Your Internal Managers Are Exhausted and Need Your Attention | NowShift August 07, 2025

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Inside all of us is a dedicated team of internal “managers” — the parts of our personality that organize, plan, and keep life on track. They operate with a single unspoken mantra:

“Never again will I be caught off guard.”

In this episode of Antifragilient OS – NowShift Daily Transmissions, Dr. Abhimanyou Raathore (Clinical Psychologist & Functional Medicine Practitioner) unpacks the hidden dynamics of these psychological protectors — how they keep you functioning, and what happens when they get overburdened.

When balanced, managers are your greatest allies — reliable, capable, and steady. But under strain, they can morph into perfectionists, inner critics, or controlling voices that never let you rest. They push you to “get it done” while quietly carrying the weight of keeping you safe.

The breakthrough comes when these managers are unburdened — freed from fear-driven overprotection. In this state, they become wise advisors, patient caregivers, and visionary leaders who use their skills in service of real growth rather than relentless control.

Through Dr. Raathore’s guided self-reflection, you’ll:

• Spot your own manager parts in action
• Understand their fears and motivations
• Recognize the ways they’ve protected you over the years
• Learn how to thank them — and lead them into balance

🎧 Listen now and discover how to support the hardest-working parts of yourself so they can finally support you.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Today is August 7th 2025.
My name is Dr Abhimanyu Rathore.
I'm the founder of theAnti-Fragilient Operating System
.
Here is the anti-fragilienttransmission for the day.
Yesterday, I introduced thethree types of parts that we

(00:22):
have the managers, thefirefighters, firefighters and
the exiles.
Now, today, let's go into alittle bit more detail and I'll
give you an exercise by the endof the session today, the
transmission today, which willhelp you understand the managers
better.
Now, let's understand thesemanagers.

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Managers have only one mantra,and their mantra is that never
again will I be caught off guard.
Okay, because they believe alot in proactivity, and you know
, these are the parts of ourpersonalities with whom we
identify the most.
You know, we end up sayingthings like that, like I am a

(01:03):
great organizer, or wheneverpeople want somebody to do
something right, they call me.
And these are the parts thatattempt to keep our daily life
running smoothly.
You know, because by planningfor, by controlling all aspects
of our life and the fact of thematter is this we all need our
managers to function in our life, and the fact of the matter is
this we all need our managers tofunction in our life.

(01:24):
Okay, now the problem comeswhen these managers are burdened
.
When they are burdened, theycan become perfectionists, they
can become critical, they canbecome obsessive and, you know,

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these parts then become knownfor shooting on you.
What does that mean?
That means they'll end uptalking like this that you
should be studying or you shouldbe going to the gym, you know.
And burdened managers also havetrouble resting and when asked,
they will often say they'requite exhausted, they're burnt
out, in a bad shape and many atimes they see the firefighters

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as working against them and theytend to deny that the problems
have their root in the pastBecause the managers are so
focused in the future.
That's the reason the past isnot something they're looking at
Now.
Let's understand, as I told youquite some time ago in one of

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our transmissions, that whenthese parts, when their shadowed
behavior, you know, getsremoved from them, suddenly they
can show up as talents, asgifts.
So that unburdened manager ofyours, how does that person look
?
Or how does that part look?
Or how does that part look, orhow do these parts look when
managers are unburdened andthey're no longer driven by

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exile, distress, they use theirplanning and organizing skills
in very effective ways and theymake great teachers, caregivers,
bosses and leaders, so imaginethey're so important for us.
Now, ready for some exercise.
Here it comes.
Now I would like you to getcurious about how do you

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accomplish things in youreveryday life.
You know, and when you thinkabout this, these might be some
of your managers.
Next Now, do you have any senseof what these managerial parts
are afraid would happen if theystop functioning in this way?
Think about that and also thinkabout how might these parts

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have helped you in your earlylife, might these parts have
helped you in your early life?
And, of course, also take thismoment to extend some gratitude
toward the parts who keep thingsrunning smoothly, that's, your
managers.
Okay, so I'll see you tomorrowand we'll talk about the next

(04:03):
part tomorrow in a little bitmore detail.
Do let me know how you'reliking these sessions.
Are they making life moremanageable, livable, better
thrivable, if there's a termlike that?
Okay, I would love to hear fromyou and I'll see you tomorrow.
Bye-bye.