The Patience Required for Lasting Change in Your Marriage

I know the journey to a healthier, more connected marriage can feel slow. Sometimes it feels like you’re doing the work, showing up differently, choosing patience, and yet… nothing seems to change.

Maybe your spouse still reacts the same way. Maybe old patterns resurface. Maybe you wonder if all this effort is even worth it.

I want you to stop for a moment. Breathe.

And hear this: The work you are doing matters.

Even if you can’t see the full transformation yet.
Even if your spouse hasn’t changed in the way you hoped.
Even if you’ve stumbled along the way.

Healing and growth don’t happen in an instant. They happen in the quiet, unseen moments—the ones where you choose to listen instead of react, where you pause before frustration takes over, where you remind yourself that change is a process, not a destination.

And if you’ve put the work down—if you’ve felt discouraged and stopped trying—it’s not too late to pick it back up.

Because here’s the truth: Every small effort is shaping the marriage you’ll have a year from now.

Think about that for a moment.

What if, a year from now, you could look back and see that your patience, your persistence, your choice to keep going—despite the setbacks—created a deeper, more loving, more secure connection than you ever thought possible?

It’s not just possible—it’s inevitable if you commit to the process.

So today, I want to encourage you:

• Keep going, even if the change feels slow.
• Keep choosing love, even when it’s hard.
• Keep believing in the marriage you desire, because it is within reach.

And if you need support in this process—if you need someone to help you stay the course—I’d love to have a Courageous Love Conversation with you.

You don’t have to do this alone.

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