September 2, 2025 • 46 mins
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In this episode, I sit down with Alexander Plank, an international certified mindset coach who helps business owners break free from limiting beliefs.We discuss the power limiting beliefs have over us, the most common one, and how to rewrite it and much more, like: practical boundary setting, the danger of money-focused vision, and why curiosity is the key to lifelong growth.
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🟪 Timestamps
(00:00) Introduction Alexander Plank
(01:07) Understanding Mindset
(05:31) Common Limiting Beliefs
(09:17) Overcoming Limiting Beliefs
(16:24) Alex's Inspiring Journey
(24:02) Practical Tips for Self-Improvement
(35:15) Preparing Kids for the Future
(43:26) Connect with Alexander Plank
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(00:00):
I'm not good enough. It's like a foundation to every
aspect of your life and it can not only go in your business, of
course it can go into your relationships, it can go in your
physical health and mentally health and your sexuality, and
that's the danger of it. Meet Alexander Planck, an
international Certified Mindset Coach helping business owners
(00:22):
become productive and spend moretime in their family.
You want to bring a movement of living a healthier life.
Should it be in private? In business was linked together
at the end. It's all a huge biological
system and it works together. In today's episode, we dissect
the number one limiting belief that is holding you back, both
in life and business, how to identify the source of that
(00:45):
limiting belief, and how to actually reframe it.
And all comes down to vision, because vision and purpose are
shown in studies to be healthy. And a human needs a vision and a
purpose, because that's why we are here.
Mindset is not just a buzzword, it's a way to change your life,
and this episode shows you how. Enjoy Mindset.
(01:08):
It's such a misunderstood topic.Why?
I think people often are misleaded by it because mindset
is always this point of we need to sacrifice everything.
And it's always this point of how other people see me and how
society sees me. And of course, in the business
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world, that's the whole point of, OK, I want to be a part of
this 1% of this hustle culture. And we often forget what
actually is in this word mindset.
So it's mind and our mindset is connected to the brain.
So there's actual neuroscience behind it.
In psychology, how it works, just a big word, what's often
(01:54):
thrown around in so many contexts and nobody knows how it
really works on your body, biology, biologically, and of
course what obviously it's the power behind it if you use it
right. And can you briefly explain it
to us? Like what is actually the
meaning of this word and how does it work?
(02:17):
So mindset is of course linked to your brain and it gives you
the chance to rewrite thought patterns, but also to change old
beliefs in a way that you can use it in actions.
Like you write it down, write thoughts down and you create a
certain kind of new memory. So the more you use it, the more
(02:41):
deeper it gets burned in your brain.
That's why we say it. And it builds this kind of brain
highways, I would call it. It's easier to imagine.
And the stronger they believe, the thicker your brain highway
gets because it's a muscle, you train it.
And so good beliefs can be strong, but also of course bad
(03:02):
beliefs can be strong. But both gives you the
possibility to change the mindset in your way how you like
to be. Nice explanation and I love the
fact that you just say that the more you do, the better it gets
and the the stronger you believe.
And if you think about it, everysingle thing that you learn
(03:23):
along the way in our life, it's something that someone, either
our parents, teachers, our peersor the network that you
surrender ourselves with repeated to us multiple times.
Or we repeated that thing a lot of times until we so strongly
believe it, even sometimes not that not being true.
(03:44):
And so apply, if I understand correctly, if you want to change
that right you we have to be able to tell the new truth if
you want, or the new way of thinking so many times that we
start to believe that or I understood correctly or it works
in different ways. Exactly.
So like I said, environment can be benefiting, but it can be
(04:07):
also damaging because like I said, we're like a sponge.
We get so much noise and so muchinformation in that the more we
hear it, the more it gets stuck in our head.
And it's exactly the point that it's the same like with self
talk, when we talk about our ourselves badly.
And the more we do it, the more we believe it.
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And it starts with this whole point of self-awareness and, of
course, getting to the root of the belief.
So the first thing I have to do is really to understand, OK,
what's going on now? What's what I'm really thinking?
So it's often just noise. And it's just getting so fast by
us that we often need to stop, take a step back and say, OK,
(04:52):
what belief is right now runningthe show up there?
What Ford? And then the first there would
be realize it to write it down. It's the normal exercise you do
here. And then you talk, you dive
deeper into this belief, OK, where is it coming from?
Why is it appearing? Why it's triggering?
And it gives you a chance to go back in time and to find out
(05:16):
where it started and to change the whole situation there to
give it a new meaning, like a reframe.
We talk about reframe and coaching normally.
That's how you can change a belief and also to create new
beliefs. And in your work, what's the
most common limiting belief thatpeople have?
(05:37):
The most common one, and also for me personally, the worst,
hardest one, this I am not enough.
And I think everybody was at this point in our life through
society, through the education system.
And it was a belief I had for atleast 22 years and there are
(05:59):
still people out there in every field who struggle with this
point. And it really is the starting
point to a new journey of yourself to the point I am
enough the way I am. Yeah, it's so true.
Like so many people I talked to struggle with that.
And like you, probably more than30 years, I struggle with that
(06:20):
limiting belief as well. And it's strange, right?
Like because often we are capable individuals that you can
achieve an enormous amount of things and we still believe
about ourselves that are not enough and that we end up
procrastinating or aim for perfection because of it.
(06:44):
And so many other downsides of these limiting beliefs.
And you identify as well as a pattern.
What are the most common sourcesof this limiting belief?
So 1, I think it's also the point where I say, OK, we need a
change society's education system because it starts there
(07:04):
often because kids grow up, kidsare curious and kids are full of
life and they always tell the truth.
So they are just little angels. I would always say because
they're untouched, say it like that because nobody just said
OK, you have to sit down or you have to do this and that.
(07:25):
And then they come into first grade and the first thing, sorry
if I say it is now, but it's really this way is shut up and
listen. And then we grade them on their
failures. So the grades are all based on
failures and they're through 12 years.
So you come out of the A level or Austin University come out
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and everything you've done all your life is to be focusing or
to realize, OK, I'm so much worth because of my grade.
So when if you have a bad grade,it's because I made failures.
And it's of course something we when we are older now can
understand where the problem is.But kids define themselves over
(08:11):
his grades. And that's personally for me
where it started. So I can exactly tell the moment
where for me started. I'm not enough because it's
something when you go back in time and of course a lot of
methods to do that, it can exactly tell me where the first
time really appeared as I am notenough moment.
So I would say it starts really in for most of them in school
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because it can sabotage you all your life and you don't even
realize it because of course it's subconscious.
Yeah, that's dangerous. And especially as you move along
in your life and your life at the adulthood, then other things
come into play. Like for example, social media
comparison, like the perfectionist display on social
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media platform like Instagram, where people compare themselves
with others that are looking bador they are having better
vacations and so on. And like, oh, what I'm not how
should I do in order to achieve that as well or.
And all the other traps that we fall into.
And. But yeah, indeed, like education
plays a huge role in this and fortunately not a good, good
(09:16):
role. And if someone is listening now
and they resonate, a lot of them, unfortunately, I will say
a lot of people will resonate inthe same time.
There is a good thing because you become aware how they should
investigate the root cause. And once they arrive at that
point, either in school or childhood where maybe they have
(09:40):
siblings and their parents compare them like, oh, you're
not as good as your brother or sister or whatever and or other
things that might occur, what they can do about it.
So. The few possible exercises.
Of course you know methods you can use.
The easiest one is always, of course, reframe it, but it just
changes the whole picture of it,but it doesn't go to the root
(10:03):
where it started. One easy exercise, I would say
what's also a lot of fun, and wecall it like tab exercise
because you can write it on the beer tab where you stand your
beer on it. So it's something you can use
and it works like this, that youwrite on the belief in seven
(10:24):
words of seven words. And you can do it with yourself
or with somebody else. It's often either of somebody
else and he writes 7 words against it, like everybody says
I'm not good enough for example.Then he would ask who says it
and of course a longer version, 6-7 words and you break it down.
(10:47):
Each step is like 7654321 and it's a way of cracking this
belief and making this first step of unarming it.
I would say easier because you need to be aware, you need to
trim it a little bit back down and then you can start getting
on the route. So it would be starting point to
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just the power of it a little bit down.
Then another exercise was what? What's perfect for this is set
yourself like on a timeline. It's really like time traveling,
honestly. Take a piece of paper, start
with today and go back in time. Really go back and think about,
(11:29):
OK, go on the next step. When was the last time somebody
said I'm not enough or I thoughtI'm not enough?
So really like go take a pen, write it down, I'm not enough
today, 7th of August. Then I draw a line to another
circle and really feel into the circle and go back.
OK. When was the last exercise, the
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last time you experienced this? And then you go back like a
lifetime map till the point you get there.
That's how you find it out. And that's how you can really
travel back into your childhood or whenever it occurred and kind
of find it out. And it's called change history.
It's an LP formal. Nice.
(12:13):
It's the first time I hear this exercise and it's so powerful
because you once you do that, you have a complete picture over
your actual timeline. Like maybe you won't find every
single moment or remember every single moment that that occur,
but still, you'll be able to paint the picture of, oh, that
individual or that teacher, whatwhoever said the something.
(12:35):
And Speaking of words, like you mentioned in the first exercise
in which you you want, you need to write it in seven different
ways. And this is correct.
And you need to use the words exact words that person used or.
OK, yeah, as I write on my belief, so I am not good enough.
Everybody says so 7 words and then you can you can pick an
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answer also in seven words just to challenge me and it go my
answer on you in 6 words. So you don't have to answer the
same. You challenge me and you ask me.
And so if we ask more and more, we go deeper and deeper.
And the more I answer, the shorter words get.
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So I need to be clearer in my answer.
And that's the trigger up here where I can challenge it.
And you've come down to one wordand that's the cool thing.
You can disarm it with one word on your side then, because you
have to be really specific. That's a cool trick because the
more you think about it, you'll basically you move at some point
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all the negative words in a way and then end up with that word
that three matters. If you go back a bit.
This is 1 like I am not enough and projecting the downsides of
having this limiting beliefs apart from perfection is more
being stuck and so on. What other aspects of our life
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or business can this limiting believe affect so?
I'm not good enough. It's like a foundation to every
aspect because it can spread into every piece of your life
because it's like the strongest one and it's very generalistic
and can not only go in your business, of course it can go
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into your relationships, can go in your physical health, can go
in mentally health, can go in your sexuality.
And that's the danger of it. Because normally we of course
have also other beliefs or all beliefs that are sabotaging us,
but they often can be found being the root of or coming from
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this root of. I'm not good enough.
So it really finds the way in every aspect of the life and you
will always find a reason why itcomes.
Man, that's so true. Now, while I was speaking, I was
thinking, that makes so much sense because it's really
connected with every single piece of our life.
And on that, since it's so, so important, I will go back a bit
(15:14):
again now to the exercise because I'm thinking like, all
right, so identify it. I'm doing this exercise with
magically gone. Or I should practice this
exercise for a long time until our brain gets rewritten in and
we truly believe that we are enough.
The practices exactly because like I said before, it's like
(15:37):
this thick brain highway and nowimagine you have that for 30-40
years. So it's not like this.
It's like this. It's like a huge and of course
of this practice and always coming back to it and also
including other exercises or just doing self-care.
(15:57):
You, you break it a little bit up every time, every time.
It's, it's good that you have a new belief and you use it, but
it's of course affecting so manyaspects that you always need to
remind yourself and to bring positivity into it.
So it's, of course, it's always a practice.
The root of any change, right? As much as we practice
(16:19):
something, the better we get at it and the bigger the change.
And let's go be back on time. Like why you choose this path?
Like why did you enter and studyand become a certified mindset
coach in order to help others? So I would say it was
fascination for psychology and on the other hand, life
(16:41):
experience. And we actually coming back to
this point of why I had this belief I'm not good enough
because it was also a part whereI said, OK, we behave this way
and that society treats us this way and that we are kind of
forced into systems that are notmade for everyone.
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And for me, the starting point was in school back then in 6th
class, standing in front of the class through a presentation,
got a blackout and went red, went sweaty and everybody
laughed and the teacher said you're not good enough. 6 sort
of F German grades and that wenton through the school path and I
(17:30):
was in university always coming back to this OK, I'm standing in
front of crowd and being sweaty and having this blackout.
But at a certain point you don'tknow where it's coming from.
So we're in the subconscious layer and then of course other
things happen because like I said, it spreads for life.
So I struggled with depression, I struggled with drug abuse, my
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mother died of cancer. And this whole point of being at
the lowest point was for me the point of choosing between life
and death. And I said, OK, I want to change
my life and I want to actually help people not making this
experience so they don't have todo it.
It'll be proactive or just get abetter help because I didn't
(18:13):
have help. And this was a change for me
when I said, OK, we need a change to society.
I want to bring a movement of living a healthier life.
Should it be in private and business because link together
at the end it's all a huge biological system and it works
together. And that was the starting point
for me that I said OK, I want tobe the change on top others not
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experience same or don't have tostruggle so much.
That's a worthwhile missionary and it's sometimes a bit sad to
have to go through hardship in order to identify a problem that
needs to be solved in this world.
But in the same time, I'm not sure if there are many
entrepreneurs or many people that are doing something big and
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something that has a huge impactwithout actually experience a
problem itself. And if you like, if you
experience it yourself, you are way more qualified to help
others with you, not only overcome it yourself, but in the
same time you have a deep connection with that problem.
(19:21):
And yeah, that's admirable. And once you Start learning more
and more about it, like at what point you were like, yes, I'm on
the right track because a lot ofpeople struggle with a lot of
things and just say, I go, oh, Ican build a solution around this
problem or that problem and thatproblem.
And still they either it's hard to choose which one or they try
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one. They keep on doing it and
they're like, I'm not seeing anything here.
What should I do next? Or whatever.
I think your key is like, when was the moment you say, like,
this is something that they're probably going to do for the
rest of my life. It's right where you said it
right now it's this point of OK,what do I do next?
Because that's one of the pointsI've seen where we also get.
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Society involved again is this point OK what do I do with my
life and it come all comes down to vision cause vision and
purpose are shown in studies to be healthy and a human needs a
vision and a purpose because that's why we are here.
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And for me personally, final point where I realized, OK, this
me and that's what I want to do was at the end of 2023,
beginning 2024 where I had Burnout Extreme 1 and I needed
(20:50):
to step back because it crushed me completely.
It took a lot from me and costedme a lot.
And I had three months. I took a three months break to
complete a step back and said, OK, who am I and what is my
vision? What is my purpose?
And that was the point where aligned again and realized, OK,
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I want to be here and I want to help people worldwide.
And that was the point of comingback stronger and also way
clearer and sure in my way. And the most people I see who
are jumping from one thing to the next are often, but it's
only my personal experience now on LinkedIn and of course also
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other clients. It's the point of I want to make
money and to want to make money as a vision doesn't work because
money comes and goes and it's a tool and it's of course good to
have it, but it's not a bigger purpose than yourself because
purpose and the vision is something we know it from master
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of pyramid. Try for it.
But we never complete reaches because it's a growth, because
it's the life journey. And yeah, the burnout was
really, for me, the opening doorto whatever you wanted.
Yeah, and exactly before those like low moments can be the door
to so many opportunities at the end of the day.
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And the same time the impact that we are here to make.
And yeah, that word that it's again together with mindset,
like purpose, it's as well thrown around a lot.
But often it's as easy as leaving this world better than
we you arrived and or simply leaving, you know, and but when
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you can make a difference like you're doing, I think that's
beautiful. Because when you look back in
time, you won't have regrets. You experienced some, you lost a
lot, but in the same time that teach you something and you were
able to impact others in a positive way without them going
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through the same things that youyou went through.
And yeah, a lot of learns from from your experience.
And I thank you first of all, toopen up and to share this.
It's often people don't do it because they're either scared or
they will feel that others will judge them.
But it's obvious that you did your own inner work and overcome
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that. Speaking of inner working, you
had to chat couple of weeks ago and about the fact that most
people don't have a business problem, they have an internal
problem. And one is the one that you
mentioned at the beginning. How business person can work
more on them self in order to identify when they face a code
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to uncle business problem. How they realize or to
differentiate between the actualif it's a real business provider
or maybe cash flow, whatever it is or something that has to do
with them and they are the bottleneck?
So there are also a few possibleways to do it, but two things I
would always do but also works for me and what I do every day
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is the one thing is to start your day with your vision and
your gratitude. Because you realise a lot when
you stand up and you don't look at the phone and you just taking
half an hour for yourself, you realize how your brain is
working right after waking up. So if your mind is already
racing, you know it starts within.
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So it's like a checkpoint. And now the other thing is to
write all those problems and allthose faults down because the
first thing you will do with that is you will relieve your
mind and your brain because it'son paper.
It's like you're putting it out there and setting it on the
table. It just shrinks the stress a
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little bit. And then you can identify based
on that if it's really a business problem or if it's you,
because it's often the point when you write it down, we see
that we make the problem 99% bigger in our head than it is
real life. So it's the whole point of just
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stepping back and bringing it onPayPal and to see OK, what's
actually in front of me. Now to sharing.
It's a lot of self-awareness, a lot of work that you have to do
rather than just jumping straight into, oh, I have a
problem, I need to solve it. Rather than having a step back
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and instead of rushing, checkingemails, checking your phone or
your laptop to actually do that small exercise in the morning
and something that I try to do as well at the end of the day to
find what exactly happens that day in good way.
Like things that was often I wasstruggling with this fact that
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Oh my God, I haven't to done much today.
I didn't achieve that task or the other.
But when I went on the other side, I was like what I actually
did today. And when I wrote them down, I
realized that Oh my God, I achieved a lot today.
And. That's the key.
Maybe I didn't finish that task,but I did all the others that
were a priority or much more important.
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And the word vision that you mentioned, like when those are
aligned, like the things that you do, things that you're
looking for and basically to allthe others, we can and we should
say no more often if it's not aligned with our vision.
This is a key point to have those boundaries.
I always say every no is a yes to yourself.
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It makes it a little bit easier to imagine what it actually does
for yourself. And boundaries, just in a
respectful way, of course, have a huge benefit for you, but also
for your relationship, for your environment, because it shows to
the external clear where you're at, what are you doing right now
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and how you feel about it. So it's a clear communication.
And on the other hand, it gives you the chance to breathe, to
save your space, to save your energy and to focus because it's
the most important skill there is, is to focus, to actually
make progress and and to actually be self aware.
And that's where the boundaries come in.
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And when it comes to boundaries and clients, family members and
friends and so on, often most people struggle with that, me
including. Sometimes it's even if they got
better at saying no or being more respectful in my own time.
Sometimes I say yes to things that shows us opportunities but
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are just distractions in disguise.
How we get better at it. How we make sure that you're not
just saying no to a huge opportunity or we are not
upsetting someone else by sayingno.
That there may be close to us and they might need our time in
that moment or whenever they want to to share something with
us. Of course, I picked now two
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different examples and the yes or no to opportunities.
I think there's of course, like I said, the vision, if it fits
the vision, so you can write your vision down, can write
opportunity down and see if it'sno way linked to each other and
to see if it's a possibility. Because there's also, it's
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physics really. When you're ready for something,
you're attracted. So maybe it is just right now
not for you and then you or it will come back better or it will
come even bigger back later. So it's also a mindset part
there. But of course, I always say, OK,
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if it's just a little linked to your vision and there's actually
something to learn, even if it'sgoing to burn a bet in the end,
it's always a win. You should try it in the
beginning most and with clients and relationships, it's often
the point how we communicate because like right now we're
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here sitting and talking to eachother and I communicated to my
wife earlier, OK, I need the space right now.
Everything needs to be silent and just the space for me so I
can talk to you. And if she would ask, OK, can I
come in? And I said just no.
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It's also how you pronounce that, just how you give the
context to it. It's the point of how do I
communicate it And do I explain the no?
Like it's not only birds, we have mimic, we have tonality.
So it's a lot that comes together.
And there's also the point of giving an alternative 'cause
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when a client asks, do you have a moment for me?
For me a moment is different than for him.
So it's easier to say, OK, rightnow I'm in this task.
Can I come back to you in the evening or can you just write me
real quick what the problem is and I will come back to you with
an answer. It's just us that we need to
communicate different now because we often then maybe just
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ghost or we just route or react and passive aggressively.
So it's everybody takes information indifferently.
So it's a whether how we communicate it and how we
communicate the boundaries in a respectful way.
That's a rest perspective because often it leads to it
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ends up with that right? If you communicate something in
the rude way or in a way that it's either disrespectful or
that person feels like you're just not available or and
availabilities, of course we cantalk a lot about it.
But yeah, the whole point is to know exactly your vision, right?
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And to stick to that and to basically waiting.
Like is this yes to that person or that opportunity?
Something that enrich my vision or like to support my vision or
something that will be basicallystopping me to achieving it.
And plus, you are communicating in in a respectful way, in the
way that everyone can understandthat you have a square
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responsibilities towards yourself.
And that's the thing, right? Like you're both in business and
in life. Sometimes you're put in this
situation in which we don't knowor we don't have the tools to,
to make the right decisions. And this is a good way to do it
that I can share. You have any other tools or
frameworks that you can share that those listening can apply
(31:58):
in the business or life? It's just one fault I would
share that changed a lot of my thinking is how you react to the
past and to those opportunities if you did them or not.
And it's the whole point. Like I said, what if we don't
have the right tools right now or not are not in the right
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state right now? And it's actually some kind of a
reframe because what we say in NLP is that in that moment that
we made a decision or action, wedid the best action for
ourselves with all the resourcesand tools we had for ourselves.
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And it's of course clear that you would react completely
different two weeks after because maybe you learn
something, maybe you had anothertool then or just learn
something differently or were inother state of mind there.
But it's this point of forgivingyour past self.
Cause opportunities comes and goes and life comes and goes,
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but we attract the things you ready?
It's this point of giving peace to say, OK, I behaved in a way
because I thought in this momentit was the best positive way for
myself to protect myself. And it's just a thought that
many people often forget, or that you have the power and
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control of this to actually makepeace with such moments.
You said, and indeed often we not just about ourselves, right?
Often we maybe blame others, either teachers or parents or
friends, because they behave in a certain way or they say
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something to us. And even those teachers that
they say to us that you're not enough for, that you're not good
enough for and so on. They just use the knowledge and
the tools they have at the disposal back then.
Because if you think about it, alot of, especially in Europe, a
lot of our older generation or our parents and so on were, were
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living in quite hard times comparing to the times they are
living right now. And with their knowledge, with
their resources and so on, they just did the best they could.
And that's the that's at the endof the day, the beauty of life.
But in the same time, yes, it can have repercussions.
And also us, we can learn from those experiences.
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We can learn from how they praise us or how they teach us
and so on in order to do better.And on that note, like parents
that are having a lot of questions marks right now, like
how to raise kids in a way that it's not only healthy from a
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mental perspective and physical perspective, of course, but in
the same time to be able to copewith all the pressure that is
now in the world. Because yes, we might live in,
in beautiful times from many perspectives, but in the same
times, they're changing a lot ofthings, especially around
technology and political, but wewon't get into that.
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But technology wise, it's it's insane the the speed that things
change, how they can prepare their kids and educate them in a
way that they can thrive. So for me personally with kids,
I would say it's always a matterof dosage of technology.
Because when I think about a kindergarten, I often see
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children that are quite big up from parents and first thing
kids do, they want to talk to parents, they want to be seen
and the parents want to talk to the kindergartner and they just
take the phone and give it into the hand of the child.
And I think when we completely neglect this technology in this
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early stages of the child, we trust triggered to use it even
more. But when the parents are not
around, So it's always like thishealthy kind of balance and to
also show the lion where the kidand needs to respect the parents
and of course needs to behave a certain way.
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Because in the early stages, from 2:00 to 6:00, kids try a
lot of stuff and they want to know who's the boss.
And I get a lot of questions from mothers with the child at
home. And they say, OK, my kid is at
home, I'm tired from work, what should I do now?
The kid wants attention and it'salways this point, OK, how
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communicate we all, we use it orhow we communicate to the child
because there are children who just wanted attention.
And when we yell at the kid or we just say he has the iPad,
their attention is still missing.
Not in that moment, but the child will realize their
attentions and they can just bring more and more problems
with it because the kid will do everything to get their
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attention. That also means to do stuff that
is just bad, simple as that. But I would say it's and it's
personally how for me children should be raised as this to be
not not take the curiosity, curiosity to really try to
explain them what is going on now, why you are telling them
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what to do, what's the reason behind it?
So to learn with you, grow with you, it's part of your family.
And to be in balance of the technology because you can't
take it away from them, but you can show them how to be to use
it healthy. Now the way because it's the
difference if I show them or just give them the iPad and say,
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hey, please just watch whatever you want to watch over and say,
hey, you want to use the iPad. Why don't you look up how to
build a house from stones, for example?
It's always this point, OK, what, what we're showing them.
And of course also because I said before, pressure to not
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bring the pressure from the relationship with your husband,
wife, partner whatsoever, and the pressure from your work to
your kid, because children are way more sensible.
They will realize what's going on even if they don't tell you
that. They will realize even if
they're sitting 2 meters away and watching something.
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They realize when the parents are fighting, for example.
Yeah. And that's the thing with kids,
right, Because you mentioned example of a sponge earlier in
our conversation. And they are like sponge.
They absorb so many emotions andso many behaviors of their
parents and those that grow up around.
And often those behaviors materialize in in real life
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through either strengths or somelimiting beliefs and weaknesses.
And if there was one single thing parents can do in order to
internalize into their kids a strong belief, what that will
be? Try.
I would say that's where the curiosity comes in.
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The kid wants to do it, try it. And that's also a point.
OK, they come back from school, do something with them, give
them the attention. You are the parent, a try of
them. You can try something in nature,
even if it's technology, cause kids naturally won't fail
anything when we don't tell themthey can fail.
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And that's the thing what makes me the most sad to be honest, is
that we take this childhood curiosity away and we need it
all our life because without that we won't try for more.
We don't try more, we don't experience more.
They always say try not study because.
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You'll learn so much from real life and from interacting.
It's just a healthier way and itstays really in your head to be
honest. Yeah, and that's so, so true.
Like if we stop trying, I won't say we stop living, but it's
close to that because. Stop living honestly.
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What's life without trying, right?
Yeah, because the human trials biologically for more, we move
more. We explored that.
That's the whole point of like we move physically, we move
internally, we grow physically, we grow mentally and it's we the
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same as nature does. We are part of nature.
So everything is growing. So it's a huge, huge system
that's works here together and that we need to see it say it
that hard, because when you stoptrying, you're neglecting your
inner self that it's calling forgrowth time.
Like people die when they're alone.
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It's something that just shrinksand gets fast.
Powerful. And would you say that when it
comes to these kids that becomesadults and maybe they're
entrepreneurs, what will be the competitive advantage if you
can, they continue to try from those that they simply go on the
same path without pivoting, without realising that if they
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don't try, they're afraid of trying because they something
will break or they will lose something or either money or the
business and so on. Is that a big competitive
advantage or something else? Yeah, because it doesn't only
come down to business, that comes to every aspect, comes
down to health, it comes to being an employee.
And it's something you can learnfor sure, because I think when
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we grow up, when we were born our own world, because everybody
lives in this own world of beliefs, culture, aspects, it's
something we sponge up from our parents, for example.
And that's the way it was for me.
And you get a lower risk tolerance and you get have more
curiosity. And when you have disadvantage,
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you won't lose, doesn't matter if it's money or something you
want to do in gym or traveling somewhere.
Because you will always find ways.
And there are thousands of possible ways.
And you make those thousand possibles because of your
mindset and how you think about it, how you pick your think.
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The more bigger you think and the more you are into this whole
entrepreneurial mindset, the more, the more solutions
possible solutions that can try them 1 by 1.
So that's for sure an advantage.And I would say you don't know,
not only using business, you cannot use it as an employee
also, it's a huge career that. Exactly because you'll be way
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more appreciated even if you arequote UN quote break things as
you try, but often that's how you innovate.
That's how you come up with unique solutions and
differentiate yourself. And if someone is listening
right now and they have some challenges when it comes to
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their internal beliefs and so on, I want to connect with you
in order to help them how they can reach out.
So for the one hand, they can reach out of a LinkedIn if they
haven't at just Alexander Plank and they can also search for
Alexander Plank coaching. They will find me.
And yeah, just hit me up with Adm and also they can reach out
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over you. So we're in contact.
So there are possible ways, but the best way is LinkedIn for
sure. Awesome.
And the links will be down belowas well in the description.
And Alex, let's get back to thatmoment where you just hit rock
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bottom, you were burned out, andyou meet your younger self at
that particular moment in just one minute.
What would you tell young Alex? So when I think back to that
moment, it would really this point of you are good enough the
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way you are and you achieved so much to cite yourself worth and
not some picture of society how you should be.
And that you are not only capable of helping yourself, but
you also have a family around you and loved ones that help
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you. And that asking is a strength
and it's an advantage. And that when you believe that
there is always a solution, we will find a solution.
And I think the most important part when I think about how I
was back then was real also taking care of yourself.
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That rest becomes progress. It becomes clarity.
And that you need to do something for your health,
physically and mentally. You cherish every moment you
have of this. People around you with the part
of the family were there in those moments.
And yeah, just give you a laugh and hope, because that's in the
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end all need. Beautifully said and I'm sure
that young Alex will be proud ofyou.
You come a long way Alex and I thank you so much for being
today here and sharing this. And for those listening, if you
stick to the end, you are in fora surprise.
Me and Alex are preparing futurecollaborations in which you can
be part of. Make sure to follow us on
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LinkedIn below. The links will be down below and
stay tuned because something beautiful is coming from this
collaboration and you'll learn from it.
I'm not good enough. It's like a foundation to every
aspect of your life and it can not only go in your business, of
course it can go into your relationships, it can go in your
physical health and mentally health and your sexuality, and
that's the danger of it. Meet Alexander Planck, an
international Certified Mindset Coach helping business owners
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become productive and spend moretime in their family.
You want to bring a movement of living a healthier life.
Should it be in private? In business was linked together
at the end. It's all a huge biological
system and it works together. In today's episode, we dissect
the number one limiting belief that is holding you back, both
in life and business, how to identify the source of that
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limiting belief, and how to actually reframe it.
And all comes down to vision, because vision and purpose are
shown in studies to be healthy. And a human needs a vision and a
purpose, because that's why we are here.
Mindset is not just a buzzword, it's a way to change your life,
and this episode shows you how. Enjoy Mindset.
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It's such a misunderstood topic.Why?
I think people often are misleaded by it because mindset
is always this point of we need to sacrifice everything.
And it's always this point of how other people see me and how
society sees me. And of course, in the business
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world, that's the whole point of, OK, I want to be a part of
this 1% of this hustle culture. And we often forget what
actually is in this word mindset.
So it's mind and our mindset is connected to the brain.
So there's actual neuroscience behind it.
In psychology, how it works, just a big word, what's often
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thrown around in so many contexts and nobody knows how it
really works on your body, biology, biologically, and of
course what obviously it's the power behind it if you use it
right. And can you briefly explain it
to us? Like what is actually the
meaning of this word and how does it work?
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So mindset is of course linked to your brain and it gives you
the chance to rewrite thought patterns, but also to change old
beliefs in a way that you can use it in actions.
Like you write it down, write thoughts down and you create a
certain kind of new memory. So the more you use it, the more
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deeper it gets burned in your brain.
That's why we say it. And it builds this kind of brain
highways, I would call it. It's easier to imagine.
And the stronger they believe, the thicker your brain highway
gets because it's a muscle, you train it.
And so good beliefs can be strong, but also of course bad
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beliefs can be strong. But both gives you the
possibility to change the mindset in your way how you like
to be. Nice explanation and I love the
fact that you just say that the more you do, the better it gets
and the the stronger you believe.
And if you think about it, everysingle thing that you learn
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along the way in our life, it's something that someone, either
our parents, teachers, our peersor the network that you
surrender ourselves with repeated to us multiple times.
Or we repeated that thing a lot of times until we so strongly
believe it, even sometimes not that not being true.
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And so apply, if I understand correctly, if you want to change
that right you we have to be able to tell the new truth if
you want, or the new way of thinking so many times that we
start to believe that or I understood correctly or it works
in different ways. Exactly.
So like I said, environment can be benefiting, but it can be
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also damaging because like I said, we're like a sponge.
We get so much noise and so muchinformation in that the more we
hear it, the more it gets stuck in our head.
And it's exactly the point that it's the same like with self
talk, when we talk about our ourselves badly.
And the more we do it, the more we believe it.
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And it starts with this whole point of self-awareness and, of
course, getting to the root of the belief.
So the first thing I have to do is really to understand, OK,
what's going on now? What's what I'm really thinking?
So it's often just noise. And it's just getting so fast by
us that we often need to stop, take a step back and say, OK,
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what belief is right now runningthe show up there?
What Ford? And then the first there would
be realize it to write it down. It's the normal exercise you do
here. And then you talk, you dive
deeper into this belief, OK, where is it coming from?
Why is it appearing? Why it's triggering?
And it gives you a chance to go back in time and to find out
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where it started and to change the whole situation there to
give it a new meaning, like a reframe.
We talk about reframe and coaching normally.
That's how you can change a belief and also to create new
beliefs. And in your work, what's the
most common limiting belief thatpeople have?
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The most common one, and also for me personally, the worst,
hardest one, this I am not enough.
And I think everybody was at this point in our life through
society, through the education system.
And it was a belief I had for atleast 22 years and there are
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still people out there in every field who struggle with this
point. And it really is the starting
point to a new journey of yourself to the point I am
enough the way I am. Yeah, it's so true.
Like so many people I talked to struggle with that.
And like you, probably more than30 years, I struggle with that
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limiting belief as well. And it's strange, right?
Like because often we are capable individuals that you can
achieve an enormous amount of things and we still believe
about ourselves that are not enough and that we end up
procrastinating or aim for perfection because of it.
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And so many other downsides of these limiting beliefs.
And you identify as well as a pattern.
What are the most common sourcesof this limiting belief?
So 1, I think it's also the point where I say, OK, we need a
change society's education system because it starts there
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often because kids grow up, kidsare curious and kids are full of
life and they always tell the truth.
So they are just little angels. I would always say because
they're untouched, say it like that because nobody just said
OK, you have to sit down or you have to do this and that.
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And then they come into first grade and the first thing, sorry
if I say it is now, but it's really this way is shut up and
listen. And then we grade them on their
failures. So the grades are all based on
failures and they're through 12 years.
So you come out of the A level or Austin University come out
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and everything you've done all your life is to be focusing or
to realize, OK, I'm so much worth because of my grade.
So when if you have a bad grade,it's because I made failures.
And it's of course something we when we are older now can
understand where the problem is.But kids define themselves over
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his grades. And that's personally for me
where it started. So I can exactly tell the moment
where for me started. I'm not enough because it's
something when you go back in time and of course a lot of
methods to do that, it can exactly tell me where the first
time really appeared as I am notenough moment.
So I would say it starts really in for most of them in school
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because it can sabotage you all your life and you don't even
realize it because of course it's subconscious.
Yeah, that's dangerous. And especially as you move along
in your life and your life at the adulthood, then other things
come into play. Like for example, social media
comparison, like the perfectionist display on social
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media platform like Instagram, where people compare themselves
with others that are looking bador they are having better
vacations and so on. And like, oh, what I'm not how
should I do in order to achieve that as well or.
And all the other traps that we fall into.
And. But yeah, indeed, like education
plays a huge role in this and fortunately not a good, good
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role. And if someone is listening now
and they resonate, a lot of them, unfortunately, I will say
a lot of people will resonate inthe same time.
There is a good thing because you become aware how they should
investigate the root cause. And once they arrive at that
point, either in school or childhood where maybe they have
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siblings and their parents compare them like, oh, you're
not as good as your brother or sister or whatever and or other
things that might occur, what they can do about it.
So. The few possible exercises.
Of course you know methods you can use.
The easiest one is always, of course, reframe it, but it just
changes the whole picture of it,but it doesn't go to the root
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where it started. One easy exercise, I would say
what's also a lot of fun, and wecall it like tab exercise
because you can write it on the beer tab where you stand your
beer on it. So it's something you can use
and it works like this, that youwrite on the belief in seven
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words of seven words. And you can do it with yourself
or with somebody else. It's often either of somebody
else and he writes 7 words against it, like everybody says
I'm not good enough for example.Then he would ask who says it
and of course a longer version, 6-7 words and you break it down.
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Each step is like 7654321 and it's a way of cracking this
belief and making this first step of unarming it.
I would say easier because you need to be aware, you need to
trim it a little bit back down and then you can start getting
on the route. So it would be starting point to
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just the power of it a little bit down.
Then another exercise was what? What's perfect for this is set
yourself like on a timeline. It's really like time traveling,
honestly. Take a piece of paper, start
with today and go back in time. Really go back and think about,
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OK, go on the next step. When was the last time somebody
said I'm not enough or I thoughtI'm not enough?
So really like go take a pen, write it down, I'm not enough
today, 7th of August. Then I draw a line to another
circle and really feel into the circle and go back.
OK. When was the last exercise, the
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last time you experienced this? And then you go back like a
lifetime map till the point you get there.
That's how you find it out. And that's how you can really
travel back into your childhood or whenever it occurred and kind
of find it out. And it's called change history.
It's an LP formal. Nice.
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It's the first time I hear this exercise and it's so powerful
because you once you do that, you have a complete picture over
your actual timeline. Like maybe you won't find every
single moment or remember every single moment that that occur,
but still, you'll be able to paint the picture of, oh, that
individual or that teacher, whatwhoever said the something.
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And Speaking of words, like you mentioned in the first exercise
in which you you want, you need to write it in seven different
ways. And this is correct.
And you need to use the words exact words that person used or.
OK, yeah, as I write on my belief, so I am not good enough.
Everybody says so 7 words and then you can you can pick an
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answer also in seven words just to challenge me and it go my
answer on you in 6 words. So you don't have to answer the
same. You challenge me and you ask me.
And so if we ask more and more, we go deeper and deeper.
And the more I answer, the shorter words get.
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So I need to be clearer in my answer.
And that's the trigger up here where I can challenge it.
And you've come down to one wordand that's the cool thing.
You can disarm it with one word on your side then, because you
have to be really specific. That's a cool trick because the
more you think about it, you'll basically you move at some point
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all the negative words in a way and then end up with that word
that three matters. If you go back a bit.
This is 1 like I am not enough and projecting the downsides of
having this limiting beliefs apart from perfection is more
being stuck and so on. What other aspects of our life
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or business can this limiting believe affect so?
I'm not good enough. It's like a foundation to every
aspect because it can spread into every piece of your life
because it's like the strongest one and it's very generalistic
and can not only go in your business, of course it can go
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into your relationships, can go in your physical health, can go
in mentally health, can go in your sexuality.
And that's the danger of it. Because normally we of course
have also other beliefs or all beliefs that are sabotaging us,
but they often can be found being the root of or coming from
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this root of. I'm not good enough.
So it really finds the way in every aspect of the life and you
will always find a reason why itcomes.
Man, that's so true. Now, while I was speaking, I was
thinking, that makes so much sense because it's really
connected with every single piece of our life.
And on that, since it's so, so important, I will go back a bit
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again now to the exercise because I'm thinking like, all
right, so identify it. I'm doing this exercise with
magically gone. Or I should practice this
exercise for a long time until our brain gets rewritten in and
we truly believe that we are enough.
The practices exactly because like I said before, it's like
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this thick brain highway and nowimagine you have that for 30-40
years. So it's not like this.
It's like this. It's like a huge and of course
of this practice and always coming back to it and also
including other exercises or just doing self-care.
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You, you break it a little bit up every time, every time.
It's, it's good that you have a new belief and you use it, but
it's of course affecting so manyaspects that you always need to
remind yourself and to bring positivity into it.
So it's, of course, it's always a practice.
The root of any change, right? As much as we practice
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something, the better we get at it and the bigger the change.
And let's go be back on time. Like why you choose this path?
Like why did you enter and studyand become a certified mindset
coach in order to help others? So I would say it was
fascination for psychology and on the other hand, life
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experience. And we actually coming back to
this point of why I had this belief I'm not good enough
because it was also a part whereI said, OK, we behave this way
and that society treats us this way and that we are kind of
forced into systems that are notmade for everyone.
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And for me, the starting point was in school back then in 6th
class, standing in front of the class through a presentation,
got a blackout and went red, went sweaty and everybody
laughed and the teacher said you're not good enough. 6 sort
of F German grades and that wenton through the school path and I
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was in university always coming back to this OK, I'm standing in
front of crowd and being sweaty and having this blackout.
But at a certain point you don'tknow where it's coming from.
So we're in the subconscious layer and then of course other
things happen because like I said, it spreads for life.
So I struggled with depression, I struggled with drug abuse, my
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mother died of cancer. And this whole point of being at
the lowest point was for me the point of choosing between life
and death. And I said, OK, I want to change
my life and I want to actually help people not making this
experience so they don't have todo it.
It'll be proactive or just get abetter help because I didn't
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have help. And this was a change for me
when I said, OK, we need a change to society.
I want to bring a movement of living a healthier life.
Should it be in private and business because link together
at the end it's all a huge biological system and it works
together. And that was the starting point
for me that I said OK, I want tobe the change on top others not
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experience same or don't have tostruggle so much.
That's a worthwhile missionary and it's sometimes a bit sad to
have to go through hardship in order to identify a problem that
needs to be solved in this world.
But in the same time, I'm not sure if there are many
entrepreneurs or many people that are doing something big and
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something that has a huge impactwithout actually experience a
problem itself. And if you like, if you
experience it yourself, you are way more qualified to help
others with you, not only overcome it yourself, but in the
same time you have a deep connection with that problem.
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And yeah, that's admirable. And once you Start learning more
and more about it, like at what point you were like, yes, I'm on
the right track because a lot ofpeople struggle with a lot of
things and just say, I go, oh, Ican build a solution around this
problem or that problem and thatproblem.
And still they either it's hard to choose which one or they try
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one. They keep on doing it and
they're like, I'm not seeing anything here.
What should I do next? Or whatever.
I think your key is like, when was the moment you say, like,
this is something that they're probably going to do for the
rest of my life. It's right where you said it
right now it's this point of OK,what do I do next?
Because that's one of the pointsI've seen where we also get.
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Society involved again is this point OK what do I do with my
life and it come all comes down to vision cause vision and
purpose are shown in studies to be healthy and a human needs a
vision and a purpose because that's why we are here.
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And for me personally, final point where I realized, OK, this
me and that's what I want to do was at the end of 2023,
beginning 2024 where I had Burnout Extreme 1 and I needed
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to step back because it crushed me completely.
It took a lot from me and costedme a lot.
And I had three months. I took a three months break to
complete a step back and said, OK, who am I and what is my
vision? What is my purpose?
And that was the point where aligned again and realized, OK,
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I want to be here and I want to help people worldwide.
And that was the point of comingback stronger and also way
clearer and sure in my way. And the most people I see who
are jumping from one thing to the next are often, but it's
only my personal experience now on LinkedIn and of course also
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other clients. It's the point of I want to make
money and to want to make money as a vision doesn't work because
money comes and goes and it's a tool and it's of course good to
have it, but it's not a bigger purpose than yourself because
purpose and the vision is something we know it from master
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of pyramid. Try for it.
But we never complete reaches because it's a growth, because
it's the life journey. And yeah, the burnout was
really, for me, the opening doorto whatever you wanted.
Yeah, and exactly before those like low moments can be the door
to so many opportunities at the end of the day.
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And the same time the impact that we are here to make.
And yeah, that word that it's again together with mindset,
like purpose, it's as well thrown around a lot.
But often it's as easy as leaving this world better than
we you arrived and or simply leaving, you know, and but when
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you can make a difference like you're doing, I think that's
beautiful. Because when you look back in
time, you won't have regrets. You experienced some, you lost a
lot, but in the same time that teach you something and you were
able to impact others in a positive way without them going
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through the same things that youyou went through.
And yeah, a lot of learns from from your experience.
And I thank you first of all, toopen up and to share this.
It's often people don't do it because they're either scared or
they will feel that others will judge them.
But it's obvious that you did your own inner work and overcome
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that. Speaking of inner working, you
had to chat couple of weeks ago and about the fact that most
people don't have a business problem, they have an internal
problem. And one is the one that you
mentioned at the beginning. How business person can work
more on them self in order to identify when they face a code
(23:48):
to uncle business problem. How they realize or to
differentiate between the actualif it's a real business provider
or maybe cash flow, whatever it is or something that has to do
with them and they are the bottleneck?
So there are also a few possibleways to do it, but two things I
would always do but also works for me and what I do every day
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is the one thing is to start your day with your vision and
your gratitude. Because you realise a lot when
you stand up and you don't look at the phone and you just taking
half an hour for yourself, you realize how your brain is
working right after waking up. So if your mind is already
racing, you know it starts within.
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So it's like a checkpoint. And now the other thing is to
write all those problems and allthose faults down because the
first thing you will do with that is you will relieve your
mind and your brain because it'son paper.
It's like you're putting it out there and setting it on the
table. It just shrinks the stress a
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little bit. And then you can identify based
on that if it's really a business problem or if it's you,
because it's often the point when you write it down, we see
that we make the problem 99% bigger in our head than it is
real life. So it's the whole point of just
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stepping back and bringing it onPayPal and to see OK, what's
actually in front of me. Now to sharing.
It's a lot of self-awareness, a lot of work that you have to do
rather than just jumping straight into, oh, I have a
problem, I need to solve it. Rather than having a step back
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and instead of rushing, checkingemails, checking your phone or
your laptop to actually do that small exercise in the morning
and something that I try to do as well at the end of the day to
find what exactly happens that day in good way.
Like things that was often I wasstruggling with this fact that
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Oh my God, I haven't to done much today.
I didn't achieve that task or the other.
But when I went on the other side, I was like what I actually
did today. And when I wrote them down, I
realized that Oh my God, I achieved a lot today.
And. That's the key.
Maybe I didn't finish that task,but I did all the others that
were a priority or much more important.
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And the word vision that you mentioned, like when those are
aligned, like the things that you do, things that you're
looking for and basically to allthe others, we can and we should
say no more often if it's not aligned with our vision.
This is a key point to have those boundaries.
I always say every no is a yes to yourself.
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It makes it a little bit easier to imagine what it actually does
for yourself. And boundaries, just in a
respectful way, of course, have a huge benefit for you, but also
for your relationship, for your environment, because it shows to
the external clear where you're at, what are you doing right now
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and how you feel about it. So it's a clear communication.
And on the other hand, it gives you the chance to breathe, to
save your space, to save your energy and to focus because it's
the most important skill there is, is to focus, to actually
make progress and and to actually be self aware.
And that's where the boundaries come in.
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And when it comes to boundaries and clients, family members and
friends and so on, often most people struggle with that, me
including. Sometimes it's even if they got
better at saying no or being more respectful in my own time.
Sometimes I say yes to things that shows us opportunities but
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are just distractions in disguise.
How we get better at it. How we make sure that you're not
just saying no to a huge opportunity or we are not
upsetting someone else by sayingno.
That there may be close to us and they might need our time in
that moment or whenever they want to to share something with
us. Of course, I picked now two
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different examples and the yes or no to opportunities.
I think there's of course, like I said, the vision, if it fits
the vision, so you can write your vision down, can write
opportunity down and see if it'sno way linked to each other and
to see if it's a possibility. Because there's also, it's
(28:34):
physics really. When you're ready for something,
you're attracted. So maybe it is just right now
not for you and then you or it will come back better or it will
come even bigger back later. So it's also a mindset part
there. But of course, I always say, OK,
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if it's just a little linked to your vision and there's actually
something to learn, even if it'sgoing to burn a bet in the end,
it's always a win. You should try it in the
beginning most and with clients and relationships, it's often
the point how we communicate because like right now we're
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here sitting and talking to eachother and I communicated to my
wife earlier, OK, I need the space right now.
Everything needs to be silent and just the space for me so I
can talk to you. And if she would ask, OK, can I
come in? And I said just no.
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It's also how you pronounce that, just how you give the
context to it. It's the point of how do I
communicate it And do I explain the no?
Like it's not only birds, we have mimic, we have tonality.
So it's a lot that comes together.
And there's also the point of giving an alternative 'cause
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when a client asks, do you have a moment for me?
For me a moment is different than for him.
So it's easier to say, OK, rightnow I'm in this task.
Can I come back to you in the evening or can you just write me
real quick what the problem is and I will come back to you with
an answer. It's just us that we need to
communicate different now because we often then maybe just
(30:30):
ghost or we just route or react and passive aggressively.
So it's everybody takes information indifferently.
So it's a whether how we communicate it and how we
communicate the boundaries in a respectful way.
That's a rest perspective because often it leads to it
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ends up with that right? If you communicate something in
the rude way or in a way that it's either disrespectful or
that person feels like you're just not available or and
availabilities, of course we cantalk a lot about it.
But yeah, the whole point is to know exactly your vision, right?
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And to stick to that and to basically waiting.
Like is this yes to that person or that opportunity?
Something that enrich my vision or like to support my vision or
something that will be basicallystopping me to achieving it.
And plus, you are communicating in in a respectful way, in the
way that everyone can understandthat you have a square
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responsibilities towards yourself.
And that's the thing, right? Like you're both in business and
in life. Sometimes you're put in this
situation in which we don't knowor we don't have the tools to,
to make the right decisions. And this is a good way to do it
that I can share. You have any other tools or
frameworks that you can share that those listening can apply
(31:58):
in the business or life? It's just one fault I would
share that changed a lot of my thinking is how you react to the
past and to those opportunities if you did them or not.
And it's the whole point. Like I said, what if we don't
have the right tools right now or not are not in the right
(32:20):
state right now? And it's actually some kind of a
reframe because what we say in NLP is that in that moment that
we made a decision or action, wedid the best action for
ourselves with all the resourcesand tools we had for ourselves.
(32:42):
And it's of course clear that you would react completely
different two weeks after because maybe you learn
something, maybe you had anothertool then or just learn
something differently or were inother state of mind there.
But it's this point of forgivingyour past self.
Cause opportunities comes and goes and life comes and goes,
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but we attract the things you ready?
It's this point of giving peace to say, OK, I behaved in a way
because I thought in this momentit was the best positive way for
myself to protect myself. And it's just a thought that
many people often forget, or that you have the power and
(33:27):
control of this to actually makepeace with such moments.
You said, and indeed often we not just about ourselves, right?
Often we maybe blame others, either teachers or parents or
friends, because they behave in a certain way or they say
(33:48):
something to us. And even those teachers that
they say to us that you're not enough for, that you're not good
enough for and so on. They just use the knowledge and
the tools they have at the disposal back then.
Because if you think about it, alot of, especially in Europe, a
lot of our older generation or our parents and so on were, were
(34:10):
living in quite hard times comparing to the times they are
living right now. And with their knowledge, with
their resources and so on, they just did the best they could.
And that's the that's at the endof the day, the beauty of life.
But in the same time, yes, it can have repercussions.
And also us, we can learn from those experiences.
(34:33):
We can learn from how they praise us or how they teach us
and so on in order to do better.And on that note, like parents
that are having a lot of questions marks right now, like
how to raise kids in a way that it's not only healthy from a
(34:53):
mental perspective and physical perspective, of course, but in
the same time to be able to copewith all the pressure that is
now in the world. Because yes, we might live in,
in beautiful times from many perspectives, but in the same
times, they're changing a lot ofthings, especially around
technology and political, but wewon't get into that.
(35:15):
But technology wise, it's it's insane the the speed that things
change, how they can prepare their kids and educate them in a
way that they can thrive. So for me personally with kids,
I would say it's always a matterof dosage of technology.
Because when I think about a kindergarten, I often see
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children that are quite big up from parents and first thing
kids do, they want to talk to parents, they want to be seen
and the parents want to talk to the kindergartner and they just
take the phone and give it into the hand of the child.
And I think when we completely neglect this technology in this
(36:04):
early stages of the child, we trust triggered to use it even
more. But when the parents are not
around, So it's always like thishealthy kind of balance and to
also show the lion where the kidand needs to respect the parents
and of course needs to behave a certain way.
(36:24):
Because in the early stages, from 2:00 to 6:00, kids try a
lot of stuff and they want to know who's the boss.
And I get a lot of questions from mothers with the child at
home. And they say, OK, my kid is at
home, I'm tired from work, what should I do now?
The kid wants attention and it'salways this point, OK, how
(36:48):
communicate we all, we use it orhow we communicate to the child
because there are children who just wanted attention.
And when we yell at the kid or we just say he has the iPad,
their attention is still missing.
Not in that moment, but the child will realize their
attentions and they can just bring more and more problems
with it because the kid will do everything to get their
(37:10):
attention. That also means to do stuff that
is just bad, simple as that. But I would say it's and it's
personally how for me children should be raised as this to be
not not take the curiosity, curiosity to really try to
explain them what is going on now, why you are telling them
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what to do, what's the reason behind it?
So to learn with you, grow with you, it's part of your family.
And to be in balance of the technology because you can't
take it away from them, but you can show them how to be to use
it healthy. Now the way because it's the
difference if I show them or just give them the iPad and say,
(37:54):
hey, please just watch whatever you want to watch over and say,
hey, you want to use the iPad. Why don't you look up how to
build a house from stones, for example?
It's always this point, OK, what, what we're showing them.
And of course also because I said before, pressure to not
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bring the pressure from the relationship with your husband,
wife, partner whatsoever, and the pressure from your work to
your kid, because children are way more sensible.
They will realize what's going on even if they don't tell you
that. They will realize even if
they're sitting 2 meters away and watching something.
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They realize when the parents are fighting, for example.
Yeah. And that's the thing with kids,
right, Because you mentioned example of a sponge earlier in
our conversation. And they are like sponge.
They absorb so many emotions andso many behaviors of their
parents and those that grow up around.
And often those behaviors materialize in in real life
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through either strengths or somelimiting beliefs and weaknesses.
And if there was one single thing parents can do in order to
internalize into their kids a strong belief, what that will
be? Try.
I would say that's where the curiosity comes in.
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The kid wants to do it, try it. And that's also a point.
OK, they come back from school, do something with them, give
them the attention. You are the parent, a try of
them. You can try something in nature,
even if it's technology, cause kids naturally won't fail
anything when we don't tell themthey can fail.
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And that's the thing what makes me the most sad to be honest, is
that we take this childhood curiosity away and we need it
all our life because without that we won't try for more.
We don't try more, we don't experience more.
They always say try not study because.
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You'll learn so much from real life and from interacting.
It's just a healthier way and itstays really in your head to be
honest. Yeah, and that's so, so true.
Like if we stop trying, I won't say we stop living, but it's
close to that because. Stop living honestly.
(40:24):
What's life without trying, right?
Yeah, because the human trials biologically for more, we move
more. We explored that.
That's the whole point of like we move physically, we move
internally, we grow physically, we grow mentally and it's we the
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same as nature does. We are part of nature.
So everything is growing. So it's a huge, huge system
that's works here together and that we need to see it say it
that hard, because when you stoptrying, you're neglecting your
inner self that it's calling forgrowth time.
Like people die when they're alone.
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It's something that just shrinksand gets fast.
Powerful. And would you say that when it
comes to these kids that becomesadults and maybe they're
entrepreneurs, what will be the competitive advantage if you
can, they continue to try from those that they simply go on the
same path without pivoting, without realising that if they
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don't try, they're afraid of trying because they something
will break or they will lose something or either money or the
business and so on. Is that a big competitive
advantage or something else? Yeah, because it doesn't only
come down to business, that comes to every aspect, comes
down to health, it comes to being an employee.
And it's something you can learnfor sure, because I think when
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we grow up, when we were born our own world, because everybody
lives in this own world of beliefs, culture, aspects, it's
something we sponge up from our parents, for example.
And that's the way it was for me.
And you get a lower risk tolerance and you get have more
curiosity. And when you have disadvantage,
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you won't lose, doesn't matter if it's money or something you
want to do in gym or traveling somewhere.
Because you will always find ways.
And there are thousands of possible ways.
And you make those thousand possibles because of your
mindset and how you think about it, how you pick your think.
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The more bigger you think and the more you are into this whole
entrepreneurial mindset, the more, the more solutions
possible solutions that can try them 1 by 1.
So that's for sure an advantage.And I would say you don't know,
not only using business, you cannot use it as an employee
also, it's a huge career that. Exactly because you'll be way
(43:05):
more appreciated even if you arequote UN quote break things as
you try, but often that's how you innovate.
That's how you come up with unique solutions and
differentiate yourself. And if someone is listening
right now and they have some challenges when it comes to
(43:27):
their internal beliefs and so on, I want to connect with you
in order to help them how they can reach out.
So for the one hand, they can reach out of a LinkedIn if they
haven't at just Alexander Plank and they can also search for
Alexander Plank coaching. They will find me.
And yeah, just hit me up with Adm and also they can reach out
(43:50):
over you. So we're in contact.
So there are possible ways, but the best way is LinkedIn for
sure. Awesome.
And the links will be down belowas well in the description.
And Alex, let's get back to thatmoment where you just hit rock
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bottom, you were burned out, andyou meet your younger self at
that particular moment in just one minute.
What would you tell young Alex? So when I think back to that
moment, it would really this point of you are good enough the
(44:33):
way you are and you achieved so much to cite yourself worth and
not some picture of society how you should be.
And that you are not only capable of helping yourself, but
you also have a family around you and loved ones that help
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you. And that asking is a strength
and it's an advantage. And that when you believe that
there is always a solution, we will find a solution.
And I think the most important part when I think about how I
was back then was real also taking care of yourself.
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That rest becomes progress. It becomes clarity.
And that you need to do something for your health,
physically and mentally. You cherish every moment you
have of this. People around you with the part
of the family were there in those moments.
And yeah, just give you a laugh and hope, because that's in the
(45:37):
end all need. Beautifully said and I'm sure
that young Alex will be proud ofyou.
You come a long way Alex and I thank you so much for being
today here and sharing this. And for those listening, if you
stick to the end, you are in fora surprise.
Me and Alex are preparing futurecollaborations in which you can
be part of. Make sure to follow us on
(46:00):
LinkedIn below. The links will be down below and
stay tuned because something beautiful is coming from this
collaboration and you'll learn from it.
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