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March 24, 2025 28 mins

Welcome back! Today we have Asha Elias joining us and listen up, this is gonna be a fun one. She is a writer, a mother, and a “reluctant” socialite. Asha Elias is a contributing writer for Cosmopolitan Magazine, a regular columnist for the Miami New Times, and most recently authored the book Pink Glass Houses and The Namaste Club.


We have a lot to talk about today, from age gaps in relationships, which is one of my favorite topics now ;), to being a public person who is somewhat private, to also having the guts to go after what you really want in life.


I have a feeling that things are going to get a little spicy, in the best way possible, so let’s get started. Tune in!


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Xoxo,

Nikki Spo



In this episode…

  • Age Gaps in Relationships 
  • Women are Problem Solvers
  • The “Standard” for Women
  • Fear in Pursuing Dreams
  • Rejection
  • Insecurities in Dating



Quotes


“I made myself grow up faster, than I needed to” - Asha Elias


“I wanted to be someone who was valuable enough for his love because I had kind of felt broken and unlovable. So I thought if I could make myself worthy of this man, then that would be an accomplishment” - Asha Elias


“All of these characteristics that made up who I was scared me, and so I thought if I could change myself to be someone worthy of this man, then I would have a much better shot of making it in life” - Asha Elias


“It's more fun and more hopeful to have the dream, than to actually get there. I think it scares people” - Nikki Spo


Timestamps:

0:00 - 0:17 |”I Wanted to Be Someone Who was Valuable Enough for His Love”

0:17 - 0:50 | Intro

0:50 - 2:10 | Intro to Asha

2:10 - 7:15 | Age Gaps in Relationships

7:15 - 9:36 | Placing Self-Value in Relationships

9:36 - 11:22 | Women as Fixers: Problem-Solvers, Self-Sacrifice, & Finding Alignment

11:22 - 13:20 | Fear in Pursuing Dreams

13:20 - 13:54 | Becoming: HER Online Community

13:54 - 15:12 | There's a “Darkness, when the Thing Happens”

15:12 - 18:00 | The Evolution of Pink Glass Houses

18:00 - 19:25 | Rejection

19:25 - 23:28 | Diving Back into the Dating Pool

23:28 - 27:50 | Dating Younger & Facing New Insecurities 

27:50 - 28:48 | Outro



  

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