Exiles Within: Healing the Wounded Parts That Hold Your Deepest Truth | NowShift August 09, 2025

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Have you ever been blindsided by an emotional reaction so intense, it felt like you’d suddenly turned back into your younger, more vulnerable self? Those moments are the voice of your exiles—parts of you that carry your deepest, unprocessed wounds.

In this powerful episode of Antifragilient OS – NowShift Daily Transmissions, Dr. Abhimanyou Raathore uncovers how overwhelming childhood experiences push these parts into hiding, where they remain frozen in time, holding painful beliefs like “I’m not enough” or “I’m never safe.” While they lie dormant most days, certain triggers—a tone of voice, a stray comment, a familiar smell—can awaken them instantly, flooding you with emotions that seem far bigger than the situation.

Through deeply personal stories—childhood night terrors, the sting of a father’s dismissive words—Dr. Raathore shows how to recognize these exiled parts and approach them with compassion. When unburdened, these once-wounded parts transform into your most tender, creative, and connection-oriented qualities.

You’ll learn practical steps to build trust with your exiles, heal the old pain they hold, and reclaim the gifts they’ve been guarding all along. Because becoming truly Antifragilient isn’t about locking away vulnerability—it’s about turning it into your greatest strength.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:01):
Today is August 9th 2025.
My name is Dr Abhimanyu Rathoreand I am the founder of the
Anti-Fragilient Operating System.
The anti-fragilienttransmission for the day is

(00:21):
today.
We will talk about exiles.
Yesterday, we talked aboutfirefighters day.
Yesterday, we talked aboutfirefighter day, before we
talked about managers.
These were protective parts andthey were protecting you as self
, and they were protectingsomething else from you.
Who is that something else?
That something else is theexiles.

(00:44):
Exiles have a mantra that I'munlovable, I'm worthless, I
don't matter, I'm never safe andI'm overwhelmed.
So what are exiles?
Exiles are actually the partsthat hold old trauma and
unprocessed wounds.

(01:05):
When overwhelming things happen, these parts, they step forward
to hold the associated distressand then they get exiled to a
corner of your psyche.
Why?
So that you can get on witheveryday life.
They just disappear.
Okay, why?

(01:26):
So that you can get on witheveryday life?
They just disappear, theseunprocessed feelings.
They stay locked away, lying inwait until a present-day
trigger comes along to stir themup.
That could be in the form of athought, feeling, sensation,
something that somebody said,some visual cue that you got.

(01:48):
Something of that sort, becausewithin the stored memories of
the past, our exiles carryprofound feelings of shame,
terror and loneliness.
Terror and loneliness.
They also hold distortedbeliefs that they're unworthy,

(02:11):
unlovable, at risk andcompletely alone.
Okay, so now you see whathappens.
Now let's go ahead and look atwhat happens when these exiled
parts become unburdened, whenyou, as self help them become
unburdened.
You know so what happens isbecause they exile right, so

(02:37):
they don't develop.
So, these exiles, they remainthe same age as they were at the
time of the traumatic event, sothey never get any older.
But just like kids, they wantto be heard and witnessed with
compassion.
And once you, as self, are ableto do that, they won't have to

(02:58):
live in the past anymore andthey will become your most
sensitive, playful, creative andintimacy-loving parts.
You know that.
And intimacy loving parts.
You know that softness insideyou, that ready to be vulnerable
part inside you, parts insideyou which make you feel so

(03:23):
connectable.
Yeah, that's exiles for you,unburdened exiles.
And to bring them there, it'sonly you, my friend, as self,
who can ready for the exercise,for the day.
Let's have that.
So here are your exercises, orthe questions that help's have

(03:44):
that.
So here are your exercises, orthe questions that help you
think about exiles here.
Now think about it?
Have you ever been upset, youknow, and had the uncomfortable
sense that you were a vulnerablechild again?
You know this often happenswhen a parent or authority

(04:05):
figure expresses disapproval.
I remember a time when myfather expected me to get a
certain grade and I did not andhe ended up saying a very
dismissive thing.
He ended up saying somethinglike I think the best you can do
is if you just pass, thatreally hurt me deep and I know,

(04:28):
you know that was an exile partof me.
That was an exile that gotaffected until I went ahead and
worked as self with that exile.
Can you connect with a similarthing?
Second question Can you thinkof a time when you were filled

(04:53):
with shame, loneliness or terror, because this could be an exile
showing you what it was like tobe you at that age?
I remember a time when you know,in this particular house where
we were living, a time when youknow, in this particular house

(05:14):
where we were living, I, youknow, every night, one o'clock
in the night I used to get up,or one o'clock in the morning,
whatever you want to call it, Iused to get up and all sweaty
and freaking, terrified, becauseI used to imagine these ghosts
and everything.
And it was that crazy terror atthat time.
Everything, and it was thatcrazy terror at that time.

(05:39):
And I used to every day go andknock on my parents' bedroom
door and my parents used to takeme in and my dad used to wrap
his hands or his arms around meand make me sleep.
That was the everyday ritualtill we stayed in that house.
Yeah, so that was an exile partof me.
Think about these times andjust go ahead and be grateful

(06:10):
for these beautiful, small,sensitive parts of yours that
have chosen to exile to ensurethat you can go on.
Do let me know how thesesessions are going, how these
transmissions are landing foryou, and share it with people,
as I mentioned yesterday, shareit with the people who you might

(06:32):
think or who you think canreally benefit from this.
Let's help people.
That's what the anti-frigilantoperating system is all about
Spreading this message ofbecoming anti-frigilant for
humanity.
I'll see you tomorrow, andtomorrow we'll go deeper in

(07:01):
understanding these parts better, so that you will be very, very
clear very soon about what'shappening with you as an
individual.
Okay, so I'll see you tomorrow.
Take care, bye-bye.