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If you’ve ever been told you’re emotionally unavailable—and your first thought was,
“What does that even mean?”
This episode is for you.
In this episode of Better Husband, we’re talking to the steady, even-keeled guys who aren’t sure how to “feel more” without feeling fake. You’ll learn what emotional availability actually looks like (no crying required), and how to stay present in hard moments without shutting down or disappearing.
You’ll also hear how I used to think I was keeping the peace by staying calm—but I was really avoiding connection. And what happened when I finally started showing up emotionally, even if I didn’t always get the words right.
🔑 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
✅ What emotional availability really means (and what it doesn’t)
✅ Why “I’m fine” can feel like rejection
✅ The training most men received—and how it works against intimacy
✅ How emotional disconnection hurts you, not just your wife
✅ A 3-step practice for showing up emotionally without losing yourself
✅ How one small shift can begin to rebuild trust and connection
💡 Key Takeaway:
You don’t need to become a different man.
You just need to bring more of yourself—your truth, your presence—into your marriage.
Even if it’s messy. Even if it’s quiet.
That’s what creates connection.
🔨 Action Steps This Week:
1️⃣ Name one emotion you’re feeling—even if you’re unsure
2️⃣ Say one honest sentence out loud (e.g. “I feel off today” or “I’m trying to stay in it”)
3️⃣ Stay with the discomfort for 30 seconds longer than you usually would
4️⃣ Repeat this practice anytime you feel the urge to shut down
🧠 Reflection Questions:
❓ What moments tend to make you shut down or pull away?
❓ What emotion have you been avoiding lately?
❓ What might shift in your relationship if you stayed emotionally present—even just 60 seconds longer?
Ready to Take Action?
🚨 Watch the FREE Better Husband Workshop → BetterHusbandSecrets.com
Questions?
📩 Email Me → angelo@angelosantiago.com
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