February 28, 2023 • 12 mins
I am sure you have heard that what you believe as an entrepreneur creates your success. You may have worked on your beliefs through affirmations, and other tools. All of this is important, and there is more to your beliefs than what you are conscious of...
The beliefs that come from your subconscious mind and your conditioning impact your success more than you think. In fact, it is estimated that 90% of our behavior is impacted by our subconscious mind.
It is time to look at these beliefs, the hidden ones, so you can reach your desired level of success. Learn more in this week's episode:
- How to uncover your subconscious beliefs
- How do you know if your beliefs are impacting your success?
- What can you do to start moving forward and past those beliefs
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Hello everyone.
This is Kavita with aligned andsoulful Success, and today I
want to talk in detail about howyour beliefs impact your
success.
So you may have heard all thetalk about being positive, that
you need to tell yourself goodthings, positive things, maybe
(00:24):
affirmations on a regular basisso that you can create the life
that you want, right?
And so I'm not here to dismissthat.
I wanna take that a littlefurther, okay?
Because yes, it's important tobe positive, and it's important
to notice when you are not beingpositive.
(00:48):
When you see somethingexternally and it impacts you,
and you start to maybe overthinkabout it, you can't stop
thinking about it.
You're trying to dismiss it.
Um, you're trying to let it goby telling yourself positive
affirmations and it's notworking, okay?
So that is when you are going tobe clear, when it's clear to you
(01:12):
that these are actually yourbeliefs, okay?
There's something in yoursubconscious mind, there's
something there that isimpacting what you are seeing
and why you are being kind oftriggered by something out
outside of you.
And so, when I say how, when Iask the question, how do your
(01:34):
beliefs impact your success?
In this case, these beliefs,these subconscious beliefs are
impacting your success more thanyou realize.
Okay?
So how do you know what yourbeliefs are?
Well, if I asked you thatquestion, you would probably
start by saying that you know,the, the things that you've been
(01:56):
told growing up, you'd maybe,uh, tell about your own
experience running yourbusiness.
Maybe there are people youfollow and that you've learned
from.
Maybe you've had mentors orbusiness coaches that you've
worked with, and maybe you'vebeen, uh, around other
entrepreneurs, or maybe youhaven't.
So all the things that youbelieve would be based on all of
(02:20):
those experiences, right?
And so then our brain takesthose experiences, it processes
them, and it creates memories.
Okay?
Now what about the fact that ourbrain then takes what's
happening around us andprocesses it based on the past
memories, but our past memorieswe often don't even remember
(02:42):
accurately.
Okay?
So, okay, so then if I ask youwhat your beliefs are, you may
not actually be sure, right?
If those beliefs were based onactual evidence, okay?
Because if you do not rememberaccurately, and that's how your
(03:05):
beliefs are created, then whatdoes that say?
What does that say?
That says to me at least, and Ihope that's what you are seeing,
is that your beliefs come frompast experiences and, and
actually just things you mayhave heard, right?
(03:26):
And so those beliefs are thenprocessed through your brain and
not remembered correctly.
Okay?
So, so then you have the abilityto create new beliefs based on
what you want to truly happen,what you really want to
experience in your life, right?
(03:46):
And so how do you do that?
You start with the results thatyou're getting outside of you,
what you're seeing, right?
Whatever you're seeing isactually the clearest evidence
of what your beliefs are.
Okay?
So if you are seeing high levelsof success, if you are really
happy and satisfied with yourbusiness, if, um, everything's
(04:10):
going well, then, then, youknow, then those are your
beliefs that you believe thatbusinesses you can be successful
as and business.
But maybe then there's someother beliefs that if I reach a
certain income level, then Iwould have to give up something,
okay?
There might be something youneed to give up, or there's
(04:31):
something that you would have todo that you don't want to do.
Okay?
So I'll give you an example.
Um, a personal example.
So growing up, I grew up in afamily of entrepreneurs, and,
um, one of the things thathappened is that my parents had
to sacrifice a lot.
They were gone a lot.
We didn't get to, to do a lot ofthings as family together
(04:53):
because they would work a lotlong hours, and especially
during busy times, right?
And as we know as entrepreneurs,there's n there's usually not
like a steady schedule, right?
There is, there are ebbs andfloor flows in your schedule.
There are times of the year thattend to be a little fuller, your
(05:13):
schedule, and there are times ofthe year that are not as full,
okay?
And then so that in that case,when it came to my experience,
it was that when my parents weremaking a lot of money and were
successful, they actually had tosacrifice their personal life.
Okay?
Now, for years, I didn't realizethat this underlying belief
(05:36):
impacted how I showed up, right?
So I had felt subconsciously haddecided that if I was
successful, that was e equal tohaving to give up personal life,
right?
And personal experiences andexperiences with my family.
And so experiences with my, myfamily and my personal life,
(05:58):
it's really important to me,right?
And so, in fact, that is the,one of the reasons that I chose
this path, this entrepreneurialpath, was so that I could be
present for my family, right?
So then obviously this issomething that creates an
internal conflict for me, right?
There's this internal conflictof I wanna be there for my
family, but subconsciously mybrain has, has connected this
(06:24):
success to not having a personallife, okay?
So, seems really obvious as Iexplain it right now, but if I
believe like, oh, I can besuccessful and I'm telling
myself, and I'm giving myselfpositive affirmations, and I'm
taking all the action steps, andI'm doing all the things right
to, um, move forward, but I'mnot seeing the success matching
(06:48):
my efforts, right?
Then that's when I started toreally look at those internal
beliefs and, you know, did somework with coaches and, you know,
really went into those beliefsand brought them out, right?
Brought them out in front sothat I could really look at them
(07:09):
and then move through that, movethrough those beliefs so that
they don't impact me, uh,anymore because they were
impacting me without merealizing it, right?
Because if you had asked meactually what my beliefs were, I
wouldn't, I wouldn't have saidthat.
I would not have said that.
I believed that you had to giveup your personal life to be
(07:31):
successful.
In fact, I had evidence aroundme of people that were
successful and didn't have togive up the personal life,
right?
And so there were people aroundme like that, but I didn't
realize that those childhood,that childhood experience that I
had, had really been thefoundation of the belief of what
you had to give up to besuccessful.
(07:51):
Now, that was just one layer,right?
And the insight of those, of thebelief is one step towards
working through that, right?
And then there is the actualmost important part of that,
which is the emotion, right?
And even as I'm telling you thisright now, I can still feel like
some remnants of that, thatemotion in my body, right?
(08:13):
And if you're empathic, you, youmight be really in tune with
those sensations in your body.
And as you're in tune with that,it can feel more intense.
A lot of empaths and andsensitive people feel the
emotions really intensely.
And we, we will do things toavoid feeling those emotions,
(08:33):
right?
So how it felt not to have apersonal life, not to be able to
do those things with my family,that kind of loss that I felt,
right?
And that I, I can still feelthat a little in my body as I'm
telling you the story.
And so I know that can stillimpact how I show up in the
world, right?
It can impact how I show up inbad business, right?
(08:55):
It, it'll impact the resultswithout me even realizing it.
Okay?
And so bringing it forward andkind of knowing that the feeling
is the way, right?
So the insight's just part ofit.
The thoughts that theaffirmations, it's just part of
it.
You really, really, in order tomove past this conditioning, you
really, you need to work throughthe emotional aspect of it and
(09:19):
know that you're gonna be okayno matter what you're feeling,
right?
It's a feeling.
Okay?
And so what is it for you?
I ask you when you, when you'relooking at your own path, right?
If you're, uh, if you are an,uh, empathic person or an
empathic and empathicentrepreneur, and you're looking
at your business and you're,you're maybe not receiving the
(09:41):
results that you would like,it's time to look inward.
It's time to see what are yourreally, truly, what do you
really believe?
And the way to do that is to seewhen you're feeling that, uh,
emotion arise, okay?
And then emotion allows you toget the insight, and then you
work through the emotion.
(10:02):
And of course, this is, uh, youknow, I say this a lot, but I do
believe a lot of these, thesethings, it's hard for us to see
ourselves and to work withsomeone to help you do that is
ideal.
Okay?
So, um, so looking at yourbeliefs that are obvious as just
a start, when you really want toimpact your beliefs and your
(10:24):
results, you need to look at allthe beliefs, the beliefs that
you have from your subconsciousmind and work through those.
And so, one of the areas that Inotice a lot and that I keep
hearing over and over again from, um, empathic entrepreneurs is
figuring out who they wannaserve, right?
(10:46):
You EMBAs are such amazingindividuals and much needed in
the world, right?
And so figuring out who we wantto help and narrowing that down
to kind of like what they call aniche or a niche, right?
Depending on how you wannapronounce, pronounce that word
can be so hard because we wantto help everybody.
(11:09):
Okay?
So I am going to, I am offeringa free masterclass on Friday,
March 10th.
So if you're listening to thisbefore, then, it's time you have
still have time to register.
I'll have a link for you to beable to register available in,
um, the description of the biohere, and, um, would love for
(11:30):
you to attend and to figure outhow you can start to, to narrow
that, that niche down so you canattract your dream clients,
right?
You want those dream clients.
And so how do you do that in away that's in alignment with who
you are in alignment with yoursoul and not kind of listening
to all the external messages andthe subconscious programming?
(11:50):
So we're gonna go through thatin the masterclass.
Speaker 2 (11:54):
Um, you know, it, my goal is that you lead that class
and you have some idea of whereyou are going with your niche,
right?
And, um, you feel inspired tomove forward.
Okay?
So if you, if that's somethingthat you're interested in
attending, it's, it's for free.
You know, I'd love, I want tohelp as many of you as I can.
(12:17):
And, um, I look, hope, hope tosee you there.
So in the meantime, if youhaven't already, uh, followed me
and follow the podcast orfollowed on YouTube, if you're
watching this on YouTube, pleasego ahead and do that.
I'd love to stay in touch withyou and you, and continue to
share, uh, wisdom and insightsas an that could help you as an
(12:42):
entrepreneur.
So this is Kavita with alignedand soulful success.
Until next week, take good care.
Bye.
Hello everyone.
This is Kavita with aligned andsoulful Success, and today I
want to talk in detail about howyour beliefs impact your
success.
So you may have heard all thetalk about being positive, that
you need to tell yourself goodthings, positive things, maybe
(00:24):
affirmations on a regular basisso that you can create the life
that you want, right?
And so I'm not here to dismissthat.
I wanna take that a littlefurther, okay?
Because yes, it's important tobe positive, and it's important
to notice when you are not beingpositive.
(00:48):
When you see somethingexternally and it impacts you,
and you start to maybe overthinkabout it, you can't stop
thinking about it.
You're trying to dismiss it.
Um, you're trying to let it goby telling yourself positive
affirmations and it's notworking, okay?
So that is when you are going tobe clear, when it's clear to you
(01:12):
that these are actually yourbeliefs, okay?
There's something in yoursubconscious mind, there's
something there that isimpacting what you are seeing
and why you are being kind oftriggered by something out
outside of you.
And so, when I say how, when Iask the question, how do your
(01:34):
beliefs impact your success?
In this case, these beliefs,these subconscious beliefs are
impacting your success more thanyou realize.
Okay?
So how do you know what yourbeliefs are?
Well, if I asked you thatquestion, you would probably
start by saying that you know,the, the things that you've been
(01:56):
told growing up, you'd maybe,uh, tell about your own
experience running yourbusiness.
Maybe there are people youfollow and that you've learned
from.
Maybe you've had mentors orbusiness coaches that you've
worked with, and maybe you'vebeen, uh, around other
entrepreneurs, or maybe youhaven't.
So all the things that youbelieve would be based on all of
(02:20):
those experiences, right?
And so then our brain takesthose experiences, it processes
them, and it creates memories.
Okay?
Now what about the fact that ourbrain then takes what's
happening around us andprocesses it based on the past
memories, but our past memorieswe often don't even remember
(02:42):
accurately.
Okay?
So, okay, so then if I ask youwhat your beliefs are, you may
not actually be sure, right?
If those beliefs were based onactual evidence, okay?
Because if you do not rememberaccurately, and that's how your
(03:05):
beliefs are created, then whatdoes that say?
What does that say?
That says to me at least, and Ihope that's what you are seeing,
is that your beliefs come frompast experiences and, and
actually just things you mayhave heard, right?
(03:26):
And so those beliefs are thenprocessed through your brain and
not remembered correctly.
Okay?
So, so then you have the abilityto create new beliefs based on
what you want to truly happen,what you really want to
experience in your life, right?
(03:46):
And so how do you do that?
You start with the results thatyou're getting outside of you,
what you're seeing, right?
Whatever you're seeing isactually the clearest evidence
of what your beliefs are.
Okay?
So if you are seeing high levelsof success, if you are really
happy and satisfied with yourbusiness, if, um, everything's
(04:10):
going well, then, then, youknow, then those are your
beliefs that you believe thatbusinesses you can be successful
as and business.
But maybe then there's someother beliefs that if I reach a
certain income level, then Iwould have to give up something,
okay?
There might be something youneed to give up, or there's
(04:31):
something that you would have todo that you don't want to do.
Okay?
So I'll give you an example.
Um, a personal example.
So growing up, I grew up in afamily of entrepreneurs, and,
um, one of the things thathappened is that my parents had
to sacrifice a lot.
They were gone a lot.
We didn't get to, to do a lot ofthings as family together
(04:53):
because they would work a lotlong hours, and especially
during busy times, right?
And as we know as entrepreneurs,there's n there's usually not
like a steady schedule, right?
There is, there are ebbs andfloor flows in your schedule.
There are times of the year thattend to be a little fuller, your
(05:13):
schedule, and there are times ofthe year that are not as full,
okay?
And then so that in that case,when it came to my experience,
it was that when my parents weremaking a lot of money and were
successful, they actually had tosacrifice their personal life.
Okay?
Now, for years, I didn't realizethat this underlying belief
(05:36):
impacted how I showed up, right?
So I had felt subconsciously haddecided that if I was
successful, that was e equal tohaving to give up personal life,
right?
And personal experiences andexperiences with my family.
And so experiences with my, myfamily and my personal life,
(05:58):
it's really important to me,right?
And so, in fact, that is the,one of the reasons that I chose
this path, this entrepreneurialpath, was so that I could be
present for my family, right?
So then obviously this issomething that creates an
internal conflict for me, right?
There's this internal conflictof I wanna be there for my
family, but subconsciously mybrain has, has connected this
(06:24):
success to not having a personallife, okay?
So, seems really obvious as Iexplain it right now, but if I
believe like, oh, I can besuccessful and I'm telling
myself, and I'm giving myselfpositive affirmations, and I'm
taking all the action steps, andI'm doing all the things right
to, um, move forward, but I'mnot seeing the success matching
(06:48):
my efforts, right?
Then that's when I started toreally look at those internal
beliefs and, you know, did somework with coaches and, you know,
really went into those beliefsand brought them out, right?
Brought them out in front sothat I could really look at them
(07:09):
and then move through that, movethrough those beliefs so that
they don't impact me, uh,anymore because they were
impacting me without merealizing it, right?
Because if you had asked meactually what my beliefs were, I
wouldn't, I wouldn't have saidthat.
I would not have said that.
I believed that you had to giveup your personal life to be
(07:31):
successful.
In fact, I had evidence aroundme of people that were
successful and didn't have togive up the personal life,
right?
And so there were people aroundme like that, but I didn't
realize that those childhood,that childhood experience that I
had, had really been thefoundation of the belief of what
you had to give up to besuccessful.
(07:51):
Now, that was just one layer,right?
And the insight of those, of thebelief is one step towards
working through that, right?
And then there is the actualmost important part of that,
which is the emotion, right?
And even as I'm telling you thisright now, I can still feel like
some remnants of that, thatemotion in my body, right?
(08:13):
And if you're empathic, you, youmight be really in tune with
those sensations in your body.
And as you're in tune with that,it can feel more intense.
A lot of empaths and andsensitive people feel the
emotions really intensely.
And we, we will do things toavoid feeling those emotions,
(08:33):
right?
So how it felt not to have apersonal life, not to be able to
do those things with my family,that kind of loss that I felt,
right?
And that I, I can still feelthat a little in my body as I'm
telling you the story.
And so I know that can stillimpact how I show up in the
world, right?
It can impact how I show up inbad business, right?
(08:55):
It, it'll impact the resultswithout me even realizing it.
Okay?
And so bringing it forward andkind of knowing that the feeling
is the way, right?
So the insight's just part ofit.
The thoughts that theaffirmations, it's just part of
it.
You really, really, in order tomove past this conditioning, you
really, you need to work throughthe emotional aspect of it and
(09:19):
know that you're gonna be okayno matter what you're feeling,
right?
It's a feeling.
Okay?
And so what is it for you?
I ask you when you, when you'relooking at your own path, right?
If you're, uh, if you are an,uh, empathic person or an
empathic and empathicentrepreneur, and you're looking
at your business and you're,you're maybe not receiving the
(09:41):
results that you would like,it's time to look inward.
It's time to see what are yourreally, truly, what do you
really believe?
And the way to do that is to seewhen you're feeling that, uh,
emotion arise, okay?
And then emotion allows you toget the insight, and then you
work through the emotion.
(10:02):
And of course, this is, uh, youknow, I say this a lot, but I do
believe a lot of these, thesethings, it's hard for us to see
ourselves and to work withsomeone to help you do that is
ideal.
Okay?
So, um, so looking at yourbeliefs that are obvious as just
a start, when you really want toimpact your beliefs and your
(10:24):
results, you need to look at allthe beliefs, the beliefs that
you have from your subconsciousmind and work through those.
And so, one of the areas that Inotice a lot and that I keep
hearing over and over again from, um, empathic entrepreneurs is
figuring out who they wannaserve, right?
(10:46):
You EMBAs are such amazingindividuals and much needed in
the world, right?
And so figuring out who we wantto help and narrowing that down
to kind of like what they call aniche or a niche, right?
Depending on how you wannapronounce, pronounce that word
can be so hard because we wantto help everybody.
(11:09):
Okay?
So I am going to, I am offeringa free masterclass on Friday,
March 10th.
So if you're listening to thisbefore, then, it's time you have
still have time to register.
I'll have a link for you to beable to register available in,
um, the description of the biohere, and, um, would love for
(11:30):
you to attend and to figure outhow you can start to, to narrow
that, that niche down so you canattract your dream clients,
right?
You want those dream clients.
And so how do you do that in away that's in alignment with who
you are in alignment with yoursoul and not kind of listening
to all the external messages andthe subconscious programming?
(11:50):
So we're gonna go through thatin the masterclass.
Speaker 2 (11:54):
Um, you know, it, my goal is that you lead that class
and you have some idea of whereyou are going with your niche,
right?
And, um, you feel inspired tomove forward.
Okay?
So if you, if that's somethingthat you're interested in
attending, it's, it's for free.
You know, I'd love, I want tohelp as many of you as I can.
(12:17):
And, um, I look, hope, hope tosee you there.
So in the meantime, if youhaven't already, uh, followed me
and follow the podcast orfollowed on YouTube, if you're
watching this on YouTube, pleasego ahead and do that.
I'd love to stay in touch withyou and you, and continue to
share, uh, wisdom and insightsas an that could help you as an
(12:42):
entrepreneur.
So this is Kavita with alignedand soulful success.
Until next week, take good care.
Bye.
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