Episode 75: Behind The Knowing-Doing Gap with Kgomotso Sekhute

In this episode, we explore the internal voices that shape how we lead, live, and grow. We unpack why there's often a gap between what we know and what we actually do and how limiting beliefs, past experiences, and fixed identities keep us stuck. Tune in as we discuss the power of turning down the voices that hold us back, turning up the ones that move us forward, and learning to lead with more clarity, awareness, and intention. 

 

Key Takeaways:  

 

Closing the Knowing-Doing Gap Starts with Self-Honesty – Having knowledge isn’t enough, it only becomes powerful when it’s applied. The gap between knowing and doing is often filled with unseen barriers like limiting beliefs, outdated habits, and unhelpful thinking patterns. 

 

Unhealed Work Trauma Can Shape How We Show Up – When we carry past experiences of unhealthy work environments, we may enter new spaces feeling guarded or disconnected. This makes it harder to trust others, build real connections, and feel safe enough to grow.  

 

Our Whole Stories Shape How We Show Up – The way we grew up and what we believe can affect how we act at work and in life. If we carry old hurts or fears, it can make it hard to trust others. But when we feel safe, we can connect better and let go of past pain. 

 

Awareness and Neuroplasticity Help Close the Gap – We all have natural ways of thinking and focusing, but relying too much on one style can limit growth. By intentionally practicing new ways of thinking and embracing different perspectives, we can reshape our brains and approach challenges more creatively. Surrounding ourselves with diverse thinkers helps us see problems in new ways and find better solutions. 

 

Helpful Resource: 

• Fixed Mindsets and Growth Mindsets – When we strongly identify with fixed ideas about ourselves, we close off opportunities to learn and change. Holding our identity lightly, seeing ourselves as “work in progress,” creates space for growth, mistakes, and new possibilities. 

• We Control Which Voices We Listen To – Throughout life, we carry many voices from family, culture, and experience. Some help us grow, while others hold us back. The power lies in choosing which voices to turn up and which to mute, so we can move forward with confidence and purpose. 

• Skills and Habits Bridge the Knowing-Doing Gap – Knowing what to do isn’t enough if we don’t have the skills or habits to put it into practice consistently. Especially in communication, learning how to express ourselves with clarity and compassion helps keep conversations open and effective. 

About Kgomotso Sekhute 

Kgomotso Sekhute is a Clinical Psychologist, social entrepreneur, and the CEO of Penologic (Pty) Ltd, with a heart for purpose-driven leadership and people-centered transformation. She’s also the co-founder of Bionics for Africa Healthcare, which helps provide access to assistive devices and care for children in the SADC region. With a deep love for storytelling and connecting with people, Kgomotso blends her expertise in psychology, coaching, and organizational development to support leaders and entrepreneurs in closing the gap between knowing and doing so they can lead with clarity, courage, and conviction. 

 

Follow Kgomotso Sekhute 

Website: https://bionics4afrika.co.za/; https://penologic.com/ 

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kgomotsogsekhute/ 

Other Links:  

• https://www.psychologytoday.com/za/counselling/kgomotso-grace-sekhute-pretoria-gt/898406 

• Penologic (Pty) Ltd, Winner: Best Transformational Leadership & Culture Strategy Firm 2025 – South Africa - https://wealthandfinance.digital/winners/penologic-pty-ltd/  

 

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Hosted by: Dr. Maiysha Clairborne 

 

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