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September 23, 2025 58 mins

Welcome BACK to Becoming: HER and part 2 of our 3-part series with Rachel Kipnis. This week, we’re diving into one of the most important steps in the divorce process: choosing the RIGHT divorce attorney. Rachel shares what questions to ask, what red flags to look out for, and how to find someone who aligns with your values and goals so you can move forward with confidence and clarity.Tune in to hear more! 





In this episode… 

  • Divorce rings 
  • Strategy 
  • The RIGHT attorney 
  • Non-negotiables 
  • Marriage roles 
  • Qualities in an attorney 
  • Asking WHY
  • High net worth divorce 




Quotes


“The person that you choose to represent you not only because of their abilities and strategy, but it will change how you feel about the experience. If you have the right person, they will have a lasting effect on your life.” - Rachel Kipnis 


“You want someone who is in your corner, but I can be in your corner and still say no to you.” - Rachel Kipnis 




Timetamps: 

0:00 - 1:40 | Intro 

1:40 - 3:00 | Divorce rings 

3:00 - 5:10 | Explaining divorce to kids 

5:10 - 6:20 | Choosing the right attorney 

6:20 - 10:15 | Not wanting a yes-attorney 

10:15 - 15:20 | What are the questions to ask

15:20 - 17:00 | Consult more than one attorney 

17:00 - 18:50 | Bitter feelings 

18:50 - 22:30 | Types of divorce processes  

22:30 - 24:20 | Qualities to look for in an attorney as a woman 

24:20 - 27:30 | Asking WHY 

27:30 - 31:10 | Knowing yourself 

31:10 - 39:10 | High net worth divorce 

39:10 - 40:30 | Don’t hire a friend 

40:30 - 47:40 | Weighing strategy with personality 

47:40 - 43:40 | Emotional support 

43:40 - | Things CAN and WILL get better 





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@nikkisappspo / @wearebecoming_her 




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