Episode 61: Is Your Opinion a Judgment Observation or Point of View?

In this episode, I explore the power of opinions and how they shape our communication. I break down the difference between judgment, observation, and point of view, and how our filters influence the way we speak and listen. Recognizing our perspective in conversations helps shift from judgment to empathy, creating space for understanding and resolution, even in tough situations. Tune in as we discuss practical ways to improve our communication, build stronger connections, and foster trust in all types of relationships. 

 

Key Takeaways:  

Judgment Creates Disconnection – When you speak from judgment, it builds walls. It turns your truth into a weapon, leaving little room for compassion or understanding. Judgment often reflects a personal wound, and it shuts down curiosity and connection. 

Observation and Perspective Invite Conversation – Learning to speak from observation (what you’ve seen or heard) or perspective (how you interpret something) opens up space for dialogue. These approaches are less defensive, less aggressive, and much more rooted in empathy. 

Communication is a Mirror – What you say often reflects more about you than the situation. If your words are filled with judgment or blame, it may be worth exploring the pain or fear behind them. Awareness of your internal state can shift the way you show up in conversation. 

Why Judgment and Positionality Divide Us – When we become rigid in our positions, we limit our ability to truly listen to others. Instead of hearing different points of view, we just want to be right.  

 

Helpful Resource: 

• Knowing the Impact of Your Voice – In charged situations—whether political, organizational, or personal—it’s vital to speak responsibly. Your opinion isn’t just yours; it carries weight. Take the time to be clear about the intention behind your words. 

 

Notable Highlights: 

"An opinion is an expression of thinking." 

"Oftentimes we're speaking and we're not always aware of the filters through which we're speaking." 

 

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Hosted by: Dr. Maiysha Clairborne 

 

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