April 29, 2024 • 11 mins
Not everyone is like you.
There are many good people out there but there are also people who will do and say whatever you want in order for them to get what they want.
In today's episode, we cover the power of Meditation in helping you align with your inner guide and the power of discernment in making decisions about the people you meet and choose to have around you and the decisions in your life.
With love,
Em xx
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Welcome to the Becoming your Warrior podcast.
This is the place where you getto feel inspired and empowered
to step into your very best life.
Hey, hey, welcome to thisepisode of the Becoming your
Warrior podcast.
This is Em.
I realize it has been a longtime since I was here with you,
(00:27):
so I want to apologize for justdisappearing off the face of the
earth.
I will talk to you about what'sbeen going on.
In a few episodes time, there'sbeen a big, big, big change in
my life.
It's all good now, but it'sbeen pretty hectic and I just
need to step away from otherkind of commitments for a while.
(00:48):
So I'm back, you're back, let'sdo this, let's jump straight
back into it, let's absolutelynail this season and, yeah,
let's build our self-worth up aswe go.
So I want to talk to you todayabout the fact that not everyone
is like you, and you need to.
In your life is you need to beselective.
(01:10):
You need to be selective andyou need to use discernment
about every person you interactwith, every situation you get
yourself into and also just lifein general, like the direction
that you're going in life ingeneral, like the direction that
you're going in, anddiscernment is one of these
words that's kind of thrownaround, but just to explain it
the way that I feel it,discernment is getting out of my
(01:32):
head and it's actually reallylistening to my intuition.
It's really listening to mysoul, my inner being, and being
guided by that.
And again going back to the fogthat we talked about in episode
one, you know when that fog'sthere, that's just your mind
getting in the way.
It's just old stories, oh, butthey seem really nice and
they're friends with so-and-so,and so-and-so is really popular.
(01:53):
They must be a good person.
But deep down there's like thisgut feeling that you've got
about this person, about thissituation, and again coming back
to like lower self-worth, whenyou doubt yourself, when you
don't think you're worthy, andyou put all these other people
on a pedestal.
What you do is you're lettingthat fog come back in.
Yeah, and if you don't knowwhat I'm talking about with the
(02:15):
fog, just go back to season two,episode one, and you'll
understand what I'm talkingabout.
We're clearing that fog out theway.
We're clearing that out the way.
So you're tuning in to thatinner part of you, that inner
being, that soul part of youthat knows you, that loves you,
that wants you to have the bestlife ever and just needs you to
get some clarity and startlistening and using discernment.
(02:36):
So not everyone is like you, andit's a pretty obvious statement
.
We are all brought up indifferent situations, in
different countries, bydifferent parents, and even if
you have a brother or sister andthere's an age gap, you know,
between you guys you're nottwins or anything like that
You're basically getting yourparents at a very different age
and a very different lifeexperience, so their parenting
(02:58):
style is going to be differentto you, to what it was to your
brother or your sister.
You're inheriting a differentparent.
You might be the eldest or youmight be the youngest, and so
your parents have gone throughlife in a different way with
your older brother or sister towhat they have with you, and so
every single person on theplanet is different.
(03:18):
They're going to have adifferent experience of life.
And I think when you have, youknow, maybe when you've had,
like a childhood or anadolescence that's been a bit
all over the place, it's been abit unstable.
Maybe you've, you know, had oneparent, or maybe you know your
parents have argued.
(03:38):
Whatever it is, I think whenthere's instability in your
childhood, your parents mightstill be together and it could
have just been like awful livingwith them, um, but when you've
got that low sense of self-worth, what that makes you do is it
makes you look at other peopleand kind of go, I want to be
like them or I think they'rejust like me, and it also makes
(04:00):
you take on what I call like lipservice, so somebody out there
could tell you what you want tohear in order to get what they
want.
They're not always like you,not every single person.
I do believe people are good inyou know deep down, but I also
feel that people are damaged andwhen people are damaged, they
behave in a way where it justserves them.
(04:22):
They just get in there, theyget what they want and they get
out.
And this has never been moreapparent in the dating world.
And I'm not just talking about,like you know, men.
I love men and I'm not likesaying but in the dating world
there's a certain type of guythat is very good at this, and
what that could be is like say,for example, you know that you
(04:44):
really want to have arelationship, you feel really
ready for a relationship.
You're putting yourself outthere, whether that's in person
or whether it's on dating appsor whatever you're doing and
you're meeting people, andpeople can be really good at
telling you what you want tohear, at mirroring you.
So if you're saying I want arelationship, you know it might
be that the other person is like, yeah, I feel really ready for
(05:06):
a relationship too, and in theirhead they do, but deep down
their agenda might be I actuallyjust want to like, I'm not
ready for a relationship.
I'll have a short relationship.
I'll tell you what you want tohear, because my end goal is
that I want something else.
And so I really want you toreally start tuning in and
really start listening andreally feeling into this word
(05:29):
discernment.
What does discernment mean toyou?
Like, how does that show up inyour life?
If you are truly to listen tothat inner part of you, that is
all pure love and it's guidingyou.
What is it that's stopping youwhen those little signs come
through, when that littlefeeling in your stomach crops up
, when somebody says somethingand you're like that doesn't
(05:50):
feel true, what is it thatprevents you from acting on that
and being like nah, I actuallydon't believe you.
And again it comes back to thislower sense of self-worth.
You've got to start trustingthat inner part of you, and if
you don't trust your mind, good,your mind isn't to be trusted,
(06:11):
because your mind is literally alifetime of belief systems and
thought patterns and ideas, andit's great when you have control
over it.
But if you're somebody who hasa very you know imaginative mind
and a mind that runs away withyou and a mind that thinks that
other people are better than you, and a mind that makes you
(06:31):
think that you're not goodenough, your mind is not to be
trusted, because that's absoluteBS.
Deep down, cut through the fog,deep down in the very center of
you, is a soul, and that soulis pure love, and that soul
wants the best for you.
And so you need to startfiguring out how you can cut
(06:51):
through the mind, how you cancut through the fog and how you
can just tune into that.
And there are two really goodways that I'll recommend.
The first one is to reallystart looking at meditating in a
really serious way.
What meditation does and thisis where people get confused
about it what meditation does isit stops the thoughts, and the
(07:15):
thoughts create beliefs.
So if you find that you'rereliving trauma from the past,
if you find that you'recomparing yourself to other
people, if you find that you'vegot yourself into like a victim
mentality, if you find that youkeep saying to yourself I'm not
good enough for that person, I'mnot good enough for this
situation, I'm not good enoughfor this job, I'm not worthy, I
(07:35):
don't deserve this, I'm, youknow nothing.
That is your mind and that isyour thoughts, and that is your
thoughts create beliefs whenthey're played in repetition.
So the easiest way to do this,the easiest way to cut through
all that nonsense, which is justa program that you've inherited
through your life, and aprogram can be broken, a program
(07:58):
can be rewritten, just like acomputer program can be.
So when you meditate, all youare doing when you meditate is
you are focusing on one thing.
You are focusing on your breath.
I, personally, when I have gota little bit of an overactive
mind, or if I'm in a period ofjust being really stressed or
(08:19):
whatever, the one way that I dothis, the thing that I focus on
is I focus on like brown noise,which is like a sound that you
can download on Spotify orYouTube or any other listening
platform, and you, literally,all you do is you listen to that
sound and it blocks thethoughts.
And once you block the thoughts, the more that you meditate and
(08:41):
the more that you block thethoughts out, the easier it is
for you to actually connect tothat inner part of you, to
connect to the soul and beguided by that.
So this is why meditation isthe most incredible thing that
you can ever do for yourself,and this is why meditation will
lead you towards discernment andmaking great decisions.
(09:05):
The other way, the second way,is by getting enough sleep.
And again when I say this, whenyou sleep, what you're doing is
you're allowing yourself,you're allowing the kind of
conscious mind, the mind you'reallowing the chatter.
So much is processed and somuch is released.
(09:25):
So if you're getting goodnight's sleep, you're going to
start making really gooddecisions.
If you're meditating, you'regoing to start making amazing
decisions.
You're going to be able tomanifest, you're going to be
able to get clear on what youwant.
(09:46):
You're going to be able tostart trusting yourself.
There's so much in it.
You are going to find yourselfwith these two processes
prioritizing sleep and startinga daily meditation practice.
Just do it for two minutes tostart with, that's all.
Sit down for two minutes andjust see how many breaths you
can hear coming in and out ofyour body, and it doesn't matter
(10:08):
if your mind wonders If it does.
You just start again, but justfocus on that breath and, before
you know it, you'll be doingfive minutes, you'll be doing 10
minutes, you'll be doing 15minutes and your life will
change.
Your decision making willchange, your energy is going to
change, your focus is going tochange, your calmness is going
to change and, of course, yourself-worth is going to change
(10:31):
because you're going to bemaking smart decisions that are
aligned and that come from yoursoul place rather than the
confusion of your mind, which isjust a program.
So, remembering, not everyone islike you.
You can make these smartdecisions about people by
meditating, by sleeping, byusing discernment, meditating by
sleeping, by using discernment.
(10:52):
And as you do this, as you putthis into practice, just watch
as your life unfolds in the mostbeautiful, beautiful, beautiful
way.
As always, I'm with you.
Reach out if you've got anyquestions and I will be chatting
with you in the next episode.
Until then, keep taking thesesteps action steps, sleep,
(11:15):
meditate, use discernment as youstep into becoming your warrior
.
Thanks for listening today, andif this episode helped or
inspired you, just remember toshare it to friends or family
who could also use someinspiration.
(11:35):
Today, we are all about sharingthe love.
Welcome to the Becoming your Warrior podcast.
This is the place where you getto feel inspired and empowered
to step into your very best life.
Hey, hey, welcome to thisepisode of the Becoming your
Warrior podcast.
This is Em.
I realize it has been a longtime since I was here with you,
(00:27):
so I want to apologize for justdisappearing off the face of the
earth.
I will talk to you about what'sbeen going on.
In a few episodes time, there'sbeen a big, big, big change in
my life.
It's all good now, but it'sbeen pretty hectic and I just
need to step away from otherkind of commitments for a while.
(00:48):
So I'm back, you're back, let'sdo this, let's jump straight
back into it, let's absolutelynail this season and, yeah,
let's build our self-worth up aswe go.
So I want to talk to you todayabout the fact that not everyone
is like you, and you need to.
In your life is you need to beselective.
(01:10):
You need to be selective andyou need to use discernment
about every person you interactwith, every situation you get
yourself into and also just lifein general, like the direction
that you're going in life ingeneral, like the direction that
you're going in, anddiscernment is one of these
words that's kind of thrownaround, but just to explain it
the way that I feel it,discernment is getting out of my
(01:32):
head and it's actually reallylistening to my intuition.
It's really listening to mysoul, my inner being, and being
guided by that.
And again going back to the fogthat we talked about in episode
one, you know when that fog'sthere, that's just your mind
getting in the way.
It's just old stories, oh, butthey seem really nice and
they're friends with so-and-so,and so-and-so is really popular.
(01:53):
They must be a good person.
But deep down there's like thisgut feeling that you've got
about this person, about thissituation, and again coming back
to like lower self-worth, whenyou doubt yourself, when you
don't think you're worthy, andyou put all these other people
on a pedestal.
What you do is you're lettingthat fog come back in.
Yeah, and if you don't knowwhat I'm talking about with the
(02:15):
fog, just go back to season two,episode one, and you'll
understand what I'm talkingabout.
We're clearing that fog out theway.
We're clearing that out the way.
So you're tuning in to thatinner part of you, that inner
being, that soul part of youthat knows you, that loves you,
that wants you to have the bestlife ever and just needs you to
get some clarity and startlistening and using discernment.
(02:36):
So not everyone is like you, andit's a pretty obvious statement
.
We are all brought up indifferent situations, in
different countries, bydifferent parents, and even if
you have a brother or sister andthere's an age gap, you know,
between you guys you're nottwins or anything like that
You're basically getting yourparents at a very different age
and a very different lifeexperience, so their parenting
(02:58):
style is going to be differentto you, to what it was to your
brother or your sister.
You're inheriting a differentparent.
You might be the eldest or youmight be the youngest, and so
your parents have gone throughlife in a different way with
your older brother or sister towhat they have with you, and so
every single person on theplanet is different.
(03:18):
They're going to have adifferent experience of life.
And I think when you have, youknow, maybe when you've had,
like a childhood or anadolescence that's been a bit
all over the place, it's been abit unstable.
Maybe you've, you know, had oneparent, or maybe you know your
parents have argued.
(03:38):
Whatever it is, I think whenthere's instability in your
childhood, your parents mightstill be together and it could
have just been like awful livingwith them, um, but when you've
got that low sense of self-worth, what that makes you do is it
makes you look at other peopleand kind of go, I want to be
like them or I think they'rejust like me, and it also makes
(04:00):
you take on what I call like lipservice, so somebody out there
could tell you what you want tohear in order to get what they
want.
They're not always like you,not every single person.
I do believe people are good inyou know deep down, but I also
feel that people are damaged andwhen people are damaged, they
behave in a way where it justserves them.
(04:22):
They just get in there, theyget what they want and they get
out.
And this has never been moreapparent in the dating world.
And I'm not just talking about,like you know, men.
I love men and I'm not likesaying but in the dating world
there's a certain type of guythat is very good at this, and
what that could be is like say,for example, you know that you
(04:44):
really want to have arelationship, you feel really
ready for a relationship.
You're putting yourself outthere, whether that's in person
or whether it's on dating appsor whatever you're doing and
you're meeting people, andpeople can be really good at
telling you what you want tohear, at mirroring you.
So if you're saying I want arelationship, you know it might
be that the other person is like, yeah, I feel really ready for
(05:06):
a relationship too, and in theirhead they do, but deep down
their agenda might be I actuallyjust want to like, I'm not
ready for a relationship.
I'll have a short relationship.
I'll tell you what you want tohear, because my end goal is
that I want something else.
And so I really want you toreally start tuning in and
really start listening andreally feeling into this word
(05:29):
discernment.
What does discernment mean toyou?
Like, how does that show up inyour life?
If you are truly to listen tothat inner part of you, that is
all pure love and it's guidingyou.
What is it that's stopping youwhen those little signs come
through, when that littlefeeling in your stomach crops up
, when somebody says somethingand you're like that doesn't
(05:50):
feel true, what is it thatprevents you from acting on that
and being like nah, I actuallydon't believe you.
And again it comes back to thislower sense of self-worth.
You've got to start trustingthat inner part of you, and if
you don't trust your mind, good,your mind isn't to be trusted,
(06:11):
because your mind is literally alifetime of belief systems and
thought patterns and ideas, andit's great when you have control
over it.
But if you're somebody who hasa very you know imaginative mind
and a mind that runs away withyou and a mind that thinks that
other people are better than you, and a mind that makes you
(06:31):
think that you're not goodenough, your mind is not to be
trusted, because that's absoluteBS.
Deep down, cut through the fog,deep down in the very center of
you, is a soul, and that soulis pure love, and that soul
wants the best for you.
And so you need to startfiguring out how you can cut
(06:51):
through the mind, how you cancut through the fog and how you
can just tune into that.
And there are two really goodways that I'll recommend.
The first one is to reallystart looking at meditating in a
really serious way.
What meditation does and thisis where people get confused
about it what meditation does isit stops the thoughts, and the
(07:15):
thoughts create beliefs.
So if you find that you'rereliving trauma from the past,
if you find that you'recomparing yourself to other
people, if you find that you'vegot yourself into like a victim
mentality, if you find that youkeep saying to yourself I'm not
good enough for that person, I'mnot good enough for this
situation, I'm not good enoughfor this job, I'm not worthy, I
(07:35):
don't deserve this, I'm, youknow nothing.
That is your mind and that isyour thoughts, and that is your
thoughts create beliefs whenthey're played in repetition.
So the easiest way to do this,the easiest way to cut through
all that nonsense, which is justa program that you've inherited
through your life, and aprogram can be broken, a program
(07:58):
can be rewritten, just like acomputer program can be.
So when you meditate, all youare doing when you meditate is
you are focusing on one thing.
You are focusing on your breath.
I, personally, when I have gota little bit of an overactive
mind, or if I'm in a period ofjust being really stressed or
(08:19):
whatever, the one way that I dothis, the thing that I focus on
is I focus on like brown noise,which is like a sound that you
can download on Spotify orYouTube or any other listening
platform, and you, literally,all you do is you listen to that
sound and it blocks thethoughts.
And once you block the thoughts, the more that you meditate and
(08:41):
the more that you block thethoughts out, the easier it is
for you to actually connect tothat inner part of you, to
connect to the soul and beguided by that.
So this is why meditation isthe most incredible thing that
you can ever do for yourself,and this is why meditation will
lead you towards discernment andmaking great decisions.
(09:05):
The other way, the second way,is by getting enough sleep.
And again when I say this, whenyou sleep, what you're doing is
you're allowing yourself,you're allowing the kind of
conscious mind, the mind you'reallowing the chatter.
So much is processed and somuch is released.
(09:25):
So if you're getting goodnight's sleep, you're going to
start making really gooddecisions.
If you're meditating, you'regoing to start making amazing
decisions.
You're going to be able tomanifest, you're going to be
able to get clear on what youwant.
(09:46):
You're going to be able tostart trusting yourself.
There's so much in it.
You are going to find yourselfwith these two processes
prioritizing sleep and startinga daily meditation practice.
Just do it for two minutes tostart with, that's all.
Sit down for two minutes andjust see how many breaths you
can hear coming in and out ofyour body, and it doesn't matter
(10:08):
if your mind wonders If it does.
You just start again, but justfocus on that breath and, before
you know it, you'll be doingfive minutes, you'll be doing 10
minutes, you'll be doing 15minutes and your life will
change.
Your decision making willchange, your energy is going to
change, your focus is going tochange, your calmness is going
to change and, of course, yourself-worth is going to change
(10:31):
because you're going to bemaking smart decisions that are
aligned and that come from yoursoul place rather than the
confusion of your mind, which isjust a program.
So, remembering, not everyone islike you.
You can make these smartdecisions about people by
meditating, by sleeping, byusing discernment, meditating by
sleeping, by using discernment.
(10:52):
And as you do this, as you putthis into practice, just watch
as your life unfolds in the mostbeautiful, beautiful, beautiful
way.
As always, I'm with you.
Reach out if you've got anyquestions and I will be chatting
with you in the next episode.
Until then, keep taking thesesteps action steps, sleep,
(11:15):
meditate, use discernment as youstep into becoming your warrior
.
Thanks for listening today, andif this episode helped or
inspired you, just remember toshare it to friends or family
who could also use someinspiration.
(11:35):
Today, we are all about sharingthe love.
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