April 30, 2025 • 49 mins
Episode 147: The AHM crew tackles some big questions—like, what message would you put on a billboard for the world to see? Do comedians get stage fright? And, have you ever had to stop a friend from walking down the aisle?
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
welcome to.
And here's modi.
And here is modi.
We are back, uh, in the studiohere, uh, it's just not just
just.
It's me, perry l and leo, thethree, the.
What we found out is to be thefavorite of the listeners.
(00:24):
They just want.
They're not looking for a guest, they're looking for what
nourish kite we have to talkabout.
I love that nourish kite alittle nonsense that we have and
they listen to it while theyare washing their dishes,
driving, walking the dog, wantto just block out the family for
(00:45):
a little while.
They put this in their ears andwe are glad and we appreciate
all of you.
We have been doing um questions.
Speaker 3 (00:55):
Reflective questions yeah, I bought these little
conversation starter cards.
Um, you had some too.
I pulled some again for thisepisode, but do you have any
that you wanted to start offwith?
Speaker 2 (01:08):
what's the best piece of advice you have ever been
given?
Speaker 3 (01:14):
no one's ever thinking about you as much as
you think they are.
Speaker 2 (01:19):
I love that for better or for worse?
Speaker 3 (01:21):
I love that whenever you think, oh, I have something
in my teeth or my zipper's downor whatever, no one cares.
No one noticed, and if they did, they didn't care.
And if they did care.
They're going to forget aboutit.
That's mine.
Speaker 1 (01:37):
I don't know.
I've gotten so many, dependswhat comes to mind immediately
Pay your taxes, pay your taxes,oh my God, pay your taxes, best
piece of advice and we pay a lotof taxes.
Speaker 3 (01:51):
We pay a lot.
Let me tell you something.
Speaker 1 (01:53):
Yeah, for what we're paying in taxes.
The IRS should be sending usjokes.
Yeah, they should be.
They should be writing materialfor us.
But pay your taxes is a goodpiece of advice.
You don't want to be messed upin all that stuff.
You see artists and you seedocumentaries on artists that
didn't pay taxes, so that's agreat piece of advice.
Speaker 2 (02:12):
That is a good piece of advice.
Speaker 1 (02:13):
What about you?
Speaker 2 (02:15):
Mine is to be a helper.
You are a helper.
You are a helper, not a buildera helper.
I always rather than yeah, tobe a builder, you are a helper.
Yeah, not a builder a helper.
I always tell that to Ari.
Like to.
Speaker 1 (02:28):
To build people.
Yeah, yes.
Speaker 2 (02:31):
It's like it's easy.
It's as easy to be nice and tohelp.
Like whenever you see anopportunity to help, there's
like a kid who feels out ofplace.
It's like it's always on yourresponsibility.
Speaker 1 (02:46):
Don't look around, always look for opportunities.
They come.
Yeah, what about you?
Yours was what?
No?
Speaker 3 (02:55):
one's thinking about you as much as you think they
are Really Okay.
Speaker 1 (02:59):
No, they really aren't.
Speaker 3 (03:01):
Look at us.
That's it, we're done.
That's my social anxiety, thankyou for coming.
Speaker 1 (03:05):
I'm going to be modilivecom for all of your
tickets.
Speaker 3 (03:07):
Okay, no, I'm kidding .
Do you have another one?
I have one.
Speaker 2 (03:12):
Go.
Speaker 1 (03:14):
What's the best piece of advice you've given people
that I've?
Speaker 3 (03:17):
given people.
Yeah D him girl break up withhim.
Speaker 2 (03:31):
That's my only where it's appropriate, but my some
people just need to hear it,mine is along those lines.
Speaker 3 (03:34):
Yeah, like friend to friend don't, don't marry that
guy have you told that tosomeone before?
Have you really told?
Speaker 1 (03:40):
people don't.
You said someone.
Speaker 3 (03:41):
Don't marry this person yeah, did they.
Did they listen to you?
No, did it turn out well?
No, wow, is it?
How did you know this personFrom childhood, college?
It was.
Speaker 2 (03:54):
She's one of my closest friends since yeah, from
college.
Speaker 3 (03:59):
So you told her don't marry him.
She didn't listen.
How long did it last?
A few years, are you still intouch with this person?
Or yes, that's impressive,because usually, I think, when
someone finds out that they'vehow often do you, how often do
you drop?
Speaker 1 (04:15):
remember when I told you not to marry him and you
married him?
Speaker 2 (04:17):
I never say that, never do that, because I mean it
was there a specific red flagthat made you say that.
Yeah, a few.
Speaker 1 (04:25):
Like what.
Speaker 2 (04:26):
Like finding out he had children that he didn't tell
her about.
Speaker 1 (04:32):
Oh wow, that's a little different.
Speaker 3 (04:33):
Yeah, yeah, okay, okay, okay, that's reasonable,
then that's very reasonable.
I thought you were like.
The vibes are off.
Speaker 1 (04:39):
Yeah, like he doesn't like sushi, how could you be
with someone?
Speaker 3 (04:44):
who doesn't like sushi.
It's not like that.
It's like he had a whole secretfamily.
Speaker 2 (04:48):
Yeah, I mean, that was one that was like the
tipping point for me.
Speaker 3 (04:52):
That might be, that's more.
Speaker 1 (04:56):
How did you know he had a family?
Speaker 2 (04:58):
Because she found out and she told me that she found
out.
Oh, so she knew she didn't knowthey were together for a while
and that she found out.
Oh, so she knew she didn't knowthey were together for a while.
And then she found out this andI said you know, Are you really
sure you're going to marry thisguy?
Speaker 1 (05:16):
Who hasn't told you about his family?
If you told her about thefamily.
Hey look, I have this thinggoing on, yeah, so who?
Speaker 2 (05:21):
cares.
Fine, If he told her what's thebig deal Wow.
Yeah it, who cares?
Fine, If he told her what's thebig deal Right?
Speaker 3 (05:29):
Wow, yeah, it was not a pretty divorce.
Speaker 1 (05:32):
Oy, wow, okay, all right, that's a pretty good
answer, but she wasn't happy tohear it.
Speaker 2 (05:35):
By the way, girls nobody wants their best friend
to tell them that that's a pieceof advice.
That is like you get like a onetime card to hand that to
somebody yeah, and they probablywon't listen.
So you have to be ready to dealwith whatever the ramifications
are for giving somebody thatpiece of advice, potentially
(05:56):
losing them in your life.
For sure.
Speaker 3 (05:59):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (06:03):
But it's better to do that than to witness them blow
up their own life.
Maybe well, I spoiler, spoileralert you witness them blow up
their whole life anyway, becauseusually they're not taking that
advice from you, right?
Speaker 3 (06:13):
yeah, so it's a tough thing have you ever been in
that situation that what I haveto tell everybody that they just
like hey, listen, I know someinformation you don't know or
like no, no, not, nothing, not,not, that, nothing, that crazy
one other time a similar thing.
Speaker 2 (06:32):
Yeah, I was very close, very, very close with
someone and I knew her wife hadslept with one of my friends.
Speaker 1 (06:45):
And.
Speaker 2 (06:46):
And I told my friend don't tell me, I don't want to
know Like I do not want to beinvolved.
But then I had to go tell theother person Because she had
just like nursed me through thisbreakup.
Speaker 3 (06:58):
Because they were cheating.
Yeah, oh, it wasn't like priorto the relationship.
Speaker 1 (07:02):
No, no, no, no, no, and it wasn't like she was okay,
go ahead, hook up with somebody, yeah no, it was not good.
Speaker 3 (07:08):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (07:09):
I hated to be that person, but this person had just
nursed me through somebodycheating on me.
Speaker 3 (07:14):
And they're lesbians.
Yeah, that makes it a wholeother level.
Yeah, another level.
Apologies to any lesbianslistening, but your dynamics are
a little bit more complicatedthan If I would have said that.
Speaker 1 (07:24):
you just said you shouldn't be saying that, yeah,
but you don't understand.
Speaker 3 (07:26):
It's funny because I said it and you didn't.
Okay, so If you could be aworld-class talent on any
instrument, what would it be?
Speaker 1 (07:40):
Wow, what an amazing, A world-class talent on any
instrument the best.
It's going to be a hard toss-uphere, because it's I'm going to
say guitar, because you canstill be front and center with a
guitar.
If you're on the piano, you'rehiding behind that thing and
(08:02):
you're delaying and clapping onit and you've got to drag it to
wherever you're going too Well.
Speaker 3 (08:08):
if you're best in class, someone else is dragging
it for you.
Speaker 1 (08:11):
No, of course, best in class.
You want to say piano, becauseit's the most instrumental of
the instruments.
It is.
Yeah, there's all the keys.
I don't know anything aboutmusic.
All the keys, the keys.
You got the four chords here,the four strings or six strings,
whatever that.
And with you, with your, youknow, with your what is that?
Speaker 2 (08:34):
is that a?
Speaker 1 (08:34):
violin I'm doing.
Yeah, I don't want a violin anda violin you gotta shut up you
can't talk.
Speaker 2 (08:40):
oh, that's a good point you can't show up.
Speaker 1 (08:43):
Just a song in the piano man Dang dang, dang, dang
dang.
Speaker 2 (08:46):
Who's the best piano Like?
It's Gaga, elton John, likeLiberace they're all amazing.
Gaga is a great piano player.
Speaker 1 (08:54):
No one's going to pass Liberace entertainment-wise
on piano.
He killed it.
He was an unbelievable thing.
It was just, of course Gaga'smusical Elton John thing.
Was this of course gaga cangaga's musical?
Uh, elton john's a musicalperson.
They can probably play a bunchof instruments they get behind
the piano.
Okay, now the camera doesn'thave a full vision of them and
it's like you need a guitar.
(09:15):
The guitar is hot when we watchthe eagles.
When we watch the eagles yeahit's like it's down to the town
and it's very.
The coordination is very hard.
You understand that you'replaying the notes.
Speaker 3 (09:25):
It's just a sexier posture.
Speaker 2 (09:27):
That's what I think.
100% guitar, because you get tobe a rock star if you have a
guitar.
But what's your answer?
Guitar, for sure.
Speaker 3 (09:34):
I still think I'd pick piano because I'm not going
automatically to that.
I'm performing in front ofpeople and I need to be on stage
and everything.
I just think having that skillfor myself and like being in a
empty home alone with a pianoand I can like just play piano
for myself, that sounds verycathartic it's so funny that you
(09:57):
went to like you're in a homealone playing and modi and I
immediately placed ourselves.
Speaker 2 (10:02):
I was in front of like tens of thousands of people
.
Speaker 1 (10:05):
I was At the Sphere.
Speaker 2 (10:08):
I was not At the Sphere in Vegas.
Speaker 1 (10:11):
One man showed the Sphere in Vegas With a guitar
and the band like substantiallyfurther behind me, substantially
further behind me.
Speaker 3 (10:21):
You need attention, honey.
You need the spotlight, I don't.
Speaker 1 (10:24):
Yes, but further behind me.
You need attention, honey.
You need the spotlight, yes,but for a reason I want to make
people feel good, that's reallyfunny.
Speaker 3 (10:31):
I can make them feel better with a guitar.
Yeah.
Okay, here's kind of a similarquestion.
And, Perry, I'll prefer to cutyou off.
Cut me off if you are gettingbetter ones over there.
No, no, you're good.
If you weren't self-consciousor worried about failing, what
form of expression would youexplore?
(10:52):
Huh?
Speaker 2 (10:55):
It never occurred to him.
You get it If.
Speaker 3 (10:59):
I were afraid of failing.
If you weren't self-consciousor worried about failing, what
form of expression would youexplore?
Form?
Speaker 1 (11:09):
of expression Like an art painting.
Speaker 3 (11:11):
Singing, writing, dancing.
He doesn't have it.
Speaker 1 (11:14):
Oh, a little more singing, a little more singing.
Speaker 3 (11:16):
Oh, you sing enough honey.
Speaker 1 (11:17):
Nah, but I don't really sing enough.
I should be singing a lot more,but I'm always afraid that I'm
going to be off or something'sgoing to be on Like a key will
be off, but this is if youweren't self-conscious or
worried Singing Okay.
Speaker 3 (11:31):
So what about you?
Speaker 2 (11:33):
Stand-up comedy.
Speaker 3 (11:35):
But you're still self-conscious and worried about
that.
Speaker 2 (11:38):
Oh, yeah, sometimes.
Speaker 3 (11:39):
That's fair, then should you be doing it.
No, I feel like that's normal,I feel like most people.
Speaker 1 (11:46):
Thank you.
Do you know what Thank you?
Can I tell you what I'm goingto do?
Speaker 2 (11:49):
We're crushing all of my hopes and dreams.
Speaker 1 (11:52):
I was asked to leave.
I was asked to not come back toan acting class.
Speaker 2 (11:58):
I don't know if I like where this is going at all.
Speaker 1 (12:01):
Yeah, so I was in an acting class once, right, and
when you, when you go in actingclass, um, it's like in this
black box theater that seatsmaybe 60 people max and the
teacher has the, the class andthe people, you, you get your
scene and you do it and you,some people bring props and some
people bring the table and thechair whatever the scene that
they're doing is and and youwatch everybody else when you
(12:24):
give feedback and then this onegirl goes up, then she's setting
herself up for the scene andyou can tell she's super nervous
.
There's only 12 people in theclass and the teacher and she's
setting herself up and she'ssuper nervous and the teacher
goes.
What are you feeling?
She goes.
I'm feeling nervous and alittle shy and I'm not sure what
(12:48):
I'm feeling, and he's like gowith it.
Whatever they say in the actingclasses.
And they were asking the peoplewhat do you think?
What are you seeing?
They were asking the studentsto tell her what they were.
There was that thing.
And I said to her why are you?
They were asking the studentsto tell her what they were.
There was a hat, that thing.
(13:09):
And then, and and I said I said, I said to her so why are you
here, helpful?
I said why are you here?
You want to be an actor?
There's 12 people here.
If you want to be an actressthere's, you should be.
You should be hoping there's1200 people here no, but that's.
Speaker 2 (13:21):
This is different, though, because I'm never
worried that I'm not going to befunny.
I know I'm funny, I get nervous, I get like stage fright.
Speaker 1 (13:34):
I still get like nervous.
Get it like About what?
Let's go.
What would you be nervous about?
Why would you have stage frightif you know you're going to be
funny?
Speaker 2 (13:40):
I don't know, it's a good question.
I guess that's something to um.
Speaker 1 (13:44):
The only reason you should ever be afraid to get on
stage is if the lighting and thesound is not on, if the
audience is not set for comedy.
Speaker 2 (13:52):
That's the only time you should be nervous if you're
a comedian to get on stage but Italk to comics who have been
doing this for like 30 years,who are considered like some of
like the best comics in the oryou know, in the world, like in
our world, um, and they say thatsometimes they get still get
stage fright.
Speaker 3 (14:12):
I don't know you never get stage fright like it's
not something he's like missingthat I know, that's what I'm
saying.
He doesn't have that shit.
Those people who like don'tfeel pain yeah, and like they
break their arms.
Speaker 2 (14:21):
He's like he doesn't have it.
It's, but it's a fair.
Doesn't have it, but it'sinsane, it is, it's insane,
you're lucky.
Speaker 1 (14:28):
Yeah, the only time I'm nervous if it's not in a
theater or in a place wherecomedy is meant to be done.
And then the sound and thelights.
That's the only thing you getnervous about.
You don't get nervous thatyou're going to forget a line.
Oh, I know I'm going to forgeta line.
Are you insane?
Speaker 2 (14:45):
I don't know On the ride home with Leo.
Speaker 1 (14:48):
You know I forgot to do the diarrhea suicide joke.
Speaker 2 (14:51):
But that doesn't make you nervous I know.
Speaker 1 (14:53):
No, they don't know I forgot the line.
They don't know I forgot theline.
I know I forgot the line.
I'm upset with myself that Iforgot the line, but not nervous
.
I want to forget the line.
The show is off the hook.
They have no idea how they.
I knew it was an 80 where itcould have been 100.
They think it was 100.
They don't know that I was offby 20.
(15:14):
It's a big thing, yeah.
Speaker 3 (15:17):
Yeah, I hear what you're saying, though.
Thank you, leo, I hear youstill get stage fright I think
you are an exemption to the rule.
I think a lot of performers whoare professional performers
still get stage fright sometimes.
Speaker 1 (15:31):
Okay, and it's okay for them.
Speaker 3 (15:36):
Okay, get stage fright.
What message would you put on abillboard for thousands of
people to see every day?
Speaker 1 (15:44):
Create Mashiach energy.
Just create Mashiach energy.
And if you don't know what thatmeans, discuss it with somebody
.
Just discuss Mashiach.
That should be in yourconversation.
Hey, what's Mashiach energy?
I don't know.
It means messianic, so what?
We should create a messianicenergy.
(16:04):
Yeah, like if we were living ina messianic world.
What would the energy be like?
Ah, it'd be like me invitingyou to a comedy show in an hour
and a half.
We're laughing together.
That's a messianic feeling.
That is mashiach energy.
That is what I would put on thebillboard.
Create mashiach energy.
That was the easiest questionwe've ever had in our lives.
Speaker 2 (16:27):
Okay, maybe you should take out a billboard.
Speaker 3 (16:30):
What about you?
Speaker 2 (16:33):
I don't know.
I have to think about that one.
What about you?
Speaker 3 (16:37):
Don't be a dick.
I was going to say go fuckyourself.
Just be nice.
Just be nice, period Just benice, I like that.
If you could gift all humansone thing, what would it be?
Speaker 2 (16:53):
Self-confidence.
Speaker 1 (16:56):
Yeah, no, If I could give a gift to the entire world.
If I could give a gift to theentire world for them to know
that your intentions come true.
(17:16):
To make sure you plan yourintentions out well.
Speaker 3 (17:20):
I was thinking more like logistics.
I was thinking more like I wisheveryone had a place to sleep
at night.
Yeah, I get so sad when I seepeople sleeping outside because
we don't even do that to likemurderers and rapists and like
people in prison.
Like they have a place to sleep, not the ones in el salvador
not the ones in el salvador.
Speaker 2 (17:38):
Hard topics shift okay I am in the middle of a gut
renovation, as you are wellaware, and I have become very
close with my plumber, who lookslike he was cast in the role of
(17:59):
Plummer from a sitcom in the90s.
Hey, sweetheart, is he Israeli?
This really no, he's italianthis guy's been working for me
for 39 years.
He said, uh, next year I wantto get a gold watch for him.
I said, I don't know, I thinkabout it okay um, now it's a
(18:22):
nightmare.
this thing like the house, likethe floor of the house, is in my
yard.
Okay, because we've dug up theentire floor to lay down new
plumbing, because I'm movingeverything and I have not been
able to get in touch with myplumber for like three days.
And it turns out I'm like issomething wrong?
(18:46):
And something wrong.
Speaker 3 (18:46):
and he said actually, yes, he's in the hospital so I
just want to send my prayers andum love to let's see have
someone who can like take overthe reins while he's not well, I
felt like it might not be thatappropriate for me to ask that.
Speaker 2 (19:04):
I think it is appropriate.
I think it is absolutely Ithink you should.
Speaker 3 (19:10):
Who do you?
How do we?
Uh, I, I hope you know you'renot, it's not too serious, but
uh, you know my, yet my yacht.
What'd you say?
Speaker 2 (19:18):
your floor is in your yard my well, I mean, it's like
you have a hole in the in youcan't A hole.
What are?
Speaker 3 (19:24):
you supposed to do.
Speaker 2 (19:26):
I have many holes.
I have three bathrooms thathave been dug up.
Speaker 1 (19:30):
This is a family-friendly podcast.
Why is this not family-friendly?
We don't want to hear aboutPeriel's holes.
Speaker 3 (19:39):
Okay, you did that, not us.
Speaker 2 (19:43):
If anybody has any plumbers that they could send to
me, please DM us.
Speaker 1 (19:49):
Do you know how hard it is To get a referral from
somebody For a plumber?
Speaker 2 (19:53):
This is my fifth plumber and he was amazing To
recommend somebody.
Speaker 1 (20:00):
Do you understand how crazy that is?
Because now, if something goeswrong and you then tell the
person who recommended, theplumber you recommended to me
destroyed my house and has costme thousands and thousands of
dollars.
Speaker 2 (20:13):
What am I going to do , you guys?
Like I can't, I need this to bedone, Like this has been going
on for a year.
Speaker 3 (20:20):
I think you need to speak to him and you need to I
can't speak to him, I can't geta hold of him.
He, I think you need to speakto him and you need to.
I can't speak to him.
I can't get a hold of him.
He's in the hospital, there'sno, you need to go to the
hospital With flowers and awrench and say get back to work.
Speaker 1 (20:33):
No, you have to figure out from him.
How is he going to plan on?
Speaker 3 (20:37):
Yeah, that's completely reasonable, does he
have?
Speaker 1 (20:38):
somebody else, or can you?
Can you get out of this?
Speaker 3 (20:41):
Hello, it's your home .
It's awful that he's sick ornot well or whatever happened.
Speaker 2 (20:47):
We told you this, what am?
Speaker 1 (20:48):
I supposed to do though.
We told you this we were bothlooking for a house at the same
time.
Leo and I bought one that wejust had to bring our toothbrush
and move in.
You said, oh no, I'm going tomove the entire house to the
left side of the property.
I'm going to move this to thewe told you.
Speaker 3 (21:08):
Don't say I told you so that's boring.
Speaker 1 (21:09):
I told you so is boring.
Speaker 2 (21:10):
But, like I said, to tell people I don't know, I told
you, so is boring, but I toldyou so I told you so, but okay
Anyway.
Speaker 3 (21:16):
I'm sorry that that's happening to you.
Awful.
We are currently gettingestimates to.
We love an estimate.
Do to do some work on our homein Connecticut.
Speaker 2 (21:25):
How many estimates do you get before you?
Speaker 3 (21:27):
Not a lot, not a lot.
We are not shopping around.
We found someone we like.
He's a very white-club guy.
We're paying more money than weneed to for it, but we know
we're paying a premium becausehe's the best.
Speaker 2 (21:38):
But one, you get one estimate no we've had Well from
him.
Speaker 3 (21:42):
Now we're on our second estimate because we
changed our mind.
But I'm not no, I'm not gettingestimates from other
contractors, because he'salready done one or two things
for us and he's amazing and thisis like what he does.
Speaker 2 (21:55):
Right.
Speaker 3 (21:56):
And he like checks on the house.
He's like managing the housefor us, like he's also a
contractor, but since we travelso much, we need eyes on the
house.
So he knows the house very well.
What.
Speaker 2 (22:08):
Have you ever spoken to this person?
Speaker 1 (22:11):
All the time.
Speaker 3 (22:12):
I'm the main contact.
Speaker 1 (22:14):
But when it came to the construction part, I was the
man that got involved here.
Speaker 2 (22:18):
That's the part that I'm trying to suss out.
Speaker 1 (22:22):
Yeah, is Guy not involved at all in this.
Your husband not involved atall in this.
Speaker 2 (22:25):
Your husband not involved at all in this no, okay
, I mean he's involved inwriting checks right, and a lot
of them, yeah, yeah but like ifyou're looking at the person
who's like in in the trencheshere okay um, um, oh.
Speaker 3 (22:43):
So if you guys are listening to this, let me just
make sure it's in the oh, it'snot there.
I'm gonna have to put it in thedescription of this episode.
But there's this new thingcalled speak pipe and it's an
app on your phone where you hitrecord and you can leave us a
voicemail so you can like callinto the show and you can ask us
questions.
You could make give feedback.
You can like call into the showand you can ask us questions.
(23:05):
You could make give feedback,you can ask for advice and we
can play.
Just know that if you submit amessage there, you're giving us
permission to potentially embedit in the episode and use it as
part of the show.
Speaker 1 (23:19):
So I'll link that in our instagram and in our and on
that note too, we also have a PObox where you can send letters
that you want me to bring to theRebbe's grave, if you want.
So I have a package now of afew letters that I'm bringing to
with the next time I go to theRebbe's grave.
I will be bringing those, thoseletters, and putting them into
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the, into this beautiful big binthat's in front, and that's not
a bin, it's a built outoutcement wall that's around the
grave and people put all oftheir notes in there and I will
be delivering anybody who sendsme their letter.
And you can write if you want meto read it out loud there, or
if you want me to just put theletter down.
Speaker 2 (24:01):
First of all, that's very sweet.
Yeah, is somebody reading theseletters on the other side, or
is it like going to like thewailing wall where you?
Speaker 1 (24:08):
just someone's reading this.
On the other side of olam haba,of the world to come, this
letter is going into aconnection of a higher, higher
power but there's not a personwho's like going through these
letters no, no, I think everyonce in a while they go through
and they burn all of them.
Which brings us to another topic.
I want to talk about that.
The CIA, now we've all realized, has access to our WhatsApp and
(24:32):
our chats and our all of that.
Yeah, mark Zuckerberg said thatCIA has access to our WhatsApp
chats and I want to saygesundheit, have it, take my
WhatsApp chats.
And I want to say gesundheit,have it, take my WhatsApp chat.
Let me tell you what myWhatsApp chats are.
Let me just I'm just serious, Iwant to just tell you right now
(24:53):
, go ahead, read, so you havethis, me and Leo, and anybody
that's ever seen me and Leo'schats would ask Leo, is
everything okay with you andModi?
Speaker 3 (25:03):
Because it's like one word answers.
Speaker 1 (25:06):
I'm heading home.
Okay, see you there Dinner.
I'll make something.
It's like there's no, like hey,with little balloons.
I don't have emojis on my phone.
I have no emojis.
It's yes, no, on the way cominggoing.
Then I have with Dina anybodyfrom the CIA?
Here you go, I'm not eating Iam eating.
Speaker 3 (25:28):
I was gonna eat yesterday.
This is your I message, or yourwhat's up this?
Speaker 1 (25:30):
is on I message and what's up?
Actually the I message we knowthe cia has access to.
Now it's whatsapp too, but thisis the conversation.
I feel so bad for anybody thatis watching out.
My, my, it's so boring, it's solike it's horrible.
Speaker 3 (25:46):
I don't think you have an FBI agent assigned to
you.
Speaker 2 (25:48):
Yeah, I don't think you are quite what they're
looking for, no, but like goahead here.
Speaker 1 (25:53):
I'm not eating today.
I ate yesterday.
I'm going to eat Thursday.
That's the conversation thatthey can listen to, but go ahead
, look at the people's WhatsAppsand find the terrorists.
Speaker 2 (26:05):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (26:06):
That was too much.
Speaker 2 (26:07):
No.
Speaker 3 (26:09):
Do you have one Perrielle?
Speaker 2 (26:11):
What do you normally take for granted?
Speaker 1 (26:16):
Oh, everybody takes one thing for granted always
their health, their health,always.
You take that for granted untilyou don't have it, until you
don't have it.
Speaker 3 (26:24):
I will tell you what I don't take for granted what.
Anytime I turn on a faucet or ashower and clean water comes
out.
We've spoken about that.
I am appreciative of that everyday.
We've spoken about that.
You know, people are like I wasborn in the wrong decade.
I was not born in the wrongdecade.
I was born in the decade oficed coffee, hot water in my
(26:45):
shower At this age and body washof all shapes and sizes and
toiletries.
People stunk 100 years ago.
They didn't shower.
Speaker 2 (26:55):
I have news for you honey People stink right now too
.
What I said, I have news foryou honey People stink right now
too.
Speaker 1 (27:02):
They do.
Some of them really do have aBO, not me, though.
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (27:06):
What did Parker?
Posey say on the I just don'tthink at this age I'm meant to
live an uncomfortable life.
Speaker 2 (27:12):
Yes, you did say that I've always felt like that I
have a good one.
Speaker 1 (27:15):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (27:18):
Do you want to answer that?
Oh, we're health.
We said health, you said water.
Okay, I feel like you're goingto have a good answer for this.
What is something you wantedfor a long time, but once you
acquired it, it didn't quitemeet your expectation.
Oh, um I don't know.
Speaker 3 (27:40):
Those are mez sandals no but that I didn't want those
for a long time.
He didn't want those, I justpicked them up for him, um
something I wanted for a longtime.
Speaker 1 (27:53):
A nose job, did it meet?
Speaker 3 (27:54):
your expectations.
That met my expectations.
What are you talking about?
I'm beautiful Um.
Speaker 2 (28:00):
Love that.
Speaker 3 (28:01):
Let me think about that some more, because I feel
like everything that I've wantedreally badly that I have had
been lucky enough to receive andget.
I'm pretty happy with.
Same same, but do you have ananswer for that?
Speaker 2 (28:19):
um.
Speaker 3 (28:21):
I'll tell you one thing that a house cause you're
missing a plumber.
But if you didn't have, if youweren't missing a plumber, that
might not be your answer onceyou're done with that house,
you'll forget everything.
Speaker 1 (28:31):
You're done with that house, you'll forget everything
you went through.
Once it's done you'll forgeteverything you went through.
Speaker 2 (28:36):
No, I won't, because you're never done.
I don't have a house manager,so every time something happens
it becomes like your whole life.
What did my grandmother say,honey?
It's like having a baby.
They never stop needingsomething from you.
Speaker 1 (28:55):
There's a big difference here.
There's always, obviously, whenyou own property and you have
to do, you have to maintain, youhave to maintain.
But once you finish that mainconstruction, you get to a point
where that's it, no more, nomore workers, no more putting
paper down, that's it, I'm done,I am done, I am done.
(29:18):
And you take a big fat breathfrom it and you're finished and
you forget.
And you're living in the houseand you forget all the hell you
went through with thecontracting to get there.
Later on you start to addsomething or fix something or
change a light fixture, but thatmain thing, when you're done
with it, you feel like wow, whenwe had all the paper left in
(29:43):
the house came out, we were likewe're done and you forgot the
months of hell.
Speaker 3 (29:47):
You went the last few weeks where we were walking
around in flip-flops in thehouse because it was still
sawdust and construction Inch ofdust.
Speaker 1 (29:54):
We were out in the house and then we whatever, but
it's.
Speaker 3 (29:56):
You get that If you could wake up tomorrow having
gained any one quality.
What would it be?
A great night's sleep.
Speaker 1 (30:07):
That's not a quality.
Speaker 2 (30:07):
Oh, such a quality I was going to say a six pack, is
that's not a quality?
Such a quality, I was going tosay a six pack.
Speaker 1 (30:12):
Is that a quality?
He already has that?
Speaker 2 (30:14):
Patience, yeah, but I don't.
Speaker 3 (30:16):
I don't have a six pack.
Speaker 2 (30:19):
Patience.
Speaker 3 (30:20):
I was going to say patience Also, just like the
ability to chill the fuck outPatience.
Like.
Speaker 1 (30:26):
I just want to be To not be anxious.
Speaker 3 (30:29):
Yeah, you want to not be anxious.
Yeah, you'd want to not beanxious.
I would like to be like, notanxious and be able to just calm
down.
Okay, that's all.
Your answer is sleep.
I have another question.
Speaker 2 (30:45):
Can I have more cards ?
Speaker 1 (30:46):
I don't know we're committing to these cards,
aren't we?
Speaker 3 (30:49):
Unless you want to talk about something that you
think is going to engage thelistener.
More People are going to writein their own answers to this and
we're going to get to likeinteract with that?
Speaker 1 (30:58):
I don't know that email you sent that email.
You sent that email.
You Did you like that email.
Do you want me to read it?
I think we should read it.
Okay, we have time.
Okay, okay, received uh againas we do.
You guys know that we wereceive emails and dms and all
kinds of stuff from listenersand we love it and, uh, this one
(31:19):
is kind of heavy.
Speaker 3 (31:21):
Okay, so I'm not going to read the name, but
someone emailed this to me.
Dear modi, leo and perriel,first I would like to let you
know that I really enjoylistening to your podcast,
especially the ones where it'sjust the three of you, and I'm
thrilled that I have a ticketfor your show in Antwerp, modi.
Your singing is so beautifuland a show with you telling
stories and singing songs Ithink would be amazing.
(31:43):
Please don't make me sing.
That goes back.
Speaker 1 (31:46):
We've talked about this.
Please don't make me sing.
Speaker 3 (31:47):
That's a project we're working on Now.
That's a project we're workingon Now for my question.
My father, a Jew, was born inthe Netherlands in 1942.
While his whole family wasdeported to the camps, my father
, who was just a baby, went intohiding with a loving non-Jewish
couple.
His family did not return andmy father grew up with these
(32:11):
non-Jewish people.
Despite this, my father alsogrew up with Jewish traditions,
as he spent time, weekends andholidays with a Jewish family.
My father chose to give hischildren me, my brother and my
sister a non-Jewish upbringing.
I, however, grew up imbued withmy Jewish family's history and
the atrocities of the Holocaustand therefore I feel a strong
(32:33):
connection to the Jews.
However, my mother is notJewish and that means I am not
Jewish either, although myJewish name suggests otherwise.
Because of October 7th and thenegative reaction in the world
towards Israel and the Jews, Ifeel an even stronger kinship
with the Jewish people and Ihave started to delve deeper
into Judaism, but I strugglewith the fact that I am not
(32:54):
jewish.
I feel like an outsiderstanding out.
I do not belong to the jews,but I do feel the hurt and
frustration.
Also, I have a non-jewishpartner that has a hard time
understanding my feelings.
Can you please give me words ofwisdom that will help?
Speaker 1 (33:14):
It's a lot no.
Speaker 2 (33:18):
It can be.
I mean, I think it depends.
The history is a lot.
I think that there are.
She's not alone, though.
I think that there are a lot ofpeople who survived the
Holocaust that went really inthe other direction, that I've
been reading about recently, butI don't think it has to be a
(33:38):
lot.
I think that she does belong.
It's not.
There's not one way you saythis all the time there's not
one way to be Jewish Correct.
It doesn't have to be one orthe other.
I think that she can embracethe parts of her that feels like
that and I think that, um, butdo you think it means?
(33:58):
something spiritual, thatspiritually that she feels such
a gravitational pull towards ityeah, I do, I think that I, I
think it does mean somethingspiritually she doesn't mention
potentially converting right.
Speaker 3 (34:11):
Do you have to?
Speaker 2 (34:12):
convert if your mother is not, if your father's
Jewish?
Speaker 1 (34:16):
yeah it baffles me how much you don't know.
I've never.
I always think to myself wow,we've reached a point where we
Perry L really doesn't know.
But now, if, now that you hadasked that, yes, yes, yes, the
Jewish religion goes by themother.
Speaker 2 (34:34):
That I know.
I know that it goes by themother.
Speaker 3 (34:36):
I have feelings about that, which okay, I know, but I
didn't know that you have to.
Speaker 2 (34:40):
Actually that feels like a little Like if your
father's Jewish, you still haveto convert.
Like that feels like a littlebit much.
Speaker 1 (34:53):
I think you still have to do the traditional
process of conversion.
Speaker 2 (34:54):
Yeah speak to an Orthodox rabbi to get the full.
Get him on the phone.
Speaker 1 (34:56):
No, no For this person first of all.
Speaker 3 (35:00):
I First of all thank you for buying a ticket to
Antwerp Exactly.
Speaker 1 (35:03):
Can't wait to see you there, can't wait to see you in
Antwerp.
Come and say hi, modi willconvert you.
I'll give you.
I'll give you Moshiach energy,yarmulke or hat and you will be
right on your way Again.
I just think again, everythingis just create Moshiach energy.
Now, if something that helpsyou create Moshiach energy is
lighting candles Friday night orhanging a mezuzah on your door,
(35:25):
do it.
If you connect with the energyof lighting a candle Friday
night because it's the Sabbath,do it, whether you're Jewish.
The energy of lighting a candlefriday night because it's the
sabbath, do it, whether you'rejewish or not.
If you want to hang a mezuzahon your door, bring this prayer
that protects your home and putit on your door, do it, do it.
You know it's something thatthat's.
It's a technology that has beenbrought to the world by the
(35:48):
israelites, by the jewish people.
It's here it, and she has aconnection to it, obviously,
because it's in her DNA and it's.
You know, it's in there.
I've seen people who converted,but you can really see that the
soul changed and they had sucha calling for it.
It wasn't because they weremarrying somebody Jewish.
So she obviously has a calling.
(36:09):
Now, if you and your husbandare working this out and he's
okay with the journey you're on,you know that you want to light
candles.
You want to go listen to KolNidre services on Yom Kippur?
Go buy a ticket to thesynagogue and go listen to the
cantus in Kol Nidre.
Do it Again.
You're doing it because it'sgoing to make you a better
(36:30):
person, right?
I don't do anything in theJewish religion unless I'm doing
it because it's going to makeme a better person.
I put on tefillin every daybecause it's going to make me a
better person that day, orthat's at least my intention.
It's not.
So I can tell everybody.
I put on tefillin, you didn't.
I'm better than you.
I'm a better Jew than youbecause I like candlest Friday
(36:53):
night.
No, I like candlest Fridaynight because it's going to give
me an energy of being a betterperson, creating more mashiach
energy, right?
So that's one thing I can.
I can definitely tell thisbeautiful person is that
whatever is on the menu ofjudaism that works for you and
you like, do it a la carte, baby, do it a la carte.
Speaker 3 (37:12):
See what works, see, see where you can find a place
where you can have a shabbatdinner and bring your husband
and he'll feel welcome too um, Iwill say there's something to
be said that she has such adirect connection through via
her father, to the holocaust, ofcourse, because I believe in
like generational, um, trauma,trauma and like memory almost in
(37:36):
your dna, like I think that'sbeen like scientifically proven
at this point, so I feel like Idon't know, there's some.
It's not like she's coming outof nowhere, she's just like, oh,
I just want to be jewish.
Speaker 1 (37:47):
Now, all of a sudden, like she has a direct, she has
a bigger card that she can playin that, in this um at the table
.
You know, she might not be ableto say I'm, I'm jewish
according to dna, but I am asurvivor.
I'm a.
I'm a daughter of a survivor.
My father was my father, not asurvivor, a holocaust victim.
(38:09):
He died right, she said.
Speaker 2 (38:11):
How could he die when he was a baby?
How would she be born?
Speaker 1 (38:14):
Oh, no, no, no, okay, yeah, he escaped.
Speaker 3 (38:16):
He escaped.
Speaker 1 (38:17):
He's a survivor of the.
Speaker 3 (38:17):
Holocaust no he was hidden.
Speaker 2 (38:19):
He was hidden.
His whole family was killed.
He's a survivor.
Speaker 1 (38:23):
That's considered a survivor of the Nazis, yes,
someone that was in hiding andcome out as a survivor of the
nazis.
I know this personally becauseI had one speak with the people
who give aid.
You know, when mr hirsch liveddown the hall from us and he was
in hiding during the war and wetried to get him aid from the
uh, it's called the victims ofnazis.
(38:44):
It's not just holocaustsurvivors, it's victims of not
and he was a victim of that.
He was in hiding because ofnazis yeah, so it's my uncle.
He was the craziest conversationyou ever had.
I called this thing and thewoman that called up was was a
woman who I her name was a veryokay, keep going was a very not
jewish name, and she could tellshe's not jewish.
(39:06):
And she was asking me all thesequestions like and where was he
?
Where was he during during?
Was he during the war?
I said his parents had atimeshare in Florida.
That's where he was.
I'm like you know, but we gotto the point where she was able
to get help.
You know, yeah, people, she hasthat big card to play.
(39:26):
There's a big, big card to playand she should be accepted,
definitely by herself and byother people.
And, again, if at one point shefeels she needs to convert,
never push somebody to convert.
If they're being pushed bytheir inner soul to convert, go
and convert and find yourhappiness.
And God, you listen to us.
Thank God, thank God shelistens to us.
Speaker 2 (39:47):
This is a very Jewish thing you're doing.
Speaker 1 (39:50):
To listen to us.
Yeah, you're getting points.
If you go to a conversion rabbiand said what do you want?
Why do you want a conversion?
I listen to Anhir's Modi.
Speaker 3 (39:58):
He'd be like you're in, you're out of points.
Speaker 1 (40:00):
Done Next.
Speaker 3 (40:03):
I have a question that I struggle with myself
personally.
Speaker 2 (40:09):
Wait, what's?
Speaker 3 (40:10):
your advice to her.
Well, as someone who it doeshave a very strong tie to
judaism at this point via modium, but I am not jewish,
obviously, and I have no planson converting um I don't feel
like I have the right things tosay to her other than finding a
(40:31):
place where you feel welcome,starting with a shabbat dinner
somewhere, um, but I just knowthat's not.
I don't feel that same callingthat she does, so I it's hard
for me to speak to that becauseyour, your father, wasn't in
hiding during the war.
Speaker 1 (40:47):
Yeah, you don't have the same experience as her.
Yeah, you married a jew.
It's a different experience.
Speaker 3 (40:52):
Okay, next question is it better to let
relationships ebb and flow inand out of our lives or
intentionally try to maintainthem?
Wow, wow, perfect question,because I feel like I'm guilty
of both.
Speaker 1 (41:08):
You shouldn't feel guilty again.
Who feels guilty?
Um?
People feel guilty.
Modi, as somebody who has yearson you, we won't say how many.
Speaker 3 (41:20):
What?
Speaker 1 (41:21):
We won't say how many .
Well, I have 22 years on youand I will tell you, I've had
friends when I was in my 30s and20s and relationships change.
Sometimes it's somebody thatyou talk to every single day and
then things change.
Things change, they move, youmove, they come.
You're dating somebody, you'rebusy working.
(41:41):
Things change.
The relationship needs to beable to change A hundred percent
and you shouldn't feel guiltyif you don't see them for a big
chunk of time.
Speaker 3 (41:52):
I just feel like there are other people who it is
a skill they have to know howto check in on people, how to
like show up for people even ifthey're far away, even if
there's a long distance thing.
There are people like people Iwent to college with, who are
like still very close eventhough they live in different
places now and I see you knowthey do weekends together.
I'm not good at that.
(42:12):
I never stayed in touch withpeople like that.
Speaker 1 (42:15):
It's very hard for me Me neither- I have the people
in my life now, people that Imet.
I have almost no friends fromcollege, almost no friends from
high school that I are close,nothing.
But I have the people now.
So if I do see and I don't onFacebook two friends from high
school that are piling around,good for them.
Speaker 2 (42:35):
I don't need to be piling around.
Speaker 1 (42:36):
That's not what I'm asking.
By the way, when we are in town, we invite all our friends over
to come over for sushi and wesit and we catch up.
We have an amazing time Doingthat tonight and you go to
movies and restaurants, which Ihate going to with your friends.
Speaker 3 (42:53):
At least you said on record that you hate going to
restaurants, because every timeI tell you you hate coming to
restaurants you go.
I don't like going torestaurants you hate going to
restaurants.
He doesn't like going torestaurants.
Speaker 2 (43:03):
Do you like going to restaurants?
Speaker 3 (43:05):
I love a good restaurant.
Speaker 2 (43:06):
I love a good restaurant.
Obviously there's badrestaurants.
Why don't you like going?
Speaker 3 (43:09):
He doesn't like loud, it has to be like the right
decibel level.
Speaker 2 (43:22):
You have to be able to have a conversation.
The lighting has to be right,yeah, and the food has to be
right.
Speaker 3 (43:24):
There are a few restaurants that I know you like
very few, yes, but those youlike going to, yeah, yeah, okay,
but isn't like experimenting,like oh, there's a new
restaurant, but you guys alsoaren't like foodie people, you
don't eat so like, but let's getback to the okay.
Speaker 2 (43:32):
So this is what I want to say.
Okay, um, because I strugglewith this too and I struggle
with I've had people who werereally like my closest friends
in the world, who you know.
Then suddenly they're not, fora variety of reasons, and I
think that, like with anything,and it can be very painful, but,
(43:55):
um, yeah, going through afriend breakup can be just yeah
it can be heartbreaking, but Ithink that, like you can't hold
on to things like tightly, youknow, I don't not you.
Just in general, I think thatthere's a difference between
trying to like hold on tosomething tightly or being
(44:15):
willing to put in the effortlike you have to show up, like
if you want to have arelationship.
It takes two people who arewilling to go out of their way
when it's not convenient andshow up.
I think you guys remember Ijust flew to california to see
one of my oldest friends becauseI hadn't seen him in years and
(44:38):
um, it's hard, though yeah,you're, you're busy, you're busy
everybody, everybody is.
So I think relationships do ebband flow and people do come in
and out of your life and it is,it's hard and it's sad too, like
somebody who you were really,really, really close to um yeah,
(45:01):
yeah.
Speaker 1 (45:03):
So I don't know what the answer right in your
thoughts, comments, yourthoughts, but.
But I but it's your.
If it's a real friend, you canwith withstand whatever it is
you're going through, and ifit's a bunch of time you don't
have to call and then you catchup.
Speaker 2 (45:19):
And then it's like no time has passed at all.
Right, like then.
It's amazing, because you seethe person and you feel like you
saw them yesterday, which is anincredible thing.
Speaker 1 (45:27):
I really love the fact that we have Instagram and
so, like whoever we have, that'slike a close person.
I see what they're doing, theysee what I'm doing, so when we
get together, we catch right up.
When you have a friend whodoesn't have social media, then
they're like what have you beenup to?
I'm like are you kidding?
Speaker 2 (45:42):
you're really just go through my instagram.
Speaker 1 (45:44):
I'm just um just go through the instagram but like
then, but then I'll just I'llavoid it, I go, I'm just happy,
I'm doing great, we're happy,but hashem, thank god, that's it
.
You can't start that.
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Everybody.
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Speaker 2 (49:04):
Bye.
welcome to.
And here's modi.
And here is modi.
We are back, uh, in the studiohere, uh, it's just not just
just.
It's me, perry l and leo, thethree, the.
What we found out is to be thefavorite of the listeners.
(00:24):
They just want.
They're not looking for a guest, they're looking for what
nourish kite we have to talkabout.
I love that nourish kite alittle nonsense that we have and
they listen to it while theyare washing their dishes,
driving, walking the dog, wantto just block out the family for
(00:45):
a little while.
They put this in their ears andwe are glad and we appreciate
all of you.
We have been doing um questions.
Speaker 3 (00:55):
Reflective questions yeah, I bought these little
conversation starter cards.
Um, you had some too.
I pulled some again for thisepisode, but do you have any
that you wanted to start offwith?
Speaker 2 (01:08):
what's the best piece of advice you have ever been
given?
Speaker 3 (01:14):
no one's ever thinking about you as much as
you think they are.
Speaker 2 (01:19):
I love that for better or for worse?
Speaker 3 (01:21):
I love that whenever you think, oh, I have something
in my teeth or my zipper's downor whatever, no one cares.
No one noticed, and if they did, they didn't care.
And if they did care.
They're going to forget aboutit.
That's mine.
Speaker 1 (01:37):
I don't know.
I've gotten so many, dependswhat comes to mind immediately
Pay your taxes, pay your taxes,oh my God, pay your taxes, best
piece of advice and we pay a lotof taxes.
Speaker 3 (01:51):
We pay a lot.
Let me tell you something.
Speaker 1 (01:53):
Yeah, for what we're paying in taxes.
The IRS should be sending usjokes.
Yeah, they should be.
They should be writing materialfor us.
But pay your taxes is a goodpiece of advice.
You don't want to be messed upin all that stuff.
You see artists and you seedocumentaries on artists that
didn't pay taxes, so that's agreat piece of advice.
Speaker 2 (02:12):
That is a good piece of advice.
Speaker 1 (02:13):
What about you?
Speaker 2 (02:15):
Mine is to be a helper.
You are a helper.
You are a helper, not a buildera helper.
I always rather than yeah, tobe a builder, you are a helper.
Yeah, not a builder a helper.
I always tell that to Ari.
Like to.
Speaker 1 (02:28):
To build people.
Yeah, yes.
Speaker 2 (02:31):
It's like it's easy.
It's as easy to be nice and tohelp.
Like whenever you see anopportunity to help, there's
like a kid who feels out ofplace.
It's like it's always on yourresponsibility.
Speaker 1 (02:46):
Don't look around, always look for opportunities.
They come.
Yeah, what about you?
Yours was what?
No?
Speaker 3 (02:55):
one's thinking about you as much as you think they
are Really Okay.
Speaker 1 (02:59):
No, they really aren't.
Speaker 3 (03:01):
Look at us.
That's it, we're done.
That's my social anxiety, thankyou for coming.
Speaker 1 (03:05):
I'm going to be modilivecom for all of your
tickets.
Speaker 3 (03:07):
Okay, no, I'm kidding .
Do you have another one?
I have one.
Speaker 2 (03:12):
Go.
Speaker 1 (03:14):
What's the best piece of advice you've given people
that I've?
Speaker 3 (03:17):
given people.
Yeah D him girl break up withhim.
Speaker 2 (03:31):
That's my only where it's appropriate, but my some
people just need to hear it,mine is along those lines.
Speaker 3 (03:34):
Yeah, like friend to friend don't, don't marry that
guy have you told that tosomeone before?
Have you really told?
Speaker 1 (03:40):
people don't.
You said someone.
Speaker 3 (03:41):
Don't marry this person yeah, did they.
Did they listen to you?
No, did it turn out well?
No, wow, is it?
How did you know this personFrom childhood, college?
It was.
Speaker 2 (03:54):
She's one of my closest friends since yeah, from
college.
Speaker 3 (03:59):
So you told her don't marry him.
She didn't listen.
How long did it last?
A few years, are you still intouch with this person?
Or yes, that's impressive,because usually, I think, when
someone finds out that they'vehow often do you, how often do
you drop?
Speaker 1 (04:15):
remember when I told you not to marry him and you
married him?
Speaker 2 (04:17):
I never say that, never do that, because I mean it
was there a specific red flagthat made you say that.
Yeah, a few.
Speaker 1 (04:25):
Like what.
Speaker 2 (04:26):
Like finding out he had children that he didn't tell
her about.
Speaker 1 (04:32):
Oh wow, that's a little different.
Speaker 3 (04:33):
Yeah, yeah, okay, okay, okay, that's reasonable,
then that's very reasonable.
I thought you were like.
The vibes are off.
Speaker 1 (04:39):
Yeah, like he doesn't like sushi, how could you be
with someone?
Speaker 3 (04:44):
who doesn't like sushi.
It's not like that.
It's like he had a whole secretfamily.
Speaker 2 (04:48):
Yeah, I mean, that was one that was like the
tipping point for me.
Speaker 3 (04:52):
That might be, that's more.
Speaker 1 (04:56):
How did you know he had a family?
Speaker 2 (04:58):
Because she found out and she told me that she found
out.
Oh, so she knew she didn't knowthey were together for a while
and that she found out.
Oh, so she knew she didn't knowthey were together for a while.
And then she found out this andI said you know, Are you really
sure you're going to marry thisguy?
Speaker 1 (05:16):
Who hasn't told you about his family?
If you told her about thefamily.
Hey look, I have this thinggoing on, yeah, so who?
Speaker 2 (05:21):
cares.
Fine, If he told her what's thebig deal Wow.
Yeah it, who cares?
Fine, If he told her what's thebig deal Right?
Speaker 3 (05:29):
Wow, yeah, it was not a pretty divorce.
Speaker 1 (05:32):
Oy, wow, okay, all right, that's a pretty good
answer, but she wasn't happy tohear it.
Speaker 2 (05:35):
By the way, girls nobody wants their best friend
to tell them that that's a pieceof advice.
That is like you get like a onetime card to hand that to
somebody yeah, and they probablywon't listen.
So you have to be ready to dealwith whatever the ramifications
are for giving somebody thatpiece of advice, potentially
(05:56):
losing them in your life.
For sure.
Speaker 3 (05:59):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (06:03):
But it's better to do that than to witness them blow
up their own life.
Maybe well, I spoiler, spoileralert you witness them blow up
their whole life anyway, becauseusually they're not taking that
advice from you, right?
Speaker 3 (06:13):
yeah, so it's a tough thing have you ever been in
that situation that what I haveto tell everybody that they just
like hey, listen, I know someinformation you don't know or
like no, no, not, nothing, not,not, that, nothing, that crazy
one other time a similar thing.
Speaker 2 (06:32):
Yeah, I was very close, very, very close with
someone and I knew her wife hadslept with one of my friends.
Speaker 1 (06:45):
And.
Speaker 2 (06:46):
And I told my friend don't tell me, I don't want to
know Like I do not want to beinvolved.
But then I had to go tell theother person Because she had
just like nursed me through thisbreakup.
Speaker 3 (06:58):
Because they were cheating.
Yeah, oh, it wasn't like priorto the relationship.
Speaker 1 (07:02):
No, no, no, no, no, and it wasn't like she was okay,
go ahead, hook up with somebody, yeah no, it was not good.
Speaker 3 (07:08):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (07:09):
I hated to be that person, but this person had just
nursed me through somebodycheating on me.
Speaker 3 (07:14):
And they're lesbians.
Yeah, that makes it a wholeother level.
Yeah, another level.
Apologies to any lesbianslistening, but your dynamics are
a little bit more complicatedthan If I would have said that.
Speaker 1 (07:24):
you just said you shouldn't be saying that, yeah,
but you don't understand.
Speaker 3 (07:26):
It's funny because I said it and you didn't.
Okay, so If you could be aworld-class talent on any
instrument, what would it be?
Speaker 1 (07:40):
Wow, what an amazing, A world-class talent on any
instrument the best.
It's going to be a hard toss-uphere, because it's I'm going to
say guitar, because you canstill be front and center with a
guitar.
If you're on the piano, you'rehiding behind that thing and
(08:02):
you're delaying and clapping onit and you've got to drag it to
wherever you're going too Well.
Speaker 3 (08:08):
if you're best in class, someone else is dragging
it for you.
Speaker 1 (08:11):
No, of course, best in class.
You want to say piano, becauseit's the most instrumental of
the instruments.
It is.
Yeah, there's all the keys.
I don't know anything aboutmusic.
All the keys, the keys.
You got the four chords here,the four strings or six strings,
whatever that.
And with you, with your, youknow, with your what is that?
Speaker 2 (08:34):
is that a?
Speaker 1 (08:34):
violin I'm doing.
Yeah, I don't want a violin anda violin you gotta shut up you
can't talk.
Speaker 2 (08:40):
oh, that's a good point you can't show up.
Speaker 1 (08:43):
Just a song in the piano man Dang dang, dang, dang
dang.
Speaker 2 (08:46):
Who's the best piano Like?
It's Gaga, elton John, likeLiberace they're all amazing.
Gaga is a great piano player.
Speaker 1 (08:54):
No one's going to pass Liberace entertainment-wise
on piano.
He killed it.
He was an unbelievable thing.
It was just, of course Gaga'smusical Elton John thing.
Was this of course gaga cangaga's musical?
Uh, elton john's a musicalperson.
They can probably play a bunchof instruments they get behind
the piano.
Okay, now the camera doesn'thave a full vision of them and
it's like you need a guitar.
(09:15):
The guitar is hot when we watchthe eagles.
When we watch the eagles yeahit's like it's down to the town
and it's very.
The coordination is very hard.
You understand that you'replaying the notes.
Speaker 3 (09:25):
It's just a sexier posture.
Speaker 2 (09:27):
That's what I think.
100% guitar, because you get tobe a rock star if you have a
guitar.
But what's your answer?
Guitar, for sure.
Speaker 3 (09:34):
I still think I'd pick piano because I'm not going
automatically to that.
I'm performing in front ofpeople and I need to be on stage
and everything.
I just think having that skillfor myself and like being in a
empty home alone with a pianoand I can like just play piano
for myself, that sounds verycathartic it's so funny that you
(09:57):
went to like you're in a homealone playing and modi and I
immediately placed ourselves.
Speaker 2 (10:02):
I was in front of like tens of thousands of people
.
Speaker 1 (10:05):
I was At the Sphere.
Speaker 2 (10:08):
I was not At the Sphere in Vegas.
Speaker 1 (10:11):
One man showed the Sphere in Vegas With a guitar
and the band like substantiallyfurther behind me, substantially
further behind me.
Speaker 3 (10:21):
You need attention, honey.
You need the spotlight, I don't.
Speaker 1 (10:24):
Yes, but further behind me.
You need attention, honey.
You need the spotlight, yes,but for a reason I want to make
people feel good, that's reallyfunny.
Speaker 3 (10:31):
I can make them feel better with a guitar.
Yeah.
Okay, here's kind of a similarquestion.
And, Perry, I'll prefer to cutyou off.
Cut me off if you are gettingbetter ones over there.
No, no, you're good.
If you weren't self-consciousor worried about failing, what
form of expression would youexplore?
(10:52):
Huh?
Speaker 2 (10:55):
It never occurred to him.
You get it If.
Speaker 3 (10:59):
I were afraid of failing.
If you weren't self-consciousor worried about failing, what
form of expression would youexplore?
Form?
Speaker 1 (11:09):
of expression Like an art painting.
Speaker 3 (11:11):
Singing, writing, dancing.
He doesn't have it.
Speaker 1 (11:14):
Oh, a little more singing, a little more singing.
Speaker 3 (11:16):
Oh, you sing enough honey.
Speaker 1 (11:17):
Nah, but I don't really sing enough.
I should be singing a lot more,but I'm always afraid that I'm
going to be off or something'sgoing to be on Like a key will
be off, but this is if youweren't self-conscious or
worried Singing Okay.
Speaker 3 (11:31):
So what about you?
Speaker 2 (11:33):
Stand-up comedy.
Speaker 3 (11:35):
But you're still self-conscious and worried about
that.
Speaker 2 (11:38):
Oh, yeah, sometimes.
Speaker 3 (11:39):
That's fair, then should you be doing it.
No, I feel like that's normal,I feel like most people.
Speaker 1 (11:46):
Thank you.
Do you know what Thank you?
Can I tell you what I'm goingto do?
Speaker 2 (11:49):
We're crushing all of my hopes and dreams.
Speaker 1 (11:52):
I was asked to leave.
I was asked to not come back toan acting class.
Speaker 2 (11:58):
I don't know if I like where this is going at all.
Speaker 1 (12:01):
Yeah, so I was in an acting class once, right, and
when you, when you go in actingclass, um, it's like in this
black box theater that seatsmaybe 60 people max and the
teacher has the, the class andthe people, you, you get your
scene and you do it and you,some people bring props and some
people bring the table and thechair whatever the scene that
they're doing is and and youwatch everybody else when you
(12:24):
give feedback and then this onegirl goes up, then she's setting
herself up for the scene andyou can tell she's super nervous
.
There's only 12 people in theclass and the teacher and she's
setting herself up and she'ssuper nervous and the teacher
goes.
What are you feeling?
She goes.
I'm feeling nervous and alittle shy and I'm not sure what
(12:48):
I'm feeling, and he's like gowith it.
Whatever they say in the actingclasses.
And they were asking the peoplewhat do you think?
What are you seeing?
They were asking the studentsto tell her what they were.
There was that thing.
And I said to her why are you?
They were asking the studentsto tell her what they were.
There was a hat, that thing.
(13:09):
And then, and and I said I said, I said to her so why are you
here, helpful?
I said why are you here?
You want to be an actor?
There's 12 people here.
If you want to be an actressthere's, you should be.
You should be hoping there's1200 people here no, but that's.
Speaker 2 (13:21):
This is different, though, because I'm never
worried that I'm not going to befunny.
I know I'm funny, I get nervous, I get like stage fright.
Speaker 1 (13:34):
I still get like nervous.
Get it like About what?
Let's go.
What would you be nervous about?
Why would you have stage frightif you know you're going to be
funny?
Speaker 2 (13:40):
I don't know, it's a good question.
I guess that's something to um.
Speaker 1 (13:44):
The only reason you should ever be afraid to get on
stage is if the lighting and thesound is not on, if the
audience is not set for comedy.
Speaker 2 (13:52):
That's the only time you should be nervous if you're
a comedian to get on stage but Italk to comics who have been
doing this for like 30 years,who are considered like some of
like the best comics in the oryou know, in the world, like in
our world, um, and they say thatsometimes they get still get
stage fright.
Speaker 3 (14:12):
I don't know you never get stage fright like it's
not something he's like missingthat I know, that's what I'm
saying.
He doesn't have that shit.
Those people who like don'tfeel pain yeah, and like they
break their arms.
Speaker 2 (14:21):
He's like he doesn't have it.
It's, but it's a fair.
Doesn't have it, but it'sinsane, it is, it's insane,
you're lucky.
Speaker 1 (14:28):
Yeah, the only time I'm nervous if it's not in a
theater or in a place wherecomedy is meant to be done.
And then the sound and thelights.
That's the only thing you getnervous about.
You don't get nervous thatyou're going to forget a line.
Oh, I know I'm going to forgeta line.
Are you insane?
Speaker 2 (14:45):
I don't know On the ride home with Leo.
Speaker 1 (14:48):
You know I forgot to do the diarrhea suicide joke.
Speaker 2 (14:51):
But that doesn't make you nervous I know.
Speaker 1 (14:53):
No, they don't know I forgot the line.
They don't know I forgot theline.
I know I forgot the line.
I'm upset with myself that Iforgot the line, but not nervous
.
I want to forget the line.
The show is off the hook.
They have no idea how they.
I knew it was an 80 where itcould have been 100.
They think it was 100.
They don't know that I was offby 20.
(15:14):
It's a big thing, yeah.
Speaker 3 (15:17):
Yeah, I hear what you're saying, though.
Thank you, leo, I hear youstill get stage fright I think
you are an exemption to the rule.
I think a lot of performers whoare professional performers
still get stage fright sometimes.
Speaker 1 (15:31):
Okay, and it's okay for them.
Speaker 3 (15:36):
Okay, get stage fright.
What message would you put on abillboard for thousands of
people to see every day?
Speaker 1 (15:44):
Create Mashiach energy.
Just create Mashiach energy.
And if you don't know what thatmeans, discuss it with somebody
.
Just discuss Mashiach.
That should be in yourconversation.
Hey, what's Mashiach energy?
I don't know.
It means messianic, so what?
We should create a messianicenergy.
(16:04):
Yeah, like if we were living ina messianic world.
What would the energy be like?
Ah, it'd be like me invitingyou to a comedy show in an hour
and a half.
We're laughing together.
That's a messianic feeling.
That is mashiach energy.
That is what I would put on thebillboard.
Create mashiach energy.
That was the easiest questionwe've ever had in our lives.
Speaker 2 (16:27):
Okay, maybe you should take out a billboard.
Speaker 3 (16:30):
What about you?
Speaker 2 (16:33):
I don't know.
I have to think about that one.
What about you?
Speaker 3 (16:37):
Don't be a dick.
I was going to say go fuckyourself.
Just be nice.
Just be nice, period Just benice, I like that.
If you could gift all humansone thing, what would it be?
Speaker 2 (16:53):
Self-confidence.
Speaker 1 (16:56):
Yeah, no, If I could give a gift to the entire world.
If I could give a gift to theentire world for them to know
that your intentions come true.
(17:16):
To make sure you plan yourintentions out well.
Speaker 3 (17:20):
I was thinking more like logistics.
I was thinking more like I wisheveryone had a place to sleep
at night.
Yeah, I get so sad when I seepeople sleeping outside because
we don't even do that to likemurderers and rapists and like
people in prison.
Like they have a place to sleep, not the ones in el salvador
not the ones in el salvador.
Speaker 2 (17:38):
Hard topics shift okay I am in the middle of a gut
renovation, as you are wellaware, and I have become very
close with my plumber, who lookslike he was cast in the role of
(17:59):
Plummer from a sitcom in the90s.
Hey, sweetheart, is he Israeli?
This really no, he's italianthis guy's been working for me
for 39 years.
He said, uh, next year I wantto get a gold watch for him.
I said, I don't know, I thinkabout it okay um, now it's a
(18:22):
nightmare.
this thing like the house, likethe floor of the house, is in my
yard.
Okay, because we've dug up theentire floor to lay down new
plumbing, because I'm movingeverything and I have not been
able to get in touch with myplumber for like three days.
And it turns out I'm like issomething wrong?
(18:46):
And something wrong.
Speaker 3 (18:46):
and he said actually, yes, he's in the hospital so I
just want to send my prayers andum love to let's see have
someone who can like take overthe reins while he's not well, I
felt like it might not be thatappropriate for me to ask that.
Speaker 2 (19:04):
I think it is appropriate.
I think it is absolutely Ithink you should.
Speaker 3 (19:10):
Who do you?
How do we?
Uh, I, I hope you know you'renot, it's not too serious, but
uh, you know my, yet my yacht.
What'd you say?
Speaker 2 (19:18):
your floor is in your yard my well, I mean, it's like
you have a hole in the in youcan't A hole.
What are?
Speaker 3 (19:24):
you supposed to do.
Speaker 2 (19:26):
I have many holes.
I have three bathrooms thathave been dug up.
Speaker 1 (19:30):
This is a family-friendly podcast.
Why is this not family-friendly?
We don't want to hear aboutPeriel's holes.
Speaker 3 (19:39):
Okay, you did that, not us.
Speaker 2 (19:43):
If anybody has any plumbers that they could send to
me, please DM us.
Speaker 1 (19:49):
Do you know how hard it is To get a referral from
somebody For a plumber?
Speaker 2 (19:53):
This is my fifth plumber and he was amazing To
recommend somebody.
Speaker 1 (20:00):
Do you understand how crazy that is?
Because now, if something goeswrong and you then tell the
person who recommended, theplumber you recommended to me
destroyed my house and has costme thousands and thousands of
dollars.
Speaker 2 (20:13):
What am I going to do , you guys?
Like I can't, I need this to bedone, Like this has been going
on for a year.
Speaker 3 (20:20):
I think you need to speak to him and you need to I
can't speak to him, I can't geta hold of him.
He, I think you need to speakto him and you need to.
I can't speak to him.
I can't get a hold of him.
He's in the hospital, there'sno, you need to go to the
hospital With flowers and awrench and say get back to work.
Speaker 1 (20:33):
No, you have to figure out from him.
How is he going to plan on?
Speaker 3 (20:37):
Yeah, that's completely reasonable, does he
have?
Speaker 1 (20:38):
somebody else, or can you?
Can you get out of this?
Speaker 3 (20:41):
Hello, it's your home .
It's awful that he's sick ornot well or whatever happened.
Speaker 2 (20:47):
We told you this, what am?
Speaker 1 (20:48):
I supposed to do though.
We told you this we were bothlooking for a house at the same
time.
Leo and I bought one that wejust had to bring our toothbrush
and move in.
You said, oh no, I'm going tomove the entire house to the
left side of the property.
I'm going to move this to thewe told you.
Speaker 3 (21:08):
Don't say I told you so that's boring.
Speaker 1 (21:09):
I told you so is boring.
Speaker 2 (21:10):
But, like I said, to tell people I don't know, I told
you, so is boring, but I toldyou so I told you so, but okay
Anyway.
Speaker 3 (21:16):
I'm sorry that that's happening to you.
Awful.
We are currently gettingestimates to.
We love an estimate.
Do to do some work on our homein Connecticut.
Speaker 2 (21:25):
How many estimates do you get before you?
Speaker 3 (21:27):
Not a lot, not a lot.
We are not shopping around.
We found someone we like.
He's a very white-club guy.
We're paying more money than weneed to for it, but we know
we're paying a premium becausehe's the best.
Speaker 2 (21:38):
But one, you get one estimate no we've had Well from
him.
Speaker 3 (21:42):
Now we're on our second estimate because we
changed our mind.
But I'm not no, I'm not gettingestimates from other
contractors, because he'salready done one or two things
for us and he's amazing and thisis like what he does.
Speaker 2 (21:55):
Right.
Speaker 3 (21:56):
And he like checks on the house.
He's like managing the housefor us, like he's also a
contractor, but since we travelso much, we need eyes on the
house.
So he knows the house very well.
What.
Speaker 2 (22:08):
Have you ever spoken to this person?
Speaker 1 (22:11):
All the time.
Speaker 3 (22:12):
I'm the main contact.
Speaker 1 (22:14):
But when it came to the construction part, I was the
man that got involved here.
Speaker 2 (22:18):
That's the part that I'm trying to suss out.
Speaker 1 (22:22):
Yeah, is Guy not involved at all in this.
Your husband not involved atall in this.
Speaker 2 (22:25):
Your husband not involved at all in this no, okay
, I mean he's involved inwriting checks right, and a lot
of them, yeah, yeah but like ifyou're looking at the person
who's like in in the trencheshere okay um, um, oh.
Speaker 3 (22:43):
So if you guys are listening to this, let me just
make sure it's in the oh, it'snot there.
I'm gonna have to put it in thedescription of this episode.
But there's this new thingcalled speak pipe and it's an
app on your phone where you hitrecord and you can leave us a
voicemail so you can like callinto the show and you can ask us
questions.
You could make give feedback.
You can like call into the showand you can ask us questions.
(23:05):
You could make give feedback,you can ask for advice and we
can play.
Just know that if you submit amessage there, you're giving us
permission to potentially embedit in the episode and use it as
part of the show.
Speaker 1 (23:19):
So I'll link that in our instagram and in our and on
that note too, we also have a PObox where you can send letters
that you want me to bring to theRebbe's grave, if you want.
So I have a package now of afew letters that I'm bringing to
with the next time I go to theRebbe's grave.
I will be bringing those, thoseletters, and putting them into
(23:40):
the, into this beautiful big binthat's in front, and that's not
a bin, it's a built outoutcement wall that's around the
grave and people put all oftheir notes in there and I will
be delivering anybody who sendsme their letter.
And you can write if you want meto read it out loud there, or
if you want me to just put theletter down.
Speaker 2 (24:01):
First of all, that's very sweet.
Yeah, is somebody reading theseletters on the other side, or
is it like going to like thewailing wall where you?
Speaker 1 (24:08):
just someone's reading this.
On the other side of olam haba,of the world to come, this
letter is going into aconnection of a higher, higher
power but there's not a personwho's like going through these
letters no, no, I think everyonce in a while they go through
and they burn all of them.
Which brings us to another topic.
I want to talk about that.
The CIA, now we've all realized, has access to our WhatsApp and
(24:32):
our chats and our all of that.
Yeah, mark Zuckerberg said thatCIA has access to our WhatsApp
chats and I want to saygesundheit, have it, take my
WhatsApp chats.
And I want to say gesundheit,have it, take my WhatsApp chat.
Let me tell you what myWhatsApp chats are.
Let me just I'm just serious, Iwant to just tell you right now
(24:53):
, go ahead, read, so you havethis, me and Leo, and anybody
that's ever seen me and Leo'schats would ask Leo, is
everything okay with you andModi?
Speaker 3 (25:03):
Because it's like one word answers.
Speaker 1 (25:06):
I'm heading home.
Okay, see you there Dinner.
I'll make something.
It's like there's no, like hey,with little balloons.
I don't have emojis on my phone.
I have no emojis.
It's yes, no, on the way cominggoing.
Then I have with Dina anybodyfrom the CIA?
Here you go, I'm not eating Iam eating.
Speaker 3 (25:28):
I was gonna eat yesterday.
This is your I message, or yourwhat's up this?
Speaker 1 (25:30):
is on I message and what's up?
Actually the I message we knowthe cia has access to.
Now it's whatsapp too, but thisis the conversation.
I feel so bad for anybody thatis watching out.
My, my, it's so boring, it's solike it's horrible.
Speaker 3 (25:46):
I don't think you have an FBI agent assigned to
you.
Speaker 2 (25:48):
Yeah, I don't think you are quite what they're
looking for, no, but like goahead here.
Speaker 1 (25:53):
I'm not eating today.
I ate yesterday.
I'm going to eat Thursday.
That's the conversation thatthey can listen to, but go ahead
, look at the people's WhatsAppsand find the terrorists.
Speaker 2 (26:05):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (26:06):
That was too much.
Speaker 2 (26:07):
No.
Speaker 3 (26:09):
Do you have one Perrielle?
Speaker 2 (26:11):
What do you normally take for granted?
Speaker 1 (26:16):
Oh, everybody takes one thing for granted always
their health, their health,always.
You take that for granted untilyou don't have it, until you
don't have it.
Speaker 3 (26:24):
I will tell you what I don't take for granted what.
Anytime I turn on a faucet or ashower and clean water comes
out.
We've spoken about that.
I am appreciative of that everyday.
We've spoken about that.
You know, people are like I wasborn in the wrong decade.
I was not born in the wrongdecade.
I was born in the decade oficed coffee, hot water in my
(26:45):
shower At this age and body washof all shapes and sizes and
toiletries.
People stunk 100 years ago.
They didn't shower.
Speaker 2 (26:55):
I have news for you honey People stink right now too
.
What I said, I have news foryou honey People stink right now
too.
Speaker 1 (27:02):
They do.
Some of them really do have aBO, not me, though.
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (27:06):
What did Parker?
Posey say on the I just don'tthink at this age I'm meant to
live an uncomfortable life.
Speaker 2 (27:12):
Yes, you did say that I've always felt like that I
have a good one.
Speaker 1 (27:15):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (27:18):
Do you want to answer that?
Oh, we're health.
We said health, you said water.
Okay, I feel like you're goingto have a good answer for this.
What is something you wantedfor a long time, but once you
acquired it, it didn't quitemeet your expectation.
Oh, um I don't know.
Speaker 3 (27:40):
Those are mez sandals no but that I didn't want those
for a long time.
He didn't want those, I justpicked them up for him, um
something I wanted for a longtime.
Speaker 1 (27:53):
A nose job, did it meet?
Speaker 3 (27:54):
your expectations.
That met my expectations.
What are you talking about?
I'm beautiful Um.
Speaker 2 (28:00):
Love that.
Speaker 3 (28:01):
Let me think about that some more, because I feel
like everything that I've wantedreally badly that I have had
been lucky enough to receive andget.
I'm pretty happy with.
Same same, but do you have ananswer for that?
Speaker 2 (28:19):
um.
Speaker 3 (28:21):
I'll tell you one thing that a house cause you're
missing a plumber.
But if you didn't have, if youweren't missing a plumber, that
might not be your answer onceyou're done with that house,
you'll forget everything.
Speaker 1 (28:31):
You're done with that house, you'll forget everything
you went through.
Once it's done you'll forgeteverything you went through.
Speaker 2 (28:36):
No, I won't, because you're never done.
I don't have a house manager,so every time something happens
it becomes like your whole life.
What did my grandmother say,honey?
It's like having a baby.
They never stop needingsomething from you.
Speaker 1 (28:55):
There's a big difference here.
There's always, obviously, whenyou own property and you have
to do, you have to maintain, youhave to maintain.
But once you finish that mainconstruction, you get to a point
where that's it, no more, nomore workers, no more putting
paper down, that's it, I'm done,I am done, I am done.
(29:18):
And you take a big fat breathfrom it and you're finished and
you forget.
And you're living in the houseand you forget all the hell you
went through with thecontracting to get there.
Later on you start to addsomething or fix something or
change a light fixture, but thatmain thing, when you're done
with it, you feel like wow, whenwe had all the paper left in
(29:43):
the house came out, we were likewe're done and you forgot the
months of hell.
Speaker 3 (29:47):
You went the last few weeks where we were walking
around in flip-flops in thehouse because it was still
sawdust and construction Inch ofdust.
Speaker 1 (29:54):
We were out in the house and then we whatever, but
it's.
Speaker 3 (29:56):
You get that If you could wake up tomorrow having
gained any one quality.
What would it be?
A great night's sleep.
Speaker 1 (30:07):
That's not a quality.
Speaker 2 (30:07):
Oh, such a quality I was going to say a six pack, is
that's not a quality?
Such a quality, I was going tosay a six pack.
Speaker 1 (30:12):
Is that a quality?
He already has that?
Speaker 2 (30:14):
Patience, yeah, but I don't.
Speaker 3 (30:16):
I don't have a six pack.
Speaker 2 (30:19):
Patience.
Speaker 3 (30:20):
I was going to say patience Also, just like the
ability to chill the fuck outPatience.
Like.
Speaker 1 (30:26):
I just want to be To not be anxious.
Speaker 3 (30:29):
Yeah, you want to not be anxious.
Yeah, you'd want to not beanxious.
I would like to be like, notanxious and be able to just calm
down.
Okay, that's all.
Your answer is sleep.
I have another question.
Speaker 2 (30:45):
Can I have more cards ?
Speaker 1 (30:46):
I don't know we're committing to these cards,
aren't we?
Speaker 3 (30:49):
Unless you want to talk about something that you
think is going to engage thelistener.
More People are going to writein their own answers to this and
we're going to get to likeinteract with that?
Speaker 1 (30:58):
I don't know that email you sent that email.
You sent that email.
You Did you like that email.
Do you want me to read it?
I think we should read it.
Okay, we have time.
Okay, okay, received uh againas we do.
You guys know that we wereceive emails and dms and all
kinds of stuff from listenersand we love it and, uh, this one
(31:19):
is kind of heavy.
Speaker 3 (31:21):
Okay, so I'm not going to read the name, but
someone emailed this to me.
Dear modi, leo and perriel,first I would like to let you
know that I really enjoylistening to your podcast,
especially the ones where it'sjust the three of you, and I'm
thrilled that I have a ticketfor your show in Antwerp, modi.
Your singing is so beautifuland a show with you telling
stories and singing songs Ithink would be amazing.
(31:43):
Please don't make me sing.
That goes back.
Speaker 1 (31:46):
We've talked about this.
Please don't make me sing.
Speaker 3 (31:47):
That's a project we're working on Now.
That's a project we're workingon Now for my question.
My father, a Jew, was born inthe Netherlands in 1942.
While his whole family wasdeported to the camps, my father
, who was just a baby, went intohiding with a loving non-Jewish
couple.
His family did not return andmy father grew up with these
(32:11):
non-Jewish people.
Despite this, my father alsogrew up with Jewish traditions,
as he spent time, weekends andholidays with a Jewish family.
My father chose to give hischildren me, my brother and my
sister a non-Jewish upbringing.
I, however, grew up imbued withmy Jewish family's history and
the atrocities of the Holocaustand therefore I feel a strong
(32:33):
connection to the Jews.
However, my mother is notJewish and that means I am not
Jewish either, although myJewish name suggests otherwise.
Because of October 7th and thenegative reaction in the world
towards Israel and the Jews, Ifeel an even stronger kinship
with the Jewish people and Ihave started to delve deeper
into Judaism, but I strugglewith the fact that I am not
(32:54):
jewish.
I feel like an outsiderstanding out.
I do not belong to the jews,but I do feel the hurt and
frustration.
Also, I have a non-jewishpartner that has a hard time
understanding my feelings.
Can you please give me words ofwisdom that will help?
Speaker 1 (33:14):
It's a lot no.
Speaker 2 (33:18):
It can be.
I mean, I think it depends.
The history is a lot.
I think that there are.
She's not alone, though.
I think that there are a lot ofpeople who survived the
Holocaust that went really inthe other direction, that I've
been reading about recently, butI don't think it has to be a
(33:38):
lot.
I think that she does belong.
It's not.
There's not one way you saythis all the time there's not
one way to be Jewish Correct.
It doesn't have to be one orthe other.
I think that she can embracethe parts of her that feels like
that and I think that, um, butdo you think it means?
(33:58):
something spiritual, thatspiritually that she feels such
a gravitational pull towards ityeah, I do, I think that I, I
think it does mean somethingspiritually she doesn't mention
potentially converting right.
Speaker 3 (34:11):
Do you have to?
Speaker 2 (34:12):
convert if your mother is not, if your father's
Jewish?
Speaker 1 (34:16):
yeah it baffles me how much you don't know.
I've never.
I always think to myself wow,we've reached a point where we
Perry L really doesn't know.
But now, if, now that you hadasked that, yes, yes, yes, the
Jewish religion goes by themother.
Speaker 2 (34:34):
That I know.
I know that it goes by themother.
Speaker 3 (34:36):
I have feelings about that, which okay, I know, but I
didn't know that you have to.
Speaker 2 (34:40):
Actually that feels like a little Like if your
father's Jewish, you still haveto convert.
Like that feels like a littlebit much.
Speaker 1 (34:53):
I think you still have to do the traditional
process of conversion.
Speaker 2 (34:54):
Yeah speak to an Orthodox rabbi to get the full.
Get him on the phone.
Speaker 1 (34:56):
No, no For this person first of all.
Speaker 3 (35:00):
I First of all thank you for buying a ticket to
Antwerp Exactly.
Speaker 1 (35:03):
Can't wait to see you there, can't wait to see you in
Antwerp.
Come and say hi, modi willconvert you.
I'll give you.
I'll give you Moshiach energy,yarmulke or hat and you will be
right on your way Again.
I just think again, everythingis just create Moshiach energy.
Now, if something that helpsyou create Moshiach energy is
lighting candles Friday night orhanging a mezuzah on your door,
(35:25):
do it.
If you connect with the energyof lighting a candle Friday
night because it's the Sabbath,do it, whether you're Jewish.
The energy of lighting a candlefriday night because it's the
sabbath, do it, whether you'rejewish or not.
If you want to hang a mezuzahon your door, bring this prayer
that protects your home and putit on your door, do it, do it.
You know it's something thatthat's.
It's a technology that has beenbrought to the world by the
(35:48):
israelites, by the jewish people.
It's here it, and she has aconnection to it, obviously,
because it's in her DNA and it's.
You know, it's in there.
I've seen people who converted,but you can really see that the
soul changed and they had sucha calling for it.
It wasn't because they weremarrying somebody Jewish.
So she obviously has a calling.
(36:09):
Now, if you and your husbandare working this out and he's
okay with the journey you're on,you know that you want to light
candles.
You want to go listen to KolNidre services on Yom Kippur?
Go buy a ticket to thesynagogue and go listen to the
cantus in Kol Nidre.
Do it Again.
You're doing it because it'sgoing to make you a better
(36:30):
person, right?
I don't do anything in theJewish religion unless I'm doing
it because it's going to makeme a better person.
I put on tefillin every daybecause it's going to make me a
better person that day, orthat's at least my intention.
It's not.
So I can tell everybody.
I put on tefillin, you didn't.
I'm better than you.
I'm a better Jew than youbecause I like candlest Friday
(36:53):
night.
No, I like candlest Fridaynight because it's going to give
me an energy of being a betterperson, creating more mashiach
energy, right?
So that's one thing I can.
I can definitely tell thisbeautiful person is that
whatever is on the menu ofjudaism that works for you and
you like, do it a la carte, baby, do it a la carte.
Speaker 3 (37:12):
See what works, see, see where you can find a place
where you can have a shabbatdinner and bring your husband
and he'll feel welcome too um, Iwill say there's something to
be said that she has such adirect connection through via
her father, to the holocaust, ofcourse, because I believe in
like generational, um, trauma,trauma and like memory almost in
(37:36):
your dna, like I think that'sbeen like scientifically proven
at this point, so I feel like Idon't know, there's some.
It's not like she's coming outof nowhere, she's just like, oh,
I just want to be jewish.
Speaker 1 (37:47):
Now, all of a sudden, like she has a direct, she has
a bigger card that she can playin that, in this um at the table
.
You know, she might not be ableto say I'm, I'm jewish
according to dna, but I am asurvivor.
I'm a.
I'm a daughter of a survivor.
My father was my father, not asurvivor, a holocaust victim.
(38:09):
He died right, she said.
Speaker 2 (38:11):
How could he die when he was a baby?
How would she be born?
Speaker 1 (38:14):
Oh, no, no, no, okay, yeah, he escaped.
Speaker 3 (38:16):
He escaped.
Speaker 1 (38:17):
He's a survivor of the.
Speaker 3 (38:17):
Holocaust no he was hidden.
Speaker 2 (38:19):
He was hidden.
His whole family was killed.
He's a survivor.
Speaker 1 (38:23):
That's considered a survivor of the Nazis, yes,
someone that was in hiding andcome out as a survivor of the
nazis.
I know this personally becauseI had one speak with the people
who give aid.
You know, when mr hirsch liveddown the hall from us and he was
in hiding during the war and wetried to get him aid from the
uh, it's called the victims ofnazis.
(38:44):
It's not just holocaustsurvivors, it's victims of not
and he was a victim of that.
He was in hiding because ofnazis yeah, so it's my uncle.
He was the craziest conversationyou ever had.
I called this thing and thewoman that called up was was a
woman who I her name was a veryokay, keep going was a very not
jewish name, and she could tellshe's not jewish.
(39:06):
And she was asking me all thesequestions like and where was he
?
Where was he during during?
Was he during the war?
I said his parents had atimeshare in Florida.
That's where he was.
I'm like you know, but we gotto the point where she was able
to get help.
You know, yeah, people, she hasthat big card to play.
(39:26):
There's a big, big card to playand she should be accepted,
definitely by herself and byother people.
And, again, if at one point shefeels she needs to convert,
never push somebody to convert.
If they're being pushed bytheir inner soul to convert, go
and convert and find yourhappiness.
And God, you listen to us.
Thank God, thank God shelistens to us.
Speaker 2 (39:47):
This is a very Jewish thing you're doing.
Speaker 1 (39:50):
To listen to us.
Yeah, you're getting points.
If you go to a conversion rabbiand said what do you want?
Why do you want a conversion?
I listen to Anhir's Modi.
Speaker 3 (39:58):
He'd be like you're in, you're out of points.
Speaker 1 (40:00):
Done Next.
Speaker 3 (40:03):
I have a question that I struggle with myself
personally.
Speaker 2 (40:09):
Wait, what's?
Speaker 3 (40:10):
your advice to her.
Well, as someone who it doeshave a very strong tie to
judaism at this point via modium, but I am not jewish,
obviously, and I have no planson converting um I don't feel
like I have the right things tosay to her other than finding a
(40:31):
place where you feel welcome,starting with a shabbat dinner
somewhere, um, but I just knowthat's not.
I don't feel that same callingthat she does, so I it's hard
for me to speak to that becauseyour, your father, wasn't in
hiding during the war.
Speaker 1 (40:47):
Yeah, you don't have the same experience as her.
Yeah, you married a jew.
It's a different experience.
Speaker 3 (40:52):
Okay, next question is it better to let
relationships ebb and flow inand out of our lives or
intentionally try to maintainthem?
Wow, wow, perfect question,because I feel like I'm guilty
of both.
Speaker 1 (41:08):
You shouldn't feel guilty again.
Who feels guilty?
Um?
People feel guilty.
Modi, as somebody who has yearson you, we won't say how many.
Speaker 3 (41:20):
What?
Speaker 1 (41:21):
We won't say how many .
Well, I have 22 years on youand I will tell you, I've had
friends when I was in my 30s and20s and relationships change.
Sometimes it's somebody thatyou talk to every single day and
then things change.
Things change, they move, youmove, they come.
You're dating somebody, you'rebusy working.
(41:41):
Things change.
The relationship needs to beable to change A hundred percent
and you shouldn't feel guiltyif you don't see them for a big
chunk of time.
Speaker 3 (41:52):
I just feel like there are other people who it is
a skill they have to know howto check in on people, how to
like show up for people even ifthey're far away, even if
there's a long distance thing.
There are people like people Iwent to college with, who are
like still very close eventhough they live in different
places now and I see you knowthey do weekends together.
I'm not good at that.
(42:12):
I never stayed in touch withpeople like that.
Speaker 1 (42:15):
It's very hard for me Me neither- I have the people
in my life now, people that Imet.
I have almost no friends fromcollege, almost no friends from
high school that I are close,nothing.
But I have the people now.
So if I do see and I don't onFacebook two friends from high
school that are piling around,good for them.
Speaker 2 (42:35):
I don't need to be piling around.
Speaker 1 (42:36):
That's not what I'm asking.
By the way, when we are in town, we invite all our friends over
to come over for sushi and wesit and we catch up.
We have an amazing time Doingthat tonight and you go to
movies and restaurants, which Ihate going to with your friends.
Speaker 3 (42:53):
At least you said on record that you hate going to
restaurants, because every timeI tell you you hate coming to
restaurants you go.
I don't like going torestaurants you hate going to
restaurants.
He doesn't like going torestaurants.
Speaker 2 (43:03):
Do you like going to restaurants?
Speaker 3 (43:05):
I love a good restaurant.
Speaker 2 (43:06):
I love a good restaurant.
Obviously there's badrestaurants.
Why don't you like going?
Speaker 3 (43:09):
He doesn't like loud, it has to be like the right
decibel level.
Speaker 2 (43:22):
You have to be able to have a conversation.
The lighting has to be right,yeah, and the food has to be
right.
Speaker 3 (43:24):
There are a few restaurants that I know you like
very few, yes, but those youlike going to, yeah, yeah, okay,
but isn't like experimenting,like oh, there's a new
restaurant, but you guys alsoaren't like foodie people, you
don't eat so like, but let's getback to the okay.
Speaker 2 (43:32):
So this is what I want to say.
Okay, um, because I strugglewith this too and I struggle
with I've had people who werereally like my closest friends
in the world, who you know.
Then suddenly they're not, fora variety of reasons, and I
think that, like with anything,and it can be very painful, but,
(43:55):
um, yeah, going through afriend breakup can be just yeah
it can be heartbreaking, but Ithink that, like you can't hold
on to things like tightly, youknow, I don't not you.
Just in general, I think thatthere's a difference between
trying to like hold on tosomething tightly or being
(44:15):
willing to put in the effortlike you have to show up, like
if you want to have arelationship.
It takes two people who arewilling to go out of their way
when it's not convenient andshow up.
I think you guys remember Ijust flew to california to see
one of my oldest friends becauseI hadn't seen him in years and
(44:38):
um, it's hard, though yeah,you're, you're busy, you're busy
everybody, everybody is.
So I think relationships do ebband flow and people do come in
and out of your life and it is,it's hard and it's sad too, like
somebody who you were really,really, really close to um yeah,
(45:01):
yeah.
Speaker 1 (45:03):
So I don't know what the answer right in your
thoughts, comments, yourthoughts, but.
But I but it's your.
If it's a real friend, you canwith withstand whatever it is
you're going through, and ifit's a bunch of time you don't
have to call and then you catchup.
Speaker 2 (45:19):
And then it's like no time has passed at all.
Right, like then.
It's amazing, because you seethe person and you feel like you
saw them yesterday, which is anincredible thing.
Speaker 1 (45:27):
I really love the fact that we have Instagram and
so, like whoever we have, that'slike a close person.
I see what they're doing, theysee what I'm doing, so when we
get together, we catch right up.
When you have a friend whodoesn't have social media, then
they're like what have you beenup to?
I'm like are you kidding?
Speaker 2 (45:42):
you're really just go through my instagram.
Speaker 1 (45:44):
I'm just um just go through the instagram but like
then, but then I'll just I'llavoid it, I go, I'm just happy,
I'm doing great, we're happy,but hashem, thank god, that's it
.
You can't start that.
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modilivecom for all of ourupcoming tour dates.
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We're going to be in Europe in May and then we have
shows domestically in the summerand I'm working on finalizing
fall routing, which includescities like Atlanta and
Vancouver and San Francisco anda bunch of other cities you guys
have been asking for.
So please sign up for themailing list.
Go to Modi's website type inyour email so that whenever I
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send out ticket links, you getthem and you don't miss us when
we're yeah, we're flying over.
Speaker 1 (47:44):
Look, it's nothing europe.
We're going to warsaw, we'regoing to manchester, munich,
frankfurt, geneva and antwerp.
If you're not living there,find somebody who you know is
and say, hey, you know, modi'scoming to where you are.
And then also Indianapolis,columbus, hampton Bays, omaha,
nebraska yeah, help us find theJews there.
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Let somebody who you think isgoing to love comedy with a
Jewish flavor go see ModiModiLivecom.
Be the friend that brings thefriends to the comedy show.
Thank you very much forlistening.
Go see Mody ModyLivecom.
Be the friend that brings thefriends to the comedy show.
Thank you very much forlistening.
I hope we've helped you.
Just have a nice hour or 45minutes or 15 minutes, whatever
we did here, just to stop yourthinking about things that
(48:29):
aren't fun, that's it.
And then maybe provoke you tothink of something that wants
you to send us a DM or a messageor that voice message on what's
it called?
Speaker 3 (48:40):
I'll link it.
On it's called SpeakPipe I'lllink it in the description of
the episode.
You can send us a voicemail.
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That's it.
So get on CrackPipe.
Give us a message, speakpipe.
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Let us know you can send usanything you want to the PO Box,
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The address is listed in all the descriptions of the
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That's it.
Speaker 1 (49:00):
Everybody.
Thank you very much.
Hope you're having a great life.
Speaker 2 (49:04):
Bye.
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