January 30, 2025 • 30 mins
Imagine standing face-to-face with a bully and feeling a surge of confidence that changes everything. That's the power of presence and energy, a lesson I learned firsthand as a child moving from Jamaica to Newark, New Jersey. This episode uncovers how leadership isn’t confined to titles but is reflected in how we carry ourselves daily. Through personal stories and insights, we explore how projecting confidence can positively influence those around us, encouraging listeners to recognize their leadership potential within their everyday lives.
Leadership is often more about what isn’t said than what is. Our exploration continues with a dive into non-verbal communication, examining how simple actions like standing tall or offering a firm handshake can reshape perceptions. By channeling the confident posture of lions, we can alter our neuroendocrine levels, boosting our confidence and decision-making abilities. These small yet powerful adjustments can transform how others perceive us and how we see ourselves, reinforcing the vital connection between self-perception and external influence.
To truly embrace our personal power, we need to step into challenging situations with resilience and a victorious mindset. The episode emphasizes building confidence through incremental successes—what we call "now wins." By taking actionable steps, no matter how small, like registering a business idea, we can create momentum and reinforce a positive outlook. It's about recognizing that both a victim and a victor reside within us, and through informed choices and inner strength, we can navigate life's obstacles, realizing our potential and greatness.
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that they're a beast.
To work at a company, you're abeast, but there are also alpha
beasts that are inside of thatcompany and they just command
different.
How are you commanding?
Are you in a leadership role?
Right now and I'm telling you,whether you have an official
title or you don't, you are in aleadership role.
Your kids are watching you,your family's watching you, your
coworkers are watching you,your employees are watching you.
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How do you show up?
Do you show up like in adefeated day or do you show up
like I got this?
No matter what the situation is, are you walking into that
situation like I got this, orare you walking into the
situation like this situation'sgot me?
Because just how you show upwill either inspire the
confidence of your team or itwill have them begin to question
well, god, if this is my leaderand my leader looks defeated,
what chance do we have?
You actually took time to learnabout how incredible you were.
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Nothing would ever stop you.
You know everyone thinksleadership is just about what
you say, but do you rememberwhen you were a kid, your mother
and father saying things likestand up straight, look a man in
the eye, look a woman in theeye.
You know, be confident.
You remember these oldconversations growing up right,
because that's about how youshow up.
But what we didn't know, what Ididn't know back then, was that
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they were giving the most basic, foundational lesson on
leadership.
My name is James Adlam.
Today, we're going to have aconversation about how you show
up.
My hope is that you get valueout of this.
You get value out of this.
I want you to comment, lovereading comments, subscribe and
share this, because theinformation that we're able to
share together can make adifference for so many people
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all around the world, and that'sthe point of this community.
I want to talk to you for asecond.
So I went to, I lived inJamaica and I came to United
States and when I came to UnitedStates, I had a very, very
heavy Jamaican.
I came to the United States andwhen I came to the United
States, I had a very, very heavyJamaican accent.
I moved to Newark, new Jerseyand let's just say that, having
a heavy Jamaican accent, inNewark, new Jersey, I was made
fun of all the time, bullied,got into fights, all this other
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stuff, and I remember I just hada fight.
I went home and my mother saidwhen you go back to school, you
have your shoulders back, youhave your chest up and you look
everyone straight in the eye andyou walk with confidence.
Now I just got beat.
Okay, I just got beat up.
So the next day I'm walking toclass and I'm remembering and
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replaying what she said.
I'm walking with my shouldersback, my chest up, and I see the
guy that I just got in a fightwith 24 hours ago and I look at
him and he looks at me and I'mdoing my best to keep my
shoulders and my chest up evenhigher and he just kind of looks
at me and goes and just keepswalking.
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Now, 24 hours ago we got in afight.
24 hours ago I also got beat up.
It was a different conversation, but he just walked by and I
remember going home having aconversation with my mom and
she's like you know how did youcarry yourself today?
And I'm like oh, you know,da-da-da-da-da.
What I didn't understand wasthat she just gave me a lesson
on leadership.
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Didn't understand that.
I want to talk to you about howyou show up.
You know, when you're a leaderin any field, before you say a
word, people are alreadydeciding.
Will they follow you?
Will they listen to you?
Are you worthy of beinglistened to?
You look on either side of them.
You see lions.
If you ever watch lions on aplane when they're walking, they
are just such regal creatures.
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You ever see a hyena?
You ever see a hyena walk?
They're powerful, but you eversee how their heads are down.
Now, I don't think that's aconfidence issue, I just think
it's just where they're designed.
But I also think it's veryinteresting that all around the
world, when people respect thesecreatures, meaning lions, they
always have these powerful poseswhere their heads back, their
chests are up, because it's howyou show up.
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In 2010, there was a study thatwas done and I'm going to read
listen to this.
Here's the title of it.
Brief, nonverbal displaysaffect neuroendocrine levels and
risk tolerance.
That's the study in 2010.
And here's the point of this.
It showed that when you dosomething called power posing
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power posing instead ofslouching over, shaking your
hand like this, you raiseyourself, you look someone in
the eye, you have your chest up,you have your back straight,
you lean forward with emphasis,you shake a hand with strength
that it raises your testosteronelevel and lowers your cortisol
level, even if it's momentarily.
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That's why it's called brief.
Just that one moment.
The moment you find yourselfslouching and you sit up
straight.
The moment that you're in ameeting and everyone's kind of
hunched over and you sit upstraight, the moment that
happens, you're displayingnon-verbal cues of dominance.
I'll break this down for you.
When you're a leader in a field, your ability to be read
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immediately is everything.
If people look at you and theysee you slouching, they see you
hunching, they see your headdown, they see all of that,
they've already decided you'renot worthy to follow.
Now I'm not saying to you thatif you've achieved a level of
tremendous financial successthat you can't be followed.
That's not what I'm saying.
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What I'm saying is when peoplelook at you, you're already
communicating to them everythingthat they need to know about
you in that moment and they'remaking instantaneous choices
about who you are.
There was a, there was an eventthat I went to once as a
business conference and everyonewas kind of mingling and this
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whole thing.
And this gentleman walks intothe room and he was not dressed
up, super dressed up, he was notwearing anything flashy or
bling and none of that.
But man, when he walked in thisroom I remember everyone's head
turning, including my own.
What I also remember was whenhis wife came in right behind
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him.
She was the exact same way.
So every man and woman that Inoticed, including myself,
looked at just how they walkedinto the room.
And instantaneously, here'swhat's going through our heads I
wonder who they are.
I wonder what they do.
You know, man, they seem reallytogether.
I started, I didn't realizeuntil later.
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I started playing all of thesethings in my head.
I had no idea anything aboutthese people, but just the way
they carried themselves intothat room gave me a desire to
want to get to know them.
You see, when you power pose.
A second point I want you torealize is that you are lowering
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stress and you increase yourability to make decisions.
When you have a high cortisollevel that's a stress hormone
your brain doesn't function atthe same level.
But when you engage in like aphysiology you know Tony Robbins
talks about all the time, aboutlike he would get himself in
state when you engage in aphysiology of confidence, your
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body feels that, whatever thesituation is, you're figuring it
out.
Have you ever seen someonewho's really stressed out?
They're always their head'sdown, they're hunched over.
You're telling your brain we'rescrewed, we don't know how
we're going to figure this out.
But the moment you give yourbody a trigger, hey, sit up
straight, let's figure this outright now, you are literally
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raising your testosterone andlowering your cortisol.
Everyone, I want you to getthis.
Just by having posture,physical posture that displays
confidence, you are literallychanging the site, the, the
chemical reactions in your body.
Wow, you know, look, and here'swhat happens.
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What begins to happen is onceyou start to feel the way that
that feels.
Do it right now.
Some of you, some of you mightbe sloshed over watching this
Just do it right now.
When you're sitting at your desk, when you're doing your Zoom
meetings, when you're in frontof an audience, when you're
walking down the street, whenyou're going grocery shopping,
track yourself.
Track how other people look atyou when you walk in, track
yourself.
Track how other people look atyou when you walk in, like just
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see, ladies and gentlemen, justsee how the world reacts to you
Just for you displaying yourselflike your royalty.
You know there is something tobe said about how you see
yourself.
How you see yourself reallymatters, how you see yourself
shows up and the small littlechanges that give you non-verbal
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dominance in a situation.
Could be as simple as just aslight adjustment of how you sit
.
But why is this important?
Because the moment you begin tocreate a little bit of momentum
, just a little bit.
In other words, you go fromslouching to sitting up straight
.
That's a little momentum.
Don't discount that.
Instead of giving a dead fishhandshake, you give a firm
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handshake, looking someone inthe eye.
Don't discount that.
That's a big deal, man or woman.
I just, lady, said my gosh,your handshake is so firm.
I said no, your handshake isn't, it's just firm it up, don't?
I don't want to weaken mine foryou, make your stronger,
stronger for me.
She started laughing, but thesecond time we shook hands, you
better believe it was firm.
Ladies, this isn't a male thingor a female thing.
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This is just a how you carryyourself thing.
The other part of it is thatthe moment you get those small
little wins, you're creating abio loop, feedback.
You're creating a feedbacksystem when, all a sudden,
you're starting to look for moreareas to win in.
You see, because how you seeyourself will determine how the
world sees you.
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Now I was having thisconversation with a young man
and we were talking about sportsand we're talking about you
know that he was talking aboutwhat he felt the difference was
between athletes today versusathletes years ago, and you know
the YouTube clips he watched.
He's like man.
It just seemed like people weremore aggressive.
Back then I said I don't knowif people were more aggressive,
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I just think people were very.
People are to be a just so youknow.
To be a professional athleteget paid millions of dollars.
You can't be wired likeeverybody else.
You have to be a differentbeast.
You're a different beast, butinside of that world of being a
beast, there's some alpha beastsand everybody in any sport
knows anybody in any companyknows that they're a beast.
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To work at a company, you're abeast, but there are also alpha
beasts that are inside of thatcompany and they just command
different.
How are you commanding?
Are you in a leadership role?
Right now and I'm telling youwhether you have an official
title or you don't you are in aleadership role.
Your kids are watching you,your family's watching you, your
coworkers are watching you,your employees are watching you.
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How do you show up?
Do you show up like in adefeated day, or do you show up
like I got this, no matter whatthe situation is.
Are you walking into thatsituation like I got this, or
are you walking into thesituation like this situation's
got me?
Because just how you show upwill either inspire the
confidence of your team or itwill have them begin to question
well God, if this is my leaderand my leader looks defeated,
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what chance do we have?
I don't know, it doesn't lookvery good for us.
So here's five things you cando, and I just want you to just
think about these five things.
I want you to implement thesefive things, because if you've
met these five things foryourself, you're going to show
up in the world very, verydifferent.
Here's the first one Practicehow you show up in the world
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right now.
Right now, like, go to therefrigerator with an attitude of
dominance.
Make your bed with an attitudeof dominance.
You know some people are gonnacall you cocky just because
they're insecure.
You're gonna see it.
Some people are like, oh, shethinks she's all that or he
thinks she's all that, and yourresponse should be yes, you
should be thinking you're allthat because you are all that.
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Don't shrink into otherpeople's stuff.
So, number one manage yourposture constantly, practice it.
Practice it Everywhere you go.
When you write your name on apaper, write it like you're an
absolute boss.
When you go grocery shopping,when you turn on your car, walk
to your car like you areabsolutely it.
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You're it like you areabsolutely it.
You're it.
When you walk into yourmeetings.
If you're leading a team ofpeople, when you walk into that
meeting, no matter what thesituation is, never show your
team fear, doubt, worry, anger,upset.
Never Always show confidence,confidence, confidence,
confidence, confidence.
No matter what they could belike there's a meteor flying to
earth right now.
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We're all in trouble.
Say no worry, I.
Like there's a meteor flying toearth right now.
We're all in trouble.
Say no worry, I got it, I knowthis cave will be fine like.
You have to have this mentalityand the mentality has to show
physically.
You can't say powerful thingswith weak posture.
You have to say powerful thingswith powerful posture.
Here's the second thing manageyour stress.
Now, what do I mean by manageyour stress?
Stress is the greatest thingyou know.
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Men, just for a second, men,the thing that will give you the
biggest belly fat is stress.
I don't know if you know thisor not.
It's not your wings, it's notyour chips, don't get me wrong.
That's bad, but for men.
Men carry stress in theirmidsection.
I don't know if you know thisor not, and you could exercise
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and do all those other things,but if you carry high stress,
it's going to show up literallyin your midsection.
You've got to lower your stress.
How do you do that?
You always have to know thatthere's always an answer to
every single situation.
Doesn't matter, you can't thinkstraight, though if you're
always worried about thesituation, you can't.
You have to know that there'salways an answer in every single
situation.
Your role and the gift of aproblem is for you to solve it.
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Like a Rubik's cube.
Okay, there's an answer in here.
How do I solve this?
I know there's an answer,because a problem will always
have a solution.
That's why you have two words.
It's not just problem problem,it's problem solution.
There's always a solution.
But if you get yourself allworked up and all stressed out,
you can't think straight, youcan't think straight, and when
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you can't think straight, youcan't execute.
So you've got to manage yourstress and you've got to know
that there's always an answer,no matter what, what, for
whatever you're going through.
That's a fact.
When you're doing your day, askyourself right now, where, where
am I, where's my energy?
Is my energy at a 10, or isthat a one?
Anything in the middle, itdoesn't matter.
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You can say I'm out of three orfour, doesn't matter.
You have to keep yourself at 10.
If you're, if you're, if you'removing through life like a 10,
you, you will attract 10 things,things that are high vibratory
things.
If you're moving through lifelike everything's a problem,
everyone's against you, thenyou're going to move through
life like a 1 or a 2 or a 3 orany other number, but any other
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number is not a 10.
And because every other numberis not a 10, it means that the
situation you're in, you'redeciding, is actually bigger
than your ability to supersedeit, and that's a big, big
problem.
So you need to make sure that,no matter what it is, you exude
100% confidence.
I've got this.
Here's another thing you wantto do is you want to be
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resilient.
Now, when I say I'm going to saycultivate resilience, now, let
me, let me, let me explain, whenI say cultivate resilience,
what that means.
It means I've got to dosomething that puts my body, my
mind, in an uncomfortableposition is why do you think
very successful people work out?
It's just because they like tolook good?
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Yes, but they also valuethemselves at a very high level.
I, you're.
The way you live your life, theway you eat, the way you sleep,
the way you exercise, tells methe value you put on your life,
that it does.
Now you could say no, no, no,no, no.
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I'm busy, really Too busy to dojumping jacks.
You're too busy to do 10pushups.
What are you too busy to dowhen you exercise or when you do
something that requiresresilience means I have to.
It takes effort.
It's not easy to do and I haveto consciously make myself do it
.
You see, you have to consciouslymake yourself choose to put
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yourself in an uncomfortablesituation.
You're developing resilience.
You're actually building yourself-esteem.
You see, when you look at aperson who is in shape and you
know you're not youautomatically look at them at
like a higher level, becauseyou're seeing that someone has a
little bit more discipline or alot more discipline.
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And it's not that you can'thave it, it's not that you can't
have it, it's that you haven'tmade the choice to go get it yet
so you can sit and look at themwith envy while you eat your
you know whatever you eat andyou're looking at them like, ah,
she thinks she's all that withher perfectly toned body, or he
thinks he's all that with hisperfect shoulders.
You can sit there and be ahater if you want to, but
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they've developed resilience andthey go into a situation very
different than the averageperson because they've already
shown themselves the ability todo what is difficult by choice.
See, it's one thing to be in adifficult situation and figure
your way out I just talked aboutthat.
It's another thing to putyourself in a difficult
situation by choice, withrepetition, to willingly go and
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do something that hurts you onpurpose and then get up and do
it again and do it again.
I would love to eat that thattastes so good.
However, I'm not going to eatthat.
I'm going to eat that thattastes pretty good, but I'm
eating for life, I'm not eatingfor taste.
Big difference.
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Here's another thing you wantto do is to cultivate a
confident mindset.
Now I had this conversation andI was talking to one of my
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mentors and I said you know, Ijust I'm just trying to figure
this situation out and I'm justa little frustrated by it and he
said well, why?
And I said well, you know I,you know I've been doing this
and it's not working.
I've been doing that.
It's not working.
You know, I'm trying to figureout why.
Nothing seems to be working.
And here's what he says.
He said here's what you need todo.
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You need to look at everythingwith many angles of thought and
you also need to look at asituation and say, okay, what is
the now when I can have?
To look at a situation and say,okay, what is the now when I
can have, what is the now when Imay, I'm working my way up to
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the big when?
But what is the now when?
He's like because if you don'thave now whens, it feels like
you're never going to win Buildsa confident mindset.
So let me give you an example.
Let's say, for instance, youhave this idea for a business,
been thinking about it, thinkingabout it, thinking about it.
The problem is, you've beenthinking about it, thinking
about it, thinking about it,thinking about it, thinking
about it.
You've been thinking about it.
You've been thinking about it,been thinking about it for a
while.
Right, the moment you go onlineto register your business, you
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come with a name, you come up.
Then you go and you pay theregistration fee to register
your business.
That's a now win.
You see, that's a now win.
Okay, now I got this businessright, got this idea.
I'm excited about it.
Got this business, got thisidea, got this name.
Do you know?
Nothing exists without a name.
You know, in the Bible it talksabout God gave a name to
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everything.
It gave man the ability to nameeverything.
If you have a business in yourmind and it doesn't have a name,
that's not good.
It's one thing to have the namein your head, but the moment
you take that name and you goand register that name, now you
own the name.
You see it one step closer.
Had the idea, have the name,register the name.
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Now.
That's my declaration to theworld.
I got this name.
I'm going to go to this websiteI'm going to create.
I'm going to buy the domain tomy name because I have this idea
that's about to get launched inthe world.
You see that all those thingsare simple to do.
It's simple to have the idea.
You already have the idea.
It's also simple to go registerthe name.
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It's also simple to pay the $6to go register the website for
the name, but don't discountthat, because those things are
simple wins.
But here's what begins to happenwhen you create that series.
Now you're thinking, okay, I'vegot these little simple wins
now.
Okay, now what do I need to donext?
And then your brain startssaying, okay, here's what you
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need to do next, and you need todo this next, and you need to
do this next.
And next thing, you know, allof a sudden, one day you're
sitting in this office and it'syour office.
Or you're looking at yourrevenues from your business and
you remember when it had no name, but you gave it one.
It had no website, but youbought and created one.
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You just had the concept.
But because you were faithful tothe concept with the small
things, because you managed wellthe small steps, you gained a
bit of momentum.
You see, everyone, life isabout momentum, but momentums
are a sequence of moments.
It's the first part of momentum.
If you can do things right now,in the current moment, that
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will allow for you to moveyourself a bit further.
For the next moment, you'vegained momentum.
And here's the other thing.
It's not always going to behome runs every single time, but
you act like it is, even whenyou get whooped.
You don't walk around likeyou're whooped.
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When you get a let down, aclient leaves, you get laid off.
You know, boyfriend, boyfriend,girlfriend, wife leaves, all
those other things.
Most people are going to makeit worse because their very
physiology gets morphed and itgets shrunk down into their
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feelings.
And what I'm telling you isthat if you can move yourself
and exert the confidence in your, just your basic sitting, like
I am not going to sit around andbe a victim of this moment I'm
going to create momentum.
So when I was in school, mygirlfriend and I broke up and uh
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, you know, you know how likeyou have your first real breakup
, like it's really bad andyou're very emotional and
da-da-da-da-da-da-da, right, allthat drama, right, and so I'm
all sad and I'm mopey andda-da-da-da-da.
And then you have this momentwhere you're like you know what?
You know I miss her, I'm goingto give her a call.
And you give her a call and youknow she's not at home.
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We didn't have cell phones,doing our cell phone thing back
then, but I remember talking toher mom and her mom saying oh
honey, everything will be okayand you know you'll be fine.
You guys are young, don't youworry about it.
Okay, no problem, thanks,thanks, mom, her mom.
But she wasn't home.
She wasn't home.
Let me tell you where she was.
She was out shopping with.
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She was at the mall.
What?
I'm sitting over here, all sad,all, and she's at the mall.
What do you mean?
She's at the mall, she'sshopping.
Okay, maybe that was her formof therapy, but that was a lot
better than me sitting at homebeing sad.
So guess what I did?
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I hopped on a bus because, youknow, didn't have a car, hopped
on the bus and I went to a mallNot the same mall, I went to a
mall, didn't have any money,didn't buy anything, but just me
moving in a new direction mademe feel better.
Why am I telling you this?
I'm telling you this because itall connects to everything I
just said.
Don't you sit in the situation.
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Move.
You got to move, got to move.
And when you're moving, you'vegot to move with confidence.
You've got to exert your will,you've got to exert your
confidence on the situation.
Move yourself with authority.
So again recap Sit, move withconfidence, speak with
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confidence.
Shake a hand with confidence.
Speak with confidence, shake ahand with confidence.
The bank calls you bad newsFine, no problem.
Credit card company calls youbad news no problem.
Doctor says something crazy.
Family member says somethingcrazy.
Coworker says something crazy.
Don't you let your whole bodymorph into the situation.
Don't sit in the situation.
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Move immediately.
Lower your stress.
Lower your stress byunderstanding whatever it is.
I got it, I got it.
I got it, I'm good, I'm good.
Exert your confidence, eyecontact all the time, doing
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things also that cultivate yourresilience, doing things that
you choose to do, that are noteasy to do, that you choose to
do.
Maybe right now, you gettingdown on the floor and you doing
15 push-ups would be hard to do,but the victory would come in
the fact that you made yourselfknowingly get down on that floor
and do those hard 15.
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You may have to do it in twosets.
I don't know where you areright now, but I do know this.
I do know that if you dosomething that requires for you
to choose to do it, knowing it'shard, you begin to build
resilience, you begin tocultivate that little bit of
resilience, that little bit ofsomething, that little bit of
something that says you knowwhat I'm different, I'm built a
little bit different than mostpeople.
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I don't know about how y'allare built, but I'm built.
I made myself go do that.
You didn't want to do that.
I made myself go take that walk.
I made myself go read that bookand the book was the size of,
you know, war and peace.
Like I've made myself go dothat, I made myself go do what
is hard.
And because I did that I have alittle bit more self-esteem
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because I know the thing thatwas hard to do, that I didn't
want to do, is the that there'scertain things you're supposed
to do but you don't do itbecause the moment that you're
in, the moment that you're in,is comfortable and to do that is
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uncomfortable.
But here's what's crazy Usually, when you do the uncomfortable
now, your life can be a lot morecomfortable later.
That's what I find is the lastpart.
What is the small things you'regoing to do?
Small, micro.
It doesn't have to be macro,micro.
What is the small victory youcan create right now, not next
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week, not let me check thecharts of the Egyptian calendar
for the next winter solstice.
Like, right now, what can I doright now?
What is the thing I can doright now?
That is a small victory, but isshowing me that I'm intentional
.
Just the example of naming thecompany.
Just that alone.
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Just the example, writing outyour goals and having the
company name, whatever thatpromotion you're going for
investigating that promotion.
You're going for investigatingthat promotion.
What is the thing that you cando?
That is something that ishands-on, manageable for you
right now.
You don't need to hireconsultants.
Right now, you just hands-on.
I'm gonna go do something rightthis second.
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And the thing I'm gonna go doright this second is the thing
that's going to put me on alevel of now momentum.
A lot of people do it, but theydon't follow through with it.
Here's an example of an easyone they buy the new sneakers
for the workouts they're goingto do for the new year.
That created a momentum, but ifthey didn't set the appointment
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to go to the gym, they justlost momentum.
So a simple step can make allthe difference, but you have to
have the next step after that.
You have the name, youregistered the name, you got the
domain for the name.
Now you got to go do it.
So don't be just excited aboutah, I created my domain name,
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wait till you see me next year?
No, it's.
I just created my name Now.
What do I need to do next?
Always ask yourself what do Ineed to do next, what's next,
what's next, what's next, what'snext when you have a what's
next and you approach yourwhat's next with excitement
Instead of I got to do this.
I get to do this because I knowwhat the outcome is going to be
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.
Why?
Because I have extremeconfidence.
Why?
Because I'm taking ownership ofmy situation.
I'm taking ownership of myoutcome.
I have made my choice that I'mgoing to win and the situation
that works for me.
Everything works for me.
The problems work for me.
The rewards work for me.
The success works for me.
Everything works for me.
The problems work for me, therewards work for me.
The success works for mebecause I am in control of an
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outcome.
Now, not everyone's going tobelieve that Some people are
going to see this and say thisguy's talking crazy.
That's not how life works.
No, that's not how your lifeworks.
Don't put your trauma on me.
I'm good.
Don't put your voodoo on me.
I didn't say every day wasgoing to be perfect, but what I
did say is this how you show up,how you show up will determine
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the outcome, inevitably thevictim, you or the victor, you.
Both of you are living in thesame body at the same time.
Both of you are living in thesame body at the same time.
Both of you are breathing thesame air, but how you express
yourself, that's everything.
So leaders power pose.
Leaders have confidence.
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Leaders show up with power inevery single situation.
Don't sit in a situation.
Make your decisions, determineyour outcomes, not your
situations to determine youroutcomes.
You actually took time to learnabout how incredible you were.
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Nothing would ever stop you.
See.
The definition of sight is thefaculty or power of seeing.
that they're a beast.
To work at a company, you're abeast, but there are also alpha
beasts that are inside of thatcompany and they just command
different.
How are you commanding?
Are you in a leadership role?
Right now and I'm telling you,whether you have an official
title or you don't, you are in aleadership role.
Your kids are watching you,your family's watching you, your
coworkers are watching you,your employees are watching you.
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How do you show up?
Do you show up like in adefeated day or do you show up
like I got this?
No matter what the situation is, are you walking into that
situation like I got this, orare you walking into the
situation like this situation'sgot me?
Because just how you show upwill either inspire the
confidence of your team or itwill have them begin to question
well, god, if this is my leaderand my leader looks defeated,
what chance do we have?
You actually took time to learnabout how incredible you were.
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Nothing would ever stop you.
You know everyone thinksleadership is just about what
you say, but do you rememberwhen you were a kid, your mother
and father saying things likestand up straight, look a man in
the eye, look a woman in theeye.
You know, be confident.
You remember these oldconversations growing up right,
because that's about how youshow up.
But what we didn't know, what Ididn't know back then, was that
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they were giving the most basic, foundational lesson on
leadership.
My name is James Adlam.
Today, we're going to have aconversation about how you show
up.
My hope is that you get valueout of this.
You get value out of this.
I want you to comment, lovereading comments, subscribe and
share this, because theinformation that we're able to
share together can make adifference for so many people
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all around the world, and that'sthe point of this community.
I want to talk to you for asecond.
So I went to, I lived inJamaica and I came to United
States and when I came to UnitedStates, I had a very, very
heavy Jamaican.
I came to the United States andwhen I came to the United
States, I had a very, very heavyJamaican accent.
I moved to Newark, new Jerseyand let's just say that, having
a heavy Jamaican accent, inNewark, new Jersey, I was made
fun of all the time, bullied,got into fights, all this other
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stuff, and I remember I just hada fight.
I went home and my mother saidwhen you go back to school, you
have your shoulders back, youhave your chest up and you look
everyone straight in the eye andyou walk with confidence.
Now I just got beat.
Okay, I just got beat up.
So the next day I'm walking toclass and I'm remembering and
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replaying what she said.
I'm walking with my shouldersback, my chest up, and I see the
guy that I just got in a fightwith 24 hours ago and I look at
him and he looks at me and I'mdoing my best to keep my
shoulders and my chest up evenhigher and he just kind of looks
at me and goes and just keepswalking.
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Now, 24 hours ago we got in afight.
24 hours ago I also got beat up.
It was a different conversation, but he just walked by and I
remember going home having aconversation with my mom and
she's like you know how did youcarry yourself today?
And I'm like oh, you know,da-da-da-da-da.
What I didn't understand wasthat she just gave me a lesson
on leadership.
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Didn't understand that.
I want to talk to you about howyou show up.
You know, when you're a leaderin any field, before you say a
word, people are alreadydeciding.
Will they follow you?
Will they listen to you?
Are you worthy of beinglistened to?
You look on either side of them.
You see lions.
If you ever watch lions on aplane when they're walking, they
are just such regal creatures.
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You ever see a hyena?
You ever see a hyena walk?
They're powerful, but you eversee how their heads are down.
Now, I don't think that's aconfidence issue, I just think
it's just where they're designed.
But I also think it's veryinteresting that all around the
world, when people respect thesecreatures, meaning lions, they
always have these powerful poseswhere their heads back, their
chests are up, because it's howyou show up.
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In 2010, there was a study thatwas done and I'm going to read
listen to this.
Here's the title of it.
Brief, nonverbal displaysaffect neuroendocrine levels and
risk tolerance.
That's the study in 2010.
And here's the point of this.
It showed that when you dosomething called power posing
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power posing instead ofslouching over, shaking your
hand like this, you raiseyourself, you look someone in
the eye, you have your chest up,you have your back straight,
you lean forward with emphasis,you shake a hand with strength
that it raises your testosteronelevel and lowers your cortisol
level, even if it's momentarily.
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That's why it's called brief.
Just that one moment.
The moment you find yourselfslouching and you sit up
straight.
The moment that you're in ameeting and everyone's kind of
hunched over and you sit upstraight, the moment that
happens, you're displayingnon-verbal cues of dominance.
I'll break this down for you.
When you're a leader in a field, your ability to be read
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immediately is everything.
If people look at you and theysee you slouching, they see you
hunching, they see your headdown, they see all of that,
they've already decided you'renot worthy to follow.
Now I'm not saying to you thatif you've achieved a level of
tremendous financial successthat you can't be followed.
That's not what I'm saying.
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What I'm saying is when peoplelook at you, you're already
communicating to them everythingthat they need to know about
you in that moment and they'remaking instantaneous choices
about who you are.
There was a, there was an eventthat I went to once as a
business conference and everyonewas kind of mingling and this
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whole thing.
And this gentleman walks intothe room and he was not dressed
up, super dressed up, he was notwearing anything flashy or
bling and none of that.
But man, when he walked in thisroom I remember everyone's head
turning, including my own.
What I also remember was whenhis wife came in right behind
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him.
She was the exact same way.
So every man and woman that Inoticed, including myself,
looked at just how they walkedinto the room.
And instantaneously, here'swhat's going through our heads I
wonder who they are.
I wonder what they do.
You know, man, they seem reallytogether.
I started, I didn't realizeuntil later.
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I started playing all of thesethings in my head.
I had no idea anything aboutthese people, but just the way
they carried themselves intothat room gave me a desire to
want to get to know them.
You see, when you power pose.
A second point I want you torealize is that you are lowering
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stress and you increase yourability to make decisions.
When you have a high cortisollevel that's a stress hormone
your brain doesn't function atthe same level.
But when you engage in like aphysiology you know Tony Robbins
talks about all the time, aboutlike he would get himself in
state when you engage in aphysiology of confidence, your
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body feels that, whatever thesituation is, you're figuring it
out.
Have you ever seen someonewho's really stressed out?
They're always their head'sdown, they're hunched over.
You're telling your brain we'rescrewed, we don't know how
we're going to figure this out.
But the moment you give yourbody a trigger, hey, sit up
straight, let's figure this outright now, you are literally
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raising your testosterone andlowering your cortisol.
Everyone, I want you to getthis.
Just by having posture,physical posture that displays
confidence, you are literallychanging the site, the, the
chemical reactions in your body.
Wow, you know, look, and here'swhat happens.
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What begins to happen is onceyou start to feel the way that
that feels.
Do it right now.
Some of you, some of you mightbe sloshed over watching this
Just do it right now.
When you're sitting at your desk, when you're doing your Zoom
meetings, when you're in frontof an audience, when you're
walking down the street, whenyou're going grocery shopping,
track yourself.
Track how other people look atyou when you walk in, track
yourself.
Track how other people look atyou when you walk in, like just
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see, ladies and gentlemen, justsee how the world reacts to you
Just for you displaying yourselflike your royalty.
You know there is something tobe said about how you see
yourself.
How you see yourself reallymatters, how you see yourself
shows up and the small littlechanges that give you non-verbal
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dominance in a situation.
Could be as simple as just aslight adjustment of how you sit
.
But why is this important?
Because the moment you begin tocreate a little bit of momentum
, just a little bit.
In other words, you go fromslouching to sitting up straight
.
That's a little momentum.
Don't discount that.
Instead of giving a dead fishhandshake, you give a firm
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handshake, looking someone inthe eye.
Don't discount that.
That's a big deal, man or woman.
I just, lady, said my gosh,your handshake is so firm.
I said no, your handshake isn't, it's just firm it up, don't?
I don't want to weaken mine foryou, make your stronger,
stronger for me.
She started laughing, but thesecond time we shook hands, you
better believe it was firm.
Ladies, this isn't a male thingor a female thing.
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This is just a how you carryyourself thing.
The other part of it is thatthe moment you get those small
little wins, you're creating abio loop, feedback.
You're creating a feedbacksystem when, all a sudden,
you're starting to look for moreareas to win in.
You see, because how you seeyourself will determine how the
world sees you.
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Now I was having thisconversation with a young man
and we were talking about sportsand we're talking about you
know that he was talking aboutwhat he felt the difference was
between athletes today versusathletes years ago, and you know
the YouTube clips he watched.
He's like man.
It just seemed like people weremore aggressive.
Back then I said I don't knowif people were more aggressive,
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I just think people were very.
People are to be a just so youknow.
To be a professional athleteget paid millions of dollars.
You can't be wired likeeverybody else.
You have to be a differentbeast.
You're a different beast, butinside of that world of being a
beast, there's some alpha beastsand everybody in any sport
knows anybody in any companyknows that they're a beast.
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To work at a company, you're abeast, but there are also alpha
beasts that are inside of thatcompany and they just command
different.
How are you commanding?
Are you in a leadership role?
Right now and I'm telling youwhether you have an official
title or you don't you are in aleadership role.
Your kids are watching you,your family's watching you, your
coworkers are watching you,your employees are watching you.
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How do you show up?
Do you show up like in adefeated day, or do you show up
like I got this, no matter whatthe situation is.
Are you walking into thatsituation like I got this, or
are you walking into thesituation like this situation's
got me?
Because just how you show upwill either inspire the
confidence of your team or itwill have them begin to question
well God, if this is my leaderand my leader looks defeated,
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what chance do we have?
I don't know, it doesn't lookvery good for us.
So here's five things you cando, and I just want you to just
think about these five things.
I want you to implement thesefive things, because if you've
met these five things foryourself, you're going to show
up in the world very, verydifferent.
Here's the first one Practicehow you show up in the world
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right now.
Right now, like, go to therefrigerator with an attitude of
dominance.
Make your bed with an attitudeof dominance.
You know some people are gonnacall you cocky just because
they're insecure.
You're gonna see it.
Some people are like, oh, shethinks she's all that or he
thinks she's all that, and yourresponse should be yes, you
should be thinking you're allthat because you are all that.
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Don't shrink into otherpeople's stuff.
So, number one manage yourposture constantly, practice it.
Practice it Everywhere you go.
When you write your name on apaper, write it like you're an
absolute boss.
When you go grocery shopping,when you turn on your car, walk
to your car like you areabsolutely it.
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You're it like you areabsolutely it.
You're it.
When you walk into yourmeetings.
If you're leading a team ofpeople, when you walk into that
meeting, no matter what thesituation is, never show your
team fear, doubt, worry, anger,upset.
Never Always show confidence,confidence, confidence,
confidence, confidence.
No matter what they could belike there's a meteor flying to
earth right now.
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We're all in trouble.
Say no worry, I.
Like there's a meteor flying toearth right now.
We're all in trouble.
Say no worry, I got it, I knowthis cave will be fine like.
You have to have this mentalityand the mentality has to show
physically.
You can't say powerful thingswith weak posture.
You have to say powerful thingswith powerful posture.
Here's the second thing manageyour stress.
Now, what do I mean by manageyour stress?
Stress is the greatest thingyou know.
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Men, just for a second, men,the thing that will give you the
biggest belly fat is stress.
I don't know if you know thisor not.
It's not your wings, it's notyour chips, don't get me wrong.
That's bad, but for men.
Men carry stress in theirmidsection.
I don't know if you know thisor not, and you could exercise
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and do all those other things,but if you carry high stress,
it's going to show up literallyin your midsection.
You've got to lower your stress.
How do you do that?
You always have to know thatthere's always an answer to
every single situation.
Doesn't matter, you can't thinkstraight, though if you're
always worried about thesituation, you can't.
You have to know that there'salways an answer in every single
situation.
Your role and the gift of aproblem is for you to solve it.
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Like a Rubik's cube.
Okay, there's an answer in here.
How do I solve this?
I know there's an answer,because a problem will always
have a solution.
That's why you have two words.
It's not just problem problem,it's problem solution.
There's always a solution.
But if you get yourself allworked up and all stressed out,
you can't think straight, youcan't think straight, and when
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you can't think straight, youcan't execute.
So you've got to manage yourstress and you've got to know
that there's always an answer,no matter what, what, for
whatever you're going through.
That's a fact.
When you're doing your day, askyourself right now, where, where
am I, where's my energy?
Is my energy at a 10, or isthat a one?
Anything in the middle, itdoesn't matter.
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You can say I'm out of three orfour, doesn't matter.
You have to keep yourself at 10.
If you're, if you're, if you'removing through life like a 10,
you, you will attract 10 things,things that are high vibratory
things.
If you're moving through lifelike everything's a problem,
everyone's against you, thenyou're going to move through
life like a 1 or a 2 or a 3 orany other number, but any other
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number is not a 10.
And because every other numberis not a 10, it means that the
situation you're in, you'redeciding, is actually bigger
than your ability to supersedeit, and that's a big, big
problem.
So you need to make sure that,no matter what it is, you exude
100% confidence.
I've got this.
Here's another thing you wantto do is you want to be
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resilient.
Now, when I say I'm going to saycultivate resilience, now, let
me, let me, let me explain, whenI say cultivate resilience,
what that means.
It means I've got to dosomething that puts my body, my
mind, in an uncomfortableposition is why do you think
very successful people work out?
It's just because they like tolook good?
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Yes, but they also valuethemselves at a very high level.
I, you're.
The way you live your life, theway you eat, the way you sleep,
the way you exercise, tells methe value you put on your life,
that it does.
Now you could say no, no, no,no, no.
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I'm busy, really Too busy to dojumping jacks.
You're too busy to do 10pushups.
What are you too busy to dowhen you exercise or when you do
something that requiresresilience means I have to.
It takes effort.
It's not easy to do and I haveto consciously make myself do it
.
You see, you have to consciouslymake yourself choose to put
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yourself in an uncomfortablesituation.
You're developing resilience.
You're actually building yourself-esteem.
You see, when you look at aperson who is in shape and you
know you're not youautomatically look at them at
like a higher level, becauseyou're seeing that someone has a
little bit more discipline or alot more discipline.
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And it's not that you can'thave it, it's not that you can't
have it, it's that you haven'tmade the choice to go get it yet
so you can sit and look at themwith envy while you eat your
you know whatever you eat andyou're looking at them like, ah,
she thinks she's all that withher perfectly toned body, or he
thinks he's all that with hisperfect shoulders.
You can sit there and be ahater if you want to, but
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they've developed resilience andthey go into a situation very
different than the averageperson because they've already
shown themselves the ability todo what is difficult by choice.
See, it's one thing to be in adifficult situation and figure
your way out I just talked aboutthat.
It's another thing to putyourself in a difficult
situation by choice, withrepetition, to willingly go and
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do something that hurts you onpurpose and then get up and do
it again and do it again.
I would love to eat that thattastes so good.
However, I'm not going to eatthat.
I'm going to eat that thattastes pretty good, but I'm
eating for life, I'm not eatingfor taste.
Big difference.
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Here's another thing you wantto do is to cultivate a
confident mindset.
Now I had this conversation andI was talking to one of my
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mentors and I said you know, Ijust I'm just trying to figure
this situation out and I'm justa little frustrated by it and he
said well, why?
And I said well, you know I,you know I've been doing this
and it's not working.
I've been doing that.
It's not working.
You know, I'm trying to figureout why.
Nothing seems to be working.
And here's what he says.
He said here's what you need todo.
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You need to look at everythingwith many angles of thought and
you also need to look at asituation and say, okay, what is
the now when I can have?
To look at a situation and say,okay, what is the now when I
can have, what is the now when Imay, I'm working my way up to
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the big when?
But what is the now when?
He's like because if you don'thave now whens, it feels like
you're never going to win Buildsa confident mindset.
So let me give you an example.
Let's say, for instance, youhave this idea for a business,
been thinking about it, thinkingabout it, thinking about it.
The problem is, you've beenthinking about it, thinking
about it, thinking about it,thinking about it, thinking
about it.
You've been thinking about it.
You've been thinking about it,been thinking about it for a
while.
Right, the moment you go onlineto register your business, you
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come with a name, you come up.
Then you go and you pay theregistration fee to register
your business.
That's a now win.
You see, that's a now win.
Okay, now I got this businessright, got this idea.
I'm excited about it.
Got this business, got thisidea, got this name.
Do you know?
Nothing exists without a name.
You know, in the Bible it talksabout God gave a name to
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everything.
It gave man the ability to nameeverything.
If you have a business in yourmind and it doesn't have a name,
that's not good.
It's one thing to have the namein your head, but the moment
you take that name and you goand register that name, now you
own the name.
You see it one step closer.
Had the idea, have the name,register the name.
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Now.
That's my declaration to theworld.
I got this name.
I'm going to go to this websiteI'm going to create.
I'm going to buy the domain tomy name because I have this idea
that's about to get launched inthe world.
You see that all those thingsare simple to do.
It's simple to have the idea.
You already have the idea.
It's also simple to go registerthe name.
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It's also simple to pay the $6to go register the website for
the name, but don't discountthat, because those things are
simple wins.
But here's what begins to happenwhen you create that series.
Now you're thinking, okay, I'vegot these little simple wins
now.
Okay, now what do I need to donext?
And then your brain startssaying, okay, here's what you
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need to do next, and you need todo this next, and you need to
do this next.
And next thing, you know, allof a sudden, one day you're
sitting in this office and it'syour office.
Or you're looking at yourrevenues from your business and
you remember when it had no name, but you gave it one.
It had no website, but youbought and created one.
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You just had the concept.
But because you were faithful tothe concept with the small
things, because you managed wellthe small steps, you gained a
bit of momentum.
You see, everyone, life isabout momentum, but momentums
are a sequence of moments.
It's the first part of momentum.
If you can do things right now,in the current moment, that
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will allow for you to moveyourself a bit further.
For the next moment, you'vegained momentum.
And here's the other thing.
It's not always going to behome runs every single time, but
you act like it is, even whenyou get whooped.
You don't walk around likeyou're whooped.
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When you get a let down, aclient leaves, you get laid off.
You know, boyfriend, boyfriend,girlfriend, wife leaves, all
those other things.
Most people are going to makeit worse because their very
physiology gets morphed and itgets shrunk down into their
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feelings.
And what I'm telling you isthat if you can move yourself
and exert the confidence in your, just your basic sitting, like
I am not going to sit around andbe a victim of this moment I'm
going to create momentum.
So when I was in school, mygirlfriend and I broke up and uh
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, you know, you know how likeyou have your first real breakup
, like it's really bad andyou're very emotional and
da-da-da-da-da-da-da, right, allthat drama, right, and so I'm
all sad and I'm mopey andda-da-da-da-da.
And then you have this momentwhere you're like you know what?
You know I miss her, I'm goingto give her a call.
And you give her a call and youknow she's not at home.
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We didn't have cell phones,doing our cell phone thing back
then, but I remember talking toher mom and her mom saying oh
honey, everything will be okayand you know you'll be fine.
You guys are young, don't youworry about it.
Okay, no problem, thanks,thanks, mom, her mom.
But she wasn't home.
She wasn't home.
Let me tell you where she was.
She was out shopping with.
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She was at the mall.
What?
I'm sitting over here, all sad,all, and she's at the mall.
What do you mean?
She's at the mall, she'sshopping.
Okay, maybe that was her formof therapy, but that was a lot
better than me sitting at homebeing sad.
So guess what I did?
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I hopped on a bus because, youknow, didn't have a car, hopped
on the bus and I went to a mallNot the same mall, I went to a
mall, didn't have any money,didn't buy anything, but just me
moving in a new direction mademe feel better.
Why am I telling you this?
I'm telling you this because itall connects to everything I
just said.
Don't you sit in the situation.
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Move.
You got to move, got to move.
And when you're moving, you'vegot to move with confidence.
You've got to exert your will,you've got to exert your
confidence on the situation.
Move yourself with authority.
So again recap Sit, move withconfidence, speak with
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confidence.
Shake a hand with confidence.
Speak with confidence, shake ahand with confidence.
The bank calls you bad newsFine, no problem.
Credit card company calls youbad news no problem.
Doctor says something crazy.
Family member says somethingcrazy.
Coworker says something crazy.
Don't you let your whole bodymorph into the situation.
Don't sit in the situation.
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Move immediately.
Lower your stress.
Lower your stress byunderstanding whatever it is.
I got it, I got it.
I got it, I'm good, I'm good.
Exert your confidence, eyecontact all the time, doing
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things also that cultivate yourresilience, doing things that
you choose to do, that are noteasy to do, that you choose to
do.
Maybe right now, you gettingdown on the floor and you doing
15 push-ups would be hard to do,but the victory would come in
the fact that you made yourselfknowingly get down on that floor
and do those hard 15.
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You may have to do it in twosets.
I don't know where you areright now, but I do know this.
I do know that if you dosomething that requires for you
to choose to do it, knowing it'shard, you begin to build
resilience, you begin tocultivate that little bit of
resilience, that little bit ofsomething, that little bit of
something that says you knowwhat I'm different, I'm built a
little bit different than mostpeople.
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I don't know about how y'allare built, but I'm built.
I made myself go do that.
You didn't want to do that.
I made myself go take that walk.
I made myself go read that bookand the book was the size of,
you know, war and peace.
Like I've made myself go dothat, I made myself go do what
is hard.
And because I did that I have alittle bit more self-esteem
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because I know the thing thatwas hard to do, that I didn't
want to do, is the that there'scertain things you're supposed
to do but you don't do itbecause the moment that you're
in, the moment that you're in,is comfortable and to do that is
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uncomfortable.
But here's what's crazy Usually, when you do the uncomfortable
now, your life can be a lot morecomfortable later.
That's what I find is the lastpart.
What is the small things you'regoing to do?
Small, micro.
It doesn't have to be macro,micro.
What is the small victory youcan create right now, not next
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week, not let me check thecharts of the Egyptian calendar
for the next winter solstice.
Like, right now, what can I doright now?
What is the thing I can doright now?
That is a small victory, but isshowing me that I'm intentional
.
Just the example of naming thecompany.
Just that alone.
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Just the example, writing outyour goals and having the
company name, whatever thatpromotion you're going for
investigating that promotion.
You're going for investigatingthat promotion.
What is the thing that you cando?
That is something that ishands-on, manageable for you
right now.
You don't need to hireconsultants.
Right now, you just hands-on.
I'm gonna go do something rightthis second.
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And the thing I'm gonna go doright this second is the thing
that's going to put me on alevel of now momentum.
A lot of people do it, but theydon't follow through with it.
Here's an example of an easyone they buy the new sneakers
for the workouts they're goingto do for the new year.
That created a momentum, but ifthey didn't set the appointment
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to go to the gym, they justlost momentum.
So a simple step can make allthe difference, but you have to
have the next step after that.
You have the name, youregistered the name, you got the
domain for the name.
Now you got to go do it.
So don't be just excited aboutah, I created my domain name,
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wait till you see me next year?
No, it's.
I just created my name Now.
What do I need to do next?
Always ask yourself what do Ineed to do next, what's next,
what's next, what's next, what'snext when you have a what's
next and you approach yourwhat's next with excitement
Instead of I got to do this.
I get to do this because I knowwhat the outcome is going to be
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.
Why?
Because I have extremeconfidence.
Why?
Because I'm taking ownership ofmy situation.
I'm taking ownership of myoutcome.
I have made my choice that I'mgoing to win and the situation
that works for me.
Everything works for me.
The problems work for me.
The rewards work for me.
The success works for me.
Everything works for me.
The problems work for me, therewards work for me.
The success works for mebecause I am in control of an
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outcome.
Now, not everyone's going tobelieve that Some people are
going to see this and say thisguy's talking crazy.
That's not how life works.
No, that's not how your lifeworks.
Don't put your trauma on me.
I'm good.
Don't put your voodoo on me.
I didn't say every day wasgoing to be perfect, but what I
did say is this how you show up,how you show up will determine
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the outcome, inevitably thevictim, you or the victor, you.
Both of you are living in thesame body at the same time.
Both of you are living in thesame body at the same time.
Both of you are breathing thesame air, but how you express
yourself, that's everything.
So leaders power pose.
Leaders have confidence.
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Leaders show up with power inevery single situation.
Don't sit in a situation.
Make your decisions, determineyour outcomes, not your
situations to determine youroutcomes.
You actually took time to learnabout how incredible you were.
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Nothing would ever stop you.
See.
The definition of sight is thefaculty or power of seeing.
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