Is your marriage in a rough season? Are you and your wife arguing more? Struggling to connect? You’re not the only one. In this episode of the All Pro Dad Podcast, host Ted Lowe is joined by BJ Foster to talk about difficulties in marriage, the fights that result, and how not to give up on the relationship.
Why This Matters
No marriage is perfect, but all marriages are worth fighting for.
6 Ways to NOT Give Up on Your Marriage
1. Ask a better question.
Ask, “What am I doing to make this marriage work?”
2. Get help.
There’s no shame in going to counseling.
3. Take divorce off the table.
For most couples, their marriage can be fixed!
4. Take a vacation from your issues.
Set aside time when you aren’t trying to figure out what is wrong and enjoy what is right.
5. Surround your marriage
Surround your marriage with people who are for your marriage and not just you.
6. Be brave.
Fight for the courage to do the hard, uncomfortable, and self-sacrificing things to save your family.
Important Episode Timestamps
00:00 – 02:05 | Little Fights Add Up
02:05 – 04:17 | Small Annoyances Become Big Problems
04:17 – 05:53 | Is This Worth Fighting For?
05:53 – 07:43 | The Marriage Happiness U-Curve
07:43 – 09:35 | The Four Horsemen That Destroy Marriages
09:35 – 11:23 | Your Tone and Reactions Shape Conflict
11:23 – 14:59 | Ask a Better Question
14:59 – 20:15 | Don’t Wait to Get Help
20:15 – 23:26 | Take a Vacation From Your Issues
23:26 – End | Surround Yourself With Marriage-Builders
APD Pro Move:
Bravely, humbly, ask your wife, “What is one thing I can do to love and serve you this week?” (Once she responds, simply say, "Thanks for letting me know." Then do it. If your wife says it’s too late, talk to an expert.)
All Pro Dad Resources:
Episode 101 – How Does Having Kids Change Your Marriage?
Episode 91 – Is There a Secret to Balancing Marriage and Fatherhood?
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