Holding Both: How to Love Through Disappointment in Marriage

Have you ever been in a moment with your spouse where you felt a swirl of emotions?

You’re hurt.
Frustrated.
Disappointed.

But underneath all of it—you know that you still love them.

That’s exactly where I found myself the day after our 20th anniversary.
I had planned the evening. Jeff gave me flowers… a day late.
And the way he handed them to me? Let’s just say it didn’t land the way he probably hoped.

It would’ve been so easy to let my disappointment take over.
To shut down.
To keep a little distance as a way of protecting my heart.

But I did something different this time.

Something I’ve been practicing—and helping my clients practice too. 

And in today’s episode, I’m sharing what happened, what I learned, and how it might shift the way you navigate these moments in your marriage too.

🎧 Ep 213: Holding Both: How to Love Through Disappointment in Marriage

In this episode, I’ll show you:

• How to honor your true emotions without weaponizing them
• What to do when it feels “right” to stay angry—but connection is what you really want
• A simple mindset shift to help you express both your pain and your love
• A client story that shows how holding onto hurt can delay healing—and how they’re learning to let go

This episode is especially for the woman who’s doing the work—who wants to love deeply, without betraying herself.

 💛 Listen in, and then forward it to a friend who might need this reminder too.

 

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