How Much Control Do We Really Have?

Have you ever felt overwhelmed by the need for control in your life? Join us as we jump into the concept of dysregulation—what happens when we lose control and how it affects our mental and physical health. Discover practical strategies to manage anxiety, implement effective grounding techniques, and redefine your relationship with control. Gain insights from both professional and personal experiences to navigate life’s unpredictability with grace and resilience.

00:00 Welcome to Anchored in Chaos

00:58 Understanding Dysregulation

02:05 The Illusion of Control

08:32 Biological Responses to Stress

13:15 Emotional Impact of Losing Control

21:10 Personal Stories and Coping Strategies

23:45 Forming a Plan for Self-Awareness

24:59 Recognizing and Addressing Negative Thoughts

26:44 Different Perspectives on Handling Stress

30:07 Setting Boundaries and Managing Expectations

35:50 Grounding Techniques and Self-Regulation

41:29 Podcast Goals and Community Engagement

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Coping Tools for Cognitive Distortions

Cognitive distortions are patterns of thinking that often lead to negative emotions and unhelpful behaviors. Here are some common distortions and coping tools to challenge them:

1. All-or-Nothing Thinking (Black-and-White Thinking)
   • Coping Tool: Practice viewing situations in shades of gray rather than extremes. Ask yourself: "Is there a middle ground here?" or "What is the most balanced way to see this?"
   • Example: Instead of thinking, "I failed, so everything is ruined," ask yourself, "What did I learn from this? What went well?"
2. Overgeneralization
   • Coping Tool: Look for evidence that disproves your negative thoughts. Ask yourself, "Is this one situation really a reflection of all future situations?"
   • Example: If you think, "I always mess up," remind yourself of times you succeeded or managed challenges.
3. Mental Filter (Focusing on the Negative)
   • Coping Tool: Counterbalance your negative thoughts with positive ones. Keep a gratitude journal where you list things you're thankful for or moments of success.
   • Example: If you focus on one mistake, remind yourself of your accomplishments that day.
4. Disqualifying the Positive
   • Coping Tool: Acknowledge and celebrate your achievements. When you downplay positive experiences, challenge that belief by reminding yourself why they matter.
   • Example: Instead of thinking, "That was just luck," remind yourself of the effort you put into achieving something.
5. Jumping to Conclusions
   • Coping Tool: Practice examining your assumptions and looking for concrete evidence. Ask yourself, "What facts do I have to support this?" or "What alternative explanations could there be?"
   • Example: If you think someone is upset with you, ask them directly or consider other possible reasons for their behavior.
6. Catastrophizing
   • Coping Tool: Break down your worst-case scenario and ask yourself, "How likely is this to actually happen?" or "What would I do if this did happen?"
   • Example: Instead of thinking, "I'll never recover from this," remind yourself of past challenges you've overcome.
7. Emotional Reasoning
   • Coping Tool: Separate your emotions from reality. Ask yourself, "Just because I feel this way, does it mean it's true?" Challenge yourself