December 26, 2025 • 30 mins
It’s officially 2025, and if your feed is flooded with reflection prompts, vision board ideas, and goal-setting activities, you’re not alone. But let’s get real—do you really need to do more to make this year a success?
In this episode, I’m sharing the advice I’ve been giving myself this season: you’ve already done enough. From setting boundaries around your time to acknowledging the work you’ve already put in, I’ll walk you through how I’ve approached the new year in a way that feels intentional, authentic, and free from the constant pressure of “more.”
Whether you’re reflecting, planning, or just trying to keep up, this episode will help you redefine what “enough” looks like for you in 2025. Plus, I’m spilling the details on some of the exciting things coming to BOP this year—including our first in-person event!
Take a deep breath—you’ve got this. ✨
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Today. We're going to do a little reset
before the new year and I'll be honest, we're going to replay
last year's episode. On.
Prepping for the new year, I probably received more feedback
on this one episode than any other episode individually
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because it is such a good reminder that we get to set what
is enough for us. And we don't.
Have to follow somebody else's time.
Before we get into the episode. I just want to say I miss you
guys so much. But this little break has been
so, so good. It has created this space.
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I need to get some other things in a better place, in a more
manageable place. And while I said I would not be
doing any Podcast Y stuff until January, I can't help myself.
And I have some really fun things and some.
Really. Amazing guests up my sleeve for
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the new year. Now, I can't promise when we'll
start back again, and like I said before, it might be.
March around my birthday. Or it might just be April, the
start of Q2 so that we have enough time to plan and record
and really, really hit the ground running.
But either way, I'm so excited for you to see what's in store.
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Oh, and if you missed it, head over to Becoming Obsessed Pod on
Instagram to. Check out my story.
Highlight called bingo and play along with a little outliving
your life bingo that is really. Helping.
Me get through these dreary winter months.
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All right, now let's get into the episode today.
We are becoming obsessed with the new year.
Happy new year, cheers to 2025. I feed in my inbox.
Everyone seems to still be obsessed with the new year and I
want to talk about it. I specifically want to talk
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about and maybe be the first to say to you, you don't need to do
anything more today to make 2025a good year.
I'm specifically referring to all the emails, the Instagram
posts, ahem, the podcast episodes, walking you through
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workbooks and activities to reflect on 20/24 and enter 2025.
Now, I'm not suggesting that youdon't do any of that.
Heck, I hosted a whole vision board making party.
But instead we're going to talk through the conversations that
I've been having with myself this season.
I'm going to share the advice with you that I have given
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myself more times than once thisweek.
And I'm also going to share how I've set healthy boundaries so
that I'm able to deflect on 20/24.
I plan for 2025 and I do it in away that feels really good,
authentic and quote, UN quote enough for me.
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Instead of falling into this trap of always doing one more
thing, answering one more question, having one more tab
open and almost feeling like, oh, because I haven't got my end
of 2025 goals yet. I should continue to ruminate on
them now because I think that there is a healthy amount of
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doing that. But I also think that we have a
tendency in our society to neverhave a finish line and to always
just see a one more, more, more,more way we can do something.
So as I've been seeing so many posts and reminders about what
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to do to set yourself up for 2025, I want to remind you that
there's also things you do not need to do.
You do not need to do more. So where is all this coming
from? Well, first, being a podcast
host who talks about living a life that you love.
It feels so on brand to talk about the new year, to talk
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about what you can do to set up 2025, to live a life you love,
that you're obsessed with in 2025.
And yet that's not what this episode is.
Because there are so many episodes out there by other
podcasts hosts that I absolutelyadore.
DM me on Instagram and I will happily share my list with you.
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But people are already doing that.
They've been posting those for amonth or more.
I've listened to probably 3 or 4of them and really sat down with
them. And I don't think we need one
more of those. What I really need is the
reminder to set those boundariesand to know what enough is for
me so I'm not stuck in this cycle of feeling like I need to
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do more and feeling like what I've already done isn't enough.
And I've spent a lot of time thinking about processing,
journaling, about what a becoming obsessed 2025 New
Year's episode would be. And then today I opened my
laptop for the first time in a few days, which was amazing to
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take some time off for the holidays.
And I found an open tab, a Google doc to be specific.
And it was a end of year pre 2025 workbook of sorts.
Reflection questions, goal questions, Dreaming questions.
One really awesome question for my coaches saying if you knew
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you couldn't fail in 2025, what would you do?
And I hesitated to close the tabbecause I thought for a second,
should I do this one? Is this going to be the workbook
that's going to change my life? It's from my coaches.
I adore them. The resources that they give me
are always so great. I'm not even in their program
right now, and they still sent this to me, right?
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Like for a second, I hesitated. Should I complete this one?
Should I finish this one? Friend, let me tell you right
now, the answer is no. No, wait.
Me, Teresa Jean, did not need todo another workbook, another
journaling and visualization. And personally, for me, it's
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because I've done it. I have been doing this for about
a month and I'm now at a place where there's some actions that
I need to take. There's some specific strategies
I'm ready to put on paper to help my team get on the same
page as me so we can execute. But I've already set up my
goals, I've set up my intentions.
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I have done enough. I've done enough.
I've done enough of the reflecting for this moment.
And you might be saying, Teresa,what are you talking about?
It's never enough. And I would agree to some
extent, just in the sake of reflecting and growth is a
practice, but it's not a practice that we always have to
be going full throttle, seeing what we did well, seeing what we
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did wrong over and over and over.
To some extent, it's almost likethe new year is a final.
I've spent this whole semester, this whole year learning and
growing, and I took the final. I don't need to take the final
four more times. If you are like me and you are
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feeling the tug to do one more activity that somebody posted
about, make one more vision board.
Hello, bingo vision boards. If you're feeling the tug but
also knowing that you don't needto, then you have your answer.
You don't need to do anymore. I would bet if you're listening
to this episode right now, if you are a part of becoming
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obsessed, then you are doing thework and you've already done
this work. One of the biggest struggles in
life and especially as an entrepreneur is there is no
natural finish line. You have to create the finish
line for yourself. No one else will ever define
what enough is for you. You have to do it for yourself.
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Yes, with money, with your career, with time, energy,
whatever, but also with the little things.
How much time are you going to spend sitting and thinking and
pondering, which is all beautiful and I love those
things. And how much time are you just
going to spend taking action? Which is also awesome, but you
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really need a balance of both and they happen in different
seasons. Last month I had the privilege
of going to Business by Design by James Wedmore and Natalie
Ellis was there and she said something that will has stuck
with me. The beauty and the draw of
entrepreneurship. The reason we become business
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owners so often is that it is limitless.
There is no limit to how much money we can create, how much
freedom we can create, how many people we help and we serve.
But that's the problem is it feels so limitless.
And yet there are these limits. There are natural limits to we
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all have 24 hours in a day. We all need to sleep, we all
need to eat. There's only so many people we
can talk to within one hour. The beauty of that is also the
downfall and why so many entrepreneurs, so many business
owners find themselves burnt outsooner or later.
It's because we do not set any limits, right?
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There's no finish line in life unless we give ourselves one.
No one is telling you what is enough.
No one is setting the limit unless you do.
And we can consciously do that or we can subconsciously do it
right. And that's what leads to
burnout. If you do not set your own
boundaries, none will exist for you.
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And I absolutely love that she said this because she's one of
those business owners. It's like I compare her to like
my favorite athlete. Like, if you love football,
maybe you're a Peyton Manning fan.
I'm like, Natalie Ellis is my Peyton Manning.
And I love hearing her own experience with this because she
is somebody who has gone to the business Super Bowl.
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She has done it, and she's continuing to do it.
And so I just took this really big, really wide into your life
doesn't have limits, and entrepreneurship doesn't have
limits. And you need to create those for
yourself. And I have a feeling those
aren't going to be these huge new ideas for you.
But how often do we actually take that idea of setting limits
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and boundaries and put it on thesmall things in life?
I have been listening to a ton of Dan Martel, the author of Buy
Back Your Time. He has a podcast, I think it's
called The Martel Method, and I have been listening to a ton of
it. And this is something that he
talks about a lot, is actually setting up those boundaries and
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stewarding your time. People who are the most
successful, that grow the largest, they don't just allow
their calendar to be limitless. They set up boxes.
Even if there's nothing in that box except self-care,
reflection, brainstorming, but they set up boxes.
They block their calendar so that things cannot just spill
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in. I we'll share a few ways that
I've done that this year. And this isn't just for New
Year's. This is for any time that you
are planning a launch, you are planning a vacation, you are
reflecting on 1/4 or a season oflife.
All of these things feel really intangible.
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And it can often feel like you do it one day and then the next
day you forget that you've done it and you're like, OK, I need
to do that again. I need to go deeper.
And so I want to share some waysthat I have done that this year
that have made me see how much Ihave done, allowed me to really
trust in the work that I've doneso far and be able to say no and
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close the tab on doing more instead of doing other things,
right. But the reason I closed the tab
is because there was something else I needed to get done that
actually needed to get done so that I could close the computer
and get back to my holiday. Now I'm going to share.
It's so funny because I actuallywrote in my notes, I haven't
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done the most possible reflecting and planning for the
new year. It feels like there's so much
more I could do, but I've done enough.
And just reading that to you, I had to pause because how funny
is it that I even prepping for this episode, prepping for the
year, doing everything that I'vedone, I still don't feel like
I've done the most quote, the most possible, because the most
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possible would actually probablybe me waking up and journaling
about the new year every single day until 2026, right?
Like, what even is the most possible?
What does that mean? And when I give you that
example, it feels so silly. And I've mentioned this, but for
me, this isn't coming from a place of feel inspired to want
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to do more. This is coming from a place of I
don't really want to sit and do more of that I need to or want
to do other things. But maybe if I did it her way,
maybe if I followed that one e-mail, maybe if I followed that
one post, maybe if I did it the way Teresa did it, I would
already have my 2025 goals. Which is such a sneaky little
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thought that I almost don't recognize that that's the
thought I'm having. But it is.
It almost feels like the way I've done it isn't good enough,
the way I've done it isn't enough, and the way I've done it
hasn't gotten me my outcomes yet.
But it's because my outcomes aregoing to come at the end of 2025
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or 6 months from now. OK, so let's get into what I
have done this year first. Honestly, since November, I have
been craving a reset, craving a safe, calm, focused moment to
really review my year, process, my growth.
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And I'll almost say step outsideof the year.
Almost put it in like, like stepoutside of the house and look at
it from afar and create that space to just ponder what 2020,
2025 could be. Not actively writing down goals,
but just starting to Daydream toplay scenarios in my head to try
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on and see what fits. And I really think I was able to
understand this craving for thisspace for this time because of a
retreat that I went on last yearwith my coaches from Bucket List
Bombshell when I was in their coaching program in November
2023, we actually did a in person live retreat and I had
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this sense of peace that I had not had it in so long.
I didn't even know it was something I was searching for,
and I can tell you now it came from actually having a moment
where there was nothing else on my plate.
How many of you can relate to that?
When you are doing something andyou are fully present and you
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are not considering doing anything else?
I get a piece of that when I go on a walk or when I go on a hike
or like, OK, well, I'm out here for three miles and all I can do
is be out here for three miles. But it's almost like we turn
that up a notch and say for three full days I'm not working,
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I'm not at home, I don't need toclean.
My meals are provided for me. I don't need to think about
meeting my needs. I don't need to think about
communicating. All I need to do and all I got
to do is sit in this moment, ponder, dream, reflect, be fully
present for three full days. And let me tell you right now,
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that experience rewired my brain.
So flash forward to summer 2024 and I saw an e-mail come across
for a business Wellness retreat in Costa Rica for November 2024.
I said immediately, sign me up. It was the first time this
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specific retreat was being hosted.
And I'll be honest with you, when I got to the retreat, it
didn't necessarily give me what I thought it would.
Turns out it really wasn't that chance to reset, to recharge, to
let my brain wander. It was actually a lot more
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personal growth, hard work that I had just been doing for the
whole year. But thank you, God, somehow,
someway, a few weeks later, I actually was at the Business by
Design retreat with James Wedmore for three days in
Phoenix. And I got to really have the
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moment that I was looking for. I wasn't really expecting much
from this one. I had no idea what to expect,
but I had a chance to really sitdown and give space for my brain
to do what it wanted to do. Which sounds really intangible
and sounds a little up in the air, a little vague, but
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honestly, that's exactly what itwas that I was craving.
Is space to not be dooming, not be binging, not be worried about
what I'm going to eat, not have to deal with so many small
day-to-day decisions, and just have some space for my brain to
really be expansive. Now these two experiences were
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really interesting and honestly deserve their own conversation.
And it's a conversation I've, I've been having with people in
my life, but a conversation I'm not ready to bring to the
podcast yet because I think they're just the beginning
domino, the beginning, almost pulling out a thread, almost the
beginning of some new learnings,some new experiences, some new
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emotions that I've really started to unravel for a month
or two now, right? There's a lot of more
unraveling. And I'm sure I'll talk a lot
more about these experiences. But let's bring this around to
the tangible take away here thatyou need to give yourself a set
amount of space. You do not need to spend a whole
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month doing something a little bit.
Can you give yourself one full day to just do something a lot?
And what I also love about this and this is going to pull us
into #2 here is with both of these spaces, these retreats,
the one in 20/23/24, there was acut off.
There was a point in time when I, I left and I went home.
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It wasn't open-ended. And that brings me to #2 if you
don't have a whole week, if you don't have a whole day, if you
don't have a whole retreat, do you have time to do something
for even 4 hours, 2 hours, very intentionally, and again with
nothing else you need to do in that moment?
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I mentioned this at the start but I Co hosted a vision board
making party last year and then again this year.
Shout out to the incredible FIA.If you've listened to her
episode, she was a guest on Bop and this is something that her
and I both love. We crave doing things with other
people, not just sitting and reflecting by ourself, but
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making it a conversation, doing it in community and learning
from the other women in the room.
So we hosted a vision board making party.
It gave me a chance to exercise my my facilitation skills.
I hosted A guided visualization where we time travelled a year
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forward to who we want to be, looked back on the year so that
we could be proud of what we hadaccomplished even though it
hadn't technically happened yet.And then also to understand what
feelings we really wanted to carry throughout the year.
We've moved that into some journaling.
We had a little dance jump session, got our bodies flowing
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and then we had some snacks because Girly has to have snacks
and got to making our vision board.
I've been saving way 2 magazines.
And then the day was over. It was a chance to be really
intentional with your time and then to leave that moment and go
about the rest of your day. But doing it with community
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helps build that accountability.And three, the third thing I did
this year was actually an end ofyear date.
And this one was new. This was something that me and
my partner were trying out. We just concluded our actual
first year together had our one year anniversary.
And so on our anniversary, we went on a hike and then went on
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a coffee date to just again, letour brain get really expansive,
to dream together on the hike, get outside, Sky's the limit.
And then to sit down and actually put some plans on
paper, put some, I don't want tosay resolutions, but new habits
for ourselves, for us in a relationship on paper so that we
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know where we both are headed. And it kind of works well for us
because we met around the new year and our relationship
matches up perfectly with the new year.
This is something I actually learned from a friend watching
her and her partner do monthly and quarterly business meeting
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dates, whatever she calls them, whatever you want to call them.
But I've watched her and her partner for years now, and
they're together, but they also do business together.
And so they have these meetings,these couple meetings where they
put important dates on the calendar, they book trips, They
just get on the same page. And that was something I wanted
to try. So I know I started all this by
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saying you don't need to do more.
And now I'm telling you all the things I did.
And it's funny because before I prepped for this episode, if you
ask me, what have you done for the new year, I would probably
hem and Haw and say, oh, I've done a few things I could do
more because we always feel likewe could do more.
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But in reality, when I list these things on paper to see
everything that I've actually done, it feels like so much more
than when it's living in my brain.
So put it on paper and imperfectly, just for your eyes
only. There's no wrong way, but if
you're feeling like you haven't done enough, just throw a few
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things on paper 123. It could even be a walk that you
went on or a conversation you had just to give you a tangible
way to show yourself that you have done enough and to trust
the work that you have done. So of course, I start by telling
you to do less. And now I'm telling you things
you can do. But it's just a practice for us
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to see that we are doing enough.And if you're feeling like you
haven't done enough, or maybe you actually haven't done
anything and you want to, or maybe you're setting your
intentions for 2025 and figuringout how to do this, how to plan
your business, how to plan your life.
Take these little small tangiblesteps with you, set clear
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boundaries around your time and know you're going to do this for
two hours and two hours is enough.
Or you want a whole weekend away.
And then when that weekend's done, you can go on to the next
step of growth, the next step ofdoing, the next step of rest.
Get around other people, body double, hold each other
accountable. Have those conversations, and
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then just put it on paper. So if you're feeling like you
haven't done enough, you haven'taccomplished much, or you're
feeling like maybe you're feeling like your year was a
bust, first I want you to know that that is normal.
Honestly, it is so common, so normal.
Our brains operate in the now, in the moment.
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So if we're not experiencing every single one of our past
experiences in the same moment, it's really easy for our brain
to forget about them. At the vision boarding party we
did, I mentioned this guided visualization and then some
journal prompts and I really wanted to focus this vision
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board making party on what went well in 2020 for what we could
be proud of and building on the small moments instead of trying
to reset everything. Where could we build 1?
And after the journaling, one ofthe women there said I feel like
I didn't do that much this year until I started to list them on
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paper. And honestly I just said this
but I feel the same way. Right when I listed out the
things I did for 2025, like new year prep on paper.
But also when my partner and I started to list out all the
places we went on dates, all thetrips we took, I knew we had had
a full year. But seeing it on paper holds a
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different weight and a differentenergy.
So as always, take what you needfrom this conversation.
If you are feeling like you haven't done enough, maybe
there's a few things in here that'll help you not to do more,
but to acknowledge everything you have done.
Take some pen and paper, yes paper.
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And 5 minutes to list out moments you loved from this
year, moments you're proud of. And if you've already done that,
if you've already done all the things to reflect on 20/24 and
plan for 2025, you have your resolutions, you have your word
of the year, heck yes, you have done it.
You have done it. Even if you've done one of those
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things, even if you haven't doneany of them.
I saw a post by Natalie McNeil and she talked about how in
2023, she sat down to write someresolutions and nothing came to
mind. And that might be where some of
you are as well, where it's like, you know, I've been trying
to do this stuff, but I don't really have any goals coming to
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mind. Well, Natalie said that what did
come to mind after a bit of timewas just the thought that her
2024 was going to be so big, so expansive, that she didn't even
have the imagination for it yet.So if you're almost feeling
like, I hate to say, a failure in your goal planning, maybe
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it's because you don't have the thoughts yet to even see where
2025 is going, which is kind of cool and kind of beautiful.
And if you are like me and you're feeling that pull and
that nudge that you should quote, UN quote, do more, I'm
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here to give you permission and maybe just give yourself
permission to stop, to rest or to get to work.
The work that we are doing, planning and dreaming is long
term work. There's no instant gratification
to it. And because of that, at least
for me, it makes it feel less productive, right?
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But we live in a society that ties our worth to productivity.
And so when we don't feel like something is immediately
productive, it doesn't necessarily feel like we've done
enough or feel like worthy work.And honestly, you can say the
same about my word for 2025, which is play.
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Well, one of my words. Now with all that being said, I
am really, really excited for 2025, specifically for becoming
obsessed in 2025 and more specifically for Q1 because we
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have some huge things happening here.
Our team is already boots on theground working away on some
major changes for 2025. And I won't say changes, maybe
we'll just call them additions. We are launching some new things
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and we are planning an IRL yes in person party for March.
We are going to do a share a thon where you can join us to
earn prizes. We're going to have a whole
prize ladder for sharing. We're planning opportunities to
come together and what was my Word of the Year play Yes
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throughout 2025 and a real life in person chance to come
together as the BOP community toplay, to dream, to have a little
bit of fun, to let your hair down or tie it up in a pony.
Play some games and get obsessed.
If you are still listening, thank you so much for being a
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part of the Becoming Obsessed community.
I would absolutely be honored ifyou would rate this podcast or
share it with your friends. It helps to get Becoming
Obsessed in front of more peopleto help them live a life that
they truly love. Now let's go get obsessed.
Today. We're going to do a little reset
before the new year and I'll be honest, we're going to replay
last year's episode. On.
Prepping for the new year, I probably received more feedback
on this one episode than any other episode individually
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because it is such a good reminder that we get to set what
is enough for us. And we don't.
Have to follow somebody else's time.
Before we get into the episode. I just want to say I miss you
guys so much. But this little break has been
so, so good. It has created this space.
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I need to get some other things in a better place, in a more
manageable place. And while I said I would not be
doing any Podcast Y stuff until January, I can't help myself.
And I have some really fun things and some.
Really. Amazing guests up my sleeve for
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the new year. Now, I can't promise when we'll
start back again, and like I said before, it might be.
March around my birthday. Or it might just be April, the
start of Q2 so that we have enough time to plan and record
and really, really hit the ground running.
But either way, I'm so excited for you to see what's in store.
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Oh, and if you missed it, head over to Becoming Obsessed Pod on
Instagram to. Check out my story.
Highlight called bingo and play along with a little outliving
your life bingo that is really. Helping.
Me get through these dreary winter months.
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All right, now let's get into the episode today.
We are becoming obsessed with the new year.
Happy new year, cheers to 2025. I feed in my inbox.
Everyone seems to still be obsessed with the new year and I
want to talk about it. I specifically want to talk
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about and maybe be the first to say to you, you don't need to do
anything more today to make 2025a good year.
I'm specifically referring to all the emails, the Instagram
posts, ahem, the podcast episodes, walking you through
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workbooks and activities to reflect on 20/24 and enter 2025.
Now, I'm not suggesting that youdon't do any of that.
Heck, I hosted a whole vision board making party.
But instead we're going to talk through the conversations that
I've been having with myself this season.
I'm going to share the advice with you that I have given
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myself more times than once thisweek.
And I'm also going to share how I've set healthy boundaries so
that I'm able to deflect on 20/24.
I plan for 2025 and I do it in away that feels really good,
authentic and quote, UN quote enough for me.
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Instead of falling into this trap of always doing one more
thing, answering one more question, having one more tab
open and almost feeling like, oh, because I haven't got my end
of 2025 goals yet. I should continue to ruminate on
them now because I think that there is a healthy amount of
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doing that. But I also think that we have a
tendency in our society to neverhave a finish line and to always
just see a one more, more, more,more way we can do something.
So as I've been seeing so many posts and reminders about what
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to do to set yourself up for 2025, I want to remind you that
there's also things you do not need to do.
You do not need to do more. So where is all this coming
from? Well, first, being a podcast
host who talks about living a life that you love.
It feels so on brand to talk about the new year, to talk
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about what you can do to set up 2025, to live a life you love,
that you're obsessed with in 2025.
And yet that's not what this episode is.
Because there are so many episodes out there by other
podcasts hosts that I absolutelyadore.
DM me on Instagram and I will happily share my list with you.
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But people are already doing that.
They've been posting those for amonth or more.
I've listened to probably 3 or 4of them and really sat down with
them. And I don't think we need one
more of those. What I really need is the
reminder to set those boundariesand to know what enough is for
me so I'm not stuck in this cycle of feeling like I need to
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do more and feeling like what I've already done isn't enough.
And I've spent a lot of time thinking about processing,
journaling, about what a becoming obsessed 2025 New
Year's episode would be. And then today I opened my
laptop for the first time in a few days, which was amazing to
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take some time off for the holidays.
And I found an open tab, a Google doc to be specific.
And it was a end of year pre 2025 workbook of sorts.
Reflection questions, goal questions, Dreaming questions.
One really awesome question for my coaches saying if you knew
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you couldn't fail in 2025, what would you do?
And I hesitated to close the tabbecause I thought for a second,
should I do this one? Is this going to be the workbook
that's going to change my life? It's from my coaches.
I adore them. The resources that they give me
are always so great. I'm not even in their program
right now, and they still sent this to me, right?
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Like for a second, I hesitated. Should I complete this one?
Should I finish this one? Friend, let me tell you right
now, the answer is no. No, wait.
Me, Teresa Jean, did not need todo another workbook, another
journaling and visualization. And personally, for me, it's
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because I've done it. I have been doing this for about
a month and I'm now at a place where there's some actions that
I need to take. There's some specific strategies
I'm ready to put on paper to help my team get on the same
page as me so we can execute. But I've already set up my
goals, I've set up my intentions.
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I have done enough. I've done enough.
I've done enough of the reflecting for this moment.
And you might be saying, Teresa,what are you talking about?
It's never enough. And I would agree to some
extent, just in the sake of reflecting and growth is a
practice, but it's not a practice that we always have to
be going full throttle, seeing what we did well, seeing what we
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did wrong over and over and over.
To some extent, it's almost likethe new year is a final.
I've spent this whole semester, this whole year learning and
growing, and I took the final. I don't need to take the final
four more times. If you are like me and you are
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feeling the tug to do one more activity that somebody posted
about, make one more vision board.
Hello, bingo vision boards. If you're feeling the tug but
also knowing that you don't needto, then you have your answer.
You don't need to do anymore. I would bet if you're listening
to this episode right now, if you are a part of becoming
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obsessed, then you are doing thework and you've already done
this work. One of the biggest struggles in
life and especially as an entrepreneur is there is no
natural finish line. You have to create the finish
line for yourself. No one else will ever define
what enough is for you. You have to do it for yourself.
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Yes, with money, with your career, with time, energy,
whatever, but also with the little things.
How much time are you going to spend sitting and thinking and
pondering, which is all beautiful and I love those
things. And how much time are you just
going to spend taking action? Which is also awesome, but you
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really need a balance of both and they happen in different
seasons. Last month I had the privilege
of going to Business by Design by James Wedmore and Natalie
Ellis was there and she said something that will has stuck
with me. The beauty and the draw of
entrepreneurship. The reason we become business
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owners so often is that it is limitless.
There is no limit to how much money we can create, how much
freedom we can create, how many people we help and we serve.
But that's the problem is it feels so limitless.
And yet there are these limits. There are natural limits to we
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all have 24 hours in a day. We all need to sleep, we all
need to eat. There's only so many people we
can talk to within one hour. The beauty of that is also the
downfall and why so many entrepreneurs, so many business
owners find themselves burnt outsooner or later.
It's because we do not set any limits, right?
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There's no finish line in life unless we give ourselves one.
No one is telling you what is enough.
No one is setting the limit unless you do.
And we can consciously do that or we can subconsciously do it
right. And that's what leads to
burnout. If you do not set your own
boundaries, none will exist for you.
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And I absolutely love that she said this because she's one of
those business owners. It's like I compare her to like
my favorite athlete. Like, if you love football,
maybe you're a Peyton Manning fan.
I'm like, Natalie Ellis is my Peyton Manning.
And I love hearing her own experience with this because she
is somebody who has gone to the business Super Bowl.
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She has done it, and she's continuing to do it.
And so I just took this really big, really wide into your life
doesn't have limits, and entrepreneurship doesn't have
limits. And you need to create those for
yourself. And I have a feeling those
aren't going to be these huge new ideas for you.
But how often do we actually take that idea of setting limits
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and boundaries and put it on thesmall things in life?
I have been listening to a ton of Dan Martel, the author of Buy
Back Your Time. He has a podcast, I think it's
called The Martel Method, and I have been listening to a ton of
it. And this is something that he
talks about a lot, is actually setting up those boundaries and
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stewarding your time. People who are the most
successful, that grow the largest, they don't just allow
their calendar to be limitless. They set up boxes.
Even if there's nothing in that box except self-care,
reflection, brainstorming, but they set up boxes.
They block their calendar so that things cannot just spill
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in. I we'll share a few ways that
I've done that this year. And this isn't just for New
Year's. This is for any time that you
are planning a launch, you are planning a vacation, you are
reflecting on 1/4 or a season oflife.
All of these things feel really intangible.
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And it can often feel like you do it one day and then the next
day you forget that you've done it and you're like, OK, I need
to do that again. I need to go deeper.
And so I want to share some waysthat I have done that this year
that have made me see how much Ihave done, allowed me to really
trust in the work that I've doneso far and be able to say no and
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close the tab on doing more instead of doing other things,
right. But the reason I closed the tab
is because there was something else I needed to get done that
actually needed to get done so that I could close the computer
and get back to my holiday. Now I'm going to share.
It's so funny because I actuallywrote in my notes, I haven't
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done the most possible reflecting and planning for the
new year. It feels like there's so much
more I could do, but I've done enough.
And just reading that to you, I had to pause because how funny
is it that I even prepping for this episode, prepping for the
year, doing everything that I'vedone, I still don't feel like
I've done the most quote, the most possible, because the most
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possible would actually probablybe me waking up and journaling
about the new year every single day until 2026, right?
Like, what even is the most possible?
What does that mean? And when I give you that
example, it feels so silly. And I've mentioned this, but for
me, this isn't coming from a place of feel inspired to want
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to do more. This is coming from a place of I
don't really want to sit and do more of that I need to or want
to do other things. But maybe if I did it her way,
maybe if I followed that one e-mail, maybe if I followed that
one post, maybe if I did it the way Teresa did it, I would
already have my 2025 goals. Which is such a sneaky little
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thought that I almost don't recognize that that's the
thought I'm having. But it is.
It almost feels like the way I've done it isn't good enough,
the way I've done it isn't enough, and the way I've done it
hasn't gotten me my outcomes yet.
But it's because my outcomes aregoing to come at the end of 2025
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or 6 months from now. OK, so let's get into what I
have done this year first. Honestly, since November, I have
been craving a reset, craving a safe, calm, focused moment to
really review my year, process, my growth.
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And I'll almost say step outsideof the year.
Almost put it in like, like stepoutside of the house and look at
it from afar and create that space to just ponder what 2020,
2025 could be. Not actively writing down goals,
but just starting to Daydream toplay scenarios in my head to try
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on and see what fits. And I really think I was able to
understand this craving for thisspace for this time because of a
retreat that I went on last yearwith my coaches from Bucket List
Bombshell when I was in their coaching program in November
2023, we actually did a in person live retreat and I had
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this sense of peace that I had not had it in so long.
I didn't even know it was something I was searching for,
and I can tell you now it came from actually having a moment
where there was nothing else on my plate.
How many of you can relate to that?
When you are doing something andyou are fully present and you
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are not considering doing anything else?
I get a piece of that when I go on a walk or when I go on a hike
or like, OK, well, I'm out here for three miles and all I can do
is be out here for three miles. But it's almost like we turn
that up a notch and say for three full days I'm not working,
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I'm not at home, I don't need toclean.
My meals are provided for me. I don't need to think about
meeting my needs. I don't need to think about
communicating. All I need to do and all I got
to do is sit in this moment, ponder, dream, reflect, be fully
present for three full days. And let me tell you right now,
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that experience rewired my brain.
So flash forward to summer 2024 and I saw an e-mail come across
for a business Wellness retreat in Costa Rica for November 2024.
I said immediately, sign me up. It was the first time this
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specific retreat was being hosted.
And I'll be honest with you, when I got to the retreat, it
didn't necessarily give me what I thought it would.
Turns out it really wasn't that chance to reset, to recharge, to
let my brain wander. It was actually a lot more
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personal growth, hard work that I had just been doing for the
whole year. But thank you, God, somehow,
someway, a few weeks later, I actually was at the Business by
Design retreat with James Wedmore for three days in
Phoenix. And I got to really have the
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moment that I was looking for. I wasn't really expecting much
from this one. I had no idea what to expect,
but I had a chance to really sitdown and give space for my brain
to do what it wanted to do. Which sounds really intangible
and sounds a little up in the air, a little vague, but
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honestly, that's exactly what itwas that I was craving.
Is space to not be dooming, not be binging, not be worried about
what I'm going to eat, not have to deal with so many small
day-to-day decisions, and just have some space for my brain to
really be expansive. Now these two experiences were
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really interesting and honestly deserve their own conversation.
And it's a conversation I've, I've been having with people in
my life, but a conversation I'm not ready to bring to the
podcast yet because I think they're just the beginning
domino, the beginning, almost pulling out a thread, almost the
beginning of some new learnings,some new experiences, some new
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emotions that I've really started to unravel for a month
or two now, right? There's a lot of more
unraveling. And I'm sure I'll talk a lot
more about these experiences. But let's bring this around to
the tangible take away here thatyou need to give yourself a set
amount of space. You do not need to spend a whole
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month doing something a little bit.
Can you give yourself one full day to just do something a lot?
And what I also love about this and this is going to pull us
into #2 here is with both of these spaces, these retreats,
the one in 20/23/24, there was acut off.
There was a point in time when I, I left and I went home.
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It wasn't open-ended. And that brings me to #2 if you
don't have a whole week, if you don't have a whole day, if you
don't have a whole retreat, do you have time to do something
for even 4 hours, 2 hours, very intentionally, and again with
nothing else you need to do in that moment?
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I mentioned this at the start but I Co hosted a vision board
making party last year and then again this year.
Shout out to the incredible FIA.If you've listened to her
episode, she was a guest on Bop and this is something that her
and I both love. We crave doing things with other
people, not just sitting and reflecting by ourself, but
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making it a conversation, doing it in community and learning
from the other women in the room.
So we hosted a vision board making party.
It gave me a chance to exercise my my facilitation skills.
I hosted A guided visualization where we time travelled a year
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forward to who we want to be, looked back on the year so that
we could be proud of what we hadaccomplished even though it
hadn't technically happened yet.And then also to understand what
feelings we really wanted to carry throughout the year.
We've moved that into some journaling.
We had a little dance jump session, got our bodies flowing
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and then we had some snacks because Girly has to have snacks
and got to making our vision board.
I've been saving way 2 magazines.
And then the day was over. It was a chance to be really
intentional with your time and then to leave that moment and go
about the rest of your day. But doing it with community
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helps build that accountability.And three, the third thing I did
this year was actually an end ofyear date.
And this one was new. This was something that me and
my partner were trying out. We just concluded our actual
first year together had our one year anniversary.
And so on our anniversary, we went on a hike and then went on
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a coffee date to just again, letour brain get really expansive,
to dream together on the hike, get outside, Sky's the limit.
And then to sit down and actually put some plans on
paper, put some, I don't want tosay resolutions, but new habits
for ourselves, for us in a relationship on paper so that we
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know where we both are headed. And it kind of works well for us
because we met around the new year and our relationship
matches up perfectly with the new year.
This is something I actually learned from a friend watching
her and her partner do monthly and quarterly business meeting
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dates, whatever she calls them, whatever you want to call them.
But I've watched her and her partner for years now, and
they're together, but they also do business together.
And so they have these meetings,these couple meetings where they
put important dates on the calendar, they book trips, They
just get on the same page. And that was something I wanted
to try. So I know I started all this by
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saying you don't need to do more.
And now I'm telling you all the things I did.
And it's funny because before I prepped for this episode, if you
ask me, what have you done for the new year, I would probably
hem and Haw and say, oh, I've done a few things I could do
more because we always feel likewe could do more.
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But in reality, when I list these things on paper to see
everything that I've actually done, it feels like so much more
than when it's living in my brain.
So put it on paper and imperfectly, just for your eyes
only. There's no wrong way, but if
you're feeling like you haven't done enough, just throw a few
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things on paper 123. It could even be a walk that you
went on or a conversation you had just to give you a tangible
way to show yourself that you have done enough and to trust
the work that you have done. So of course, I start by telling
you to do less. And now I'm telling you things
you can do. But it's just a practice for us
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to see that we are doing enough.And if you're feeling like you
haven't done enough, or maybe you actually haven't done
anything and you want to, or maybe you're setting your
intentions for 2025 and figuringout how to do this, how to plan
your business, how to plan your life.
Take these little small tangiblesteps with you, set clear
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boundaries around your time and know you're going to do this for
two hours and two hours is enough.
Or you want a whole weekend away.
And then when that weekend's done, you can go on to the next
step of growth, the next step ofdoing, the next step of rest.
Get around other people, body double, hold each other
accountable. Have those conversations, and
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then just put it on paper. So if you're feeling like you
haven't done enough, you haven'taccomplished much, or you're
feeling like maybe you're feeling like your year was a
bust, first I want you to know that that is normal.
Honestly, it is so common, so normal.
Our brains operate in the now, in the moment.
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So if we're not experiencing every single one of our past
experiences in the same moment, it's really easy for our brain
to forget about them. At the vision boarding party we
did, I mentioned this guided visualization and then some
journal prompts and I really wanted to focus this vision
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board making party on what went well in 2020 for what we could
be proud of and building on the small moments instead of trying
to reset everything. Where could we build 1?
And after the journaling, one ofthe women there said I feel like
I didn't do that much this year until I started to list them on
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paper. And honestly I just said this
but I feel the same way. Right when I listed out the
things I did for 2025, like new year prep on paper.
But also when my partner and I started to list out all the
places we went on dates, all thetrips we took, I knew we had had
a full year. But seeing it on paper holds a
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different weight and a differentenergy.
So as always, take what you needfrom this conversation.
If you are feeling like you haven't done enough, maybe
there's a few things in here that'll help you not to do more,
but to acknowledge everything you have done.
Take some pen and paper, yes paper.
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And 5 minutes to list out moments you loved from this
year, moments you're proud of. And if you've already done that,
if you've already done all the things to reflect on 20/24 and
plan for 2025, you have your resolutions, you have your word
of the year, heck yes, you have done it.
You have done it. Even if you've done one of those
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things, even if you haven't doneany of them.
I saw a post by Natalie McNeil and she talked about how in
2023, she sat down to write someresolutions and nothing came to
mind. And that might be where some of
you are as well, where it's like, you know, I've been trying
to do this stuff, but I don't really have any goals coming to
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mind. Well, Natalie said that what did
come to mind after a bit of timewas just the thought that her
2024 was going to be so big, so expansive, that she didn't even
have the imagination for it yet.So if you're almost feeling
like, I hate to say, a failure in your goal planning, maybe
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it's because you don't have the thoughts yet to even see where
2025 is going, which is kind of cool and kind of beautiful.
And if you are like me and you're feeling that pull and
that nudge that you should quote, UN quote, do more, I'm
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here to give you permission and maybe just give yourself
permission to stop, to rest or to get to work.
The work that we are doing, planning and dreaming is long
term work. There's no instant gratification
to it. And because of that, at least
for me, it makes it feel less productive, right?
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But we live in a society that ties our worth to productivity.
And so when we don't feel like something is immediately
productive, it doesn't necessarily feel like we've done
enough or feel like worthy work.And honestly, you can say the
same about my word for 2025, which is play.
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Well, one of my words. Now with all that being said, I
am really, really excited for 2025, specifically for becoming
obsessed in 2025 and more specifically for Q1 because we
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have some huge things happening here.
Our team is already boots on theground working away on some
major changes for 2025. And I won't say changes, maybe
we'll just call them additions. We are launching some new things
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and we are planning an IRL yes in person party for March.
We are going to do a share a thon where you can join us to
earn prizes. We're going to have a whole
prize ladder for sharing. We're planning opportunities to
come together and what was my Word of the Year play Yes
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throughout 2025 and a real life in person chance to come
together as the BOP community toplay, to dream, to have a little
bit of fun, to let your hair down or tie it up in a pony.
Play some games and get obsessed.
If you are still listening, thank you so much for being a
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part of the Becoming Obsessed community.
I would absolutely be honored ifyou would rate this podcast or
share it with your friends. It helps to get Becoming
Obsessed in front of more peopleto help them live a life that
they truly love. Now let's go get obsessed.
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