January 13, 2025 • 44 mins
This episode navigates the intricate relationship between fear, trauma, and personal growth, emphasizing the importance of embracing fear to catalyze breakthroughs. My guest Starr Clinton shares her inspiring journey of bridging the deaf and hearing communities while tackling the internal struggles related to fear and self-doubt, encouraging listeners to take actionable steps toward achieving their dreams.
I dive deep into the discussion on:
1. The impact of fear and trauma on personal growth
2. Exploration of aligning personal goals with one’s true desires
3. Star Clinton’s mission and experiences surrounding accessibility
4. The role of technology in improving communication for the deaf community
5. Importance of celebrating small victories and building systems for success
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Are you sure what you talked a bit to me about when
you said that yes?
Speaker 2 (00:03):
So this year alone, my word, especially in the
fourth quarter, was courage.
But I told people, and I'veoften told people I am walking
in fear, and the reason why Itell people that and I know
people look at me like why wouldyou say that the reason why I
say that is because I am scared.
I'm scared of that next level,I'm scared of being rejected.
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I'm scared of so many things,but I have to just do it.
Speaker 1 (00:31):
You actually took time to learn about how
incredible you were.
Nothing would ever stop you.
You know I was thinking tomyself about goals and this
conversation around wanting tohave breakthroughs, because
every year I remember very muchfor myself.
I would find myself buying anew notebook.
I'd go to my local Barnes andNobles, my whatever store, and
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I'd buy the nicest lookingnotebook and I'd have all these
goals and I'd sort of write themall down and I had all these
great ideas and then I'd lookback at them like six months
later or a year later and I wasso far off and it got to the
point for me I can't speak foranyone else where I started to
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distance myself from goals,distance myself a little bit
from the things I wanted toaccomplish, because I almost
felt like a fraud.
I almost felt like you know, Ido this every single year.
I create these goals.
I'm really hyped up.
I do the New Year's Eve, thisis going to be it thing.
Then I look up and nothinglooks like what I thought it
would look like and that'strauma.
(01:39):
So I don't know where this findsyou.
Maybe you're crushing it rightnow.
Maybe you're having a run ofmomentum in your personal life
and your professional life thatyou've never experienced before.
This could be it, or maybeyou're not crushing it.
You're not in the space ofwhere you're running with
momentum.
Everything just seems to befiring on all cylinders.
My hope is that thisconversation threads the needle
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for you.
You're going to have anopportunity to meet someone
special in a moment, but I wantto just talk to you very briefly
about a few things that I'vecome to discover for myself not
necessarily for you that werethings that were holding me back
from having a breakthrough.
Now I don't have it all figuredout.
What I have figured out wassome of the trigger mechanisms
that I could see in myself andas spending time in business.
(02:23):
I've been in business foralmost 30 years, been an
entrepreneur, full-time probalsfor 27 years now.
I've been around a lot ofpeople.
I've met some really impressivepeople and I met some people
that wanted to create somethingimpressive, but I've found
there's a commonality for peoplethat are looking for the
breakthrough but haven't quitebroken through yet first.
First is trauma.
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I gave you an example of trauma.
I wrote goals, I had things Iwanted to do and when I looked
up, those things weren'thappening.
So the trauma for me was that Iwas always thinking to myself
well, maybe, well, maybe I justthis is like I'm playing the
game wrong, so I'd go readanother book, I'd go watch
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another video.
But what I didn't understandwas that the trauma of not
accomplishing something wasreally stealing my energy.
I had to learn how to let onemoment have a moment and not
have that destroy my momentum.
You know when you think about it.
Let's say, you want to reduceweight, or you want to stop
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smoking, or you want to makemore money.
You've been dying to write abook or whatever the thing is,
and you have all this excitementaround it.
And let me tell you somethingthe thing about that thing that
you want to do, that's a Godgift.
God's planted that in you.
It's for you.
It's not for anyone else toco-sign, that's for you.
But sometimes, in a very, verydiabolical way, we sabotage what
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we could do next by focusing onwhat we didn't do last, and
that constant obsession with thelast of my past is it like puts
a chokehold on what's possible.
So you have to allow yourselfthe grace.
You're not who you were lastyear.
You're not who you were lastnight.
Your sales change every singleday.
Why can't you change?
And if you have something verypowerful to share in the world,
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the world will hear it.
And sometimes you just have tobuy in for yourself, meaning for
yourself what are the goalsthat you want to have for
yourself?
Because the other thing that Irecognized was that my goals
were group goals, not personalgoals, meaning I would watch a
video, read a book and be like,oh my god, I wanted that too and
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I write that down as a goal,but it didn't personally move me
.
Whatever mission you're on hasto personally move you, and I
want you to have an opportunityto meet a young lady who I was
just on a phone call with.
I'm not even kidding you.
I was just on a phone call withher and after, within about
(05:00):
five minutes of this phone call,I'm like what are you doing
right now?
And she's like about to cook.
I'm like I need you to stop sofor her family that's not eating
right now.
We appreciate that, but youhave to meet this young lady
because I think the things thatshe's up to are so powerful.
Ms Star Clinton, thank you verymuch for hopping on.
How are you?
Speaker 2 (05:20):
I'm doing well.
I'm doing well.
Thank you, I know you are.
Speaker 1 (05:24):
Happy, happy new year to you so you've got to do me a
favor.
And well, first of all, weconnected on social media.
I talked about the post that Idid and you replied back about
wanting to have a conversation,and really the whole basis of
this is to work with people togo to that next level.
But the level that you, thereasons why you want to go to
(05:48):
the next level, is the reasonwhy I said put down the pots and
the pans and get on this rightnow.
Could you share with everybodyabout you and the work that
you're doing right now?
That'd be great.
Speaker 2 (06:00):
Yes, so my name is Star Clinton and my main focus
and it's very simple, straightto the point is I focus on
bridging the gap between thedeaf and the hearing community.
That has been my sole missionfor so many years, even before I
knew that it was going to be mymission.
It's near and dear to my heartfor so many reasons.
(06:22):
I believe we could probablytalk about that soon, but that
is my sole mission and I'm hereto share it with the world, and
that's all I want to do so.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
where did this come from?
Speaker 2 (06:34):
All stemmed from my mother.
So my mother's deaf she wasborn deaf, no sickness or
anything, just was born deaf.
And honestly, I've saw so manytrials that she had to endure,
including with work, includingwith going to doctor's offices
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and things like that, andhonestly, that was frustrating
for me as her daughter, you know, and not knowing that it was
something that I thought I wasgoing to be able to help with.
Um, but I've always wondered,like in the back of my head,
like there's gotta be a betterway to handle this, like come on
, guys, like she's a human beingand she's nothing wrong with it
(07:17):
.
She just can't hear.
You know, and I've seen it timein and time out and I'm like
this gotta stop.
But even at family functions Ialways got pulled in as the
little interpreter.
That's what I was, that's whatI was known for, but I was still
a child.
I want to go play.
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I do not want to be inside withthe adults.
I didn't care to be inside withthe adults, but I had to be.
And so not that I didn't wantto help my mother, but it was
just frustrating for me to seethat no one could communicate
with her on the level that Iexpected people to communicate
with her, especially when itcame to family, and I'm not
faulting them for it, it's justit rose up frustration for me in
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that sense.
Speaker 1 (08:02):
So just out of curiosity, how long have you
been signing for?
Speaker 2 (08:06):
Honestly, since a baby, since a baby, my mom
started me extremely early,which I advocate for that.
Baby sign language is honestlywhere it's at, not just to learn
for the deaf community, butjust to reduce frustration in
babies.
I advocate for thatwholeheartedly.
(08:27):
But if I leave it to my motherto tell the story, I was
fluently talking with her withthe words that I knew by two, so
I was able to reallycommunicate with her on a level
that a two-year-old would beable to communicate with their
parents.
Speaker 1 (08:45):
Okay, so signing with STAR, this is your business,
right, and you have.
I mean, when we talked aboutyou know what you want for your
next level, right?
So could you share what youshare with me about what you
want for your next level?
Speaker 2 (09:02):
Yes.
So my next level right now isto get on those stages to really
share, well, honestly, shed thelight on the deaf community and
why it's important forbusinesses to include them
inside of their marketing.
Oftentimes, individuals forgetthat there's a whole audience
out there that they're not eventapping into.
(09:22):
You know, and honestly, it'sprobably one of the strongest
audience that is out there thatis going to spread the word
quicker than what a hearingperson really would do, just
because they feel like, oh,they're including us, they want
us to be a part of theircommunity, and so that is my
goal is to shed that light onthese stages, including Ivy
League stages.
(09:43):
Like I really want to tap intoour newer generation just to
kind of help them shift theirminds on what type of leader
they want to be.
Do you want to be accessible?
Do you want your business tolook diverse?
And when I say diverse, oftenpeople hear that word and
they're like, oh, you know,we're talking about black, white
(10:04):
, you know all that.
No, I'm not even talking aboutthat.
Let's talk about the deafcommunity in a whole.
You know that's a wholeaudience that people often
forget about, even to the deafschools.
They forget about them all thetime.
Speaker 1 (10:19):
Got it.
So how are you getting yourselfout there?
Like, how are you?
How do people know?
Well, there's, I know,signingwithstarcom that's two
R's, by the way.
So how, how are you?
How do people?
How have people been able tofind you?
Speaker 2 (10:34):
I guess my question Currently, it's been all through
social media as I'm going onthis new venture.
It's been all through socialmedia, but we are launching our
new website.
I do have a website up, but weare launching our new website.
I do have a website up, but weare launching a new website just
because we have newopportunities that we really
want to share with others, andso it will be.
Signingstarcom is where peoplecan really reach me and there
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will be a place for you to seeall that we're offering.
Fill out a form, connect withme.
We'll do a discovery call andjust to kind of see where you
are and see where you fit withinthe spectrum, because I'm not
limiting myself to who I cantarget, but my biggest target is
corporations and smallerbusinesses.
Speaker 1 (11:16):
Do you feel that we have all this stuff going on
with technology, right, With AIand all this, are you starting?
What do you think that's goingto do with bridging that gap?
Right, Because I'm assumingthat there's someone somewhere
who's probably coming up withsomething.
Am I right or am I wrong about?
Speaker 2 (11:33):
that I have been doing some research, including
doing some research for myself,because I'm often asked with
Google, you know, can we justuse a Google Translate?
And I'm like, no, we cannot.
It's not a thing.
But I do believe AI is going tohelp us move into a place to be
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able to elevate that.
I do feel like someone is onthe verge of fine-tuning that.
There are some softwares outthere where you can kind of use
your, your hands to kind oftranslate, but it's not fluent.
I don't trust it.
I mean, that's just my personalopinion.
I do not trust it just yet.
Um, but I do think ai is on thebreak of something great.
(12:19):
Um, as scary as it is for me, Ido believe that it's on the
break or something great, and Ido not look down on ai at all
because it is our.
I mean, it's the next biggestthing that's coming into play,
so you gotta tap into it yousaid something to me about, um,
that you were afraid of all ofthis.
Speaker 1 (12:41):
You sure would you talk to me about when you said
that, yes.
Speaker 2 (12:45):
So this year alone, my word, especially in the
fourth quarter, was courage.
But I told people, and I'veoften told people I am walking
in fear, and the reason why Itell people that and I know
people look at me like why wouldyou say that the reason why I
say that is because I am scared.
I'm scared of that next level,I'm scared of being rejected.
(13:08):
I'm scared of so many things,but I have to just do it.
I can't let that stop me.
And so when I say I walk infear, that is what I'm doing.
I'm just going to step into it,no matter what, no matter what
the outcome is.
I'm walking into it with fearand all, but with confidence.
I still have confidence inmyself.
I have confidence in who I am,the expert that I am in this
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field.
I just don't know what's on theother side, and so my and it's
still my motto right now I'mstill going to walk in fear, no
matter what level I'm on, causeit's always going to be a higher
level than where I am.
Speaker 1 (13:43):
You know this is you have a great spirit.
Speaker 2 (13:48):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (13:49):
You have a great spirit and I, I know, I, I just
know you're going to win.
I don't know, I can't, I don'tspeak about, I don't say things
I just don't believe in, like Ireally believe you're going to
win because you're at that RedSea moment.
You know, can you imagine beingtold OK, we need you to go
across this Right, this ocean isgoing to part and we want you
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to walk.
And I'm going to say that every, every single slave that left
Egypt and began that walk, whenyou look and you see the pillars
of water by you, you're walkingin fear.
You're walking in fear, yet youstill there's a faith that well
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, I know where I've been and Iknow I can't be there anymore
and I hear that there'ssomething so much greater on the
other side.
So I love when you say I'mwalking with fear, because most
people just stop the moment theycan't see the other side, they
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just completely that unknown.
Speaker 2 (15:03):
You know, as you're thinking about, well, what skill
I'm going to be on, you know, Istarted as thinking, okay, well
, this would be a small business, but then the more I got into
it, I'm like, no, this is goingto be bigger than that.
I want to go to that next level.
You know, I know I can do this,especially and I love talking
(15:24):
about this too.
You know, when I got my firstgig with the city you know,
training my city on this thing Iwas like, well, this is bigger
than what I was limiting myselfto.
And so, yeah, yeah, mostdefinitely, this is the hardest
thing that I've ever had tobattle and, honestly, the reason
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why it's hard is because ofthis.
My mind and my mind.
I wrestle with it.
I'm like am I good enough?
Yes, you're good enough.
Stop saying that you're not so.
And I guess you know what Ithink about working for someone,
working for a corporation.
It's easier because I'm like Iknow what I'm doing.
I'm coming in here, I'm justgoing to work my hardest.
(16:08):
It's not as hard, even thoughit could be hard, but it's just
like I know what I'm doing.
But when I'm trying to do thison my own, it's like, oh, this
is tough and it's a mentalbattle.
I literally have to get pastthe obstacles of myself Not
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others, but of myself.
That's a big obstacle to jump.
I'm just going to be honest.
Speaker 1 (16:36):
No, I love the authenticity and this is why I
said I need you to put thatspatula down, because I told you
we're on the phone that Iwatched that movie, coda.
Yeah, you know it won, it gotall these accolades at the
Academy Awards.
I'm like, what is this movie?
At first I didn't even knowwhat CODA stood for.
But when I watched that moviefor but when I watched that
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movie, I felt that movie.
You know, when you, when yourealize that the children of
people who are hearing impaired,the impact and the things that
they experience, you're just notthinking about it.
So for the, if you haven'twatched that movie, I encourage
you to watch that movie.
It's an incredible movie.
Just period.
But when I started working formyself, so I used to work in
pharmaceuticals, and when Iworked.
When I started working formyself, so I used to work at
pharmaceuticals, and when I workwhen, I started work for myself
.
I remember the first day I knewI wasn't gonna be going to work
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like for them and I was gonna begoing to work for me and I woke
up and when?
Speaker 2 (17:29):
I tell you, I was.
Speaker 1 (17:30):
I was scared.
I was scared.
Scared because, when it's allon you and it's about your
ability and your work ethic,because you know the thing about
corporate America or corporatewhatever part of the world that
someone may see this in isyou're paid for time.
You're not necessarily paidreally for the results as much.
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So when you're in business,you're 100 percent paid for the
result and if you're not outthere creating it.
So if I could give you somethings just based on the brief,
just listening to you that Iknow if you implement will help
things like explode.
The first thing is that peoplegot to know you and I've seen
some of the stuff I saw.
(18:14):
You had a video.
One of your videos went viral.
I've seen some of the stuffyou've done on social media.
You had a video go.
One of your videos went viral.
I've seen some of the stuffyou've done on social media and
I think that there's a world ofpeople that are working in
corporations and they're tryingto figure out how to embrace
this community, but they have noroadmap.
I don't know how much you spendyour time getting yourself out
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there.
You know sending out, sendingout.
You should be.
You should have a press kit onyou and a press kit on you needs
to go to every, every singlecompany.
I mean you're.
You're in North Carolina, my God, that is the.
That's now like the new tech.
That's becoming the new techcapital and you know a lot of
tech companies are all aboutbeing more inclusive and having
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more diversity.
So I see that like there's that, like I think Apple's out there
calling it tech triangle orsomething like that, not like
you're limiting yourself toNorth Carolina, but you show up
so great, like just how you showup is so authentic.
I mean I want to give you mysocial security number.
You know what I mean.
Like you just seem like such agood person, like it's like I
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trust this lady, I don't knowthis lady, but I trust this lady
and you can't really fake thaton camera.
So I'm hoping that if youalready have one, if you don't
have one, that you do one, andif you do one, you make sure to
make it digital and you put yourstory in it.
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And it's important that you dothat, that they need to hear
your story and I'm going torecommend, if you're open to it,
to sign your way into anyconversation you have.
So I don't know what it lookslike right now if you have one,
but I don't know the sign.
I don't know sign, but what Ido know is if someone is telling
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me that they want to be thebridge in the sign community and
they could send me a digitalpress kit, and they're talking
to me and they're signing whilethey're talking to me, about
what?
Now?
I'm like okay, this lady is forreal, like, this lady is for
real, for real, right?
So that's the first thing.
The second thing is you 'veactually already begun that
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which is you, you know.
It says that your gifts willmake a way for you being able to
do what you're you were doingat two years old is not like a
like.
It's a big deal.
You've obviously, you obviouslyhave a gift and your gift is
making, it's making a way foryou right now.
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I love that you got paid by thecity for doing that, because it
shows you the value that youbring to the marketplace.
But I promise you you have eveninfinitely more value in the
marketplace than you could evenrealize right now.
Like you don even know, youcould be on the burgeoning, on
the stage of building amulti-million dollar company
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that generates millions andmillions of dollars.
But it comes as service,because the money is in direct
relationship to the service thatyou're providing people.
And here's my thing If you givegreat service, you should get
paid.
And not only should you getpaid, you should be excited and
receiving it abundantly.
There's this great book I'mgoing to recommend If you
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haven't read it.
It's called Secrets of theMillionaire Mind by T Harv Eker.
So she's like did I read thatbook?
So you know I'm sitting in frontof you.
It's in my, it's somewhere,it's around this office
somewhere, but the reason Ithink all of a sudden grabbed it
.
The reason why I want you toread that book is because it
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talks about our perception ofhow we're raised around money
and how we see money, andsometimes we don't allow
ourselves, but we have all theability.
I want you to read that book.
I'll text it to you again ifyou need me to Because I want
you to have your relationshipwith money be so amazing because
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you are doing such good workand great service.
You need to have a press kit.
That's huge.
You need to put out freeinformation.
I don't know how much you'redoing that now.
I think things that I saw thatwent the most viral was like
something about a holiday.
I think I saw that and I thinkthat went viral.
But I the thing is just theconsistency of letting people
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and corporations know and, asyou're doing these video clips,
every company has that personwho's responsible for this
department.
The names are different butthey're all the same title.
You know, vp of diversity,inclusion.
That are that and myconversation would with them
would be.
I understand you're thinkingabout bringing more African
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Americans on more Asians on moreHispanics, on more women on.
Okay, that's great, but there'sone community that encompasses
all of that and they're beingtotally ignored and they have
all the skills, capabilities.
The only thing they don't haveis a company that's willing to
advocate and to say that you'renot only welcomed here, we have
made provisions for you tothrive here.
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When I just bring you in tocheck a box, we want to actually
create an opportunity for youto thrive.
Whoever that company is, let metell you what it is.
So if you tell them, bring mein, let me tell you what's in it
for them.
What's in it for them isrecognition.
What's in it for them is a lotof times there's governmental
monies for doing things likethis.
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So it's not like they're justdoing this to be nice.
There's something legitimatelyin it for them.
If you can lay out all thethings that's in it for them
inside of your press kit, that Idon't.
I'm not just bringing this toyou.
I'm bringing this to youbecause this is a benefit to you
, and a benefit way beyond justdoing the right thing.
It's doing the right thing andit makes fiscal sense.
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What are you thinking?
Speaker 2 (24:05):
Yeah, you're right along the lines of what has been
written out and, honestly, Ihave been really trying to
figure out what that kit wasgoing to look like.
I haven't written down, I kidyou not.
So you're confirming going tolook like I have it written down
, I kid you not.
So you're confirming a lot ofthings that I have to get in
order and that's why I said thishas been a preparation and
(24:28):
getting ready for this lunch,but you're right on it, so I
appreciate that.
Speaker 1 (24:33):
And so now what I got to do, you need help.
You know, what you'll discoveris that usually the talent needs
help, because you have thetalent, but there needs to be
people around you that can getthis done.
Because when you're a one woman, in this case, show, you're the
customer service department,you're the CEO, you're the
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finance office, there are, I'mgoing to say, whatever you can
outsource, even something likeFiverr.
I don't know if you've everused Fiverr before, but you have
people on there that will dostuff for like $30, $40.
Because in their currency,that's a lot of money when they
can build a press kit for you.
You send them all yourmaterials, they go back and
forth with you and the projectcosts like $50.
(25:14):
But now it's officially done.
Speaker 2 (25:22):
Yeah, bucks, but it's , it's now, it's officially done
.
Speaker 1 (25:24):
Yeah, anything you can outsource outsource will do,
will do one one last one, lastthought uh, I want to like, I
want, I want to stay in contactfor your victories.
You know, when you get, youknow, a contract with blank and
you go speaking on blank show orwhatever it is that you're
(25:44):
doing, it's so important thatand I could tell like you're
probably very, very, veryunderstated You're just doing
the work that calls to you.
Speaker 2 (25:55):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (25:57):
Okay.
So when you celebrate anyachievement of a goal, it stacks
great energy and greatcredibility to the wider
audience.
And someone says you know whatwe would think about going with
billy, but we like her morebecause she's been recognized in
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this and this and this, and Isaw some of your recognition.
You might have to, like, do alittle bit of this just to let
people know you're no slouchlike you're the real deal.
So you've got to be very okaywith doing that, because
otherwise people don't know.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, you're rightin the ear of some others with
doing that, because otherwisepeople don't know.
Speaker 2 (26:39):
Yeah, you're right in the ear of some others.
That's just like Star, what areyou doing?
Why don't you make a big noiseabout this?
Let me stay humble.
I got work to do.
I don't have time to boast inthat right now, and so I get it.
I get it.
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It's honestly, and I will sayI'm gonna say this I know, I do
know how I am.
I am a super reserved, humbleperson.
I've never been the person thatliked to be in the forefront.
So when I say this is nothingbut passion, that's pushing me
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to this point because, otherthan that, the introvert, other
individuals who are deaf andhard of hearing, to have
experienced way more than she'sexperienced that I need to
advocate for.
But I one, I know what I haveseen, I know what I have vision,
I know what God has given me,and now I have to take it and
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embrace it and just be okay withwhatever he has me to do and
just continue to walk in it, andwalk in it in like truly
authentic way.
Yeah, because you're here toserve Correct.
Yeah, just continue to walk init and walk in it in like truly
authentic way?
Speaker 1 (28:20):
Yeah, because you're here to serve.
Speaker 2 (28:22):
Correct.
Speaker 1 (28:23):
Yeah, three, three things I want to.
I want to leave you with.
Number one is that point aboutyour Red Sea place.
That's very clear.
Number two is when you are,when you're chosen for something
, you know.
When God chooses you forsomething, I mean, you can, you
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can duck and dodge and you know,but like there's no, it is what
it is.
But when you're chosen, you'rechosen.
And what's so interesting isthat oftentimes, those who are
chosen have no desire to bechosen, which is why they were
chosen.
I mean, if you just lookbiblically, so many of the
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prophets were, they're like whatare you doing?
Like Moses is like.
I don't want to do this, letlet let my brother Aaron do this
.
Like you know, like this iswhere it is, but from a humility
standpoint.
Um, you know, jesus spoke frommountaintops and from hills
because he needed as many peopleto hear him as possible.
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You have this thing now theinternet.
The internet is your newmountaintop and if you, if
you're not heavily promotingyourself in LinkedIn, which is
where these people are right,that's where they are those
decision makers that you'relooking for.
You know, obviously, all theother stuff, because you could
make one video and put acrossall channels, like one video
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across all channels, and someoneis going to say I'm interested
in meeting her and that makesall the difference.
And now there's a family whoselife has changed.
You know that you said the wordpassion.
That comes from a root of theword pain, and people who are
passionate usually have.
They've taken a pain andthey've been able to convert it
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into what we call passion.
And I know that whatever youexperienced when you were a
child, um, it lives with youdaily and you're going to help
so many other people because,instead of just sitting with it,
you're doing something about it.
Speaker 2 (30:24):
Appreciate that.
Speaker 1 (30:27):
No, I appreciate you.
I appreciate you taking thetime to hop on and thank you for
telling, thank you for tellyour family, thank you for not
getting too mad at me, hopefully, and thank you for taking your
time to be on here.
I want as many people to seethis as possible because I think
you have a phenomenal spiritand I can't wait to see what you
do in the world.
Speaker 2 (30:45):
Thank you so much.
I really appreciate this.
Speaker 1 (30:48):
No, I appreciate you, god bless.
Same same God bless you, you seenow that conversation is what
it's all about.
Here's the takeaway.
I'm walking with fear.
You know people who are tryingto avoid that.
It's never going to happen.
You have to look at your goal,whatever that goal is, as being
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a stepping stone to the bigdream.
You see, what happens is wetake the goals that we write
down and we put them in the samebasket as the big dream.
You see, what happens is wetake the goals that we write
down and we put them in the samebasket as the big dreams.
I listened to a young lady, melRobinson.
She was talking about this andMel Robinson was talking about
the goal and the big dream and Ithought what a great way of
putting it, because sometimes welump it all together.
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If your goal is to achievewhatever that big, massive thing
is and you write it down forthis year, well, it may happen
this year, but it might nothappen this year.
So the question becomes whathappens if it doesn't happen?
That's what the questionbecomes.
And can you just makemeasurable steps?
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Tony Robbins says measurableprogress in reasonable time.
Can you make a measurable step?
So things that will derail youperfectionism.
It has to look a certain way ifit doesn't look that way.
I can't do it.
You know, imagine Dorothy goingdown the yellow brick road and,
instead of going to find thewizard, she's looking at the
twigs and the leaves and saying,oh my god, this, this yellow
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brick road, is so dirty I gottatake time to clean it.
Well, when will you ever makeit to the destination?
So some people they get caughtin perfectionism or they have
super, super high goals in likenot enough time to make that
happen, like I'm going to becomethis in the next 90 days.
Well, what happens is you beginto prove yourself to be a liar
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and then your goals have noweight to them because you
constantly by the way, when youconstantly put out super, super
high goals, it's usually noteven for you, it's usually
because of how it sounds to thepeople around you.
And then what begins to happenis you start to feel like a
fraud and they start to look atyou like a fraud because you
said you're going to do thisthing.
Understand, you may have thesuper, super high goal, but that
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might actually be called adream, and there has to be steps
along the way before you get tothat dream.
And that's what you need tofocus in on.
What are the steps I need tohave along the way.
Here's another thing that willabsolutely derail your goals,
and I know that this, I know forme is comparison.
You know, I've been in acompetitive world of business
for a very long time literallyranks and all these other things
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, and what happens is you judgeyourself according to somebody
else's success.
But there's two traps to that.
The first trap is, if youaccomplish it and you do quote,
unquote better than them, youmight actually start to believe
you're better than them, which,when you're comparing yourself
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to someone better, I guess youknow in that moment you were
right.
Here's the other thing is thatif you don't do as good as them,
you might start to thinkthey're better than you.
This is not how you want tolook at things.
It's a good thing to havesomebody else's success motivate
you, but when you get to theworld of comparison, that's this
, that is the thief of your joy.
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You know I love the Olympics.
One of the reasons I love theOlympics because you see all
these people from all over theworld and you see all these
countries and most of them willnever get a medal.
They won't get a medal.
There's three there's silver,there's gold, there's bronze and
then there's who came in afterthem and we don't know who they
are.
But you see the joy that theyhave at the opening ceremony and
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you see the joy that they haveat the end at the closing
ceremony.
And they got on that plane.
They got to that Olympic Gamesand they knew I'm probably not
going to win a medal.
The vast majority know that butI was in the Olympics.
You see, the joy for them isplaying the game.
Now I'm not saying don't playthe game to win.
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But what I am saying is this ifyou play the game and you're
constantly in a space ofcomparison, I'm saying is this
If you play the game and you'reconstantly in a space of
comparison, even if you win, areyou really winning?
Your goal should be to do thebest that you know you can be
with effort and pressure.
People try and avoid pressure.
A goal should have pressure.
It should have a friction to it.
It should not be somethingthat's a guarantee to happen.
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It should be something that youneed to work your butt off in
order to make it happen.
And then it happens, becausewithout that, it's kind of like
I knew that was going to happen.
What's the point of that?
What's the point of I have agoal of waking up and getting
out of bed today.
Okay, well, that's not really.
Is there any friction there?
No, the friction that you'retrying to avoid with your goal
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is the very purpose of the goal.
The friction you're trying toavoid is the very purpose of
that goal.
The friction refines you likewater refines a rock in a
riverbed, like that's whathappens.
It's necessary.
You need that resistancebecause you're going to grow new
muscles If it's a goal to stopsmoking, the moment you create
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the environment to stop.
You're on your path, and that'swhat I'm going to talk about.
This last portion, it's aboutthe systems.
So I was struggling a lot withas I said before with reaching
certain milestones because Ididn't have systems that
supported me.
But when I began to realizethat I can have my dream, but my
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goals need to become systems,it began to change everything
for me.
Let me give an example of asystem.
You say you want to go exercise.
Here's a system.
You put your sneakers and yourworkout gear right beside your
bed.
You see, when you wake up, youlook right at it.
It's kind of hard to not look.
You put your sneakers and yourworkout gear right beside your
bed.
You see, when you wake up, youlook right at it.
It's kind of hard to not lookat it sitting right there.
Now you've got to make a choiceEither I'm going to put it on
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and follow through my commitmentor I'm not.
But if I don't, I have toliterally consciously step over
the commitment.
And that's not as easy to do so.
When you put a system in place,you have a much better
opportunity to achieve it.
Someone who says they want tostop smoking?
Well, the first thing that theyhave to do is they can't hang
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out with smokers and I knowthese are my friends, I got it
but you want to stop smoking,they don't.
So if they don't and you do,there's a conflict.
There should be no unity there.
There's a conflict there.
You need to break, break out ofthat group and start to be
around other people who don't,or whoever covered from doing it
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.
You see, systems means I havethis thing that I want to do and
I need to figure out what in mylife is not conducive to me
doing that and who do I need tobe around that can help me
create that.
So if I want to reduce weight,I need to go into my house and
look around and say what here is, should I be eating, and
whatever I spent for it isirrelevant.
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It needs to go straight intothe trash.
If you want to stop drinking,that bottle of something needs
to go in the trash.
And if you can't handle it onyour own, you need to
incorporate help.
See, help is the ultimatesystem.
I think it's so amazing that,like in the Christian community,
people learned about thestories of Christ and they
realize, oh, what an amazing man.
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But they didn't realize he hadhelp, christ had help, he had
help, he had a community aroundhim.
So people have all these goalsbut they won't have a community.
I think that's really crazy.
I think it's crazy to have agoal but not have anyone around
you that wants to alsoparticipate in your
accomplishing of that goal.
Maybe they have the same thingfor themselves.
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They want lifestylemodification.
All goals are lifestylemodification and when you look
at your goal, you have to say,okay, what is?
I have two pathways.
There's this theory calledsliding door theory and it says
you know, like if you get on thetrain, your life goes in this
direction.
You don't get on the train,your life goes in that direction
.
But I want you to look at itlike this.
I want one of the most powerfulparts of goal-setting is
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looking at the impact of notsetting the goal, or what
happens if you don'taggressively pursue it.
So if you look at, you say,okay, when I achieve this goal,
my life is gonna look like this,but if I don't achieve this
goal long-term, my life is gonnalook like that.
I had that moment.
I'm in business for myself.
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I left my company and I'mfull-time and it's on me.
I've got to figure it out now.
Blessed for me, I've alwaysbeen surrounded by great mentors
of business, so that's ablessing for me.
But at the end of the day, I hadto make the decision.
I was gonna do the work.
And I sat there one day and Ilooked.
I'm like, look, I'm not goingback to corporate America
because that's just not me.
But if I and if I don't like dothis, I'm in trouble because I
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don't want to go back tocorporate.
But I can't just sit herethinking about how I don't want
to go back to corporate.
I have to go do something.
And I looked at those two pathsand saying, if I don't do this,
I'm gonna end up going back tocorporate.
The thought of me doing thethings I did before with the
kinds of people I did beforescared me so much I went to work
like an absolute savage.
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That's why that line is behindme.
It's a reminder Stay hunting.
Your goals have to be personal.
You have to be honest withyourself and say look, if this
thing doesn't happen?
What will my life look like?
If this thing does happen, whatwill my life look like?
And now you have to choose.
If I keep putting this toxin inmy body, what will happen to me
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long-term?
If I keep doing this, what willhappen to me long-term?
And then now you have to choose.
Now you have to choose, butit's your choice.
You can choose to continue todo that thing and accept that
outcome, or you can choose adifferent path and accept that
outcome.
But here's the great thing thegreat Lord in heaven gave us the
ability to make a choice.
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And so, when you're looking atyour goals, be excited that
they're personal.
Don't be comparing yourself toother people, because their life
is not yours.
God gave you your life and it'ssupposed to be your life, but
because that's the case.
If it's your life and if it'syour opportunity to enhance your
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life, which is what goalsreally give you access to, they
give you access to a higherquality life.
Nobody says I have a goal thatthey want to be sick forever.
Nobody has that goal that theywant to be sick forever.
Nobody has that goal that nobodydoes.
Every goal you've ever had issomething that you wanted to
enhance your quality of life.
Now you have to make the choice.
Are you willing to do what isnecessary to put the systems in
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place?
Not to compare yourself toother people, not to look back
at what you didn't do before,not to crucify yourself for how
you failed before, how you madea promise Like nothing worse
than abusing yourself.
There's nothing, there's nopayoff there.
But there is a payoff when yousay I know I did that before and
maybe the people around medon't believe in me, but I've
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got to go find a community ofpeople that will support where
I'm going and I'm going to gothere.
And I don't necessarily knowit's going to happen next week,
but I know I'm going to stayconsistent until I accomplish it
.
And then that big dream that'slooming above on your dream
board, your vision board,whatever that is that thing that
you want to have accomplishedget out of debt, make more money
, become financially independent, find your spouse, whatever
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those things are that you wantto, do you to understand that
the systems are not in place.
It's not possible, but if thesystems are in place, it's
highly probable.
Make this the season that youmake that decision to not just
have a goal, but to crush it,not because of some radical new
concept, but one slightadjustment.
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You made the choice to put thesystems in place that honor the
future you're creating, ratherthan focusing you on your past
again.
If you got time, if you have,if you took the time to be on
this with me and you got valueout of it you know like comment,
subscribe.
Let me know that you got valueout, because I read every single
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comment.
I do, or I will as soon as youhave a chance to do so, and you
know what are your goals, whatare the things you want to have
happen for yourself and yourfamily, not just in a new year,
in a new day, because you don'thave to wait for a new year to
start to do something great.
You can do something greatbecause you want to do something
great.
So why not just start and justdo something great?
This may not be a new year'sresolution.
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Maybe you've just resolvedyourself that there's a new life
you want to have and you'rejust not waiting anymore.
You're just going to go for it.
And you know what I wouldrather.
I'd rather go for something Ilove.
I'd rather go for the life thatI can see, that I would love,
than to stay in the life that Iwould see, that, if I don't move
forward, I will always carrythat weight on my soul, knowing
that I had it in me.
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God doesn't put anything insideof you that you aren't capable
of doing.
If you have it on your spirit,it means you're capable of doing
it.
Now the other thing God does isGod will put resistance between
you and the thing, becausethat's where you have to have
the faith to believe that youcan break through, to walk
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through fear, to walk throughfear to find your faith.
You always have to walk throughfear to find your faith, but if
you're willing to walk, you'llalways be caught.
The net is always there.
It's just waiting for you tojump.
Go for the biggest, best lifeyou can right now.
Are you sure what you talked a bit to me about when
you said that yes?
Speaker 2 (00:03):
So this year alone, my word, especially in the
fourth quarter, was courage.
But I told people, and I'veoften told people I am walking
in fear, and the reason why Itell people that and I know
people look at me like why wouldyou say that the reason why I
say that is because I am scared.
I'm scared of that next level,I'm scared of being rejected.
(00:26):
I'm scared of so many things,but I have to just do it.
Speaker 1 (00:31):
You actually took time to learn about how
incredible you were.
Nothing would ever stop you.
You know I was thinking tomyself about goals and this
conversation around wanting tohave breakthroughs, because
every year I remember very muchfor myself.
I would find myself buying anew notebook.
I'd go to my local Barnes andNobles, my whatever store, and
(00:54):
I'd buy the nicest lookingnotebook and I'd have all these
goals and I'd sort of write themall down and I had all these
great ideas and then I'd lookback at them like six months
later or a year later and I wasso far off and it got to the
point for me I can't speak foranyone else where I started to
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distance myself from goals,distance myself a little bit
from the things I wanted toaccomplish, because I almost
felt like a fraud.
I almost felt like you know, Ido this every single year.
I create these goals.
I'm really hyped up.
I do the New Year's Eve, thisis going to be it thing.
Then I look up and nothinglooks like what I thought it
would look like and that'strauma.
(01:39):
So I don't know where this findsyou.
Maybe you're crushing it rightnow.
Maybe you're having a run ofmomentum in your personal life
and your professional life thatyou've never experienced before.
This could be it, or maybeyou're not crushing it.
You're not in the space ofwhere you're running with
momentum.
Everything just seems to befiring on all cylinders.
My hope is that thisconversation threads the needle
(02:02):
for you.
You're going to have anopportunity to meet someone
special in a moment, but I wantto just talk to you very briefly
about a few things that I'vecome to discover for myself not
necessarily for you that werethings that were holding me back
from having a breakthrough.
Now I don't have it all figuredout.
What I have figured out wassome of the trigger mechanisms
that I could see in myself andas spending time in business.
(02:23):
I've been in business foralmost 30 years, been an
entrepreneur, full-time probalsfor 27 years now.
I've been around a lot ofpeople.
I've met some really impressivepeople and I met some people
that wanted to create somethingimpressive, but I've found
there's a commonality for peoplethat are looking for the
breakthrough but haven't quitebroken through yet first.
First is trauma.
(02:44):
I gave you an example of trauma.
I wrote goals, I had things Iwanted to do and when I looked
up, those things weren'thappening.
So the trauma for me was that Iwas always thinking to myself
well, maybe, well, maybe I justthis is like I'm playing the
game wrong, so I'd go readanother book, I'd go watch
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another video.
But what I didn't understandwas that the trauma of not
accomplishing something wasreally stealing my energy.
I had to learn how to let onemoment have a moment and not
have that destroy my momentum.
You know when you think about it.
Let's say, you want to reduceweight, or you want to stop
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smoking, or you want to makemore money.
You've been dying to write abook or whatever the thing is,
and you have all this excitementaround it.
And let me tell you somethingthe thing about that thing that
you want to do, that's a Godgift.
God's planted that in you.
It's for you.
It's not for anyone else toco-sign, that's for you.
But sometimes, in a very, verydiabolical way, we sabotage what
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we could do next by focusing onwhat we didn't do last, and
that constant obsession with thelast of my past is it like puts
a chokehold on what's possible.
So you have to allow yourselfthe grace.
You're not who you were lastyear.
You're not who you were lastnight.
Your sales change every singleday.
Why can't you change?
And if you have something verypowerful to share in the world,
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the world will hear it.
And sometimes you just have tobuy in for yourself, meaning for
yourself what are the goalsthat you want to have for
yourself?
Because the other thing that Irecognized was that my goals
were group goals, not personalgoals, meaning I would watch a
video, read a book and be like,oh my god, I wanted that too and
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I write that down as a goal,but it didn't personally move me
.
Whatever mission you're on hasto personally move you, and I
want you to have an opportunityto meet a young lady who I was
just on a phone call with.
I'm not even kidding you.
I was just on a phone call withher and after, within about
(05:00):
five minutes of this phone call,I'm like what are you doing
right now?
And she's like about to cook.
I'm like I need you to stop sofor her family that's not eating
right now.
We appreciate that, but youhave to meet this young lady
because I think the things thatshe's up to are so powerful.
Ms Star Clinton, thank you verymuch for hopping on.
How are you?
Speaker 2 (05:20):
I'm doing well.
I'm doing well.
Thank you, I know you are.
Speaker 1 (05:24):
Happy, happy new year to you so you've got to do me a
favor.
And well, first of all, weconnected on social media.
I talked about the post that Idid and you replied back about
wanting to have a conversation,and really the whole basis of
this is to work with people togo to that next level.
But the level that you, thereasons why you want to go to
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the next level, is the reasonwhy I said put down the pots and
the pans and get on this rightnow.
Could you share with everybodyabout you and the work that
you're doing right now?
That'd be great.
Speaker 2 (06:00):
Yes, so my name is Star Clinton and my main focus
and it's very simple, straightto the point is I focus on
bridging the gap between thedeaf and the hearing community.
That has been my sole missionfor so many years, even before I
knew that it was going to be mymission.
It's near and dear to my heartfor so many reasons.
(06:22):
I believe we could probablytalk about that soon, but that
is my sole mission and I'm hereto share it with the world, and
that's all I want to do so.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
where did this come from?
Speaker 2 (06:34):
All stemmed from my mother.
So my mother's deaf she wasborn deaf, no sickness or
anything, just was born deaf.
And honestly, I've saw so manytrials that she had to endure,
including with work, includingwith going to doctor's offices
(06:55):
and things like that, andhonestly, that was frustrating
for me as her daughter, you know, and not knowing that it was
something that I thought I wasgoing to be able to help with.
Um, but I've always wondered,like in the back of my head,
like there's gotta be a betterway to handle this, like come on
, guys, like she's a human beingand she's nothing wrong with it
(07:17):
.
She just can't hear.
You know, and I've seen it timein and time out and I'm like
this gotta stop.
But even at family functions Ialways got pulled in as the
little interpreter.
That's what I was, that's whatI was known for, but I was still
a child.
I want to go play.
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I do not want to be inside withthe adults.
I didn't care to be inside withthe adults, but I had to be.
And so not that I didn't wantto help my mother, but it was
just frustrating for me to seethat no one could communicate
with her on the level that Iexpected people to communicate
with her, especially when itcame to family, and I'm not
faulting them for it, it's justit rose up frustration for me in
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that sense.
Speaker 1 (08:02):
So just out of curiosity, how long have you
been signing for?
Speaker 2 (08:06):
Honestly, since a baby, since a baby, my mom
started me extremely early,which I advocate for that.
Baby sign language is honestlywhere it's at, not just to learn
for the deaf community, butjust to reduce frustration in
babies.
I advocate for thatwholeheartedly.
(08:27):
But if I leave it to my motherto tell the story, I was
fluently talking with her withthe words that I knew by two, so
I was able to reallycommunicate with her on a level
that a two-year-old would beable to communicate with their
parents.
Speaker 1 (08:45):
Okay, so signing with STAR, this is your business,
right, and you have.
I mean, when we talked aboutyou know what you want for your
next level, right?
So could you share what youshare with me about what you
want for your next level?
Speaker 2 (09:02):
Yes.
So my next level right now isto get on those stages to really
share, well, honestly, shed thelight on the deaf community and
why it's important forbusinesses to include them
inside of their marketing.
Oftentimes, individuals forgetthat there's a whole audience
out there that they're not eventapping into.
(09:22):
You know, and honestly, it'sprobably one of the strongest
audience that is out there thatis going to spread the word
quicker than what a hearingperson really would do, just
because they feel like, oh,they're including us, they want
us to be a part of theircommunity, and so that is my
goal is to shed that light onthese stages, including Ivy
League stages.
(09:43):
Like I really want to tap intoour newer generation just to
kind of help them shift theirminds on what type of leader
they want to be.
Do you want to be accessible?
Do you want your business tolook diverse?
And when I say diverse, oftenpeople hear that word and
they're like, oh, you know,we're talking about black, white
(10:04):
, you know all that.
No, I'm not even talking aboutthat.
Let's talk about the deafcommunity in a whole.
You know that's a wholeaudience that people often
forget about, even to the deafschools.
They forget about them all thetime.
Speaker 1 (10:19):
Got it.
So how are you getting yourselfout there?
Like, how are you?
How do people know?
Well, there's, I know,signingwithstarcom that's two
R's, by the way.
So how, how are you?
How do people?
How have people been able tofind you?
Speaker 2 (10:34):
I guess my question Currently, it's been all through
social media as I'm going onthis new venture.
It's been all through socialmedia, but we are launching our
new website.
I do have a website up, but weare launching our new website.
I do have a website up, but weare launching a new website just
because we have newopportunities that we really
want to share with others, andso it will be.
Signingstarcom is where peoplecan really reach me and there
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will be a place for you to seeall that we're offering.
Fill out a form, connect withme.
We'll do a discovery call andjust to kind of see where you
are and see where you fit withinthe spectrum, because I'm not
limiting myself to who I cantarget, but my biggest target is
corporations and smallerbusinesses.
Speaker 1 (11:16):
Do you feel that we have all this stuff going on
with technology, right, With AIand all this, are you starting?
What do you think that's goingto do with bridging that gap?
Right, Because I'm assumingthat there's someone somewhere
who's probably coming up withsomething.
Am I right or am I wrong about?
Speaker 2 (11:33):
that I have been doing some research, including
doing some research for myself,because I'm often asked with
Google, you know, can we justuse a Google Translate?
And I'm like, no, we cannot.
It's not a thing.
But I do believe AI is going tohelp us move into a place to be
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able to elevate that.
I do feel like someone is onthe verge of fine-tuning that.
There are some softwares outthere where you can kind of use
your, your hands to kind oftranslate, but it's not fluent.
I don't trust it.
I mean, that's just my personalopinion.
I do not trust it just yet.
Um, but I do think ai is on thebreak of something great.
(12:19):
Um, as scary as it is for me, Ido believe that it's on the
break or something great, and Ido not look down on ai at all
because it is our.
I mean, it's the next biggestthing that's coming into play,
so you gotta tap into it yousaid something to me about, um,
that you were afraid of all ofthis.
Speaker 1 (12:41):
You sure would you talk to me about when you said
that, yes.
Speaker 2 (12:45):
So this year alone, my word, especially in the
fourth quarter, was courage.
But I told people, and I'veoften told people I am walking
in fear, and the reason why Itell people that and I know
people look at me like why wouldyou say that the reason why I
say that is because I am scared.
I'm scared of that next level,I'm scared of being rejected.
(13:08):
I'm scared of so many things,but I have to just do it.
I can't let that stop me.
And so when I say I walk infear, that is what I'm doing.
I'm just going to step into it,no matter what, no matter what
the outcome is.
I'm walking into it with fearand all, but with confidence.
I still have confidence inmyself.
I have confidence in who I am,the expert that I am in this
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field.
I just don't know what's on theother side, and so my and it's
still my motto right now I'mstill going to walk in fear, no
matter what level I'm on, causeit's always going to be a higher
level than where I am.
Speaker 1 (13:43):
You know this is you have a great spirit.
Speaker 2 (13:48):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (13:49):
You have a great spirit and I, I know, I, I just
know you're going to win.
I don't know, I can't, I don'tspeak about, I don't say things
I just don't believe in, like Ireally believe you're going to
win because you're at that RedSea moment.
You know, can you imagine beingtold OK, we need you to go
across this Right, this ocean isgoing to part and we want you
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to walk.
And I'm going to say that every, every single slave that left
Egypt and began that walk, whenyou look and you see the pillars
of water by you, you're walkingin fear.
You're walking in fear, yet youstill there's a faith that well
(14:31):
, I know where I've been and Iknow I can't be there anymore
and I hear that there'ssomething so much greater on the
other side.
So I love when you say I'mwalking with fear, because most
people just stop the moment theycan't see the other side, they
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just completely that unknown.
Speaker 2 (15:03):
You know, as you're thinking about, well, what skill
I'm going to be on, you know, Istarted as thinking, okay, well
, this would be a small business, but then the more I got into
it, I'm like, no, this is goingto be bigger than that.
I want to go to that next level.
You know, I know I can do this,especially and I love talking
(15:24):
about this too.
You know, when I got my firstgig with the city you know,
training my city on this thing Iwas like, well, this is bigger
than what I was limiting myselfto.
And so, yeah, yeah, mostdefinitely, this is the hardest
thing that I've ever had tobattle and, honestly, the reason
(15:46):
why it's hard is because ofthis.
My mind and my mind.
I wrestle with it.
I'm like am I good enough?
Yes, you're good enough.
Stop saying that you're not so.
And I guess you know what Ithink about working for someone,
working for a corporation.
It's easier because I'm like Iknow what I'm doing.
I'm coming in here, I'm justgoing to work my hardest.
(16:08):
It's not as hard, even thoughit could be hard, but it's just
like I know what I'm doing.
But when I'm trying to do thison my own, it's like, oh, this
is tough and it's a mentalbattle.
I literally have to get pastthe obstacles of myself Not
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others, but of myself.
That's a big obstacle to jump.
I'm just going to be honest.
Speaker 1 (16:36):
No, I love the authenticity and this is why I
said I need you to put thatspatula down, because I told you
we're on the phone that Iwatched that movie, coda.
Yeah, you know it won, it gotall these accolades at the
Academy Awards.
I'm like, what is this movie?
At first I didn't even knowwhat CODA stood for.
But when I watched that moviefor but when I watched that
(17:04):
movie, I felt that movie.
You know, when you, when yourealize that the children of
people who are hearing impaired,the impact and the things that
they experience, you're just notthinking about it.
So for the, if you haven'twatched that movie, I encourage
you to watch that movie.
It's an incredible movie.
Just period.
But when I started working formyself, so I used to work in
pharmaceuticals, and when Iworked.
When I started working formyself, so I used to work at
pharmaceuticals, and when I workwhen, I started work for myself
.
I remember the first day I knewI wasn't gonna be going to work
(17:25):
like for them and I was gonna begoing to work for me and I woke
up and when?
Speaker 2 (17:29):
I tell you, I was.
Speaker 1 (17:30):
I was scared.
I was scared.
Scared because, when it's allon you and it's about your
ability and your work ethic,because you know the thing about
corporate America or corporatewhatever part of the world that
someone may see this in isyou're paid for time.
You're not necessarily paidreally for the results as much.
(17:53):
So when you're in business,you're 100 percent paid for the
result and if you're not outthere creating it.
So if I could give you somethings just based on the brief,
just listening to you that Iknow if you implement will help
things like explode.
The first thing is that peoplegot to know you and I've seen
some of the stuff I saw.
(18:14):
You had a video.
One of your videos went viral.
I've seen some of the stuffyou've done on social media.
You had a video go.
One of your videos went viral.
I've seen some of the stuffyou've done on social media and
I think that there's a world ofpeople that are working in
corporations and they're tryingto figure out how to embrace
this community, but they have noroadmap.
I don't know how much you spendyour time getting yourself out
(18:34):
there.
You know sending out, sendingout.
You should be.
You should have a press kit onyou and a press kit on you needs
to go to every, every singlecompany.
I mean you're.
You're in North Carolina, my God, that is the.
That's now like the new tech.
That's becoming the new techcapital and you know a lot of
tech companies are all aboutbeing more inclusive and having
(18:57):
more diversity.
So I see that like there's that, like I think Apple's out there
calling it tech triangle orsomething like that, not like
you're limiting yourself toNorth Carolina, but you show up
so great, like just how you showup is so authentic.
I mean I want to give you mysocial security number.
You know what I mean.
Like you just seem like such agood person, like it's like I
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trust this lady, I don't knowthis lady, but I trust this lady
and you can't really fake thaton camera.
So I'm hoping that if youalready have one, if you don't
have one, that you do one, andif you do one, you make sure to
make it digital and you put yourstory in it.
(19:41):
And it's important that you dothat, that they need to hear
your story and I'm going torecommend, if you're open to it,
to sign your way into anyconversation you have.
So I don't know what it lookslike right now if you have one,
but I don't know the sign.
I don't know sign, but what Ido know is if someone is telling
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me that they want to be thebridge in the sign community and
they could send me a digitalpress kit, and they're talking
to me and they're signing whilethey're talking to me, about
what?
Now?
I'm like okay, this lady is forreal, like, this lady is for
real, for real, right?
So that's the first thing.
The second thing is you 'veactually already begun that
(20:26):
which is you, you know.
It says that your gifts willmake a way for you being able to
do what you're you were doingat two years old is not like a
like.
It's a big deal.
You've obviously, you obviouslyhave a gift and your gift is
making, it's making a way foryou right now.
(20:46):
I love that you got paid by thecity for doing that, because it
shows you the value that youbring to the marketplace.
But I promise you you have eveninfinitely more value in the
marketplace than you could evenrealize right now.
Like you don even know, youcould be on the burgeoning, on
the stage of building amulti-million dollar company
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that generates millions andmillions of dollars.
But it comes as service,because the money is in direct
relationship to the service thatyou're providing people.
And here's my thing If you givegreat service, you should get
paid.
And not only should you getpaid, you should be excited and
receiving it abundantly.
There's this great book I'mgoing to recommend If you
(21:28):
haven't read it.
It's called Secrets of theMillionaire Mind by T Harv Eker.
So she's like did I read thatbook?
So you know I'm sitting in frontof you.
It's in my, it's somewhere,it's around this office
somewhere, but the reason Ithink all of a sudden grabbed it
.
The reason why I want you toread that book is because it
(21:50):
talks about our perception ofhow we're raised around money
and how we see money, andsometimes we don't allow
ourselves, but we have all theability.
I want you to read that book.
I'll text it to you again ifyou need me to Because I want
you to have your relationshipwith money be so amazing because
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you are doing such good workand great service.
You need to have a press kit.
That's huge.
You need to put out freeinformation.
I don't know how much you'redoing that now.
I think things that I saw thatwent the most viral was like
something about a holiday.
I think I saw that and I thinkthat went viral.
But I the thing is just theconsistency of letting people
(22:34):
and corporations know and, asyou're doing these video clips,
every company has that personwho's responsible for this
department.
The names are different butthey're all the same title.
You know, vp of diversity,inclusion.
That are that and myconversation would with them
would be.
I understand you're thinkingabout bringing more African
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Americans on more Asians on moreHispanics, on more women on.
Okay, that's great, but there'sone community that encompasses
all of that and they're beingtotally ignored and they have
all the skills, capabilities.
The only thing they don't haveis a company that's willing to
advocate and to say that you'renot only welcomed here, we have
made provisions for you tothrive here.
(23:18):
When I just bring you in tocheck a box, we want to actually
create an opportunity for youto thrive.
Whoever that company is, let metell you what it is.
So if you tell them, bring mein, let me tell you what's in it
for them.
What's in it for them isrecognition.
What's in it for them is a lotof times there's governmental
monies for doing things likethis.
(23:39):
So it's not like they're justdoing this to be nice.
There's something legitimatelyin it for them.
If you can lay out all thethings that's in it for them
inside of your press kit, that Idon't.
I'm not just bringing this toyou.
I'm bringing this to youbecause this is a benefit to you
, and a benefit way beyond justdoing the right thing.
It's doing the right thing andit makes fiscal sense.
(24:01):
What are you thinking?
Speaker 2 (24:05):
Yeah, you're right along the lines of what has been
written out and, honestly, Ihave been really trying to
figure out what that kit wasgoing to look like.
I haven't written down, I kidyou not.
So you're confirming going tolook like I have it written down
, I kid you not.
So you're confirming a lot ofthings that I have to get in
order and that's why I said thishas been a preparation and
(24:28):
getting ready for this lunch,but you're right on it, so I
appreciate that.
Speaker 1 (24:33):
And so now what I got to do, you need help.
You know, what you'll discoveris that usually the talent needs
help, because you have thetalent, but there needs to be
people around you that can getthis done.
Because when you're a one woman, in this case, show, you're the
customer service department,you're the CEO, you're the
(24:53):
finance office, there are, I'mgoing to say, whatever you can
outsource, even something likeFiverr.
I don't know if you've everused Fiverr before, but you have
people on there that will dostuff for like $30, $40.
Because in their currency,that's a lot of money when they
can build a press kit for you.
You send them all yourmaterials, they go back and
forth with you and the projectcosts like $50.
(25:14):
But now it's officially done.
Speaker 2 (25:22):
Yeah, bucks, but it's , it's now, it's officially done
.
Speaker 1 (25:24):
Yeah, anything you can outsource outsource will do,
will do one one last one, lastthought uh, I want to like, I
want, I want to stay in contactfor your victories.
You know, when you get, youknow, a contract with blank and
you go speaking on blank show orwhatever it is that you're
(25:44):
doing, it's so important thatand I could tell like you're
probably very, very, veryunderstated You're just doing
the work that calls to you.
Speaker 2 (25:55):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (25:57):
Okay.
So when you celebrate anyachievement of a goal, it stacks
great energy and greatcredibility to the wider
audience.
And someone says you know whatwe would think about going with
billy, but we like her morebecause she's been recognized in
(26:21):
this and this and this, and Isaw some of your recognition.
You might have to, like, do alittle bit of this just to let
people know you're no slouchlike you're the real deal.
So you've got to be very okaywith doing that, because
otherwise people don't know.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, you're rightin the ear of some others with
doing that, because otherwisepeople don't know.
Speaker 2 (26:39):
Yeah, you're right in the ear of some others.
That's just like Star, what areyou doing?
Why don't you make a big noiseabout this?
Let me stay humble.
I got work to do.
I don't have time to boast inthat right now, and so I get it.
I get it.
(27:00):
It's honestly, and I will sayI'm gonna say this I know, I do
know how I am.
I am a super reserved, humbleperson.
I've never been the person thatliked to be in the forefront.
So when I say this is nothingbut passion, that's pushing me
(27:22):
to this point because, otherthan that, the introvert, other
individuals who are deaf andhard of hearing, to have
experienced way more than she'sexperienced that I need to
advocate for.
But I one, I know what I haveseen, I know what I have vision,
I know what God has given me,and now I have to take it and
(28:08):
embrace it and just be okay withwhatever he has me to do and
just continue to walk in it, andwalk in it in like truly
authentic way.
Yeah, because you're here toserve Correct.
Yeah, just continue to walk init and walk in it in like truly
authentic way?
Speaker 1 (28:20):
Yeah, because you're here to serve.
Speaker 2 (28:22):
Correct.
Speaker 1 (28:23):
Yeah, three, three things I want to.
I want to leave you with.
Number one is that point aboutyour Red Sea place.
That's very clear.
Number two is when you are,when you're chosen for something
, you know.
When God chooses you forsomething, I mean, you can, you
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can duck and dodge and you know,but like there's no, it is what
it is.
But when you're chosen, you'rechosen.
And what's so interesting isthat oftentimes, those who are
chosen have no desire to bechosen, which is why they were
chosen.
I mean, if you just lookbiblically, so many of the
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prophets were, they're like whatare you doing?
Like Moses is like.
I don't want to do this, letlet let my brother Aaron do this
.
Like you know, like this iswhere it is, but from a humility
standpoint.
Um, you know, jesus spoke frommountaintops and from hills
because he needed as many peopleto hear him as possible.
(29:26):
You have this thing now theinternet.
The internet is your newmountaintop and if you, if
you're not heavily promotingyourself in LinkedIn, which is
where these people are right,that's where they are those
decision makers that you'relooking for.
You know, obviously, all theother stuff, because you could
make one video and put acrossall channels, like one video
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across all channels, and someoneis going to say I'm interested
in meeting her and that makesall the difference.
And now there's a family whoselife has changed.
You know that you said the wordpassion.
That comes from a root of theword pain, and people who are
passionate usually have.
They've taken a pain andthey've been able to convert it
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into what we call passion.
And I know that whatever youexperienced when you were a
child, um, it lives with youdaily and you're going to help
so many other people because,instead of just sitting with it,
you're doing something about it.
Speaker 2 (30:24):
Appreciate that.
Speaker 1 (30:27):
No, I appreciate you.
I appreciate you taking thetime to hop on and thank you for
telling, thank you for tellyour family, thank you for not
getting too mad at me, hopefully, and thank you for taking your
time to be on here.
I want as many people to seethis as possible because I think
you have a phenomenal spiritand I can't wait to see what you
do in the world.
Speaker 2 (30:45):
Thank you so much.
I really appreciate this.
Speaker 1 (30:48):
No, I appreciate you, god bless.
Same same God bless you, you seenow that conversation is what
it's all about.
Here's the takeaway.
I'm walking with fear.
You know people who are tryingto avoid that.
It's never going to happen.
You have to look at your goal,whatever that goal is, as being
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a stepping stone to the bigdream.
You see, what happens is wetake the goals that we write
down and we put them in the samebasket as the big dream.
You see, what happens is wetake the goals that we write
down and we put them in the samebasket as the big dreams.
I listened to a young lady, melRobinson.
She was talking about this andMel Robinson was talking about
the goal and the big dream and Ithought what a great way of
putting it, because sometimes welump it all together.
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If your goal is to achievewhatever that big, massive thing
is and you write it down forthis year, well, it may happen
this year, but it might nothappen this year.
So the question becomes whathappens if it doesn't happen?
That's what the questionbecomes.
And can you just makemeasurable steps?
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Tony Robbins says measurableprogress in reasonable time.
Can you make a measurable step?
So things that will derail youperfectionism.
It has to look a certain way ifit doesn't look that way.
I can't do it.
You know, imagine Dorothy goingdown the yellow brick road and,
instead of going to find thewizard, she's looking at the
twigs and the leaves and saying,oh my god, this, this yellow
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brick road, is so dirty I gottatake time to clean it.
Well, when will you ever makeit to the destination?
So some people they get caughtin perfectionism or they have
super, super high goals in likenot enough time to make that
happen, like I'm going to becomethis in the next 90 days.
Well, what happens is you beginto prove yourself to be a liar
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and then your goals have noweight to them because you
constantly by the way, when youconstantly put out super, super
high goals, it's usually noteven for you, it's usually
because of how it sounds to thepeople around you.
And then what begins to happenis you start to feel like a
fraud and they start to look atyou like a fraud because you
said you're going to do thisthing.
Understand, you may have thesuper, super high goal, but that
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might actually be called adream, and there has to be steps
along the way before you get tothat dream.
And that's what you need tofocus in on.
What are the steps I need tohave along the way.
Here's another thing that willabsolutely derail your goals,
and I know that this, I know forme is comparison.
You know, I've been in acompetitive world of business
for a very long time literallyranks and all these other things
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, and what happens is you judgeyourself according to somebody
else's success.
But there's two traps to that.
The first trap is, if youaccomplish it and you do quote,
unquote better than them, youmight actually start to believe
you're better than them, which,when you're comparing yourself
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to someone better, I guess youknow in that moment you were
right.
Here's the other thing is thatif you don't do as good as them,
you might start to thinkthey're better than you.
This is not how you want tolook at things.
It's a good thing to havesomebody else's success motivate
you, but when you get to theworld of comparison, that's this
, that is the thief of your joy.
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You know I love the Olympics.
One of the reasons I love theOlympics because you see all
these people from all over theworld and you see all these
countries and most of them willnever get a medal.
They won't get a medal.
There's three there's silver,there's gold, there's bronze and
then there's who came in afterthem and we don't know who they
are.
But you see the joy that theyhave at the opening ceremony and
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you see the joy that they haveat the end at the closing
ceremony.
And they got on that plane.
They got to that Olympic Gamesand they knew I'm probably not
going to win a medal.
The vast majority know that butI was in the Olympics.
You see, the joy for them isplaying the game.
Now I'm not saying don't playthe game to win.
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But what I am saying is this ifyou play the game and you're
constantly in a space ofcomparison, I'm saying is this
If you play the game and you'reconstantly in a space of
comparison, even if you win, areyou really winning?
Your goal should be to do thebest that you know you can be
with effort and pressure.
People try and avoid pressure.
A goal should have pressure.
It should have a friction to it.
It should not be somethingthat's a guarantee to happen.
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It should be something that youneed to work your butt off in
order to make it happen.
And then it happens, becausewithout that, it's kind of like
I knew that was going to happen.
What's the point of that?
What's the point of I have agoal of waking up and getting
out of bed today.
Okay, well, that's not really.
Is there any friction there?
No, the friction that you'retrying to avoid with your goal
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is the very purpose of the goal.
The friction you're trying toavoid is the very purpose of
that goal.
The friction refines you likewater refines a rock in a
riverbed, like that's whathappens.
It's necessary.
You need that resistancebecause you're going to grow new
muscles If it's a goal to stopsmoking, the moment you create
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the environment to stop.
You're on your path, and that'swhat I'm going to talk about.
This last portion, it's aboutthe systems.
So I was struggling a lot withas I said before with reaching
certain milestones because Ididn't have systems that
supported me.
But when I began to realizethat I can have my dream, but my
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goals need to become systems,it began to change everything
for me.
Let me give an example of asystem.
You say you want to go exercise.
Here's a system.
You put your sneakers and yourworkout gear right beside your
bed.
You see, when you wake up, youlook right at it.
It's kind of hard to not look.
You put your sneakers and yourworkout gear right beside your
bed.
You see, when you wake up, youlook right at it.
It's kind of hard to not lookat it sitting right there.
Now you've got to make a choiceEither I'm going to put it on
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and follow through my commitmentor I'm not.
But if I don't, I have toliterally consciously step over
the commitment.
And that's not as easy to do so.
When you put a system in place,you have a much better
opportunity to achieve it.
Someone who says they want tostop smoking?
Well, the first thing that theyhave to do is they can't hang
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out with smokers and I knowthese are my friends, I got it
but you want to stop smoking,they don't.
So if they don't and you do,there's a conflict.
There should be no unity there.
There's a conflict there.
You need to break, break out ofthat group and start to be
around other people who don't,or whoever covered from doing it
(37:31):
.
You see, systems means I havethis thing that I want to do and
I need to figure out what in mylife is not conducive to me
doing that and who do I need tobe around that can help me
create that.
So if I want to reduce weight,I need to go into my house and
look around and say what here is, should I be eating, and
whatever I spent for it isirrelevant.
(37:52):
It needs to go straight intothe trash.
If you want to stop drinking,that bottle of something needs
to go in the trash.
And if you can't handle it onyour own, you need to
incorporate help.
See, help is the ultimatesystem.
I think it's so amazing that,like in the Christian community,
people learned about thestories of Christ and they
realize, oh, what an amazing man.
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But they didn't realize he hadhelp, christ had help, he had
help, he had a community aroundhim.
So people have all these goalsbut they won't have a community.
I think that's really crazy.
I think it's crazy to have agoal but not have anyone around
you that wants to alsoparticipate in your
accomplishing of that goal.
Maybe they have the same thingfor themselves.
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They want lifestylemodification.
All goals are lifestylemodification and when you look
at your goal, you have to say,okay, what is?
I have two pathways.
There's this theory calledsliding door theory and it says
you know, like if you get on thetrain, your life goes in this
direction.
You don't get on the train,your life goes in that direction
.
But I want you to look at itlike this.
I want one of the most powerfulparts of goal-setting is
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looking at the impact of notsetting the goal, or what
happens if you don'taggressively pursue it.
So if you look at, you say,okay, when I achieve this goal,
my life is gonna look like this,but if I don't achieve this
goal long-term, my life is gonnalook like that.
I had that moment.
I'm in business for myself.
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I left my company and I'mfull-time and it's on me.
I've got to figure it out now.
Blessed for me, I've alwaysbeen surrounded by great mentors
of business, so that's ablessing for me.
But at the end of the day, I hadto make the decision.
I was gonna do the work.
And I sat there one day and Ilooked.
I'm like, look, I'm not goingback to corporate America
because that's just not me.
But if I and if I don't like dothis, I'm in trouble because I
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don't want to go back tocorporate.
But I can't just sit herethinking about how I don't want
to go back to corporate.
I have to go do something.
And I looked at those two pathsand saying, if I don't do this,
I'm gonna end up going back tocorporate.
The thought of me doing thethings I did before with the
kinds of people I did beforescared me so much I went to work
like an absolute savage.
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That's why that line is behindme.
It's a reminder Stay hunting.
Your goals have to be personal.
You have to be honest withyourself and say look, if this
thing doesn't happen?
What will my life look like?
If this thing does happen, whatwill my life look like?
And now you have to choose.
If I keep putting this toxin inmy body, what will happen to me
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long-term?
If I keep doing this, what willhappen to me long-term?
And then now you have to choose.
Now you have to choose, butit's your choice.
You can choose to continue todo that thing and accept that
outcome, or you can choose adifferent path and accept that
outcome.
But here's the great thing thegreat Lord in heaven gave us the
ability to make a choice.
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And so, when you're looking atyour goals, be excited that
they're personal.
Don't be comparing yourself toother people, because their life
is not yours.
God gave you your life and it'ssupposed to be your life, but
because that's the case.
If it's your life and if it'syour opportunity to enhance your
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life, which is what goalsreally give you access to, they
give you access to a higherquality life.
Nobody says I have a goal thatthey want to be sick forever.
Nobody has that goal that theywant to be sick forever.
Nobody has that goal that nobodydoes.
Every goal you've ever had issomething that you wanted to
enhance your quality of life.
Now you have to make the choice.
Are you willing to do what isnecessary to put the systems in
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place?
Not to compare yourself toother people, not to look back
at what you didn't do before,not to crucify yourself for how
you failed before, how you madea promise Like nothing worse
than abusing yourself.
There's nothing, there's nopayoff there.
But there is a payoff when yousay I know I did that before and
maybe the people around medon't believe in me, but I've
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got to go find a community ofpeople that will support where
I'm going and I'm going to gothere.
And I don't necessarily knowit's going to happen next week,
but I know I'm going to stayconsistent until I accomplish it
.
And then that big dream that'slooming above on your dream
board, your vision board,whatever that is that thing that
you want to have accomplishedget out of debt, make more money
, become financially independent, find your spouse, whatever
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those things are that you wantto, do you to understand that
the systems are not in place.
It's not possible, but if thesystems are in place, it's
highly probable.
Make this the season that youmake that decision to not just
have a goal, but to crush it,not because of some radical new
concept, but one slightadjustment.
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You made the choice to put thesystems in place that honor the
future you're creating, ratherthan focusing you on your past
again.
If you got time, if you have,if you took the time to be on
this with me and you got valueout of it you know like comment,
subscribe.
Let me know that you got valueout, because I read every single
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comment.
I do, or I will as soon as youhave a chance to do so, and you
know what are your goals, whatare the things you want to have
happen for yourself and yourfamily, not just in a new year,
in a new day, because you don'thave to wait for a new year to
start to do something great.
You can do something greatbecause you want to do something
great.
So why not just start and justdo something great?
This may not be a new year'sresolution.
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Maybe you've just resolvedyourself that there's a new life
you want to have and you'rejust not waiting anymore.
You're just going to go for it.
And you know what I wouldrather.
I'd rather go for something Ilove.
I'd rather go for the life thatI can see, that I would love,
than to stay in the life that Iwould see, that, if I don't move
forward, I will always carrythat weight on my soul, knowing
that I had it in me.
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God doesn't put anything insideof you that you aren't capable
of doing.
If you have it on your spirit,it means you're capable of doing
it.
Now the other thing God does isGod will put resistance between
you and the thing, becausethat's where you have to have
the faith to believe that youcan break through, to walk
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through fear, to walk throughfear to find your faith.
You always have to walk throughfear to find your faith, but if
you're willing to walk, you'llalways be caught.
The net is always there.
It's just waiting for you tojump.
Go for the biggest, best lifeyou can right now.
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