The Middle is the Miracle: Why the Work Feels Hard Before It Feels Freeing

It feels like nothing is changing… but it is.

There’s a moment on the journey of growth that can feel downright cruel.

You’re showing up. You’re doing the work. You’re staying present, using the tools, praying through the pain…
And still, nothing seems to be changing.
Not fast enough. Not visibly enough.
And that old voice whispers, Why bother?

If that’s where you are right now, I recorded this week’s episode just for you.

✨ It’s not that you’re doing it wrong.
It’s that you’re in the middle — the sacred, quiet stretch where the muscle of change is forming before it’s visible.

In today’s episode of AwakenYou in Your Marriage, I talk about what it means to live in that middle space — the part where you're sometimes still falling into old patterns, but you're also starting to notice them and choose differently.

I’ll share a story from one of my coaching clients — a woman who, in the face of emotional shutdown and discouragement, kept showing up for herself and her relationship. She didn’t get it “right” the first time. Or the second. But she kept coming back. And her courage was building something far more powerful than perfection.

This episode is your reminder that:

• Falling into the hole doesn’t mean you’re failing
• You can regulate, recover, and re-enter with love
• And your heart is already protected by a God who is holding you as you grow

So if you’re weary from doing the work and wondering if it’s making a difference — please don’t miss this one.

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