October 29, 2025 • 53 mins
We crack open how inputs shape outputs, how to quiet the loud inner critic, and how to swap victim thinking for real ownership with simple, repeatable drills. Practical stories, crew‑ready scripts, and a five‑minute morning stack make the shift doable today.
• inputs across reading, watching, listening, and circle audits
• five guided questions for an input audit
• five‑minute morning input stack to tilt the day
• open mind with strong standards using four tactics
• victim language rewritten into ownership actions
• three‑step process to exit blame and add safeguards
• drills for hard days: minimal viable day, 90‑second reset
• progress receipts, run the drill, rule of thirds
• journey over finish line mindset and weekly challenges
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Ty Cobb Backer (00:00):
And we are live.
Welcome back, everybody, to beon the Tobel episode 305.
I am your host, Ty Cobb Backer.
Thank you for joining us onthis Wednesday day shoot.
We will be right back after ourshort intro from our sponsors.
I think they're calling forsome rain tomorrow.
(01:11):
Sorry that we are late.
I had to take a moment to getmy head out of my ass.
And uh here we are.
We are live and on tie time.
So that means we are on time.
So, anyhow, I want to talktoday about that voice, that
loud ass voice that chooses thatthat voice that tells you um
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that little bitch voice.
I'm gonna call it the bitchvoice.
Yeah, right, that uh you listento um every day.
And uh I'm gonna explain to youwhere that might come from.
Okay, and it's it's the stuffthat you input, the stuff that
you input between your ears,okay, the stuff you listen to on
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the way to the job site,between calls, lunch, the shows
you play, uh, the people youstand next to.
Okay, the posts that youscroll.
Those inputs are framing yourdecisions before you even leave
the house in the morning.
Okay, today we're gonna we'regonna tighten up those inputs a
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little bit.
We're gonna open your mindswithout losing our standards and
drop the victim mindset andkeep pushing when the work gets
heavy.
And we know it gets heavy.
And uh so welcome, welcome backto Behind the Tool Belt where
we talk.
We talk about building thingsthat last, whether it be
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businesses, crews, habits,mindsets.
I am your host, Ty Cobb Backer.
So let's start with let's startwith an input audit.
Let's let's do a little audit.
Because I've I've had to doquite a few of these um here
over this this past our season.
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Our season five.
I'll be kind of too aboutcoming up on season six already.
I'm thinking about seven-ish,seven-ish weeks.
unknown (03:12):
Yeah.
Ty Cobb Backer (03:13):
Yeah.
So figure out the word.
Talk about talk about some ofthe things I've I've done,
experienced here, things I'mworking on, things I pretty much
most of the stuff I'm gonnatalk about today, I've I'm I'm
currently doing.
I'm not gonna say that I'vebeen doing them forever, but um,
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I want to encourage everybodyelse and and also inform them
some of the things that areworking, have worked for me.
And and one of them is a is aninput audit.
And what I mean by input, Imean by what are you feeding
your head?
What are you feeding your body?
What shit are you putting intoyour brain?
What shit are you putting intoyour body?
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You know, um, what are youreading?
What are you watching?
What are you listening to?
Who are you standing next to?
These are all things that areshaping your thinking and your
behavior, whether you know it ornot.
You know, and I and I thinkabout this, and I think I've
talked about this before in uhuh with Vic, I'm sure it's like,
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you know, when we were when wewere growing up as children,
right, and the lessons that ourour parents were trying to teach
us, and our our mostinfluential teachers, you know,
it shaped us, shaped, shaped ourthinking, molded our minds.
And right, wrong, orindifferent.
It was just the only thing thatwe heard.
It was the only lessons we weretaught.
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You know, looking back on that,it's like, man, I wish we would
have learned how to balancecheckbooks and open up a bank
account, you know, things thatwere like relevant to the shit
that we go through as adults,you know.
But, you know, and there's alot of diversity going on in the
world today.
And and um, I have my ownbattles between my own years
that I have to fight on aday-to-day basis.
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So I'm not gonna go down thatrabbit hole.
But things that have helped me,you know, combat, um, you know,
a lot of that stuff.
Um and try to um, you know,keep keep an open mind without
losing judgment and um how tosee multiple ways to do things
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and not fall into my way or thehighway.
And and trust me, I've I'vedealt with that.
So we're gonna tackle droppingthe victim mindset and and
moving to more uh ownership.
And and we'll finish withpushing through tough stretches
and seeing the lessons as thereal payoff and and not the
finish line.
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Um so so you'll hear uhprobably some some guided
questions um that I'm actuallygonna want people to answer.
I want you to answer them.
Answer them out loud, jot themdown, put them in the comments,
or or um give me your questions.
You can reach me at tie itbehind the toolbell.com.
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And um, if you want me to, Iwill um I'll post them or we'll
talk about them next week.
Um, but um, if you're on theroad, you know, um answer these
questions in your head.
If you're at the shop, grab anotepad, wherever you're at in
the office.
So uh I'm gonna start withsomething probably simple and
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uncomfortable.
Um but your this is the otherthing I was thinking about too.
It's the my output are uhdownstream, downstream from my
input.
So essentially what I'minputting um will be the end
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result of my outcome.
Okay.
Um, and every day, every day Iopen up gates, every day we open
up gates, okay.
Um what we read, text, youknow, the estimates that we look
at, um, the spec sheets, thebooks, the posts, things that we
watch, uh, job site videos, newclips, YouTube how-to reels,
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um, things that we listen to,uh, podcast, playlist,
conversations in the truck onthe way to the job site or
lunchtime.
Um, and the people, the peoplethat we stand next to, your
wife, your buddies, your yourfriends, um, shit.
It could be somebody on yourcrew.
Um, I take input from oursuppliers, uh, manufacturing
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shit, the neighbor at thehardware store.
You know what I mean?
I I um, you know, and then I Iform my own epiphanies, I form
my own opinions.
Um, and those are gates.
Okay.
That content shapes what younotice, what you miss, how and
what you believe, and how youbehave, especially when the
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pressure hits.
Okay.
You already know this.
The shit for those of us thatare in construction, we already
know this is true um with tools.
And I'm going to use a warpedlevel for an example.
You know, you use a warpedlevel, the line looks straight,
but it isn't.
And inputs work the same way,if that makes any sense.
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I've I've I've read data sheetsthat were inaccurate, but I
believed them.
Um, I've had a bent bowed levelthat appeared to be showing
things level or plum.
And in fact, they weren't.
A lot of times in the sidingworld, if it looks level from
the ground, it's level.
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It's our perception, right?
And a lot of times, the onlything wrong with the world is
the six inches between ourfreaking ears.
Um and my my my thinking wasscrewed up too early on.
I remember there was this jobsite, it seemed like we it was
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taking forever.
And I just want to share thisquick story.
And um, of course, I was incharge of it, and every day I
would show up and I would lookfor I'd look for problems.
And I would, you know, startscreaming and barking orders,
and and uh nothing seemed to getany better.
I just I couldn't figure outwhy.
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Like I just couldn't scream anylouder, I couldn't drop any
more mother effers, or and Ijust couldn't figure out why
they just couldn't get fireunder everybody's ass.
And um, and I look looking backtoday, it's you know, my my
perception of things is iscompletely different.
Where if I show up on a jobsite, I'm looking at things like
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has it been too windy?
Do they have the rightequipment?
Is there enough manpower here?
Where was there uh materialshortages?
Was there, you know, I try tolook for yes, issues, but also
things that I'm in control of.
And that is getting moreequipment out there, getting
more manpower out there, gettingordering the uh the right
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material.
So um I want to take a minutehere and I'm gonna I'm gonna
ask, I'm gonna ask fivequestions.
And you can ask these, saythese, answer these questions um
out loud or grab a note.
So what's the last thing um youread that general that that
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genuinely um improved your work?
Okay.
So there's read, there's watch,okay, watch.
Which channels or reelsactually lifted your standard?
And which ones just spiked youremotions?
Because I know I'll watchsomething, man, and it just kind
of gets me pissed, and I gottakeep scrolling.
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Fortunately, on my feed, um, Ihave fishing, golfing, and real
positive shit that I'm into isas far as my hobbies go and
stuff like that.
And I'll get sucked into somepretty, some pretty, you know,
educational stuff when it comesto fishing techniques or golf
swings and and stuff like that.
And it's work-related stuff.
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I'll comment and like and loveand and and share and stuff like
that.
Um and then we listen, right?
Which voices leave you moredisciplined afterwards, not just
more fired up, right?
So I had to I had to step awayfrom people, places, things, and
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situations that that tend toeither you know fire me up
negatively, not necessarilypositively.
I like to I like to listen tothings that actually get me
fired up, whether it's goodmusic or you know, an amazing
podcast host.
And I got quite a few of them.
And uh music is definitely goodfor the soul too.
And then um we talked aboutbefore in the past too.
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Um, you know, those that wethis the circle, who's in our
circle.
Um, I gotta do a circle auditsometimes, you know.
Um, who am I standing next to?
Are they making me sharper?
Are they holding me back?
Who nudges me towards excusesor who nudges me to not make
excuses?
Um and then replace.
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Okay, so replace what's oneinput um I need to to remove
this week, and what input am Igoing to am I gonna add?
Am I gonna add this week?
So reading, watching,listening, standing next to, and
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replace.
Okay, and we can we'll put themin the comments after the show
here.
So that's your that's yourinput audit.
Um don't overcomplicate it.
That's the one thing I'm gonnasay is don't overcomplicate it.
And I tend to overcomplicatelike the simplest the simplest
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task and chores and and umpersonal development stuff.
I I really will get in thereand um make a freaking shit show
out of it.
So don't complicate it, swapout, swap one input out um for
one input.
You don't have to completelyswitch your your circle, the TV
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shows, the news channels, youknow, that you're watching and
stuff like that.
But if if you're watching newsat night, laying in bed or or
whatever the case might be, andand I'm gonna tell you right
now, a lot of times I wake upbased upon what I did the night
before.
How late did I eat?
What was I watching?
Uh, was I scrolling?
You know, was I looking at toomuch blue screen right before I
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went to bed?
Um will predict pretty much howI feel when I wake up.
Do I feel bloated?
Do I feel energetic?
Do I feel clear-minded?
Um, and if I don't, I have toask myself those questions.
I stay up too late watching FoxNews, did I stay up too late,
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you know, scrolling Facebook?
Did I eat way too much?
Did I eat that big bag of chipslaying in bed?
And I'm wondering why I can'tlose those pounds.
And all that stuff, all thatnegative stuff that you're
feeding, that you're inputting,is not conducive to your mental
or physical health and and quitefrankly, your your your
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spiritual well-being either.
You know, because how confidentam I gonna wake up knowing that
there or I see that empty bagof Uts potato chips, you know,
grandma, grandma utts' potatochips, and I'm guilty, I'm still
guilty of it, but it usuallyright away I'll see it, and I
didn't identify it right away.
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I didn't, I'll be honest withyou.
It I didn't know that it wasmessing with my psyche if I'd
wake up.
But if I woke up and there wasa half drank bottle of water, or
completely drank, you know, um,bottle of water next to my bed,
you know, that that, you know,believe it or not, makes me feel
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makes me feel like I'm doingthe next right thing.
And when I get on the scalesand I see that I'm down a half a
pound, or I'm still at weight,the weight, my desired weight,
um, that that right there canset the tempo for my entire day.
Okay.
Um, so um, I'm I'm challenging,you know, people to do, I don't
know, 30-day challenge and umand uh some practical moves, you
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know, that we can do for thenext 30 days.
And and uh, you know, um it canbe as simple as I use post-it
notes a lot.
I'll put a post-it note on onmy desk or shit, even on my dash
of the truck.
And uh so I'm recommendingputting a post-it note on the
dash of your truck, like what'splaying?
What what what am I listeningto right now?
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Am I listening to RushLimbaugh?
Am I listening to you know,just some somebody running their
mouth?
Um, or am I learning something?
Am I listening to somethingpositive, whether it be good
positive music?
Um, and and this is what thisis what's brilliant, but very
obvious, but you know, we havethat we have that choice on what
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what channel is on the radio.
Okay.
Um go to five minute morning uminput stack, and I'm and I'm
gonna share with you kind ofwhat what I've done.
Um five minutes of of quiet inthe morning, no phone, no, no
computer, no nothing.
Uh two pages from a solid book,something that I can apply to
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my life.
Um, one text of encouragementto somebody um in my family on
my crew.
Uh right now I got this littlethread going with this guy that
that is out of North Carolina.
Um, you know, and then a uh youknow, short podcast or segment
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that teaches me and and notrant, right?
Because there's a lot ofpodcast people out there that
just rant, that just bitch aboutwhat's going on in the world.
And for me, that's notconducive.
I don't really give two shitsabout I do, I do care.
Let me let me digress a littlebit.
I do care about what's going onin the world, but I think a lot
of us are getting too hemmed upin the the uh external economy
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and need to focus more about ourown businesses and and our
internal economies, and thatcould be at home, that could be
at our place of work, but we weneed to mind our own and make
sure our household is is onlockdown and and uh we're taking
care of those that you knowmost.
And uh, you know, that oh, andum, what is something that I'm
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going to stop avoiding?
What is that that difficulttask or that chore or thing that
I need to get done?
Um and and realistically, Ithink three three out of those
four things take what maybe12-15 minutes every morning.
Um if I if I um you know listenlisten to something, I I read,
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I read, I leave actually I readmore than two pages.
Um, but you know, five minuteswithout the phone, that's kind
of where I chew up that fiveminutes.
I read a couple pages.
Um, I read a little somethingat in the morning at home, and I
I read something here at work.
I just picked another book uphere at work that I'm I'm
currently reading right now thatI feel is gonna help me, not
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just today, but it's gonna it'sgonna help shape who I want to
be on this journey that I'm onright now.
But but also keeping an openmind, okay.
And and and now I want to talkabout um about keeping an open
mind without turning into uh Iwant to call it a drift sock.
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And a lot of you might not,unless you fish, know what a
drift sock is.
A drift sock is for somebodywho like me has a boat and has
never yet got a trolling motorput on their boat.
So when when the wind's up andum or the drift speed isn't what
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I want it to be, I'll throw outwhat's it's like a kite.
I'll throw a kite off the sideof the boat to slow the boat
down on our drift.
So I just thought I'd sharethat.
Don't be uh don't be a driftsock or uh yeah, drift sock.
Okay.
Um open, you know, open, beingopen-minded is is it doesn't
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mean uncommitted.
It means you're willing to testwhether um your way is still
the best way today.
Okay, and and here are fourfour tactics.
Um, I've used at home and andI've used it at work, and it and
it's before, and I'm gettingbetter at this, and before I
shut somebody down, I I try tosay, I try to say, or I
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recommend try saying their ideain a way they think is better
than the way they said it.
Okay, so for an example, um, sowhat you are saying is we can
cut the siding with a saw, andI'm gonna I'm gonna try to keep
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this construction based herebecause you know it's called
behind the toilet.
So we can cut the siding with asaw instead of hand cutting
each individual piece withsnips.
The win is fewer strips andcleaner lines.
Did I get that right?
Okay, if they say yes, nowyou're both solving the same
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problem.
Okay, and that's really justtakes keeping an open mind and
not shutting them down becausewhen you shut them down, you're
shutting yourself down to beopen.
And unfortunately, you're stillbeing a part of the problem.
So if they say yes, when youreiterate what they said, but in
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a way better than what theysaid it, so maybe you didn't
fully understand, and maybe theycan correct you and be like,
no, that's not exactly, becauseyou may not even even have
understood exactly what it wasthat they were saying to you to
begin with.
So um number two, number twowould be the two percent uh
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truth rule.
If any idea you don't like,hunt for the two percent.
Okay, that's true or useful.
Okay, maybe the whole planwon't work, but the detail about
staging materials could save ushours.
Okay, getting back to using asaw cutting the siding instead
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of hand snips because I see guysout there, which the generation
that I grew up in, we had a cutguy on the ground, and uh he
would stack siding up and hewould actually be able to cut
multiple pieces.
Nowadays, I see individualsworking by themselves on a wall
and hand cutting individualpieces of siding with a pair of
hand snips.
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I mean, I get it, I understandthat um they think it's faster
because they're not waiting onsomebody.
But when you have a good groundguy that can stay two steps in
front of you, it's definitelygonna save you time and money in
the long run.
So, anyhow, um, number three,double click, double click
questions.
Ask one more question than youwould want to, okay?
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Walk me through this.
Give me an example.
What are we assuming, right?
What breaks this?
You know, get good at good itbecause it really comes down to
good question asking.
So that's a skill.
It's a skill that I have towork on.
I continuously work on askingbetter questions, asking more
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questions, even when I don'twant to, especially when I don't
want to ask questions.
Like, I've already shut itdown.
Nope, that idea is stupid.
No, I had an opportunityyesterday.
Somebody came to us and waslike, hey, how about if we do
this?
And I was like, Cool, we have ameeting about that topic at two
o'clock today.
Why don't you sit in?
I think it's an amazing idea,right?
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Well, after we all spoke aboutit, I was like, Yeah, it's
great, it's great.
You know, it pulled sometriggers and some memories and
some thoughts that, you know,yeah, we should be doing that.
So half the time the ideaimproves itself under light, is
is, I guess, my point, right?
Ask more questions, put a linkon it, and and have somebody
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maybe explain it a differentway, or you try to articulate it
in the way that you'veunderstood what they're trying
to present you because you maynot fully understand it.
Okay.
Open-mindedness, right?
God, that's such a revelation,you know, but it's it is.
Sounds trivial, but it's notfor me, anyhow.
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I'm a knucklehead.
Okay.
Um, so once a week, um, if Ihad to prove the opposite of my
favorite opinion today, howwould I do it?
Okay, do it with somethingpractical.
Okay.
Tools, scheduling, invoices.
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You'll either strengthen yourview or refine them.
Okay.
So, what I'm trying to say hereis like practic something
different.
If you're in the invoicingdepartment, if you're in the
siding hanging department, ifyou're in the whatever
department, try doing it adifferent way once and and see
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what the outcome is.
Or take a suggestion fromsomebody that's been telling you
because we don't always have tobe right.
We don't always we don't alwayshave to do it our way.
And I would, I would, I wouldask you this question: where in
your week do you most oftenthink I way is the only way?
What's one place, one placeyou'll run a small test of a
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different approach this week?
I challenge somebody that yourway isn't the only way, and try
it a different way.
And remember, open-mindednessdoesn't mean you're soft, it
means you're humble, exact, andwilling to learn.
And I think a lot of the stuffthat this kind of falls under a
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lot of the topic aroundleadership that we talk about
all the time is, you know, Ithink this is a this is a
crucial piece that a lot of usleaders miss.
We think that we need all theanswers.
We think we know better thaneverybody else.
We think that we're smarter, weare the smartest person in the
room.
Fail.
Huge fail.
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Huge freaking fail.
Okay, we're gonna move on to alittle bit here, the dropping,
dropping the old uh victimmindset.
So let's call let's call thisout straight here.
Okay, the victim mindset istempting because it feels good
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for about 10 minutes.
And Vic and I, I think we'vebeen talking about this because
it's it's the easiest.
It's easier.
You know, you get to be rightfor that 10 minutes, and you
don't have to do anything, youcan just be negative Nelly and
and uh play the victim.
So the bill later is heavy whenwhen you do that, right?
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Resentment, stuck projects, umand the same week repeats over
and over and over.
I'm the victim, nothing worksout right, you know.
And here's the upgrade, okay.
Event, we have a choice, andthere's gonna be an outcome.
Okay, and you can't always pickthe event.
I can't always predict thesituation that's gonna happen.
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However, I can always, always,always pick my night, my next
choice.
Okay, how I respond, how Ireact.
And here's an example, okay, ofum victim and and ownership.
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Okay, victim would saysomething along the lines, the
inspector screwed us.
Okay, ownership would be morelike we missed the spec change.
Next time we review the updatedspec sheet, and we'll try to do
better.
Okay, victim.
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And this was me.
My crew never listens.
Okay, ownership.
Ownership would be I didn'tmake the standard visual, right?
I didn't articulate themessage, I didn't follow up.
Today, I will post a checklistand review it at 3:30 and follow
up with everybody.
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Okay, victim mindset.
Clients always want cheap.
Okay.
Ownership.
I haven't learned how to showvalue early today or tomorrow.
I will bring a sample board anda cost of not doing it chart.
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I will show value early in theconversation.
Okay.
Notice something ownershipkeeps your power.
Okay, you keep the power, itdoesn't let the event dictate
your next move.
Okay.
And sometimes when you behavepoorly, you can't even dictate
your next move because thatoffended person or persons or
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situation, they dictate theoutcome for you.
You either get hauled off inhandcuffs, you get thrown off a
job site.
It's not working together, it'snot keeping an open mind.
Even no matter how hard itstings, no matter how much it
burns, all right?
Keep your head, keep the power.
Okay.
So again, getting back to theinspector where you know we had
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an inspector fail us, okay, overjust some minor safety rails.
Old me would have flew off thefreaking handle.
Okay.
The new me, I honestly thought,you know, shows up.
I honestly thought we built itright.
You know, I thought we built itto code.
I asked the inspector for fiveminutes of his time to, you
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know, document his exactexpectations without flying off
the handle, without being anarrogant asshole.
I actually wanted to.
Learn something.
Okay.
Can can you write or can youshow me in the book?
Or when was this updated?
When was this code updated?
And and um then moving forward,we can make a simple pre-check
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inspection check sheet for thenext time we I don't know, have
to put safety handrails onsomething, right?
I'm just trying to pull someshit out of my ass here real
quick.
Um, you know, so um yeah, keepan open mind.
Not saying that we can'tjustify in our heads when we're
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right and they're wrong.
There's a way, there's a way togo about it, right?
There's a way to handlesituations, and there's a way
much further, right?
What do they call it?
You get a lot further withsugar than you do vinegar.
My mom taught me that a longtime ago.
I actually ask myself thisquestion some days.
Do I do I handle this, DanBacker, like Ann Backer, or do I
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handle this like Bob Backer?
And some situations do requirea Bob Backer.
You know, don't get it twisted.
And don't ever piss my mom off.
She would have given youanything, but don't ever piss
her off.
Same goes for my dad.
I've seen my dad go bend overbackwards for people and and uh
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end up getting screwed.
So, anyhow, three three steps,three steps to exit the victim
mode.
Okay.
So first one is is name namethe event, okay, without drama.
Okay.
The event was we missed thedelivery date.
We didn't finish the project ontime.
Okay.
Then name name yourcontrollable, the next action,
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okay.
Um, call supplier, get updates,when materials and products are
are are gonna come in.
Okay.
Number three would be name thesafeguard, okay, so it doesn't
repeat, so we don't, so we don'tdo this again.
Okay.
Add a 24-hour confirmation umtext or email in the AM on
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delivery check.
Okay.
All of that falls back on me.
All of that is lack ofsomething on my half, on my
behalf, of not following up withdistribution to make sure, not
checking the weather the thenight before, not um behaving
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accordingly when things don't gothe way that I think they
should have gone.
Um, so the the the guided umexercise, right?
So think of one situation thismonth where you've been stuck in
bling.
Okay.
And you got one finger, you gotthree point back.
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See these three point back atme.
Every time I point a finger, Igot three point back at me.
So think of a situation thismonth where you've been stuck on
blame.
Okay, the event was okay.
Shingles showed up late.
My controllable next move is mysafeguard number three, my
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safeguard so this doesn't happenagain.
Simple.
The event was my controllablenext move, okay, and the
safeguard so it doesn't repeatagain.
Okay, that move right therewill move you out of victim mode
and become the victor, thebuilder.
I like to use the word victorbecause victor's my best friend.
unknown (33:35):
Yeah.
Ty Cobb Backer (33:38):
Okay, so here's here's um some other cool little
nuggets um that I want to sharetoo about um so we can keep
pushing without getting burntout, right?
The the a five five littledrill thing that I rehash kind
of through my head here.
I came up with this a couplemonths ago to kind of keep
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pushing and keep suiting up andkeep showing up and keeping a
smile on my face and stuff.
And it's and one is uh minimalviable day.
Okay.
On the hardest days, I have topick three non-negotiables.
Okay.
One of them is is what is oneneedle moving task that I know
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is gonna move the needle that'snon-negotiable?
Okay, what can I do todaythat's gonna move the needle?
Okay, so I don't have anyguilt, shame, insecurities,
whatever tomorrow.
Okay.
Another one is is what what isone relationship that I can
touch?
Okay, who can I reach out to?
Whether it be a client, a crewmember, um, um home, call home,
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Jana.
Hey babe, I love you.
How you doing?
Right?
Um, and then the re um, what doyou want to call it?
Regeneration act.
And I started this recently.
One of these things, um, walk,stretch, decent meal.
Obviously, I try to eat as bestas I can, but I started doing
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these core exercises on my floorin my office.
If I start to feel overwhelmed,anxious, anxiety, I started to
do these stretches, but havingsome issues with my my hips and
my pelvic being super tight.
And and uh was taught someonewho showed me some exercises
that I can simply do anywhere aslong as there's enough room for
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me to get on the floor.
And uh I started doing someexercises, and then one from
sitting all day long, as simpleas putting your hands on your
hips and pushing your hips outand tilting back, is actually
super good for your spine ifyou're somebody that sits all
day.
It's a stretch that you can do.
And there's a couple otherthings if anybody wants to know
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what I've been doing herelately.
And I actually went to thechiropractor last night and he
told me.
So I've had I've been havingissues with my my pelvic like
slipping out of place, and it'screating all kinds of hip and
back, lower back issues andstuff like that.
And and yesterday I actuallygot some good news from my
chiropractor where he had saidthat he hasn't seen that he's
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been seeing me for a while.
He's never seen my lower backas strong as it is right now,
and that my pelvic actually hadstayed in place um for for over
a week.
So that's that's good news.
And it's from utilizing anexercise that I predominantly
use when I get a little anxious,right?
So instead of sitting therewallowing in my shit and
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stressing and freezing and andbeing frozen in place, I'll get
I'll get up and um I do pace.
I'm known for pacing a lot, butthis stretch that I've been
doing um has has really not onlyhelped my my stress, day-to-day
stressors, but it has alsohelped me physically, which in
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turn makes me just mentally feela lot better about me, right?
And I'm not breaking thosepromises that I make to myself
on a day-to-day basis.
And if you nail all three ofthose on a day-to-day basis, you
won the day.
Okay.
So, um, what's gonna move theneedle?
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Okay, what am I gonna do todaythat's gonna move the needle?
Okay, one relationship touchand one regeneration act.
Okay, what am I gonna do?
What movement am I gonna do?
Now, fortunately, I I also workout a good bit.
Okay, um, the 90-second reset.
I've done this quite often herelately.
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The frustration spikes, gettingready to lose my shit, gotta
step away.
Set, and I started doing somebreathing in this 90 seconds
here, and Vic and I learnedsomething.
We went on a trip with um Ericoand those guys, and Dr.
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I want to say his name is Dr.
Gary.
Taught us some, and I even gotthe app on my phone so I can
listen to that stuff and and dosome some breathing.
So I don't have to set like a90-second timer on my phone or
anything like that and simplybreathe.
I don't know if some of thismight sound corny, and I was
kind of a disbeliever, and so hehooked us up on a machine and
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uh was reading like you know,our pulse, our heart rate, our
age, our internal age, I thinkhe was calling it.
And when he first hooked us upon it, my my internal age was
freaking ancient.
I was old.
And then after some real quick,easy um breathing technique, oh
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man, it was like it was belowmy age, right?
My heart rate was at an age,you know, younger than what I
am, and and some other matrixthat he was measuring.
Um, it was good, it was goodstuff.
I see um my can't screamcertain, certain of my
righteousness.
That's right.
Yeah, I'm certain I got it.
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I'm gonna die on this hill.
I'm gonna do it.
So deep belly, in through yournose, slow out through your
mouth, and your brain stopsflooding your body, and uh you
get you get your thinking back,at least I do, and I'm pretty
sure just about everybody else.
Well, breathing is um prettycool technique.
Simple, you can do it anywhere.
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You go into the bathroom, youknow, two two minutes, minute
and a half.
Okay, focus on your breathing.
I put one hand on my stomach soI can feel my diaphragm
contracting in there.
Um, and then um progressreceipts.
Keep a running list of what gotbetter this quarter.
Repeat clients, fewercallbacks, faster estimates, one
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uh um apprentice, one one, onementor, um, stepping up,
whatever, um, and reading it ona bad day.
Okay, proof beats feelings,right?
So, so write down some wins,okay, for the quarter.
Write down some wins from theyear, write down wins from
freaking the week, okay, and andre-rehash them next week, okay?
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And um, and then uh run run runthe drill.
When chaos hits, script yournext three moves, okay?
Call the supplier, reshufflethe crew, update the customer,
um, then run the drill withoutemotion.
Okay.
Adjust after that.
You know, if you got to make anuncomfortable phone call, kind
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of kind of figure out, you know,if you got to send out an
uncomfortable email or whateverthe case might be, rehearse it.
Rehearse it in your head.
Okay.
Um, don't overthink it.
All right.
The important thing is that youmade that phone call, you told
the home, you got to call thehomeowner, and you got to let
them know once again, you're notgonna make it.
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You would much rather havesomebody pissed off at you for
five minutes than five hourswondering where the guys are the
next morning.
So make the call the nightbefore.
Can't make it tomorrow again.
I'm sorry.
And don't feed them a line ofshit.
You know, like uh, I don'tknow, some some bullshit
excuses.
Nobody wants to hear excuses,they want to hear results.
Okay.
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Um and then the third, the ruleof the thirds, I think I got
this from from Ed Milette.
Um, if you break your day upinto thirds, okay, and let's
just say the first third was wasum was mediocre or it was good.
Morning startup great, okay.
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And then the second third wasokay, and then the third third
of your day was shit.
Don't let that dictate how therest of your day goes.
Don't don't let that don't takethat shit home.
Okay, if you if if your dayends horribly, do some of the
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exercises that we talked abouthere a little bit.
Okay, review, review what couldmove the needle.
Did I make that phone call?
Did I forget to make that phonecall?
Do I need to reach out to ahomeowner?
Did I do my 90-secondbreathing, you know, and then
also get back to the event,okay?
Our actions, right?
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What am I gonna do?
Um, how am I gonna react?
How am I gonna respond?
Right, because we asindividuals, I don't think
realize how how much we affectthose around us, our behaviors,
our actions, good or bad, itaffects those around us.
And if you're in a leadership,a parenting role, I mean,
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usually all eyes are on us andwe set we set the tone.
So um ask yourself thisquestion.
And I've been asking myselfthis question a lot.
It's like, what's one one toughstretch um I'm in right now?
What drill fits?
Okay, what what what drillfits?
Um push.
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Push doesn't mean um forever,you know, it doesn't mean
forever, it just means umconsistency over drama, okay.
The journey.
It's about the journey and andnot necessarily the finish line.
I want to dive into this alittle bit here, and then uh
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promise I'll shut the hell upand let you guys go about your
day.
Because I always think aboutthe finish line, right?
I think about the uh ribboncutting, the final draws, the
paid invoices, but most of ourmost of most of our lives happen
between the finish lines, thejourney, okay, and how we show
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up daily, how we treat people,um, what we learn under
pressure.
That's the person we'rebuilding.
That is the person I'mbecoming, how I handled those
situations.
Did I suit up?
Did I show up?
Did I stay consistent?
Okay.
And again, this plays back.
This plays back to theconfidence, the the um lack of
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anxiety.
If I continuously suit up andshow up, no matter how tough
things seem to get, right?
I still moved the needle, Istill made that one touch.
Um, I called that thathomeowner to let them know I'm
not I'm not stacking negatives.
I'm I'm continuously stackingmany wins, many, many, many
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wins.
And I'm not stacking becausethere's the opposite.
We don't talk enough abouteveryone was stacking those
wins.
Well, let's talk about when I'mnot stacking wins.
Let's talk about the timeswhere I'm stacking all this
negative shit where I'm notfollowing up, I'm not following
through, I'm not making thosedifficult calls, I'm not having
those difficult conversations.
And and here's the truth.
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Okay, after the tough times,I'm not the same.
Okay, I'm stronger, I'msharper, I'm more patient.
Okay.
I didn't fail.
I suited up, I showed up.
And um I try to think of I tryto think of um a hard season
that I survived or a hardsituation that that I went
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through, whether it be it in mychildhood, um, and I've been
through, I've been I've I'vebeen in some real hairy, sticky,
uncomfortable situations.
So I try to always go back tothat.
And that's kind of why we sayget comfortable being
uncomfortable, because weintentionally put ourselves in
uncomfortable, healthy,uncomfortable situations in
order to make us stronger,brighter, sharper, better human
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being.
So we're preparing ourselvesfor those difficult times.
Okay, remember that.
Scuba diving has been one ofthose situations for me that's
very uncomfortable, but I knewit was going to make me a better
human being.
It was gonna make me a strongerhuman being.
And that was due to the sum ofthose I surrounded myself with.
I surrounded myself aroundpeople that don't that don't put
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up with my excuses, people thatpush me to be better people,
right?
That talked me into going scubadiving, which I thought was the
stupidest thing ever.
But now I think it's one of themost amazing gifts that um I've
ever been given.
So try to when you're goingthrough a hard time, try to
think of a hard time.
It doesn't necessarily have tobe harder, um, but think that,
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you know, well, I survived that,right?
And and what skill did it forceme to build?
Okay.
Was it better scheduling?
Was it boundaries?
Was it I needed to communicatebetter?
And I'm speaking fromexperience, right?
Scheduling, boundaries, um, andcommunication.
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I'm horrible at all three ofthem, but but through my hard
times, I've learned tocommunicate better, I've learned
to schedule better, I'velearned to set boundaries.
Okay, and um where where do Iuse skills today to to create
new wins?
Okay.
Okay.
And that's why it's not it'snot about the finish line, it's
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about the journey.
The journey is the workshop,the workshop where you become
the person who can handle thefinish line, right?
When the finish line getsthere, because it typically
means there's gonna be some moredrama, more dilemmas, because
you probably built somethingbigger, better, right?
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Which creates different issues,things break, right?
It's never usually what weexpected it to be, anyhow, when
we get there.
So prepare yourself, getcomfortable being uncomfortable.
Okay.
And I want to leave you withwith with some questions here to
carry into next week, okay, andand answer one today, one
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tomorrow, and one over theweekend.
Inputs.
Okay.
What's one input you'll cut outfor 30 days?
Okay.
Is it not watching the news atnight?
Is it not eating a whole bag ofgrandma Utts's chips in bed?
What whatever?
What's one input?
What is one piece of trash thatI'm feeding my head?
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I'm feeding my body that I'mgonna remove, and what's one
that I'm gonna add?
And why those?
Okay, that's question or that'sum that's one number two,
open-minded.
Okay, where will I run a tinytest to see if there's a better
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way than mine?
Okay, because we were talkingabout or the highway, okay, and
then ownership.
Okay, what what sentence can Irewrite from victim mentality to
ownership?
Tough times, which drills?
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You know, what what what am Iwhat am I gonna rewrite?
Okay, so little little recaphere.
Um, during tough times, whatwhich drill am I going to apply?
Um am I gonna do uh a 90 90second reset?
Um which um am I going to allowone third of my day dictate the
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rest of my day?
I man, I used to be horrible atthat.
Something would happen to me inthe morning, and man, it would
dictate the rest of my day.
I mean, completely.
I would I would completelyremove all of the positive
things that are in my lifebecause of this one situation,
would just completely, and I'mnot saying I don't get stuck for
about five, fifteen, twentyminutes in in it.
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I'm not saying it's I'm I'm I'ma duck's ass.
What I'm saying is though Icannot let the rest of my day be
ruined or dictate the outcomeand spoil everybody else's day
because I'm I had a bad moment.
It's just this too shall pass.
Um so yeah, the the the lessonsum from the harsh hard sea
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seasons are are paying payingoff.
You know what I mean?
If if if I continue to keepthinking about this the way that
I am, you know, why is ithappening for me?
I may not be able to see itright this second, but I really
truly believe if you if you diginto that, why is this happening
to me right now, and if you canflip that to why is this
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happening for me, you will comeup with something of why it's
happening for you and not toyou, because that's the victim
mindset.
That's that bitch voice in yourhead.
Okay, it'll pay dividends.
Trust me.
I've tested it.
So if you want me to read youranswers next week, um DM me or
email me um at Ty BeyonToWelt.
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Ty at Beyond dot com and put inthe subject line um uh Tool
Belt EP 305.
And that way I'll uh I'll readyour answers here.
So just a quick recap.
Um input shape outputs.
Okay, audit what you read,watch, listen, and who you stand
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next to.
Okay, open mind, strongstandards, um the two percent
truth.
Okay, ask one more question andtest the opposite.
Okay, drop victimhood, chooseownership, event, choice,
outcome.
Swap your language, keep thepower.
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Okay, keep the power.
The moment you show your ass isthe moment you lose all power.
Okay, push through the heavydays, okay.
Minimal, viable day, 90 secondreset, progress receipts, uh,
run the drill, rule the thirds.
Okay, don't let one third ofyour day ruin the other
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two-thirds.
Okay, love the journey.
I know it's hard.
I know it's hard, man.
But love the journey, thelessons in motion make you the
person who can finish well.
Okay, we'll make it to thefinish line together here.
So, anyhow, this has beenanother amazing episode of
Behind a Tool Belt.
Inputs, mindset, uh, the longgame.
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Okay.
If today helped you or anyoneyou know, or you think somebody
might listen to this, share itwith one person on your crew and
leave a quick rating.
I don't know if anybody's everrated this yet.
Um, but helps more buildersfind the show, right?
More builders, we're allbuilding shit here, right?
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Tell me your input audit swap,your input audit swap for the
week.
Uh, send me your victim toownership sentence.
And if you run one opposite daytest on your progress, I want
to hear the results.
Reach out to me again, DM me,or tie it at uh
behindhettoolbelt.com.
And remember, the tools in yourbelt matter, but the tools in
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your head decide how far you'llgo.
Okay.
Usually the only thing that'sgoing wrong is the six inches
between your ears.
Keep building.
I love you guys, and I will seeyou on the next one.
And we are live.
Welcome back, everybody, to beon the Tobel episode 305.
I am your host, Ty Cobb Backer.
Thank you for joining us onthis Wednesday day shoot.
We will be right back after ourshort intro from our sponsors.
I think they're calling forsome rain tomorrow.
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Sorry that we are late.
I had to take a moment to getmy head out of my ass.
And uh here we are.
We are live and on tie time.
So that means we are on time.
So, anyhow, I want to talktoday about that voice, that
loud ass voice that chooses thatthat voice that tells you um
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that little bitch voice.
I'm gonna call it the bitchvoice.
Yeah, right, that uh you listento um every day.
And uh I'm gonna explain to youwhere that might come from.
Okay, and it's it's the stuffthat you input, the stuff that
you input between your ears,okay, the stuff you listen to on
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the way to the job site,between calls, lunch, the shows
you play, uh, the people youstand next to.
Okay, the posts that youscroll.
Those inputs are framing yourdecisions before you even leave
the house in the morning.
Okay, today we're gonna we'regonna tighten up those inputs a
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little bit.
We're gonna open your mindswithout losing our standards and
drop the victim mindset andkeep pushing when the work gets
heavy.
And we know it gets heavy.
And uh so welcome, welcome backto Behind the Tool Belt where
we talk.
We talk about building thingsthat last, whether it be
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businesses, crews, habits,mindsets.
I am your host, Ty Cobb Backer.
So let's start with let's startwith an input audit.
Let's let's do a little audit.
Because I've I've had to doquite a few of these um here
over this this past our season.
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Our season five.
I'll be kind of too aboutcoming up on season six already.
I'm thinking about seven-ish,seven-ish weeks.
unknown (03:12):
Yeah.
Ty Cobb Backer (03:13):
Yeah.
So figure out the word.
Talk about talk about some ofthe things I've I've done,
experienced here, things I'mworking on, things I pretty much
most of the stuff I'm gonnatalk about today, I've I'm I'm
currently doing.
I'm not gonna say that I'vebeen doing them forever, but um,
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I want to encourage everybodyelse and and also inform them
some of the things that areworking, have worked for me.
And and one of them is a is aninput audit.
And what I mean by input, Imean by what are you feeding
your head?
What are you feeding your body?
What shit are you putting intoyour brain?
What shit are you putting intoyour body?
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You know, um, what are youreading?
What are you watching?
What are you listening to?
Who are you standing next to?
These are all things that areshaping your thinking and your
behavior, whether you know it ornot.
You know, and I and I thinkabout this, and I think I've
talked about this before in uhuh with Vic, I'm sure it's like,
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you know, when we were when wewere growing up as children,
right, and the lessons that ourour parents were trying to teach
us, and our our mostinfluential teachers, you know,
it shaped us, shaped, shaped ourthinking, molded our minds.
And right, wrong, orindifferent.
It was just the only thing thatwe heard.
It was the only lessons we weretaught.
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You know, looking back on that,it's like, man, I wish we would
have learned how to balancecheckbooks and open up a bank
account, you know, things thatwere like relevant to the shit
that we go through as adults,you know.
But, you know, and there's alot of diversity going on in the
world today.
And and um, I have my ownbattles between my own years
that I have to fight on aday-to-day basis.
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So I'm not gonna go down thatrabbit hole.
But things that have helped me,you know, combat, um, you know,
a lot of that stuff.
Um and try to um, you know,keep keep an open mind without
losing judgment and um how tosee multiple ways to do things
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and not fall into my way or thehighway.
And and trust me, I've I'vedealt with that.
So we're gonna tackle droppingthe victim mindset and and
moving to more uh ownership.
And and we'll finish withpushing through tough stretches
and seeing the lessons as thereal payoff and and not the
finish line.
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Um so so you'll hear uhprobably some some guided
questions um that I'm actuallygonna want people to answer.
I want you to answer them.
Answer them out loud, jot themdown, put them in the comments,
or or um give me your questions.
You can reach me at tie itbehind the toolbell.com.
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And um, if you want me to, Iwill um I'll post them or we'll
talk about them next week.
Um, but um, if you're on theroad, you know, um answer these
questions in your head.
If you're at the shop, grab anotepad, wherever you're at in
the office.
So uh I'm gonna start withsomething probably simple and
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uncomfortable.
Um but your this is the otherthing I was thinking about too.
It's the my output are uhdownstream, downstream from my
input.
So essentially what I'minputting um will be the end
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result of my outcome.
Okay.
Um, and every day, every day Iopen up gates, every day we open
up gates, okay.
Um what we read, text, youknow, the estimates that we look
at, um, the spec sheets, thebooks, the posts, things that we
watch, uh, job site videos, newclips, YouTube how-to reels,
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um, things that we listen to,uh, podcast, playlist,
conversations in the truck onthe way to the job site or
lunchtime.
Um, and the people, the peoplethat we stand next to, your
wife, your buddies, your yourfriends, um, shit.
It could be somebody on yourcrew.
Um, I take input from oursuppliers, uh, manufacturing
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shit, the neighbor at thehardware store.
You know what I mean?
I I um, you know, and then I Iform my own epiphanies, I form
my own opinions.
Um, and those are gates.
Okay.
That content shapes what younotice, what you miss, how and
what you believe, and how youbehave, especially when the
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pressure hits.
Okay.
You already know this.
The shit for those of us thatare in construction, we already
know this is true um with tools.
And I'm going to use a warpedlevel for an example.
You know, you use a warpedlevel, the line looks straight,
but it isn't.
And inputs work the same way,if that makes any sense.
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I've I've I've read data sheetsthat were inaccurate, but I
believed them.
Um, I've had a bent bowed levelthat appeared to be showing
things level or plum.
And in fact, they weren't.
A lot of times in the sidingworld, if it looks level from
the ground, it's level.
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It's our perception, right?
And a lot of times, the onlything wrong with the world is
the six inches between ourfreaking ears.
Um and my my my thinking wasscrewed up too early on.
I remember there was this jobsite, it seemed like we it was
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taking forever.
And I just want to share thisquick story.
And um, of course, I was incharge of it, and every day I
would show up and I would lookfor I'd look for problems.
And I would, you know, startscreaming and barking orders,
and and uh nothing seemed to getany better.
I just I couldn't figure outwhy.
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Like I just couldn't scream anylouder, I couldn't drop any
more mother effers, or and Ijust couldn't figure out why
they just couldn't get fireunder everybody's ass.
And um, and I look looking backtoday, it's you know, my my
perception of things is iscompletely different.
Where if I show up on a jobsite, I'm looking at things like
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has it been too windy?
Do they have the rightequipment?
Is there enough manpower here?
Where was there uh materialshortages?
Was there, you know, I try tolook for yes, issues, but also
things that I'm in control of.
And that is getting moreequipment out there, getting
more manpower out there, gettingordering the uh the right
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material.
So um I want to take a minutehere and I'm gonna I'm gonna
ask, I'm gonna ask fivequestions.
And you can ask these, saythese, answer these questions um
out loud or grab a note.
So what's the last thing um youread that general that that
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genuinely um improved your work?
Okay.
So there's read, there's watch,okay, watch.
Which channels or reelsactually lifted your standard?
And which ones just spiked youremotions?
Because I know I'll watchsomething, man, and it just kind
of gets me pissed, and I gottakeep scrolling.
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Fortunately, on my feed, um, Ihave fishing, golfing, and real
positive shit that I'm into isas far as my hobbies go and
stuff like that.
And I'll get sucked into somepretty, some pretty, you know,
educational stuff when it comesto fishing techniques or golf
swings and and stuff like that.
And it's work-related stuff.
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I'll comment and like and loveand and and share and stuff like
that.
Um and then we listen, right?
Which voices leave you moredisciplined afterwards, not just
more fired up, right?
So I had to I had to step awayfrom people, places, things, and
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situations that that tend toeither you know fire me up
negatively, not necessarilypositively.
I like to I like to listen tothings that actually get me
fired up, whether it's goodmusic or you know, an amazing
podcast host.
And I got quite a few of them.
And uh music is definitely goodfor the soul too.
And then um we talked aboutbefore in the past too.
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Um, you know, those that wethis the circle, who's in our
circle.
Um, I gotta do a circle auditsometimes, you know.
Um, who am I standing next to?
Are they making me sharper?
Are they holding me back?
Who nudges me towards excusesor who nudges me to not make
excuses?
Um and then replace.
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Okay, so replace what's oneinput um I need to to remove
this week, and what input am Igoing to am I gonna add?
Am I gonna add this week?
So reading, watching,listening, standing next to, and
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replace.
Okay, and we can we'll put themin the comments after the show
here.
So that's your that's yourinput audit.
Um don't overcomplicate it.
That's the one thing I'm gonnasay is don't overcomplicate it.
And I tend to overcomplicatelike the simplest the simplest
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task and chores and and umpersonal development stuff.
I I really will get in thereand um make a freaking shit show
out of it.
So don't complicate it, swapout, swap one input out um for
one input.
You don't have to completelyswitch your your circle, the TV
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shows, the news channels, youknow, that you're watching and
stuff like that.
But if if you're watching newsat night, laying in bed or or
whatever the case might be, andand I'm gonna tell you right
now, a lot of times I wake upbased upon what I did the night
before.
How late did I eat?
What was I watching?
Uh, was I scrolling?
You know, was I looking at toomuch blue screen right before I
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went to bed?
Um will predict pretty much howI feel when I wake up.
Do I feel bloated?
Do I feel energetic?
Do I feel clear-minded?
Um, and if I don't, I have toask myself those questions.
I stay up too late watching FoxNews, did I stay up too late,
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you know, scrolling Facebook?
Did I eat way too much?
Did I eat that big bag of chipslaying in bed?
And I'm wondering why I can'tlose those pounds.
And all that stuff, all thatnegative stuff that you're
feeding, that you're inputting,is not conducive to your mental
or physical health and and quitefrankly, your your your
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spiritual well-being either.
You know, because how confidentam I gonna wake up knowing that
there or I see that empty bagof Uts potato chips, you know,
grandma, grandma utts' potatochips, and I'm guilty, I'm still
guilty of it, but it usuallyright away I'll see it, and I
didn't identify it right away.
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I didn't, I'll be honest withyou.
It I didn't know that it wasmessing with my psyche if I'd
wake up.
But if I woke up and there wasa half drank bottle of water, or
completely drank, you know, um,bottle of water next to my bed,
you know, that that, you know,believe it or not, makes me feel
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makes me feel like I'm doingthe next right thing.
And when I get on the scalesand I see that I'm down a half a
pound, or I'm still at weight,the weight, my desired weight,
um, that that right there canset the tempo for my entire day.
Okay.
Um, so um, I'm I'm challenging,you know, people to do, I don't
know, 30-day challenge and umand uh some practical moves, you
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know, that we can do for thenext 30 days.
And and uh, you know, um it canbe as simple as I use post-it
notes a lot.
I'll put a post-it note on onmy desk or shit, even on my dash
of the truck.
And uh so I'm recommendingputting a post-it note on the
dash of your truck, like what'splaying?
What what what am I listeningto right now?
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Am I listening to RushLimbaugh?
Am I listening to you know,just some somebody running their
mouth?
Um, or am I learning something?
Am I listening to somethingpositive, whether it be good
positive music?
Um, and and this is what thisis what's brilliant, but very
obvious, but you know, we havethat we have that choice on what
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what channel is on the radio.
Okay.
Um go to five minute morning uminput stack, and I'm and I'm
gonna share with you kind ofwhat what I've done.
Um five minutes of of quiet inthe morning, no phone, no, no
computer, no nothing.
Uh two pages from a solid book,something that I can apply to
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my life.
Um, one text of encouragementto somebody um in my family on
my crew.
Uh right now I got this littlethread going with this guy that
that is out of North Carolina.
Um, you know, and then a uh youknow, short podcast or segment
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that teaches me and and notrant, right?
Because there's a lot ofpodcast people out there that
just rant, that just bitch aboutwhat's going on in the world.
And for me, that's notconducive.
I don't really give two shitsabout I do, I do care.
Let me let me digress a littlebit.
I do care about what's going onin the world, but I think a lot
of us are getting too hemmed upin the the uh external economy
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and need to focus more about ourown businesses and and our
internal economies, and thatcould be at home, that could be
at our place of work, but we weneed to mind our own and make
sure our household is is onlockdown and and uh we're taking
care of those that you knowmost.
And uh, you know, that oh, andum, what is something that I'm
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going to stop avoiding?
What is that that difficulttask or that chore or thing that
I need to get done?
Um and and realistically, Ithink three three out of those
four things take what maybe12-15 minutes every morning.
Um if I if I um you know listenlisten to something, I I read,
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I read, I leave actually I readmore than two pages.
Um, but you know, five minuteswithout the phone, that's kind
of where I chew up that fiveminutes.
I read a couple pages.
Um, I read a little somethingat in the morning at home, and I
I read something here at work.
I just picked another book uphere at work that I'm I'm
currently reading right now thatI feel is gonna help me, not
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just today, but it's gonna it'sgonna help shape who I want to
be on this journey that I'm onright now.
But but also keeping an openmind, okay.
And and and now I want to talkabout um about keeping an open
mind without turning into uh Iwant to call it a drift sock.
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And a lot of you might not,unless you fish, know what a
drift sock is.
A drift sock is for somebodywho like me has a boat and has
never yet got a trolling motorput on their boat.
So when when the wind's up andum or the drift speed isn't what
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I want it to be, I'll throw outwhat's it's like a kite.
I'll throw a kite off the sideof the boat to slow the boat
down on our drift.
So I just thought I'd sharethat.
Don't be uh don't be a driftsock or uh yeah, drift sock.
Okay.
Um open, you know, open, beingopen-minded is is it doesn't
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mean uncommitted.
It means you're willing to testwhether um your way is still
the best way today.
Okay, and and here are fourfour tactics.
Um, I've used at home and andI've used it at work, and it and
it's before, and I'm gettingbetter at this, and before I
shut somebody down, I I try tosay, I try to say, or I
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recommend try saying their ideain a way they think is better
than the way they said it.
Okay, so for an example, um, sowhat you are saying is we can
cut the siding with a saw, andI'm gonna I'm gonna try to keep
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this construction based herebecause you know it's called
behind the toilet.
So we can cut the siding with asaw instead of hand cutting
each individual piece withsnips.
The win is fewer strips andcleaner lines.
Did I get that right?
Okay, if they say yes, nowyou're both solving the same
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problem.
Okay, and that's really justtakes keeping an open mind and
not shutting them down becausewhen you shut them down, you're
shutting yourself down to beopen.
And unfortunately, you're stillbeing a part of the problem.
So if they say yes, when youreiterate what they said, but in
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a way better than what theysaid it, so maybe you didn't
fully understand, and maybe theycan correct you and be like,
no, that's not exactly, becauseyou may not even even have
understood exactly what it wasthat they were saying to you to
begin with.
So um number two, number twowould be the two percent uh
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truth rule.
If any idea you don't like,hunt for the two percent.
Okay, that's true or useful.
Okay, maybe the whole planwon't work, but the detail about
staging materials could save ushours.
Okay, getting back to using asaw cutting the siding instead
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of hand snips because I see guysout there, which the generation
that I grew up in, we had a cutguy on the ground, and uh he
would stack siding up and hewould actually be able to cut
multiple pieces.
Nowadays, I see individualsworking by themselves on a wall
and hand cutting individualpieces of siding with a pair of
hand snips.
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I mean, I get it, I understandthat um they think it's faster
because they're not waiting onsomebody.
But when you have a good groundguy that can stay two steps in
front of you, it's definitelygonna save you time and money in
the long run.
So, anyhow, um, number three,double click, double click
questions.
Ask one more question than youwould want to, okay?
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Walk me through this.
Give me an example.
What are we assuming, right?
What breaks this?
You know, get good at good itbecause it really comes down to
good question asking.
So that's a skill.
It's a skill that I have towork on.
I continuously work on askingbetter questions, asking more
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questions, even when I don'twant to, especially when I don't
want to ask questions.
Like, I've already shut itdown.
Nope, that idea is stupid.
No, I had an opportunityyesterday.
Somebody came to us and waslike, hey, how about if we do
this?
And I was like, Cool, we have ameeting about that topic at two
o'clock today.
Why don't you sit in?
I think it's an amazing idea,right?
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Well, after we all spoke aboutit, I was like, Yeah, it's
great, it's great.
You know, it pulled sometriggers and some memories and
some thoughts that, you know,yeah, we should be doing that.
So half the time the ideaimproves itself under light, is
is, I guess, my point, right?
Ask more questions, put a linkon it, and and have somebody
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maybe explain it a differentway, or you try to articulate it
in the way that you'veunderstood what they're trying
to present you because you maynot fully understand it.
Okay.
Open-mindedness, right?
God, that's such a revelation,you know, but it's it is.
Sounds trivial, but it's notfor me, anyhow.
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I'm a knucklehead.
Okay.
Um, so once a week, um, if Ihad to prove the opposite of my
favorite opinion today, howwould I do it?
Okay, do it with somethingpractical.
Okay.
Tools, scheduling, invoices.
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You'll either strengthen yourview or refine them.
Okay.
So, what I'm trying to say hereis like practic something
different.
If you're in the invoicingdepartment, if you're in the
siding hanging department, ifyou're in the whatever
department, try doing it adifferent way once and and see
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what the outcome is.
Or take a suggestion fromsomebody that's been telling you
because we don't always have tobe right.
We don't always we don't alwayshave to do it our way.
And I would, I would, I wouldask you this question: where in
your week do you most oftenthink I way is the only way?
What's one place, one placeyou'll run a small test of a
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different approach this week?
I challenge somebody that yourway isn't the only way, and try
it a different way.
And remember, open-mindednessdoesn't mean you're soft, it
means you're humble, exact, andwilling to learn.
And I think a lot of the stuffthat this kind of falls under a
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lot of the topic aroundleadership that we talk about
all the time is, you know, Ithink this is a this is a
crucial piece that a lot of usleaders miss.
We think that we need all theanswers.
We think we know better thaneverybody else.
We think that we're smarter, weare the smartest person in the
room.
Fail.
Huge fail.
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Huge freaking fail.
Okay, we're gonna move on to alittle bit here, the dropping,
dropping the old uh victimmindset.
So let's call let's call thisout straight here.
Okay, the victim mindset istempting because it feels good
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for about 10 minutes.
And Vic and I, I think we'vebeen talking about this because
it's it's the easiest.
It's easier.
You know, you get to be rightfor that 10 minutes, and you
don't have to do anything, youcan just be negative Nelly and
and uh play the victim.
So the bill later is heavy whenwhen you do that, right?
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Resentment, stuck projects, umand the same week repeats over
and over and over.
I'm the victim, nothing worksout right, you know.
And here's the upgrade, okay.
Event, we have a choice, andthere's gonna be an outcome.
Okay, and you can't always pickthe event.
I can't always predict thesituation that's gonna happen.
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However, I can always, always,always pick my night, my next
choice.
Okay, how I respond, how Ireact.
And here's an example, okay, ofum victim and and ownership.
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Okay, victim would saysomething along the lines, the
inspector screwed us.
Okay, ownership would be morelike we missed the spec change.
Next time we review the updatedspec sheet, and we'll try to do
better.
Okay, victim.
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And this was me.
My crew never listens.
Okay, ownership.
Ownership would be I didn'tmake the standard visual, right?
I didn't articulate themessage, I didn't follow up.
Today, I will post a checklistand review it at 3:30 and follow
up with everybody.
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Okay, victim mindset.
Clients always want cheap.
Okay.
Ownership.
I haven't learned how to showvalue early today or tomorrow.
I will bring a sample board anda cost of not doing it chart.
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I will show value early in theconversation.
Okay.
Notice something ownershipkeeps your power.
Okay, you keep the power, itdoesn't let the event dictate
your next move.
Okay.
And sometimes when you behavepoorly, you can't even dictate
your next move because thatoffended person or persons or
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situation, they dictate theoutcome for you.
You either get hauled off inhandcuffs, you get thrown off a
job site.
It's not working together, it'snot keeping an open mind.
Even no matter how hard itstings, no matter how much it
burns, all right?
Keep your head, keep the power.
Okay.
So again, getting back to theinspector where you know we had
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an inspector fail us, okay, overjust some minor safety rails.
Old me would have flew off thefreaking handle.
Okay.
The new me, I honestly thought,you know, shows up.
I honestly thought we built itright.
You know, I thought we built itto code.
I asked the inspector for fiveminutes of his time to, you
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know, document his exactexpectations without flying off
the handle, without being anarrogant asshole.
I actually wanted to.
Learn something.
Okay.
Can can you write or can youshow me in the book?
Or when was this updated?
When was this code updated?
And and um then moving forward,we can make a simple pre-check
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inspection check sheet for thenext time we I don't know, have
to put safety handrails onsomething, right?
I'm just trying to pull someshit out of my ass here real
quick.
Um, you know, so um yeah, keepan open mind.
Not saying that we can'tjustify in our heads when we're
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right and they're wrong.
There's a way, there's a way togo about it, right?
There's a way to handlesituations, and there's a way
much further, right?
What do they call it?
You get a lot further withsugar than you do vinegar.
My mom taught me that a longtime ago.
I actually ask myself thisquestion some days.
Do I do I handle this, DanBacker, like Ann Backer, or do I
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handle this like Bob Backer?
And some situations do requirea Bob Backer.
You know, don't get it twisted.
And don't ever piss my mom off.
She would have given youanything, but don't ever piss
her off.
Same goes for my dad.
I've seen my dad go bend overbackwards for people and and uh
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end up getting screwed.
So, anyhow, three three steps,three steps to exit the victim
mode.
Okay.
So first one is is name namethe event, okay, without drama.
Okay.
The event was we missed thedelivery date.
We didn't finish the project ontime.
Okay.
Then name name yourcontrollable, the next action,
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okay.
Um, call supplier, get updates,when materials and products are
are are gonna come in.
Okay.
Number three would be name thesafeguard, okay, so it doesn't
repeat, so we don't, so we don'tdo this again.
Okay.
Add a 24-hour confirmation umtext or email in the AM on
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delivery check.
Okay.
All of that falls back on me.
All of that is lack ofsomething on my half, on my
behalf, of not following up withdistribution to make sure, not
checking the weather the thenight before, not um behaving
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accordingly when things don't gothe way that I think they
should have gone.
Um, so the the the guided umexercise, right?
So think of one situation thismonth where you've been stuck in
bling.
Okay.
And you got one finger, you gotthree point back.
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See these three point back atme.
Every time I point a finger, Igot three point back at me.
So think of a situation thismonth where you've been stuck on
blame.
Okay, the event was okay.
Shingles showed up late.
My controllable next move is mysafeguard number three, my
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safeguard so this doesn't happenagain.
Simple.
The event was my controllablenext move, okay, and the
safeguard so it doesn't repeatagain.
Okay, that move right therewill move you out of victim mode
and become the victor, thebuilder.
I like to use the word victorbecause victor's my best friend.
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Yeah.
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Okay, so here's here's um some other cool little
nuggets um that I want to sharetoo about um so we can keep
pushing without getting burntout, right?
The the a five five littledrill thing that I rehash kind
of through my head here.
I came up with this a couplemonths ago to kind of keep
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pushing and keep suiting up andkeep showing up and keeping a
smile on my face and stuff.
And it's and one is uh minimalviable day.
Okay.
On the hardest days, I have topick three non-negotiables.
Okay.
One of them is is what is oneneedle moving task that I know
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is gonna move the needle that'snon-negotiable?
Okay, what can I do todaythat's gonna move the needle?
Okay, so I don't have anyguilt, shame, insecurities,
whatever tomorrow.
Okay.
Another one is is what what isone relationship that I can
touch?
Okay, who can I reach out to?
Whether it be a client, a crewmember, um, um home, call home,
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Jana.
Hey babe, I love you.
How you doing?
Right?
Um, and then the re um, what doyou want to call it?
Regeneration act.
And I started this recently.
One of these things, um, walk,stretch, decent meal.
Obviously, I try to eat as bestas I can, but I started doing
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these core exercises on my floorin my office.
If I start to feel overwhelmed,anxious, anxiety, I started to
do these stretches, but havingsome issues with my my hips and
my pelvic being super tight.
And and uh was taught someonewho showed me some exercises
that I can simply do anywhere aslong as there's enough room for
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me to get on the floor.
And uh I started doing someexercises, and then one from
sitting all day long, as simpleas putting your hands on your
hips and pushing your hips outand tilting back, is actually
super good for your spine ifyou're somebody that sits all
day.
It's a stretch that you can do.
And there's a couple otherthings if anybody wants to know
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what I've been doing herelately.
And I actually went to thechiropractor last night and he
told me.
So I've had I've been havingissues with my my pelvic like
slipping out of place, and it'screating all kinds of hip and
back, lower back issues andstuff like that.
And and yesterday I actuallygot some good news from my
chiropractor where he had saidthat he hasn't seen that he's
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been seeing me for a while.
He's never seen my lower backas strong as it is right now,
and that my pelvic actually hadstayed in place um for for over
a week.
So that's that's good news.
And it's from utilizing anexercise that I predominantly
use when I get a little anxious,right?
So instead of sitting therewallowing in my shit and
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stressing and freezing and andbeing frozen in place, I'll get
I'll get up and um I do pace.
I'm known for pacing a lot, butthis stretch that I've been
doing um has has really not onlyhelped my my stress, day-to-day
stressors, but it has alsohelped me physically, which in
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turn makes me just mentally feela lot better about me, right?
And I'm not breaking thosepromises that I make to myself
on a day-to-day basis.
And if you nail all three ofthose on a day-to-day basis, you
won the day.
Okay.
So, um, what's gonna move theneedle?
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Okay, what am I gonna do todaythat's gonna move the needle?
Okay, one relationship touchand one regeneration act.
Okay, what am I gonna do?
What movement am I gonna do?
Now, fortunately, I I also workout a good bit.
Okay, um, the 90-second reset.
I've done this quite often herelately.
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The frustration spikes, gettingready to lose my shit, gotta
step away.
Set, and I started doing somebreathing in this 90 seconds
here, and Vic and I learnedsomething.
We went on a trip with um Ericoand those guys, and Dr.
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I want to say his name is Dr.
Gary.
Taught us some, and I even gotthe app on my phone so I can
listen to that stuff and and dosome some breathing.
So I don't have to set like a90-second timer on my phone or
anything like that and simplybreathe.
I don't know if some of thismight sound corny, and I was
kind of a disbeliever, and so hehooked us up on a machine and
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uh was reading like you know,our pulse, our heart rate, our
age, our internal age, I thinkhe was calling it.
And when he first hooked us upon it, my my internal age was
freaking ancient.
I was old.
And then after some real quick,easy um breathing technique, oh
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man, it was like it was belowmy age, right?
My heart rate was at an age,you know, younger than what I
am, and and some other matrixthat he was measuring.
Um, it was good, it was goodstuff.
I see um my can't screamcertain, certain of my
righteousness.
That's right.
Yeah, I'm certain I got it.
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I'm gonna die on this hill.
I'm gonna do it.
So deep belly, in through yournose, slow out through your
mouth, and your brain stopsflooding your body, and uh you
get you get your thinking back,at least I do, and I'm pretty
sure just about everybody else.
Well, breathing is um prettycool technique.
Simple, you can do it anywhere.
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You go into the bathroom, youknow, two two minutes, minute
and a half.
Okay, focus on your breathing.
I put one hand on my stomach soI can feel my diaphragm
contracting in there.
Um, and then um progressreceipts.
Keep a running list of what gotbetter this quarter.
Repeat clients, fewercallbacks, faster estimates, one
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uh um apprentice, one one, onementor, um, stepping up,
whatever, um, and reading it ona bad day.
Okay, proof beats feelings,right?
So, so write down some wins,okay, for the quarter.
Write down some wins from theyear, write down wins from
freaking the week, okay, and andre-rehash them next week, okay?
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And um, and then uh run run runthe drill.
When chaos hits, script yournext three moves, okay?
Call the supplier, reshufflethe crew, update the customer,
um, then run the drill withoutemotion.
Okay.
Adjust after that.
You know, if you got to make anuncomfortable phone call, kind
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of kind of figure out, you know,if you got to send out an
uncomfortable email or whateverthe case might be, rehearse it.
Rehearse it in your head.
Okay.
Um, don't overthink it.
All right.
The important thing is that youmade that phone call, you told
the home, you got to call thehomeowner, and you got to let
them know once again, you're notgonna make it.
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You would much rather havesomebody pissed off at you for
five minutes than five hourswondering where the guys are the
next morning.
So make the call the nightbefore.
Can't make it tomorrow again.
I'm sorry.
And don't feed them a line ofshit.
You know, like uh, I don'tknow, some some bullshit
excuses.
Nobody wants to hear excuses,they want to hear results.
Okay.
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Um and then the third, the ruleof the thirds, I think I got
this from from Ed Milette.
Um, if you break your day upinto thirds, okay, and let's
just say the first third was wasum was mediocre or it was good.
Morning startup great, okay.
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And then the second third wasokay, and then the third third
of your day was shit.
Don't let that dictate how therest of your day goes.
Don't don't let that don't takethat shit home.
Okay, if you if if your dayends horribly, do some of the
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exercises that we talked abouthere a little bit.
Okay, review, review what couldmove the needle.
Did I make that phone call?
Did I forget to make that phonecall?
Do I need to reach out to ahomeowner?
Did I do my 90-secondbreathing, you know, and then
also get back to the event,okay?
Our actions, right?
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What am I gonna do?
Um, how am I gonna react?
How am I gonna respond?
Right, because we asindividuals, I don't think
realize how how much we affectthose around us, our behaviors,
our actions, good or bad, itaffects those around us.
And if you're in a leadership,a parenting role, I mean,
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usually all eyes are on us andwe set we set the tone.
So um ask yourself thisquestion.
And I've been asking myselfthis question a lot.
It's like, what's one one toughstretch um I'm in right now?
What drill fits?
Okay, what what what drillfits?
Um push.
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Push doesn't mean um forever,you know, it doesn't mean
forever, it just means umconsistency over drama, okay.
The journey.
It's about the journey and andnot necessarily the finish line.
I want to dive into this alittle bit here, and then uh
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promise I'll shut the hell upand let you guys go about your
day.
Because I always think aboutthe finish line, right?
I think about the uh ribboncutting, the final draws, the
paid invoices, but most of ourmost of most of our lives happen
between the finish lines, thejourney, okay, and how we show
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up daily, how we treat people,um, what we learn under
pressure.
That's the person we'rebuilding.
That is the person I'mbecoming, how I handled those
situations.
Did I suit up?
Did I show up?
Did I stay consistent?
Okay.
And again, this plays back.
This plays back to theconfidence, the the um lack of
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anxiety.
If I continuously suit up andshow up, no matter how tough
things seem to get, right?
I still moved the needle, Istill made that one touch.
Um, I called that thathomeowner to let them know I'm
not I'm not stacking negatives.
I'm I'm continuously stackingmany wins, many, many, many
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wins.
And I'm not stacking becausethere's the opposite.
We don't talk enough abouteveryone was stacking those
wins.
Well, let's talk about when I'mnot stacking wins.
Let's talk about the timeswhere I'm stacking all this
negative shit where I'm notfollowing up, I'm not following
through, I'm not making thosedifficult calls, I'm not having
those difficult conversations.
And and here's the truth.
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Okay, after the tough times,I'm not the same.
Okay, I'm stronger, I'msharper, I'm more patient.
Okay.
I didn't fail.
I suited up, I showed up.
And um I try to think of I tryto think of um a hard season
that I survived or a hardsituation that that I went
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through, whether it be it in mychildhood, um, and I've been
through, I've been I've I'vebeen in some real hairy, sticky,
uncomfortable situations.
So I try to always go back tothat.
And that's kind of why we sayget comfortable being
uncomfortable, because weintentionally put ourselves in
uncomfortable, healthy,uncomfortable situations in
order to make us stronger,brighter, sharper, better human
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being.
So we're preparing ourselvesfor those difficult times.
Okay, remember that.
Scuba diving has been one ofthose situations for me that's
very uncomfortable, but I knewit was going to make me a better
human being.
It was gonna make me a strongerhuman being.
And that was due to the sum ofthose I surrounded myself with.
I surrounded myself aroundpeople that don't that don't put
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up with my excuses, people thatpush me to be better people,
right?
That talked me into going scubadiving, which I thought was the
stupidest thing ever.
But now I think it's one of themost amazing gifts that um I've
ever been given.
So try to when you're goingthrough a hard time, try to
think of a hard time.
It doesn't necessarily have tobe harder, um, but think that,
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you know, well, I survived that,right?
And and what skill did it forceme to build?
Okay.
Was it better scheduling?
Was it boundaries?
Was it I needed to communicatebetter?
And I'm speaking fromexperience, right?
Scheduling, boundaries, um, andcommunication.
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I'm horrible at all three ofthem, but but through my hard
times, I've learned tocommunicate better, I've learned
to schedule better, I'velearned to set boundaries.
Okay, and um where where do Iuse skills today to to create
new wins?
Okay.
Okay.
And that's why it's not it'snot about the finish line, it's
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about the journey.
The journey is the workshop,the workshop where you become
the person who can handle thefinish line, right?
When the finish line getsthere, because it typically
means there's gonna be some moredrama, more dilemmas, because
you probably built somethingbigger, better, right?
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Which creates different issues,things break, right?
It's never usually what weexpected it to be, anyhow, when
we get there.
So prepare yourself, getcomfortable being uncomfortable.
Okay.
And I want to leave you withwith with some questions here to
carry into next week, okay, andand answer one today, one
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tomorrow, and one over theweekend.
Inputs.
Okay.
What's one input you'll cut outfor 30 days?
Okay.
Is it not watching the news atnight?
Is it not eating a whole bag ofgrandma Utts's chips in bed?
What whatever?
What's one input?
What is one piece of trash thatI'm feeding my head?
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I'm feeding my body that I'mgonna remove, and what's one
that I'm gonna add?
And why those?
Okay, that's question or that'sum that's one number two,
open-minded.
Okay, where will I run a tinytest to see if there's a better
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way than mine?
Okay, because we were talkingabout or the highway, okay, and
then ownership.
Okay, what what sentence can Irewrite from victim mentality to
ownership?
Tough times, which drills?
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You know, what what what am Iwhat am I gonna rewrite?
Okay, so little little recaphere.
Um, during tough times, whatwhich drill am I going to apply?
Um am I gonna do uh a 90 90second reset?
Um which um am I going to allowone third of my day dictate the
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rest of my day?
I man, I used to be horrible atthat.
Something would happen to me inthe morning, and man, it would
dictate the rest of my day.
I mean, completely.
I would I would completelyremove all of the positive
things that are in my lifebecause of this one situation,
would just completely, and I'mnot saying I don't get stuck for
about five, fifteen, twentyminutes in in it.
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I'm not saying it's I'm I'm I'ma duck's ass.
What I'm saying is though Icannot let the rest of my day be
ruined or dictate the outcomeand spoil everybody else's day
because I'm I had a bad moment.
It's just this too shall pass.
Um so yeah, the the the lessonsum from the harsh hard sea
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seasons are are paying payingoff.
You know what I mean?
If if if I continue to keepthinking about this the way that
I am, you know, why is ithappening for me?
I may not be able to see itright this second, but I really
truly believe if you if you diginto that, why is this happening
to me right now, and if you canflip that to why is this
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happening for me, you will comeup with something of why it's
happening for you and not toyou, because that's the victim
mindset.
That's that bitch voice in yourhead.
Okay, it'll pay dividends.
Trust me.
I've tested it.
So if you want me to read youranswers next week, um DM me or
email me um at Ty BeyonToWelt.
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Ty at Beyond dot com and put inthe subject line um uh Tool
Belt EP 305.
And that way I'll uh I'll readyour answers here.
So just a quick recap.
Um input shape outputs.
Okay, audit what you read,watch, listen, and who you stand
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next to.
Okay, open mind, strongstandards, um the two percent
truth.
Okay, ask one more question andtest the opposite.
Okay, drop victimhood, chooseownership, event, choice,
outcome.
Swap your language, keep thepower.
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Okay, keep the power.
The moment you show your ass isthe moment you lose all power.
Okay, push through the heavydays, okay.
Minimal, viable day, 90 secondreset, progress receipts, uh,
run the drill, rule the thirds.
Okay, don't let one third ofyour day ruin the other
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two-thirds.
Okay, love the journey.
I know it's hard.
I know it's hard, man.
But love the journey, thelessons in motion make you the
person who can finish well.
Okay, we'll make it to thefinish line together here.
So, anyhow, this has beenanother amazing episode of
Behind a Tool Belt.
Inputs, mindset, uh, the longgame.
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Okay.
If today helped you or anyoneyou know, or you think somebody
might listen to this, share itwith one person on your crew and
leave a quick rating.
I don't know if anybody's everrated this yet.
Um, but helps more buildersfind the show, right?
More builders, we're allbuilding shit here, right?
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Tell me your input audit swap,your input audit swap for the
week.
Uh, send me your victim toownership sentence.
And if you run one opposite daytest on your progress, I want
to hear the results.
Reach out to me again, DM me,or tie it at uh
behindhettoolbelt.com.
And remember, the tools in yourbelt matter, but the tools in
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your head decide how far you'llgo.
Okay.
Usually the only thing that'sgoing wrong is the six inches
between your ears.
Keep building.
I love you guys, and I will seeyou on the next one.
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