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Speaker 1 (00:00):
What is up everyone?
Welcome back to another episodeof the Bible's Nonsense podcast
.
On today's episode, I'm justgoing to keep it short and sweet
, but I think it could hit homefor some.
I want to share some fun thingsI've been doing lately and are
totally outside of my normalroutine.
And then I kind of want toshift into something I've been
thinking a lot about recently,and that's just beauty standards
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in general.
Two very different topics, but,trust me, they do connect a
little bit.
So you know, you can grab acoffee, maybe a drink if it's
later in the day, take a walk.
Whatever you're doing, let'sjust chat.
All right, guys, welcome back.
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I wanted to talk a little bitabout some things I've been
doing around town lately,because I haven't done an
episode like that in a while.
So a few weeks ago I didsomething that might not sound
like a big deal to some of you,but for me it was kind of huge.
I decided to go out with somefriends and I went to the new
Providence bar.
So if you're local toHuntsville and there's some new,
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well, there's a lot of newrestaurants and bars opening up.
And I did go to Providence bar,um, and instead of sticking to
my usual routine which, let's behonest, is bedtime at 8 PM or
earlier some nights.
Um, I stayed out until one inthe morning, and yes, you heard
that right.
One in the morning, and yes,you heard that right 1am.
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Let's get wild.
I know y'all are all probablylike okay, but no y'all.
If those who know me know thatme staying out past nine or 10
is a pretty big deal.
But the night ended up beingone of the best times I've had
in a long time.
Somehow I became the unofficialDJ after hours with the
manager's phone and we alllaughed until our stomachs hurt.
I met new people and I let goof the little voice in my head
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that usually says you don'tbelong here, go home.
Usually that's my socialanxiety, but that night it
didn't win and I'm so glad I didstay and I'm so glad I got to
catch up with old friends, meetsome new people and still to
this day hear about it.
Because it was such a good time.
And not long after that Idecided to take myself on a
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little solo date for a brunchdate.
I think it was a couple weeksago.
I went to the new brunch spotin town in Huntsville and it's
Luna's Cafe.
And it's right beside theProvidence Bars the same owners,
and it's right beside theProvidence Bar it's the same
owners.
And it was supposed to just beme just having a me day, you
know my food, and some quiettime, but of course, life had
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other plans.
I ended up meeting new peopleand having great conversations,
even though I walked inexpecting to be alone, and let
me just say the food and drinkswere amazing at both places.
So so, if you're wanting to trynew places in Huntsville,
totally recommend the Providencebar and Luna's cafe.
Um, because they have greatfood, great drinks, atmospheres,
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awesome.
Both are beautifully decorated.
It's just a great vibe allaround.
Um.
So, and then, this past weekend, I got to celebrate one of my
best friends as she's preparingto have her first baby.
You know.
That reminded me of howimportant it is to show up for
life's milestones, to pause andbe present in those moments that
we can't get back.
I know a lot of us we're.
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We're living everyday life,hustling, bustling, moving
around, constantly, saying thatwe don't have time for things,
but then then, like looking backon experiences I really do
sometimes miss and or regret,just being like, oh, I can't do
that, or I'm tired, I don't wantto go out and I like our.
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This reminds me of a few yearsago.
I read Shonda Rhimes book theYear of yes and I was saying I
think this was 2022.
And I was just saying yes to somany new things and experiences
and it was just a really goodtime and I met so many different
people and I just went to newrestaurants, tried new things
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and, looking back on it, thoseare great memories.
So maybe I'll reread that bookand encourage myself to start
saying yes a lot more.
But all of this to say likestaying out late, trying new
places, celebrating with friendsit's definitely reminded me
that joy doesn't always live inthat safe, predictable space
that we like to call our comfortzone.
Right, sometimes joy is on theother side of just saying yes,
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even when it's not part of ourplans.
And like I get it.
You know, I'm not a parent, I'mnot a spouse, I don't have a
partner, so it is easy for me tosay yes to things that I
typically wouldn't, where somepeople are sitting there,
probably listening, going.
Well, I can't do that when Ihave a family at home and I
completely understand that, likeeverything's nuances and what,
what kind of we, what we have todeal with, right, but I just
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kind of wanted to update y'allon some cool little places that
I've been to in Huntsville andlet y'all know if you haven't
been definitely recommend.
And then the second part of thisepisode that I kind of wanted
to talk about that's been on mymind lately is just beauty
standards.
I know I've touched on thisbriefly in other episodes, but I
don't know, it's just been onmy mind lately and I think it's
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because I mentioned this in myQ&A podcast episode that I've
been dissolving some more oldfiller in my face.
And you know, I don't know ifyou've ever been through a
dissolving process with filler,but it is a process like you go
through like oh my gosh, what amI doing?
How do I look like?
In your mind you think you lookcrazy and all my friends are
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like you literally look the sameand I'm like, really, because I
feel like I look crazy.
But anyways, it just got methinking about beauty standards
in general and while you know,while I have been saying yes to
new experiences, like going outwith friends and stuff like that
, I've also been saying yes tosome deeper thoughts.
I've been really reflecting onthe beauty standards, like where
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do they come from?
Is it?
Do we think this is more of aHollywood situation?
Is it coming more from men?
Is it women?
Is it both?
Is it all of it?
Because when I talk to men likemy my guy friends, you know
they'll say, oh, I don't careabout makeup or surgery or
fillers and all that stuff.
Like, even people I've datedthey'll say that.
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But then it's like you look attheir social media and it's
nothing but Instagram modelswith large boobs, bbls, filters,
you know, fillers, and I'm likeokay, well, what's the truth?
Like, do you not care?
Because that seems to be theonly girls you're following and
liking, or is it just somethingeasy to say out loud?
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But on the flip side of that, Ialso think that women, we as
women, compare ourselves to eachother constantly.
You know, like, like, whenwe're going out, I feel like
women are more so worried aboutwhat women would think,
sometimes more so than men, andmaybe that's where so much of
the pressure comes from.
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It's probably a mix of bothoutside expectations and
internal competition.
Either way, it feels like wecan't win.
You know, we're damned if we do, we're damned if we don't.
It's like don't age.
But if you use filler or Botoxor have surgery people talk
about that too it's like you'reexpected not to do anything to
yourself because that's quoteunquote plastic or you know
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that's fake, that's not what Godgave you.
But then if you don't do it,it's like you're supposed to age
gracefully but you can't helpwhat your genetics are or how
much money you have to buyskincare and whatnot.
But you know, men, on the otherhand, when they age, it's like
a rite of passage, it's likesexy, it's get that salt and
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pepper, hair wrinkles, maybe alittle belly, and suddenly
they're quote unquotedistinguished, they're somehow
sexier for doing what all of usare doing, which is getting
older.
Like there's no, there's nostopping that, there's no magic
pill, there's no fountain ofyouth, there's no Peter Pan
syndrome, no magic pill, there'sno fountain of youth, there's
no peter pan syndrome.
Well, you know, there is apeter pan syndrome, but there is
no stopping aging.
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And I'll be real with you, Iget caught in that mix too, like
I'm not gonna lie and say thatI haven't had fillers we all
I've talked about it um or thatI don't try to do the best I can
like get devices like red redlight therapy masks or the?
Um.
What's the other one, the um?
Oh, I can't think of.
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It's like that little vibratingthing that like messes with
your muscles.
Um, the new face or somethinglike that.
Um, washing facials, all thethings, right, you know, um, I
used to say that I would neverdo anything to stop aging.
I used to say that all the timeI'd be like I can't wait till I
get old.
You get to do what you want.
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I was going to be all natural,embrace every wrinkle, but then
it's like in the morning youwake up and you're like well,
where did this wrinkle come from?
What can I do?
And then suddenly you know I'mnot so opposed to things to feel
good in my own skin.
Like I said earlier, I've triedaesthetic treatments.
I've had some mishaps We've allheard about, you know, my
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filler mishaps and having tohave surgery for correction and
I've realized it really is allabout balance, finding that line
between taking care of yourselfwithout losing yourself and
being honest about it.
And I'm not saying everyone hasto go around telling everybody
what they've done, but I willprobably be that girl that will
always like I'm honest about thetreatments that I have had or
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what I'm doing, and I'll be.
I'll be honest, I'll be thatgirl one day that will want to
facelift down the road.
I'm not going to pretendotherwise, like I used to be,
like I will never be that person.
Obviously, that's going todepend on you know technology,
where I'm at in my life, becauseanything can happen.
We just never know.
But also know that thatdecision will be mine when I
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make it.
It's not going to be anybodyelse and most of the time let me
just say this I do stuff for me, not for other people, because
it's and I think I thinkmajority of women can say this
as well when we do things Itruly don't think well, I can
only speak for me.
I can't speak for everybodyelse.
We're doing it for other people, like we're doing it for
confidence boost and how we feelabout ourselves.
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Now, obviously, we want ouroutward appearance to be a
certain way for the outside, butI also think it makes us feel a
certain way as well, like itboosts our confidence.
It makes you feel like yourself.
You know that you, that youonce felt, but it won't when I,
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when I do decide to make adecision, or when I do make
decisions, it's not to pleaseanyone else or to fit into some
impossible standard.
It'll be because that's what Ichose for me and that's
something I'm working on,because for the longest time I
did do things to try to fit themale gaze or whatnot, but now
it's more for coming into my own.
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I think that comes with aging aswell, which is another
beautiful part of aging is theolder we get, the more wisdom we
have, the more decisions we canmake for our internal self and
the more confidence you have andthe more you grow in that, the
more you can make thosedecisions more soundly.
So maybe that is the realtakeaway here.
You know, beauty standards areloud.
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I think they're always going tobe loud.
They're probably even going toget louder with the more social
media that grows and comes outand all the.
You know it used to be justFacebook, then it was Facebook
and Instagram.
Now it's Facebook, instagramand TikTok, you know.
So the more social media appscome out and the more technology
that comes around, like filtersand AI technology, where it we
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think these people look the waythey do until we see them in
real life and realize like, oh,we all just look the same.
It's just these impossiblestandards.
And I think that the more werealize that and the more we
quiet that voice that you knowin our heads that we need to
look a certain way, and the morewe listen to our own and come
into our own decisions on ourown that we can own, if that
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makes sense.
It's going to be better thatway.
So I just wanted to keep itshort and sweet for this episode
.
So here's why these two thingstie together for me.
Saying yes to new experiences,whether it's staying out too
late, eating brunch at a newspot or celebrating a friend,
reminded me that life is allabout balance.
And reflecting on beautystandards has also reminded me
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of the same thing Balancebetween routine and spontaneity,
between self acceptance andself improvement, between what
society expects and what weactually want for ourselves.
So here's my challenge for youthis week, and not only for you,
for myself say yes to somethingoutside of your norm.
Try the new restaurant, take aclass, go to an event, but at
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the same time, give yourselfsome grace when you look in the
mirror.
We're all aging, we're allfiguring it out, we're all
allowed to be a work in progress.
We are all beautiful in our ownway.
Thanks for hanging out with metoday, guys.
If you liked the little mix oflife updates and deeper
reflection, share it withsomeone who might need a
reminder to say yes, saying yesto life and to themselves.
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So thanks for letting me keepit short and sweet this week.
I will be at it all next weekwith a whole new episode and
until then, bye, thank you you.