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April 22, 2025 • 12 mins

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From the outside, your apology sounds fine.
 You said the words. You admitted what happened.
 But then… you added a “but.”

“I’m sorry I snapped… but you were being disrespectful.”
 “I know I overreacted… but you started it.”

And just like that, your ownership disappears.

In today’s episode of Better Husband, we’re talking about the most overlooked repair skill in relationships: full ownership—without the “but.” 

🎙️ The First Move Every Better Husband Makes: Full Ownership

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

✅ Why most apologies don’t land—and how to fix it
✅ What “relational integrity” really means (and how to live it)
✅ Why waiting for her to go first keeps you both stuck
✅ The simple mindset shift that builds emotional safety
✅ A 3-question framework to guide every repair conversation

Key Takeaways:

💡 Adding “but” to your apology cancels out your ownership
💡 You don’t need to be wrong to take responsibility
💡 A better husband goes first—without needing anything back

Practical Action Steps:

1️⃣ Notice where you defend or explain instead of owning
2️⃣ Use the 3-step reflection: What did I do? How might she have felt? What will I do differently?
3️⃣ Practice clean ownership—no blaming, no defending, no “but”
4️⃣ Try one repair this week without expecting anything in return
5️⃣ Ask yourself: “Did I keep my side of the street clean today?”

Reflection Questions:

❓ Where do I tend to defend instead of own?
❓ How does my wife respond when I take full responsibility?
❓ What would change if I led the repair—without conditions?

Ready to Take Action?

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