054|You’re Changing — But She Still Can’t Trust It Yet

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In this episode, we look at why early growth can feel invisible at home. You handle moments better, stay calm, and choose care, yet the response feels flat. Angelo explains why trust returns slowly, how her nervous system needs repetition to feel safe again, and what to do when your progress isn’t landing.

You’ll learn how to keep leading without proving, how to practice clean transmission and open reception, and how small, steady choices rebuild safety until change becomes undeniable.

🔑 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

✅ Why early change shows up inside you before it feels safe to her
✅ How trust rebuilds through experience over time, not quick observations
✅ Why proving adds pressure and consistency creates safety
✅ What “transmission and reception” mean in RLT and how to use them well
✅ How micro moments of presence, humility, and follow-through change the atmosphere
✅ How to respond wisely when she starts softening, so trust keeps growing

💡 Key Takeaway:

Real growth is a steady presence without the need for proof. When your actions stay calm, curious, and accountable over time, her body learns it is safe again, and trust returns naturally.

🔨 Action Steps This Week:

1⃣ Lead with consistency, not explanation.
The next time you feel the urge to say, “Can you see I’m trying?”, stop. Breathe. Let your effort show through actions: follow through on something small, speak calmly when tension rises, and stay present when she brings up something hard.

2⃣ Acknowledge your progress privately.
Do not wait for recognition to validate growth. At day’s end, note one way you showed up differently. Maybe you paused before reacting or stayed open in a hard moment. Let that quiet acknowledgment help your nervous system trust the process.

3⃣ Practice generosity in the waiting.
When she is guarded or distant, remember that is her nervous system learning to trust again. Give grace and space. Stay kind, steady, and engaged, then take a breath.

That is trust work: tending, not proving. Small, steady choices teach her body that it is safe to relax again.

🧠 Reflection Questions:

❓ Where in your marriage do you still focus on being acknowledged instead of being consistent?
❓ What moments make you question your progress?
❓ How can you remind yourself that real growth often feels like restraint, not reward?
❓ If she started trusting this new version of you tomorrow, how would you show up to protect that trust and keep it growing?

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