Authentically ADHD – ADHD, Alexithymia, and Anhedonia: Understanding Emotions and Motivation

Authentically ADHD – ADHD, Alexithymia, and Anhedonia: Understanding Emotions and Motivation

Hello and welcome to Authentically ADHD! I’m Carmen, your host. Today, we’re diving into a topic that might hit very close to home for a lot of us: the confusing intersection of ADHD, alexithymia, and anhedonia. Now, those are some big, clinical-sounding words – but don’t worry. We’re going to break them down in plain language and talk about how they can overlap in real life. If you’ve ever thought, “Why can’t I figure out what I’m feeling?” or “Why don’t I enjoy things the way I used to?”, or if you find yourself emotionally drained after a long day of masking your ADHD traits, then this episode is for you.

In this 25–30 minute journey, we’ll mix a bit of neuroscience (in a friendly, non-intimidating way) with personal storytelling. I’ll share some of my own experiences, and we’ll explore what research says about why these experiences happen. By the end, you’ll have a clearer understanding of what ADHD, alexithymia, and anhedonia really mean, why they often go hand-in-hand (especially in neurodivergent folks like us), and what we can do to cope and thrive. We’ll also bust some common myths and misunderstandings – including why these issues often get overlooked or dismissed, especially in women and people diagnosed later in life. And as always, we’ll wrap up with strategies and a big dose of validation and hope. So, get comfy (or start that task you’ve been putting off and take us along!), and let’s get started.

Understanding ADHD, Alexithymia, and Anhedonia

Before we delve into how these things intersect, let’s clearly define each of these terms. They each describe a different piece of the puzzle of our emotional and mental life. Understanding what they are will help us see how they connect. In a nutshell:

ADHD (Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder): ADHD is a neurodevelopmental disorder characterized by persistent patterns of inattention (difficulty focusing, forgetfulness), hyperactivity (restlessness, fidgeting), and impulsivity (acting without thinking) that interfere with daily functioningneurolaunch.com. In adults, ADHD can look like struggling to stay organized, constantly losing your keys, jumping from one idea to another, or even feeling emotionally impulsive. It’s not just “kids being hyper” – it’s a lifelong brain-based condition affecting how we concentrate, manage time, and regulate behavior and emotions.

Alexithymia: Alexithymia is not a disorder but a personality trait or profile, often described as having difficulty identifying and describing your emotionsneurodivergentinsights.com. The word literally means “without words for emotion.” If you have alexithymia, you might feel strong emotions physically (like a racing heart or a knot in your stomach) but struggle to pinpoint what the emotion is (is it anxiety? anger? hunger?) and find words to express it. Alexithymia exists on a spectrum – some people have mild trouble with emotions, others have it to a more severe degreeneurodivergentinsights.com. It frequently co-occurs with neurodivergent conditions; in fact, research suggests that a significant subset of people with ADHD (estimates range from about 20% to over 40%) also have alexithymianeurodivergentinsights.combhcsmt.com. So, if you have ADHD and you’ve always felt “out of touch” with your emotions, alexithymia might be a concept that resonates with you.

Anhedonia: Anhedonia means an inability or reduced ability to experience pleasure. It’s like the volume knob for enjoyment is turned way down. People with anhedonia struggle to feel joy or interest in activities that used to be fun or rewardingneurolaunch.com. This term is often discussed in the context of depression (since losing pleasure is a core symptom of depressive episodes), but it’s not exclusive to depression. As we’ll explore, anhedonia can also show up in ADHD. If you find that hobbies, socializing,