The Great Expectations
Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris
Episode Summary
In The Great Expectations, Adam & Pris get real about one of the trickiest parts of ethical non-monogamy: managing what you think is going to happen versus what actually happens. From club nights that don't go as planned to the pressure of "performing" in lifestyle settings, they unpack how expectations—ours, our partners', and everyone else's—shape attraction, confidence, and connection. This candid, funny, and raw conversation explores emotional intelligence, insecurity, chemistry, and the myth of having "no expectations." Spoiler: everyone has them, and that's human.
Whether you're new to swinging or deep into open relationship life, you'll leave with practical perspective: the fewer expectations you cling to, the more freedom (and fun) you'll find.
Show Notes
Topics Covered
- The illusion of "no expectations" in the lifestyle
- Why we still walk into clubs hoping for magic (and why it rarely plays out like a fantasy)
- How unrealistic expectations can kill the vibe before the night even starts
- Attraction vs. organic connection: letting chemistry lead
- Emotional intelligence as a lifestyle superpower
- Releasing insecurities and learning to care less (with age and experience)
- "Podcaster expectations" vs. real-life anxiety and social energy
- Expectations and performance pressure—why honest communication matters
- Respect, boundaries, and the expectations partners set for each other
Featured Moments
- Pris opens up about letting go and growing emotional maturity.
- Adam talks about mental pressure, male performance, and speaking up instead of spiraling.
- A funny play-by-play of how fantasy scripts fall apart in real life—and why that's okay.
- A shared takeaway: try not to have expectations, but admit you always will—then choose flexibility over frustration.
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