August 4, 2025 • 15 mins
Ever feel like your mind is a noisy room full of voices, all talking at once?
That’s what happens when your inner parts are running the show. In this episode, Dr. Abhimanyou Raathore introduces the Nine C’s of Self-Energy — a practical, deeply healing framework that shows you what it’s like to lead from your true Self.
You’ll discover how each “C” naturally flows into the next:
- How Curiosity (not fury) opens the door to healing
- How Calm arises when you're no longer hijacked by your parts
- How Clarity and Connection grow from deep listening
- How Confidence is built through honest, internal relationship
- How Courage leads to real accountability and growth
- How Creativity blossoms when parts feel unburdened
- How Compassion becomes your default state
- And how Choice — real, conscious choice — returns
This isn't just theory. It's a lived experience. One that rewires how you see yourself and how you respond to the world. And it’s a foundational step in building your Antifragilient Operating System — one where Self leads, and life becomes flow.
🎧 Tune in to learn how to spot these C’s in your own life — and why noticing them is the first step to becoming unshakably whole.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Today is August 4th 2025.
My name is Dr Abhimanyu Rathoreand I'm the founder of the
Anti-Fragilient Operating System.
Here is the Anti-FragilientTransmission for the day.
(00:22):
Yesterday, we had talked aboutself-energy and we had begun the
process of you being able torecognize this ever-present
self-energy in you, which isactually who you are, and I took
(00:51):
you through three exercises tobegin that recognition.
If you haven't had a chance ofgoing through that episode,
please go, can really help you.
Now building further, let'sunderstand the essential
(01:12):
characteristics of self-energy.
They're pretty logical and onceyou start looking at it that
way and seeing it flow, you'llbe able to see their presence in
your life, and they're prettysimple to remember too and then
(01:37):
to recognize.
They're called the nine C's ofself-energy, as in C, as in
Charlie not S-E-A, but nine C's,yeah, but they feel as
expansive as probably nine C'sor more.
Now, what happens is that whenyou're connected to who you
(02:03):
actually are, that is, yourself,to your essence, you actually
are in a state of what is calledthe self-energy, and that is
characterized, as I said, by thenine C's, and the first C out
of that is curiosity.
So what is curiosity?
Curiosity is essentially aboutyou being able to focus your
(02:27):
attention inside and then tuninginto any thoughts, feelings or
sensations that you find.
So what you're doing in theprocess is now you're getting
curious about it instead ofgetting furious about it.
(02:47):
Okay, that's a key difference.
So now you're like interesting.
So one of my favorite words inthe world is interesting
Anything that I find my parts do.
I end up first sayinginteresting, because that shifts
(03:10):
my understanding, it shifts theway I'm looking at that
situation and it instantly helpsme come back to self-energy,
rather than getting blended withthe part or the group of parts.
And when I do that, itautomatically brings out the
second C, which is calm.
(03:31):
Okay, because now, when I'mfocusing inside and I am tending
to my part's concerns, you knowthere is a greater sense of
calm that settles over me, right?
So when you do the same, youfocus inside, and now, with that
(03:57):
curiosity, you are tending toall the concerns that your parts
are bringing to you.
And that leads us to the thirdC, which is clarity.
You know, many a times ithappens.
It happens with me too, it'llhappen with you too.
That you know you feel as ifall your parts are talking at
(04:23):
once, and the fact of the matteris that sometimes they are
truly.
And as you are now a curious anda calm listener, you will
become a better listener.
You will now experience newclarity in your inner as well as
(04:47):
your outer worlds.
Okay, and as you become abetter listener, what would it
do?
It would lead automatically tothe next C, which is
connectedness.
Now, this refers to yourability, okay, to feel connected
(05:10):
to all your parts and to othersaround you as well parts and to
others around you as well.
And what led to that?
What led to that was a simpleshift that began with having a
view of, or view set of, or aviewpoint of curiosity versus
(05:30):
being furious, and thatcuriosity suddenly made you like
a child and took you back tothat calm space where you're
observing, noticing.
Then you had clarity, becausenow you were all interested in
becoming a better listener andtherefore you had greater
(05:50):
clarity in your inner and outerworld.
Now, when you became a betterlistener, there is more
information that you couldgather about your parts and
about people around you.
So your sense of connectednessand even how connected your
parts will feel to you and howpeople around you will feel to
(06:12):
you, how connected thatincreases.
And as that increases now youknow what, as they say,
relationships matter the most ina person's life, much more than
the materialistic gains oranything else that we can ever
fathom.
The quality of yourrelationships is what determines
(06:34):
the quality of your life.
The quality of yourrelationships is what determines
the quality of your life, andthe first relationships that you
have are with your paths.
So, as these start becomingbetter because now you are
curious, you are calm, you haveclarity, you're feeling that
(06:56):
sense of connectedness, yourconfidence grows, you know, and
you truly become confident.
Okay, and now you start feelingcertain that you're worthwhile.
And that is even when othersdisagree with you or oppose you,
because you know that even thedisagreeing with you is giving
(07:18):
you new information, is givingyou new ways of understanding
them better, even when theyoppose you.
Right, it actually goes aheadand gives you more ways of
understanding them, knowing them, connecting with them.
That's what leads to thisconfidence, and when you're
(07:40):
feeling that confidence, thatleads naturally to the next C,
which is courage.
Okay, so this is about havingthe courage to stand up for you
as self and also for others.
That is your parts and also toapologize for your mistakes,
(08:04):
because you know that there'severy situation that can be
solved, resolved, gotten rid of.
So it changes your attitudesuddenly, and now you're not
operating out of any smalllittle part or anything which is
any closer to ego.
(08:25):
You have the courage to saythat.
You know what I think.
The stance that I'm taking hereas self is what I would stick
to.
While you do that, you still goahead and explain it to your
parts, to enroll them, to bringthem on right that this is what
I'm doing.
Why am I doing?
(08:46):
And if you have to sometimestake a stance for your parts,
okay, or for somebody outsideyou, you're able to do that
because now you're coming fromthat space, okay, and people
don't mind it, your parts don'tmind it, okay.
And if you go wrong, because wecan right, we can, having the
(09:12):
guts, having the courage toapologize for your mistakes.
Now, how do you do that?
Okay, or when you do that, whathappens?
That opens up a space for you.
That courage opens up a spacefor you of beginning the shift
(09:33):
from survival mentality, whichall your parts are always stuck
on, okay, right To suddenlyhelping those parts become freer
.
They'll start freeing up, andwhen they start freeing up, you
know what will happen.
(09:54):
Each of these parts which arecurrently behaving in in a
shadow manner, in a shadowfrequency.
They have a hidden gift.
As you, as self, unlock that,okay, creativity blossoms
Suddenly in every situation.
You'll have creative solutionsthat will start flowing more
(10:17):
effortlessly, more at ease, bothinside, okay, your system and
generally in life, and you'll belike, oh my God, wow, life
feels so easy, life feels sobeautiful.
And as that is happening, thisalso leads you to start truly
(10:43):
seeing your parts for who theyare.
You know flawed and all issuesand all, but they're real,
they're yours and each one ofthem is hiding, as I said, a
gift, a talent, and your being,this presence in their life,
unlocks that.
And your being, this presencein their life, unlocks that.
(11:07):
So this presence of yoursbecomes that compassion.
So you are that compassion nowthat is able to extend love to
your parts, even though youmight not like it.
You might not like what they'resuggesting, feeling or the way
they are behaving in that moment.
(11:27):
But you understand thatunconditional love or this
compassion, is something whichis exactly that.
It's unconditional.
You give it all the timeBecause that's for the space
maintenance, that's for whothese parts are originally.
(11:48):
They're burdened right now, butthat doesn't mean that that's
who they are.
They have the capacity to makeyou a multifaceted person.
Okay, it's like adding thesecharacteristics, these abilities
, to yourself.
That's what they are.
They are amazing.
(12:08):
They're just stuck and you'rehelping them unlock.
And when you do all this, whenyou start doing this, you will
suddenly notice another shift.
Doing this, you will suddenlynotice another shift.
You will notice that situationsin which you earlier felt stuck
(12:29):
because actually it wasn't youfeeling stuck, it was your parts
feeling stuck and you justblended with them your seat of
consciousness, as I talked aboutin the last session or last
episode, was feeling stuck Now,suddenly, you tend to have a
choice.
Okay, even the toughest ofsituations look as if there is a
(12:52):
choice and you feel freer fromwithin.
Okay, you feel there's nothingthat is forcing you to do
anything and you can choose.
Interesting, isn't it?
Do let me know in your commentswhat you think.
Right?
(13:13):
I would love to hear how thisis helping you.
Now, ready for some exercises?
Okay, let's have them.
The exercises are this Now.
What I want you to do is now.
This is not an exercise thatyou need to do with me here, but
I want you to remember a timewhen you felt the presence of
(13:34):
any of these nine C's?
Yeah, yeah, and also during thecoming week, I want you to pay
attention to moments when youfeel any of the 9Cs and make a
mental note of that, because youknow what, as I said, anything
(14:00):
that you focus on tends to grow.
Okay, because whatever youfocus on tends to grow.
Okay, because whatever you giveyour attention to right You'll
become attentive to, andwhatever you become attentive to
you'll give your energy to,because attention directs energy
.
Yeah, and when you startfocusing on the nine C's,
(14:26):
they'll start growing and youwill start noticing these
moments more and more, and itwould feel as if your life is
getting filled with thesemoments.
Sounds nice, yeah, oh, it'sbeautiful.
Try it out, see it, it'sfantastic.
(14:51):
I will see you tomorrow andwhen I see you tomorrow, I will
talk about what isself-leadership.
Do tune in.
Thank you very much.
Bye-bye.
Today is August 4th 2025.
My name is Dr Abhimanyu Rathoreand I'm the founder of the
Anti-Fragilient Operating System.
Here is the Anti-FragilientTransmission for the day.
(00:22):
Yesterday, we had talked aboutself-energy and we had begun the
process of you being able torecognize this ever-present
self-energy in you, which isactually who you are, and I took
(00:51):
you through three exercises tobegin that recognition.
If you haven't had a chance ofgoing through that episode,
please go, can really help you.
Now building further, let'sunderstand the essential
(01:12):
characteristics of self-energy.
They're pretty logical and onceyou start looking at it that
way and seeing it flow, you'llbe able to see their presence in
your life, and they're prettysimple to remember too and then
(01:37):
to recognize.
They're called the nine C's ofself-energy, as in C, as in
Charlie not S-E-A, but nine C's,yeah, but they feel as
expansive as probably nine C'sor more.
Now, what happens is that whenyou're connected to who you
(02:03):
actually are, that is, yourself,to your essence, you actually
are in a state of what is calledthe self-energy, and that is
characterized, as I said, by thenine C's, and the first C out
of that is curiosity.
So what is curiosity?
Curiosity is essentially aboutyou being able to focus your
(02:27):
attention inside and then tuninginto any thoughts, feelings or
sensations that you find.
So what you're doing in theprocess is now you're getting
curious about it instead ofgetting furious about it.
(02:47):
Okay, that's a key difference.
So now you're like interesting.
So one of my favorite words inthe world is interesting
Anything that I find my parts do.
I end up first sayinginteresting, because that shifts
(03:10):
my understanding, it shifts theway I'm looking at that
situation and it instantly helpsme come back to self-energy,
rather than getting blended withthe part or the group of parts.
And when I do that, itautomatically brings out the
second C, which is calm.
(03:31):
Okay, because now, when I'mfocusing inside and I am tending
to my part's concerns, you knowthere is a greater sense of
calm that settles over me, right?
So when you do the same, youfocus inside, and now, with that
(03:57):
curiosity, you are tending toall the concerns that your parts
are bringing to you.
And that leads us to the thirdC, which is clarity.
You know, many a times ithappens.
It happens with me too, it'llhappen with you too.
That you know you feel as ifall your parts are talking at
(04:23):
once, and the fact of the matteris that sometimes they are
truly.
And as you are now a curious anda calm listener, you will
become a better listener.
You will now experience newclarity in your inner as well as
(04:47):
your outer worlds.
Okay, and as you become abetter listener, what would it
do?
It would lead automatically tothe next C, which is
connectedness.
Now, this refers to yourability, okay, to feel connected
(05:10):
to all your parts and to othersaround you as well parts and to
others around you as well.
And what led to that?
What led to that was a simpleshift that began with having a
view of, or view set of, or aviewpoint of curiosity versus
(05:30):
being furious, and thatcuriosity suddenly made you like
a child and took you back tothat calm space where you're
observing, noticing.
Then you had clarity, becausenow you were all interested in
becoming a better listener andtherefore you had greater
(05:50):
clarity in your inner and outerworld.
Now, when you became a betterlistener, there is more
information that you couldgather about your parts and
about people around you.
So your sense of connectednessand even how connected your
parts will feel to you and howpeople around you will feel to
(06:12):
you, how connected thatincreases.
And as that increases now youknow what, as they say,
relationships matter the most ina person's life, much more than
the materialistic gains oranything else that we can ever
fathom.
The quality of yourrelationships is what determines
(06:34):
the quality of your life.
The quality of yourrelationships is what determines
the quality of your life, andthe first relationships that you
have are with your paths.
So, as these start becomingbetter because now you are
curious, you are calm, you haveclarity, you're feeling that
(06:56):
sense of connectedness, yourconfidence grows, you know, and
you truly become confident.
Okay, and now you start feelingcertain that you're worthwhile.
And that is even when othersdisagree with you or oppose you,
because you know that even thedisagreeing with you is giving
(07:18):
you new information, is givingyou new ways of understanding
them better, even when theyoppose you.
Right, it actually goes aheadand gives you more ways of
understanding them, knowing them, connecting with them.
That's what leads to thisconfidence, and when you're
(07:40):
feeling that confidence, thatleads naturally to the next C,
which is courage.
Okay, so this is about havingthe courage to stand up for you
as self and also for others.
That is your parts and also toapologize for your mistakes,
(08:04):
because you know that there'severy situation that can be
solved, resolved, gotten rid of.
So it changes your attitudesuddenly, and now you're not
operating out of any smalllittle part or anything which is
any closer to ego.
(08:25):
You have the courage to saythat.
You know what I think.
The stance that I'm taking hereas self is what I would stick
to.
While you do that, you still goahead and explain it to your
parts, to enroll them, to bringthem on right that this is what
I'm doing.
Why am I doing?
(08:46):
And if you have to sometimestake a stance for your parts,
okay, or for somebody outsideyou, you're able to do that
because now you're coming fromthat space, okay, and people
don't mind it, your parts don'tmind it, okay.
And if you go wrong, because wecan right, we can, having the
(09:12):
guts, having the courage toapologize for your mistakes.
Now, how do you do that?
Okay, or when you do that, whathappens?
That opens up a space for you.
That courage opens up a spacefor you of beginning the shift
(09:33):
from survival mentality, whichall your parts are always stuck
on, okay, right To suddenlyhelping those parts become freer
.
They'll start freeing up, andwhen they start freeing up, you
know what will happen.
(09:54):
Each of these parts which arecurrently behaving in in a
shadow manner, in a shadowfrequency.
They have a hidden gift.
As you, as self, unlock that,okay, creativity blossoms
Suddenly in every situation.
You'll have creative solutionsthat will start flowing more
(10:17):
effortlessly, more at ease, bothinside, okay, your system and
generally in life, and you'll belike, oh my God, wow, life
feels so easy, life feels sobeautiful.
And as that is happening, thisalso leads you to start truly
(10:43):
seeing your parts for who theyare.
You know flawed and all issuesand all, but they're real,
they're yours and each one ofthem is hiding, as I said, a
gift, a talent, and your being,this presence in their life,
unlocks that.
And your being, this presencein their life, unlocks that.
(11:07):
So this presence of yoursbecomes that compassion.
So you are that compassion nowthat is able to extend love to
your parts, even though youmight not like it.
You might not like what they'resuggesting, feeling or the way
they are behaving in that moment.
(11:27):
But you understand thatunconditional love or this
compassion, is something whichis exactly that.
It's unconditional.
You give it all the timeBecause that's for the space
maintenance, that's for whothese parts are originally.
(11:48):
They're burdened right now, butthat doesn't mean that that's
who they are.
They have the capacity to makeyou a multifaceted person.
Okay, it's like adding thesecharacteristics, these abilities
, to yourself.
That's what they are.
They are amazing.
(12:08):
They're just stuck and you'rehelping them unlock.
And when you do all this, whenyou start doing this, you will
suddenly notice another shift.
Doing this, you will suddenlynotice another shift.
You will notice that situationsin which you earlier felt stuck
(12:29):
because actually it wasn't youfeeling stuck, it was your parts
feeling stuck and you justblended with them your seat of
consciousness, as I talked aboutin the last session or last
episode, was feeling stuck Now,suddenly, you tend to have a
choice.
Okay, even the toughest ofsituations look as if there is a
(12:52):
choice and you feel freer fromwithin.
Okay, you feel there's nothingthat is forcing you to do
anything and you can choose.
Interesting, isn't it?
Do let me know in your commentswhat you think.
Right?
(13:13):
I would love to hear how thisis helping you.
Now, ready for some exercises?
Okay, let's have them.
The exercises are this Now.
What I want you to do is now.
This is not an exercise thatyou need to do with me here, but
I want you to remember a timewhen you felt the presence of
(13:34):
any of these nine C's?
Yeah, yeah, and also during thecoming week, I want you to pay
attention to moments when youfeel any of the 9Cs and make a
mental note of that, because youknow what, as I said, anything
(14:00):
that you focus on tends to grow.
Okay, because whatever youfocus on tends to grow.
Okay, because whatever you giveyour attention to right You'll
become attentive to, andwhatever you become attentive to
you'll give your energy to,because attention directs energy
.
Yeah, and when you startfocusing on the nine C's,
(14:26):
they'll start growing and youwill start noticing these
moments more and more, and itwould feel as if your life is
getting filled with thesemoments.
Sounds nice, yeah, oh, it'sbeautiful.
Try it out, see it, it'sfantastic.
(14:51):
I will see you tomorrow andwhen I see you tomorrow, I will
talk about what isself-leadership.
Do tune in.
Thank you very much.
Bye-bye.
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