January 8, 2024 • 20 mins
Update with All 4 of us Back together! We learn what we are all doing! Gene shares about his mission and how the podcast helped and things he can do better! Gideon shares that we are not in New Mexico, and how he likes going to College. Ashton talks about adulting as a band leader! Find this and many other episodes by category on our website! https://adultingdecrypted.com/episode-search/
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Dad (00:00):
Welcome to adulting decrypted.
We have started season seven.
We're talking to you from sunnyCabo.
New Mexico.
We're excited.
What's that look for?
Is that not where we're at?
Gid (00:12):
Is it New Mexico or is it just
Dad (00:13):
Mexico?
(00:45):
Oh yeah, it's new to me, so it'sNew Mexico.
Sounds good.
It might be so late that I'mjust tired and, and over sun
baked.
So welcome to Season 7everybody.
We're excited to have you here.
Thanks for joining us.
Wanted to go through and do aquick update from everybody if
we could.
Gene, welcome back.
Thank you.
So where have you been?
Tell us a little bit about whatyou've been up to.
(01:07):
So I've
Gene (01:08):
just returned about a month ago from a two year
service proselyting mission inLouisiana and basically half of
Dad (01:18):
Mississippi.
Very cool.
So that was a chance for you tobe out on your own and start to
do some adulting.
Tell us a couple times you wonas an adult and maybe a time you
lost.
I know
Gene (01:32):
some of the things that were definitely easier from
doing the podcast was definitelystarting off.
One thing that has made iteasier through doing this
podcast and hearing all thesedifferent episodes helped me
(01:52):
have a more open mind with thosepeople that I, that I started
off with, when I met thesedifferent people, I was able to
realize their differentbackgrounds quicker.
And so it's better to easilyadapt to those people.
For those who don't know, you'rebasically thrown with someone
random that you've never metbefore.
(02:12):
For roughly six weeks or longerfor me it tended to be longer
and more closer to six
Dad (02:18):
months than six weeks Well, that is a long time for most of
Gene (02:23):
them But some of them were just six weeks, but it was those
different people and like hey Ineed to be open to problem solve
one of the things that one ofthe things that was still
difficult for me, or one ofthose things I need to work on
is talking with those otherpeople, working with the doctors
(02:45):
and all those different types ofthings.
It's hard for me to ask helpfrom those people.
Dad (02:50):
So to recap you were successful.
I hope to look and see how towork better with people in a
different communication style,but still struggled with talking
to other adults because they'rewith authority or speaking with
other people, your age or.
Gene (03:07):
I think it would be the people in those higher, I guess,
positions like the doctors orsomeone that's.
I guess in that more authorityperspective, even like the
cashier or something, someone atthe customer service, those,
those different places.
Ashton (03:29):
Just that
Gene (03:30):
area.
Dad (03:31):
I still kind of struggled with that.
Yeah, no, good, goodobservation.
Thank you for sharing.
Can you do it?
Awesome.
What's your next step?
So
Gene (03:41):
currently my next step will be college.
I am set up to start in January.
So I'll start school in January.
I have to.
Be actually fully living on myown with no other supervision
and perfectly I'm going to builda schedule and attend to it
(04:05):
without anyone over there beinglike, Hey, make sure that you're
doing more effective things with
Dad (04:10):
your time.
Perfect.
Yeah, it is January 4th.
So you'll actually have been atschool a week before the first
episode drops for this season.
So very excited.
Thank you.
Gideon, tell us what you've beenup to.
Gid (04:25):
Yeah, for sure.
So, I am currently in my senioryear of high school, which is
weird for me to think aboutbecause it doesn't quite feel
like it.
I spend a lot of my My time at atechnical college, so I'll go to
first two periods of high schooland then me and a buddy from M
(04:45):
tech fall from a neighborhood.
We'll go to M tech, thetechnical college, and I'm
taking a course on digitalmarketing and analytics.
So that's been super exciting.
I've actually remade our wholewebsite.
So definitely go check that out.
And I've been telling a lot ofpeople about it.
So, super excited on whereeverything is going.
(05:08):
And I love the opportunitiesthat I'm getting and will get
from this course.
Dad (05:14):
So Gideon, you mentioned the website.
What's a big update for thelisteners so they know what to
look for?
Of
Gid (05:19):
course.
So, A big update is our wholewebsite in general.
So, I started from pretty muchscratch and created a whole new
adulting decrypted website witha, some blog posts that we've
posted trying to get some moresearch engine optimization and
(05:41):
get some more traffic to ourwebsite that way, as well as An
episode search page where youcan find all of the past six
seasons of adult and encryptedthrough either different
categories
Dad (05:52):
we
Gid (05:53):
have areas of practical, which has, you know, all the
practical skills on it.
Emotional health.
All the episodes on emotionalhealth.
We have financial, and we
Dad (06:07):
Have social.
Fantastic.
Awesome.
Where do you feel like you'vestill got an opportunity growing
to learn this season and seasonseven about becoming an adult?
What do you think, you know, aresome of the things that surprise
you that you still mightstruggle with?
Or?
What do you think you havefigured out?
Gid (06:26):
I think a lot of my struggles are the same no matter
what work I've necessarily triedto do with it.
And so more work is alwayshelpful.
And I bring that up because thelast episode of season six was
about our goals and how thatdidn't necessarily work out for
all of us.
And so I know that's a big thingthat I have to work on and I
(06:49):
want
Dad (06:49):
to get better at.
Great.
Thank you for sharing.
You know, we went back inGideon.
We were just listening toepisode one, season one, you
know, so listener, if you wantto hear Gideon change from then
till now, 13 year old Gideon to17 year old Gideon is quite a
different invoice and, andchange.
So awesome.
Thank you.
Ashton, what you been up to?
Ashton (07:12):
Well, today I went and petted a dolphin and then rode a
pirate ship.
That's
Gid (07:22):
actually sick, by the way.
That is so cool.
Dad (07:25):
It was a pretty fun day.
Yeah.
So that's, yeah.
And I was, yeah, that's a greatanswer for the listener.
What about in your other part ofyour life?
Yes, we've had a lot of fun atCabo.
We actually met a guy tonight.
Ashton (07:39):
His Instagram account is ethereal in e saw him tonight
playing His hand pan in in thestreets of Cabo.
It's pretty cool.
Yeah, it was so
Gid (07:50):
cool.
We're like, is that the guy?
Oh my gosh, it's the guy andyeah, so our special birthday
song Yeah,
Ashton (07:56):
he gave us, yeah, he gave us our special birthday
song and sang to
Dad (08:00):
us.
Had I been smart, I would haverecorded it, but instead we let
him live stream it.
So there you go.
It's
Ashton (08:06):
true.
I, yeah as far as my normal lifenot much has changed since we've
had our last little podcast.
Still just Teaching at a localhigh school and running a couple
different programs in thepercussion space writing music
and, and that's about it.
Dad (08:22):
So, and I think, I think something that's changed is you
took more of a lead role onlaunching one of the winter drum
lines.
Isn't that a big developmentover the past little bit?
Yeah, you've been on thesidelines, but you're actually
putting together budgets.
Yeah, that's fair.
And trying to recruit somestudents.
So you know about it, but thelistener doesn't.
(08:44):
Can you share us a little bitmore about that process?
Sure.
I
Ashton (08:47):
mean, well, there's an after school extracurricular
program that I've been doingwith one of the high schools
that I teach.
And so for like the past months,I guess that's why it doesn't
feel new is I've just been doingit for so long, but just have
been putting together budgetsItineraries, reservations, all
(09:09):
these different things that areneeding to be put together in
order to operate a program.
now the season has officiallystarted.
And so, it's balancing, youknow, what students are actually
going to participate.
Getting contracts signed.
Finishing up writing music forthose groups.
Just all the various differentthings that go along there.
(09:34):
it's interesting becausesometimes we like to try and
take success from seeingsomething actually done.
Like when you get, when you goto work and you get actually
paid, you're like, Oh, Hey,look, I got paid.
So I successfully worked.
Sometimes there's a one to onetransaction, but there's a lot
of this.
Behind the scenes stuff that Ithink doesn't get an official
(09:56):
like payout until the long runor some stuff You just have to
know hey I did the best I couldand and where we're at is where
it's gonna be and that's just itis what it is
Dad (10:09):
Yeah, I think you hit on something pretty interesting
there Ashton payout and thetiming of the payout you hit on
something very interesting thereAshton payouts and timings of
payout I believe as you becomean adult, they do change as a
CEO or an, as an executive, Imight see a payout within two,
three, four years, you know, onsome of my ventures and other
(10:32):
stuff pays out fairly quickly toyour point one to one.
But most of it has a long termplay, and when you're younger,
most of your payouts are prettyquick.
You go to a soccer game, within90 normally you get feedback
pretty quick.
Right?
We won or we lost.
We, there's no in between.
But on these bigger programs,you're finding out the payouts a
(10:54):
little bit longer.
Yeah,
Ashton (10:56):
I mean, it's true, cause like, once you leave a
competitive space or atransactional space, it becomes
harder to determine, you know,success versus failure.
And, and, there's thisinteresting middle ground that I
(11:17):
haven't explored all that toomuch.
Because, like, part of teachingis preparing for concerts.
And, recently, we just had ourChristmas concert a couple weeks
ago.
And there was a lot that wentinto preparing it, and the
concert happened, and it wasdone, and it was just kind of
that's it.
It was a successful concert, Imean, it was fun music, I think
(11:39):
the kids had fun, you'd hopethey do.
The parents that came andwatched it, you'd think they had
fun, and that's kind of it.
I mean, there's not a, there'snot a competition where it's
like, Oh, you won the concert,you
Dad (11:51):
know?
But you still got the payout,right?
You got to see the joy on thekid's face.
You got to see the payout on theparent's face.
You're like, okay, that was mypayout for that endeavor, right?
For the work we put in.
And those are awesomeexperiences.
But, but to your point onadulting, they have different
cadences.
And I think of mom payout,raising children is totally
(12:11):
different than a payout for,business transaction or a
business deal.
And the feedback and the timingand the loop of that might be
longer.
So great points, Ash.
And I really appreciate it.
Thanks for sharing where you'reat.
What's the biggest thing you'restill trying to figure out as
being an adult?
Ashton (12:29):
Being a hundred percent with it, it's probably just
figuring out what exactly I wantto do, how I like, what I want
to do and how I want to do it.
Trying to make sure I'm workingtowards something that I find
the most fulfilling because Ijust don't know if I'm a hundred
percent, Certain with what I'mwith what I'm at and what I'm
(12:49):
doing.
And so it's just kind of alittle bit of discovery needs to
be made this year.
I'd say
Dad (12:56):
perfect.
Thank you Good point.
Anybody gonna ask me?
Oh, I mean this is supposed tobe a dialogue, not just me
interviewing you guys.
Sure.
You guys can cross askquestions.
Ashton (13:10):
Dad, what has been some of the successes that you've
enjoyed this year?
Dad (13:16):
Since we've last recorded, we got Gene home from a mission
that was a huge payday for, foryour mom and myself.
We also had a pretty rough monthin October, started probably
really just about before mybirthday.
October, I turned 50, which is amilestone birthday for me.
And, and it was a pretty roughmonth.
(13:37):
I'm not going to lie.
Not just the fact that I wasturning 50, but I was taking the
youth group up to do a camp out,and on my way up the truck
started to overheat again.
So this truck was down in theshop for two weeks.
Another turbo went out, so I hadsome money go on out there.
I've yet to replace the fullincome that I had previously
(14:01):
when, before I got laid off dueto the economic changes then on
the way down to go to the shop,Michelle called me and said, I
found a leak where the floor wasbuckling and why it was
buckling.
Call their insurance and theydrug their feet to try and get
that to us and get that takencare of and so we're there with
the broken truck a tore up houseI busted one of my front teeth
(14:26):
bottom teeth broke where I had acrown and and snapped it off and
so I had an implant put in soit's just a lot that piled on
and there was a time you knowwhere I'm starting to feel like
Wow, it woes me, right?
All these things are happeningand I can't catch a break and
there's, there's a cycle I thinkthat we can catch ourselves in.
(14:47):
We can always look for the badthing and, and one night when I
was laying there, I turned toyour mom and said, you know,
really the fact of the matter iswe've got a lot of good going
for us if we're willing to takea step back and take a deep
breath and look around and say,okay, we're going to be okay.
Yeah, this all sucks.
You know, and then when we'refinally got approval from the
insurance company about how muchthey were going to spend.
(15:09):
We couldn't get an appointmentbooked with the general
contractor to get it done beforeJean got home.
We decided we're going to domost of the work and still
trying to fight the money sideof it.
Which still hasn't been totallysolved, but you know, whatever,
four months and somebody hit mytruck and I'm like, okay, this
is it.
Nothing else bad can happen, youknow.
But, but it did, you know,there's still rough times.
(15:30):
But as you step back and youlook, I'm like, God, I still
have my health.
The, the, the inputs I cancontrol are only the inputs I
can control.
That, that was the biggestlesson for me over the last
month is sometimes we have tolook at our inputs and say,
okay, am I putting in what Iwant to, to get out what I need
to?
And one thing that really helpedme is in 2023 for this year, my
(15:51):
goal has been mobility.
Physical fitness and I was ableto keep going to the gym and go
to the gym every day and try andstay strong Physically not just
emotionally but physically and Ireally believe that that helped
me.
That's cool.
That's
Ashton (16:09):
cool.
Yeah I remember every time Icame home and visited and if I
stayed the night, it'd be like,okay We're gonna be gone really
early Maybe see you tomorrow.
Maybe not.
It's like, it sounds good.
Cause y'all are heading to thegym.
You should probably do a fullepisode on that whole October
when it has worn off.
Dad (16:30):
That was wild.
Well, you know, the nice thingis I did document it and I think
it does warrant a conversationabout mental health.
Right.
Especially when you're goingthrough a lot.
Ashton (16:43):
So it'll be fun.
It'll be fun when we hear that.
I think you, you kind of alreadycovered what you, did you cover
what you want to work
Dad (16:49):
on throughout the season yet?
No, I talked about, I talkedabout what I was working on in
2023 and, and the thing I needto do and I think it probably
echoes a little bit of whateverybody's talking about
Continue to get clarity.
You know, we've got some bigthings that we're trying to
address mom and I, as we'relaunching a new business, which
is I'm grateful for, I have anew client for pushing it, which
(17:12):
is going well.
We're getting some traction withour nest to empty nest.
And then Gideon's put in somefantastic work on adulting
decrypted on the website.
Now with Jean back and witheverybody refocused, I'm excited
to where we can take adultingdecrypted.
So, I think my, probably mybiggest thing for 2024 is
consistency, I think would be myword.
(17:34):
So, I think we can spend acouple episodes talking about
consistency, consistency ofeffort.
That would be the thing I'd liketo focus on.
Yeah,
Gid (17:41):
that's awesome.
I totally
Gene (17:43):
agree.
And I don't think it's justconsistency inputs.
Yeah.
I guess that also covers like,not just like the physical
inputs that we put in, like, thehard work.
It's also like, the consistencyof our personality.
The consistency of who we areand who we want to be.
Consistently
Dad (18:02):
working.
I like that gene showing up andbeing present there's been a lot
of research I've been doing on alot of things I'm excited to
explore in season 7 as a groupas it pertains to emotional
Resilience pushing it some stuffgene came back from his mission
with that.
He wrote down that he thoughtman, that'd be great Enjoyed
(18:24):
conversation.
I've had with each one of youguys individually now.
I'm looking forward to sometimesto do some Zoom recording as
Jean will be down at SUU goingto school and Ashton will be
probably up in Salt Lake, youknow, so we're starting to
spread out and that's okay.
That's part of life and excitedabout that next step for
adulting to crypt and where wecan take it into 2024.
Welcome to adulting decrypted.
We have started season seven.
We're talking to you from sunnyCabo.
New Mexico.
We're excited.
What's that look for?
Is that not where we're at?
Gid (00:12):
Is it New Mexico or is it just
Dad (00:13):
Mexico?
(00:45):
Oh yeah, it's new to me, so it'sNew Mexico.
Sounds good.
It might be so late that I'mjust tired and, and over sun
baked.
So welcome to Season 7everybody.
We're excited to have you here.
Thanks for joining us.
Wanted to go through and do aquick update from everybody if
we could.
Gene, welcome back.
Thank you.
So where have you been?
Tell us a little bit about whatyou've been up to.
(01:07):
So I've
Gene (01:08):
just returned about a month ago from a two year
service proselyting mission inLouisiana and basically half of
Dad (01:18):
Mississippi.
Very cool.
So that was a chance for you tobe out on your own and start to
do some adulting.
Tell us a couple times you wonas an adult and maybe a time you
lost.
I know
Gene (01:32):
some of the things that were definitely easier from
doing the podcast was definitelystarting off.
One thing that has made iteasier through doing this
podcast and hearing all thesedifferent episodes helped me
(01:52):
have a more open mind with thosepeople that I, that I started
off with, when I met thesedifferent people, I was able to
realize their differentbackgrounds quicker.
And so it's better to easilyadapt to those people.
For those who don't know, you'rebasically thrown with someone
random that you've never metbefore.
(02:12):
For roughly six weeks or longerfor me it tended to be longer
and more closer to six
Dad (02:18):
months than six weeks Well, that is a long time for most of
Gene (02:23):
them But some of them were just six weeks, but it was those
different people and like hey Ineed to be open to problem solve
one of the things that one ofthe things that was still
difficult for me, or one ofthose things I need to work on
is talking with those otherpeople, working with the doctors
(02:45):
and all those different types ofthings.
It's hard for me to ask helpfrom those people.
Dad (02:50):
So to recap you were successful.
I hope to look and see how towork better with people in a
different communication style,but still struggled with talking
to other adults because they'rewith authority or speaking with
other people, your age or.
Gene (03:07):
I think it would be the people in those higher, I guess,
positions like the doctors orsomeone that's.
I guess in that more authorityperspective, even like the
cashier or something, someone atthe customer service, those,
those different places.
Ashton (03:29):
Just that
Gene (03:30):
area.
Dad (03:31):
I still kind of struggled with that.
Yeah, no, good, goodobservation.
Thank you for sharing.
Can you do it?
Awesome.
What's your next step?
So
Gene (03:41):
currently my next step will be college.
I am set up to start in January.
So I'll start school in January.
I have to.
Be actually fully living on myown with no other supervision
and perfectly I'm going to builda schedule and attend to it
(04:05):
without anyone over there beinglike, Hey, make sure that you're
doing more effective things with
Dad (04:10):
your time.
Perfect.
Yeah, it is January 4th.
So you'll actually have been atschool a week before the first
episode drops for this season.
So very excited.
Thank you.
Gideon, tell us what you've beenup to.
Gid (04:25):
Yeah, for sure.
So, I am currently in my senioryear of high school, which is
weird for me to think aboutbecause it doesn't quite feel
like it.
I spend a lot of my My time at atechnical college, so I'll go to
first two periods of high schooland then me and a buddy from M
(04:45):
tech fall from a neighborhood.
We'll go to M tech, thetechnical college, and I'm
taking a course on digitalmarketing and analytics.
So that's been super exciting.
I've actually remade our wholewebsite.
So definitely go check that out.
And I've been telling a lot ofpeople about it.
So, super excited on whereeverything is going.
(05:08):
And I love the opportunitiesthat I'm getting and will get
from this course.
Dad (05:14):
So Gideon, you mentioned the website.
What's a big update for thelisteners so they know what to
look for?
Of
Gid (05:19):
course.
So, A big update is our wholewebsite in general.
So, I started from pretty muchscratch and created a whole new
adulting decrypted website witha, some blog posts that we've
posted trying to get some moresearch engine optimization and
(05:41):
get some more traffic to ourwebsite that way, as well as An
episode search page where youcan find all of the past six
seasons of adult and encryptedthrough either different
categories
Dad (05:52):
we
Gid (05:53):
have areas of practical, which has, you know, all the
practical skills on it.
Emotional health.
All the episodes on emotionalhealth.
We have financial, and we
Dad (06:07):
Have social.
Fantastic.
Awesome.
Where do you feel like you'vestill got an opportunity growing
to learn this season and seasonseven about becoming an adult?
What do you think, you know, aresome of the things that surprise
you that you still mightstruggle with?
Or?
What do you think you havefigured out?
Gid (06:26):
I think a lot of my struggles are the same no matter
what work I've necessarily triedto do with it.
And so more work is alwayshelpful.
And I bring that up because thelast episode of season six was
about our goals and how thatdidn't necessarily work out for
all of us.
And so I know that's a big thingthat I have to work on and I
(06:49):
want
Dad (06:49):
to get better at.
Great.
Thank you for sharing.
You know, we went back inGideon.
We were just listening toepisode one, season one, you
know, so listener, if you wantto hear Gideon change from then
till now, 13 year old Gideon to17 year old Gideon is quite a
different invoice and, andchange.
So awesome.
Thank you.
Ashton, what you been up to?
Ashton (07:12):
Well, today I went and petted a dolphin and then rode a
pirate ship.
That's
Gid (07:22):
actually sick, by the way.
That is so cool.
Dad (07:25):
It was a pretty fun day.
Yeah.
So that's, yeah.
And I was, yeah, that's a greatanswer for the listener.
What about in your other part ofyour life?
Yes, we've had a lot of fun atCabo.
We actually met a guy tonight.
Ashton (07:39):
His Instagram account is ethereal in e saw him tonight
playing His hand pan in in thestreets of Cabo.
It's pretty cool.
Yeah, it was so
Gid (07:50):
cool.
We're like, is that the guy?
Oh my gosh, it's the guy andyeah, so our special birthday
song Yeah,
Ashton (07:56):
he gave us, yeah, he gave us our special birthday
song and sang to
Dad (08:00):
us.
Had I been smart, I would haverecorded it, but instead we let
him live stream it.
So there you go.
It's
Ashton (08:06):
true.
I, yeah as far as my normal lifenot much has changed since we've
had our last little podcast.
Still just Teaching at a localhigh school and running a couple
different programs in thepercussion space writing music
and, and that's about it.
Dad (08:22):
So, and I think, I think something that's changed is you
took more of a lead role onlaunching one of the winter drum
lines.
Isn't that a big developmentover the past little bit?
Yeah, you've been on thesidelines, but you're actually
putting together budgets.
Yeah, that's fair.
And trying to recruit somestudents.
So you know about it, but thelistener doesn't.
(08:44):
Can you share us a little bitmore about that process?
Sure.
I
Ashton (08:47):
mean, well, there's an after school extracurricular
program that I've been doingwith one of the high schools
that I teach.
And so for like the past months,I guess that's why it doesn't
feel new is I've just been doingit for so long, but just have
been putting together budgetsItineraries, reservations, all
(09:09):
these different things that areneeding to be put together in
order to operate a program.
now the season has officiallystarted.
And so, it's balancing, youknow, what students are actually
going to participate.
Getting contracts signed.
Finishing up writing music forthose groups.
Just all the various differentthings that go along there.
(09:34):
it's interesting becausesometimes we like to try and
take success from seeingsomething actually done.
Like when you get, when you goto work and you get actually
paid, you're like, Oh, Hey,look, I got paid.
So I successfully worked.
Sometimes there's a one to onetransaction, but there's a lot
of this.
Behind the scenes stuff that Ithink doesn't get an official
(09:56):
like payout until the long runor some stuff You just have to
know hey I did the best I couldand and where we're at is where
it's gonna be and that's just itis what it is
Dad (10:09):
Yeah, I think you hit on something pretty interesting
there Ashton payout and thetiming of the payout you hit on
something very interesting thereAshton payouts and timings of
payout I believe as you becomean adult, they do change as a
CEO or an, as an executive, Imight see a payout within two,
three, four years, you know, onsome of my ventures and other
(10:32):
stuff pays out fairly quickly toyour point one to one.
But most of it has a long termplay, and when you're younger,
most of your payouts are prettyquick.
You go to a soccer game, within90 normally you get feedback
pretty quick.
Right?
We won or we lost.
We, there's no in between.
But on these bigger programs,you're finding out the payouts a
(10:54):
little bit longer.
Yeah,
Ashton (10:56):
I mean, it's true, cause like, once you leave a
competitive space or atransactional space, it becomes
harder to determine, you know,success versus failure.
And, and, there's thisinteresting middle ground that I
(11:17):
haven't explored all that toomuch.
Because, like, part of teachingis preparing for concerts.
And, recently, we just had ourChristmas concert a couple weeks
ago.
And there was a lot that wentinto preparing it, and the
concert happened, and it wasdone, and it was just kind of
that's it.
It was a successful concert, Imean, it was fun music, I think
(11:39):
the kids had fun, you'd hopethey do.
The parents that came andwatched it, you'd think they had
fun, and that's kind of it.
I mean, there's not a, there'snot a competition where it's
like, Oh, you won the concert,you
Dad (11:51):
know?
But you still got the payout,right?
You got to see the joy on thekid's face.
You got to see the payout on theparent's face.
You're like, okay, that was mypayout for that endeavor, right?
For the work we put in.
And those are awesomeexperiences.
But, but to your point onadulting, they have different
cadences.
And I think of mom payout,raising children is totally
(12:11):
different than a payout for,business transaction or a
business deal.
And the feedback and the timingand the loop of that might be
longer.
So great points, Ash.
And I really appreciate it.
Thanks for sharing where you'reat.
What's the biggest thing you'restill trying to figure out as
being an adult?
Ashton (12:29):
Being a hundred percent with it, it's probably just
figuring out what exactly I wantto do, how I like, what I want
to do and how I want to do it.
Trying to make sure I'm workingtowards something that I find
the most fulfilling because Ijust don't know if I'm a hundred
percent, Certain with what I'mwith what I'm at and what I'm
(12:49):
doing.
And so it's just kind of alittle bit of discovery needs to
be made this year.
I'd say
Dad (12:56):
perfect.
Thank you Good point.
Anybody gonna ask me?
Oh, I mean this is supposed tobe a dialogue, not just me
interviewing you guys.
Sure.
You guys can cross askquestions.
Ashton (13:10):
Dad, what has been some of the successes that you've
enjoyed this year?
Dad (13:16):
Since we've last recorded, we got Gene home from a mission
that was a huge payday for, foryour mom and myself.
We also had a pretty rough monthin October, started probably
really just about before mybirthday.
October, I turned 50, which is amilestone birthday for me.
And, and it was a pretty roughmonth.
(13:37):
I'm not going to lie.
Not just the fact that I wasturning 50, but I was taking the
youth group up to do a camp out,and on my way up the truck
started to overheat again.
So this truck was down in theshop for two weeks.
Another turbo went out, so I hadsome money go on out there.
I've yet to replace the fullincome that I had previously
(14:01):
when, before I got laid off dueto the economic changes then on
the way down to go to the shop,Michelle called me and said, I
found a leak where the floor wasbuckling and why it was
buckling.
Call their insurance and theydrug their feet to try and get
that to us and get that takencare of and so we're there with
the broken truck a tore up houseI busted one of my front teeth
(14:26):
bottom teeth broke where I had acrown and and snapped it off and
so I had an implant put in soit's just a lot that piled on
and there was a time you knowwhere I'm starting to feel like
Wow, it woes me, right?
All these things are happeningand I can't catch a break and
there's, there's a cycle I thinkthat we can catch ourselves in.
(14:47):
We can always look for the badthing and, and one night when I
was laying there, I turned toyour mom and said, you know,
really the fact of the matter iswe've got a lot of good going
for us if we're willing to takea step back and take a deep
breath and look around and say,okay, we're going to be okay.
Yeah, this all sucks.
You know, and then when we'refinally got approval from the
insurance company about how muchthey were going to spend.
(15:09):
We couldn't get an appointmentbooked with the general
contractor to get it done beforeJean got home.
We decided we're going to domost of the work and still
trying to fight the money sideof it.
Which still hasn't been totallysolved, but you know, whatever,
four months and somebody hit mytruck and I'm like, okay, this
is it.
Nothing else bad can happen, youknow.
But, but it did, you know,there's still rough times.
(15:30):
But as you step back and youlook, I'm like, God, I still
have my health.
The, the, the inputs I cancontrol are only the inputs I
can control.
That, that was the biggestlesson for me over the last
month is sometimes we have tolook at our inputs and say,
okay, am I putting in what Iwant to, to get out what I need
to?
And one thing that really helpedme is in 2023 for this year, my
(15:51):
goal has been mobility.
Physical fitness and I was ableto keep going to the gym and go
to the gym every day and try andstay strong Physically not just
emotionally but physically and Ireally believe that that helped
me.
That's cool.
That's
Ashton (16:09):
cool.
Yeah I remember every time Icame home and visited and if I
stayed the night, it'd be like,okay We're gonna be gone really
early Maybe see you tomorrow.
Maybe not.
It's like, it sounds good.
Cause y'all are heading to thegym.
You should probably do a fullepisode on that whole October
when it has worn off.
Dad (16:30):
That was wild.
Well, you know, the nice thingis I did document it and I think
it does warrant a conversationabout mental health.
Right.
Especially when you're goingthrough a lot.
Ashton (16:43):
So it'll be fun.
It'll be fun when we hear that.
I think you, you kind of alreadycovered what you, did you cover
what you want to work
Dad (16:49):
on throughout the season yet?
No, I talked about, I talkedabout what I was working on in
2023 and, and the thing I needto do and I think it probably
echoes a little bit of whateverybody's talking about
Continue to get clarity.
You know, we've got some bigthings that we're trying to
address mom and I, as we'relaunching a new business, which
is I'm grateful for, I have anew client for pushing it, which
(17:12):
is going well.
We're getting some traction withour nest to empty nest.
And then Gideon's put in somefantastic work on adulting
decrypted on the website.
Now with Jean back and witheverybody refocused, I'm excited
to where we can take adultingdecrypted.
So, I think my, probably mybiggest thing for 2024 is
consistency, I think would be myword.
(17:34):
So, I think we can spend acouple episodes talking about
consistency, consistency ofeffort.
That would be the thing I'd liketo focus on.
Yeah,
Gid (17:41):
that's awesome.
I totally
Gene (17:43):
agree.
And I don't think it's justconsistency inputs.
Yeah.
I guess that also covers like,not just like the physical
inputs that we put in, like, thehard work.
It's also like, the consistencyof our personality.
The consistency of who we areand who we want to be.
Consistently
Dad (18:02):
working.
I like that gene showing up andbeing present there's been a lot
of research I've been doing on alot of things I'm excited to
explore in season 7 as a groupas it pertains to emotional
Resilience pushing it some stuffgene came back from his mission
with that.
He wrote down that he thoughtman, that'd be great Enjoyed
(18:24):
conversation.
I've had with each one of youguys individually now.
I'm looking forward to sometimesto do some Zoom recording as
Jean will be down at SUU goingto school and Ashton will be
probably up in Salt Lake, youknow, so we're starting to
spread out and that's okay.
That's part of life and excitedabout that next step for
adulting to crypt and where wecan take it into 2024.
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