December 27, 2023 • 9 mins
Selina Iddon explores the theme of resistance through the story of Briar Rabbit, discussing the burden it brings and the freedom found in letting go. She reflects on embracing kindness and strength, especially during festive seasons, and concludes with a call for understanding.
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(00:09):
Good morning and welcome back to the mozziemindset mentor.
My name is Selena.
Thank you for joining me, and thank you forcoming back and listening to another episode if
you've heard my previous ones.
Today, I wanna look at that which you resistwill persist.
(00:30):
I remember when I was a kid, there was a a bookabout Briar Rabbit, and what happened is he
fell into, I think, this bush, some kind ofprickly bush.
But the more he struggled, the more it stuck tohim.
And it was actually by becoming calm and thenlooking at his situation a little bit by little
(00:54):
bit to get himself out and also getting help toget himself out.
But trying to do it on his own and andwriggling more and resisting, struggling, He
just got more and more stuck.
Now as a kid, I certainly did not, you know,get that it was anything more than a funny
(01:16):
story about a rabbit.
But as an adult I look back on it now andespecially with that phrase that which you
resist will persist which really I've coachedaround and you know run my life by so for so so
long.
(01:37):
And the Briar Rabbit there or the that bookcame to me this morning like, my goodness.
It's actually that lesson's actually been withme probably most of my life.
And if we look at that for ourselves, I thinkall of us have somewhere in our lives, some
little place, and it might only be tiny, butevery time we we relax and we take stock and we
(02:08):
either allow contribution, sort of say,actually, I could, you know, with some
assistance or with some contribution or withbeing vulnerable and allowing someone else to
come in and help me, that could really helpfree me, you know, me in that area.
(02:29):
Or perhaps it is just that by stoppingstruggling and looking and and peeling back
something and letting go of something that thatwill give you that freedom.
Maybe we're resisting simply not by strugglingbut by not allowing the letting go of something
(02:54):
that we're holding on to or we're resistingbeing vulnerable or resisting maybe saying
sorry or that we have made a mistake becausesometimes, you know, giving up that we're
giving up being right about something is like,especially, you know, if we know we are, it's
(03:19):
like, man, that's gonna have roll on effects.
Like, if I say that it doesn't have to be thisway, that something doesn't have to be a
certain way, well, then all those other timesthat I was forceful or that I pushed my, way of
thinking on others or that I rejected othersand and the way of, being or all of those
(03:48):
little hurts that I might have created, whetherthey be hurts for others or hurts for myself,
that they were unnecessary.
And then that can be a burden.
That can be a burden carrying those type ofthings.
So we wanna resist giving up that our opinionis right or that our way of doing something is
(04:10):
right or our way of thinking because theconsequences then may have us feel bad.
And at the time and as we're working throughit, now that little monkey brain or survival
brain, whatever you want to call it, isresisting that feeling of feeling bad in the
moment.
That is actually just opening the door to ourfreedom.
(04:34):
See, when we give up that something has to be acertain way, well then it gives freedom to be
however we really are.
And by the way, people may say, that'sdangerous.
But I do believe underneath everything, peopleare genuinely kind.
(04:58):
I mean, underneath taught racism, underneathtaught, you know, hardships or way of whatever.
But when we're actually just born and right andas our pure essence, I do believe we're kind.
You can trust that.
And yes, people may take advantage of itsometimes, but you are free to be who you
(05:25):
truly, truly are and you are strong enough.
I promise you, you are stronger than you know.
You are strong enough to be able to handle anylittle bit of hurt that happens.
You are strong enough to say, hey.
That's their problem, not mine.
You deserve freedom.
(05:48):
You you if you're listening to this, you're mykind of person.
And if you can give up resisting whatever it isthat that's there for you today look.
It could be something totally different to whatI've you know, the scenarios I've just been
describing.
But resisting, I think we all resist somewhere.
(06:11):
And in the quiet sometimes of just sitting andbeing peaceful, sometimes it's I invite you to
sometimes that's what there is to look for thatwe avoid by having our busy lives and then
festive seasons or in thinking that Christmasis meant to be full of these certain emotions.
(06:36):
From so many people, it's a sad time.
That's fine.
That's what it is for you this year.
A new Year's doesn't have to be about newresolutions, but taking it some little bit of
time to be quiet and just at peace, I inviteyou to look at where you are resisting.
(07:00):
We're human.
We're all doing it somewhere.
And that little bit and by little bit, as wefind those places we're resisting and, you
know, we let go of them.
And as we let go of them, they will then notpersist.
(07:21):
They won't have their hold over us.
And we find a new freedom every time.
That which we resist will persist and when welet go of it, we find freedom.
So I invite you today.
(07:42):
I invite you to trust the kindness that's inyou.
Allow the kindness that's in you to shine.
You can be kind to yourself, but I really doinvite you to go and find somewhere where you
can be kind to another.
And if that resisting, what you've beenresisting is that someone else is wrong because
(08:06):
of the way they do things or is bad or isannoying or is, you know, stupid or is whatever
it is, those thoughts you have, be kind toyourself.
They're just thoughts.
However, if you go and allow your kindness toarise, if you resist that, if you give up
(08:29):
resisting that they should be any other waythan they are and just allow them to be.
Right?
Show that kindness.
Then maybe the persistence of how much itannoys you or how you feel around that, that
will give way to freedom.
And it's amazing by giving up that someone elseshould be a certain way, we find our freedom.
(08:59):
It's somewhere.
Whatever it is you're resisting, I wish youpeace today.
And when you find your freedom, I invite you togo share a little kindness with the world.
Thank you for joining me today.
I look forward to you joining me again andwishing you a really, really great day because
(09:23):
it's about every moment that we're here that'sthe that's the opportunity for us to be free
from whatever it is that's persisting in ourlives that is the unwanted.
Bye for now.
Good morning and welcome back to the mozziemindset mentor.
My name is Selena.
Thank you for joining me, and thank you forcoming back and listening to another episode if
you've heard my previous ones.
Today, I wanna look at that which you resistwill persist.
(00:30):
I remember when I was a kid, there was a a bookabout Briar Rabbit, and what happened is he
fell into, I think, this bush, some kind ofprickly bush.
But the more he struggled, the more it stuck tohim.
And it was actually by becoming calm and thenlooking at his situation a little bit by little
(00:54):
bit to get himself out and also getting help toget himself out.
But trying to do it on his own and andwriggling more and resisting, struggling, He
just got more and more stuck.
Now as a kid, I certainly did not, you know,get that it was anything more than a funny
(01:16):
story about a rabbit.
But as an adult I look back on it now andespecially with that phrase that which you
resist will persist which really I've coachedaround and you know run my life by so for so so
long.
(01:37):
And the Briar Rabbit there or the that bookcame to me this morning like, my goodness.
It's actually that lesson's actually been withme probably most of my life.
And if we look at that for ourselves, I thinkall of us have somewhere in our lives, some
little place, and it might only be tiny, butevery time we we relax and we take stock and we
(02:08):
either allow contribution, sort of say,actually, I could, you know, with some
assistance or with some contribution or withbeing vulnerable and allowing someone else to
come in and help me, that could really helpfree me, you know, me in that area.
(02:29):
Or perhaps it is just that by stoppingstruggling and looking and and peeling back
something and letting go of something that thatwill give you that freedom.
Maybe we're resisting simply not by strugglingbut by not allowing the letting go of something
(02:54):
that we're holding on to or we're resistingbeing vulnerable or resisting maybe saying
sorry or that we have made a mistake becausesometimes, you know, giving up that we're
giving up being right about something is like,especially, you know, if we know we are, it's
(03:19):
like, man, that's gonna have roll on effects.
Like, if I say that it doesn't have to be thisway, that something doesn't have to be a
certain way, well, then all those other timesthat I was forceful or that I pushed my, way of
thinking on others or that I rejected othersand and the way of, being or all of those
(03:48):
little hurts that I might have created, whetherthey be hurts for others or hurts for myself,
that they were unnecessary.
And then that can be a burden.
That can be a burden carrying those type ofthings.
So we wanna resist giving up that our opinionis right or that our way of doing something is
(04:10):
right or our way of thinking because theconsequences then may have us feel bad.
And at the time and as we're working throughit, now that little monkey brain or survival
brain, whatever you want to call it, isresisting that feeling of feeling bad in the
moment.
That is actually just opening the door to ourfreedom.
(04:34):
See, when we give up that something has to be acertain way, well then it gives freedom to be
however we really are.
And by the way, people may say, that'sdangerous.
But I do believe underneath everything, peopleare genuinely kind.
(04:58):
I mean, underneath taught racism, underneathtaught, you know, hardships or way of whatever.
But when we're actually just born and right andas our pure essence, I do believe we're kind.
You can trust that.
And yes, people may take advantage of itsometimes, but you are free to be who you
(05:25):
truly, truly are and you are strong enough.
I promise you, you are stronger than you know.
You are strong enough to be able to handle anylittle bit of hurt that happens.
You are strong enough to say, hey.
That's their problem, not mine.
You deserve freedom.
(05:48):
You you if you're listening to this, you're mykind of person.
And if you can give up resisting whatever it isthat that's there for you today look.
It could be something totally different to whatI've you know, the scenarios I've just been
describing.
But resisting, I think we all resist somewhere.
(06:11):
And in the quiet sometimes of just sitting andbeing peaceful, sometimes it's I invite you to
sometimes that's what there is to look for thatwe avoid by having our busy lives and then
festive seasons or in thinking that Christmasis meant to be full of these certain emotions.
(06:36):
From so many people, it's a sad time.
That's fine.
That's what it is for you this year.
A new Year's doesn't have to be about newresolutions, but taking it some little bit of
time to be quiet and just at peace, I inviteyou to look at where you are resisting.
(07:00):
We're human.
We're all doing it somewhere.
And that little bit and by little bit, as wefind those places we're resisting and, you
know, we let go of them.
And as we let go of them, they will then notpersist.
(07:21):
They won't have their hold over us.
And we find a new freedom every time.
That which we resist will persist and when welet go of it, we find freedom.
So I invite you today.
(07:42):
I invite you to trust the kindness that's inyou.
Allow the kindness that's in you to shine.
You can be kind to yourself, but I really doinvite you to go and find somewhere where you
can be kind to another.
And if that resisting, what you've beenresisting is that someone else is wrong because
(08:06):
of the way they do things or is bad or isannoying or is, you know, stupid or is whatever
it is, those thoughts you have, be kind toyourself.
They're just thoughts.
However, if you go and allow your kindness toarise, if you resist that, if you give up
(08:29):
resisting that they should be any other waythan they are and just allow them to be.
Right?
Show that kindness.
Then maybe the persistence of how much itannoys you or how you feel around that, that
will give way to freedom.
And it's amazing by giving up that someone elseshould be a certain way, we find our freedom.
(08:59):
It's somewhere.
Whatever it is you're resisting, I wish youpeace today.
And when you find your freedom, I invite you togo share a little kindness with the world.
Thank you for joining me today.
I look forward to you joining me again andwishing you a really, really great day because
(09:23):
it's about every moment that we're here that'sthe that's the opportunity for us to be free
from whatever it is that's persisting in ourlives that is the unwanted.
Bye for now.
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