Breaking the Cycle: How to Stop Old Wounds from Hijacking Your Marriage

Have you ever had a moment where your spouse did something small—ignored a request, seemed distracted, didn’t respond the way you hoped—and suddenly, you found yourself way more upset than you expected? Maybe you lashed out, shut down, or felt deeply hurt over something that, logically, didn’t seem that big.

It happens! And there’s a reason this happens.

In those moments, your reaction isn’t just about your spouse—it’s about something deeper. It’s about a younger part of you, a part that learned long ago how to protect itself when love or attention felt uncertain.

Maybe as a child, you had parents who were physically present but emotionally distant. Or maybe you grew up feeling like you had to fight to be seen and heard.

Fast forward to today, and your nervous system still remembers. So when your spouse seems disconnected or unresponsive, your body reacts—not just to them, but to all the times you felt unseen before.

In this week’s episode of AwakenYou in Your Marriage, I’m talking about what’s really happening when small conflicts turn into big emotional reactions—and how you can start recognizing and responding differently.

In this episode, you’ll learn:
✅ Why certain interactions with your spouse feel more painful than they “should”
✅ How to recognize when your inner child is reacting instead of your adult self
✅ Simple steps to pause, reparent yourself, and shift into a response that creates connection instead of conflict

This is a powerful shift that can change the way you show up in your marriage—and help you move from frustration and resentment to deeper understanding and connection.

Here’s to seeing yourself—and your marriage—with new eyes. ❤️

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