March 2, 2025 • 54 mins
Join us as we rediscover the joy of friendship in our latest podcast episode! With a lively mix of laughter, personal anecdotes, and heartfelt reflections, we tackle the complexities of loyalty and the tough decisions we often face in our relationships. Whether reminiscing about old school moments or pondering how far one would go to support a friend in need, we embrace the ups and downs that shape our connections.
Our discussion leads us to explore essential themes like gratitude for community and the importance of open dialogue. We dive into the moral dilemmas that arise in friendships, allowing listeners to reflect on their own experiences and the standards they hold. With humor and sincerity, we uncover how our expectations influence our relationships, ultimately strengthening the bonds we create over time.
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Host, Carmen Lezeth
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Ted Hicks (00:01):
So where do you go to ?
Where do you go?
Where do you go to?
I want to know how do you do it.
That thing you do Follow youblindly.
I'll be your fool.
Where do you go to?
Where do you?
Carmen Lezeth (00:19):
go?
Where do you go to?
I want to know how do you do it.
Hi everyone, welcome to AllAbout the Joy, the vintage
edition.
I was going to call it oldschool, but it's kind of the
same thing.
I went back and looked at someof our archival live stream
footage that we haven't lookedat in a long time and I took a
(00:40):
few of those and kind of putthem all together.
And I took a few of those andkind of put them all together
and I just want to take a momentto say thank you to this
community that we haveestablished here.
It's so much fun and I reallyenjoy it.
And I just want to say thankyou to the guests, to everyone
in the chat, to people whosupport the show.
Just thank you so much.
(01:02):
It's been such a fun ride and welook forward to doing so many
more of these in the future.
So just thank you so much.
It's been such a fun ride andwe look forward to doing so many
more of these in the future.
So enjoy the old school stuffand hopefully you'll see what I
was trying to get at regarding atheme.
And yeah, it is always allabout the joy, but it's also all
about friendship, enjoy.
(01:23):
Now in Iowa, did you go seeField of Dreams, the actual
cornfield I've never even seenthe movie.
Andrea Nunez (01:31):
I know.
Carmen Lezeth (01:34):
Look, andrea is one of my best friends.
I mean, when I say best friend,like I would die for her.
Okay, her children are my Godchildren.
Andrea Nunez (01:42):
I'm sorry, I said, or kill her.
Carmen Lezeth (01:47):
Or kill her right or kill for you.
Did I that's like, kill her orkill her right no, I would never
kill you, but but, um, butthere are just so many things
like she's never seen the movieet and refuses to like she, just
like now.
It's like a thing.
You know what I mean.
Andrea Nunez (02:02):
Like and I'm like, yeah, there's a certain point
where it's like, okay, well,that's my thing, I'm just not
gonna watch it, I did almostwatch it actually a few months
ago, and then I was like no youdon't do that.
Carmen Lezeth (02:17):
No, you know, I I still think it's something I'm
I need you to watch, butwhatever there.
So field, field of Dreams, rick, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
Not going to happen, it's notgoing to happen, never, no, I
will never watch it.
She won't do it.
Andrea Nunez (02:29):
So I know like roughly like the build it and
they will whatever it is.
Carmen Lezeth (02:33):
But look at Rick's face.
He's like, oh my God, I hatethis woman.
Andrea Nunez (02:38):
And she will be invited back.
Carmen Lezeth (02:52):
I'm like like build it and he will come.
Everybody's wait a minute, rickit's.
Oh, wow, wait, you took it as areligious thing.
Oh, no, no, not, no, I'm nottalking about jesus.
Rick Costa (02:57):
Oh okay, I was like no, he did it, did he just make
his builder and he will come.
It never was day, everybodythey.
But it's not they, it's he.
Andrea Nunez (03:04):
Don't the ghosts walk out onto the field.
Spoiler alert.
Carmen Lezeth (03:09):
Andrea, I had this film professor who I hate,
frank Manchel.
Everyone knows I hate him,university of Vermont, I hate
him, always hated him.
But if you didn't get the gistbut one of the things that I
will say, that that that hementioned I won't say taught me,
cause I know I would havelearned it somewhere else I will
(03:30):
not give him that credit, buthe did say it.
He said never talk about a filmyou've never seen.
Just don't do it.
It doesn't matter if you've seenall the clips to whatever, and
you will never hear me talkabout a movie I've never seen,
don't matter what clips I'veseen, because until you see the
full context, you don't knowwhat you're talking about.
But yeah, but, rick, I'm justtelling you, this is my.
I don't know what we have incommon.
(03:52):
Because she doesn't it's likealmost on purpose, she will not
watch anything.
Andrea Nunez (03:57):
I ask her to watch .
Unlike you, that's not true.
Okay, what's next?
Carmen Lezeth (04:06):
I'm just saying I don't think you've ever watched
anything I asked you to watch Iwatched moonlight but I don't
even know what moonlight iswhat's moonlight wait?
Andrea Nunez (04:17):
is that the one that won the oscar?
Did it win the oscar?
Carmen Lezeth (04:22):
I'm sure you didn't watch it because I told
you to, because I don't evenremember the movie.
Andrea Nunez (04:27):
We'll have to talk about this offline, but you did
.
You gave me the movie which Istill have, wait wait, wait.
Carmen Lezeth (04:35):
I did what.
I sent you the movie.
You gave me the.
No, I did not DVD.
I bought you the DVD.
Yes, I sent it to you Exactly.
Andrea Nunez (04:47):
That seems more likely.
Carmen Lezeth (04:48):
Okay.
Well, we'll talk later, becausethere are a lot of things that
you don't do, that get on mynerves.
No, I'm just kidding.
Rick Costa (05:00):
But I am curious, if I may ask.
Andrea Nunez (05:02):
Well, why is this turning into?
Why did I show up tonight?
Carmen Lezeth (05:06):
Rick, what do you want to know?
Rick Costa (05:08):
I'm just curious, if I may ask specifically not, I
don't care about ET.
I've seen ET, though Fear theDreams.
What do you not?
Why do you not want to see it?
Andrea Nunez (05:18):
I despise Kevin Costner.
I will not watch it.
Rick Costa (05:21):
Oh, okay, there you go Now I understand.
Andrea Nunez (05:22):
Okay, I really love the movie no Way Out, but
it's sort of in spite of him.
Carmen Lezeth (05:29):
One of the best movies ever have you ever seen?
No Way Out.
Rick Costa.
What's it?
Kevin Costa?
It's one of his first earlymovies.
Really good movie, Sean.
Andrea Nunez (05:40):
What's her name?
Sean, what's her name?
What was her name?
What's her name?
I forget her name.
Oh yeah, I can't remember hername Anyway.
Carmen Lezeth (05:47):
Yeah, you know what I can take or leave.
Kevin Costner, like, it's notLike the reason why I saw Field
of Dreams the first time.
Because there's always a reason, right, it's because James Earl
Jones is in it and James EarlJones has always been one of my
heroes.
So of course I was going towatch every movie, every play I
could get my you know hands on,cause I couldn't go to Broadway
(06:10):
to see him or whatever.
But James Earl Jones is in themovie and that was the reason
why I had to see it.
And then I was so glad becauseit's not about baseball, like,
and, and that's kind of the coolthing about it.
But yeah, that's kind of thecool thing about it.
But yeah, you know what, andrea, again, I'm not going to.
I know you're not going to seeit, but field of dreams is great
, not because of Kevin Costner,it's just a great story and it
(06:32):
makes you think.
You know what I mean.
That's it, um, but yeah, yeah,wow, okay, we can go.
Yeah, thanks, tony, it is goodadvice.
Don't talk about it, it is good.
Yeah, you're right, and I and Iput that on everything don't
talk about a book you've neverseen.
Don't talk about a personyou've never met, don't you know
what I mean?
Like, it makes it really simpleto not get yourself all twisted
(06:54):
.
Uh, if you've not experiencedthat, cynthia, I'm so bummed
about your interwebs.
I thought I was gonna see hertonight.
I know it's the only reason whyyou came and jumped in Cause.
I said, rick, I'm a log off,you can deal with this.
(07:15):
So, rick, what was it about?
Um Chris Hemsworth show?
I mean, besides the fact yousaid the last episode, look at
it's.
It's pretty well known whathappened.
Oh wait, let me read what Kevinsaid.
I find a lot of people thatdon't watch movies Don't enjoy
the fantasy part of it.
I think Andrea watches a lot ofmovies.
(07:36):
She just doesn't watch themovies I watch.
But I hear you, I agree withyou.
I'm just defending you here,andrea, because, yes, I watched
a lot of different tastes whatwe have, different things that
we like yeah, and even when itcomes to like men, we have very
different tastes, but we alwaysthought that was a plus in our
(07:57):
relationship because, yeah, yeahrick is like how we going here.
I'm like I'm just throwing.
This is an analysis offriendship.
Is what I'm saying?
I forgot what I was talkingabout before.
Rick Costa (08:09):
Well, I was going to say this show Limitless with
Chris Helmsworth.
This is one that I would sayeverybody should watch.
Carmen Lezeth (08:16):
Yeah, everybody should watch it.
Yeah, it's something that Iwould watch.
Andrea Nunez (08:20):
I just haven't gotten to it yet.
Carmen Lezeth (08:21):
Like I've seen the we just showed the trailer.
We just showed it on here.
Ted Hicks (08:28):
Yeah and don't necessarily trust the reviews
either.
Rick Costa (08:34):
Tony, in general I mean.
Andrea Nunez (08:35):
I don't think I've ever gone to see a movie
because of the reviews, or evenread reviews before I went to go
.
Usually that's the kind ofstuff I look at after I see.
Carmen Lezeth (08:45):
I, you know.
For me, I'll be honest with youthere's very few people who I
pay attention to but know mewell enough.
One of them is Mia, my otherbest friend, my first best
friend.
No, but Mia is the really,hands down, the only person that
knows me well enough knows whatmovies I would like and don't
(09:07):
like Like.
So if she says, yeah, go seethis movie, I'll go see it.
If she says, don't go see thismovie, I'll still go see the
movie and then be like, damn it,she was right, because she kind
of knows what I like and don'tlike, but reviews, like of
regular critics.
I came out to Los Angeles to bea critic, to be a film critic,
which is weird.
And then I was like you didn'tknow that.
(09:29):
I studied film and English incollege and I wanted to be like
Pauline Kael who, by the way, isa bitch of a film critic in the
academic world Sorry, may sherest in peace but brilliant,
brilliant.
But she was always tearingapart every movie.
But I was like, well, I can'tdance anymore, I can't perform
(09:52):
anymore, what else could I do?
And so I wanted to be a filmcritic and I loved, like Roger
Ebert and them were just comingon, the whole kind of, and I was
like I didn't want to do thethumbs up and thumbs down crap,
but I was like I could totally Ithought of it as you go to the
movies, tell people about it andget paid.
Here's what I liked, here's whatI didn't like.
(10:13):
I think you should go two stepsup and around the world.
We still have to give some loveto.
Jamie Foxx is still in thehospital, so love to him.
And all the bullshit everyone'stalking about that he had a
stroke, that he had a heartattack, that he is all lies,
(10:34):
lies, lies, lies.
We don't know, but we prayingon him, uh, to get better soon.
Andrea Nunez (10:39):
Yeah, siskel and eber, yeah, um I am fascinated
that I did not know that, like Ithought, you came out to act.
You know who knew that.
Carmen Lezeth (10:51):
Mia, wait, wait, wait, and Richard, oh, hell, no,
okay, wait, you got to tell thestory of Richard and I'm out.
You got to tell the story ofRichard because that's a good
one.
I want to hear it from yourperspective.
Andrea Nunez (11:10):
Oh man, do we have to do all of this?
Okay, so yeah, it's funny, dude.
Carmen was having a birthday,like a milestone birthday.
I think I was turning 40.
It was when I lived in DC,right yeah?
Carmen Lezeth (11:27):
You were in Europe, but you seem to always
leave that out of the story.
You were living in Europe atthe time, andrea.
Okay, I'm gonna friends,richard, you know God rest his
soul, truly, really great guy.
Andrea Nunez (11:57):
But so they're putting together.
I don't know.
I guess it was a surprise party.
I don't know.
Was it a surprise?
I don't know, I didn't knowanything about.
Carmen Lezeth (12:08):
Why are you asking?
If it was a surprise party, youcan find you what happened.
What happened?
How are you?
Andrea Nunez (12:13):
asking if it was a surprise party.
You can find you what happenedwould have happened.
How are you asking thisquestion?
Anyway, I just I'm trying to.
You know, I don't normally tellthe story you normally tell.
So, anyway, I wasn't there, soI can't tell the whole story
anyway.
So a bunch of people, a bunchof carmen's friends, friends
were invited to a dinner tocelebrate her birthday.
(12:34):
Elaborate everyone that wasthere, but I know two people,
specifically included our formerboss, who I'm not really sure
fits in the friend category, andnumber two, my former roommate,
(12:55):
who was not a friend, was not afriend of me.
I didn't even know about this.
Can I swear?
Can I swear?
Yes, okay, this motherfuckingparty.
So after the fact, and myfreaking former roommate is
(13:16):
invited, I don't even know it'shappening.
Look, I'm gonna start crying.
Fucking shit, I'm still picked,I don't.
We won't say how long ago.
It was three, four years ago,yeah but a long time ago, but
wait.
I will never.
I will never have closure.
Obviously she was, so I'm stillpretty pissed off about it and
(13:41):
every time it comes up I feel itwelling okay, so I just have to
clean up a piece of this.
Carmen Lezeth (13:48):
So they had a surprise party for me at a, at
one of my favorite restaurants,and this was a planned out, like
a long winded planned out thing, cause you have to book this
place and whatever, and Richard,may he rest in peace Cause he
has passed away.
Um, he tried to.
(14:09):
Like all of my friends don'tknow each other in person, like
you know what I mean, like I'msure you have friends, Rick,
that know of each other but theydon't know each other in person
.
You know what I mean.
So Richard did his duediligence and I, the more I
think about it, the more I thinkthat he called probably one of
my assistants at the timeBecause, remember, I was over at
(14:30):
brand new school and they triedto coordinate it and people
flew in like Mia flew, like thiswasn't a small like party.
Andrea Nunez (14:42):
This was a big deal.
Someone else could have had sheknown about it.
Carmen Lezeth (14:49):
I know, I know and I'm just saying, but it was
just, it was hilarious Cause shewas so angry for so long.
Andrea Nunez (14:55):
I'm thinking about the years and I swear it was
when I was in DC.
I was not in DC, you were in.
Carmen Lezeth (15:02):
Europe.
Andrea Nunez (15:02):
I know you were Cause we're going to talk about
this later, but I'm telling you,because that's what I thought.
Carmen Lezeth (15:08):
you weren't there .
I was like, well, of courseshe's not going to fly in from
Europe for my little birthdayparty.
That's what I thought.
But, rick, the best part is thepictures.
It's like me and our boss, meand her roommate.
I took pictures of everybody.
It was so wrong, it was sowrong.
Andrea Nunez (15:31):
I don't even remember why we're talking now.
Carmen Lezeth (15:32):
I'm all like, all right, I gotta go no, no,
because we're talking aboutfield of dreams and friendship.
And how little you know abouthow, why I came out here.
You didn't know that I yeahanyway.
Andrea Nunez (15:43):
No wonder I wasn't invited to the party.
I didn't know you were going tobe a film credit.
There we go.
Carmen Lezeth (15:47):
Mystery solved, yeah, mystery solved, um, we go
Mystery solved, yeah, mysterysolved, um, all right, well, I
couldn't show it.
You know this is also part ofthose things.
But anyway, basically what he'ssaying, and he says it's in
such a funny way, but he hetalks about like, if you're my
(16:07):
best friend, you should knowthat I can use you in a lie if I
need to right.
Like he's basically saying if Ilook at you, you know I'm in
trouble.
We should be so connected thatyou gonna lie for me.
There's not much else I need todo because we're best friends.
And he says your bullshit is mybullshit and my bullshit is
(16:30):
your.
And of course it's Chris Hart,I mean Kevin Hart, so he's
brilliantly funny about it.
Ok, so I I sent that to Andrea.
So my question is how far wouldyou go to defend a friend?
How far would you go to defenda friend?
Ted Hicks (16:49):
Now.
Carmen Lezeth (16:49):
I'll tell you back when the OJ Simpson thing
happened, when he murdered hiswife and Ron Goldman his ex-wife
and Ron Goldman, because that'swhat I believe happened I was
talking to Mia and I rememberhaving this conversation with
her and I said even if all ofthe evidence was against you,
(17:09):
even if they could prove that itwas you that you murdered
somebody, I'd be there for you,I would believe you, I would
fight to the end, I would makesure that we would find a way to
acquit you.
That's what I said.
Now that I'm older and she haschildren and a husband, I don't
(17:31):
know if you have all theevidence against you how far I
would go.
I'm just saying I don't know.
I would be there for you as afriend forever, but I don't know
.
Andrea thoughts.
Andrea Nunez (17:43):
My initial thought before you brought that up was
like I'd go all the way up tothe edge of where it hurts
somebody else, like a thirdparty, like really hurts them in
some way.
It depends, maybe, on what thatthird party has done okay, gray
(18:06):
area there maybe gray area.
That's my initial thought,joyce.
Joy Gouge (18:16):
I think it kind of would depend on the situation
though, because you know, ifI've got a friend out there
that's like you know, killingher husband or something you
know, I just don't know.
You know I did something.
Carmen Lezeth (18:35):
Okay, so what I'm hearing is I can't rely on you,
joy, for anything.
Okay.
Joy Gouge (18:40):
Now, when it comes to someone's health or well-being,
you know I will support you asa friend, but I will not back up
that lie or that deception orthat very hurtful thing that
(19:06):
they were doing to their husband.
Okay, you know I'm not goinggonna support you hurting
somebody else, physicallyhurting somebody else right, all
I but.
Carmen Lezeth (19:18):
But then I'm gonna step in because andrea
made a good point.
Depends on who the third partyis like.
I I don't know.
I mean I hear you.
So ash just said I'm bad forbeing all in, but I would hope
the friend would respect mymorals and how it would affect
me by doing so.
Don't worry, joy, I got theshovel.
Joy Gouge (19:39):
All right, I've got you on speed dial.
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez (19:43):
I've got you on speed dial.
Carmen Lezeth (19:43):
Yeah, I don't know, rick, thoughts or Joy, you
were going to say something.
I'm sorry, no, no, oh, rick, goahead.
Rick Costa (19:53):
I'll do what I can humanly possible for you if I
really love you.
You're my friend and everything.
But I'm not gonna lie, thoughI'm not gonna lie like wow oh
yeah, I just saw this videobecause, of course, my mom has
dementia and so I watch a lot ofvideos on youtube about
dementia and they.
This video caught my attentionwas like lying and dementia, and
of course they're seeing thingsthat aren't there.
(20:15):
And they're hearing things thataren't there and so the woman's
like you don't want to lie, buthere's the thing.
They really see it.
Joy Gouge (20:24):
Yeah.
Rick Costa (20:25):
Making it up.
So it's not like they're.
They're not lying.
They're actually seeing whatthey see.
So when you tell them, no,that's not there, they think
you're not lying.
They're actually seeing whatthey see.
So when you tell them, no,that's not there, they think
you're the one that's lyingright so now I'm like what do I
do?
Carmen Lezeth (20:40):
I'm lying is okay .
I'm kind of done with this.
I'm I'm tired of being goodytwo-shoes about everything.
Yeah, it is all about the hatetoday.
Let me tell you Clearly allabout the honesty.
I just.
I think sometimes, okay, wait,asher said oh, I've totally lied
(21:06):
for a friend.
Exactly, I've lied for friendseasily, like, easily, easily, no
problem.
I don't think it's always soblack and white and there are
gray areas.
Now, if somebody murderedsomebody, that's a different
ballgame.
But if somebody was accused ofmurdering, like, I cannot
imagine I'm going to just say itstraight up If Andrea was
(21:27):
accused of murdering somebody, Imean it's going to take way
more than just evidence for meto believe that that's true,
because I know her so well thatI would.
It would be so hard for me tobe like you know what girl?
I'm sorry, I'll come visit youin jail, like, but it seems like
(21:47):
you did it.
You know and I know who shemight murder.
She might murder.
So I even know.
So a part of me would stillfind it.
It would just it would rock mywhole sense of understanding who
she is and the world.
For that's why I'm saying Ithink I'd be there for her no
(22:12):
matter what, even at quick,because I would think that the
system did her wrong.
You know what I mean, and Iwould have to find out why.
Andrea Nunez (22:19):
Well, and I would say just, you know, I think that
I believe that none of myfriends who I would lie for
there are some I have that Iwould definitely not lie for,
but none of my friends who Iwould lie for, uh, would ask me
to step over a line.
That's right.
(22:40):
I like, like you were sayingthat about me, like I um,
there's a certain point where Iwouldn't do that to them.
You know, I may have done it,done whatever to somebody else
that would.
I would say I want you to liefor me, but I like I wouldn't
ask them to do that to mebecause of what it would do to
them.
Carmen Lezeth (23:00):
You know what I mean.
I just got totally confused.
Yeah, I didn't hear anything inthere.
Like Carmen, I would do thesame for you.
That's what I was waiting for.
I didn't hear that at all.
Andrea Nunez (23:08):
but okay, whatever , like I wouldn't ask you to lie
for me.
Carmen Lezeth (23:15):
But that's exactly.
But of course not.
But that's my whole point.
Andrea Nunez (23:27):
If you were accused of murder, murdering
somebody, I know you would not,that you would ever murder
anybody, but I'm saying I knowpeople that would.
Are you on that list that youhave of people you want to kill,
if that person is?
Carmen Lezeth (23:32):
in that list.
Yeah right, I'm just sayinglike, let's just pretend,
pretend right, that you wereaccused of murdering somebody.
I would know in my heart, in myentire being, it was not you.
Yeah, yeah, you wouldn't evenhave to ask me.
Yeah, I would try to figure outwhat the problem is.
Does that make sense?
Okay?
Okay, again, not hearing thatyou would do the same for me,
(23:54):
but whatever, I'm just kidding.
Andrea Nunez (23:55):
I just said same.
Rick Costa (24:01):
Does this change anything?
What if you?
By lying, you get into troublelegally Me, Whoever.
Carmen Lezeth (24:10):
I don't care.
I would rather go down fightingbecause I think but okay, that's
a great point, because here'sthe thing.
Isn't that the problem with ourcountry right now?
We're so self-absorbed aboutwhat's going to happen to me, we
don't care so much about what'shappening to other people.
(24:31):
I'm not trying to throw thatout there, but that's exactly
the point.
If I know someone who isinnocent is going to jail for
something they didn't do, andit's somebody I love and care
about, I mean, andrea said itearlier, it's no joke.
If you in my corner, I got you,I got you.
(24:52):
Yeah, this is not going to be.
I'm a loyal, loyal friend.
You fuck with me and it's over.
That's a different ballgame.
That's a different, and Andreaknows this.
I have a three strikes rule.
All of my friends know this.
You have to do three majormess-ups like major mess-ups to
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not be my friend anymore.
Andrea Nunez (25:18):
I'm just wondering how many strikes I have right
now.
Rick Costa (25:24):
Going back to the beginning, you said this is a
lie.
So would you go to jail knowingyou just told a lie to help
somebody out, when you theyprobably didn't do it?
Carmen Lezeth (25:36):
okay, I don't know what you mean.
I got confused.
Now what?
Okay, let's go with andrea justmurdered somebody, okay, and
then what am I doing?
Andrea Nunez (25:44):
I know cynthia's like laughing cynthia, I would
ask you, can it be?
Carmen Lezeth (25:47):
somebody else.
No, because we just justchit-chatting.
Okay, wait, let's read ash.
Okay, wait.
Ash said oh, I've totally liedfor a friend.
Laugh out loud.
Exactly.
You'd be wondering why andreadidn't call you for help.
That's true.
If I went down defending afriend who was in the right, I'd
happily go down with them.
That's right, go ahead.
Rick Costa (26:07):
But rick, give me your example.
Carmen Lezeth (26:08):
They were in the wrong but but if Andrea murdered
somebody, why, if, if, if mybest friend, one of my best
friends, murdered somebody andthey, they would tell me.
First of all, they would tellme I don't need to defend that
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that's.
That's a whole differentsituation they're going to.
I don't have people in my lifethat wouldn't fess up to me.
So I'm not lying for somebody.
I'm saying if she was accusedof murdering somebody and I knew
that she didn't do it, or Itrusted that she told me she
didn't do it, I would believeher.
Joy Gouge (26:51):
Yeah, I got that, I'm just saying I'm throwing a
monkey wrench at you, that's alittle different.
Carmen Lezeth (26:58):
That's not one of my friends.
Rick Costa (27:00):
I'm just saying the monkey wrench is she lied.
They are lying and now you'resitting in jail knowing that
it's not even true.
You're here for a lie.
Carmen Lezeth (27:12):
First of all, carmen ain't going to be sitting
in no jail.
Let's just be clear about that.
Okay, number one because?
Because I got some good assmotherfucking lawyers in my life
, okay, yeah, just to startright now.
Okay, wait a minute.
Here's the problem with thatscenario.
Andrea wouldn't lie to me.
You're saying that somebody Iconsider my best friend, like
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part of my life, would lie to meand I would know they were
lying and then I would go tojail for them.
That doesn't make no sense.
Rick Costa (27:43):
Let's say, andrea stole a million dollars from a
company and she's like I'mdefinitely going to get away
with it, carmen, don't tellnobody.
Okay, don't tell nobody, shegets caught.
And then they say, carmen, didyou have knowledge of this?
It's either no, or you're gonnalie, and you know.
Carmen Lezeth (28:02):
lie or not lie, you know am I with andrea in the
other country that we've flownto where there's no we are
having fruity drinks on thebeach right now, right.
The problem with your scenariois that Andrea, upon stealing
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the million dollars, would havealready charted the jet that we
were both.
I'm just saying like I wouldprobably have known about the
million dollar heist, because myfriends wouldn't do something
like that without telling me andincluding me in and me being go
ahead, go ahead girl, so youwould be the accomplice.
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez (28:47):
Yeah, I have no.
Who?
Carmen Lezeth (28:48):
Cynthia, look at, here's the thing too.
Andrea would steal the milliondollars from the same place.
I would right, girl, we're notgonna steal from people who need
it, we're gonna steal frompeople who don't need it, and
I'm screwing people, so we wouldhave robin hood robin hood yeah
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, yeah, we've gone down a hood.
Andrea Nunez (29:13):
I missed one, I'm confused.
Carmen Lezeth (29:20):
I don't know what my love language is.
Is that in all?
Andrea Nunez (29:26):
relationships.
Well, that's the theory.
Or just men?
All people live and receivelove in a certain way, and so
it's your job to know what yourpartner's love language is, so
that you can communicate withthem in that way.
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez (29:40):
Okay, Andrea .
Carmen Lezeth (29:44):
Go ahead, andrea.
What's your love language girl?
Andrea Nunez (29:51):
Acts of service.
Carmen Lezeth (29:52):
Do nice things for me uh, acts of service do
nice things for me, so do they.
So that means you.
Okay, I just want to learn.
So you're saying, if somebodydoes nice things for you, then
you love them, they love youit's showing their love like
that.
Andrea Nunez (30:07):
Yeah, that's how I like someone to show their love
for me and how I show my lovefor other people, like cooking,
right, that's doing a nice thingfor people.
I do that for people.
You know, that's a lovelanguage for me and it's I'm
just saying.
Carmen Lezeth (30:22):
I have not felt that kind of love from you in a
very long time.
I have not felt the lovelanguage of cooking in my house
and leaving me food for a coupleweeks and just friendship.
Of our love language isconfusion, I think Okay.
Andrea Nunez (30:38):
I hear what you're saying.
Well, I don't know what yourlove language is.
You have to.
Carmen Lezeth (30:43):
I've never thought of such a thing I have.
No, I really don't.
I've never.
I don't know what my lovelanguage is.
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez (30:52):
Well, if you were in a relationship, or in
any any relationship, how wouldyou want someone to show you
that they love you or appreciateyou?
Andrea Nunez (31:00):
how do you know like what makes you feel loved?
Carmen Lezeth (31:07):
I think there's a reason why I am definitely
single right now.
Is this the answer?
Is this what I've been missingthe whole time?
Andrea Nunez (31:17):
You're like I have no language.
I don't know, she's not youngor old hey Michael.
Carmen Lezeth (31:32):
I think we now know the secret.
I don't know.
I'm so confused.
I think Rick is trying to tellme I'm having so much fun I'm
going to have to try to ignorehim for a bit.
Oh, here he is.
Wait a minute, here he is.
Okay, wait, we're going tobring Rick on.
Rick, you're missing it.
(31:52):
Ciao, sorry.
We've now determined that thereason why I am single all this
time is because I don't knowwhat my love language is.
I know I'm like that's theanswer.
All right, give me the optionsagain and I'll tell you what I
think I might want.
It is so material.
It's clearly not material stuffthat doesn't matter.
Andrea Nunez (32:15):
Gifts is one of them, right, Isn't that material
?
Yeah?
Carmen Lezeth (32:20):
but you know, that's not really my thing.
Andrea Nunez (32:23):
I'm asking you guys Gifts is one of them, Words
of affection or some you know.
Rick Costa (32:29):
Affirmation.
Andrea Nunez (32:30):
Yes, thank you.
Carmen Lezeth (32:35):
Wait, wait, so wait.
I'm confused.
So you mean somebody tells meyou're awesome and that's going
to make me love them?
I'm confused.
Andrea Nunez (32:42):
It's not about making you love them.
It's not like some voodoo shitwhere there's a hooking in the
hole and say she's awesome,she's all in love with me.
Carmen Lezeth (32:56):
She's awesome.
Hey, joy.
Just so you know.
Michael wrote a few joy.
He wrote in the comments oh,michael, michael backer, michael
backer yeah, I'm sorry I forgot.
Uh, rick is a great gift to allseekers of divine guidance.
Okay, I'm still trying tofigure out.
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Thank you.
Ted Hicks (33:20):
Okay, rick, just wrote.
Carmen Lezeth (33:21):
Rick just wrote words of affirmation quality
time, physical touch, acts ofservice, receiving gifts.
There you go.
Okay, I think mine might bequality time.
That's probably fair, right?
Yeah, I think so.
I think that's probably me LikeI don't need to see you,
probably me like I don't need tosee you every day.
I don't even need you to livein my house, hint hint, have
your own place.
(33:41):
But I like, like, if we'regonna be together, we're gonna.
I think that might be true.
Yeah, I'm not, because you knowI'm by myself.
Hey, ted Hicks, how you doing?
Okay?
He wrote wait a minute, Ididn't get my chance to say it's
ladies night.
Yeah, we, we tried to knock himout, saying we were having
(34:02):
technical difficulty, but helogged back on you know, um,
okay um Cynthia Joy, joy, yourturn, my goodness.
Joy Gouge (34:15):
I love the quality time.
That quality time we're thesame yeah.
Carmen Lezeth (34:23):
Quality time.
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez (34:26):
Now takes its to all of us.
Carmen Lezeth (34:29):
After he said hi to Rick in a special thing, then
he said hi to the rest of us.
Cynthia was yours and Rick wasyours.
Rick in a special thing that hesent out of the restaurant,
Like whatever, Cynthia was yoursand Rick was yours.
Oh, Rick, let's go with youfirst.
Rick Costa (34:44):
I would say probably quality time with a sprinkle of
access service.
Like it's basically how do youfeel loved when somebody does
which one of these things?
So quality time, huge for me.
Like you want to spend timewith me cool, that shows you
love me.
You know I love that.
But then acts of service islike I'll do the dishes for you,
(35:08):
whatever, I'll do this for you,you ain't got to do it.
Carmen Lezeth (35:10):
Really like that'll make me feel like oh wow
oh, you know what, when yousaid acts of service, like when
andrea was talking, she saidbecause I was thinking like you
know, you volunteer, you do.
I still am confused by all ofthis I'm confusion I'm confusion
.
Andrea Nunez (35:26):
Like you know, acts of service like rub your
feet at the end of the day.
Gas up your car, do somethingyou revise.
Carmen Lezeth (35:34):
I want to revise.
I like people rubbing my feetshe likes physical touch.
Rick Costa (35:44):
I want men to oh boy , this is rated.
G right, this is familyfriendly here's the thing.
Carmen Lezeth (35:57):
I'm in charge of the clips.
Okay, that's so funny.
All right, I I think I'mgetting it all right.
Go ahead, cynthia.
What's yours?
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez (36:08):
so mine would be um two of them.
So I have the quality of timeand gifts, but not like huge
gifts, like, for instance, likeif somebody goes to a store and
they know I love Disney let'sgive an example and they go to a
store, they see something withDisney or something like that
and they just thought of me andgrabbed.
(36:28):
It could be a dollar, it couldbe 25 cents, doesn't even matter
, just the point that they showthat they thought of me and Pick
something up for me, hiony, howyou doing yeah um it doesn't
mean being materialistic.
Rick Costa (36:43):
It means like somebody took the time to
actually get you something andsaid, oh, I think this is gonna
make their day, and then you didit right.
It's like, oh yeah, this isjust romantic relationships.
Carmen Lezeth (36:54):
Right, not necessarily okay.
So you guys were just messingwith me, okay?
Well, after this I'm gonna haveto have like, I'm gonna have to
write in my journal and be likethis is what happened with this
guy.
I did not understand that hewas trying trying to provide
service.
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez (37:16):
And your love language might not be the
same as your partner or as yourfriend.
It may be totally different.
Carmen Lezeth (37:22):
Well, clearly I wasn't even paying attention.
So is that really a thing?
I guess it's really a thing.
Wow, this will be the last timewe do turn the tables Thursday,
because the host is feelinglike a loser.
Joy Gouge (37:41):
No it's your therapy session.
You're learning so much.
It's your therapy session.
Carmen Lezeth (37:47):
It totally is.
We're going to fix Carmen afterall, yeah, after all.
Brian McGauhey (37:59):
Set in place to begin with, because if you set
up a foundation, you set upboundaries.
You will have a goodrelationship.
From my observation, fromeverybody else I know and
everybody else I've spoken tothat have been married for X
amount of years, my failedrelationships has been financial
, because it's my choosing ofthe type of jobs I wanted to go.
But I do the best of my ability.
You know the shit I mean.
(38:22):
But the thing about it is it'slike hey, love you Rich, but hey
, I mean you want to go forsomebody else, you know that
wants to flaunt and all thatstuff.
Fine, go ahead, be that way.
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez (38:32):
But it's just like, hey, you know if
they're only going after you foryour money, right?
Brian McGauhey (38:37):
well, I mean yeah, but but also too.
But like, what annoys me frommy past experience is just that,
like I'd be there for him.
I'd be like yeah, what do youneed?
I got you.
Would you need help with that?
I got you.
But the moment I run into asnag, oh bye, I gotta go.
It's not you, it's me kind offor you.
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez (38:53):
That's not the right person.
Brian McGauhey (38:54):
You can't do it right, I know, but, like I said,
it's been like financialbecause it's like I run into a
snag, but yet everything elseI've done, I help them out.
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez (39:03):
So try not to help them out so much.
Don't do what you can.
Brian McGauhey (39:07):
Don't overexert yourself trying to give them
everything when they can't dothe same to you, Right when they
can't do the same to you, right, but I expect that reciprocated
, like I was there for you inyour time of need.
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez (39:20):
See, you needed to be on our last podcast
with the love language, becauseyour love language is not the
same as the girls you've beenfinding.
Brian McGauhey (39:28):
Because I mean, like I could fix shit, I could
cook shit, I mean I could do it.
Carmen Lezeth (39:36):
Yeah, brian, I you should talk to Cynthia later
.
She can get by.
Brian McGauhey (39:46):
I'm not hard to find.
It's all good, I'm not hard tofind.
Carmen Lezeth (39:49):
Brian, I think you're just choosing the wrong
people, or you're not choosing,but you're connecting and maybe
falling for people and maybe youdon't see the signs because, no
, look at as much as I make funof you and whatever we, we go
back and forth.
I know you're a good man and Iknow you can cook some shit.
Okay, that I'll give you somecredit right there.
I've seen you with the barbecue.
(40:10):
Okay, like I would go to texasjust for that.
Okay, so're a good person.
You work hard.
You need to find a person thatconnects on your level.
You're not finding those rightpeople.
Andrea Nunez (40:25):
That's what that's about.
It's important to know what youwant in a relationship, what
your own values are, so that youcan kind of screen people for
those values.
It doesn't mean they have tototally match up, but they can't
be like in total conflicteither.
Rick Costa (40:48):
Yeah, and one thing I'll say, too, is if you don't
want me, then I don't want you,because why would I want you?
If you don't want me, then Idon't want you, because why
would I want you if you don'twant me?
Sounds simple, but it's like.
Andrea Nunez (41:00):
that's the bottom line if you don't want me
anymore, if someone doesn't wantto be with you, they're not the
right person.
Ted Hicks (41:06):
Boom done, there you go something that you guys had
mentioned a couple of weeks agoand I responded to you, but it
was at the end of your stream.
Does your significant otherneed to be your best friend?
I say no.
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez (41:24):
Which is amazing.
They don't need to be, but itprobably would help the
relationship a little if theyare one of your best friends.
Okay, if they are one of yourbest friends.
Ted Hicks (41:35):
Okay, so I say no, but a comment that was used
earlier.
I think that person, thatsignificant other, needs to be
your ride or die.
Mister B (41:50):
Yeah.
Ted Hicks (41:51):
But they don't have to be your best friend.
Carmen Lezeth (41:53):
Can you tell me what ride or die is versus best
friend?
Ted Hicks (41:56):
What does that, what's the difference or what
does it mean, because I don'tknow what that means you know
your significant other is yourride or die, meaning you can
depend on them when needed, justas they would depend on you.
But is that the?
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez (42:12):
same as a best friend.
A best friend, you would dependon them regardless of whatever.
Brian McGauhey (42:19):
They're close, they're close.
Ted Hicks (42:22):
They're very close.
Mister B (42:25):
One of my best friends is a little bit harder than
your best friend, wouldn't yourride a title potentially become
your best friend, though In thissituation.
I'm just saying there's alittle bit more to it.
I know You're from the Bronx.
You already know stuff.
I know, I know where Ted'sgoing.
(42:45):
I know where Ted's going, allright, all right.
Ted Hicks (42:47):
Yeah.
Mister B (42:47):
I'm just saying, though, all right, I get it.
You know what I mean I'm, youknow.
I mean I'm in a situation, youknow.
I mean, uh, I'm falling and Ican't get up.
I need, you know, I mean I needan upliftment here.
You go right?
Yeah, I got that all right,thank you.
You know what I mean.
But it's not just like you know, I mean compared to, well, your
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best friend, you know, we couldtalk, we could talk, we could
do this.
There's a slight differencebetween the two.
I'm thinking about it.
There is a slight differencebetween the two.
I don't know what it is.
They'll potentially eventuallybecome that same person if you
put the time in.
Yeah, if the time is put in,they'll eventually become the
(43:34):
same person.
Carmen Lezeth (43:36):
My ride or die.
My best friends are my ride ordie I don't have With no
expiration date.
Ted Hicks (43:42):
There's no expiration date.
Carmen Lezeth (43:44):
I don't know what that was about, Brian.
There's no expiration date.
Mister B (43:48):
To me a ride or die.
Carmen Lezeth (43:49):
Next week it's over.
You're no longer married.
It's expired.
It's been 30 years.
Rick Costa (43:57):
To me a ride or die you could be stuck in a side
road at two o'clock in themorning and they'll be there.
Mister B (44:01):
They'll be there, yeah .
Rick Costa (44:02):
My best friend will be like oh, I hate that for you
oh come on, that's not your bestfriend.
Mister B (44:10):
Sometimes your best friend could pop up out of
nowhere.
You know what I mean.
Carmen Lezeth (44:17):
I feel like we have to have individual therapy
sessions.
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez (44:19):
I'm starting to feel like these men have had
some really bad relationships,friends and partner-wise.
Brian McGauhey (44:30):
tony agrees yeah , carmen, what's going?
Andrea Nunez (44:33):
on with your friends and you're like what?
Yeah right on that okay, socarmen could call me from
freaking thailand at 2 am andI'd be on a plane trying to
figure out how to help her yeahyes, right, yes.
So, like you know, like,without even thinking, like,
(44:56):
should I do this or not?
Ted Hicks (44:57):
it would just be automatic so I so andrea, I mean
this andrea, but go ahead okayand I can't butcher cynthia.
okay, so I have a couple of.
I have a best friend.
(45:18):
We've been friends for 40 plusyears.
We don't have to talk every day.
We can get on the phone andjust pick up from whenever.
That to me is a definition of abest friend.
If you're in need, or theexample that was just given Now
(45:41):
your ride or die is like, hey, Ineed an enema.
You're in a situation andyou're like, okay, I'm going to
look for my significant other ormy partner or whatever like
that, but that person doesn'tneed to meet that best friend.
Carmen Lezeth (46:00):
Would your best friend not do that for you?
I mean, that's a little toomuch information.
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez (46:05):
That's a crazy example.
That is the best friend.
Andrea Nunez (46:10):
That's a wild, crazy example, a real-life
example real life example.
Carmen Lezeth (46:15):
I had surgery and my best friend andrea helped me
take a shower.
No problem, wasn't even aquestion, because I could not do
it myself, right?
I did it for a week, helping meand making sure that I had
everything I needed.
That's the best.
You know what Any one of mybest friends would have done
that.
Andrea Nunez (46:35):
I don't have any friends who I wouldn't if I had
to call and be like dude.
I need an NMI.
I need your help.
All of my friends would comeand help me if I needed them.
I would be there for you, okay.
Carmen Lezeth (46:47):
Okay, I just want you to know now NMA Ted, I just
want you to know now Enema.
Mister B (46:57):
Ted.
Ted Hicks (46:57):
I wanted to go to an extreme.
I wanted to go to a fullextreme, to see like, okay,
here's the difference, you knowit would be.
Andrea Nunez (47:09):
I mean knock on wood.
I didn't have to make that call, but I got people.
I'm call, but I got people.
Carmen Lezeth (47:16):
I'm with Nancy.
I got people.
Yeah, I got people For real.
Joy Gouge (47:19):
Yeah.
Brian McGauhey (47:20):
I've been like a bloodshed.
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez (47:21):
Is it weak?
Brian McGauhey (47:22):
Yeah, but enema yeah.
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez (47:24):
But is it because it's another male?
Is that because I mean you gotAndrea and Carmen would do it
for each other, no questionsasked.
But is it because you're rideor die, or your best friend's
another male?
You mean to tell me youwouldn't do it nah, nah, my
friend really needs it.
Mister B (47:42):
You're going for it?
Gotta go get it.
Ted Hicks (47:45):
Cynthia, you know, I got really quiet right.
Joy Gouge (47:48):
I was like hmm, are you guys any ride or dies
because don't feel like it.
Tony doesn't know what to say.
Are you guys any Rad or nice?
Don't be like it.
Mister B (47:55):
Tony doesn't know what to say I'll get it, I'll get it
.
But if you're gonna Tell me,like yo, we gotta go with the
Procedure, then I'm like hey,man, you're on your own, but
that's what I'm gonna tell you.
Be real with it.
I'm gonna tell you that y'allbe on your own, but I'll fight
for you, I'll go get it.
Carmen Lezeth (48:10):
If you need it.
Maybe everyone's definitionsare a little bit different as to
what spouses and friendships, Ithink in the perfect world for
me and the world that I live in.
My best friend and my ride ordie are pretty much exactly the
same person.
The reason why I'm single isbecause I don't want anything
less than that in the man that'sgoing to spend his life with me
(48:35):
.
Do you know what I mean?
Like I have a standard that Iand Brian, I think you should
think that way too.
Mister B (48:42):
I'm glad to hear the comments.
What happened?
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez (48:45):
Brian should think that way too yeah.
Carmen Lezeth (48:47):
Brian.
Brian McGauhey (48:48):
Yeah.
But here's the thing mystandards are reasonable,
carmen's standards.
Not even the best Olympic polevaulter can hit that bar.
Joy Gouge (48:56):
You need a jet pack.
Brian McGauhey (48:58):
For Carmen's standards.
You need a jet pack.
If not a jet pack, you need aplane.
If not a plane, you get a damnshuttle.
Carmen Lezeth (49:05):
I don't.
What is he doing?
I don't understand.
Yes, you're absolutely right,the standard is way high.
I don't even Wait.
Mister B (49:12):
Yes, you're absolutely right, the standard is way high
.
I don't even Wait, wait, wait.
I'm reasonable.
Hold on hold, on, pardon,pardon.
What exactly is the standardWhere's?
Ted Hicks (49:21):
the stage.
Brian McGauhey (49:22):
Are you being generous?
Mister B (49:24):
Well, you are.
In general, that's her standard, because the way Brian says it
is like it's unreachable.
What's happening here?
God bless that woman.
Yeah, yeah, huh.
What happened?
Rick Costa (49:37):
God bless that woman , Nancy we have to shout out the
comments.
Andrea Nunez (49:40):
You guys Remember that.
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez (49:43):
The comments are going crazy.
Carmen Lezeth (49:47):
I don't understand what's happening.
I just got lost so fast.
You know someone who wouldnever fart in front of her
husband, god bless that woman.
See, this is all the enemastuff.
Man See, when you bring toiletstuff into the stream, this is
what happens.
Brian McGauhey (50:02):
Just take it easy on the fiber y'all.
Ted Hicks (50:05):
Yeah me man.
Brian McGauhey (50:07):
Talk some parsley Easy on the bread.
Carmen Lezeth (50:11):
So, Brian, I'm going to answer the question
because he asked me a question.
You want to know what thestandard is for me, or are you
trying to figure out what thestandard is for all women and
why you're having maybedifficulties finding women?
Brian McGauhey (50:23):
who want you for your money.
All the above, I got time.
Ted Hicks (50:28):
Yeah.
Mister B (50:29):
Here we go.
Run open Pandora's box, therewe go am I missing?
Carmen Lezeth (50:37):
is this really hard?
Brian McGauhey (50:37):
I didn't knock the door.
I didn't knock on the door, Ikicked that door.
Let's go, no, I I asked.
Mister B (50:43):
I asked what was carmen's standards?
Because of the way brian's overexaggerating, though that's
what I know, that's what Ibecause because it's time to go
get our beers.
Carmen Lezeth (50:53):
Tony and Brian always call me bougie.
They say I'm so bougie because.
Let me give you the example why.
Again Because one time theywere thinking about coming to
California and I said I'll behappy to suggest some hotels and
some places you can stay.
I live in Santa Monica,california, on the beach, santa
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Monica, california, on the beach, santa Monica, nice.
So I suggested hotels thatAndrea Cynthia has stayed at and
Andrea lives here as well.
The normal hotel here wouldeasily be one night like what?
$500, $550 a night.
Ted Hicks (51:30):
And we lost it.
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez (51:31):
And they lost it and they have not let go
of the whole bougie conceptsince then Can I just say, when
I went to Santa Monica to visitCarmen, she hated the hotel I
was in, oh my God, because itwas literally across the street
from the pier.
Mister B (51:46):
May we ask which hotel it was please?
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez (51:48):
But it was only like.
I think $200 a night.
Ted Hicks (51:52):
Which hotel, cynthia, was it five star?
Carmen Lezeth (51:54):
It was only, like I think, $200 a night.
Ted Hicks (51:56):
Cynthia, was it five star?
Carmen Lezeth (51:57):
It was four stars , that's the reason why it was
also across from the pier.
Did you hear that part?
And, cynthia, what else wasbroken?
You?
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez (52:05):
didn't have a pool.
They were renovating the pool,so we didn't have a pool.
Carmen Lezeth (52:19):
And I had to go pick you up and go around around
the world, even though you're10 minutes from me.
I had to go around the world togo pick you up because it is
like the the crowd anyway.
If you're gonna ask me whereyou want to stay in santa monica
, or you ask andrea, you askanyone you want to stay in santa
monica at the beach, I'm gonnatell you where you should stay
because these are beautifulhotels here.
But and again it again it's noteven Santa Monica.
I don't like.
When I go to New York, I stayin Soho, I stay in Tribeca.
That is the luxury, my people,of not having children.
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Okay, that's the other partthat you don't need to
understand.
I don't have to spend my moneyor worry about taking care of
kids or whatever, so I can dothings like fly first class or
those are choices I make.
Mister B (52:57):
Thank you, man.
Thank you, you have the optionto pamper yourself.
I'm just saying, and that's nota crime.
Andrea Nunez (53:06):
It's not a crime.
Mister B (53:08):
If that's how you want to do things, it's not a crime.
Andrea Nunez (53:10):
Check out and say that she has lived a life and
she has earned, she deserves toget what she wants and to be
bougie and all of those things.
And so, whatever her standardsare, like, yeah, someone should
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meet those standards, and ifthey don't guess what, she's
fine without them.
Carmen Lezeth (53:34):
It's okay and I'm not taking money out of your
pocket, brian.
Until then, remember it's allabout the joy.
Everyone Bye, good night, bye.
Thanks for stopping by.
All About the Joy.
Be better and stay beautifulfolks.
Have a sweet day.
So where do you go to ?
Where do you go?
Where do you go to?
I want to know how do you do it.
That thing you do Follow youblindly.
I'll be your fool.
Where do you go to?
Where do you?
Carmen Lezeth (00:19):
go?
Where do you go to?
I want to know how do you do it.
Hi everyone, welcome to AllAbout the Joy, the vintage
edition.
I was going to call it oldschool, but it's kind of the
same thing.
I went back and looked at someof our archival live stream
footage that we haven't lookedat in a long time and I took a
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few of those and kind of putthem all together.
And I took a few of those andkind of put them all together
and I just want to take a momentto say thank you to this
community that we haveestablished here.
It's so much fun and I reallyenjoy it.
And I just want to say thankyou to the guests, to everyone
in the chat, to people whosupport the show.
Just thank you so much.
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It's been such a fun ride and welook forward to doing so many
more of these in the future.
So just thank you so much.
It's been such a fun ride andwe look forward to doing so many
more of these in the future.
So enjoy the old school stuffand hopefully you'll see what I
was trying to get at regarding atheme.
And yeah, it is always allabout the joy, but it's also all
about friendship, enjoy.
(01:23):
Now in Iowa, did you go seeField of Dreams, the actual
cornfield I've never even seenthe movie.
Andrea Nunez (01:31):
I know.
Carmen Lezeth (01:34):
Look, andrea is one of my best friends.
I mean, when I say best friend,like I would die for her.
Okay, her children are my Godchildren.
Andrea Nunez (01:42):
I'm sorry, I said, or kill her.
Carmen Lezeth (01:47):
Or kill her right or kill for you.
Did I that's like, kill her orkill her right no, I would never
kill you, but but, um, butthere are just so many things
like she's never seen the movieet and refuses to like she, just
like now.
It's like a thing.
You know what I mean.
Andrea Nunez (02:02):
Like and I'm like, yeah, there's a certain point
where it's like, okay, well,that's my thing, I'm just not
gonna watch it, I did almostwatch it actually a few months
ago, and then I was like no youdon't do that.
Carmen Lezeth (02:17):
No, you know, I I still think it's something I'm
I need you to watch, butwhatever there.
So field, field of Dreams, rick, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
Not going to happen, it's notgoing to happen, never, no, I
will never watch it.
She won't do it.
Andrea Nunez (02:29):
So I know like roughly like the build it and
they will whatever it is.
Carmen Lezeth (02:33):
But look at Rick's face.
He's like, oh my God, I hatethis woman.
Andrea Nunez (02:38):
And she will be invited back.
Carmen Lezeth (02:52):
I'm like like build it and he will come.
Everybody's wait a minute, rickit's.
Oh, wow, wait, you took it as areligious thing.
Oh, no, no, not, no, I'm nottalking about jesus.
Rick Costa (02:57):
Oh okay, I was like no, he did it, did he just make
his builder and he will come.
It never was day, everybodythey.
But it's not they, it's he.
Andrea Nunez (03:04):
Don't the ghosts walk out onto the field.
Spoiler alert.
Carmen Lezeth (03:09):
Andrea, I had this film professor who I hate,
frank Manchel.
Everyone knows I hate him,university of Vermont, I hate
him, always hated him.
But if you didn't get the gistbut one of the things that I
will say, that that that hementioned I won't say taught me,
cause I know I would havelearned it somewhere else I will
(03:30):
not give him that credit, buthe did say it.
He said never talk about a filmyou've never seen.
Just don't do it.
It doesn't matter if you've seenall the clips to whatever, and
you will never hear me talkabout a movie I've never seen,
don't matter what clips I'veseen, because until you see the
full context, you don't knowwhat you're talking about.
But yeah, but, rick, I'm justtelling you, this is my.
I don't know what we have incommon.
(03:52):
Because she doesn't it's likealmost on purpose, she will not
watch anything.
Andrea Nunez (03:57):
I ask her to watch .
Unlike you, that's not true.
Okay, what's next?
Carmen Lezeth (04:06):
I'm just saying I don't think you've ever watched
anything I asked you to watch Iwatched moonlight but I don't
even know what moonlight iswhat's moonlight wait?
Andrea Nunez (04:17):
is that the one that won the oscar?
Did it win the oscar?
Carmen Lezeth (04:22):
I'm sure you didn't watch it because I told
you to, because I don't evenremember the movie.
Andrea Nunez (04:27):
We'll have to talk about this offline, but you did
.
You gave me the movie which Istill have, wait wait, wait.
Carmen Lezeth (04:35):
I did what.
I sent you the movie.
You gave me the.
No, I did not DVD.
I bought you the DVD.
Yes, I sent it to you Exactly.
Andrea Nunez (04:47):
That seems more likely.
Carmen Lezeth (04:48):
Okay.
Well, we'll talk later, becausethere are a lot of things that
you don't do, that get on mynerves.
No, I'm just kidding.
Rick Costa (05:00):
But I am curious, if I may ask.
Andrea Nunez (05:02):
Well, why is this turning into?
Why did I show up tonight?
Carmen Lezeth (05:06):
Rick, what do you want to know?
Rick Costa (05:08):
I'm just curious, if I may ask specifically not, I
don't care about ET.
I've seen ET, though Fear theDreams.
What do you not?
Why do you not want to see it?
Andrea Nunez (05:18):
I despise Kevin Costner.
I will not watch it.
Rick Costa (05:21):
Oh, okay, there you go Now I understand.
Andrea Nunez (05:22):
Okay, I really love the movie no Way Out, but
it's sort of in spite of him.
Carmen Lezeth (05:29):
One of the best movies ever have you ever seen?
No Way Out.
Rick Costa.
What's it?
Kevin Costa?
It's one of his first earlymovies.
Really good movie, Sean.
Andrea Nunez (05:40):
What's her name?
Sean, what's her name?
What was her name?
What's her name?
I forget her name.
Oh yeah, I can't remember hername Anyway.
Carmen Lezeth (05:47):
Yeah, you know what I can take or leave.
Kevin Costner, like, it's notLike the reason why I saw Field
of Dreams the first time.
Because there's always a reason, right, it's because James Earl
Jones is in it and James EarlJones has always been one of my
heroes.
So of course I was going towatch every movie, every play I
could get my you know hands on,cause I couldn't go to Broadway
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to see him or whatever.
But James Earl Jones is in themovie and that was the reason
why I had to see it.
And then I was so glad becauseit's not about baseball, like,
and, and that's kind of the coolthing about it.
But yeah, that's kind of thecool thing about it.
But yeah, you know what, andrea, again, I'm not going to.
I know you're not going to seeit, but field of dreams is great
, not because of Kevin Costner,it's just a great story and it
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makes you think.
You know what I mean.
That's it, um, but yeah, yeah,wow, okay, we can go.
Yeah, thanks, tony, it is goodadvice.
Don't talk about it, it is good.
Yeah, you're right, and I and Iput that on everything don't
talk about a book you've neverseen.
Don't talk about a personyou've never met, don't you know
what I mean?
Like, it makes it really simpleto not get yourself all twisted
(06:54):
.
Uh, if you've not experiencedthat, cynthia, I'm so bummed
about your interwebs.
I thought I was gonna see hertonight.
I know it's the only reason whyyou came and jumped in Cause.
I said, rick, I'm a log off,you can deal with this.
(07:15):
So, rick, what was it about?
Um Chris Hemsworth show?
I mean, besides the fact yousaid the last episode, look at
it's.
It's pretty well known whathappened.
Oh wait, let me read what Kevinsaid.
I find a lot of people thatdon't watch movies Don't enjoy
the fantasy part of it.
I think Andrea watches a lot ofmovies.
(07:36):
She just doesn't watch themovies I watch.
But I hear you, I agree withyou.
I'm just defending you here,andrea, because, yes, I watched
a lot of different tastes whatwe have, different things that
we like yeah, and even when itcomes to like men, we have very
different tastes, but we alwaysthought that was a plus in our
(07:57):
relationship because, yeah, yeahrick is like how we going here.
I'm like I'm just throwing.
This is an analysis offriendship.
Is what I'm saying?
I forgot what I was talkingabout before.
Rick Costa (08:09):
Well, I was going to say this show Limitless with
Chris Helmsworth.
This is one that I would sayeverybody should watch.
Carmen Lezeth (08:16):
Yeah, everybody should watch it.
Yeah, it's something that Iwould watch.
Andrea Nunez (08:20):
I just haven't gotten to it yet.
Carmen Lezeth (08:21):
Like I've seen the we just showed the trailer.
We just showed it on here.
Ted Hicks (08:28):
Yeah and don't necessarily trust the reviews
either.
Rick Costa (08:34):
Tony, in general I mean.
Andrea Nunez (08:35):
I don't think I've ever gone to see a movie
because of the reviews, or evenread reviews before I went to go
.
Usually that's the kind ofstuff I look at after I see.
Carmen Lezeth (08:45):
I, you know.
For me, I'll be honest with youthere's very few people who I
pay attention to but know mewell enough.
One of them is Mia, my otherbest friend, my first best
friend.
No, but Mia is the really,hands down, the only person that
knows me well enough knows whatmovies I would like and don't
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like Like.
So if she says, yeah, go seethis movie, I'll go see it.
If she says, don't go see thismovie, I'll still go see the
movie and then be like, damn it,she was right, because she kind
of knows what I like and don'tlike, but reviews, like of
regular critics.
I came out to Los Angeles to bea critic, to be a film critic,
which is weird.
And then I was like you didn'tknow that.
(09:29):
I studied film and English incollege and I wanted to be like
Pauline Kael who, by the way, isa bitch of a film critic in the
academic world Sorry, may sherest in peace but brilliant,
brilliant.
But she was always tearingapart every movie.
But I was like, well, I can'tdance anymore, I can't perform
(09:52):
anymore, what else could I do?
And so I wanted to be a filmcritic and I loved, like Roger
Ebert and them were just comingon, the whole kind of, and I was
like I didn't want to do thethumbs up and thumbs down crap,
but I was like I could totally Ithought of it as you go to the
movies, tell people about it andget paid.
Here's what I liked, here's whatI didn't like.
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I think you should go two stepsup and around the world.
We still have to give some loveto.
Jamie Foxx is still in thehospital, so love to him.
And all the bullshit everyone'stalking about that he had a
stroke, that he had a heartattack, that he is all lies,
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lies, lies, lies.
We don't know, but we prayingon him, uh, to get better soon.
Andrea Nunez (10:39):
Yeah, siskel and eber, yeah, um I am fascinated
that I did not know that, like Ithought, you came out to act.
You know who knew that.
Carmen Lezeth (10:51):
Mia, wait, wait, wait, and Richard, oh, hell, no,
okay, wait, you got to tell thestory of Richard and I'm out.
You got to tell the story ofRichard because that's a good
one.
I want to hear it from yourperspective.
Andrea Nunez (11:10):
Oh man, do we have to do all of this?
Okay, so yeah, it's funny, dude.
Carmen was having a birthday,like a milestone birthday.
I think I was turning 40.
It was when I lived in DC,right yeah?
Carmen Lezeth (11:27):
You were in Europe, but you seem to always
leave that out of the story.
You were living in Europe atthe time, andrea.
Okay, I'm gonna friends,richard, you know God rest his
soul, truly, really great guy.
Andrea Nunez (11:57):
But so they're putting together.
I don't know.
I guess it was a surprise party.
I don't know.
Was it a surprise?
I don't know, I didn't knowanything about.
Carmen Lezeth (12:08):
Why are you asking?
If it was a surprise party, youcan find you what happened.
What happened?
How are you?
Andrea Nunez (12:13):
asking if it was a surprise party.
You can find you what happenedwould have happened.
How are you asking thisquestion?
Anyway, I just I'm trying to.
You know, I don't normally tellthe story you normally tell.
So, anyway, I wasn't there, soI can't tell the whole story
anyway.
So a bunch of people, a bunchof carmen's friends, friends
were invited to a dinner tocelebrate her birthday.
(12:34):
Elaborate everyone that wasthere, but I know two people,
specifically included our formerboss, who I'm not really sure
fits in the friend category, andnumber two, my former roommate,
(12:55):
who was not a friend, was not afriend of me.
I didn't even know about this.
Can I swear?
Can I swear?
Yes, okay, this motherfuckingparty.
So after the fact, and myfreaking former roommate is
(13:16):
invited, I don't even know it'shappening.
Look, I'm gonna start crying.
Fucking shit, I'm still picked,I don't.
We won't say how long ago.
It was three, four years ago,yeah but a long time ago, but
wait.
I will never.
I will never have closure.
Obviously she was, so I'm stillpretty pissed off about it and
(13:41):
every time it comes up I feel itwelling okay, so I just have to
clean up a piece of this.
Carmen Lezeth (13:48):
So they had a surprise party for me at a, at
one of my favorite restaurants,and this was a planned out, like
a long winded planned out thing, cause you have to book this
place and whatever, and Richard,may he rest in peace Cause he
has passed away.
Um, he tried to.
(14:09):
Like all of my friends don'tknow each other in person, like
you know what I mean, like I'msure you have friends, Rick,
that know of each other but theydon't know each other in person
.
You know what I mean.
So Richard did his duediligence and I, the more I
think about it, the more I thinkthat he called probably one of
my assistants at the timeBecause, remember, I was over at
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brand new school and they triedto coordinate it and people
flew in like Mia flew, like thiswasn't a small like party.
Andrea Nunez (14:42):
This was a big deal.
Someone else could have had sheknown about it.
Carmen Lezeth (14:49):
I know, I know and I'm just saying, but it was
just, it was hilarious Cause shewas so angry for so long.
Andrea Nunez (14:55):
I'm thinking about the years and I swear it was
when I was in DC.
I was not in DC, you were in.
Carmen Lezeth (15:02):
Europe.
Andrea Nunez (15:02):
I know you were Cause we're going to talk about
this later, but I'm telling you,because that's what I thought.
Carmen Lezeth (15:08):
you weren't there .
I was like, well, of courseshe's not going to fly in from
Europe for my little birthdayparty.
That's what I thought.
But, rick, the best part is thepictures.
It's like me and our boss, meand her roommate.
I took pictures of everybody.
It was so wrong, it was sowrong.
Andrea Nunez (15:31):
I don't even remember why we're talking now.
Carmen Lezeth (15:32):
I'm all like, all right, I gotta go no, no,
because we're talking aboutfield of dreams and friendship.
And how little you know abouthow, why I came out here.
You didn't know that I yeahanyway.
Andrea Nunez (15:43):
No wonder I wasn't invited to the party.
I didn't know you were going tobe a film credit.
There we go.
Carmen Lezeth (15:47):
Mystery solved, yeah, mystery solved, um, we go
Mystery solved, yeah, mysterysolved, um, all right, well, I
couldn't show it.
You know this is also part ofthose things.
But anyway, basically what he'ssaying, and he says it's in
such a funny way, but he hetalks about like, if you're my
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best friend, you should knowthat I can use you in a lie if I
need to right.
Like he's basically saying if Ilook at you, you know I'm in
trouble.
We should be so connected thatyou gonna lie for me.
There's not much else I need todo because we're best friends.
And he says your bullshit is mybullshit and my bullshit is
(16:30):
your.
And of course it's Chris Hart,I mean Kevin Hart, so he's
brilliantly funny about it.
Ok, so I I sent that to Andrea.
So my question is how far wouldyou go to defend a friend?
How far would you go to defenda friend?
Ted Hicks (16:49):
Now.
Carmen Lezeth (16:49):
I'll tell you back when the OJ Simpson thing
happened, when he murdered hiswife and Ron Goldman his ex-wife
and Ron Goldman, because that'swhat I believe happened I was
talking to Mia and I rememberhaving this conversation with
her and I said even if all ofthe evidence was against you,
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even if they could prove that itwas you that you murdered
somebody, I'd be there for you,I would believe you, I would
fight to the end, I would makesure that we would find a way to
acquit you.
That's what I said.
Now that I'm older and she haschildren and a husband, I don't
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know if you have all theevidence against you how far I
would go.
I'm just saying I don't know.
I would be there for you as afriend forever, but I don't know
.
Andrea thoughts.
Andrea Nunez (17:43):
My initial thought before you brought that up was
like I'd go all the way up tothe edge of where it hurts
somebody else, like a thirdparty, like really hurts them in
some way.
It depends, maybe, on what thatthird party has done okay, gray
(18:06):
area there maybe gray area.
That's my initial thought,joyce.
Joy Gouge (18:16):
I think it kind of would depend on the situation
though, because you know, ifI've got a friend out there
that's like you know, killingher husband or something you
know, I just don't know.
You know I did something.
Carmen Lezeth (18:35):
Okay, so what I'm hearing is I can't rely on you,
joy, for anything.
Okay.
Joy Gouge (18:40):
Now, when it comes to someone's health or well-being,
you know I will support you asa friend, but I will not back up
that lie or that deception orthat very hurtful thing that
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they were doing to their husband.
Okay, you know I'm not goinggonna support you hurting
somebody else, physicallyhurting somebody else right, all
I but.
Carmen Lezeth (19:18):
But then I'm gonna step in because andrea
made a good point.
Depends on who the third partyis like.
I I don't know.
I mean I hear you.
So ash just said I'm bad forbeing all in, but I would hope
the friend would respect mymorals and how it would affect
me by doing so.
Don't worry, joy, I got theshovel.
Joy Gouge (19:39):
All right, I've got you on speed dial.
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez (19:43):
I've got you on speed dial.
Carmen Lezeth (19:43):
Yeah, I don't know, rick, thoughts or Joy, you
were going to say something.
I'm sorry, no, no, oh, rick, goahead.
Rick Costa (19:53):
I'll do what I can humanly possible for you if I
really love you.
You're my friend and everything.
But I'm not gonna lie, thoughI'm not gonna lie like wow oh
yeah, I just saw this videobecause, of course, my mom has
dementia and so I watch a lot ofvideos on youtube about
dementia and they.
This video caught my attentionwas like lying and dementia, and
of course they're seeing thingsthat aren't there.
(20:15):
And they're hearing things thataren't there and so the woman's
like you don't want to lie, buthere's the thing.
They really see it.
Joy Gouge (20:24):
Yeah.
Rick Costa (20:25):
Making it up.
So it's not like they're.
They're not lying.
They're actually seeing whatthey see.
So when you tell them, no,that's not there, they think
you're not lying.
They're actually seeing whatthey see.
So when you tell them, no,that's not there, they think
you're the one that's lyingright so now I'm like what do I
do?
Carmen Lezeth (20:40):
I'm lying is okay .
I'm kind of done with this.
I'm I'm tired of being goodytwo-shoes about everything.
Yeah, it is all about the hatetoday.
Let me tell you Clearly allabout the honesty.
I just.
I think sometimes, okay, wait,asher said oh, I've totally lied
(21:06):
for a friend.
Exactly, I've lied for friendseasily, like, easily, easily, no
problem.
I don't think it's always soblack and white and there are
gray areas.
Now, if somebody murderedsomebody, that's a different
ballgame.
But if somebody was accused ofmurdering, like, I cannot
imagine I'm going to just say itstraight up If Andrea was
(21:27):
accused of murdering somebody, Imean it's going to take way
more than just evidence for meto believe that that's true,
because I know her so well thatI would.
It would be so hard for me tobe like you know what girl?
I'm sorry, I'll come visit youin jail, like, but it seems like
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you did it.
You know and I know who shemight murder.
She might murder.
So I even know.
So a part of me would stillfind it.
It would just it would rock mywhole sense of understanding who
she is and the world.
For that's why I'm saying Ithink I'd be there for her no
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matter what, even at quick,because I would think that the
system did her wrong.
You know what I mean, and Iwould have to find out why.
Andrea Nunez (22:19):
Well, and I would say just, you know, I think that
I believe that none of myfriends who I would lie for
there are some I have that Iwould definitely not lie for,
but none of my friends who Iwould lie for, uh, would ask me
to step over a line.
That's right.
(22:40):
I like, like you were sayingthat about me, like I um,
there's a certain point where Iwouldn't do that to them.
You know, I may have done it,done whatever to somebody else
that would.
I would say I want you to liefor me, but I like I wouldn't
ask them to do that to mebecause of what it would do to
them.
Carmen Lezeth (23:00):
You know what I mean.
I just got totally confused.
Yeah, I didn't hear anything inthere.
Like Carmen, I would do thesame for you.
That's what I was waiting for.
I didn't hear that at all.
Andrea Nunez (23:08):
but okay, whatever , like I wouldn't ask you to lie
for me.
Carmen Lezeth (23:15):
But that's exactly.
But of course not.
But that's my whole point.
Andrea Nunez (23:27):
If you were accused of murder, murdering
somebody, I know you would not,that you would ever murder
anybody, but I'm saying I knowpeople that would.
Are you on that list that youhave of people you want to kill,
if that person is?
Carmen Lezeth (23:32):
in that list.
Yeah right, I'm just sayinglike, let's just pretend,
pretend right, that you wereaccused of murdering somebody.
I would know in my heart, in myentire being, it was not you.
Yeah, yeah, you wouldn't evenhave to ask me.
Yeah, I would try to figure outwhat the problem is.
Does that make sense?
Okay?
Okay, again, not hearing thatyou would do the same for me,
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but whatever, I'm just kidding.
Andrea Nunez (23:55):
I just said same.
Rick Costa (24:01):
Does this change anything?
What if you?
By lying, you get into troublelegally Me, Whoever.
Carmen Lezeth (24:10):
I don't care.
I would rather go down fightingbecause I think but okay, that's
a great point, because here'sthe thing.
Isn't that the problem with ourcountry right now?
We're so self-absorbed aboutwhat's going to happen to me, we
don't care so much about what'shappening to other people.
(24:31):
I'm not trying to throw thatout there, but that's exactly
the point.
If I know someone who isinnocent is going to jail for
something they didn't do, andit's somebody I love and care
about, I mean, andrea said itearlier, it's no joke.
If you in my corner, I got you,I got you.
(24:52):
Yeah, this is not going to be.
I'm a loyal, loyal friend.
You fuck with me and it's over.
That's a different ballgame.
That's a different, and Andreaknows this.
I have a three strikes rule.
All of my friends know this.
You have to do three majormess-ups like major mess-ups to
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not be my friend anymore.
Andrea Nunez (25:18):
I'm just wondering how many strikes I have right
now.
Rick Costa (25:24):
Going back to the beginning, you said this is a
lie.
So would you go to jail knowingyou just told a lie to help
somebody out, when you theyprobably didn't do it?
Carmen Lezeth (25:36):
okay, I don't know what you mean.
I got confused.
Now what?
Okay, let's go with andrea justmurdered somebody, okay, and
then what am I doing?
Andrea Nunez (25:44):
I know cynthia's like laughing cynthia, I would
ask you, can it be?
Carmen Lezeth (25:47):
somebody else.
No, because we just justchit-chatting.
Okay, wait, let's read ash.
Okay, wait.
Ash said oh, I've totally liedfor a friend.
Laugh out loud.
Exactly.
You'd be wondering why andreadidn't call you for help.
That's true.
If I went down defending afriend who was in the right, I'd
happily go down with them.
That's right, go ahead.
Rick Costa (26:07):
But rick, give me your example.
Carmen Lezeth (26:08):
They were in the wrong but but if Andrea murdered
somebody, why, if, if, if mybest friend, one of my best
friends, murdered somebody andthey, they would tell me.
First of all, they would tellme I don't need to defend that
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that's.
That's a whole differentsituation they're going to.
I don't have people in my lifethat wouldn't fess up to me.
So I'm not lying for somebody.
I'm saying if she was accusedof murdering somebody and I knew
that she didn't do it, or Itrusted that she told me she
didn't do it, I would believeher.
Joy Gouge (26:51):
Yeah, I got that, I'm just saying I'm throwing a
monkey wrench at you, that's alittle different.
Carmen Lezeth (26:58):
That's not one of my friends.
Rick Costa (27:00):
I'm just saying the monkey wrench is she lied.
They are lying and now you'resitting in jail knowing that
it's not even true.
You're here for a lie.
Carmen Lezeth (27:12):
First of all, carmen ain't going to be sitting
in no jail.
Let's just be clear about that.
Okay, number one because?
Because I got some good assmotherfucking lawyers in my life
, okay, yeah, just to startright now.
Okay, wait a minute.
Here's the problem with thatscenario.
Andrea wouldn't lie to me.
You're saying that somebody Iconsider my best friend, like
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part of my life, would lie to meand I would know they were
lying and then I would go tojail for them.
That doesn't make no sense.
Rick Costa (27:43):
Let's say, andrea stole a million dollars from a
company and she's like I'mdefinitely going to get away
with it, carmen, don't tellnobody.
Okay, don't tell nobody, shegets caught.
And then they say, carmen, didyou have knowledge of this?
It's either no, or you're gonnalie, and you know.
Carmen Lezeth (28:02):
lie or not lie, you know am I with andrea in the
other country that we've flownto where there's no we are
having fruity drinks on thebeach right now, right.
The problem with your scenariois that Andrea, upon stealing
(28:24):
the million dollars, would havealready charted the jet that we
were both.
I'm just saying like I wouldprobably have known about the
million dollar heist, because myfriends wouldn't do something
like that without telling me andincluding me in and me being go
ahead, go ahead girl, so youwould be the accomplice.
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez (28:47):
Yeah, I have no.
Who?
Carmen Lezeth (28:48):
Cynthia, look at, here's the thing too.
Andrea would steal the milliondollars from the same place.
I would right, girl, we're notgonna steal from people who need
it, we're gonna steal frompeople who don't need it, and
I'm screwing people, so we wouldhave robin hood robin hood yeah
(29:11):
, yeah, we've gone down a hood.
Andrea Nunez (29:13):
I missed one, I'm confused.
Carmen Lezeth (29:20):
I don't know what my love language is.
Is that in all?
Andrea Nunez (29:26):
relationships.
Well, that's the theory.
Or just men?
All people live and receivelove in a certain way, and so
it's your job to know what yourpartner's love language is, so
that you can communicate withthem in that way.
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez (29:40):
Okay, Andrea .
Carmen Lezeth (29:44):
Go ahead, andrea.
What's your love language girl?
Andrea Nunez (29:51):
Acts of service.
Carmen Lezeth (29:52):
Do nice things for me uh, acts of service do
nice things for me, so do they.
So that means you.
Okay, I just want to learn.
So you're saying, if somebodydoes nice things for you, then
you love them, they love youit's showing their love like
that.
Andrea Nunez (30:07):
Yeah, that's how I like someone to show their love
for me and how I show my lovefor other people, like cooking,
right, that's doing a nice thingfor people.
I do that for people.
You know, that's a lovelanguage for me and it's I'm
just saying.
Carmen Lezeth (30:22):
I have not felt that kind of love from you in a
very long time.
I have not felt the lovelanguage of cooking in my house
and leaving me food for a coupleweeks and just friendship.
Of our love language isconfusion, I think Okay.
Andrea Nunez (30:38):
I hear what you're saying.
Well, I don't know what yourlove language is.
You have to.
Carmen Lezeth (30:43):
I've never thought of such a thing I have.
No, I really don't.
I've never.
I don't know what my lovelanguage is.
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez (30:52):
Well, if you were in a relationship, or in
any any relationship, how wouldyou want someone to show you
that they love you or appreciateyou?
Andrea Nunez (31:00):
how do you know like what makes you feel loved?
Carmen Lezeth (31:07):
I think there's a reason why I am definitely
single right now.
Is this the answer?
Is this what I've been missingthe whole time?
Andrea Nunez (31:17):
You're like I have no language.
I don't know, she's not youngor old hey Michael.
Carmen Lezeth (31:32):
I think we now know the secret.
I don't know.
I'm so confused.
I think Rick is trying to tellme I'm having so much fun I'm
going to have to try to ignorehim for a bit.
Oh, here he is.
Wait a minute, here he is.
Okay, wait, we're going tobring Rick on.
Rick, you're missing it.
(31:52):
Ciao, sorry.
We've now determined that thereason why I am single all this
time is because I don't knowwhat my love language is.
I know I'm like that's theanswer.
All right, give me the optionsagain and I'll tell you what I
think I might want.
It is so material.
It's clearly not material stuffthat doesn't matter.
Andrea Nunez (32:15):
Gifts is one of them, right, Isn't that material
?
Yeah?
Carmen Lezeth (32:20):
but you know, that's not really my thing.
Andrea Nunez (32:23):
I'm asking you guys Gifts is one of them, Words
of affection or some you know.
Rick Costa (32:29):
Affirmation.
Andrea Nunez (32:30):
Yes, thank you.
Carmen Lezeth (32:35):
Wait, wait, so wait.
I'm confused.
So you mean somebody tells meyou're awesome and that's going
to make me love them?
I'm confused.
Andrea Nunez (32:42):
It's not about making you love them.
It's not like some voodoo shitwhere there's a hooking in the
hole and say she's awesome,she's all in love with me.
Carmen Lezeth (32:56):
She's awesome.
Hey, joy.
Just so you know.
Michael wrote a few joy.
He wrote in the comments oh,michael, michael backer, michael
backer yeah, I'm sorry I forgot.
Uh, rick is a great gift to allseekers of divine guidance.
Okay, I'm still trying tofigure out.
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Thank you.
Ted Hicks (33:20):
Okay, rick, just wrote.
Carmen Lezeth (33:21):
Rick just wrote words of affirmation quality
time, physical touch, acts ofservice, receiving gifts.
There you go.
Okay, I think mine might bequality time.
That's probably fair, right?
Yeah, I think so.
I think that's probably me LikeI don't need to see you,
probably me like I don't need tosee you every day.
I don't even need you to livein my house, hint hint, have
your own place.
(33:41):
But I like, like, if we'regonna be together, we're gonna.
I think that might be true.
Yeah, I'm not, because you knowI'm by myself.
Hey, ted Hicks, how you doing?
Okay?
He wrote wait a minute, Ididn't get my chance to say it's
ladies night.
Yeah, we, we tried to knock himout, saying we were having
(34:02):
technical difficulty, but helogged back on you know, um,
okay um Cynthia Joy, joy, yourturn, my goodness.
Joy Gouge (34:15):
I love the quality time.
That quality time we're thesame yeah.
Carmen Lezeth (34:23):
Quality time.
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez (34:26):
Now takes its to all of us.
Carmen Lezeth (34:29):
After he said hi to Rick in a special thing, then
he said hi to the rest of us.
Cynthia was yours and Rick wasyours.
Rick in a special thing that hesent out of the restaurant,
Like whatever, Cynthia was yoursand Rick was yours.
Oh, Rick, let's go with youfirst.
Rick Costa (34:44):
I would say probably quality time with a sprinkle of
access service.
Like it's basically how do youfeel loved when somebody does
which one of these things?
So quality time, huge for me.
Like you want to spend timewith me cool, that shows you
love me.
You know I love that.
But then acts of service islike I'll do the dishes for you,
(35:08):
whatever, I'll do this for you,you ain't got to do it.
Carmen Lezeth (35:10):
Really like that'll make me feel like oh wow
oh, you know what, when yousaid acts of service, like when
andrea was talking, she saidbecause I was thinking like you
know, you volunteer, you do.
I still am confused by all ofthis I'm confusion I'm confusion
.
Andrea Nunez (35:26):
Like you know, acts of service like rub your
feet at the end of the day.
Gas up your car, do somethingyou revise.
Carmen Lezeth (35:34):
I want to revise.
I like people rubbing my feetshe likes physical touch.
Rick Costa (35:44):
I want men to oh boy , this is rated.
G right, this is familyfriendly here's the thing.
Carmen Lezeth (35:57):
I'm in charge of the clips.
Okay, that's so funny.
All right, I I think I'mgetting it all right.
Go ahead, cynthia.
What's yours?
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez (36:08):
so mine would be um two of them.
So I have the quality of timeand gifts, but not like huge
gifts, like, for instance, likeif somebody goes to a store and
they know I love Disney let'sgive an example and they go to a
store, they see something withDisney or something like that
and they just thought of me andgrabbed.
(36:28):
It could be a dollar, it couldbe 25 cents, doesn't even matter
, just the point that they showthat they thought of me and Pick
something up for me, hiony, howyou doing yeah um it doesn't
mean being materialistic.
Rick Costa (36:43):
It means like somebody took the time to
actually get you something andsaid, oh, I think this is gonna
make their day, and then you didit right.
It's like, oh yeah, this isjust romantic relationships.
Carmen Lezeth (36:54):
Right, not necessarily okay.
So you guys were just messingwith me, okay?
Well, after this I'm gonna haveto have like, I'm gonna have to
write in my journal and be likethis is what happened with this
guy.
I did not understand that hewas trying trying to provide
service.
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez (37:16):
And your love language might not be the
same as your partner or as yourfriend.
It may be totally different.
Carmen Lezeth (37:22):
Well, clearly I wasn't even paying attention.
So is that really a thing?
I guess it's really a thing.
Wow, this will be the last timewe do turn the tables Thursday,
because the host is feelinglike a loser.
Joy Gouge (37:41):
No it's your therapy session.
You're learning so much.
It's your therapy session.
Carmen Lezeth (37:47):
It totally is.
We're going to fix Carmen afterall, yeah, after all.
Brian McGauhey (37:59):
Set in place to begin with, because if you set
up a foundation, you set upboundaries.
You will have a goodrelationship.
From my observation, fromeverybody else I know and
everybody else I've spoken tothat have been married for X
amount of years, my failedrelationships has been financial
, because it's my choosing ofthe type of jobs I wanted to go.
But I do the best of my ability.
You know the shit I mean.
(38:22):
But the thing about it is it'slike hey, love you Rich, but hey
, I mean you want to go forsomebody else, you know that
wants to flaunt and all thatstuff.
Fine, go ahead, be that way.
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez (38:32):
But it's just like, hey, you know if
they're only going after you foryour money, right?
Brian McGauhey (38:37):
well, I mean yeah, but but also too.
But like, what annoys me frommy past experience is just that,
like I'd be there for him.
I'd be like yeah, what do youneed?
I got you.
Would you need help with that?
I got you.
But the moment I run into asnag, oh bye, I gotta go.
It's not you, it's me kind offor you.
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez (38:53):
That's not the right person.
Brian McGauhey (38:54):
You can't do it right, I know, but, like I said,
it's been like financialbecause it's like I run into a
snag, but yet everything elseI've done, I help them out.
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez (39:03):
So try not to help them out so much.
Don't do what you can.
Brian McGauhey (39:07):
Don't overexert yourself trying to give them
everything when they can't dothe same to you, Right when they
can't do the same to you, right, but I expect that reciprocated
, like I was there for you inyour time of need.
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez (39:20):
See, you needed to be on our last podcast
with the love language, becauseyour love language is not the
same as the girls you've beenfinding.
Brian McGauhey (39:28):
Because I mean, like I could fix shit, I could
cook shit, I mean I could do it.
Carmen Lezeth (39:36):
Yeah, brian, I you should talk to Cynthia later
.
She can get by.
Brian McGauhey (39:46):
I'm not hard to find.
It's all good, I'm not hard tofind.
Carmen Lezeth (39:49):
Brian, I think you're just choosing the wrong
people, or you're not choosing,but you're connecting and maybe
falling for people and maybe youdon't see the signs because, no
, look at as much as I make funof you and whatever we, we go
back and forth.
I know you're a good man and Iknow you can cook some shit.
Okay, that I'll give you somecredit right there.
I've seen you with the barbecue.
(40:10):
Okay, like I would go to texasjust for that.
Okay, so're a good person.
You work hard.
You need to find a person thatconnects on your level.
You're not finding those rightpeople.
Andrea Nunez (40:25):
That's what that's about.
It's important to know what youwant in a relationship, what
your own values are, so that youcan kind of screen people for
those values.
It doesn't mean they have tototally match up, but they can't
be like in total conflicteither.
Rick Costa (40:48):
Yeah, and one thing I'll say, too, is if you don't
want me, then I don't want you,because why would I want you?
If you don't want me, then Idon't want you, because why
would I want you if you don'twant me?
Sounds simple, but it's like.
Andrea Nunez (41:00):
that's the bottom line if you don't want me
anymore, if someone doesn't wantto be with you, they're not the
right person.
Ted Hicks (41:06):
Boom done, there you go something that you guys had
mentioned a couple of weeks agoand I responded to you, but it
was at the end of your stream.
Does your significant otherneed to be your best friend?
I say no.
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez (41:24):
Which is amazing.
They don't need to be, but itprobably would help the
relationship a little if theyare one of your best friends.
Okay, if they are one of yourbest friends.
Ted Hicks (41:35):
Okay, so I say no, but a comment that was used
earlier.
I think that person, thatsignificant other, needs to be
your ride or die.
Mister B (41:50):
Yeah.
Ted Hicks (41:51):
But they don't have to be your best friend.
Carmen Lezeth (41:53):
Can you tell me what ride or die is versus best
friend?
Ted Hicks (41:56):
What does that, what's the difference or what
does it mean, because I don'tknow what that means you know
your significant other is yourride or die, meaning you can
depend on them when needed, justas they would depend on you.
But is that the?
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez (42:12):
same as a best friend.
A best friend, you would dependon them regardless of whatever.
Brian McGauhey (42:19):
They're close, they're close.
Ted Hicks (42:22):
They're very close.
Mister B (42:25):
One of my best friends is a little bit harder than
your best friend, wouldn't yourride a title potentially become
your best friend, though In thissituation.
I'm just saying there's alittle bit more to it.
I know You're from the Bronx.
You already know stuff.
I know, I know where Ted'sgoing.
(42:45):
I know where Ted's going, allright, all right.
Ted Hicks (42:47):
Yeah.
Mister B (42:47):
I'm just saying, though, all right, I get it.
You know what I mean I'm, youknow.
I mean I'm in a situation, youknow.
I mean, uh, I'm falling and Ican't get up.
I need, you know, I mean I needan upliftment here.
You go right?
Yeah, I got that all right,thank you.
You know what I mean.
But it's not just like you know, I mean compared to, well, your
(43:11):
best friend, you know, we couldtalk, we could talk, we could
do this.
There's a slight differencebetween the two.
I'm thinking about it.
There is a slight differencebetween the two.
I don't know what it is.
They'll potentially eventuallybecome that same person if you
put the time in.
Yeah, if the time is put in,they'll eventually become the
(43:34):
same person.
Carmen Lezeth (43:36):
My ride or die.
My best friends are my ride ordie I don't have With no
expiration date.
Ted Hicks (43:42):
There's no expiration date.
Carmen Lezeth (43:44):
I don't know what that was about, Brian.
There's no expiration date.
Mister B (43:48):
To me a ride or die.
Carmen Lezeth (43:49):
Next week it's over.
You're no longer married.
It's expired.
It's been 30 years.
Rick Costa (43:57):
To me a ride or die you could be stuck in a side
road at two o'clock in themorning and they'll be there.
Mister B (44:01):
They'll be there, yeah .
Rick Costa (44:02):
My best friend will be like oh, I hate that for you
oh come on, that's not your bestfriend.
Mister B (44:10):
Sometimes your best friend could pop up out of
nowhere.
You know what I mean.
Carmen Lezeth (44:17):
I feel like we have to have individual therapy
sessions.
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez (44:19):
I'm starting to feel like these men have had
some really bad relationships,friends and partner-wise.
Brian McGauhey (44:30):
tony agrees yeah , carmen, what's going?
Andrea Nunez (44:33):
on with your friends and you're like what?
Yeah right on that okay, socarmen could call me from
freaking thailand at 2 am andI'd be on a plane trying to
figure out how to help her yeahyes, right, yes.
So, like you know, like,without even thinking, like,
(44:56):
should I do this or not?
Ted Hicks (44:57):
it would just be automatic so I so andrea, I mean
this andrea, but go ahead okayand I can't butcher cynthia.
okay, so I have a couple of.
I have a best friend.
(45:18):
We've been friends for 40 plusyears.
We don't have to talk every day.
We can get on the phone andjust pick up from whenever.
That to me is a definition of abest friend.
If you're in need, or theexample that was just given Now
(45:41):
your ride or die is like, hey, Ineed an enema.
You're in a situation andyou're like, okay, I'm going to
look for my significant other ormy partner or whatever like
that, but that person doesn'tneed to meet that best friend.
Carmen Lezeth (46:00):
Would your best friend not do that for you?
I mean, that's a little toomuch information.
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez (46:05):
That's a crazy example.
That is the best friend.
Andrea Nunez (46:10):
That's a wild, crazy example, a real-life
example real life example.
Carmen Lezeth (46:15):
I had surgery and my best friend andrea helped me
take a shower.
No problem, wasn't even aquestion, because I could not do
it myself, right?
I did it for a week, helping meand making sure that I had
everything I needed.
That's the best.
You know what Any one of mybest friends would have done
that.
Andrea Nunez (46:35):
I don't have any friends who I wouldn't if I had
to call and be like dude.
I need an NMI.
I need your help.
All of my friends would comeand help me if I needed them.
I would be there for you, okay.
Carmen Lezeth (46:47):
Okay, I just want you to know now NMA Ted, I just
want you to know now Enema.
Mister B (46:57):
Ted.
Ted Hicks (46:57):
I wanted to go to an extreme.
I wanted to go to a fullextreme, to see like, okay,
here's the difference, you knowit would be.
Andrea Nunez (47:09):
I mean knock on wood.
I didn't have to make that call, but I got people.
I'm call, but I got people.
Carmen Lezeth (47:16):
I'm with Nancy.
I got people.
Yeah, I got people For real.
Joy Gouge (47:19):
Yeah.
Brian McGauhey (47:20):
I've been like a bloodshed.
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez (47:21):
Is it weak?
Brian McGauhey (47:22):
Yeah, but enema yeah.
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez (47:24):
But is it because it's another male?
Is that because I mean you gotAndrea and Carmen would do it
for each other, no questionsasked.
But is it because you're rideor die, or your best friend's
another male?
You mean to tell me youwouldn't do it nah, nah, my
friend really needs it.
Mister B (47:42):
You're going for it?
Gotta go get it.
Ted Hicks (47:45):
Cynthia, you know, I got really quiet right.
Joy Gouge (47:48):
I was like hmm, are you guys any ride or dies
because don't feel like it.
Tony doesn't know what to say.
Are you guys any Rad or nice?
Don't be like it.
Mister B (47:55):
Tony doesn't know what to say I'll get it, I'll get it
.
But if you're gonna Tell me,like yo, we gotta go with the
Procedure, then I'm like hey,man, you're on your own, but
that's what I'm gonna tell you.
Be real with it.
I'm gonna tell you that y'allbe on your own, but I'll fight
for you, I'll go get it.
Carmen Lezeth (48:10):
If you need it.
Maybe everyone's definitionsare a little bit different as to
what spouses and friendships, Ithink in the perfect world for
me and the world that I live in.
My best friend and my ride ordie are pretty much exactly the
same person.
The reason why I'm single isbecause I don't want anything
less than that in the man that'sgoing to spend his life with me
(48:35):
.
Do you know what I mean?
Like I have a standard that Iand Brian, I think you should
think that way too.
Mister B (48:42):
I'm glad to hear the comments.
What happened?
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez (48:45):
Brian should think that way too yeah.
Carmen Lezeth (48:47):
Brian.
Brian McGauhey (48:48):
Yeah.
But here's the thing mystandards are reasonable,
carmen's standards.
Not even the best Olympic polevaulter can hit that bar.
Joy Gouge (48:56):
You need a jet pack.
Brian McGauhey (48:58):
For Carmen's standards.
You need a jet pack.
If not a jet pack, you need aplane.
If not a plane, you get a damnshuttle.
Carmen Lezeth (49:05):
I don't.
What is he doing?
I don't understand.
Yes, you're absolutely right,the standard is way high.
I don't even Wait.
Mister B (49:12):
Yes, you're absolutely right, the standard is way high
.
I don't even Wait, wait, wait.
I'm reasonable.
Hold on hold, on, pardon,pardon.
What exactly is the standardWhere's?
Ted Hicks (49:21):
the stage.
Brian McGauhey (49:22):
Are you being generous?
Mister B (49:24):
Well, you are.
In general, that's her standard, because the way Brian says it
is like it's unreachable.
What's happening here?
God bless that woman.
Yeah, yeah, huh.
What happened?
Rick Costa (49:37):
God bless that woman , Nancy we have to shout out the
comments.
Andrea Nunez (49:40):
You guys Remember that.
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez (49:43):
The comments are going crazy.
Carmen Lezeth (49:47):
I don't understand what's happening.
I just got lost so fast.
You know someone who wouldnever fart in front of her
husband, god bless that woman.
See, this is all the enemastuff.
Man See, when you bring toiletstuff into the stream, this is
what happens.
Brian McGauhey (50:02):
Just take it easy on the fiber y'all.
Ted Hicks (50:05):
Yeah me man.
Brian McGauhey (50:07):
Talk some parsley Easy on the bread.
Carmen Lezeth (50:11):
So, Brian, I'm going to answer the question
because he asked me a question.
You want to know what thestandard is for me, or are you
trying to figure out what thestandard is for all women and
why you're having maybedifficulties finding women?
Brian McGauhey (50:23):
who want you for your money.
All the above, I got time.
Ted Hicks (50:28):
Yeah.
Mister B (50:29):
Here we go.
Run open Pandora's box, therewe go am I missing?
Carmen Lezeth (50:37):
is this really hard?
Brian McGauhey (50:37):
I didn't knock the door.
I didn't knock on the door, Ikicked that door.
Let's go, no, I I asked.
Mister B (50:43):
I asked what was carmen's standards?
Because of the way brian's overexaggerating, though that's
what I know, that's what Ibecause because it's time to go
get our beers.
Carmen Lezeth (50:53):
Tony and Brian always call me bougie.
They say I'm so bougie because.
Let me give you the example why.
Again Because one time theywere thinking about coming to
California and I said I'll behappy to suggest some hotels and
some places you can stay.
I live in Santa Monica,california, on the beach, santa
(51:14):
Monica, california, on the beach, santa Monica, nice.
So I suggested hotels thatAndrea Cynthia has stayed at and
Andrea lives here as well.
The normal hotel here wouldeasily be one night like what?
$500, $550 a night.
Ted Hicks (51:30):
And we lost it.
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez (51:31):
And they lost it and they have not let go
of the whole bougie conceptsince then Can I just say, when
I went to Santa Monica to visitCarmen, she hated the hotel I
was in, oh my God, because itwas literally across the street
from the pier.
Mister B (51:46):
May we ask which hotel it was please?
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez (51:48):
But it was only like.
I think $200 a night.
Ted Hicks (51:52):
Which hotel, cynthia, was it five star?
Carmen Lezeth (51:54):
It was only, like I think, $200 a night.
Ted Hicks (51:56):
Cynthia, was it five star?
Carmen Lezeth (51:57):
It was four stars , that's the reason why it was
also across from the pier.
Did you hear that part?
And, cynthia, what else wasbroken?
You?
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez (52:05):
didn't have a pool.
They were renovating the pool,so we didn't have a pool.
Carmen Lezeth (52:19):
And I had to go pick you up and go around around
the world, even though you're10 minutes from me.
I had to go around the world togo pick you up because it is
like the the crowd anyway.
If you're gonna ask me whereyou want to stay in santa monica
, or you ask andrea, you askanyone you want to stay in santa
monica at the beach, I'm gonnatell you where you should stay
because these are beautifulhotels here.
But and again it again it's noteven Santa Monica.
I don't like.
When I go to New York, I stayin Soho, I stay in Tribeca.
That is the luxury, my people,of not having children.
(52:43):
Okay, that's the other partthat you don't need to
understand.
I don't have to spend my moneyor worry about taking care of
kids or whatever, so I can dothings like fly first class or
those are choices I make.
Mister B (52:57):
Thank you, man.
Thank you, you have the optionto pamper yourself.
I'm just saying, and that's nota crime.
Andrea Nunez (53:06):
It's not a crime.
Mister B (53:08):
If that's how you want to do things, it's not a crime.
Andrea Nunez (53:10):
Check out and say that she has lived a life and
she has earned, she deserves toget what she wants and to be
bougie and all of those things.
And so, whatever her standardsare, like, yeah, someone should
(53:31):
meet those standards, and ifthey don't guess what, she's
fine without them.
Carmen Lezeth (53:34):
It's okay and I'm not taking money out of your
pocket, brian.
Until then, remember it's allabout the joy.
Everyone Bye, good night, bye.
Thanks for stopping by.
All About the Joy.
Be better and stay beautifulfolks.
Have a sweet day.
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