Getting straight As. Winning an award. Making the team. We all want our kids to accomplish great things. But what they do is not as important as who they are. In this episode of the All Pro Dad Podcast, host Ted Lowe is joined by BJ Foster and Bobby Lewis to talk about seeing the best in our kids.
Why This Matters
Kids are sponges. They soak up our compliments. When you see the best in them and verbalize it, they gain confidence and feel safe with you.
Practical Tools for Dads
1. Eye Contact. Research shows this creates empathy in your brain for the person you’re looking at.
2. Laugh at their humor. It’s a big for connection, so laugh with your kids.
3. Ask them questions. Not just any questions, but open-ended questions peel the layers back on your kids and set the stage for connection.
4. Point out their strengths and praise their character.
5. Remember your own journey.
Important Episode Timestamps
00:00 - 00:44 | Introduction & Big Question of the Week
00:44 - 03:03 | Who Saw the Best in You Growing Up?
03:03 - 04:43 | Why Kids Gravitate Toward Encouraging Adults
04:43 - 07:09 | Step One: Look Your Kid in the Face
07:09 - 08:52 | Step Two: Laugh at Their Humor
08:52 - 13:19 | Step Three: Ask Open-Ended Questions
13:19 - 15:16 | Start Young, Save the Memories
15:16 - 20:08 | Step Four: Point Out Their Character Strengths
20:08 - 22:53 | Step Five: Remember Your Own Journey
22:53 - 24:48 | Pro Move of the Week
APD Pro Move:
Focus on just one of these 5 things this week and put it into practice with your kids. Show them you believe in who they are and who they’re becoming.
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3 Character Traits to Affirm in Your Kids
12 Honest Questions to Ask Your Kids Every Year
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