Meet Your Committee: The Voice Wars In Your Head | NowShift August 01, 2025

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Ever feel like different parts of you are pulling in opposite directions?

In this powerful transmission, Dr. Abhimanyou Raathore — Clinical Psychologist, Functional Medicine Practitioner, and creator of the Antifragilient OS — introduces the life-changing lens of Internal Family Systems (IFS).

Inside each of us lives a “committee” of voices — the one who wants to keep you safe, the one who longs for love, the one who pushes for success, the one who feels tired or unseen. These aren't random thoughts. They're protective parts, formed over time to help you survive.

And they have opinions about everything — from what to eat for dinner to which partner to choose, which job to accept, which car to drive, or what kind of life to build.

But here's the breakthrough: Until these parts feel seen, heard, honoured and loved, they’ll keep hijacking your goals, sabotaging progress, and confusing your clarity.

Dr. Raathore shows how aligning as Self — as a loving parent to these parts - allows you to lead this inner system with compassion and power. When your Self is in charge, your decisions come from wholeness, not from wounded reactions.

This isn’t mindset work. It’s soul-level leadership.

🎧 Listen now. Your Self has been waiting to take the seat at the head of the table.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:01):
Today is August 1st 2025.
My name is Dr Abhimanyu Rathoreand I am the founder of the
Anti-Fragilient Operating System.
Anti-fragilient transmissionfor the day introduces you to a

(00:26):
concept which came from apsychologist called Robert
Schwartz, and this concept iscalled internal family systems.
And this is such an importantconcept that, if you understood

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this well, suddenly this willchange your relationships, your
life, your ability to formhabits and keep them, your
ability to form habits and keepthem, your ability to think
about goals and achieve themeverything.
So what does this talk about?

(01:15):
This talks about so very simply.
This talks about the fact thatwe have got a self within us
with a capital S, which isconstantly connected to the
source God, universe, whateveryou want to call it and we have

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multiple parts in our psychethat have their own individual
feelings and thoughts, that havetheir own individual feelings
and thoughts, and the fact isthat you cannot form a

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relationship with anybodyoutside till the time you don't
have a relationship with theseparts.
Or, let's put it at this, thatyour relationships outside of
yourself, as in, like outside ofthis internal family is just a
reflection of how therelationships are within this

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family, just like it happens ina human family, where we have,
you know, similar kind ofrelationships with our partners,
based on the relationship wehad with our opposite gender
parent, or what relationship wedid not have, for example, for

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example.
So if you want to have a goodrelationship outside, whether at
work, whether with asignificant other, or with your
child or anybody, you, as thatself that is constantly
connected to the source, to theuniverse, to God or whatever you
want to call it, would like tohave a great relationship with

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these parts, where these partsfeel heard, seen, felt, honored
and loved, because if they don't, then they at any point in time

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could, out of a sense ofself-protection, sabotage any
relationship of yours, couldsabotage any plan of yours,
because they are not feelingcomforted, because they are not

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feeling comforted.
So the first way ofincorporating this understanding
into your life is realizingthat whenever you feel that
surge of emotions say you areangry, you are upset, you are
really feeling that somebody hasbeen unfair to you.
You would like to now starttalking like this that some of

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my parts, or one of my parts, isfeeling upset or is feeling
angry, or is feelingmarginalized, or is feeling
taken advantage of.
Why is this distinctionimportant?
Because this creates apossibility for you to unblend

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from these parts and then caterto them, care about them like a
loving parent would Think aboutit.
Now, to just illustrate this,let me give you an example of

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how these parts behave.
Say, for example, you decidethat you want to eat something
today and then you're making upyour mind as to what you want to
eat.
So you hear a part of yours saythat let's have Chinese today.
Then there's another part ofyou that says, let's have
Mexican.
Oh, I love the burrito bowls.

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There's another part of youthat says that you know, I
really want to have some indianfood.
You know some chicken, tikka orwhatever, okay.
And there's another part of youthat says, oh, I need some
comfort food, like pizzas,burgers, hot chocolate, fudges.
And there's yet another part ofyou that says you know what,

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maybe you should eat healthy,maybe that'll help you a lot.
Tell me you've not had thissituation in your life.
Write in the comment, you know,share it with me that, whether
you've had such a situation ornot because I've certainly had,
and it's not just in decisionsrelated to food, it could be in
decisions related to the car youwant to buy, the house you want

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to live in, the person you want, date, the career you want to
choose.
It could be anything.
These parts have an opinion,anything.
These parts have an opinion.
And only and only and only ifthey feel seen, heard, felt,
loved and honored would they letyou take an independent

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decision.
So the next time you'rethinking about a relationship or
how you want to conduct yourexisting relationship, remember
this.
Or any significant decision,remember this I'll see you
tomorrow.
Till then, bye-bye.