Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist
HOT MESS is a laugh-out-loud podcast with Actor & Comedian Alec Mapa along with professional psychotherapist, Matthew Dempsey, who both explore the pursuit of health and wellness in a hilarious and compassionate way. Everyone’s trying to survive in a world that’s turned upside down, but beneath the surface we’re all a HOT MESS and the healing process can trigger intense feelings. But, have no fear, Alec and Matthew are here! They’ll zero in on an ISSUE OF THE DAY to compare and despair uncertainties, anxiety of social media, body image, aging in a youth-obsessed culture and unaddressed conflict that is HOLDING YOU BACK. They’ll discuss practical coping strategies and workable solutions that get down to the nitty gritty of what it takes to FEEL BETTER. All discussed with compassion, honesty, vulnerability and above all humor. Each week a celebrity guest will join them to discuss their own wellness journey including failures, frustrations, and ultimately what worked for them. By sharing real-life stories with complete candor, they aim to empower you with valuable information, the knowledge you’re not alone, we’re ALL works in progress and feeling good is the ultimate goal of anyone who’s a HOT MESS.
Episodes
January 4, 2022 • 49 mins
In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matt look back on some of their favorite moments with the amazing drag queens that have appeared on the show. Alaska Thunderfuck opens up about the backlash she received after Drag Race, Peppermint talks about sex addiction and self-loathing, Trixie Mattel shares how she overcame a horrific childhood, Sherry Vine gets vulnerable about aging, and s...
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December 28, 2021 • 22 mins
In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec selects some of the most impactful and helpful Hot Messages from the show. Listen to what Jodi Sweetin, Jackie Beat, Joely Fisher, Tina Burner, Naomi Ekperigin, Johnny Sibily, Denali, Nikki Blonksy and others have to say about what has helped and inspired them to triumph over adversity and live with purpose, joy and peace.
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December 21, 2021 • 48 mins
In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew re-air a heartfelt and hilarious conversation with a famous tv personality and author of Name Drop, Ross Mathews. This episode was recorded just after Ross’ mom passed away and Matt, Alec, and Ross talk about dealing with the loss of a loved one during the pandemic. Ross opens up about his special relationship with his mother, his coming o...
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December 14, 2021 • 51 mins
In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew address people-pleasing with Raven, the Emmy award-winning make-up artist and host of the new competition show Painted with Raven on Wow Presents Plus.
Raven opens up about growing up in Victorville, California, falling in love with makeup and beauty, being the runner-up in Season Two of Drag Race, ending people-pleasing, getting rid of cr...
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December 7, 2021 • 57 mins
In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew are excited to welcome the star of RuPaul’s Drag Race Season 12, Rock M Sakura. Rock shares with Alec and Matt her challenging childhood being raised by a mother who struggled with addiction. Rock shares why she left home at 15 and her journey to becoming a sex worker. The three have a candid and often hilarious conversation about learning...
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November 30, 2021 • 57 mins
In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew are excited to welcome childhood dancer from the Missy Elliott music videos, Disney Channel child actress and creator of Movement Genius, Alyson Stoner. Alyson opens up about the pressure of being a child actress and the resentment she felt, struggling with an eating disorder, her diagnosis of Alexithymia, and why she felt she needed to go...
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November 23, 2021 • 51 mins
In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew express their gratitude to all of their listeners for tuning in each week and making Hot Mess such a success! They then re-air their first ever episode of Hot Mess with Alec’s former college classmate and Emmy-Award winning actress Kristen Johnston. The real-life friends share Hollywood stories including the celebrities they replaced on “...
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November 16, 2021 • 51 mins
In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew are thrilled to welcome Oscar-nominated child actress from The Good-bye Girl and author of Notes from the Underwire and The Year of Learning Dangerously, humorist Quinn Cummings to the show. Quinn opens up about why she decided to try Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy and what she learned about herself from the experience. Alec, Matt and Qui...
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November 9, 2021 • 52 mins
In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew are excited to welcome the star of 3 seasons of drag race and host of the podcast “Local Queen”, Ginger Minj. Ginger opens up about the chronic depression that has been with her for as long as she remembers. She reveals publicly for the first time, the trauma that was a part of her experience and how she has coped and moved forward in her ...
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November 2, 2021 • 54 mins
In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew are excited to welcome Oscar-nominated actress from Bullets Over Broadway, world-class poker player, and star of the new Chucky television show, Jennifer Tilly. Jennifer opens up about growing up in a dysfunctional family, how she started to play the airhead, and how her use of self-deprecating humor has both worked for her and been a diss...
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October 26, 2021 • 54 mins
In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew are excited to welcome star of RuPaul’s Drag Race Seasons 2 and 3 and All Stars Season 3, and star of the HBO hit show We’re Here, the amazing D.J. “Shangela” Pierce. Shangela shares the story of his upbringing and how he learned his work ethic from his family, how he ended up on Drag Race after only doing drag 10 times, and how he kept mo...
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October 19, 2021 • 52 mins
In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew are excited to welcome Beth Hall who starred for 4 seasons as Caroline on Mad Men and 7 seasons as Wendy on CBS’s hit show Mom. The three talk about the need to “reset” in your life and how we resist change and can let fear get in our way. Beth, having wrapped Mom, is back out there auditioning again and opens up about her fear of the unkn...
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October 12, 2021 • 50 mins
In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec opens up about why he made the decision to stop drinking. Alec gets real about how and when he realized he was drinking too much during the pandemic and the impact his alcohol use was having on his relationships. Matt and Alec talk about the importance of identifying the intention of why you drink, when you know you have a problem, blacking out, numbi...
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October 5, 2021 • 53 mins
In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec’s husband of 20 years, Jamie Hebert, is back to continue the conversation about why they decided to open up their relationship and the impact it has had on both of them. The feedback after Part 1 of this conversation was overwhelming and the listeners wanted to hear Matt’s perspective on navigating the complexity of open relationships. In this highly ...
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September 28, 2021 • 51 mins
In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew are excited to welcome star of RuPaul’s Drag Race Seasons 9 and 10 and the popular “We’re Here” on HBO, the amazing Eureka. The three have a powerful and hilarious conversation about feeling “othered” and the healthy and unhealthy strategies they used to make people love and accept them. Eureka opens up about feeling how their femininity a...
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September 21, 2021 • 52 mins
In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew are excited to welcome the star of RuPaul’s Drag Race Season 13 and the reigning National Ms. Comedy Queen, Tina Burner to the show for an inspiring conversation about how to turn adversity into strength. Tina opens up about her challenging childhood and the impact that has had on her life. Matt, Alec, and Tina talk about becoming “parenti...
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September 14, 2021 • 48 mins
In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew are excited to welcome actor, writer, director, and beloved acting coach Jack Plotnick to the show for a fascinating conversation about managing anxiety. Alec and Matt open up about their own vulnerabilities and what makes them feel anxious. Jack shares the best of teachings including taming your vulture, the effectiveness of affirmations,...
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September 7, 2021 • 52 mins
In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew talk with Denali, fan-favorite from RuPaul’s Drag Race Season 13, about how to overcome negative self-talk. Denali opens up about feeling invisible on the show and the deep-held belief that she isn’t enough. The three talk openly and hilariously about insecurities, external validation, re-writing unhelpful narratives, and learning to devel...
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August 31, 2021 • 57 mins
In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew are excited to welcome drag entertainer for over 30 years, Jackie Beat to the show for an intimate and uncensored conversation about sex-positivity. Jackie Beat explains why she went over 20 years without sex and the three talks openly about shame, fear of rejection, self-worth, acceptance, and rediscovering your sexuality. Don’t miss the ...
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August 24, 2021 • 50 mins
In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec has an uncensored conversation with his husband of 20 years, Jamie Hebert. Jamie tells Alec how his messiness and disorganization make him crazy and Alec shares with Jamie how he can be controlling and a cold fish. Alec and Jamie talk about how they handle conflict and Jamie opens up about the maddest he ever got at Alec during their relationship. The...
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