why you can’t relax: the 5 survival spells running your life

These five “survival spells” once kept you safe. Now they’re quietly running your life.

Many adults live with a constant undercurrent of tension. Rest feels conditional. Even moments of safety carry a sense of hypervigilance. This episode explores the internal logic behind that state that so many of us are trapped in.

Together, we’ll examine five psychological illusions that often shape adulthood beneath our conscious awareness: control, performative identity, scarcity, isolation, and perfectionism. Each one of these strategies are formed for a particular reason. Each also solved a very real problem at an earlier stage of our lives. Over time, these patterns harden into rules and internal scripts that determine how much ease and connection feel permissible for us.

Rather than approaching these patterns as pathologies (which is all too common in our modern culture), this conversation treats them as intelligent adaptations with a mythic structure. Survival morphs into a spell while adulthood becomes a role that requires our constant micromanagement.

Drawing from depth psychology, nervous system awareness, and symbolic thinking, this episode offers language for experiences that often feel impossible to put into words. It follows how modern life rewards vigilance while eroding the very conditions required for genuine rest, and how recognizing the underlying workings of these inner contracts changes the way they operate within you.

The goal is here is not to “fix.” I think we’re all tired of trying to fix ourselves. What we want to do in this episode is to open up to inquiry. Meaning tends to emerge through recognition. The real work begins with seeing what has been quietly organizing your inner world in the background for your entire life without you being aware of it at all.

That’s the spell. Let’s break it together.

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