September 9, 2025 • 46 mins
#188: Ever wondered what goes on inside my head when it comes to dating, beauty standards, and personal growth? This raw Q&A episode pulls back the curtain on everything from my dating history to fitness philosophy.
I'm tackling the relationship questions you've been curious about—why I'm still single, the red flags I repeatedly ignore, and my tendency to give second (or tenth) chances. With unflinching honesty, I admit that my "type" tends to be toxic and explore how childhood trauma shapes my relationship patterns. You'll hear why I struggle with vague "go with the flow" dating scenarios and my perspective on when physical intimacy makes sense in a new relationship.
The conversation shifts to social media and physical appearance, where I reveal the truth behind my TikTok dances (they're therapeutic, not thirst traps!) and share my complicated journey with cosmetic procedures. After experiencing both breast implants and filler complications, I offer candid insights about beauty enhancements I now regret and why surgical options eventually made more sense for me than temporary fillers.
Fitness enthusiasts will appreciate my no-nonsense approach to staying in shape—heavy lifting, adequate calories (yes, I eat 2100+ calories daily), and consistency. I challenge the common misconception that endless cardio and severe calorie restriction lead to the lean, strong physique many women desire. Instead, I share how embracing proper nutrition and strength training transformed my relationship with my body.
Perhaps most revealing is my reflection on independence versus vulnerability. While my self-reliance often gives the impression I don't need support, what I truly desire is a partner secure enough in their masculinity to allow me to embrace my feminine energy. This tension between strength and surrender represents the complex reality many successful women navigate in relationships.
If you've ever struggled with setting boundaries, trusting your intuition, or learning to love yourself through life's messiest moments, this episode offers both compassion and clarity. Listen now for a conversation that might just change how you approach your own journey toward authentic self-expression and meaningful connection.
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Johnna (00:00):
What is up everyone?
Welcome back to another episodeof the Babbles Nonsense podcast
.
On today's episode I am doing aQ&A.
Y'all all submitted questionsand I'm going to give you the
answers to the best of myability.
So stay tuned if you areinterested in this topic.
So all right, guys, so're goingto see me like looking at the
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computer screen so that I cananswer the questions that you
all submitted.
So I had a Q&A box on Instagramand I have to look at the
computer screen and I cannotlook at the phone screen.
So I've been trying my best todo somewhat of a visual podcast,
even though it's not like upvisually, like me answering live
(01:08):
, but I've been doing my best tolike record it and put it on
TikTok.
So if you're not following meon TikTok, I believe don't quote
me on this.
I believe my TikTok user handleis babblesnonsense, like all
together, and you'll see likemore visual stuff there than on
Instagram, just because it has along format.
(01:30):
But I have the questions on mycomputer.
So I have to obviously look atmy computer because y'all all
submitted questions that I haveto answer.
So I have looked at thesequestions but I have not like
written down like formal answers, so bear with me on, like, if I
have to take pauses or whatever, because some of these caught
me a little off guard.
Some of them, I was just likewhat are you asking?
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And even I had to ask theperson, like what are you asking
?
And they were like you saidanything goes.
And I was like yes, I did, butlike make it make sense, you
know what I'm saying.
And these are in no order, likeno format.
I try to like categorize them,but then I was like you know
what?
This is just too much thoughtprocess.
Let's just like answer them asthey come in.
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So, like one of them.
So we're just going to go inorder.
Okay, are you dating anyoneright now?
The answer is no, I'm notdating anyone.
I'm single.
I have been in situations wherepeople want to claim me as
theirs but then they don't quote, unquote make me theirs.
So I have been loyal to a faultand I have to stop doing that.
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So no, the answer is I'm single.
I'm currently not dating anyone.
Next question why don't we eversee you on dates?
The answer is because I don'tlike it.
I don't like the thought of it,I don't like going on dates.
I don't like putting myself outthere on dates, so I just don't
do it.
Also, just don't put it outthere.
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I know I like joke around andsay that I'm going to put out a
podcast where I'm on a datingexpedition.
I don't love it Like I'm on adating app.
I'm on hinge right now.
I'll I'll I'll just be honestabout that.
I will literally not sign on.
Sign on for three weeks and,like I have messages and of
course, like by the time Ianswer the messages, the
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person's like probably alreadymarried at that point.
So no, you don't ever see me ondates because I don't go on
them.
The next question is would youdate someone who slid into your
DMs?
Probably Just depends, justdepends.
What's the vibe?
Are you attractive?
Like are we on an attractionlevel, like can you communicate
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well?
So the answer is probably.
It just depends.
I'm not opposed to it, but ithas to be the right vibes.
Um, the next question what's thebiggest red flag you ignore
every time?
I would say the biggest redflag I probably ignore is when
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someone tell me, tells me whothey are Like, when someone is
like let's just go with the flow, I'm like sure I can do that I
can go with the flow, but also,at the same time, like that is
also a red flag because like,yes, like we all want to go with
the flow, but to what extent?
Like what, where?
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Where are we flowing?
What's the extent of this?
Like, what's your what are?
What is your ultimate goal?
Like I can go with the flow,like I don't have a timeline, I
don't have like a two months,six months, whatever.
But like, where are we flowing?
Are we flowing into arelationship?
Like, are we wanting the samethings?
And I think that I am reallybad about asking that.
Think that I am really badabout asking that.
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I think I'm really bad aboutbeing like this is ultimately
what I want.
What do you want?
Like I'm cool with going quoteunquote with the flow, but like
you got to tell me where we'reflowing.
Next question what's yourcurrent type?
Or are you in your quoteunquote, no type error?
I don't think I have a type.
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If I have a type, it's toxic.
That is my type.
I think it's from childhoodtrauma.
I think that I tracked what I'mused to in my childhood trauma,
but I don't necessarily whenwe're talking about, like a
looks wise, when people are likeoh, I like blonde hair, blue
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eye, like I don't have a typenecessarily that way.
Now, if we're like looking like, what do you go for?
Like, what is your turn on?
Like communication, like, canyou carry on a sentence past Hi,
how are you Like on a sentencepast hi, how are you?
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Like, can you actually have aconversation?
That is my type.
Next question Do you believe insecond chances or is blocked,
forever blocked?
Well, we all know I'm the queenof third, fourth, fifth, sixth,
seventh, eighth, ninth, tenthchances and I take I say that
lightly because I believe inpotential and I know that we're
not supposed to date forpotential.
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But I do believe in potentialand I truly feel for people
because I've been there, like weall been there, right, like
when we know where, wheresomeone could be.
But the problem is problem isis like, if we're going back to
red flags, my red flag is that Idate for potential and I feel
like I can change someone and Ican't, like no one can ever
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change someone.
The person has to want tochange themselves.
So, yes, I believe in secondchances, but at the same time,
it's like's, like at what extent?
Like, when do we have to putself respect first.
When do we have to say, like Ihave to respect myself before I
give you a second chance.
So it's all caveats.
Like it's all situational, it'snot just like oh, this is a
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blanket statement, it's allbased on individuals, all right,
next question.
And also I hate saying nextquestion.
Like I really wanted my friendIvy to actually ask the
questions but she was busy soI'm having to ask and answer.
So it's just awkward.
How soon is too soon to sleepwith someone?
I don't know the answer to that.
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Because, like, if you ask atherapist like, like, wait till,
wait till you're in a committedrelationship, um, I'm all about
intuition.
Like, if the first date's thefirst date, then whatever.
But if also at the same time,like if you're getting player
vibes, like then you need towait.
Like it's all about intuition.
Like, what are the vibes?
What are you feeling from thisperson?
What do you want?
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Like, are you just wanting ahookup or Are you wanting a
committed relationship?
Like, if you're like, honestly,from a girl's perspective, if
you're looking to have a seriousrelationship with someone and
you want someone to take youseriously, then you're going to
have to wait.
That's just my personalpreference, like I'm not saying
that's true for all men, allwomen.
I'm not going to sleep withsomeone on the first date
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because for me, for women like Ifeel like sex is emotional and
it's not just like a hookup.
There are some women out therethat can do that.
I'm just not one of them.
So for me, I think that it'swhen the timing is right for you
personally and what you'relooking for.
I don't think there's a rightor wrong answer.
I don't think, like looking forsomeone on the first date
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versus like the 20th date, Idon't think there is a right or
wrong answer.
I think what is right for youand what feels right to you is
the correct answer, you know.
Next question have you everregretted giving someone grace?
For me, no, because I giveeveryone grace, because I want
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to be given grace I have beendiving into my faith a lot
lately and for me, like, I wantsomeone to give me grace because
I'm not perfect.
No, human is perfect.
I think we all make mistakes.
I think that we all walk thispath in the way that we feel is
right in the moment.
But we regret things and I'venever regretted giving someone
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grace.
I have regretted, sometimessaying things in that moment,
but at the same time, like, asfar as like giving someone grace
no, I think we all, as humans,deserve grace, because we've all
been there where we've mademistakes, but I've never regret,
regretted giving grace.
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Next question Would you ratherbe single forever or with the
wrong person forever?
I think I would rather besingle forever.
So backstory, because I've beensingle quote unquote single for
a long time.
If we're talking like someoneclaiming me, someone calling me
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their girlfriend, someoneputting me in a relationship,
I've been single for a very longtime.
Like I've been insituationships.
I have liked people, I havedated people, but like to be
called someone's girlfriend.
It's been a very long time.
So I've been single for a very,very long time and I've gotten
set in my ways.
I'm older now and I personallywould rather be single and doing
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my own thing than be stuck insomething that I'm miserable.
Miserable in.
Yes, like being singlesometimes can be miserable, I'm
not gonna lie.
Like you're lonely, you knowyou.
You want things that you wantand you don't have someone there
, but at the same time, likeyou're not having to answer to
someone, you're not having toquestion, like have all these
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questions and running throughyour head or whatnot.
And so I would rather just besingle and be in those
situations where I can just goback to my place, cry if I need
to cry, drink if I need to drink, binge out on some pizza if I
need to binge out on some pizza,but at the ultimate time I have
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my space to do that for me.
So being single versus being ina miserable relationship, 1000%
always All right.
Next question what's up withall the TikTok dances?
Is this a thirst trap or is ittherapy?
All right, thank you for askingwhoever asked this, but like,
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no, tiktok dances is not athirst trap for me.
It's funny.
I have always loved to dance.
Like I'm not professionallytrained in any matter, I was not
on a dance team, I was on acheerleading squad at one point
embarrassing moment for me.
Um, actually, let's just goahead and talk about that
backstory.
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I was a cheerleader for alittle bit.
I hung out with a lot of peoplelike unpopular, popular,
whatever.
So I was on the cheerleadingsquad and at the peps the pep
rally one time when they wereintroducing cheerleaders I
believe it was my had to be my10th grade year because we
entered a new high school and inmy ninth grade year we were in
the old high school.
So my 10th grade year, becausewe entered a new high school and
in my ninth grade year we werein the old high school.
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So my 10th grade year, I was onthe cheerleading squad and
they're like they wereintroducing the cheerleaders or
whatever, and we had to like dosome kind of jump, you know,
herky, toe touch, whatever.
I believe I did the herky.
I tried gymnastics I suck at itbecause I don't trust myself
enough to do like a backhandspring, whatever and I fell,
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fell at the pep rally.
So embarrassing, um.
So no, tiktok, dancing for meis not a thirst trap.
It's actually embarrassingCause I'm like really do I want
to put this out there Like thankGod for my best friend Lori.
She has to like look at like 20of the videos that I send her
to pick one.
Like which one do you like?
Um, it's because I really likedancing, I really do, I enjoy it
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.
It's like therapeutic for me.
So I guess if we're answeringthirst trap versus therapy, I
would say it's more therapy forme, it's therapeutic.
I really liked to learn it.
I like to try to try like I'mnot technically trained.
I honestly have thought multipletimes about doing dance classes
, but I don't know if Huntsvillehas them.
I probably need to look intothat and see to like to kind of
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like learn some basic moves.
But I'm really I think that I'mgood at like imitating.
I don't know.
There's some more TikTok dancesthat I have saved that I want
to learn.
So I'm always behind the trend,though that's the problem
TikTok dances that I have saved,that I want to learn.
So I'm always behind the trend,though.
That's the problem.
Like I do them and I'm behindthe trend because I just don't
have the time.
Like I just don't have the timeto practice.
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Like I get the moves down likewithin a couple hours, but then
like to perfect it, to make itto my own, to make it like look
decent.
It takes a couple of days, notbecause it takes days within,
like the amount of time.
It takes time like as far aspracticing, like if we're
talking about like if I sat down, learned it, perfected it, put
my own spin on it, I couldprobably do it in 24 hours, but
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I just don't have the timebecause I work a full time job.
You know what I'm saying.
But anyways, probably, if I'manswering this question, therapy
.
Next question Do you makeTikToks for yourself or for
someone watching?
I make them for myself.
I make them for no one watchingbecause, number one, no one
watches them.
I'm not trying to be aninfluencer, I'm not trying to be
quote unquote TikTok famous.
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I'm just doing them for me andputting them out there and also
because my best friend Lori haschallenged me to do so.
She does them.
I think her TikToks arehilarious.
So I was like I want to be likeyou.
So if we're talking aboutanything, I want to be like my
best friend Lori and I just putthem out there, not for clout,
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not for likes, not for any viewsor anything like that.
It's just honestly because I'mlike I did this, someone should
watch it.
So if anybody does watch it,that's awesome.
And then I also watched aTikTok one time where someone
was like if you ever ran across20 people in real life that were
like you did a good job, that'sa lot.
So and when, like, if, let'ssay, we have 20 views on our
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TikToks, we're like, 20 views,20 view, like 20 people coming
up to you in real life is a lot,so I do it.
For me it's cool if peoplewatch um.
Next question what's your toxictrait on social media?
What is my toxic trait onsocial media?
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Probably stalking.
Like I stalk people's profileslike anybody else, like women or
fbi agents.
I tell you, like we can findout anything like if we're
dating someone, we want to datesomeone, we can find out
anything.
If we're going to your pageseeing who you like to go to
someone else's page, trust me,that's probably a toxic trait
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because we can get down a rabbithole.
A rabbit hole.
I would have to say that would.
That would be it.
Next question do you delete postwhen you're over a guy?
I'm assuming this is like ifyou posted someone, I wouldn't
know.
I can't answer this questionbecause I've never posted a guy.
Every guy I've ever dated haskept me anonymous, secret if you
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will.
So I've never had to do that.
I have never had to deletesomeone.
So let me think futuristic.
Would I delete a guy if I'mover them and they're on my
social media page?
I don't know.
The question would be I don'tknow, how good do I look in the
photo?
Like that's a toxic trait.
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Like how good do I look in thatphoto.
And I guess it would depend.
If I'm with a new relationshipand I'm very serious with the
relationship I probably would,because I wouldn't want my new
person to be insecure or tothink that I was still in love
with this person, because whoknows.
Next question Do you deleteposts when you're over a guy?
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Again, that goes back to thequestion I just answered.
I can't really answer thatbecause I've always been in
quote unquote situationships.
No one's ever really publiclyposted me.
Always been in quote unquotesituationships.
No one's ever really publiclyposted me.
Next question who do you blockfaster, exes or trolls?
Trolls, I don't even block exes.
Number one I don't have exes, Ihave situationships.
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But if you want to look at mystuff, look at my stuff.
The only time I block an ex isnot for them, it's for me, it's
so that I'm not stalking theirpage looking at their stuff.
It's it's for me, it's not forthem, it's not so that they
can't see my stuff, it's so thatI can't see their stuff because
I don't want to see them doingall the stuff like moving on and
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whatever.
That's for me, for me to moveon.
So I will 1000% block a troll,spam, whatever over an ex.
Next question Do you believe inthe soft block?
I don't know what that is.
Let me see if I can Google whata soft block is real quick, so
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that I know what that is.
To answer this question, a softblock is a term for a technique
on social media where a usertemporarily blocks another user
and then immediately unblocksthem to remove them as a
follower, without alerting themthat they were blocked.
No, that's toxic.
I didn't even know what thatwas.
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I don't do that.
If I'm going to block you, I'mgoing to block you.
If I don't want you to see mystuff, I don't want you to see
my stuff.
I don't need you to like, block, unblock, whatever, anyways.
So now the answer to that is no.
The next question is would youever dye your hair a different
color?
So I'm naturally redheaded.
Um, I get I actually ask thatall the time.
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Like what color is your naturalhair?
Naturally redheaded?
Actually, like they technicallythat I guess the term is
strawberry blonde.
My hair has always gottenblonder in the summer when I'm
in the sun.
It's redder in the winter.
So sometimes, occasionally, Iwill put blonde highlights in
the summer in my hair.
So, yes, I have put blonde.
I have asked multiplehairstylists to dye my hair
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completely blonde before andthey won't do it.
None of them Every one of themsays no because they're like
you'll regret it.
You have naturally, beautifullyred hair.
But you know, it kills mebecause a lot of people are like
why do you dye your hair?
You have such beautiful redhair?
Because I'm like anyone else.
I'm like anyone else.
It's like I'm bored.
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You know, let's like let'schange it up.
I don't think that I would goany thing different than that.
I will say in high school I diddo low lights, so like I had
red hair, and I did low lightswith like um, brown, which was a
temporary color which washesout.
So my hairstylist put somebrown in my hair, loved it.
It washed out, so it wasn't, itdidn't last very long.
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So I don't think I would doanything drastic.
I have tried to dye my hairblonde multiple times.
Nobody will do it and I'm tooafraid to do it myself.
So I think what we see is whatwe get and that's what we're
sticking to.
Next question Are you a naturalred hair?
Yes, I'm naturally redheaded.
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Again, the term is strawberryblonde, yeah.
And then I got a question thatsays is it true about redheads?
I don't know what you're asking.
I don't know what you're asking.
Follow all the TikToks on that.
There's a whole thing aboutwhat redheads get asked on a
daily basis, like does thecarpet match the drapes?
Like redheads get asked all thetime, like we're fetishized,
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like yes, like all of that,let's just go find the TikToks
on that and I'm not going toanswer that.
Next question how long does ittake you to get ready for these
TikTok dances?
I mentioned it briefly earlier.
It doesn't like.
Honestly.
Honestly, if I had the time,like if I had just had one day,
like let's say I had, I woke upand I didn't have to go to the
gym, meal prep, all the stuff ifI just had one day, if I could
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just wake up, learn the dance,perfect the dance and put out
the dance, it would probablytake me a few, like probably one
to two days, because obviouslyI'm not going to do that for 24
hours.
But but, like, realistically,because I have other things to
do, like a job, meal preppingand stuff like that, it takes me
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about a week to get it likedown, like practice it, perfect
it, put my spin on it.
It takes me about a week.
Next question what's one thingyou'll never change about your
looks?
One thing I'll never changeabout my looks I guess, like
fully my hair color, like yes, Iput highlights and stuff in it,
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but that well, I mean, I guessthat counts as changing it,
let's say my personality,because that's never going
anywhere.
I know that's not your looks,but it kind of is, it's kind of
your personality.
At the end of the day that'snot going anywhere.
The next question says how'syour filler journey going?
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It's better.
So my filler so actuallyactually okay, y'all all, if
you've been listening to thefiller under my eyes that's
finally like dissipated, ifthat's the word I think.
I think that's the word Um.
But I stupidly at the same timeeight years ago, got filler in
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my laugh lines it's called thenasolabial folds and recently
it's turned firm, um, so I'vebeen dissolving that and
recently it's turned firm.
So I've been dissolving that.
And weirdly, as I've beendissolving that, my under eye
filler under the left eye that'skind of still had that little
swelling, has gotten better.
It's almost almost always gone,I'm assuming, because it had
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nowhere to go.
So I'm kind of slowly dissolvingthe filler in my laugh lines
that made me look older than Iwas at the time.
And that's been a journeyBecause you know you're used to
looking at your face like Italked to my friends all the
time and I'm like, oh my gosh, Ifeel like I look crazy.
They're like you literally lookthe same.
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But we're used to looking atour face like even in, even in
videos, like like how, like youcan turn your iPhone where it's
like almost inverted, like amirror, and if it's the other
way, you're just like I don'tlook the same, because you're
used to looking at your face ina mirror, inversion or whatever.
And so that's been a journey.
So I'm just trying to get allthe filler out of my face that I
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did like seven, eight, nine,ten years ago that I wish I
would have never done.
Don't recommend, would ratherhave plastic surgery.
So if I start looking older ina couple days, y'all know why
I'm dissolving all the filler inmy face, like the under eye
filler is finally gone.
The only other filler that'sleft is in my lips and in my
nasolabial folds, which is yourlaugh lines.
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I will not dissolve the ones inmy lips because y'all do not
want to see that, but it is whatit is.
I'm almost 40.
You know what I'm saying?
I've got to start embracing myaging.
Next question have you ever hadplastic surgery and do you
believe in plastic surgery?
So, yes, I have had plasticsurgery.
I actually had breast implantsin 2010,.
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Have had plastic surgery.
I actually had breast implantsin 2010,.
Um, had them redone in 2015, Ibelieve, because my left implant
displaced and then I had themactually officially removed in
2017.
And then, if you've beenfollowing along with the filler
journey, I had a blepharoplasty,which is skin removal under the
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eyes and above the eyes in 2022because of a filler mishap.
So that was like a surgicalcorrection from filler.
And so, yes, I do believe inplastic surgery.
At this point, after everythingthat I've been through, the
research that I've done, plasticsurgery like obviously you have
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to research your surgeonbecause surgery is permanent.
I believe more so in thesurgical route because I feel
like it is permanent as long asyou have a good surgeon the
reputable it seems to be morebang for your buck versus like
doing all this other stuff thatcould potentially go wrong and
then you have to have a surgicalcorrection at the end.
That's just my personalexperience, because I have
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obviously had random thingshappen.
Um, so, yes, I do believe inthat.
Um.
Next question Do you think yourvibe intimidates men?
I don't know.
You tell me, like, probably, Ikind of can come off bitchy I'm
not going to lie.
I think it's just because I ittakes a lot to impress me and so
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, yes, I'm going to.
Yes, my vibe probably doesintimidate people, because I'm
not overly talkative initially,like, believe it or not, even
with this podcast, like I am alittle bit shy and reserved at
first, it takes a lot to likeopen me up.
So, yes, I would say, probablyit does.
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Next question what's your go-tooutfit when you want to break
necks?
I don't think I break necks,first of all, but I used to
think it had to be somethingsexy.
I used to think it had to, like, show off your body.
But now, being older, moremature, I really do believe that
it's whatever you'recomfortable in, because whatever
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you're comfortable in is goingto exude confidence.
So currently, in this era, it's2025 fashion.
I'm getting more comfortable inmy fashion sense.
So I do think like a little bitof a baggier jean, but also a
hugging jean.
So it's that balance like.
It's a balance of like findinga jean that is a little high
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waisted, little bit baggy, butalso fits your curves, shows
shows your booty, and then atight top.
I think right now, in 2025,like, obviously that's going to
change as the time changes.
That's what I find sexy, what Ifind confident in and when I go
out in that, because I exudethe confidence, more people look
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at me it used to be skinnyjeans.
I mean, that's what it used tobe.
I'm not going to lie.
I still love some of my skinnyjeans that I got because it
shows off more of my curves, butat the moment it's got to be
like this perfect balance ofthis baggy, fitted jean and a
tight top, sneakers, whateveryou're comfortable in, because
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confidence exudes sexiness, inmy opinion.
Next question Do you feel morepowerful now than you did in
your last relationship?
Well, I can't say that I'vebeen in a lot Like.
If we're talking about like mylast situationship, then yes,
because I've grown, I've learnedfrom that.
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I am more self-confident in whoI am.
So I would say I feel morepowerful in my self-confidence,
because that's what it's allabout, right?
Like every relationshipfriendship, platonic,
relationship, romantic, whateverit is we have to learn
ourselves, and the more we learnourselves, the more we can
exude that confidence.
And so, yes, I would say likeevery day is different.
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All right, so more questions.
How do you stay so fit?
I have worked out for a reallylong time.
I lift heavy weights.
I am currently in training withCarrie Fit.
I don't have my phone around me.
Let me see if I can pull up onmy computer Instagram so I can
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tell you exactly who I follow.
It used to be Annie.
Annie does not do one-on-onecoaching anymore.
Yes, I pulled up my Instagram,so let me just try to find her
handle so y'all can all followher.
So it is underscore coach, kerr, she's my current personal
trainer, my previous trainer.
If you're not looking for likeone-on-one, you're looking for
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like a what's the word?
Where you purchase, and it'sthe template for everybody.
I don't know what the word forthat is.
That is AnnieMillerco.
She also offers that.
Love Annie, love K Carrie.
They're both phenomenal atcoaching.
I think that, like, theyencourage me to do heavy lifting
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, so that's how I stay fit.
I love to heavy lift, like.
I used to be cardio queen, butI'm just going to tell you out
there, cardio is not helpinganyone like yes, it's great for
cardiovascular benefits, but itis not gaining you the muscle
you want anytime.
I've ever like talked to afemale and they're like this is
how I want to look.
It's typically like I want tolook lean, I want to look
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muscular, but not too muscular.
I don't want to look like a man.
Women, we're not going to looklike a man.
We don't have enoughtestosterone.
We just don't Um.
And if you want to look leanand you want to look tight,
sometimes that means gainingweight and sometimes that means
eating more calories andsometimes that means lifting
heavier weights.
And so I think it took me along time to like just
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experience that with withcoaches, and once I like leaned
into it and trusted the rightcoaches, it just happened.
I'm not gonna lie, I haveinsulin resistant problems.
I have thyroid issues, so I dohave to take medication for my
thyroid and my insulinresistance to help with the
leanness Um.
But I also train four days aweek.
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I used to be one of these sixdays a week like get up and go
after it, but no, sometimes youdon't have to do that.
Um, everybody's different.
Like you really need to workwith a coach that can work with
you on that.
And then nutrition is 90% Like.
I eat, 90% clean, most of thetime 10%.
I'm off the grid.
Most of the stuff that I put onsocial media is 10% off the
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grid.
90% of the time I'm mealprepping.
I'm not posting that.
I used to but I don't anymore.
Hopefully that answers yourquestion.
Next question what's yourworkout routine?
So it's different.
So I do a six week split withmy coach Currently.
I'll let her know what I'mgetting bored.
Some coaches make you do eightweeks for progression.
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I get bored.
So we we always keep the same.
Lifts, like my lifts aredeadlifts, squats, push press
and chest press, and then theaccessory muscles change because
we're trying to do progressiveoverload to like build the
muscle.
If you don't know what that is,look it up.
Don't have time for that.
We're already 30 minutes intothis podcast, which is crazy
because I did not think I'd havethis many questions.
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But my fitness routine istypically four days of lifting
each week, but I also try to getmy steps in every day of the
week.
I do try to give myself one dayoff a week where where I don't
have to meet any goals.
What do you eat in a day?
That is a very loaded questionbecause it's different every day
.
I'm a meal prepper, true andtrue.
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I eat the same thing four daysthrough.
I am set currently at 2100calories per day, 125 grams of
protein, 210 grams of carbs andI believe don't quote me on this
65 to 70 grams of fat.
That is my current macro andcalorie split.
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We are increasing it becausewe're going into the fall.
Always increase it in the fallbecause your girl wants to build
a booty.
We want to build a booty, andthe way to build a booty is to
increase your calories.
So I think we're going to go to2300 calories.
So I don't know the currentmacro split on that.
Typically, protein stays thesame, fat and carbs go up,
depending on how your mealsplits are.
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But that is where I'm at.
So, yes, you do.
Guys, I'm there with y'all whenI hear people being like what?
Like?
I eat 1200,.
You have to eat more to losemore weight.
And I know that sounds crazy,but like, once you do and I know
it sounds foreign, but once youdo it, I've also coached it and
I've also coached a lot ofwomen where they're like oh my
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gosh, I'm terrified of doingthat.
Like, once you do it and youactually see the progress
results.
It's crazy because what ourbody does is it accommodates to
the calories we're giving it.
So if we're slowing ourmetabolism, everything we're
putting in our body is storingas fat for the winter.
Because they don't know thatwe're not back in 1900 where
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we're sitting in a cavesomewhere Again, y'all don't
quote me on history Sitting in acave somewhere where we're like
I need to gather berries andnuts for the winter.
You know what I'm saying.
Like, so get a coach, trustyour coach, but also have a good
coach.
Next question what's yourworkout playlist?
Um, that is different everytime.
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Sometimes I'm in the mood for apodcast, so sometimes I'm
listening to the toast.
Sometimes I'm listening toprobably a podcast.
Um, what other podcast do Ilisten to?
I listen to Kristen Cavalieri's.
I listen to um, I'm trying tothink of all the podcasts.
I should some of these I shouldhave like listed out, but as
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far as a playlist goes, this isgoing to sound crazy.
R&b I'm not a rock person.
I'm not like a fast tempoperson.
Put me on some Chris Brown.
Put me on some Kehlani.
Anything that I just love andvibe to is just going to give me
life.
I don't have a specificplaylist to work out to.
I typically am listening toeither a book because I'm in a
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book club, so I'm eitherlistening to the book that book
club has put out or I'mlistening to a podcast, or I'm
listening to a playlist, likeChris Brown, kalani, any of the
new R&B music.
So nothing specific.
Next question Do you have aguilty pleasure with food?
I love chocolate.
Guys.
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Give me some chocolate coveredM&Ms, give me some anything.
Chocolate.
Chocolate is my guilty pleasure.
I love it.
I love it.
I love it.
Chocolate, chocolate, chocolate.
Are you still struggling withinsomnia?
Yes, I am.
It's gotten a little better.
So I talked to my doctor aboutthe insomnia.
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Y'all know that I posted thison Instagram, if you're
following along on my Instagram.
So I posted this about insomniawhere I know.
So there's two different typesof insomnia One where people
have trouble falling asleep, onewhere people could fall asleep
easily and then they wake up.
I have no trouble fallingasleep.
I could fall asleep at the like, not at the drop of a hat Like
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I'm talking about.
Like if I'm tired on the couch,I'm quiet, it's quiet, I'm
watching TV.
I can fall asleep.
Where I have trouble is is Iwake up and it like I've always
had insomnia as a kid, so I'mnot like, I'm used to it, like
that's my baseline.
Like 5am, I function on sixhours of sleep.
I'm good.
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But the problem is is recentlyprobably starting in October of
2024, I started having issueswhere I was waking up at like
4am.
Cool, I slept six, seven hours.
I'm good, I'm not tiredWhatever.
Then it started becoming 3.30am, 3am, 2.30am to the point of
1am.
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I'm going to bed at nine, I'mwaking up at one.
Okay, now I'm tired.
Like now it's annoying, likewhy?
Why am I wide awake at 1am?
So, yes, I will say it'sprobably 20-30% better.
Me and my doctor have talkedabout it.
We've ran labs.
We're thinking it's very stressinduced, because I have a lot
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of stress going on and possiblysome hormone dysfunction, but
more so stress induced.
So we are working on likecortisol patterns, like I've
done everything from wearingblue light blockers to turning
my phone off, to takingmelatonin, magnesium, um,
meditation, anything that canreduce the stress.
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But unfortunately there's justa lot of like life stressors at
the moment.
So I think once the lifestressors pass, it will get
better, but it's just a phase oflife and I'm just going with it
day by day.
Next question um, what's thepettiest reason you blocked
someone?
Um, I'm not a blocker.
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So I don't have a petty reason,I just I'm not a blocker.
The only time I ever haveblocked someone is for me,
because I'm the person stalking,looking, whatever.
I'm just not a blocker.
And I don't know if y'alllistened to past podcasts, but,
like, if you have, my fatherdied when I was 10.
The last thing I said to himwas I hate you and so I always
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feel obligated to like fixingthings before endings.
So I'm just not a blocker.
If I block it, it's not forthem, it's for me.
Next one Do you prefer beingchased or doing the chasing?
I mean, obviously, as a woman,like, I think, anyone, we, we
all want that feeling chasedfeeling.
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But I think I end up doing thechasing most of the time and
that's probably why I end up insituationships.
But, like, obviously I thinkanyone prefers being chased, but
at the end of the day, I thinkwe all have to realize like
games end right, like you can'tchase and be chased all the time
, like games end, and I thinkthat's where I have a problem in
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dating is that people want itto continue and it's just not
going to continue.
Anyways, next question we'realmost done, guys.
Here we are on the last few.
What's one thing a man alwaysgets wrong about you?
Hmm, what's one thing a manalways gets wrong about you?
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I think that men think, becauseI'm so independent and so
strong and that gives off a lotof masculine energy, that I
don't want to be taken care of,and that's not true.
Like I want to be able to giveinto my feminine energy, but I
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can't do that until a man stepsup and becomes in their
masculine energy.
Like I feel like because I havetaken care of myself for so
long the childhood trauma thatI've been through, where I had
to take care of myself for solong that I feel like I have to
take care of myself all the time, whether that be in a
relationship or not, and I thinkthat it's going to take a truly
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strong man to step up and belike no, I got you for me to be
able to fall back and take careof myself.
Next question If someone sentyou a DM right now, what would?
What would make you actuallyreply?
Guys, I reply to everything,I'm a fast texter, I'm a fast
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replier.
I just don't like notifications.
So and I think that's what alsotrips me up in dating people
like, oh wow, she, she repliedso fast, she's so interested.
No, I just don't likenotifications.
Like I don't know if it.
Like I don't know if I have aform of autism or if I have
something wrong with me, butwhen there's a notification on
my phone, it literally gives meanxiety.
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So I try to get rid of it assoon as I can.
What's the most savage thingyou've ever said during a
breakup?
I don't think I have a savagething during a breakup.
I think that I do obviously saythe truth and I think that it
makes people think and nine outof 10 times the guys that I say
it to come back and say you wereright.
But whether that's within aweek, a month, a year, whatever,
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most of the people that I say,the things that I say to, is
always based on truth, and I'vebeen given the gift of that.
Like I can easily put myfeelings into words.
I actually do better in textversus in person, where I can
have time to ruminate on what Ineed to say, and my aunt has
always taught me stick to thefacts.
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So stick to the facts.
Put a little emotion in it, andI think that people sometimes
then are like okay, you knowwhat I'm saying, all right.
Next question Are you theheartbreaker or the broken
hearted?
I would say nine out of 10times I'm the broken hearted
because I fall in love with alot of people that don't love me
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back, so I am constantlybreaking my own heart.
I don't necessarily think thatthey are breaking my heart.
I think people show me who theyare, but I just refuse to see
who they are.
I'm trying to get better atthat.
It's going to take a lot oftherapy, but I think that I
would say that I'm brokenhearted.
Next question Do you believe inclosure, or is silence the
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closure?
Listen, silence is not my forte.
I'm always trying to say how Ifeel.
Maybe I should have been atherapist, maybe I was a
therapist in my past life, but Ialso think that some people
sometimes just need feedback.
I know that I'm like liketherapy that has been given to
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me, whether that be a therapist,a life coach, my aunt giving me
advice.
They say silence is closure.
That is not my forte.
Next question what's the bestrevenge?
Moving on, glowing up orblocking?
Best revenge moving on glowingup or blocking?
The best revenge?
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The best revenge is lovingyourself.
I don't think it's any of theseum like, sure you can move on,
sure you can block, sure you canglow up, but at the end of the
day I think it's respectingyourself and loving yourself and
that's the best revenge.
Think it's respecting yourselfand loving yourself and that's
the best revenge, because onceyou respect yourself and love
yourself, then all the othersfollow right Like you glow up,
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you move on, whether it beblocking or not.
You don't have to because youcan mentally block right.
But I don't do that, so don'ttake my advice.
Next question that, so don'ttake my advice.
Next question How's the housesituation going?
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Um same.
Can't talk about it, can'tcomment on it.
I will talk about that later.
Sorry, I could not answer thisin more detail, but hopefully
later.
Next question what's the numberone thing on your bucket list
right now?
The number one thing isprobably traveling.
I'm getting almost to 40.
I'll be 38 soon.
I do want to start travelingbecause I want to be able to see
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the world, see differentcultures and everything that
comes with that.
So that is my number one bucketlist right now.
But obviously you have to havemoney to travel.
So I'm trying to save up, I'mtrying to work as much as I can
and be as hard working as I canfor retirement so that I will be
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able to travel.
It's probably not going tohappen for a little bit of time,
but that is my goal.
Like my aunt travels all thetime.
She talks to me about travelingand how awesome it is and how
much fun she has doing it.
But we also have to berealistic in the economy that
we're in and hopefully I will beable to do that.
Like I would love to see Europeand different cultures and just
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experience that beauty, but atthe same time I have to be
realistic.
Like I have to save forretirement and I have to be
responsible as an adult becauseI am single and a female and
stuff like that.
So that would be on my bucketlist would be to travel.
Next question I think we have acouple more.
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If someone wanted to impress youwhat's the move?
I will say this Communicationis the best.
Like I don't care about yourlooks.
Well, I mean I do to a certaindegree.
Like I have to be likeobviously attracted to you, but
if you can't carry aconversation past, hey, how are
you doing?
That's just not the move.
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If you talk about all yourmoney, that's not the move.
Like I feel like money comesand goes with people.
Like jobs come and go,traveling comes and goes, looks
come and go.
We're all aging, but the onething is, like your heart that's
not going to change.
Your personality is not goingto change For the most part.
Like we can all go to therapyand improve ourselves, whatever,
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but as far as like, what'sgoing to impress me, that's
going to be what's sustained,sustaining like what can sustain
you.
That's impressive.
Next, next and last question Yay, we're at the last question.
Guys, would you ever go on areality dating show?
Funny story I actually wouldactually apply to be on Love is
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Blind Nashville.
It hasn't came to fruition yet,but I did apply because I was
like you know what I feel likewe all do date for looks and I
am trying to look for thatforever person based on
communication and personality.
So why not?
And I don't know if I got picked.
Haven't heard, I haven't heardanything.
This was a couple years ago.
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I did have some conflictingdates because I had um a
vacation coming up.
So maybe maybe I didn't, Idon't know.
But I did apply, for love isone.
I'm not opposed to it, I'm not.
I'm not gonna do love island.
I'm not gonna do somethingcrazy because I'm not that young
, my body is not built for that,anyways, but I would, I would
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be very open to it.
So, yeah, I think that was allthe questions.
So thank you all for submittingquestions.
Those were really good.
I cannot believe we turned thisinto a long, much longer
podcast than I anticipated.
I hope y'all were entertained.
I hope that answered all yourquestions about me that you all
have been asking or wanting toknow.
So thank you all for submittingthe questions and until next
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time, guys.
Bye you.
What is up everyone?
Welcome back to another episodeof the Babbles Nonsense podcast
.
On today's episode I am doing aQ&A.
Y'all all submitted questionsand I'm going to give you the
answers to the best of myability.
So stay tuned if you areinterested in this topic.
So all right, guys, so're goingto see me like looking at the
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computer screen so that I cananswer the questions that you
all submitted.
So I had a Q&A box on Instagramand I have to look at the
computer screen and I cannotlook at the phone screen.
So I've been trying my best todo somewhat of a visual podcast,
even though it's not like upvisually, like me answering live
(01:08):
, but I've been doing my best tolike record it and put it on
TikTok.
So if you're not following meon TikTok, I believe don't quote
me on this.
I believe my TikTok user handleis babblesnonsense, like all
together, and you'll see likemore visual stuff there than on
Instagram, just because it has along format.
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But I have the questions on mycomputer.
So I have to obviously look atmy computer because y'all all
submitted questions that I haveto answer.
So I have looked at thesequestions but I have not like
written down like formal answers, so bear with me on, like, if I
have to take pauses or whatever, because some of these caught
me a little off guard.
Some of them, I was just likewhat are you asking?
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And even I had to ask theperson, like what are you asking
?
And they were like you saidanything goes.
And I was like yes, I did, butlike make it make sense, you
know what I'm saying.
And these are in no order, likeno format.
I try to like categorize them,but then I was like you know
what?
This is just too much thoughtprocess.
Let's just like answer them asthey come in.
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So, like one of them.
So we're just going to go inorder.
Okay, are you dating anyoneright now?
The answer is no, I'm notdating anyone.
I'm single.
I have been in situations wherepeople want to claim me as
theirs but then they don't quote, unquote make me theirs.
So I have been loyal to a faultand I have to stop doing that.
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So no, the answer is I'm single.
I'm currently not dating anyone.
Next question why don't we eversee you on dates?
The answer is because I don'tlike it.
I don't like the thought of it,I don't like going on dates.
I don't like putting myself outthere on dates, so I just don't
do it.
Also, just don't put it outthere.
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I know I like joke around andsay that I'm going to put out a
podcast where I'm on a datingexpedition.
I don't love it Like I'm on adating app.
I'm on hinge right now.
I'll I'll I'll just be honestabout that.
I will literally not sign on.
Sign on for three weeks and,like I have messages and of
course, like by the time Ianswer the messages, the
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person's like probably alreadymarried at that point.
So no, you don't ever see me ondates because I don't go on
them.
The next question is would youdate someone who slid into your
DMs?
Probably Just depends, justdepends.
What's the vibe?
Are you attractive?
Like are we on an attractionlevel, like can you communicate
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well?
So the answer is probably.
It just depends.
I'm not opposed to it, but ithas to be the right vibes.
Um, the next question what's thebiggest red flag you ignore
every time?
I would say the biggest redflag I probably ignore is when
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someone tell me, tells me whothey are Like, when someone is
like let's just go with the flow, I'm like sure I can do that I
can go with the flow, but also,at the same time, like that is
also a red flag because like,yes, like we all want to go with
the flow, but to what extent?
Like what, where?
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Where are we flowing?
What's the extent of this?
Like, what's your what are?
What is your ultimate goal?
Like I can go with the flow,like I don't have a timeline, I
don't have like a two months,six months, whatever.
But like, where are we flowing?
Are we flowing into arelationship?
Like, are we wanting the samethings?
And I think that I am reallybad about asking that.
Think that I am really badabout asking that.
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I think I'm really bad aboutbeing like this is ultimately
what I want.
What do you want?
Like I'm cool with going quoteunquote with the flow, but like
you got to tell me where we'reflowing.
Next question what's yourcurrent type?
Or are you in your quoteunquote, no type error?
I don't think I have a type.
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If I have a type, it's toxic.
That is my type.
I think it's from childhoodtrauma.
I think that I tracked what I'mused to in my childhood trauma,
but I don't necessarily whenwe're talking about, like a
looks wise, when people are likeoh, I like blonde hair, blue
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eye, like I don't have a typenecessarily that way.
Now, if we're like looking like, what do you go for?
Like, what is your turn on?
Like communication, like, canyou carry on a sentence past Hi,
how are you Like on a sentencepast hi, how are you?
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Like, can you actually have aconversation?
That is my type.
Next question Do you believe insecond chances or is blocked,
forever blocked?
Well, we all know I'm the queenof third, fourth, fifth, sixth,
seventh, eighth, ninth, tenthchances and I take I say that
lightly because I believe inpotential and I know that we're
not supposed to date forpotential.
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But I do believe in potentialand I truly feel for people
because I've been there, like weall been there, right, like
when we know where, wheresomeone could be.
But the problem is problem isis like, if we're going back to
red flags, my red flag is that Idate for potential and I feel
like I can change someone and Ican't, like no one can ever
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change someone.
The person has to want tochange themselves.
So, yes, I believe in secondchances, but at the same time,
it's like's, like at what extent?
Like, when do we have to putself respect first.
When do we have to say, like Ihave to respect myself before I
give you a second chance.
So it's all caveats.
Like it's all situational, it'snot just like oh, this is a
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blanket statement, it's allbased on individuals, all right,
next question.
And also I hate saying nextquestion.
Like I really wanted my friendIvy to actually ask the
questions but she was busy soI'm having to ask and answer.
So it's just awkward.
How soon is too soon to sleepwith someone?
I don't know the answer to that.
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Because, like, if you ask atherapist like, like, wait till,
wait till you're in a committedrelationship, um, I'm all about
intuition.
Like, if the first date's thefirst date, then whatever.
But if also at the same time,like if you're getting player
vibes, like then you need towait.
Like it's all about intuition.
Like, what are the vibes?
What are you feeling from thisperson?
What do you want?
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Like, are you just wanting ahookup or Are you wanting a
committed relationship?
Like, if you're like, honestly,from a girl's perspective, if
you're looking to have a seriousrelationship with someone and
you want someone to take youseriously, then you're going to
have to wait.
That's just my personalpreference, like I'm not saying
that's true for all men, allwomen.
I'm not going to sleep withsomeone on the first date
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because for me, for women like Ifeel like sex is emotional and
it's not just like a hookup.
There are some women out therethat can do that.
I'm just not one of them.
So for me, I think that it'swhen the timing is right for you
personally and what you'relooking for.
I don't think there's a rightor wrong answer.
I don't think, like looking forsomeone on the first date
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versus like the 20th date, Idon't think there is a right or
wrong answer.
I think what is right for youand what feels right to you is
the correct answer, you know.
Next question have you everregretted giving someone grace?
For me, no, because I giveeveryone grace, because I want
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to be given grace I have beendiving into my faith a lot
lately and for me, like, I wantsomeone to give me grace because
I'm not perfect.
No, human is perfect.
I think we all make mistakes.
I think that we all walk thispath in the way that we feel is
right in the moment.
But we regret things and I'venever regretted giving someone
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grace.
I have regretted, sometimessaying things in that moment,
but at the same time, like, asfar as like giving someone grace
no, I think we all, as humans,deserve grace, because we've all
been there where we've mademistakes, but I've never regret,
regretted giving grace.
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Next question Would you ratherbe single forever or with the
wrong person forever?
I think I would rather besingle forever.
So backstory, because I've beensingle quote unquote single for
a long time.
If we're talking like someoneclaiming me, someone calling me
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their girlfriend, someoneputting me in a relationship,
I've been single for a very longtime.
Like I've been insituationships.
I have liked people, I havedated people, but like to be
called someone's girlfriend.
It's been a very long time.
So I've been single for a very,very long time and I've gotten
set in my ways.
I'm older now and I personallywould rather be single and doing
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my own thing than be stuck insomething that I'm miserable.
Miserable in.
Yes, like being singlesometimes can be miserable, I'm
not gonna lie.
Like you're lonely, you knowyou.
You want things that you wantand you don't have someone there
, but at the same time, likeyou're not having to answer to
someone, you're not having toquestion, like have all these
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questions and running throughyour head or whatnot.
And so I would rather just besingle and be in those
situations where I can just goback to my place, cry if I need
to cry, drink if I need to drink, binge out on some pizza if I
need to binge out on some pizza,but at the ultimate time I have
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my space to do that for me.
So being single versus being ina miserable relationship, 1000%
always All right.
Next question what's up withall the TikTok dances?
Is this a thirst trap or is ittherapy?
All right, thank you for askingwhoever asked this, but like,
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no, tiktok dances is not athirst trap for me.
It's funny.
I have always loved to dance.
Like I'm not professionallytrained in any matter, I was not
on a dance team, I was on acheerleading squad at one point
embarrassing moment for me.
Um, actually, let's just goahead and talk about that
backstory.
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I was a cheerleader for alittle bit.
I hung out with a lot of peoplelike unpopular, popular,
whatever.
So I was on the cheerleadingsquad and at the peps the pep
rally one time when they wereintroducing cheerleaders I
believe it was my had to be my10th grade year because we
entered a new high school and inmy ninth grade year we were in
the old high school.
So my 10th grade year, becausewe entered a new high school and
in my ninth grade year we werein the old high school.
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So my 10th grade year, I was onthe cheerleading squad and
they're like they wereintroducing the cheerleaders or
whatever, and we had to like dosome kind of jump, you know,
herky, toe touch, whatever.
I believe I did the herky.
I tried gymnastics I suck at itbecause I don't trust myself
enough to do like a backhandspring, whatever and I fell,
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fell at the pep rally.
So embarrassing, um.
So no, tiktok, dancing for meis not a thirst trap.
It's actually embarrassingCause I'm like really do I want
to put this out there Like thankGod for my best friend Lori.
She has to like look at like 20of the videos that I send her
to pick one.
Like which one do you like?
Um, it's because I really likedancing, I really do, I enjoy it
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.
It's like therapeutic for me.
So I guess if we're answeringthirst trap versus therapy, I
would say it's more therapy forme, it's therapeutic.
I really liked to learn it.
I like to try to try like I'mnot technically trained.
I honestly have thought multipletimes about doing dance classes
, but I don't know if Huntsvillehas them.
I probably need to look intothat and see to like to kind of
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like learn some basic moves.
But I'm really I think that I'mgood at like imitating.
I don't know.
There's some more TikTok dancesthat I have saved that I want
to learn.
So I'm always behind the trend,though that's the problem
TikTok dances that I have saved,that I want to learn.
So I'm always behind the trend,though.
That's the problem.
Like I do them and I'm behindthe trend because I just don't
have the time.
Like I just don't have the timeto practice.
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Like I get the moves down likewithin a couple hours, but then
like to perfect it, to make itto my own, to make it like look
decent.
It takes a couple of days, notbecause it takes days within,
like the amount of time.
It takes time like as far aspracticing, like if we're
talking about like if I sat down, learned it, perfected it, put
my own spin on it, I couldprobably do it in 24 hours, but
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I just don't have the timebecause I work a full time job.
You know what I'm saying.
But anyways, probably, if I'manswering this question, therapy
.
Next question Do you makeTikToks for yourself or for
someone watching?
I make them for myself.
I make them for no one watchingbecause, number one, no one
watches them.
I'm not trying to be aninfluencer, I'm not trying to be
quote unquote TikTok famous.
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I'm just doing them for me andputting them out there and also
because my best friend Lori haschallenged me to do so.
She does them.
I think her TikToks arehilarious.
So I was like I want to be likeyou.
So if we're talking aboutanything, I want to be like my
best friend Lori and I just putthem out there, not for clout,
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not for likes, not for any viewsor anything like that.
It's just honestly because I'mlike I did this, someone should
watch it.
So if anybody does watch it,that's awesome.
And then I also watched aTikTok one time where someone
was like if you ever ran across20 people in real life that were
like you did a good job, that'sa lot.
So and when, like, if, let'ssay, we have 20 views on our
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TikToks, we're like, 20 views,20 view, like 20 people coming
up to you in real life is a lot,so I do it.
For me it's cool if peoplewatch um.
Next question what's your toxictrait on social media?
What is my toxic trait onsocial media?
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Probably stalking.
Like I stalk people's profileslike anybody else, like women or
fbi agents.
I tell you, like we can findout anything like if we're
dating someone, we want to datesomeone, we can find out
anything.
If we're going to your pageseeing who you like to go to
someone else's page, trust me,that's probably a toxic trait
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because we can get down a rabbithole.
A rabbit hole.
I would have to say that would.
That would be it.
Next question do you delete postwhen you're over a guy?
I'm assuming this is like ifyou posted someone, I wouldn't
know.
I can't answer this questionbecause I've never posted a guy.
Every guy I've ever dated haskept me anonymous, secret if you
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will.
So I've never had to do that.
I have never had to deletesomeone.
So let me think futuristic.
Would I delete a guy if I'mover them and they're on my
social media page?
I don't know.
The question would be I don'tknow, how good do I look in the
photo?
Like that's a toxic trait.
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Like how good do I look in thatphoto.
And I guess it would depend.
If I'm with a new relationshipand I'm very serious with the
relationship I probably would,because I wouldn't want my new
person to be insecure or tothink that I was still in love
with this person, because whoknows.
Next question Do you deleteposts when you're over a guy?
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Again, that goes back to thequestion I just answered.
I can't really answer thatbecause I've always been in
quote unquote situationships.
No one's ever really publiclyposted me.
Always been in quote unquotesituationships.
No one's ever really publiclyposted me.
Next question who do you blockfaster, exes or trolls?
Trolls, I don't even block exes.
Number one I don't have exes, Ihave situationships.
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But if you want to look at mystuff, look at my stuff.
The only time I block an ex isnot for them, it's for me, it's
so that I'm not stalking theirpage looking at their stuff.
It's it's for me, it's not forthem, it's not so that they
can't see my stuff, it's so thatI can't see their stuff because
I don't want to see them doingall the stuff like moving on and
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whatever.
That's for me, for me to moveon.
So I will 1000% block a troll,spam, whatever over an ex.
Next question Do you believe inthe soft block?
I don't know what that is.
Let me see if I can Google whata soft block is real quick, so
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that I know what that is.
To answer this question, a softblock is a term for a technique
on social media where a usertemporarily blocks another user
and then immediately unblocksthem to remove them as a
follower, without alerting themthat they were blocked.
No, that's toxic.
I didn't even know what thatwas.
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I don't do that.
If I'm going to block you, I'mgoing to block you.
If I don't want you to see mystuff, I don't want you to see
my stuff.
I don't need you to like, block, unblock, whatever, anyways.
So now the answer to that is no.
The next question is would youever dye your hair a different
color?
So I'm naturally redheaded.
Um, I get I actually ask thatall the time.
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Like what color is your naturalhair?
Naturally redheaded?
Actually, like they technicallythat I guess the term is
strawberry blonde.
My hair has always gottenblonder in the summer when I'm
in the sun.
It's redder in the winter.
So sometimes, occasionally, Iwill put blonde highlights in
the summer in my hair.
So, yes, I have put blonde.
I have asked multiplehairstylists to dye my hair
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completely blonde before andthey won't do it.
None of them Every one of themsays no because they're like
you'll regret it.
You have naturally, beautifullyred hair.
But you know, it kills mebecause a lot of people are like
why do you dye your hair?
You have such beautiful redhair?
Because I'm like anyone else.
I'm like anyone else.
It's like I'm bored.
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You know, let's like let'schange it up.
I don't think that I would goany thing different than that.
I will say in high school I diddo low lights, so like I had
red hair, and I did low lightswith like um, brown, which was a
temporary color which washesout.
So my hairstylist put somebrown in my hair, loved it.
It washed out, so it wasn't, itdidn't last very long.
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So I don't think I would doanything drastic.
I have tried to dye my hairblonde multiple times.
Nobody will do it and I'm tooafraid to do it myself.
So I think what we see is whatwe get and that's what we're
sticking to.
Next question Are you a naturalred hair?
Yes, I'm naturally redheaded.
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Again, the term is strawberryblonde, yeah.
And then I got a question thatsays is it true about redheads?
I don't know what you're asking.
I don't know what you're asking.
Follow all the TikToks on that.
There's a whole thing aboutwhat redheads get asked on a
daily basis, like does thecarpet match the drapes?
Like redheads get asked all thetime, like we're fetishized,
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like yes, like all of that,let's just go find the TikToks
on that and I'm not going toanswer that.
Next question how long does ittake you to get ready for these
TikTok dances?
I mentioned it briefly earlier.
It doesn't like.
Honestly.
Honestly, if I had the time,like if I had just had one day,
like let's say I had, I woke upand I didn't have to go to the
gym, meal prep, all the stuff ifI just had one day, if I could
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just wake up, learn the dance,perfect the dance and put out
the dance, it would probablytake me a few, like probably one
to two days, because obviouslyI'm not going to do that for 24
hours.
But but, like, realistically,because I have other things to
do, like a job, meal preppingand stuff like that, it takes me
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about a week to get it likedown, like practice it, perfect
it, put my spin on it.
It takes me about a week.
Next question what's one thingyou'll never change about your
looks?
One thing I'll never changeabout my looks I guess, like
fully my hair color, like yes, Iput highlights and stuff in it,
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but that well, I mean, I guessthat counts as changing it,
let's say my personality,because that's never going
anywhere.
I know that's not your looks,but it kind of is, it's kind of
your personality.
At the end of the day that'snot going anywhere.
The next question says how'syour filler journey going?
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It's better.
So my filler so actuallyactually okay, y'all all, if
you've been listening to thefiller under my eyes that's
finally like dissipated, ifthat's the word I think.
I think that's the word Um.
But I stupidly at the same timeeight years ago, got filler in
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my laugh lines it's called thenasolabial folds and recently
it's turned firm, um, so I'vebeen dissolving that and
recently it's turned firm.
So I've been dissolving that.
And weirdly, as I've beendissolving that, my under eye
filler under the left eye that'skind of still had that little
swelling, has gotten better.
It's almost almost always gone,I'm assuming, because it had
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nowhere to go.
So I'm kind of slowly dissolvingthe filler in my laugh lines
that made me look older than Iwas at the time.
And that's been a journeyBecause you know you're used to
looking at your face like Italked to my friends all the
time and I'm like, oh my gosh, Ifeel like I look crazy.
They're like you literally lookthe same.
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But we're used to looking atour face like even in, even in
videos, like like how, like youcan turn your iPhone where it's
like almost inverted, like amirror, and if it's the other
way, you're just like I don'tlook the same, because you're
used to looking at your face ina mirror, inversion or whatever.
And so that's been a journey.
So I'm just trying to get allthe filler out of my face that I
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did like seven, eight, nine,ten years ago that I wish I
would have never done.
Don't recommend, would ratherhave plastic surgery.
So if I start looking older ina couple days, y'all know why
I'm dissolving all the filler inmy face, like the under eye
filler is finally gone.
The only other filler that'sleft is in my lips and in my
nasolabial folds, which is yourlaugh lines.
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I will not dissolve the ones inmy lips because y'all do not
want to see that, but it is whatit is.
I'm almost 40.
You know what I'm saying?
I've got to start embracing myaging.
Next question have you ever hadplastic surgery and do you
believe in plastic surgery?
So, yes, I have had plasticsurgery.
I actually had breast implantsin 2010,.
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Have had plastic surgery.
I actually had breast implantsin 2010,.
Um, had them redone in 2015, Ibelieve, because my left implant
displaced and then I had themactually officially removed in
2017.
And then, if you've beenfollowing along with the filler
journey, I had a blepharoplasty,which is skin removal under the
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eyes and above the eyes in 2022because of a filler mishap.
So that was like a surgicalcorrection from filler.
And so, yes, I do believe inplastic surgery.
At this point, after everythingthat I've been through, the
research that I've done, plasticsurgery like obviously you have
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to research your surgeonbecause surgery is permanent.
I believe more so in thesurgical route because I feel
like it is permanent as long asyou have a good surgeon the
reputable it seems to be morebang for your buck versus like
doing all this other stuff thatcould potentially go wrong and
then you have to have a surgicalcorrection at the end.
That's just my personalexperience, because I have
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obviously had random thingshappen.
Um, so, yes, I do believe inthat.
Um.
Next question Do you think yourvibe intimidates men?
I don't know.
You tell me, like, probably, Ikind of can come off bitchy I'm
not going to lie.
I think it's just because I ittakes a lot to impress me and so
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, yes, I'm going to.
Yes, my vibe probably doesintimidate people, because I'm
not overly talkative initially,like, believe it or not, even
with this podcast, like I am alittle bit shy and reserved at
first, it takes a lot to likeopen me up.
So, yes, I would say, probablyit does.
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Next question what's your go-tooutfit when you want to break
necks?
I don't think I break necks,first of all, but I used to
think it had to be somethingsexy.
I used to think it had to, like, show off your body.
But now, being older, moremature, I really do believe that
it's whatever you'recomfortable in, because whatever
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you're comfortable in is goingto exude confidence.
So currently, in this era, it's2025 fashion.
I'm getting more comfortable inmy fashion sense.
So I do think like a little bitof a baggier jean, but also a
hugging jean.
So it's that balance like.
It's a balance of like findinga jean that is a little high
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waisted, little bit baggy, butalso fits your curves, shows
shows your booty, and then atight top.
I think right now, in 2025,like, obviously that's going to
change as the time changes.
That's what I find sexy, what Ifind confident in and when I go
out in that, because I exudethe confidence, more people look
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at me it used to be skinnyjeans.
I mean, that's what it used tobe.
I'm not going to lie.
I still love some of my skinnyjeans that I got because it
shows off more of my curves, butat the moment it's got to be
like this perfect balance ofthis baggy, fitted jean and a
tight top, sneakers, whateveryou're comfortable in, because
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confidence exudes sexiness, inmy opinion.
Next question Do you feel morepowerful now than you did in
your last relationship?
Well, I can't say that I'vebeen in a lot Like.
If we're talking about like mylast situationship, then yes,
because I've grown, I've learnedfrom that.
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I am more self-confident in whoI am.
So I would say I feel morepowerful in my self-confidence,
because that's what it's allabout, right?
Like every relationshipfriendship, platonic,
relationship, romantic, whateverit is we have to learn
ourselves, and the more we learnourselves, the more we can
exude that confidence.
And so, yes, I would say likeevery day is different.
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All right, so more questions.
How do you stay so fit?
I have worked out for a reallylong time.
I lift heavy weights.
I am currently in training withCarrie Fit.
I don't have my phone around me.
Let me see if I can pull up onmy computer Instagram so I can
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tell you exactly who I follow.
It used to be Annie.
Annie does not do one-on-onecoaching anymore.
Yes, I pulled up my Instagram,so let me just try to find her
handle so y'all can all followher.
So it is underscore coach, kerr, she's my current personal
trainer, my previous trainer.
If you're not looking for likeone-on-one, you're looking for
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like a what's the word?
Where you purchase, and it'sthe template for everybody.
I don't know what the word forthat is.
That is AnnieMillerco.
She also offers that.
Love Annie, love K Carrie.
They're both phenomenal atcoaching.
I think that, like, theyencourage me to do heavy lifting
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, so that's how I stay fit.
I love to heavy lift, like.
I used to be cardio queen, butI'm just going to tell you out
there, cardio is not helpinganyone like yes, it's great for
cardiovascular benefits, but itis not gaining you the muscle
you want anytime.
I've ever like talked to afemale and they're like this is
how I want to look.
It's typically like I want tolook lean, I want to look
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muscular, but not too muscular.
I don't want to look like a man.
Women, we're not going to looklike a man.
We don't have enoughtestosterone.
We just don't Um.
And if you want to look leanand you want to look tight,
sometimes that means gainingweight and sometimes that means
eating more calories andsometimes that means lifting
heavier weights.
And so I think it took me along time to like just
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experience that with withcoaches, and once I like leaned
into it and trusted the rightcoaches, it just happened.
I'm not gonna lie, I haveinsulin resistant problems.
I have thyroid issues, so I dohave to take medication for my
thyroid and my insulinresistance to help with the
leanness Um.
But I also train four days aweek.
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I used to be one of these sixdays a week like get up and go
after it, but no, sometimes youdon't have to do that.
Um, everybody's different.
Like you really need to workwith a coach that can work with
you on that.
And then nutrition is 90% Like.
I eat, 90% clean, most of thetime 10%.
I'm off the grid.
Most of the stuff that I put onsocial media is 10% off the
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grid.
90% of the time I'm mealprepping.
I'm not posting that.
I used to but I don't anymore.
Hopefully that answers yourquestion.
Next question what's yourworkout routine?
So it's different.
So I do a six week split withmy coach Currently.
I'll let her know what I'mgetting bored.
Some coaches make you do eightweeks for progression.
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I get bored.
So we we always keep the same.
Lifts, like my lifts aredeadlifts, squats, push press
and chest press, and then theaccessory muscles change because
we're trying to do progressiveoverload to like build the
muscle.
If you don't know what that is,look it up.
Don't have time for that.
We're already 30 minutes intothis podcast, which is crazy
because I did not think I'd havethis many questions.
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But my fitness routine istypically four days of lifting
each week, but I also try to getmy steps in every day of the
week.
I do try to give myself one dayoff a week where where I don't
have to meet any goals.
What do you eat in a day?
That is a very loaded questionbecause it's different every day
.
I'm a meal prepper, true andtrue.
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I eat the same thing four daysthrough.
I am set currently at 2100calories per day, 125 grams of
protein, 210 grams of carbs andI believe don't quote me on this
65 to 70 grams of fat.
That is my current macro andcalorie split.
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We are increasing it becausewe're going into the fall.
Always increase it in the fallbecause your girl wants to build
a booty.
We want to build a booty, andthe way to build a booty is to
increase your calories.
So I think we're going to go to2300 calories.
So I don't know the currentmacro split on that.
Typically, protein stays thesame, fat and carbs go up,
depending on how your mealsplits are.
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But that is where I'm at.
So, yes, you do.
Guys, I'm there with y'all whenI hear people being like what?
Like?
I eat 1200,.
You have to eat more to losemore weight.
And I know that sounds crazy,but like, once you do and I know
it sounds foreign, but once youdo it, I've also coached it and
I've also coached a lot ofwomen where they're like oh my
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gosh, I'm terrified of doingthat.
Like, once you do it and youactually see the progress
results.
It's crazy because what ourbody does is it accommodates to
the calories we're giving it.
So if we're slowing ourmetabolism, everything we're
putting in our body is storingas fat for the winter.
Because they don't know thatwe're not back in 1900 where
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we're sitting in a cavesomewhere Again, y'all don't
quote me on history Sitting in acave somewhere where we're like
I need to gather berries andnuts for the winter.
You know what I'm saying.
Like, so get a coach, trustyour coach, but also have a good
coach.
Next question what's yourworkout playlist?
Um, that is different everytime.
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Sometimes I'm in the mood for apodcast, so sometimes I'm
listening to the toast.
Sometimes I'm listening toprobably a podcast.
Um, what other podcast do Ilisten to?
I listen to Kristen Cavalieri's.
I listen to um, I'm trying tothink of all the podcasts.
I should some of these I shouldhave like listed out, but as
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far as a playlist goes, this isgoing to sound crazy.
R&b I'm not a rock person.
I'm not like a fast tempoperson.
Put me on some Chris Brown.
Put me on some Kehlani.
Anything that I just love andvibe to is just going to give me
life.
I don't have a specificplaylist to work out to.
I typically am listening toeither a book because I'm in a
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book club, so I'm eitherlistening to the book that book
club has put out or I'mlistening to a podcast, or I'm
listening to a playlist, likeChris Brown, kalani, any of the
new R&B music.
So nothing specific.
Next question Do you have aguilty pleasure with food?
I love chocolate.
Guys.
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Give me some chocolate coveredM&Ms, give me some anything.
Chocolate.
Chocolate is my guilty pleasure.
I love it.
I love it.
I love it.
Chocolate, chocolate, chocolate.
Are you still struggling withinsomnia?
Yes, I am.
It's gotten a little better.
So I talked to my doctor aboutthe insomnia.
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Y'all know that I posted thison Instagram, if you're
following along on my Instagram.
So I posted this about insomniawhere I know.
So there's two different typesof insomnia One where people
have trouble falling asleep, onewhere people could fall asleep
easily and then they wake up.
I have no trouble fallingasleep.
I could fall asleep at the like, not at the drop of a hat Like
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I'm talking about.
Like if I'm tired on the couch,I'm quiet, it's quiet, I'm
watching TV.
I can fall asleep.
Where I have trouble is is Iwake up and it like I've always
had insomnia as a kid, so I'mnot like, I'm used to it, like
that's my baseline.
Like 5am, I function on sixhours of sleep.
I'm good.
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But the problem is is recentlyprobably starting in October of
2024, I started having issueswhere I was waking up at like
4am.
Cool, I slept six, seven hours.
I'm good, I'm not tiredWhatever.
Then it started becoming 3.30am, 3am, 2.30am to the point of
1am.
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I'm going to bed at nine, I'mwaking up at one.
Okay, now I'm tired.
Like now it's annoying, likewhy?
Why am I wide awake at 1am?
So, yes, I will say it'sprobably 20-30% better.
Me and my doctor have talkedabout it.
We've ran labs.
We're thinking it's very stressinduced, because I have a lot
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of stress going on and possiblysome hormone dysfunction, but
more so stress induced.
So we are working on likecortisol patterns, like I've
done everything from wearingblue light blockers to turning
my phone off, to takingmelatonin, magnesium, um,
meditation, anything that canreduce the stress.
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But unfortunately there's justa lot of like life stressors at
the moment.
So I think once the lifestressors pass, it will get
better, but it's just a phase oflife and I'm just going with it
day by day.
Next question um, what's thepettiest reason you blocked
someone?
Um, I'm not a blocker.
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So I don't have a petty reason,I just I'm not a blocker.
The only time I ever haveblocked someone is for me,
because I'm the person stalking,looking, whatever.
I'm just not a blocker.
And I don't know if y'alllistened to past podcasts, but,
like, if you have, my fatherdied when I was 10.
The last thing I said to himwas I hate you and so I always
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feel obligated to like fixingthings before endings.
So I'm just not a blocker.
If I block it, it's not forthem, it's for me.
Next one Do you prefer beingchased or doing the chasing?
I mean, obviously, as a woman,like, I think, anyone, we, we
all want that feeling chasedfeeling.
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But I think I end up doing thechasing most of the time and
that's probably why I end up insituationships.
But, like, obviously I thinkanyone prefers being chased, but
at the end of the day, I thinkwe all have to realize like
games end right, like you can'tchase and be chased all the time
, like games end, and I thinkthat's where I have a problem in
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dating is that people want itto continue and it's just not
going to continue.
Anyways, next question we'realmost done, guys.
Here we are on the last few.
What's one thing a man alwaysgets wrong about you?
Hmm, what's one thing a manalways gets wrong about you?
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I think that men think, becauseI'm so independent and so
strong and that gives off a lotof masculine energy, that I
don't want to be taken care of,and that's not true.
Like I want to be able to giveinto my feminine energy, but I
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can't do that until a man stepsup and becomes in their
masculine energy.
Like I feel like because I havetaken care of myself for so
long the childhood trauma thatI've been through, where I had
to take care of myself for solong that I feel like I have to
take care of myself all the time, whether that be in a
relationship or not, and I thinkthat it's going to take a truly
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strong man to step up and belike no, I got you for me to be
able to fall back and take careof myself.
Next question If someone sentyou a DM right now, what would?
What would make you actuallyreply?
Guys, I reply to everything,I'm a fast texter, I'm a fast
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replier.
I just don't like notifications.
So and I think that's what alsotrips me up in dating people
like, oh wow, she, she repliedso fast, she's so interested.
No, I just don't likenotifications.
Like I don't know if it.
Like I don't know if I have aform of autism or if I have
something wrong with me, butwhen there's a notification on
my phone, it literally gives meanxiety.
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So I try to get rid of it assoon as I can.
What's the most savage thingyou've ever said during a
breakup?
I don't think I have a savagething during a breakup.
I think that I do obviously saythe truth and I think that it
makes people think and nine outof 10 times the guys that I say
it to come back and say you wereright.
But whether that's within aweek, a month, a year, whatever,
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most of the people that I say,the things that I say to, is
always based on truth, and I'vebeen given the gift of that.
Like I can easily put myfeelings into words.
I actually do better in textversus in person, where I can
have time to ruminate on what Ineed to say, and my aunt has
always taught me stick to thefacts.
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So stick to the facts.
Put a little emotion in it, andI think that people sometimes
then are like okay, you knowwhat I'm saying, all right.
Next question Are you theheartbreaker or the broken
hearted?
I would say nine out of 10times I'm the broken hearted
because I fall in love with alot of people that don't love me
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back, so I am constantlybreaking my own heart.
I don't necessarily think thatthey are breaking my heart.
I think people show me who theyare, but I just refuse to see
who they are.
I'm trying to get better atthat.
It's going to take a lot oftherapy, but I think that I
would say that I'm brokenhearted.
Next question Do you believe inclosure, or is silence the
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closure?
Listen, silence is not my forte.
I'm always trying to say how Ifeel.
Maybe I should have been atherapist, maybe I was a
therapist in my past life, but Ialso think that some people
sometimes just need feedback.
I know that I'm like liketherapy that has been given to
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me, whether that be a therapist,a life coach, my aunt giving me
advice.
They say silence is closure.
That is not my forte.
Next question what's the bestrevenge?
Moving on, glowing up orblocking?
Best revenge moving on glowingup or blocking?
The best revenge?
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The best revenge is lovingyourself.
I don't think it's any of theseum like, sure you can move on,
sure you can block, sure you canglow up, but at the end of the
day I think it's respectingyourself and loving yourself and
that's the best revenge.
Think it's respecting yourselfand loving yourself and that's
the best revenge, because onceyou respect yourself and love
yourself, then all the othersfollow right Like you glow up,
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you move on, whether it beblocking or not.
You don't have to because youcan mentally block right.
But I don't do that, so don'ttake my advice.
Next question that, so don'ttake my advice.
Next question How's the housesituation going?
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Um same.
Can't talk about it, can'tcomment on it.
I will talk about that later.
Sorry, I could not answer thisin more detail, but hopefully
later.
Next question what's the numberone thing on your bucket list
right now?
The number one thing isprobably traveling.
I'm getting almost to 40.
I'll be 38 soon.
I do want to start travelingbecause I want to be able to see
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the world, see differentcultures and everything that
comes with that.
So that is my number one bucketlist right now.
But obviously you have to havemoney to travel.
So I'm trying to save up, I'mtrying to work as much as I can
and be as hard working as I canfor retirement so that I will be
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able to travel.
It's probably not going tohappen for a little bit of time,
but that is my goal.
Like my aunt travels all thetime.
She talks to me about travelingand how awesome it is and how
much fun she has doing it.
But we also have to berealistic in the economy that
we're in and hopefully I will beable to do that.
Like I would love to see Europeand different cultures and just
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experience that beauty, but atthe same time I have to be
realistic.
Like I have to save forretirement and I have to be
responsible as an adult becauseI am single and a female and
stuff like that.
So that would be on my bucketlist would be to travel.
Next question I think we have acouple more.
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If someone wanted to impress youwhat's the move?
I will say this Communicationis the best.
Like I don't care about yourlooks.
Well, I mean I do to a certaindegree.
Like I have to be likeobviously attracted to you, but
if you can't carry aconversation past, hey, how are
you doing?
That's just not the move.
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If you talk about all yourmoney, that's not the move.
Like I feel like money comesand goes with people.
Like jobs come and go,traveling comes and goes, looks
come and go.
We're all aging, but the onething is, like your heart that's
not going to change.
Your personality is not goingto change For the most part.
Like we can all go to therapyand improve ourselves, whatever,
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but as far as like, what'sgoing to impress me, that's
going to be what's sustained,sustaining like what can sustain
you.
That's impressive.
Next, next and last question Yay, we're at the last question.
Guys, would you ever go on areality dating show?
Funny story I actually wouldactually apply to be on Love is
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Blind Nashville.
It hasn't came to fruition yet,but I did apply because I was
like you know what I feel likewe all do date for looks and I
am trying to look for thatforever person based on
communication and personality.
So why not?
And I don't know if I got picked.
Haven't heard, I haven't heardanything.
This was a couple years ago.
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I did have some conflictingdates because I had um a
vacation coming up.
So maybe maybe I didn't, Idon't know.
But I did apply, for love isone.
I'm not opposed to it, I'm not.
I'm not gonna do love island.
I'm not gonna do somethingcrazy because I'm not that young
, my body is not built for that,anyways, but I would, I would
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be very open to it.
So, yeah, I think that was allthe questions.
So thank you all for submittingquestions.
Those were really good.
I cannot believe we turned thisinto a long, much longer
podcast than I anticipated.
I hope y'all were entertained.
I hope that answered all yourquestions about me that you all
have been asking or wanting toknow.
So thank you all for submittingthe questions and until next
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time, guys.
Bye you.
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