March 5, 2024 • 13 mins
In this week's episode, I discuss emotions and their impact on our personal and business lives. I explore the power of past experiences and our subconscious mind in shaping our decisions and actions.
This episode provides insights into recognizing, processing, and transforming these emotions for personal growth and business success.
Key Topics this week:
💫 The impact of emotions on business and personal decisions.
💫 The influence of past experiences on current emotional states.
💫 Strategies for acknowledging and processing emotions.
💫 The role of professional support in emotional processing.
💫 Real-life applications and the benefits of emotional awareness in business scenarios.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hello, my name is Kavita Melwani and I'm a Master
Certified Success and BusinessCoach with two decades of
experience as an entrepreneurand almost a decade as a coach.
I want to personally welcomeyou to the Soulful Entrepreneurs
Club podcast, where my visionis to empower as many
spiritually led businesses torun purposeful and profitable
(00:23):
businesses aligned with theirtrue selves.
I want you to confidently andopulently shine your light
without the overwhelm, thestress or the burnout.
Together, we will explorechallenges that Soulful
Entrepreneurs face and real,implementable solutions so you
can step into your uniquepurpose and shine.
(00:44):
It is possible to bridge thesuccess you already have with
the truest, soulful, mysticalparts of yourself.
Are you ready to rise up as theleader you were born to be?
Then join me.
My soulful friends, the time isnow for you to rise up and
(01:05):
shine your light.
The world needs you.
Hello, welcome to this week'sepisode of the Soulful
Entrepreneurs podcast.
So this week I am going into anarea that I kind of mentioned
sometimes but really has come upfor me recently, and that has
(01:26):
to do with emotions and how itimpacts your life and business.
Now you know how you feel aboutthings, how you show up that
energy of how you show upimpacts the results without you
even realizing it.
But even deeper than that isyour past emotions.
(01:51):
So we all have things thathappen in our past.
We have a very degree ofchallenges in our childhoods and
those experiences impact how wefeel about things that are
happening right now, in thismoment, in our lives, in our
(02:12):
business, and so oftentimesthese types of experiences guide
us without us even realizing it.
I was reading that somewhereand I have to look up where
exactly.
So if I find that that will bein the show notes that we make a
decision about something withour emotions about eight seconds
(02:35):
before we actually realize itand then our mind tries to fill
in the reasons why it's a gooddecision or why we want that
decision or why we want to makethat decision.
So if our emotions are makingdecisions before our logical
mind, then it would make a lotof sense as to why the emotions
(02:59):
that we haven't worked through,the things that we haven't
looked at, can impact us.
Today and recently I've beenseeing that more and more,
especially because of what'shappened over the last few years
.
So there have been a lot of youknow, some people say
(03:22):
collective traumas.
There has been a lot ofinstances of people in fear, and
even now there are lots ofpeople still in fear.
And you know, I sometimes havefear about the future, about
what's going to happen, and sothen you know, when we feel
(03:43):
those things, sometimes we justsay you know what, stop, cancel,
clear, I'm not going to feelthat.
And then we distract or wefocus on the positive and move
on with our lives, continue tobe productive, continue to get
things done.
The thing is that fear is stillthere.
We can pretend that it's notthere and we can just go about
(04:06):
our lives and tell ourselvesthat everything's okay and just
pretend like it's all okay.
But our bodies know that innateintelligence feeling that
feeling and that fear.
It's still underneath and infact it's adding to it, and even
most of the time it's withouteven thinking right.
(04:27):
It's a subconscious processthat we're adding to that fear,
we're collecting evidence thatthere's reason to be afraid and
it continues to grow.
And then sometimes we deny thatemotion, deny that fear, and
then, when that happens, itactually grows.
So these emotions that arethere, that we're not paying
(04:47):
attention to, I like to describeas a little child.
So if you've ever been around achild that's trying to get your
attention, but you're not quitegiving that child the full
attention that they want in themoment.
They can be pretty persistent,okay.
So, for instance, they canrepeat over and over again your
(05:12):
name.
They can start to throw things,sometimes throw a tantrum,
Right.
They can maybe become like misswhat would be considered
misbehaving right, in order toget your attention, right.
So the emotions are can be likethat as well, right.
(05:35):
So they're there, they'retrying to get your attention and
you're like pushing it away,like I'm not dealing with this.
I don't think it's necessary.
It's better to focus on thepositive.
And then you still don't feelgreat.
That emotion is still there.
Maybe it shows up in a differentway, right.
Maybe it shows up as gutschallenges.
(05:57):
Maybe it shows up with yousnapping at someone.
Maybe it shows up with youjudging other people.
Maybe it shows up as you justnot feeling good and you can't
really point the finger to why.
Maybe then you, in order towork through that, you continue
(06:18):
to try to think positively,right.
So listen, I love the thinkingpositively.
I'm not saying not to do that,not to look at the positive side
of situations, not to see thegifts, not to express gratitude.
All those things are reallyimportant, and it is also
important for us to look at whatwe're actually feeling, because
(06:43):
those feelings are a clue as toeverything that's underneath.
It's a clue to what's what ourminds actually believe.
It's a clue to what's in oursubconscious mind, and so we
could use those feelings by justgiving them attention, and use
that to help us move forward andnot have it impact us.
(07:05):
Okay, so, some of the ways thatyou can process that emotion
it's.
You know, I will alwaysrecommend to work with someone
that you trust, that hasexperience and training in that
scenario and working withemotions.
Now, if it's trauma, deeptrauma, then of course, I will
(07:27):
recommend that you work with atherapist, but if it's it's not
some deep trauma, you can workwith emotions with an
experienced coach who hastraining in working with
emotions, preferably someonethat knows how to work with a
subconscious mind and can holdyou through that process.
(07:48):
So that's something that I dowith my clients, even with my
business coaching clients, right?
So I still have some lifecoaching clients that I love
working with and I continue towork with and with my business
coaching clients.
This emotions, these emotionsshow up as resistance to doing
something for their business.
They show up as fears.
(08:10):
This past emotion can also showup at them being frustrated at
me sometimes, which happenssometimes, right, but most of
the time they are frustratedover something else.
There are some past emotionsthat are related to that, and so
giving them space to be able toaccess the emotion help them
(08:34):
process it and then release andmove forward from it.
Then all of a sudden, they feelbetter.
All of a sudden they're able tosee more clearly and move
forward.
Now, sometimes it's not just inthe session, but they need to
continue that emotionalprocessing outside the session,
and then I providevisualizations and some
journaling exercises and otherways for them getting on the
(08:58):
person right, because somepeople are have difficult
feeling the emotion.
They're more in their heads,and some people feel the emotion
and can get lost in it.
So it really depends on theperson.
I really tailor my approachesto that individual that I'm
working with, and so then theyprocess the emotion even outside
(09:20):
the session, and then they'reable to move to the next step,
moving and starting to createmore of what they want.
They're more aware of theirpatterns, they're more aware of
their triggers, they're moreaware of how they behave in
situations, right, and whatthey're their perception of
things, because if there's asituation in front of them and a
(09:43):
scenario that happens, therecan be many ways to interpret
and there can also be thingsthat they focus on, right, that
happen in those scenarios.
Think about a social event, orthink about a business event or
a workshop.
What can you focus on?
You know, I recently had aclient that you know had a
(10:04):
workshop and they wanted acertain amount of people to show
up and it was less than theyhad imagined.
And we focus on the fact thatthey had never had a workshop
and they had people that have,that are interested in what they
have to do, and the people thatshowed up showed up fully and
they had a great workshop and,you know, in through that
(10:27):
process they were able to signup a few clients and so so,
really like, can you, how do you?
Can you look at thatdifferently?
Can you look at it that, as, oh, I did the workshop, it's not
worth it because only thesepeople showed up?
Can you look at it because, ohyeah, I had clients showed up,
but it wasn't enough, it wasn'tthe amount that I thought it
would be, or can you look at itin a way of gratitude of what's
(10:52):
happening Now?
If you're looking at itautomatically from, well, that's
not enough, then I would say,well, what is coming up for you,
what feelings are coming up foryou by you feeling that it's
not enough, and sometimes in thepast it's been with some
clients, the fear of failure,right.
And so we work together andwork through that fear and we go
(11:16):
towards it.
We don't ignore it, right andso so we actually feel that what
would it feel like if youfailed?
How would that be and whatwould that?
What's the worst that couldhappen, right?
So then you're not running awayfrom it, you're not doing
everything to avoid it.
Instead, you're like I'm goingto be, you will be fine, no
matter what.
You can handle it, and there'sless resistance to trying things
(11:40):
, there's less resistance totaking action.
So these emotions can, canimpact you if you let them,
right, and so the awarenessgoing towards the emotion,
processing the emotion indifferent ways, and a lot of
times we can't see it ourselves,which is why I recommend having
someone that you support youthrough the process as well.
(12:03):
As you know, it's just feelsbetter, right To have someone to
support you.
So if you have been repeatingthe same patterns and feeling
like you're stuck, maybe gotowards the emotions and what
you're actually feeling.
Don't ignore the fear, don'tignore all those feelings.
Give that, those emotions avoice and then see what insight
(12:27):
you come, that comes up for youafter that.
Right.
And of course, if you arewanting to move through some of
those emotions and know thatit's been stopping you or you've
been hitting blocks in yourbusiness or life, then use the
link in the show notes and booka call with me.
I'd love to speak with you andhelp you discern some of the
(12:50):
emotions, help you process theemotions and, of course, in that
call we will explore, at theend of working together or
continuing the work together, asa good fit or not.
And so my calls that I havewith people not every person
becomes a client, but everysingle person that has come to
the call have said that they'vederived some benefit from the
(13:13):
call.
That's my goal.
If I'm going to spend your timeand my time and the energy for
us to connect, then I want tomake sure that you receive
something of value and that alsohelps me feel a purpose and
purposeful.
So, in the meantime, if you'renot ready for support, work on
(13:35):
processing your emotions andthen, until next time, take good
care.
Bye.
Hello, my name is Kavita Melwani and I'm a Master
Certified Success and BusinessCoach with two decades of
experience as an entrepreneurand almost a decade as a coach.
I want to personally welcomeyou to the Soulful Entrepreneurs
Club podcast, where my visionis to empower as many
spiritually led businesses torun purposeful and profitable
(00:23):
businesses aligned with theirtrue selves.
I want you to confidently andopulently shine your light
without the overwhelm, thestress or the burnout.
Together, we will explorechallenges that Soulful
Entrepreneurs face and real,implementable solutions so you
can step into your uniquepurpose and shine.
(00:44):
It is possible to bridge thesuccess you already have with
the truest, soulful, mysticalparts of yourself.
Are you ready to rise up as theleader you were born to be?
Then join me.
My soulful friends, the time isnow for you to rise up and
(01:05):
shine your light.
The world needs you.
Hello, welcome to this week'sepisode of the Soulful
Entrepreneurs podcast.
So this week I am going into anarea that I kind of mentioned
sometimes but really has come upfor me recently, and that has
(01:26):
to do with emotions and how itimpacts your life and business.
Now you know how you feel aboutthings, how you show up that
energy of how you show upimpacts the results without you
even realizing it.
But even deeper than that isyour past emotions.
(01:51):
So we all have things thathappen in our past.
We have a very degree ofchallenges in our childhoods and
those experiences impact how wefeel about things that are
happening right now, in thismoment, in our lives, in our
(02:12):
business, and so oftentimesthese types of experiences guide
us without us even realizing it.
I was reading that somewhereand I have to look up where
exactly.
So if I find that that will bein the show notes that we make a
decision about something withour emotions about eight seconds
(02:35):
before we actually realize itand then our mind tries to fill
in the reasons why it's a gooddecision or why we want that
decision or why we want to makethat decision.
So if our emotions are makingdecisions before our logical
mind, then it would make a lotof sense as to why the emotions
(02:59):
that we haven't worked through,the things that we haven't
looked at, can impact us.
Today and recently I've beenseeing that more and more,
especially because of what'shappened over the last few years
.
So there have been a lot of youknow, some people say
(03:22):
collective traumas.
There has been a lot ofinstances of people in fear, and
even now there are lots ofpeople still in fear.
And you know, I sometimes havefear about the future, about
what's going to happen, and sothen you know, when we feel
(03:43):
those things, sometimes we justsay you know what, stop, cancel,
clear, I'm not going to feelthat.
And then we distract or wefocus on the positive and move
on with our lives, continue tobe productive, continue to get
things done.
The thing is that fear is stillthere.
We can pretend that it's notthere and we can just go about
(04:06):
our lives and tell ourselvesthat everything's okay and just
pretend like it's all okay.
But our bodies know that innateintelligence feeling that
feeling and that fear.
It's still underneath and infact it's adding to it, and even
most of the time it's withouteven thinking right.
(04:27):
It's a subconscious processthat we're adding to that fear,
we're collecting evidence thatthere's reason to be afraid and
it continues to grow.
And then sometimes we deny thatemotion, deny that fear, and
then, when that happens, itactually grows.
So these emotions that arethere, that we're not paying
(04:47):
attention to, I like to describeas a little child.
So if you've ever been around achild that's trying to get your
attention, but you're not quitegiving that child the full
attention that they want in themoment.
They can be pretty persistent,okay.
So, for instance, they canrepeat over and over again your
(05:12):
name.
They can start to throw things,sometimes throw a tantrum,
Right.
They can maybe become like misswhat would be considered
misbehaving right, in order toget your attention, right.
So the emotions are can be likethat as well, right.
(05:35):
So they're there, they'retrying to get your attention and
you're like pushing it away,like I'm not dealing with this.
I don't think it's necessary.
It's better to focus on thepositive.
And then you still don't feelgreat.
That emotion is still there.
Maybe it shows up in a differentway, right.
Maybe it shows up as gutschallenges.
(05:57):
Maybe it shows up with yousnapping at someone.
Maybe it shows up with youjudging other people.
Maybe it shows up as you justnot feeling good and you can't
really point the finger to why.
Maybe then you, in order towork through that, you continue
(06:18):
to try to think positively,right.
So listen, I love the thinkingpositively.
I'm not saying not to do that,not to look at the positive side
of situations, not to see thegifts, not to express gratitude.
All those things are reallyimportant, and it is also
important for us to look at whatwe're actually feeling, because
(06:43):
those feelings are a clue as toeverything that's underneath.
It's a clue to what's what ourminds actually believe.
It's a clue to what's in oursubconscious mind, and so we
could use those feelings by justgiving them attention, and use
that to help us move forward andnot have it impact us.
(07:05):
Okay, so, some of the ways thatyou can process that emotion
it's.
You know, I will alwaysrecommend to work with someone
that you trust, that hasexperience and training in that
scenario and working withemotions.
Now, if it's trauma, deeptrauma, then of course, I will
(07:27):
recommend that you work with atherapist, but if it's it's not
some deep trauma, you can workwith emotions with an
experienced coach who hastraining in working with
emotions, preferably someonethat knows how to work with a
subconscious mind and can holdyou through that process.
(07:48):
So that's something that I dowith my clients, even with my
business coaching clients, right?
So I still have some lifecoaching clients that I love
working with and I continue towork with and with my business
coaching clients.
This emotions, these emotionsshow up as resistance to doing
something for their business.
They show up as fears.
(08:10):
This past emotion can also showup at them being frustrated at
me sometimes, which happenssometimes, right, but most of
the time they are frustratedover something else.
There are some past emotionsthat are related to that, and so
giving them space to be able toaccess the emotion help them
(08:34):
process it and then release andmove forward from it.
Then all of a sudden, they feelbetter.
All of a sudden they're able tosee more clearly and move
forward.
Now, sometimes it's not just inthe session, but they need to
continue that emotionalprocessing outside the session,
and then I providevisualizations and some
journaling exercises and otherways for them getting on the
(08:58):
person right, because somepeople are have difficult
feeling the emotion.
They're more in their heads,and some people feel the emotion
and can get lost in it.
So it really depends on theperson.
I really tailor my approachesto that individual that I'm
working with, and so then theyprocess the emotion even outside
(09:20):
the session, and then they'reable to move to the next step,
moving and starting to createmore of what they want.
They're more aware of theirpatterns, they're more aware of
their triggers, they're moreaware of how they behave in
situations, right, and whatthey're their perception of
things, because if there's asituation in front of them and a
(09:43):
scenario that happens, therecan be many ways to interpret
and there can also be thingsthat they focus on, right, that
happen in those scenarios.
Think about a social event, orthink about a business event or
a workshop.
What can you focus on?
You know, I recently had aclient that you know had a
(10:04):
workshop and they wanted acertain amount of people to show
up and it was less than theyhad imagined.
And we focus on the fact thatthey had never had a workshop
and they had people that have,that are interested in what they
have to do, and the people thatshowed up showed up fully and
they had a great workshop and,you know, in through that
(10:27):
process they were able to signup a few clients and so so,
really like, can you, how do you?
Can you look at thatdifferently?
Can you look at it that, as, oh, I did the workshop, it's not
worth it because only thesepeople showed up?
Can you look at it because, ohyeah, I had clients showed up,
but it wasn't enough, it wasn'tthe amount that I thought it
would be, or can you look at itin a way of gratitude of what's
(10:52):
happening Now?
If you're looking at itautomatically from, well, that's
not enough, then I would say,well, what is coming up for you,
what feelings are coming up foryou by you feeling that it's
not enough, and sometimes in thepast it's been with some
clients, the fear of failure,right.
And so we work together andwork through that fear and we go
(11:16):
towards it.
We don't ignore it, right andso so we actually feel that what
would it feel like if youfailed?
How would that be and whatwould that?
What's the worst that couldhappen, right?
So then you're not running awayfrom it, you're not doing
everything to avoid it.
Instead, you're like I'm goingto be, you will be fine, no
matter what.
You can handle it, and there'sless resistance to trying things
(11:40):
, there's less resistance totaking action.
So these emotions can, canimpact you if you let them,
right, and so the awarenessgoing towards the emotion,
processing the emotion indifferent ways, and a lot of
times we can't see it ourselves,which is why I recommend having
someone that you support youthrough the process as well.
(12:03):
As you know, it's just feelsbetter, right To have someone to
support you.
So if you have been repeatingthe same patterns and feeling
like you're stuck, maybe gotowards the emotions and what
you're actually feeling.
Don't ignore the fear, don'tignore all those feelings.
Give that, those emotions avoice and then see what insight
(12:27):
you come, that comes up for youafter that.
Right.
And of course, if you arewanting to move through some of
those emotions and know thatit's been stopping you or you've
been hitting blocks in yourbusiness or life, then use the
link in the show notes and booka call with me.
I'd love to speak with you andhelp you discern some of the
(12:50):
emotions, help you process theemotions and, of course, in that
call we will explore, at theend of working together or
continuing the work together, asa good fit or not.
And so my calls that I havewith people not every person
becomes a client, but everysingle person that has come to
the call have said that they'vederived some benefit from the
(13:13):
call.
That's my goal.
If I'm going to spend your timeand my time and the energy for
us to connect, then I want tomake sure that you receive
something of value and that alsohelps me feel a purpose and
purposeful.
So, in the meantime, if you'renot ready for support, work on
(13:35):
processing your emotions andthen, until next time, take good
care.
Bye.
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