
(13:09):
Hey, listener, what we could usefrom you is keep shouting out
your successes.
We've got a few and we reallyappreciate those shout outs.
Yeah.
Gideon (13:15):
you can find us to tell us about those on any of the
social media platforms that wehave Facebook, Instagram,
anywhere.
Reddit is awesome.
We have a subreddit.
You can talk, especially ouremail.
It's always open.
Our website has all of those.
So.
I'd love to hear your storiesand then we can share them here
too.
So
Gene (13:33):
anything's awesome.
Thank you.
Ashton (13:34):
Not anything Everything anything and everything all of
the time.
I wasn't saying everything isawesome
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Welcome to Adulting Decrypted.
We are your hosts.
I'm Gene, and I'm starting myfirst year of college.
I'm Ashton.
I'm a music performer, composer,and educator.
I'm Gene, a high school senior.
I'm Roscoe, the dad.
Those are my three sons, andthis is Adulting Decrypted,
where we discuss ways to becomeadults and the things we need to
(00:22):
know to be successful in life.
Dad (00:25):
All right.
Welcome everybody.
Guess what?
Congratulations to you, thelistener and to us at adulting
decrypted.
Why?
Because we hit 11, 000downloads.
Way to go team.
It's been a little bit of workand sometimes it doesn't feel
like it's worth the effort.
And other times it just seemslike a lot of fun.
thing I thought would be fun todo for seven, episode 10.
(00:50):
We're a little over halfwaythrough this season.
I thought it would be good tocelebrate our successes.
So as a group.
We've done something fun we wentand played top golf you know, we
won't say who the winner isnecessarily keep that a secret
amongst ourselves I did thebest, which is probably pretty
normal.
He's still better.
It's
Ashton (01:09):
okay.
Dad (01:10):
Anyways, we're just really excited.
And so really it's important tocelebrate the small successes as
well as big successes.
And there's four main reasons.
For this one is motivation.
Next is recognition.
Sends out positive messages andit's good for the team.
So let's talk about motivation.
Do we celebrate our smallsuccesses every day as adults
and when we have a small win?
(01:31):
anybody celebrate those littlewins?
And use it as motivation?
Gene (01:35):
If so, how?
Ashton (01:36):
I try to, when it comes to writing music, a lot of
times, especially when you'relooking at the blank page,
there's nothing there and it'sfrustrating because you'll have
an idea of what you want to hearand what you want to convey.
But like the reality of it willbe far from real.
And then after many efforts andattempts, you finally get
something you're like, Oh,sweet.
That's cool.
(01:57):
And you kind of celebrate it fora second and then you keep
going.
And it's kind of like motivationbecause if that didn't happen,
Then it wouldn't be fun to doit.
And so that little breakthroughmakes it fun,
Dad (02:06):
you know, Ashton I love that you you talk about that I
think of these wins and wetalked about it earlier this
season how Sometimes thelongevity of a win is so hard it
takes forever So I'm glad thatyou talked about celebrating in
that little moment go.
Yes.
I did it.
I just scored a goal.
I Wrote a note whatever that isand then you go.
Okay.
Now, let's put it away and moveon, I love that thought process.
(02:27):
Thank you Anybody else Recognizeyour wins to help you get
motivated feel like I
Gene (02:31):
tend to forget because the small wins for me For just being
a college student would be like,Oh yeah, I did this assignment,
but I don't feel like it's muchof a, yeah, good job.
I did it.
It's more like, sweet.
Boom.
Check it off.
I did that one.
I can move on to the next one.
But I don't know if I ever tryto mentally focus that into
motivation.
Dad (02:49):
That's fair.
Motivation is an interestingthing.
You know, the joke is motivationisn't sustainable, right?
And so you need to get a dose ofmotivation every so often.
It's just like a shower.
It's not permanent.
So that's the advantage of usingit as motivation.
Ashton (03:02):
Wait a minute.
Dad (03:03):
cause a shower wears off Just like motivation wears off.
Ashton (03:06):
No one told me.
Dad (03:07):
Which one?
Motivation or shower?
Well, now you know the rest ofthe story as the story goes.
so try and use these littlewins, as motivation.
interesting.
I was listening to something theother day and it talked about
how a lot of times we get reallyfrustrated.
Something doesn't go our way.
So you get a bad break.
And then they asked is thissomething you're going to
(03:27):
remember in five years?
If that failure is going to besomething you remember in five
years, trying to let it ruinmore than five minutes.
if it's something that you'regoing to remember in 10 years,
that's fine.
be mad for the day, befrustrated for the day, be,
irritated for a minute.
It's okay to take a day and go,Oh, this is just socks.
And then say, okay, let's moveforward.
And I like that.
I mean, that doesn't have to donecessarily with motivation,
(03:48):
except maybe that thought willhelp you keep it in perspective
next time something goes wrong.
The next one is recognition.
80 percent of employees arehighly recognized, feel proud of
their work.
So it's, recognizing these wins.
And so that way you can feelproud.
You can feel proud about whatyou accomplished, what you
pushed forward.
And really the whole goal in therecognition It allows you to
(04:08):
take pride in your work.
Do you guys, I'm asking thequestion, are you guys proud
that we hit 11, 000 downloads?
Ashton (04:14):
Yeah, I think so.
that's a lot of thousands.
Gene (04:17):
Yeah, I mean, it's super cool.
It's nice.
Dad (04:19):
The next thing is it sends out a positive message.
It sends a positive message outto our team.
It reinforces positive behavior.
It builds trust and creates aculture of achievement.
Where have you seen this playinto your life?
Gene (04:30):
Having celebrating your successes.
Ashton (04:32):
where have we seen celebrating success be a
benefit?
Dad (04:36):
Where have you seen success building positive messaging and
Driving to a culture of hisachievement or the desire to get
more achievement well,
Ashton (04:45):
a lot of it's easy to see and easily transferable in
the realm of teaching because astudent will get frustrated when
they're not able to accomplish atask And that frustration lasts
until there's a breakthrough andthen once there's a breakthrough
It helps push for the next thingthat leads to frustration and
then a breakthrough.
But those, little peaks ofbreakthroughs are just something
(05:08):
that makes you want to keepgoing.
but the thing is, the better youget at something, the further
apart those breakthroughs get.
So like an analogy, a teacherused to tell me, it was like an,
imagine you're walking through adesert and then there's an Oasis
that you get to, and it's a niceOasis.
There's like a little bit ofwater, and a little bit of
shade, there's like a bush, andthen you're like, You know,
there's probably somethingbetter out there, so you push,
(05:28):
in the desert, and you have towander for a little bit longer,
but then there's another oasis,With a little bit more water,
and a little bit more shade, andthen you're like, Huh, well if
this one was better, there'sprobably a better one.
And then you go, same thing.
You push a lot further, but thisoasis, there's a lot more water.
There's a couple of palm trees.
There's a couple of coconuts andit like gets better.
So I feel like celebrating thevictories doesn't happen without
(05:51):
the frustration, but if you cancorrelate the frustration to
understanding and recognizingthe victories, it can create a
culture of wanting to pushthrough more of that
frustration.
Dad (06:01):
I love it, Ashton, because it's not just talking about the
motivation of the moment.
But it's the positive messagethat you send strives to get
more achievement.
You're like, guys, that wasawesome.
We did amazing.
Now what's next?
What else is out there?
Gideon (06:12):
I think something interesting on that is it
brought me back to part of DavidGargan's book and it's the
cookie jar, principle and thewhole thing is every positive
thing that you do or everylittle thing that you celebrate.
Like, If it's just for like adaily example, Oh, I made my bed
this morning.
That's a cookie in the cookiejar.
So later when you're feelingdiscouraged, you can look back
(06:33):
and see all the different thingsthat you did, slowly adding on
to that stuff.
And of course it can translateto bigger things as well, like
David Goggins example is duringhis 100 he would turn back to
his cookie jar, which was like,you got into the Navy SEAL
program, you lost, what was itlike?
pounds in a couple months orsomething, just crazy numbers.
(06:53):
And so it's just turning backonto those victories, whether
how big or how small they are,just as motivation throughout
your day.
Ashton (06:59):
Forget about the analogy.
I like that one.
The good one.
Dad (07:02):
Yeah.
and really if we're sending outpositive messages and it's a
struggle sometimes.
Because when we get up in themorning we can think of all the
bad things or all the hardthings or all the things That we
felt like we felt that well, Iforgot to make my bed.
Oh, I didn't brush my teeth thismorning I didn't shower Whatever
it is, right?
You can think of all thosenegative things, but man, if you
could just grab onto one ofthose positive feelings and
(07:22):
reinforce that behavior, yeah,but I got up this morning, And
some people that's a realstruggle.
And other people they're going,well, of course I got up in the
morning and I brushed my teethand I did my hair and I blah,
blah, blah, blah, blah, Andthey're going, that's, there's
no positive message in that.
But for you, if you find thepositive message in that, as we
did as a team, it reinvigoratesus.
It keeps us going.
It keeps us driving.
I won't lie to the listener.
(07:44):
I started wondering if this wasworth doing when you're seeing a
very few downloads and verylittle engagement to all of a
sudden get 330 downloads in aweek, you know, knowing that
people are out there listeningto you and having people on
Reddit say, Oh, that was greatadvice.
I really enjoyed this out ofyour episode.
It keeps you going.
And the more we can giveourselves those positive
messages, the better we have achance of being successful.
(08:06):
The last thing that celebratingthe success does for us as a
crew.
As we celebrate our wins iswe're team building celebrating
successes promotes team buildingand helps members of an
organization build friendshipsand positive work relationships.
So the more good news we share,I don't know how many times I
ping.
Ashton hey, do I have the audiofile yet?
Ashton (08:26):
What's twice?
Dad (08:27):
Yeah, and then I ping gene.
Hey, where's my artwork?
If I was better at saying guys,guess what?
We got 35 downloads just todayversus Ashton.
Where's this file Gideon?
What's our next episode?
Where's our artwork?
Do you see the difference inthat vibe and as a team if you
see your successes?
You're more likely to build uponthose successes Football is one
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of the most interesting gamesfor me to watch as far as
momentum goes It's one of thosegames that you can feel the
momentum shift in a stadium ifyou've ever watched a live
football game.
I remember sitting at the RoseBowl, and I think we talked
about this recently, but sittingat the Rose Bowl, I could feel
the shift when the team knewthey were going to win.
When the Utes finally turned iton and LSU realized they were
(09:09):
going to lose, It was L.
S.
Not the Rose Bowl.
U.
C.
L.
A.
You're talking
Ashton (09:12):
about Pac 12.
Yeah.
With U.
S.
C.
Sorry, yeah.
There you go.
I was like, wait a minute.
We were the team that lost atthe Rose Bowl both times.
I felt that momentum shift forsure.
Hurt less the second timearound.
I was used to it by that point.
There you go.
Dad (09:26):
It was like with the Pac playoff last year when we were
there and you could feel thechange happening in Las Vegas.
When you knew that USC.
was going to lose.
They started playing like theyhad lost the game.
Had shifted and started feelinglike they were going to win
because they celebrated a sackon a quarterback.
I mean, that was really themomentum that shifted that game.
(09:46):
And it was only one silly littlemoment, In the whole scheme of
that game.
It was so small, but for USC.
it was so big.
Ashton (09:53):
Dave versus Gordon, USC.
But I think that also is maybe agood adage to thinking of the
saying of, don't put all youreggs in one basket because for
USC you can tell that they putall their faith in their
quarterback.
That's all that anyone aroundthem, the media, their coaches,
their press release, that's allanyone ever talked about.
So when finally there was achink in that arm, you're like,
(10:14):
wait a minute, he's notuntouchable?
you felt that momentum shift.
And I think, we as fans, too,cause like, you buy into the
narrative of like, Oh my gosh,that quarterback's insane, he's
the best.
And when you realize, it doesn'tmatter, your team's still
stopping him, you're like, Yeah,let's go! Like, in Utah, we've
always, like, there's theculture of always believing in
your defense, but it's also Wecan trust our offense to do
(10:35):
certain things.
It's like if one thing breaksdown, this best season forms a
great example of, you know,like, Hey, you know, we don't
really have an offense, but ourdefense will sure give us a
chance because they're just,that good.
And so for yourself likethey're, they're, when I think
of my teaching which I have alot of, just getting a lot of
experience with right now, ifI'm like, Oh yeah, I feel like
I'm really good at teaching Xprinciple, but then all of a
(10:56):
sudden I have a bad lesson likethat momentum can shift and I
can be like, Oh, I can't teach.
And then the rest of the day iskind of a struggle because I'm
thinking about Oh, this was astrength, but now it feels like
a weakness.
So it's kind of like theantithesis of the point where
it's like you want to celebratethe victories, but at the same
time, like celebrate the factthat we're not one dimensional,
there's a lot more going on tous than.
(11:16):
The one thing we're good atbecause we don't just have one
thing.
Dad (11:19):
Yeah, I like it You know as adulting decrypted crew, you're
absolutely right if we onlythought about adulting it would
be Not nearly as dynamic as itis when we'd celebrate all the
victories in our life well thattoo but even
Ashton (11:32):
as us as adult and encrypted like we each as
individuals have our strengthsand if we have times where that
strength falters, like, there'sbeen a couple, if you're an
active listener, you might'vecaught me a couple of times, but
like editing mistakes whereespecially a while back, there
was a couple of them wherethings lapped over each other.
And it was kind of weird, likethat sort of thing.
it could be very distracting,but then you could also go.
(11:54):
Hey, we fixed it.
We noticed it it's fixed.
And now the permanent recorddoesn't show it.
You can celebrate that victoryinstead.
Dad (12:01):
I like that.
It's so multifaceted and Hey,we're in their arena.
We're trying It doesn't have tobe perfect.
Gene (12:07):
And going back to the point of, team building when you
said that, it reminded me of asa youth group, we went out to a
military base and we did allthese military.
Team building exercises whereit's like, Hey, you have these
objects.
You have to go over this top ofthis minefield.
There's like a plank of woodthat keeps it like above the
ground over here.
And so you have to buildsomething And if you build it in
(12:27):
such a way, and one person getsthrough, you're like, okay, yes.
And so that makes you moremotivated to keep trying, keep
doing.
And then even once you finishthat big project, Gives you more
motivation that when you do hita wall.
In that next one that is moredifficult.
You're okay.
How are we going to get everyoneover this with this little
supplies?
well, we've been able to do thisbefore.
I know that this person, this isone of their strengths.
(12:48):
And so you're able to not onlycelebrate your own successes,
but other people's as well.
Like, Oh yeah, I remember that Idid this well, and then you did
this well.
Sometimes we don't realize ourown strengths and things that we
do well, sometimes we just do itoften.
And we're super used to doingit, so when we do it well,
you're like, oh yeah, that'swhat was supposed to happen.
But then when someone elsebrings it out, you're like, Oh,
you know what?
Yeah.
I did a good job doing that.
I love it.
(13:09):
Hey, listener, what we could usefrom you is keep shouting out
your successes.
We've got a few and we reallyappreciate those shout outs.
Yeah.
Gideon (13:15):
you can find us to tell us about those on any of the
social media platforms that wehave Facebook, Instagram,
anywhere.
Reddit is awesome.
We have a subreddit.
You can talk, especially ouremail.
It's always open.
Our website has all of those.
So.
I'd love to hear your storiesand then we can share them here
too.
So
Gene (13:33):
anything's awesome.
Thank you.
Ashton (13:34):
Not anything Everything anything and everything all of
the time.
I wasn't saying everything isawesome
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