The Day I Stopped Outsourcing My Life to Others

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Today I had a massive breakthrough into my power and how I've been outsourcing my life to others.  Seeking to learn and be taught by many teachers about how to breathe, how to change my mind, how to feed my body, and how to exercise.  The truth is, all of these answers are within me, and today I got to stand in my true power.

• Years of self-imposed pressure to perform flawlessly in all areas of life
• Tendency to seek external validation and guidance for every aspect of living
• Revelation that constantly following others' teachings means surrendering personal sovereignty
• Understanding that authentic living comes from filtering wisdom through your perspective
• Recognition that true power comes from making choices aligned with your authentic self
• Importance of questioning whether you're living by others' expectations versus your truth
• How removing self-doubt and anxiety allows your true essence to shine through

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Em x

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:01):
Welcome to the Becoming your Warrior podcast.
This is the place where you getto feel inspired and empowered
to step into your very best life.

Speaker 2 (00:15):
Hey, hey, it's Em, and welcome to this episode I
just want to share.
I have just had one of the mostincredible days today, and that
is because I've had a massive,massive breakthrough in terms of
the way that I was looking atthe world, in terms of my
perspective on the world.

(00:36):
And to get to thesebreakthroughs, sometimes you
need to not always, butsometimes you need to go through
a little bit of resistance anda little bit of, dare I say,
struggle and kind of be in thepits of it all to actually have
the breakthrough and come outthe other side.
And something that I've been,um well, struggling with I can

(00:59):
say that now something that I'vebeen struggling with.
I can say that now somethingthat I've been struggling with
recently, because and I thinkthis happens a lot when you're
doing a lot of work on yourself,when you're removing a lot of
stuff, when you're clearing andopening up your mind and your
mindset is, there's a lot ofpressure.
I'm just going to speak from myperspective, actually, rather

(01:21):
than saying you because, whoknows, but I have been someone
in my life that's put a lot ofpressure on myself to get it
right, and so that means likeeven in, you know, school or in
work, you know there's alwaysbeen this like, oh my goodness,
I've got to get it right,otherwise, I don't know, I'll
get in trouble or I'll get toldoff, or then I'll be wrong, or

(01:44):
then people will realize thatthere's something wrong with me.
You know I'll get in trouble orI'll get told off, or then I'll
be wrong, or then people willrealize that there's something
wrong with me.
You know, whatever the storyand the narrative's been in my
mind, and so what that's meantis, through life I've been very
hard on myself.
I'm like I've got to get thisright.
You know I can't let thisperson down.
I'm, you know, I can't be late,or, you know, even though I was
a lot because I was putting somuch pressure on myself.

(02:05):
Anyway, I want to sort of sharethat.
When you've been looking throughthat lens, or when I've been
looking through that lens whichI have, which is I've got to get
it right, what that canmanifest into and it did in my
circumstances is it's almostlike I have kind of been
outsourcing my life to otherpeople.

(02:26):
So it's almost like I've, youknow, because I've got to get it
right, I have constantly beenseeking out people that can
teach me.
Teach me how to look after mybody.
Teach me what foods I need toeat.
Teach me how to change my mind.
Teach me how to meditate.
Teach me how to do yoga.
Teach me, you know, constantlysearching outside of myself.

(02:48):
And that is not to say that isnot valuable to go and study
with people, and I will continueto do that.
But what I've realized I'vebeen doing is I've also I've
been like handing essentiallythe reins of my life to other
people and being like show mewhat to do, because I don't know
if I'm going to get it right.

(03:09):
I don't know if if I'm going toget it right, and I'm scared.
And so that energy and that'swhy today has just been such an
amazing day, because really thequestion, because really the
question I had a coachingsession with my coach, jesse,
who I just adore.

(03:37):
He's just such a wonderful humanbeing and you know he did some
magical coaching on me.
But he also just turned aroundto me and just said is it wrong
the way that you're looking atthis?
Is it wrong that you think thisway?
Is it wrong?
And as soon as I said no,because of course it's not wrong
, it's not wrong to look at mylife like that.
As soon as I did that,everything just dissolved and I

(03:59):
just realized that, yeah, I'vebeen looking at other people to
teach me how to live my life andwhat this whole coaching
session.
It's very hard to put it downinto like a few words, but
essentially what it came back towas we are sovereign beings and
when you hand your sovereigntyover to somebody else, or when

(04:21):
you look to another teacher andinvest, you know kind of follow
this teacher.
You know to the ends of theearth going.
I will follow your teachings, Iwill do exactly what you tell
me to do.
You're handing your sovereigntyover to that person and what's
happened today is all of thatsovereignty has come back to me
and I've realized that from nowon I am just going to live my

(04:44):
life my way.
Like you know, that doesn'tmean I'm not going to take other
people's opinion or advice orif there's a really cool course
in the future that I really wantto study.
It doesn't mean it just meansnow I'm not putting all my eggs
into really into one basket andbeing like this is the teaching

(05:05):
and this is the person that Iwill follow.
It's about taking that powerback and being like I'm so
grateful for the teachings.
I've got them now and now it'stime to, like you know, filter
them through my lens andactually come back into power in
myself and start living in myunique way.

(05:27):
And this is something I wouldlove for you to really think
about.
Are you living your life inyour own unique way, or are you
being affected by the energy,the perception of others, the
expectation of others?
Are you doing things becauseyou know it will make other

(05:47):
people happy?
Are you following a parent'sguidance, even though you're an
adult person and you, in yourheart, you feel like you want to
go a different way?
This is when we outsource oursovereignty, when we hand our,
our power, our personal power,our intuition, our intelligence
over to somebody else.

(06:08):
Where really the, the, the, the,really the most authentic way
to live your life is to liveyour life authentically to you.
And that can be reallyconfusing because you know, you
can kind of see yourself indifferent ways, the way that I
used to.
You can kind of have self-doubt, you can have anxiety, you can
think that you're not very goodat something you know.

(06:29):
But once you remove those partsof you, the authenticity, the
true you, the real essencereally starts to shine through.
And so that's where I am todayand it feels really really good
and I really just wanted toshare that with you because, you
know, this is why I do coachingeven though, like, I do
coaching with people and I'm acoach to so many people, it's

(06:53):
because I also invest in myselfand I do coaching because this
is what it allows me to do andthen I can bring this to my I
don't want to say students, butthe people that I work with.
And so, yeah, I just want toshare you can probably hear in
the energy in my voice.
I'm just buzzing.

(07:13):
I literally feel like today Ijust got some amazing code, some
amazing key has been, you know,handed to me and I've just
unlocked it and it's just likejust be authentically me and how
wonderful that is and howamazing that is to show up in
that way and allow other peopleto see that and to feel that

(07:36):
energy.
And, um, yeah, I'm just oh, I'mjust having such a good day and
I just wanted to share it withyou.
So, um, yeah, just now I reallyunderstand what it means to be
truly authentic and to really bein my power and it's from this
place you can create the lifeyou know.

(07:57):
That that's, that's, that's it.
I'm going to just startcreating the life that I am, I
love, from this place.
All right, that's my littlepositivity.
All right, that's my littlepositivity powerful authenticity
, living life on my terms.
Rant.
Well and truly done.
I really hope it landed.

(08:17):
I hope it resonated.
If you want to find out more asalways reach out to me on the
website, which is www.
I don't know why I said thatthat's so weird, it's so old.
It's just Emma-RitchieR-I-T-c-h-i-e dot com,
emma-richiecom, and you can findmy work there.

(08:38):
You can find me and um, yeah,just drop me a message.
And um, yeah, oh, so happy,have the most amazing morning,
afternoon, evening, and I willtalk to you soon.

Speaker 1 (08:50):
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