Healing Physically, Adapting Mentally and Emotionally
Amputation isn't just the act of amputating a limb.
It isn't just surgery, heal, and walk.
This is a process. It takes time, money, patience, and a whole lot of grit!
Unfortunately, most patients that knowingly go into amputation surgery can't comprehend the struggles to come. For those who didn't choose or prep for amputation, they have no idea of the life that's ahead of them. For them, their emotional and mental state need to heal first, while they wait for their physical healing. They had their life torn apart by disease or war or an accident.
Whichever category you fall into know that you will get through this but it takes time, and commitment. You will need to work on, what I feel are, the four major components of successfully navigating amputee life: Physical, Mental, Emotional, and Financial.
Physical:
Obviously, you will take time to heal. You will need to learn to rebalance with less weight on one side of your body and also how to get around with crutches, a walker, or a wheelchair. You need to heal your incision but also the bone, muscle, and tissue. It was told to me that true healing takes up to 12 months. Within that time you will also experience new sensations and possibly phantom pains, all of which you will learn to adapt and work through. The whole wearing of a shrinker and then being cleared for a socket is a whole other side of the physical aspect you will need to come to grips with.
Mental:
As an elected amputee I had four months to prepare my mind for what was to come. I could ask questions, meet people, find peace with my decision, and set my future goals and dreams. Setting goals and daring to dream of a brighter future post-amputation is invaluable and can set you up for success. Manifesting your own destiny with a powerful and positive mindset is key! Get your mental game lined up as soon as you can.
Emotional:
Being ready to face your new life and new look is extremely important. Understanding how to deal with some of the struggles and hurdles you will face is hard to prepare for ahead of time, just know that when you do face a hardship that you need to take a step back, take a deep breathe and understand that these moments will end and good times will happen again. This journey is filled with ups and downs, highs and lows, pains and peace.
If you have dealt with an amputation due to someone else's negligence, like an accident you were involved in, then you may have some extra baggage to address with your emotions, anger and hate. These emotions are poison to your healing. They can create some major problems for you and ultimately stifle your level of success as an amputee. Letting go of negativity will allow for healing and growth.
Insurance/Money:
My general practitioner gave me great advice ahead of my surgery, to contact my insurance company so I knew and understood my coverage and the rules of external prosthesis, but even then I got the short end of the stick (listen in to hear what happened!).
Remember that prosthetics are your new 'forever', being able to afford them or having coverage for them is highly important. Be prepared for what's to come so you don't feel like you've been duped. The reality is that you may be looking to get a new one every 3 years (most prosthetics have a 3 year warranty-at least that's what I deal with as an above knee amputee with MPKs).
I wished more people had some of these basic facts before their surgery, but you learn as you go, that's how my journey happened, and is still happening. Everyone's experience is different, and you need to do what you need to do to embrace your new life as an amputee. The best teacher is time and experience.
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