Ever feel like your emotional reaction doesn’t match the situation you’re in either because you’re panicking and lashing out or because you’re numbing out and shutting down? Join Luke and his guest, Dr. Ramneek Bhogal, as they define what the window of tolerance is and how staying in this window can help you relate to others in the optimal state of emotional availability.
Listen to learn how to recognize the different states of emotional arousal and to discover strategies for expanding your window of tolerance, ultimately leading to better communication and intimacy in your relationships.
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Takeaways
The window of tolerance is where we can think clearly and feel emotions appropriately.
Hyperarousal (fight/flight) and hypo-arousal (freeze/fawn) are states outside this window.
Betrayal trauma can significantly narrow your window of tolerance.
Learning how to increase your window of tolerance can help you connect more meaningfully with others.
Chapters
01:18 Introducing Guest Ramneek Bhogal
03:57 Concept of Window of Tolerance
04:49 Hyperarousal vs. Hypoarousal
05:34 Physiological Insights on Stress
12:31 Recognizing and Managing Emotional States
24:03 Tools to Stay in the Window of Tolerance
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